QEII thought the Sussexes had ‘everything handed to them but threw it away’

While I know that British people are still interested in talking about Queen Elizabeth II and paying to see an exhibition of her clothes, I have to wonder if there’s really a market for this glut of QEII biographies. There are at least four “major” QEII biographies out right now, and while they’re all being widely excerpted and discussed, is anyone actually buying them? Every single one of these supposed QEII biographies is being marketed off of Prince Harry and Meghan’s backs too. The excerpts are ALWAYS about “what QEII really thought about Harry and Meghan.” Several biographers insist that QEII was a terrible bigot who hated Meghan on sight and cosigned the smear campaign against her, then blamed Meghan and Harry for saving themselves from the palace-led onslaught. Speaking of, Robert Hardman is promoting Elizabeth II: In Private. In Public. The Inside Story. He gave a lengthy interview to the Telegraph, the bulk of which was about – you guessed it – the Duke and Duchess of Sussex.

The Sussexit: When the dream went sour, and they left Britain for the US, it was she who insisted the door be left open for their return, post-Megxit. As a grandmother, she felt deep personal hurt at their departure. As the monarch, she understood what a huge asset the proverbial Firm was losing – something that is proving impossible to deny. As the couple’s current quasi-royal Australian “tour” is amply demonstrating, they possess a star power that is, inarguably, the Royal family’s loss. The Queen may have been adamant there could be no halfway house, but the bitter irony remains that as far as the rest of the world is concerned, the Duke and Duchess of Sussex continue to fly the royal standard, whether officially endorsed by the House of Windsor or not.

QEII loved Harry: “The Queen always adored Harry. She had an instinctive sympathy for the spare. Her shy father was a spare, unexpectedly thrust into kingship by the abdication of his brother. Her sister, Margaret, was a spare, and Elizabeth was always her greatest defender. And as a mother and grandmother, she was conscious that being second sons, both Andrew and Harry had far less clearly defined roles than their firstborn siblings, and that concerned her.”

Obfuscation over Archie’s birth?? Reports of tears and tension over tiaras and flower girls’ tights, frayed tempers, and whispers of Meghan being difficult and demanding. Then, wilful obfuscation surrounding the birth of Archie, and Meghan’s claim in an interview that she was left lonely and depressed after her son’s birth. Then, an irreconcilable rift between the brothers, confirmed by Harry, who announced: “We’re on different paths.” It’s inconceivable that the Queen was in the dark about this, but she was distracted by Prince Philip’s ailing health – by then he had retired to Sandringham – and the growing furore surrounding Andrew’s friendship with the convicted sex offender Jeffrey Epstein, culminating in his disastrous Newsnight interview. Ever the pragmatist, she may have assumed that her grandsons would put duty first and lay their differences aside. Nothing could have been further from the truth.

Modernizing Harry: “The Queen recognised what a modernising force Harry was,” says Hardman. “In March 2012, she sent him to Jamaica during her Diamond Jubilee celebrations at a time when there were growing rumbles of Republicanism.” Her grandson was the perfect choice – he hugged the country’s prime minister and managed to “beat” Usain Bolt on the track by shamelessly cheating – returning a hero who had helped shore up the monarchy. Just months later, she bestowed on him another great honour. Having opened the London 2012 Olympic Games with her astonishing James Bond cameo, she then announced she was travelling to Balmoral and would not be present at the closure. “Everyone assumed that privilege would go to Prince Charles, or at the very least Prince William. But no, it was Harry who got this huge pat on the back. It’s a truly global moment, watched by billions of people. And when she gave it to Harry, we all thought, “That’s an interesting move.’ And, of course, what she knew, what he knew and what none of us knew at the time, was that he was going to be sent to Afghanistan that autumn.”

The Sussexes threw it all away! “As far as the Queen was concerned, Harry and Meghan had everything handed to them but wanted to throw it all away… She was enormously upset and terribly sad about a wasted opportunity, but she acted decisively.” Crisis talks were convened at Sandringham, and Harry was told there would be no half-in, half-out role. He would no longer be permitted to use the HRH title.

