Which CNN anchor just came out of the closet? Hint: Not who you think.

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I’ve been hearing some mutterings for weeks that a CNN anchor was going to be coming out of the closet publicly and making some big media splash about his gayness. Everyone was all “Duh. Anderson Cooper is teh ghey.” Not so much. Well, I mean, obviously Andy is fabulous beyond belief, but he’s not the one coming out in a big, gay splash this week. No, it’s CNN anchor Don “Not T.J. Holmes” Lemon (I confuse the two, both are handsome black dudes on CNN, and they look alike, for real). Lemon has written a new book about his struggle to be out and proud as an African-American man. It actually is pretty groundbreaking, considering The Silver Fox is still kind of hiding in his glass closet:

A CNN anchor has come out — no, not THAT one — rather, Don Lemon told the world that he “was born gay.”

Lemon told the New York Times on Sunday that while his colleagues in the news business have been aware of his sexuality for years, cultural implications kept him from revealing his sexuality on a grand scale.

“It’s quite different for an African-American male,” Lemon told the paper. “It’s about the worst thing you can be in black culture. You’re taught you have to be a man; you have to be masculine. In the black community, they think you can pray the gay away. I guess this makes me a double minority now.”

Lemon said in a statement he later released to the media that despite feeling relief after coming out to his mother, he “still chose to keep those secrets hidden from the world.

“I, like most gay people, lived a life of fear,” Lemon said. “Fear that if some employers, co-workers, friends, neighbors and family members learned of my sexuality, I would be shunned, mocked and ostracized.

“It is a burden that millions of people carry with them every single day.”

Lemon, 45, said he dedicated his new book, Transparent, “to the memory of Rutgers University student Tyler Clementi, who jumped to his death from a bridge after his dorm mates streamed his private business over the Internet for the world to see.

“Tyler might still be with us today if more gay men and women had chosen to live proudly and openly,” Lemon said of the September 2010 tragedy.

The newsman, who’s been with CNN since September 2006, took to Twitter after his revelation.

“I’m overwhelmed by all your tweets and support! Hoping this prevents more tragedies like tyler clementi’s suicide. Don Lemon”

Transparent hits stores June 16.

[From Radar]

Aw, that’s nice. I’m happy for him, and I hope the public support for Don continues. People often debate whether it really matters if your newsman or newswoman is gay, but the fact of the matter is that most news departments are socially conservative boys’ clubs, and they fear that the audience will abandon an anchor if they find out that the anchor is gay. It will be interesting to see CNN’s reaction – as a news agency, as a corporation – to Lemon’s admission. It’s not like CNN has awesome ratings anyway, but now that Don is out, CNN might give him a better timeslot and stuff. Who knows, it could be the best thing for his career.

Oh, Silver Fox. Will you ever bring your hot, sexy boyfriend to a CNN event?

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  1. mln76 says:

    Sort of torn I totally think its great that Lemon came out and I support him etc, but in terms of journalism while I don’t think anyone should be forced to be in the closet why is it important who journalists sleep with???

  2. Kolby says:

    I can’t believe he’s 45.

  3. Darlene says:

    GOOD FOR HIM. I support him fully. He’s right, maybe there would be fewer suicides like Tyler’s if more prominent adult gay figures would “come out”.

  4. Victoire says:

    This is surprise for me =)

    Now something off topic, why Celebitchy didn’t wrote anything about Eurovision Song Contest ? I’m not a big fan, but if you write about every possible little happening in America why nothing on biggest contest in Europe ? =)

  5. Zelda says:

    @mlh
    Agree. It will be awesome when people no longer feel the need to “come out”.
    Until then, the process is psychologically important to some people, especially those who have been closeted.

    Now I don’t get CNN where I live, so I have no idea who this guy is. But judging by the top picture, this was not such a surprise announcement?

  6. Dorothy#1 says:

    Yay!!!! Happy he can now feel like he is being true to himself.

  7. Brittney says:

    @mln76 — On that note, why is it important who *anyone* sleeps with? It shouldn’t be. I’ve had gay friends who both justify staying in the closet and justify living life out loud by saying, “straight people don’t have to announce they’re straight; why should I?”

