Kat Von D posted a long essay on Facebook about her toxic off and on relationship with Jesse James. She claims to have met the “19th girl” James cheated on her with in the year or so that they were together. Are we supposed to take that literally, like was she really taking count and does she know of 18 others? I wouldn’t be surprised, but I still think she’s exaggerating for effect. Kat also writes that she was hoping that Jesse would “change,” but that he continues “seeking validation through the attention of women.” She tries to anticipate and deflect a lot of the criticism she’ll get for this, but she still deserves all of it and then some, especially since she’s drudging this up all over again.
Today I encountered the 19th girl to add to the list of people Jesse cheated on me with during this last year.
I kept going back and forth in my mind as to what the best way would be for me to release and let go of any residual feelings remaining from that toxic relationship. All of this may sound petty or immature to some, but I assure you this is coming from a place of pure honesty and love.
There was a time when I was confident and excited at proving the world wrong, because I believed so deeply in people’s ability to change for the better. Although this was not a primary purpose in the relationship, I did feel like it would be a positive thing for those who judged Jesse solely based on what they read in tabloids, to see that change is always possible – even in the people who seem hopeless.
I still believe that, even if that change never occurs inside of him – because I see proof of change everyday – in others, and in myself. I’m far from perfect, but am willing to examine myself, and my patterns of dysfunction, and then put in the work to better myself. It’s a daily practice, but it’s working.
Sure, its easy to tell someone, “I told you so” especially if you’re criticizing someone from the outside, but that attitude comes from a place called Ego, and not Love. I know I deserve a big fat “I told you so,” from everyone, and wish I didn’t have to say, “You all were more right than you’ll ever know” but you were.
Not to worry, I’ve gladly paid the consequences for every mistake I’ve ever made, but learned so much from each of them.
Yes, I am pretty tired of getting mistaken for the girl who everyone believes to have broken up Jesse and Sandra’s marriage, just because I have black hair and tattoos like that other gal. That does get a quite annoying at times, and it would be nice to not be associated with her, but that’s trivial in the grand scheme of things.
I think it just made me sad today to imagine him still in that dark place – where seeking validation through the attention of women takes precedence over being a good father, a sincere friend, a better coworker, and a happy individual.
I tried my best to go through all of this without venting, or complaining, or fueling more tabloid mumbo jumbo – but this isn’t about any of that.This is about me making peace with myself, and forgiving myself for making some bad mistakes.
[From Facebook]
Did this woman not pick up a single tabloid in the spring of last year? Did she avoid going to the grocery store for months? Did she not look at the Internet even once? She hooked up with a notorious cheater and is now whining about the fact that he cheated on her. Plus she broke up and got back together with him multiple times, and she probably cheated on him too. But she’s sending us “love,” and she’s trying to “forgive herself” so we’re not supposed to criticize her about it at all. Why is she even still talking about this douche? You would think that once she realized how bad she got played, she would clam up. Jesse is in a bad place though, and she’s so enlightened that she’s still talking about him. It must suck to have his face tattooed on her body, but at least it’s on her side and she has enough other tattoos to be able to ignore it. It’s like an old photo at the bottom of a forgotten knick knack drawer.
Somewhere, Sandra Bullock is sipping a margarita and laughing her ass off.
Thanks to Kate for the tip!
Kat is shown out on 11/7, 11/2 and at an event on 9/30. She’s shown with Jesse on 3/29/11. Credit: WENN and Fame
She’s irrelevant since her show got canceled, and talking about Jesse is the only way she gets any media attention.
Thank god her 15 minutes are up. And of course, Jesse’s 15 minutes have long been up.
I’ll I’s got to ask is how the HELL did she drive in those horrid shoes?
WTF kind of shoes does this woman own?!
“All of this may sound petty or immature to some, but I assure you this is coming from a place of pure honesty and love” should read “…from a place of pure and honest love for famewhoring”
The shoes are terrible. So is her nose. I wonder what it looked like before she had it done.
Actually that’s the title of Jesse’s new TLC show “19 hos and counting”.
Why do people even care about her? Is this her ploy for attention? Sweetie, give it up. Nobody cares anymore.
