Did Sandra Bullock suspect Jesse James’ cheating?

The latest chapter in the ever-unfolding cheating scandal of Jesse James is adding a little more color to Sandra Bullock’s reaction to the news that her husband of five years was having sex with at least four different women throughout the marriage. A source is now revealing that Sandra had some suspicions about how her husband was spending his time while she was away – but didn’t know for sure until the “In Touch” reporter called her rep to confirm the story.

When it comes to the sordid details of Jesse James’ betrayal of Sandra Bullock, there is one small comfort: The actress did not learn about the cheating because her publicist received a call for comment from In Touch Weekly, the magazine that broke the story.

According to a person with knowledge of that phone call, Bullock’s representative seemed to have most of the information about James’ extra-marital activities already.

“The call was made on Monday and the rep never denied it once,” said the source. “The rep was read all the dirty texts (between James and Michelle “Bombshell” McGee) and the rep asked all the right questions — about the dates, times, etc. of all the texts, and that was it. It all went down pretty easily actually.”

So when did Bullock find out about James and McGee’s affair?

“It was definitely before (the day of the call). Bullock was suspecting something before McGee went public,” said a Bullock insider.

[From MSNBC]

Meanwhile, Radar is claiming that Sandra has been staying at her home in Hollywood Hills – where she lived prior to moving in with James when they got married.

A devastated Sandra Bullock is hiding out at her pre-marital Hollywood Hills mansion in the wake of husband Jesse James’ cheating scandal, RadarOnline.com has learned.

With four mistresses now public, Bullock has chosen to deal with her husband’s tawdry affairs within the confines of the luxury house she purchased in 2001.

The Oscar-winning actress has welcomed well-wishers and supporters to the home, RadarOnline.com has been told exclusively.

“She is here,” confirmed a friend who went to visit the star on Thursday.

Remarked one neighbor, who did not want to be identified: “There has been alot of activity at the house.”

“There have been a few cars going in and out of her gate and people going in there in the last few days,” the resident said.

“There has been more activity here in the last week than in the last year.”

“It’s usually very quiet here.”

On Saturday morning, Bullock’s trashcans were taken off the street by an unknown male, who refused to speak to photographers camped outside.

Bullock has not been spotted since moving out of the beachfront home she shared with James, the West Coast Chopper owner, in Sunset Beach.

Bullock bought the Hollywood three-bedroom for $1.485 million in January 2001, where she counts Cameron Diaz as one of her neighbors.

Despite marrying James, Bullock never sold her house on the A-list street, which is situated behind the famed Chateau Marmont hotel.

But she was known to stay there by herself throughout the marriage.

“She loves the house,” said a real estate insider.

“That’s why she never sold it. It’s a pretty big property and it’s private.”

The home is a 45 minute drive from Sunset Beach where Bullock once lived with James ­ and who remains there still, raising his children.

She has not returned to the house, RadarOnline.com has confirmed.

[From Radar]

I’m really wondering what kind of scum works at “In Touch.” I mean, was it necessary to call Sandra’s rep and read all the dirty texts? How is that journalism? If there is any positive side to all this, at least Sandra knows now that her suspicions were justified. Jesse is so stupid and cocky about his cheating that he made sure to leave plenty of proof for these skanks to turn in to the tabloids. You have to wonder if he wanted to get caught.

I seriously hope that there are no other women to come forward in this scandal. But something tells me that it’s not over yet, and there are still skeletons rattling around in Jesse James’ closet.

Photo credit: WENN.com


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  1. Confuzzle says:

    I just feel so so so sorry for Sandra. What a nightmare. I hope she finds some peace in this soon.

  2. teri says:

    I really feel bad for Sandra. All throughout the marriage this man cheated on her with some real nasty. Just being upfront and ending a marriage then moving on would have been the smart move but some men aren’t that smart.

  3. Pont Neuf says:

    It’s not my intention to be rude, but I’ve had enough with the ongoing victimization of Sandra Bullock. She’s an actress who plays pleasant, family friendly characters. She’s built a very successful career on playing them and is very believable, but that doesn’t mean that she is like that in her personal life.

