Bridget Moynahan talks about being a single mom

Bridget Moynahan at the premiere of “Noise” on 11/7/07, thanks to Splash
Since her breakup with New England Patriot Tom Brady and her decision to have his child post-breakup, actress Bridget Moynahan has kept pretty quiet about the details of her life as a single mom- until now. In her new interview with Harper’s Bazaar, Moynahan gives us some insight into how she really felt about being pregnant alone while her ex was frolicking with Gisele Bundchen. I’ll give you a hint: it sucked!

The first thing Bridget Moynahan did when she returned home from the hospital last August with her newborn son, John, was cry. Uncontrollably.

She had dated Brady for three years, but in February 2007 she found herself in a complicated situation. She was three months pregnant with his child but no longer in a relationship with him. Though she says, “There’s no reason why my son years down the line would need to read anything [personal] about his mother or his father,” it’s common knowledge that Brady has since moved on with Brazilian supermodel Gisele Bundchen, 27. Meanwhile, Moynahan is raising her son alone (though Brady does spend time with Jack).

“When you’re suddenly pregnant and no one is standing by your side, even if you’re in your 30s, it’s a hard conversation. I’m a traditional girl, and I believe in marriage, and I just always thought that’s the way I’d be doing this,” she says. “For a moment, it was hard for me to accept that this was the way I was going to have a family.”

She gave birth to John – whom she gave her last name – last August. “I walk in and just started sobbing,” she says of coming home alone with her son. “All of a sudden, you have this newborn you have no training for. It’s frightening.”

But having family and friends like I, Robot costar Will Smith rally around her, made it easier. “I got so much out of that,” she says of that “traumatic time of being heartbroken” and pregnant. “It’s golden and it’s tough and it was f—ed up. But now I have a child, and it’s the best thing in the world.”

[From Harper’s online]

As a single mom, I know that sometimes, when you are worn down and doing everything yourself, you do get resentful of the absentee father, who skipped out on all the hard parts of being a parent. It doesn’t seem fair sometimes. I have a lot of respect for Bridget. It would be easy for her to trash Tom Brady in the media, and she refuses to do so for her son’s sake. It’s too bad other celebs can’t show the same restraint for their children’s benefit. Some day, little John (who looks exactly like his dad, by the way) is going to be old enough to ask questions about the situation between his parents, and his mom will have the benefit of being able to tell him the truth without a bunch of old media clipping haunting her.

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  1. Cici says:

    I don’t know. She may not have mentioned his name but “pregnant and alone” and “came home sobbing” will say quite a bit to little John later, also. Didn’t she CHOOSE to have this baby alone after the break up? Don’t get me wrong – kudos to her for doing all the hard work alone – I just think it would be have been better if she didn’t talk about the “traumatic time of being heartbroken” and left it more to the rigors of new parenting instead.

  2. Jennifer says:

    I only found this site 2 days ago, and don’t know how you do things. Can we drop off inside gossip? I have certain details involving these two that may be of interest. The info doesn’t necessarily diss either of them.

  3. diagree, Cici. “Pregnant and alone” is pretty factual, wouldn’t you say? How is that a slam at Brady, unless the truth hurts?

    “Came home sobbing”? I think many new moms do this… I did… and I was married with an involved father… new babies are just overwhelming, even with two parents, let alone one! Can’t say that there is anything so damning here either… She felt alone and overwhelmed… still factual, still not a slam at Brady, unless you want to read that into it.

    “Heartbroken” yeah, I can see that.. both by the loss of the relationship and the fact that thier child will not have a full time father. Still, this is all factual, not a slam at anyone… she’s entitled to her feelings and she’s permitted to air them if she likes.

    And if she wanted to slam Brady, it would have been so easy… but the fact that she stuck to the facts makes me really, really respect her, and her choice to have the child and raise him herself.