Are we supposed to feel sorry for the Skank that slept w/ Jesse when he was cheating on Sandra Bullock w/ her? Isn’t KARMA a Biaotch! If he cheated on his wife..did she really think she was so “special” that he would be faithful to her?? Both This chick & Jesse make me want a penicillin shot when I hear their names…
She, Dita Von 15 minutes is up, and Rumer Willis were all separated at birth.
any woman who dates, gets engaged to, or marries this douche deserves all the pain that comes her way.
Yep, her nose is awful. Such an obvious nose job – it’s too narrow for her face and makes her jaw look huge from some angles. She used to be quite pretty before she started with all the surgery and turned into the fourth Willis sister.
so why would she stay with him. come on the guy was married to sandra bullock and couldnt stop cheating. some celebs are so dumb
is she really tall?
How does he pull them, he’s fugly!
I still can’t get over the fact that she dumped Nikki Sixx For JJ. WTF!!!! Dumb ass girl!!!! Nikki isn’t perfect by any means but he’s cleaned up his life a lot . Oh sorry this is about JJ I got a little carried away.
how cliche! you cheat with a guy who’s married/ taken and then he cheats on you. and you are then shocked at his clear lack of morals. Kat is one dumb b**ch.
@brin: ‘Actually that’s the title of Jesse’s new TLC show “19 hos and counting”.’
Comment of the millennium.
I cant stand this woman and her freaky tattoos and those shoes – god awful.
What irks me the most is that she thought she was more “special” than Sandra. Her and Jesse were so smug in the months right after him and Sandra split and they were papped constantly with smiles on their faces. It’s never ok to relish in someone else’s pain. She gloated when Jesse proclaimed how much more he loved her over Sandra and how better in bed she was than Sandra. He basically spit on his ex wife and used Kat to do that and she took pleasure in it. Now the spit is sliding down her face. So I do not feel sorry for her one bit. Had she been humble and told Jesse to stfu when he was disrespecting his ex wife, then perhaps I would’ve given her a bit of sympathy now. But no, she does not deserve an ounce.
This chick looks a lot like Rumer Willis.
i think sandra and nikki sixx are laughing their tiny @sses off.
and i wanna know why is linda perry with her.
I agree Jezi,JJ and Dita were flaunting their supposedly relationship. Especially JJ talking all that smack to hurt Sandra. I guess the next one we’ll be reading about is Leann Rimes her time will surely come.
Isn’t this the same tattooed covered skank that said Sandra just wasn’t woman enough for used douche bag Jessie and she was all the woman he needed? Guess she wasn’t much of a woman either!
HAHAHAHA! Suck it whore! Lord knows everyone else did. Karma Karma Karma..
She cheated on her husband Oliver Peck, ex-friend Steve-O revealed to the world on his blog a couple years ago. He said that she screwed a ton of guys while she was married, including himself, Adam Carolla, Bam Margera, Brian Gillooly, Ville Vallo and others.
Later, Kat Von D hooked up with Roy Orbison’s son, Orbi, and then dumped him with quickness when she met Nikki Sixx. Now she’s moved on in the blink of an eye and claims that Jesse James is “The One.” Kat has had a lot of “the ones” in her life it seems and has the nerve to whine when it happens to her too funny.
She’s right, we did tell her so. With that said, that was a well written piece. I can’t bring myself to hate on her, particularly when it concerns JJ. *He*’s the one we should be reserving all our vitriol for.
she was not the girl he cheated with sandra on. i love kat d. don’t need to write an essay on that.
this one dumb b*tch and she got what she deserved, so did her douche bag ex, JJ….I have absolutely NO sympathy for this entitled brat.
Wish I could say that I felt sorry for her, but then, I would be lying. She got exactly what she deserved. As the very old saying goes…
Once a cheater, always a cheater.
@BooRadley…wow, thanks, I’m honored!
I’m sure he played the poor me I’m screwed up card and how Sandy was always gone and I’ve never met anyone like you card. Sandy fell for it. Kat fell for it. I like it that she called out the dog, so he can look even worse for throwing Sandra under the bus in his book. What a loser he is.