The slimmed-down monarchy: “I think it’s a crying shame that when William takes the throne, he and Catherine are effectively looking at quite a significant spell on their own, carrying the whole show. Edward and Sophie, the Duke and Duchess of Edinburgh, are stepping up, and the Gloucesters too, but they’re all going to be of a certain age. The Princess Royal is turning 76 this year.

 I think William’s view is that we’re all going to just have to accept things will be different. We can’t suddenly summon up extra royals. We’re just going to have to get used to a different sort of business model, if you like.”


The endgame: “No one thinks that the monarchy will end with a mob storming the gates,” says Hardman. “If it ever does – and I hope that it doesn’t – it will be due to a loss of relevance. When people wake up one day wondering, ‘What’s the point of that?’, then the writing will be on the wall.”

[From The Telegraph]

“As far as the Queen was concerned, Harry and Meghan had everything handed to them but wanted to throw it all away…” Because only people like work-shy Willy and PDF-file princes receive the benefit of situational context. Six years later, and they’ve really made themselves believe that Harry and Meghan just decided one day to leave, apropos of nothing. And the way they go on and on about Harry’s importance to the institution… yes, I agree, he was incredibly important for the future of the monarchy. The monarchy should have treated him as such. They shouldn’t have tried to cause his divorce or abuse Meghan to the point of suicidal ideation. It’s funny that they have to acknowledge that Harry & Meghan are still global superstars too.

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36 Responses to “QEII thought the Sussexes had ‘everything handed to them but threw it away’”

  1. Mel says:

    I think QE2 was old and infirm and the family bully ran roughshod over her and Chuckles because he knew what Harry feared most, so bully him into submission. William blew it for everyone, including himself by being petty, jealous, insecure and small. Keep blaming the dead old lady though…

    • Beth says:

      And HRH is a style, NOT a title. Whoops!

    • MMRB says:

      ALSO, it’s hard for people who are in situations that they only know, to comprehend what can exist outside of that. And maybe she didnt understand it, because she’d had a bad experience with her uncle and she spent 70 years devoted to her vision of the crown (which I’m sure didnt evolve a terribly great deal) but I’d like to believe she was a somewhat reasonable person who wasnt threatened by someone else making the crown shine. I think the issues came from Charles and William, one who was largely overshadowed his entire life, and one who feels entitled to shine because he’s been coddled.

    • Josephine says:

      I will say this about the queen and her husband – they raised two terrible sons.

      • Gabby says:

        Actually they raised 3 terrible sons and 1 terrible daughter. There is not a single good apple in the bushel.

      • Yvette says:

        @Gabby … Agreed. Anne is 6 years older than me. She was always a snotty, self-entitled mean girl. Since Philip considered Charles a wimp, he treated Anne like the son he never had, and probably in front of Charles. I’m sure that added another layer of angst to Charles’s damaged ego.

        And let’s not forget that she was the Spare before Andrew was born in 1960. I’m sure that added a layer of angst to her ego as well.

        That family is a mass of jealous souls with damaged, petty egos.

  2. Eurydice says:

    Sure, they had everything handed to them, except acceptance and protection.

    • Gemini says:

      Exactly. They haven’t even been given staff that considered them their principles. Every private secretary, communications secretary, personal assistant role assigned to them were in fact working for and protecting the interests of the two palaces KP and BP and treating the Sussexes as the antagonists. I am also wondering why no backing or championing was offered to Meghan from the US Embassy in London. After all, in the beginning it was a union between the two ally countries.

    • Jais says:

      Yes, they could have very easily corrected the lies about making Kate cry or the tiara tantrum. But they did not. So no protection there.

    • paintybox says:

      @ Eurydice – 🎯
      Also, framing it as they “wanted” to throw it all away is unfair and untrue – they tried hard to sell a part-time model, it’s pretty clear they didn’t WANT to throw it all away.

    • kirk says:

      And excepting a true, validly enforceable employment contract.

      As opposed to being given a highly variable, niggardly allowance — like a child might sporadically receive from forgetful, narcissistic, vengeful parents.