  4. aaaaaaaaa says:

    Jennifer – I don’t own the site or make the rules, but as far as I can tell – SHARE THE GOSSIP, SISTER! 🙂

    Also, I’m with Caitlin’s mom over Cici… I think BM is just being honest about her feelings and how she dealt with the situation. She wasn’t slamming Brady so much as honestly dealing with the reality. By opening up, it makes her more relatable and makes me like her all that much more.

  5. elisha says:

    I’m with caitlinsmom. Bridget is being very gracious.

  6. Syko says:

    I admire Bridget. She handled a horrible situation with class, and it can not have been easy, going through the pregnancy all alone while the child’s father cavorts with supermodels. But she did it quietly and with dignity.

  7. Jessica says:

    I think that the line “When you’re suddenly pregnant and no one is standing by your side, even if you’re in your 30s, it’s a hard conversation. I’m a traditional girl, and I believe in marriage, and I just always thought that’s the way I’d be doing this,” she says. Suddenly pregnant? No such thing. She knew what she was doing and how she was doing it. She is just trying to stay in the limelight because the connection to Brady is the only fame she will ever have. Be real she can’t act her way out of a paper bag. I have no sympathy for her. I am not saying Brady is a saint but neither is she, single mom or not. There are millions of single moms and dads out there with FAR less resources than her and she is still bitchin. Please!

  8. “going through the pregnancy all alone while the child’s father cavorts with supermodels”

    this is all factual too. Brady was very public about his relationship with Gisele while BM was pg.

    She could have really, really bad mouthed him, but she took the high road.

    she’s a class act.

  9. Bodhi says:

    I agree with Syko. I think Bridget has handled herself very well in this situation

  10. Keith Orchard says:

    Wow, yes she could have trashed him but that would have made her pathetic. She deserves not credit for “taking the high road”. It was the right thing to do. He moved on. Don’t give me this single mom crap, i’m a single dad, and it’s the best part of my life. She’s rich, and has lots of freinds and family. I’m wondering what he is doing wrong, he pays, he spends time. Oh wait, women believe just because they get pregnant, the should own the man. Not so. One last thing, “im a traditional girl”. Yeah right, how traditional is it to have premarital sex as well as unprotected. Just doesnt add up. Single moms, throw your pity party elsewhere.

  11. Cowbell says:

    Suddenly pregnant? No such thing. She knew what she was doing and how she was doing it. She is just trying to stay in the limelight because the connection to Brady is the only fame she will ever have.

    Jessica- are you nuts? She was 36 or 37 in a relationship. Do you know the odds of someone her age getting pregnant each month if she was TRYING? Less than 10%. I seriously doubt she knew that sleeping with her boyfriend would but her in the spotlight for announcing she was pregnant after he broke up with her. GMAFB.

    I really like BM and think the article makes her come off very classy.

  12. Kevin says:

    RUH RO,,,,watch out Keith your orchard is about to get picked. Just ask Scott F….any of that popcorn left Bodhi?

  13. Cowbell says:

    It’s actually very traditional to sleep with your boyfriend before marriage. The majority of the population does it – making it tradition. And, how do you know she wasn’t using protection?
    And, where do you read that she thinks she should own TB? Guys want rights to their kids, well then they should be an ACTIVE part of the pregnancy and childhood. Where are his priorities if he has a baby on the way but he’d rather travel the world with a new girlfriend?
    And people are supposed to feel sorry for TB? Baby daddys, take your ridiculous ideas somewhere else.

  14. Syko says:

    Yes, suddenly pregnant. We don’t know if she had unprotected sex or not. Condoms break. Pills fail. IUDs don’t always work. Things go wrong. And even if she did have unprotected sex, she didn’t have it alone – sex alone seldom results in pregnancy.

    Refraining from leaping into the computer monitor to strangle Keith, I would like to remind him of the fact that it takes two to get pregnant. Bridget may very well have traditional values, but she was not alone in that bedroom. This is the classic double standard – “he’s a stud for screwing around before marriage, she’s a whore.”