How is she going to look as she ages??? OH MY GAWD!!!
I know it goes against the popular commenter opinion here at Celebitchy, but I don’t believe cheaters always will be cheaters.
I’ve cheated on some, would never have cheated on others, and would cheat on near anyone when it comes to being with some others. And while I know some serial cheaters, I also know some people who have cheated a partner only once and would likely never do it again.
There are a lot of factors at play. Personalities aren’t usually simple black and white in any other capacity, so why this one?
Though assholes to tend to remain assholes, I think that’s a much larger issue.
Just came in to say that she was not the one who JJ cheated with when he was married to Sandra Bullock. And her little Facebook essay didn’t sound like whining to me, it just sounded honest…..and I like her makeup line.
she wears the ugliest shoes ever!!!
Give the girl a break! She made a stupid mistake and got hurt. The fact that the wound is self inflicted doesn’t mean it hurts less.
It’s such a typical female thing, to think that somehow you will be the woman who reforms the bad boy, only to find out that no, you can’t. I think it has something to do with women feeling competitive against other women (I will be better than the ex-wife). Also the way other women respond is to blame her for being stupid, not feel sympathetic because they have been hurt by out-of-control alpha males too.
@Brin LMAO, amazing!
About the story though; just so we’re all clear here, Kat is not the girl Jesse cheated on Sandra with. Some of you are mistaking her for Bombshell McGee, who was by far the trashiest tramp to come out of a cheating scandal in recent years. Home girl looked like a coloring book of STDs and had no discernible skills in life besides stripping and famewhoring.
Kat, on the other hand, at least has some talent outside of the realm of attention whoring. I watched a few episodes of her show after she and Jesse became tabloid fodder. She’s honestly a surprisingly talented artist! She’s dumb as a box of rocks, to be sure, and she has a voice that could make sandpaper feel cuddly. But, I have to give the girl credit; she really is a very good at what she does. Based on that fact, I can’t hate her as much as everyone else seems to.
Maybe Jesse is secretly (VERY secretly, since lord knows I can’t fathom this) very charming in person. Perhaps Kat really thought he would change. Stupid as that may sound, she wouldn’t be the first woman to make that mistake, right? I can understand her needing to air out her feelings on this. It hurts to be cheated on, whether you should have known better or not.
That said though, BWAHAHAHA!!!! Who didn’t see this one coming?!? I wonder if Jesse has said anything about this mess yet? Let’s see how long it takes for him to hitch himself a ride on the WHAAAAAmbulance and find some way for this to not be his fault. What a douche!
I will say this: she has a solid famewhore hustle. Her new clothing line, her makeup line are all solid products. I think her famewhoring into the fashion world will be successful (already is successful). Her famewhore hustle has padded her bank account quite nicely.
She’s a famewhore and I am tired of her like and every other reality tv star, but we need to remember that JJ was living in Austin while she was traveling from Los Angeles to see him. She was probably oblivious to him cheating on her and he was on his best behavior when she was around.
But like many have mentioned here, she’s a notorious cheater too. She always dumps her guys for one that’s a “level up.” How she thought JJ was a level up from Nikki Sixx is beyond me. But she needs to tone it down, find a man her own age and concentrate on her fashion lines without a bunch of media attention. I think she deserves every penny she gets from her tattoo shop and her makeup and clothing lines. But she needs to stay away from reality tv and posting crap like this if she wants people to respect her. She’s been hanging around Hollywood for too long and it’s going to her head. I think she would genuinely be a nice person if she wasn’t chasing fame and got rid of her delusions that she’s actually famous.
The one that made out best on this deal is Sandra Bullock, she dropped a major douche bag and has gone on with her career and also has a beautiful little boy out of it. While those two are nothing more than a couple of famewhores who are trying to stay in the publics eye, they remind me of Heidi Montag and Spencer what’s his name
@ Zelda
I agree with you I don’t believe once a cheaters always will be cheaters, people grow and change from the person they were in the past, its like says if you cheated on someone in High school you’re going to cheater for the rest of your life I don’t believe that’s true. Sometimes you hurt people you don’t mean to and hopefully you grow from that and make better decisions in the future ,and other people are just douche bag’s who can’t see pass the next piece of ass whether they’re in a relationship or not.