    But it *is*, unfortunately, different. Especially for people in higher-profile roles. There’s more pressure to stay in the closet, because that’s still abnormal to many people, and it skews their perceptions. However, there’s also the reality that public gay figures have almost completely paved the way for awareness and acceptance of the GLBTQ community. Elton John and Ellen DeGeneres came out in much, much different worlds, and for every next celebrity who comes out, there’s that much less ignorance out there.

    Kudos to him. Side note: I’d forgotten how hot Anderson’s guy was. Thanks for that.

  8. dorothy says:

    Why do people feel the need to “come out”? I don’t have a problem with it, but I’ve never felt the need to tell people that I’m not gay.

  9. MeriJaan says:

    God, I found him so attractive. What a turnoff. The thought of butt sex just makes me want to hurl.

  10. fabgrrl says:

    @dorthy: Why do people feel the need to “come out”? I don’t have a problem with it, but I’ve never felt the need to tell people that I’m not gay.

    Yes, but do people just assume you are not gay if you don’t say anything? Do they daily ask you about your same-sex partner, forcing you to either delicately explain that you have an opposite-sex partner instead?

  11. mln76 says:

    @Brittney I agree with you in most cases I am specifically talking about journalists because they are supposed to maintain an element of professionalism. They aren’t supposed to talk about their personal lives, their personal beliefs etc, etc. I know that that doesn’t happen anymore(and I honestly find it annoying when journalists become overexposed) but for that reason I do think it’s different than a celebrity coming out.

  12. MorticiansDoItDeader says:

    Who is Anderson’s guy?

  13. dorothy says:

    Fabgrrl: I guess I just meant that’s it’s not really anyones business what people do. He really shouldn’t have to explain his life to anyone. Hey, I’m supportive.

  14. arock says:

    @marijann- he still reads the news the same way and has all the same credentials. my suggestion would be dont think about butt sex.

  15. arock says:

    and @ dorthy- what difference does it make if they come out? you know the context is different for someone in that position as a homosexual, so please dont come from a place of asinine commentary.

    gay boys make the (my) world go round.

  16. mln76 says:

    @MeriJaan grow the f— up!

  17. anti says:

    hooray! glad he did it!

  18. Nanea says:

    It is sad that in this day and age people still feel the need to make disparaging remarks – see that intolerant troll a few entries above me.

    Congrats to Don for finding the courage to come out on his own terms, although I had hoped society would have evolved in a different direction – by accepting that sexuality comes in many different varieties, and that no one is to judge which one is right or wrong. But with all those religious fundamentalists going overboard with their self-righteous holier-than-thou ways, I guess it can’t be helped.

  19. Zelda says:

    @arock
    I don’t think Dorothy was being asinine. She was just stating her belief that “coming out” should be unnecessary.

    Last summer, during a group conversation with people I have known for a decade, I told an anecdote a girl I used to date. One friend was fall-down shocked, saying “you’re bi? You’re bi? Why didn’t you ever tell us?!” To which I replied, “I was going to let you make your ‘I’m heterosexual’ speech first, but you haven’t done it yet.” One friend in the group at least actually knew because he’d met one of the girls I’d dated. Some had simply assumed because of whatever subtle, biological clues people give off about their sexuality. Others had no clue and really didn’t care because it changed absolutely nothing. Point is, there was never a time when I thought it prudent–or necessary–to sit down with these people and explain it. And I was annoyed by her insistence that it is something I “should have” explicitly mentioned.

    I understand that for many, the psychological process of coming out is very valuable. But Dorothy is right to say that it shouldn’t HAVE to be done.

    And I hope YOU are a gay boy, because otherwise your “gay boys make my world go round” comment IS asinine.

  20. dread pirate cuervo says:

    I’m more shocked that he’s 45.

  21. LunaT says:

    I agree re:people shouldn’t have to proclaim their sexual preference. Doesn’t make sense.

    I do think Don’s story is great. From what he said about the black community regarding homosexuality, it’s awesome he came out. It’s like he’s loving himself enough to live his life without dealing with the stress of juggling his “secret”. Gave himself a big present. Yay, Don!

    @MeriJaan—your post made me want to hurl. Like you were gonna somehow meet him and he was gonna fall in love w/you. Damn! Chances ruined b/c he likes guys. I think it’s weird when people who are so disgusted by homosexuality think about sex acts homosexuals might perform. Who’s the perv in that scenario?

  22. AngelMay says:

    AC will never come out. That’s for peasants.