  3. YankeeDoodles says:

    First, the American embassy has no jurisdiction over Americans resident in the U.K., except to offer support for normal things like registering the birth of a child abroad, or renewing a passport, etc….. which can be done at the Embassy. But we actually don’t know if Meghan and Harry received any support from the Embassy, besides the standard services they offer all U.S. citizens. Any support would have been offered in a private capacity.

  4. Blujfly says:

    Yes, in exchange for having “everything handed to them” aka performing for the royals all the events that the now Wales won’t do, they had “handed” to them a 2 bedroom cottage with low ceiling that hadn’t been renovated in decades without air conditioning, that was never, ever the Wales’ exclusive home (during the time period they “lived” at Nott Cott, they had a farmhouse in Wales followed by Anmer, plus constant use of the Middletons’ home), followed by a house that needed top to bttom renovations that both KP and NP hung them out to dry on, a house that wasn’t gifted to them as the Wales for Anmer and KP but rather given a 2 year lease. They also had no income stream and no access to the massive amounts of royal extras like furniture and paintings that we have seen the Wales use so ostentatiously. Yes, truly “given everything”.

    • Hypocrisy says:

      Everything that was handed to them came with very heavy strings and the leftovers had no problems yanking all those strings back as soon as the Sussex’s said, “enough of these palace games and hate aimed at us”.

  5. Elly says:

    It’s truly opposite. The RF were the ones who didn’t appreciate the value of Harry and Meghan and threw them away.

  6. Hypocrisy says:

    Can we get a priest to hold an exorcism so this dead queen finally shuts up about how she hated the Sussex’s especially Meghan.. enough is enough she is dead and buried and using her as a weapon to hurt the Sussex’s with is truly disgusting.

  7. Draadje says:

    “When people wake up one day wondering, ‘What’s the point of that?’, then the writing will be on the wall.” ”

    Don’t look now, but people are waking up and wondering what is the point. So good luck with that.

  8. Lili says:

    Meghan spent 18months in england, QEII was on the throne for 70yrs so all her time boils down to the time her path crossed Meghan’s.. What is her true legacy? She had 17year to prepare how about they write she was 10yrs old when her uncle abdicated, so that shaped the way she tried to stear the ship and how she did it.

  9. QuiteContrary says:

    “As the couple’s current quasi-royal Australian ‘tour’ is amply demonstrating, they possess a star power that is, inarguably, the Royal family’s loss.”

    The rota is finally, finally getting it. And it’s too late.

  10. Ciotog says:

    They don’t need to have everything handed to them, unlike the rest of the RF. They can make their own way. Meghan might be the one person who makes me proud to be American, these days!

  11. LauraD says:

    How can anyone say Harry and Meghan had “everything handed to them”? Before Meghan came along Harry was walking around with holes in his shoes and clothes shopping in the sales. I said it ages ago and it’s worth repeating I never understood why Meghan had to buy a sofa for Notts Cottage when the BRF has plenty of furniture in storage. It seems like everyone-else had access to this furniture but, Harry and Meghan had to sort themselves out. So, tell me again how they had “everything handed to them”. SMH

  12. Over it says:

    Who knew a dead woman could talk so f-ing much.

    • Harriet says:

      Especially, when she was known in life not to reveal anything personal. Now in death she is babbling like a brook.

  13. Amy Bee says:

    We’ve just been told that the Queen thought Meghan was a narcissist so why would she be disappointed that Meghan was “throwing it all away”? Wouldn’t she have said wanted Meghan to leave instead? How come not one of these books state that the Queen wanted Meghan gone? As for Harry, was she even listening to his concerns about royal life and the impact that the press was having on him and his family?

  14. Dee(2) says:

    Again they just cannot see past their royalist goggles. I don’t believe the queen actually thought this, but since they’re speaking through her like a puppet it’s because they don’t see any value in doing what Harry and Meghan are doing. If they aren’t also being bowed and curtseyed to and called sir and ma’am when they’re doing it, it’s not enough.

    Like I said in another comment these people see being banned from balconies, not invited to Sandringham or Balmoral and not welcomed at Ascot as the worst possible things that could occur. So of course not being able to do all of that, seems like they threw it all away instead of Harry and Meghan looking at their lives and deciding what was truly important and worthwhile.