    Another indication of your archaic attitudes, Keith, is that you seem to see no difference between being a single mom and a single dad. Believe me, there is a world of difference. A single dad grudgingly contributes child support – usually much less than it actually costs to support the child – and visits with the child, usually every other weekend, occasional Wednesday nights, and for a period of time in summer. The rest of the time, he’s a single man, no worry! Single moms have to work the same as dads (and probably at less pay for the same job), but they go home every night to that child. They are with that child whenever Dad isn’t exercising his visitation, which in my experience is often set aside if there’s a fishing trip to be had. They take care of the sick child, deal with homework, cuddle them after bad dreams, and try to figure out how in the hell they are going to manage to get new sneakers for him this week.

    I don’t think a woman should own a man just because she happened to get pregnant. But I do think a man should stand beside a woman he impregnates, and support her emotionally. Tom Brady didn’t do that for Bridget, and I have forever lost any respect I may have ever had for him.

  15. Bodhi says:

    😆 I do indeed!

  16. Bodhi says:

    Oh & as for “Oh wait, women believe just because they get pregnant, the should own the man.

    Women? All women? Really? I know several women who have been straight up abandoned by the man with whom they were sleeping when they got pregnant. And I know others who were told to either get an abortion or rasie the kid alone.

    Don’t generalize. It just makes you sound stupid

  17. geronimo says:

    “…sex alone seldom results in pregnancy.”

    Immaculate Conception. Frowning fiercely here as I try to come up with other scenarios implied by the word ‘seldom’!? 😯

  18. Jennifer says:

    I would just like to say that I think Bridget loved very much. Too much, and that influenced the choices she made. I also know that love can make people do things they would not normally do…

    Bridget and Tom were at a crossroads during the fall of 06′. She wanted to get married, and he was split. I think he was considering it, but wanted to be sure. Something happened that caused him to split with her briefly before reconciling in October 06′. Bridget took the first break-up really hard. Tom agreed to try to work out their problems. However, by the end of November 06′ Tom split for good. Something happened that led him to state Bridget wasn’t a woman he could marry. Bridget was devastated, and took the break up badly. She tried very hard to reconcile with Tom even showing up at Patriot away games such as the hotel incident in Buffalo when they had the game with Buffalo,the Miami game which was publicized,and team practices only to be told to leave by Patriots security. Their friends got involved. She got her pregnancy confirmed a short time later. She told Tom, and they had a big confrontation. I don’t know how the exact conversation went, but either he told her he knew she went off the birth control on purpose or she admitted that she got pregnant on purpose. It was confirmed during the conversation the pregnancy was not accidental. Tom told her he didn’t love her anymore, and would be a father to their baby but he wasn’t going to marry her. Bridget was even more devastated, but held onto hope that he would change his mind. Bridget got very angry and bitter with Tom dating Gisele. She believed that Tom would have returned if Gisele had left, and that Gisele should have stepped aside.

    I’ll always believe that initially Tom used Gisele as a prop to emphasize he wasn’t coming back.

    I do think Bridget really loved Tom, and still does, but she like other women let her heart control her actions. She thought Tom was it for her because of everything he did for her during the relationship. The guy spared no expense and she got everything she wanted and then some. So I understand why she did what did, but that does not make it right. I’ll also understand why Tom did what he did. It’s a dangerous thing to tell a man you got pregnant on purpose. The saying “who you marry isn’t who you divorce” can also apply to relationships. I think both became angry and bitter at one another.

    There was initial drama when Jack was first born, but they settled everything back in late fall of 07′.

  19. ayatolla_of_rocken_rolla says:

    she is a class act all the way. Gisele is a whore without class or integrity.

  20. RhymesWithSilver says:

    Girlfriend totally got herself knocked up trying to save her relationship. Mistake or not, she made the bed, and now she and her kid can share it.