    We don’t know how their relationship was. We don’t know whether she was aware of his alleged racialist fascist sympathies and we don’t know why she’s left him… If she has left him at all. So, let’s stop treating her like an innocent virgin who’s been violated by the evil “Vanilla Gorilla”, and stop presenting him as the only villain in this story.

    How lacking in objectivity can people be?

  4. Richi says:

    It’s really sad what Sandra has to go through all of this mess….I wish all the scandal finishes of soon so that she could settle down & focus on her career.

  5. Ugh. says:

    I met Sandra and Jesse by chance while I was living in Austin, TX and honestly she is one of the sweetest people I’ve met, I don’t think that her persona is fake and I feel like out of the current Hollywood stars she is by far the most genuine, so yes I feel awful for her and I feel like all the “victimization” of her is justified. People like nice people.

  6. Whatever says:

    She needs to just cut her losses and divorce this scum. I feel terrible for her. She seems really nice in her interviews and nobody deserves this crap.

  7. Crash2GO2 says:

    @Pont Neuf: I’m confused: Are you suggesting that Sandra is a villain in this? If so, in what capacity?

  8. Whatever says:

    @Pont Neuf: I’m confused: Are you suggesting that Sandra is a villain in this? If so, in what capacity?

    Actually, I was wondering the same thing. Typical blame the victim mentality!

  9. may says:

    pont i agree
    she is going to now go into damage control as she was living/married to a nazi sympathizer she must have those thoughts as well
    she certainly knew who she was marrying, if not…well, thyve been married FIVE years
    come on people

  10. Whatever says:

    People are very good at hiding their sins from family. Look at the BTK killer and the multitude of other serial killers and rapists who have been married and hid their true selves. I don’t think she ‘had’ to know what he was up to. Also, the whole Nazi thing has not been substantiated by a single source, other than the tattooed pig. I’ll reserve judgement for now, at least until there is a credible source and anyone who thinks McGee is credible is as crazy as she is.

  11. Pont Neuf says:

    Crash and Whatever: all I am saying is that the fact that she plays nice girls on film, doesn’t mean that she is a nice person in real life. People have reacted as if a living saint had suffered martyrdom at the hands of a brutal pagan degenerate. I strongly doubt she is innocent in all this in the sense that she must have known how he was. Which leads me to agree with you, May. She was married to this guy for five years and, unless she only saw him twice a week for a few hours, I find it very difficult to believe that she didn’t know about his Nazi, white supremacist sympathies and his philandering ways.

  12. Whatever says:

    I see what you are saying, Pont Neuf, but the reports I’ve read have mostly said he was cheating when she was away filming, at the MTV awards, etc. So, I can understand how she didn’t know the extent of his activities.

  13. Just a Poster says:

    Sometimes the wife really doesn’t have any idea at all and then BAM! all if this lands in a persons lap.

    Looking back she may have a few “ohh..hmm” moments because after infidelity happens a person over anaylizes everything.

    And people live double lives all the time, I bet for every one that is outted, at least 7 don’t get found out.

  14. bellaluna says:

    When a man or woman has everything to lose, it is amazing the capacity they develop for betrayal and secrecy. Men have been living double lives for almost as long as they’ve existed. Men with other whole other families don’t just occur in the movies, folks.

    And look at the rapists and murderers whose neighbours say “Oh, he was such a sweet man! I never had any idea he…” raped/murdered/ate people.

  15. S says:

    I think most magazines call the publicists of stars prior to release to give them the heads up…and maybe InTouch wasn’t being douchey by reading all the texts, maybe Sandra’s publicist wanted to know so she could fully prepare Sandra for what exactly was about to come out.

  16. NJMDPS says:

    If she did know, then why would she gush about how much she “wanted him?” Makes her look pathetic if that were the case. I would have to doubt that, hopefully.

  17. Julia says:

    I don’t think she is “unjustafiably” being portrayed as the victim. Nice, clean-cut woman has what appears to be genuine affection for man, winds up betrayed in the worst way. The end. It is not an uncommon story arc, but people feel genuine sympathy for her, and that (more than the “what a monster” angles of articles) has touched the public consciousness.

