Emily Blunt: So many women are angry at being defined by marriage or motherhood

The Oppenheimer cast obviously did a lot of pre-strike interviews and promotion, and it looks like Emily Blunt chatted with the Guardian within hours of the SAG-AFTRA strike. The Guardian’s piece is somewhat incomplete, and they basically had to use Emily’s sister to fill in some quotes because no one in the Oppenheimer cast would speak to journalists once the strike was called. Emily did speak about her character, Kitty Oppenheimer, and how she was a woman ahead of her time. Some highlights from Emily’s interview:

Kitty the nonconformist: “There was something flighty and wild and nonconformist about her. It was a time where contortions were happening to women, as they tried to kind of mould themselves into perfect housewives. But Kitty was a terrible mother and she wasn’t a very good housewife – and had no desire to be one….[It was a fate of] a lot of women with great minds – that brilliant brain gone to waste at the ironing board. I know so many women of a certain age who are angry at their lives being defined by being someone’s mummy or someone’s wife. And I have empathy for that. It’s OK that that’s not enough for them.”

She is pro-strike: “I am a big believer in unions getting exactly what they want.” She is also pro-resolution: “I’m a huge believer in getting our crews back to work – the people who will suffer most.”

Kitty also had no sympathy for her husband: According to the book, she left both babies with friends for months. Oppenheimer died alone because his wife found his final-hours regression to infancy “pitiful”. “Just horrific. She was pretty ruthless in so many ways. She worshipped Robert, but also really called him on all his sh-t.” Still, Blunt gamely attempts empathy. Perhaps some people are just allergic to weakness? And don’t label Kitty an alcoholic: surviving on cigarettes and martinis at Los Alamos was understandable, she says. Plus, Robert’s genius got him a free pass denied to his wife. His gender, too? “Yes, I think so. I wonder what the world would feel if it was Kitty Oppenheimer who created this bomb.”

Female actors worry about being likable: “I think there is still a pressure to be likable, and sort of warm and understood, and men are not held to that same standard. No one cared if Leonardo DiCaprio was likable in The Wolf of Wall Street.”

Are women, broadly speaking, more forthright? Yes, says Blunt, “but I could equally generalise and say a lot of women tend to try to dance around things because we’re not often given a platform to speak honestly. Or you’re considered too ambitious or emotional if someone appears to be speaking their mind with spirited opinion.”

Kitty was revolted by her husband’s desperation to atone for his sins. “She just wanted him to own it. You see that explosion of frustration and rage start to build. I remember Chris saying to me: ‘She’s wild, she’s unpredictable, the drinking is now out of control, but she’s right!’ And she was always right, and she knew it.’”

Officially, Blunt is not on social media. “But I have been prone to getting occasionally pulled into lurking on Instagram, and it just makes you feel terrible. I don’t feel good after doing it. I don’t feel like I’ve done anything beneficial to myself.”

She’s not a scientist irl: “I am very easily overwhelmed by the idea of the vastness of the never-ending universe,” she says. Contemplating black holes “would be the depths of hell”. She is shaky on the nuclear physics casually strewn through the movie – and uneasy about more recent technological advances: “AI unnerves me. It’s human nature to propulsively want to keep inventing new things. But do we have to put into action everything that we create? Does it better us? Or does it really start to eviscerate what it is to be human? Sometimes I’m like: oh my God, I’m such a dusty old fart about this stuff. But I can’t wrap my head around how beneficial it will be to us, as people, in our souls.”

[From The Guardian]

She’s right about likability and actresses always wanting to find something redemptive or “nice” in characters or stories. I wish more actresses would realize that it’s great to play the villainess. Well, I wish more writers would write fully-fleshed female characters who are more than a cookie-cutter “mom” or “wife.” As for the AI stuff… I think AI scares the sh-t out of a lot of people, not just actors. I also can’t really wrap my head around the “why” of it, beyond “this is what’s next, this is the next scientific evolution.”

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  1. girl_ninja says:

    I love her and think she such a talented actor. She gets a lot of flack on here and I don’t think it’s deserved.

  2. Twin Falls says:

    I listen to Neil Degrasse Tyson’s books on physics and the universe because I find the perspective of being less than a dot in the vastness of the universe and his voice soothing. But I don’t understand about 90% of what he’s talking about lol.