  21. Syko says:

    No doubt in my mind that RhymesWith is male.

    The “kid” is a CHILD. Children do not need to be lumped into made beds.

  22. PJ says:

    Bridget and Tom are far better off not marrying. Hard as it is being a single mom, it would be worse being married to a man who didn’t love and appreciate her, and only married her out of obligation. Such marriages are usually very unhappy and end in divorce anyway.

    Bridget is still young and beautiful, and hopefully she’ll find the right guy and have the family she wants.

    I really hope that dream comes true for her because it is painful to be rejected, and probably even worse when you see photos of your ex-love with his new partner on every newsstand.

  23. Scott F. says:

    Wow, it’s always nice to be mentioned randomly as stereotypical male asshole – glad to be of service.

    I LOATHE Tom Brady. It might be said that the single greatest day of my life was watching Eli Manning hand him his ass in front of the largest TV audience of the year. This might have something to do with living in Indianapolis, but lets not look too deeply into that.

    That being said, this idea that women somehow have sole domain over children is no less sexist than a man saying he shouldn’t have to have anything to do with raising it because that’s ‘woman’s work’.

    Syko, he said he was a single father – that’s all. You’re assuming that the mother is still around, alive, and has custody. I have a friend who’s wife fell really deep into drugs, and is now raising his son alone with no child support (she’s in jail) and no help from either family. Being a single parent trying to make ends meet isn’t a strictly female problem. People die and divorce all the time, and while women usually end up with the child, that’s not ALWAYS the case.

    This attitude is why I threw my hands up when I was getting piled on before. Apparently because a man can’t carry a child and give birth, we’re not allowed any opinion. Fine.

    By that logic – I am really tired of hearing criticism of the Iraq War. You weren’t there, I was, so you’re not allowed to have an opinion anymore.

    Oh, and all that criticism of Lance Armstrong that goes on on this site – that needs to end. You don’t have testicles, and never will. Therefore, you have NO idea what it’s like to suffer the way he did, and have his manhood compromised by a crippling disease – so judging him for how he acts now is ignorant and horrible.

    You’d better start emptying the prison’s too. I mean, how do you KNOW that murder is wrong? Have you ever murdered someone or been murdered? No? No opinion for you!

    See how ridiculous that is? Yeah, it sounds just as stupid when women say we don’t get an opinion because we don’t have a uterus.

  24. lola says:

    Wow Jennifer. Thanks for the info. Actually it is not the first time am hearing most of the stuff you say, but it is the first time am learning that she got pregnant on purpose. I a way I feel for both of them. He a 25 year old lad who is not sure he wants to marry the woman he is with. She a 37 year old woman who wants to marry and settle down, who can blame her. The marriage, like most hollywood unions would have ended up in a split, more so will the parties feeling like they did. On that I am glad Tom stuck to his guns and did not cave into her demands. It would have been a disaster for both of them never mind Little John.

    She should stick to her class and not divulge any more info to tabloids. This interview is what she says she does not want her son to hear. These things happen, move on and try and live your life to the fullest. She will meet an even better man.

  25. Bodhi says:

    Oh this IS getting interesting! 😀

  26. Syko says:

    Leaving. Better things to do than argue with men. Like help clean the office fridge out. Anything.

  27. Keith Orchard says:

    And one more thing. Whoever said that the man should be there during the pregancy to support her. I was, for sure, but that arguement rings hallow until we men have a say in the decision of a woman to kill our baby. You can’t have it both ways ladies.

  28. Keith Orchard says:

    Wait, one MORE thing. Syko, i’m a realist, not archaic. I’ve had this crap thrown down my throat by women all my life. Yeah, we begrudginly pay support, your an idiot. By the way, I have full custody of my son and have since he was 4 months old, the time my wife died in a car accident. That was 17 years ago. I was also a very young dad, 19 to be exact. My point is this. I learned from my mom, who was a single mom, not my dad, who was a deadbeat. She showed me by her actions that it is not the high road you take when not talking bad about your kids other parent in front of them, it’s the moral and correct road. Too bad you have not figured it out yet. And too bad you couldn’t come through the screen, i’d enjoy that alot.

