Selena Gomez was also featured in Vanity Fair’s latest Hollywood issue and wore a pretty great yellow jacket in one of the pics. Selena has had a lot going on the past few years and it looks like she’s keeping that momentum going. She talked to Vanity Fair about a few topics surrounding her documentary release and future projects, including her bipolar diagnosis, being a role model, social media, and the other two-thirds of the best show ever. Some highlights:
On her bipolar diagnosis: I’m just so used to censoring myself that it was (a) me wanting to let go and (b) if they’re telling me to be quiet about it, that’s not good because that’s genuinely not the place I’m in anymore. Maybe it was weird and uncomfortable for other people, and obviously I was worried, but I think it finally allowed me to start being open about everything. It’s not that I was kind of sad—I actually have things that are chemically imbalanced in my brain. I don’t ever feel, even for five seconds, that I’m crazy. I don’t want people to ever have anybody tell them, “Don’t say that because it’ll seem bad. You won’t get this job or that boy or that girl or whatever.” I guess I was rebelling.
On honesty and being a role model: I wasn’t a wild child by any means, but I was on Disney, so I had to make sure not to say “What the hell?” in front of anyone. It’s stuff that I was also putting on myself to be the best role model I could be. Now I think being the best role model is being honest, even with the ugly and complicated parts of yourself. Now I don’t feel like I’m lying to people. It’s not that I was lying…I was scared of what people would think or that people wouldn’t hire me. Now I don’t think that way.
On social media and mean comments: The world was my high school for the longest time, and I started getting inundated with information that I didn’t want. I went through a hard time in a breakup and I didn’t want to see any of the [feedback]—not necessarily about the relationship, but the opinions of me versus [someone] else. There’d be thousands of really nice comments, but my mind goes straight to the mean one. People can call me ugly or stupid and I’m like, Whatever. But these people get detailed. They write paragraphs that are so specific and mean. I would constantly be crying. I constantly had anxiety…I couldn’t do it anymore. It was a waste of my time.
On her Only Murders grandpas: I really love them. I don’t like calling them my grandpas, but they kind of are. They’ll tell me the same jokes and I laugh every time. What’s funny is Marty will text me, but Steve will not. He has my email, but he won’t send me the email. He will send it to [my assistant]. I think he wants to be polite. It’s very endearing, but he makes it a whole thing.
In the article, Selena does explain the system she and her team have with social media. She only has the TikTok app on her phone and her assistant does the posting on other apps. She also doesn’t look at comments anymore, but her team will put together a round-up of good ones. And honestly, I don’t blame her for that last part because people online are absolutely brutal and make such mean and unnecessary comments. It really is like high school on steroids. The anecdotes about Steve Martin and Martin Short are really cute and I love their dynamic and am happy it translates off-screen as well. And as always, I appreciate Selena’s constant advocating for mental health, but definitely think she’s rewriting the past a bit about being a role model and being honest even with the tough parts about herself. It’s her right to only address what she wants to, but I think she does still care what people think and censors herself and she’s not as transparent as she makes herself seem. But it’s Selena’s choice to share what she wants. If she ever wrote a memoir I’d read it.