    As for the other stuff I can’t believe that they are actually making any money off of these books the market is just gluted with them in the last 6 years, and it’s the same old reheated nachos in every book.

  15. Tessa says:

    Scooter allegedly does not want the York princesses to be working royals. He does not want to work, so who is going to work for Scooter who is royal with the small r. The Queen could have evicted Scooter from the Summit in 2020 and made the decision to keep the Sussexes in the UK. The Queen and Margaret were not that close. Margaret had resentments over Elizabeth getting the better education. For example.

  16. Queen gave everything to Wales and William and Kate threw it all away.Again projection.

  17. IdlesAtCranky says:

    The longer this fakakta situation goes on, this unending hate campaign against the Sussexes, the more I look back at QEII and Philip.

    I don’t know what George was like as a father, but Elizabeth and Philip raised a seriously messed up batch of kids and grandkids.

    Harry seems to be the only one in two generations, aside from his mother, who actually turned out to be a decent person. And if it were not for Meghan, I don’t know how well he would have turned out either.

    People blame it on the “goldfish bowl” effect. But there are plenty of decent royals in the world, aren’t there?

    Are they all horrible and I just haven’t noticed? There are many people who have wealth and fame and who live lives that center service to others, to at least some degree. So what happened to the Windsors?

    • Calliope says:

      It’s a great question that I keep thinking about. Living through a world war can make you less spoiled and selfish than their kids? who had every advantage, every whim catered to without any real concept of sacrifice. And what the royals could get away with pre-war wasn’t possible in the post-war era. Too much privilege, not enough friction in their lives?

      All the queen’s kids basked in the reflective glow of their mother but also had that (presumed) resentment of that from their father. Charles “works” and Anne “works,” but Charles has had every whim met plus no consequences plus I always assumed the grey men were excited there’s going to be a man back on the throne? “Your mother’s just a woman, you’ll be the real star” they’d whisper and then Charles was later stymied at every moment when people were more excited about his mother, then wife, then sons.

      Charles went overboard with Harry to make sure he didn’t turn into A. So Harry experienced more friction in his life, was able to use his mother’s example, and also escape the palace as much as possible. The biggest privilege he seemed to get was attention and money for the projects he wanted to do.

      It’s fascinating, from an outside perspective, especially to watch it break apart like this.

  18. tamsin says:

    Projection, as always.

  19. Lover says:

    Supposedly QEII insisted on “all or nothing” so the Sussexes said fine, nothing. Yet the Windsors are so mad that they can’t tell the Sussexes what to do and what not to do now. You set up these rules, Windsors. You don’t get to complain about it now.

  20. Asantewaa says:

    I work in a bookshop in London, and I can assure you that these royal bios don’t sell. So far , Vickers Elizabeth has sold one copy, Hardman one copy and Bower two copies. To date, only Harry has had triple digits of his books sold. Bower is in the Times top 10, but he has sold around a thousand and some copies, with the the number one London calling selling around four thousand. We often return the royal books unsold.

  21. Asantewaa says:

    Even a the book titled, Elizabeth in Fashion is not selling. Robert Jobson and Katies Nicholls books are the worse. Giles Brandreth, another prolific writer is also a serial flopper! We did not stock Russell Myers book; William and Kate, I don’t know why and I did not ask.

  22. GMH says:

    She threw it all away. The line is plagarized from the Tony Blair character in the movie the Wueen anout Princess Diana. These people are amazing.

  23. Calliope says:

    The best thing QE2 ever did for H&M was to not agree to the half-in/half-out. Had she been younger and healthier, it could have worked but I think she knew Charles and W and knew they’d be too spoiled, too selfish, too controlling, too jealous to allow H or M any kind of life. I can’t imagine if H&M had to go to C/W for preclearance of their commercial enterprises. And that combined with their relentless media attacks?! An actual nightmare. I’m sure QE2 was sad about it, but sad at the short-sightedness and stupidity of C&W.

    And the press really can’t get their stories straight on the Sandringham meeting. H&M didn’t lose their HRH. They just couldn’t use it commercially, which they haven’t.

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