  29. Mairead says:

    Ah no Syko – don’t go. I want somebody to admire that ultra-cool high-chair-thing with. 😉 Bohdi, is there any popcorn left over from the other thread.

    And commend them for naming the child a nice, honest-to-goodness name. John, not even the more modern Jack or Jake – not that I’m critiscing them, but Jack really is just a nickname of John. And certainly not Shawn (ick) or Shayne (yarg) For that alone I want to believe the best in them 😆

    Well Scott, I’ll say this much for you – like you or loathe you – they can’t ignore you. 😆 Attention-seeker! 😛

  30. Bodhi says:

    😆 ‘course!

  31. Syko says:

    Gosh, the boys start name-calling quickly, don’t they?

    This is an argument that will never be won. Who’s responsible, who gets to decide on an abortion, is she trying to trap him, is he a deadbeat, is she a slut. The only way we’ll ever solve it is to stop all sexual interaction and that’s not going to happen.

    Great high chair, Mairead.

    Oh..Keith? It’s you’re an idiot, not your an idiot.

  32. Keith Orchard says:

    ahhh, very good, i have the spelling ability of a 9 year old, if that. And being a programmer does not help. 🙁

  33. puffnstuff says:

    Jack, John…what’s the babie’s name?

  34. Syko says:

    His name is John. Jack is a common nickname for John (see John F. Kennedy).

  35. Keith Orchard says:

    Oh, and a 3rd one more thing. Quit trying to redefine the word traditional. Just cuz everyone is doing it, does not make it tradition. That word has a meaning, an no one with an IQ over 7 would consider what she has done as traditional. That’s like Paris Hilton saying “I’m smart”. You can say it, but it doesn’t make it true.

  36. MISSY says:

    This woman is real, I applaud her honesty, she seems grounded enough to make better decisions in her future, some of us are single moms after a divorce, nobody plans that

  37. The Other KC says:

    Wrong again, Keith. I’m a programmer too – and a quite accomplished speller (IF I do say so myself – it’s one of my few talents).

    HA!!! Please take those stereotypes, put them in your shredder and never look back.

    Seriously, I say that with the utmost respect. There are valid comments on both sides here but as a married mom with a wonderfully supportive husband, I am slowly backing away from this firestorm. Instead, I’ll weigh in on the “Programmers make crappy spellers” or “All Southerners are hicks” threads.

  38. Ran says:

    Tom Brady is a jerk

  39. Persistent Cat says:

    I guess when I think of the term “single mother,” I think of a woman struggling to make ends meet while raising a child or children on her own (with or without financial help from the father). I think of her trying to pay for daycare while she works, I think of her trying to make dinner for the kids while trying to clean the house and maybe study for a class she’s taking to earn a degree. Basically, the term “single mother” stands for sacrifice and hard work.

    I assume Bridget has quite the large bank account with a grand house complete with staff. I don’t think she qualifies as a “single mother” by my definition just because the father isn’t around.

    But I do commend her for giving the child her name. Tom didn’t deserve that honour.

  40. Cowbell says:

    Oh, and a 3rd one more thing. Quit trying to redefine the word traditional. Just cuz everyone is doing it, does not make it tradition. That word has a meaning, an no one with an IQ over 7

    Hey moron,
    a continuing pattern of culture beliefs or practices.
    a customary or characteristic method or manner

    As MOST of us for the last few generations have premarital sex, that’s EXACTLY what it means.

  41. Jody says:

    Tradition is one of those very arbitrary and general words. There is no point in arguing. Posting the definition was just stupid and in no way disproved his point, because to Keith tradition means something very different.