    Whether or not she had any suspicions, it is pretty harsh to take the attitude that being married to someone for 5 years means you must know everything about them. Suspecting infidelity as an abstract concept is a long way away from concrete evidence that your hubby is banging a sleezy racist. Using that type of logic, Elin Nordegren must feel that pornography is legitimate art, and lots of cheated-on spouses must support stripping.

    If you are suggesting that she “had to know” what kind of man he was because he allegedly has some WWII paraphernalia, I suggest that all he had to do was offer a reasonable explanation other than “I’m a neo-nazi” and it would not have been difficult to believe, especially if he did not act outwardly discriminatory to people.

    I think that blaming the victim is a not-so-subtle way in which people reassure themselves that things like this won’t happen to them. “Oh, she had to know, and since I don’t know, I’m safe” is the thinking. People love to think that men who cheat do it because the woman was mean, frigid, or failing in some other arena because it gives them a feeling of control; if a woman isn’t any of these things, she’s safe, right?

    The problem with this is that cheating doesn’t only happen because of something lacking; some people cheat for their own motivations (ego boost, deception, intimacy issues, etc) and it does not follow that a straying man equals a lacking woman. Blaming the victim adds another element to the hurt, and no matter what people think she knew, she didn’t “deserve” what happened to her (especially in such a public forum).

  18. Feebee says:

    @ pont neuf: I see your point but really even in Hollywood there are some normal, genuinely sweet and universally liked people, because they are even keeled and likeable. Sometimes you don’t hear bad stuff about people because they’re not assholes. I believe Sandra Bullock to be one of these people, Matt Damon is another who comes to mind…

    For those who believe she ‘had’ to know Jesse may (or may not) be into Nazi memorbilia/sympathizer etc, that’s a little naive. Humans are well capable of hiding nasty secrets… I think someone’s already referenced BTK.

  19. Raven says:

    The one thing that I do believe is that the first stripper who started this all got jealous when she saw JJ with SB at the Oscars and how happy they looked. It was then that she contacted the tabs.

    I am also familiar with situations where people have covered things up from spouses for years. It can be done, esp. if one spouse is traveling for work.

  20. vic says:

    Agree with Pont. Not saying she’s a villain but she never saw his office with Nazi memorabilia, never heard a racial slur? After they were married how long? And his choice in his exwife. I doubt he has ever been a saint.

  21. Crash2GO2 says:

    “I think that blaming the victim is a not-so-subtle way in which people reassure themselves that things like this won’t happen to them. “Oh, she had to know, and since I don’t know, I’m safe” is the thinking.”

    Spot on. Great post all around Julia.

    It can happen to ANYone.

  22. snapdragon says:

    i agree with julia. i have a friend who lived with her boyfriend for 3 years and then found out he had an 8 month old son with his “other” girlfriend. he travelled alot for business and this woman was in the city he travelled to, so he managed to keep it secret from everyone all that time. my friend was stunned and hurt but when she looked back later (with the 20/20 hindsight we all get afterwards) she could see little signs that didn’t add up, signs she had willingly overlooked because she loved & trusted him. people lead double lives all the time, because they count on the fact that their spouse wants to believe the best in them. isn’t that why most people marry in the first place? maybe sandra wanted to believe him, maybe she thought she could change him…who knows?

  23. Ophelia says:

    I agree with everything you said, Julia. Great post.

  24. Ursaline says:

    @snapdragon: I agree with you and Julia…

    I can only imagine, but I think it’s possible that Sandra has been and still is bombarded by other people’s sexual attentions all the time and keeps solid boundaries because she was committed to her husband and her family. Maybe she thought that even though JJ is also famous, that he would use the same discipline that causes him to work all the time towards rejecting disgusting ho-bags from trying to jump down his pants. Maybe she also felt that as an adult in a healthy relationship, she needed to give him the space he needed to be able to have a normal life and make those kinds of decisions without her having to fall into a clingy, jealous wife position. If she purposely chose to keep her fidelity towards her marriage when she was out of town and had the opportunity, then she would rightly expect him to do the same. So whether she was suspicious or not of the affairs, she was neither a victim nor an idiot who would put up a sign that said, “please cheat on me” either. Even Donald Trump called him “cunning”.