  23. feebee says:

    I’ve periodically wondered if it’s harder for african americans to be gay (within their culture). I guess Don’s sort of confirmed that… not that I’m saying it’s easy for others.

    Touching that he has a dedication for Clementi but he’s only half right. Tragedies like his run parallel to others that have taken their own lives because of bullying. Until society gets a handle on this behaviour at all levels it will continue to happen.

  24. mags says:

    i think more the reason he decided to come out was because he is african-american. he says so himself, this is still a very difficult issue the african-american community (many minority communities to be honest). And he is giving a voice to a VERY under-supported group of people… and only those people in that community can bring about those changes.
    So yes yes, no should have to perform their sexual orientation/gender/ethnicity etc. but the world isn’t perfect and we’re all just moving slowly on the never-ending road of evolution, physically, emotionally, mentally, etc.

  25. bananapanda says:

    @feebee: It’s way harder for African Americans to come out and talk about being gay. It’s a major part of why HIV/AIDS infection rates are so high in the community. The terms “down-low” and “men who have sex with men” were both created because they won’t use the term Gay.

  26. bluhare says:

    @min76, LunaT: agree wholeheartedly.

    Anderson Cooper for HGF!! I’ve always thought he’s so hot, and I don’t even care if he has butt sex. @marijann, believe it or not, heteros do it too. GASP!!!

    And baby-face Lemon is adorable. I always want to skutch his cheeks if you know what I mean.

  27. LunaT says:

    bluhare, you made me laugh.

    And Anderson IS such a cutie. Love him.

  28. love says:

    Yeah, awesome, being gay is so in.. love him and love CNN

  29. bluhare says:

    LunaT: I can tell you want to skutch his cheeks too. 🙂

  30. Zelda says:

    @AngelMay
    hahaha!

  31. arock says:

    @zelda- point taken. i was surprised by the response, but honestly unconcerned. no, im not a gay boy. im a hetro woman who has a gay brother, 2 close friends who are lesbians just married in dc, and a diverse group of people around me as i used to work at DC Rape Crisis and volunteer for Whitman-Walker which is education, prevention, testing and support. needless to say im familiar with the experience of coming out.
    sorry you had the experience with your friends, id bump up my circle.

  32. Bee says:

    @Kolby I also did a double take at 45. 45! Wow, he’s looking good. I’m happy for him that he decided to come out and is living his life in the open. Good luck Don.

    @Marijaan what a disgusting comment.

  33. rose80 says:

    I’m not shocked that he’s 45 because black don’t crack!

    But on a serious note, kudos to him for coming out. He may have possibly made someone else more comfortable in their own skin.

  34. jacq says:

    Oh, well. I would never have guessed. Because, after all, he’s doesn’t LOOK gay or anything. (Sarcasm font)
    Is he that big a deal? That was the MOST hotly anticipated and “decided” blind items that I can remember. That and the Paris Hilton herpes one.

  35. wunderkindt says:

    I’m happy for Don, and totally impressed that he looks so great at 45!

  36. If Anderson Cooper had come out years ago, his hair would likely not have turned prematurely gray. Cooper is only 43 — two years YOUNGER then his fellow CNN anchor Don Lemon, who DID come out — and Lemon doesn’t look a day over 30!

    Staying in the closet makes you age much faster than you should. Nervousness and even paranoia about others “finding out” that you’re gay or bisexual will do that to you.

    While Don Lemon is the first nationally known African-American TV news personality to come out, he is not the only black broadcaster to do so. I host a smooth jazz-R&B radio show in Vermont and I’ve been out of the closet far longer than Lemon has.

    I’m 58 and I’ve been out for more than 30 years, having first come out as a gay man in 1978 — a time when it was still very dangerous for white gay men to do so, let alone black gay men. I was a reporter and columnist at two gay-community newspapers — one in San Francisco, the other in Vermont — before I went mainstream in 1998 with the launch of my radio show and a now-defunct online column that ran for five years until I closed it in February.

    I had my second coming-out — this time as bisexual — on my 40th birthday in 1993. I’m married now — and yes, my wife and in-laws all know that I’m bi; there’s nothing “on the down-low” about me.

    That said, I’m glad to finally know that I’m no longer the only African-American broadcast personality who’s out of the closet. Congratulations, Don. Honesty really IS the best policy.