    My family and my culture instilled the tradition of waiting for marriage before having sex. That’s the tradition I’ve known, for others like yourself it is obviously different. We’re all different, whatever.

  42. Amy says:

    If Brady has visitation with the baby and pays child support, why is she being labeled a “single mom?” She may be single as in not married, but the child has a father.

  43. Jean says:

    I don’t understand Gisele’s fame (she’s strange looking), but I don’t blame her for the break up. If Brady hadn’t taken up with her, he’d have found someone else. He was done with Bridget.

    Let’s hope they’ve matured enough to set aside their differences for the sake of the child, who is the only one who really matters at this point.

  44. Cheaters Never Prosper says:

    Bridget has handled the whole situation with dignity and class. Tom Brady is just another prima donna who has been coddled because he can throw a fucking football. Our society gives way too much credit to dipshits like Tom Brady who can’t “man up” and take responsibility for their actions. These guys aren’t heroes and hardly role models. If Bridget were my sister, I would beat him within an inch of his life…

  45. You should know says:

    I think Gisele should have stepped aside once a child was involved.

    They were together for a couple of years, and they way Gisele has pursued Tom was really undignified.

    There is a trnd of Brazilian models who try to get American stars, and usually they are the ones who get pregnant on purpose…

    Tom was still in a relationship, and she have stayed away from him.

  46. karla says:

    Keith Orchard,
    I am a woman and stand by every word you said till now!And sorry to hear about the mother of your child: and i think you are a really cool person 🙂
    Syko,ya it takes two to make a baby but if the woman is the one taking the pill she could lie anytime she wants,that she is taking it.Is not gonna be the first or last case of woman trying to trap a man..

  47. sziszko says:

    Poor, poor rich single mom. I just couldn’t feel sorry for Bridget.

    TB and BM dated 3 years and the pregnancy happened just before their break up. Come on, you can’t be that naive.

    Getting pregnant is oldest trick ever to get a guy marry you. Tom Brady just didn’t fall for it.

  48. DeCe says:

    jennifer I don’t know where you got your information from, but people close to the brady family are starting to speak up on other sites and are basically saying the same thing. I guess they’re sick of Saint Bridget manipulating the public into thinking she’s a victim and for them to shame Tom into going back to her. She has betrayed and deceived him in the worst possible way a woman can, and she gets the public to do her dirty work for her {she’ll obviously try anything}. She has ruined his reputation, dangles his son like a carrot in front of him and the public, eg. pics of them out to lunch with his monogrammed blanket JMB…John Moynahan B? OK magazine… letting them draw their own conclusions on the cover, and now she speaks but I don’t see her telling the truth on how she went off the pill and didn’t tell him. She made a life altering decision for him because of her own selfish reasons: to trap a man who said he didn’t love her anymore and he would’nt want to marry her. Saint bridget? I think not! Good for you Tom for not caving, the world does not need another bad relationship to end in divorce! By the way.. how does anyone know how gisele reacted to the news, she may have walked away but he convinced her to stay and fight for them, Didn’t she say he is a very positive person!?

  49. Thanks again for offering good content yet yet again. Definitely a professional-blogger if I’ve noticed a single.

  50. DeCe says:

    collene, whom are you speaking of?? you must be related, or a friend of bridgets, or the PUBLIST. the people who have been trying to silence the truth. i came back to make sure these jennifers comments are still here. so i can continue to refer her comment. if you want to discuss the other man she betrayed, as well, scott rosenberg, lets get it all out in the open.

  51. CB Rawks says:

    Just wow.

  52. catyl says:

    there are a few other rumors floating around about scott rosenberg but is there any truth to this? what’s the real deal?

  53. DeCe says:

    if it is about scott being a pats fan and tom being his fav QT, and bridget trying to get a special autograph for him for his birthday, and she ended up running off to houston with tom for a game, yeah it’s true. look it up, this is documented stuff. it seems, she betrayed 2 men within 2 years in different ways.