    And even if she knew he kept WW2 memorabilia, she was obviously not being told what he was doing when she wasn’t around. There were reports over the weekend that he’d do quickies with other women WHILE SHE WAS VISITING HIM AT THE GARAGE. I so hope it’s total rubbish, but that’s the kind of thrill-seeking behavior that his personality thrives on.

    So no wonder she’s too embarrassed to show her face in public right now.

  25. gg says:

    I’m with Julia and bellaluna. People hide their secret lives very well sometimes. And obviously Sandy has been a very busy woman with a very busy career for many years. She had to rely on trust like the rest of us.

    I have two close friends that have been in the film business shooting movies for over 20 years each. They have both worked with Sandra several times. Way before this scandal came out, it was everyone’s unbiased opinion that Sandra Bullock was the sweet-hearted, yet strong, girl next door and a huge favorite to work with amongst the crews, not to mention casting, and everyone else down the line. Sandra is as beloved in the film industry as Dolly Parton is in the country music industry.

    Acting as if Sandra had some culpability in the sleaze show going on behind her back is speculative and delusional.

  26. mollination says:

    Considering we didn’t see Tiger in the months following the scandal either, this just proves it can be done. For all those famewhores like Lohan who pretend they can’t escape. Clearly, it’s possible to go undetected, because you know Sandra is being hounded a hell of a lot more than lindsey lohan.

  27. Kim says:

    Was the marriage a fake/contract marriage because she is gay? I hope not, not that she isnt gay but that she isnt hiding it if so. There are so many of these contract marriages in Hollywood and this is starting to seem like one of them.

  28. CeeCee12 says:

    In his own twisted way I believe he loves Sandra. He probably compartmentalized everything in order to make his behavior acceptable to himself. The women on the side were just about a physical release. He would never want to be seen with them. It sounds like he didn’t even treat them with an ounce of respect.

    I think he is a misogynist.

  29. Barb says:

    So, what I’m not seeing mentioned anywhere is the way she was staying in a hotel in the week or so before the oscars. Wasn’t that a big red flag to the media? I have a source in the biz who claims everyone – Sandra included – knew they were on the rocks, that’s why she was in a hotel, not at their home, and the only shock was the two of them showing up together at the oscars looking all cuddly. It was assumed she’d go alone or take a friend. I’m surprised no one is linking back to the stories of her “leaving her hotel for daily workouts” – i.e., taking it out on the punching bag? look at those arms…

  30. mia says:

    For those of us who love her movies and have kept up with her interviews, there is absolutely NO reason to think Sandra knew her husband was a scamming idiot.
    She put it on the line to take on his children and love them as her own no to mention, give him the personal space to do his work.

  31. Crash2GO2 says:

    @Barb: There is speculation that she did find out before the Oscar’s ceremony, as she did not thank Jesse in her speech and their body language was awkward during the awards. I hadn’t heard about her staying elsewhere before the ceremony, but it makes sense now.

  32. Ruffian9 says:

    Pont Neuf, how is Sandra in any way a villan here?

  33. Ruffian9 says:

    Pont Neuf, no one is saying that she’s a ‘living saint’or an ‘innocent virgin’ (what the hell???), but by many accounts, SB is a warm, kind, ‘genuine’ person. …Oh, & Crash, I believe she did thank him in her acceptance speech.

  34. LS says:

    @Julia – very well said and well reasoned post. I agree 200%.

    Much love and support to Sandra Bullock.

  35. LS says:

    Interesting… I am wondering now if she did have an idea. She is a very smart woman — and her speech comment about “no one has ever had my back before like this…” and Jesse was teared up. It could have been major eff you and we all didn’t know it.

  36. Buck says:

    What a piece of $hit James is.