  3. ariel says:

    My grandfather – a born rich alcoholic was married to 2 brilliant women.
    My grandmother- who after their divorce in the late 1940s worked as a journalist and later the “woman’s editor” of the city’s paper (woman’s editor = editor of the women’s sections).
    She worked until the day she died. And she loved the paper.

    Shortly after their divorce he married my mom’s stepmother, who never had an official job, but came from money and managed her money, and the fortunes of her sisters and brother until she died in 2008. She was so sharp mentally, right until the end.

    I often think of both of them- how in a different generation they would have set the world on fire. They both made places for themselves- but the obstacles faced, especially for grandmother. I think they both deserved better, from the man they married, and from the world.

    Think of all the brilliance our world has been denied- because people of color, because women were all cast aside for the glory of the mediocre white men with money.

    • Pip says:

      I’m literally applauding this, ariel – absolutely true & a bloody loss to the world. I hope my hugely talented nieces are having a slightly easier path through this world than my generation had, even in the 1980s & 1990s, to say nothing of the generations before like your grandmother & step-grandmother.

    • lisa says:

      “Think of all the brilliance our world has been denied- because people of color, because women were all cast aside for the glory of the mediocre white men with money.”

      go ahead and embroider this on a sampler and sell it to me on Etsy

    • TOM says:

      ariel, your grandmother sounds like a wonderful person. She reminds me of an older lady on my paper route many years ago, small town Iowa.

      She hosted a show on a local television station. This was back when local tv drew audiences. This woman was a journalist but she was also a woman so no news desk for her. Instead, she had a cooking show. She cooked, then had a newsmaker sit down at the table to eat and talk. Because she drew a significant audience, newsmakers wanted to be on her show. She could interview anyone about anything, as long as she stayed on the kitchen set. That’s how she slipped under the radar.

      • Bee (not THAT Bee) says:

        I love this story! She sounds amazing. What a brilliant idea. I would love to watch this show!

    • Lizzie says:

      From what you’ve written, the stories of these two woman would make a great book, I’d read it for sure. I’m happy for you that you knew and grew up with these wonderful woman.

    • Lucy2 says:

      I think of this often too, how many brilliant, world changing people have never gotten the opportunity to live up to their potential, due to racism or sexism, or being born into poverty, or forced into labor.

    • bisynaptic says:

      This.

  4. Ameerah M says:

    I actually agree with all of this. And she’s especially right about him being given a free pass for his behavior because he was a genius – and most importantly – a man. The world WOULD feel very differently about things if Kitty or any other woman had been the one to create that bomb. AND the womanizing. AND his own self-victimization after the fact.

    • Bee (not THAT Bee) says:

      I agree with everything Emily is saying. I don’t agree (with Kitty) that Oppenheimer was wrong to want to atone for the suffering he caused.

      And I have significant side eye for Kitty abandoning him when he was dying. That’s a dick move. Was it really that she had contempt for him? Did she not love him? Jeez.

      I know a lot of people are freaked out by death, but that transition is a time when your loved one needs you to be there. I include pets in this. People who have their pet put down but can’t bring themselves to be there for the last moments perplex me. Buy the ticket, take the ride.
      Do it out of love.

      • Ameerah M says:

        He wanted to be FORGIVEN. That’s essentially what that was. And she lived with the man. She would have a better understanding of whether he genuinely wanted atonement or not than we would. As for her abandoning him – the man cheated on her for the entirety of their marriage. Maybe she didn’t love him. Maybe she hated him. And she had every right to.
        I have been in the room when two of my pets have passed away. No one but those who love the person/pet should be in that room in that moment.

  5. Boombox says:

    Her face is …………. different. She needs to stop and or she will look like Madonna soon.

  6. Mocha says:

    Just watched clips from Devil Prada…she was such a standout performance and her facial structure was amazing even when sharing the screen with Giselle! I don’t want to know too much about her as a real-life person as she (along with Keri Russell, Jennifer Connelly, Jessica Chastain, and a few others) is one of the few actresses whose projects I really look out for! Really like Cillian Murhpy too.