Now for example JJ, Swizz Beatz and Ashton Kutcher have develop a pattern for not being faithful in their relationship or people like Arnold Schwarzenegger who cheated on his wife for years so yes most likely these type of people will cheat again.
She’s as stupid as she looks.
Are we supposed to feel sorry for her? That’s like jumping in the ocean and crying because you got wet.
It’s depressing to think that there are 19 human females in the world that would sleep with that guy.
I’m sure she was very surprised when she found out that he cheated, since she had absolutely no idea that he would do something like that~~~ poor thing….
Oh wow. It really must have caught you by surprise, Kat.
I hope she gets tested for all kinds of diseases. It’s gross to think of all the chicks that slept with that. She lost a lot of fans when she started dating the jerk that broke America’s Sweetheart’s heart. That was so stupid of her. Now she’ll always be linked to him and who he was inside, yuck!
I don’t understand the excessive hate.
So she’s guilty of falling in love with a notorious bad boy. It was obviously a difficult relationship, and she took the brunt of it. She admitted she was wrong and “we” were right, so why all the animosity? Why would you want to kick a sister while she’s down? Because she looks different? Because her lover was divorcing a high profile “good girl”? She never said or did anything to directly to Sandra, so why is she being crucified?
I purposefully stay out of most of the Aniston/Jolie threads, because I find a lot of the comments on relationships and fidelity (now 5 years out) to be really psychologically unsettling. I’ve been noticing the trend with other alleged love triangles, as well – a pattern of excessive “slut shaming” juxtaposed to “martyrdom”. Sometimes, everyone is wrong, guys. And sometimes, no one is to blame.
Starting to reconsider how much time I spend on these blogs. It hurts my heart to see how quick we are to rip apart other women who admit their mistakes.
God.. who cares…
I’m not a fan. Never really was and the Crue are my favourite band ever and I love Nikki Sixx so when they hooked up I said to myself. Bitch better not hurt him. I believe that she did so I have no respect for her whatsoever.
I’m glad she admits that she should be told “I told you so”. I never could understand what the hell she was doing with JJ and still can’t understand why she bothered with him. Oh well. She never claimed to be smart!
wow-she shops at the ugly clothes store, and has about the spiritual/philosophical depth of a pinhead. yikes. stfu already, ‘k?
@MissyA I think people’s perceptions are based on what is put out there by these “celebrities”. No one is blaming just her. I think if you read all the Jesse James threads on here, you will see the vitrol being launched at him in full force. The reason why Kat isn’t receiving much sympathy is because she didn’t have an ounce of sympathy for Sandra when she was going through her heartache. If we’re going to support womenhood then we should do it all the time, not just when we want it towards us. Do you understand where I’m going with that?
Agree with @Jezi.
And I can’t believe there are 19 women willing to sleep with that douchebag.
I think she was a total dumbass to get involved with the very skeevy Jesse but I have to say, this is the most respect I’ve felt towards her to date. At least it sounds like she might have learned something valuable from it all…. maybe.
I like u Kat, but I thinkg that this was completely unneccasary. I guess it’s her way of getting closure or something..
I dont trust any woman who looks like a goth leprechaun. What made her think she was so much more special than any other woman he has basically screwed over.
I hear what you’re saying to a point, Jezi. But frankly, Kat doesn’t have any obligation to Sandra. I can’t recall her making any comments about Sandra whatsoever. That’s all on Jesse, you know what I mean? Kat’s relationship/engagement to Jesse really doesn’t have any bearing on Sandra at all – especially because Sandra was the one to so spectacularly dump the loser in the first place.
Barring close friendships, the new girl friend isn’t responsible for how the old girlfriend feels.
I get it, though. Break-ups suck. And it sucks even more when your former significant other moves on so quickly. I see a lot of that projection here on the boards, and I understand it – been there, done that. But if all you do is project anger, that’s all you’re going to get back. The woman made a mistake and admitted it. You don’t have to like her, but the nasty comments towards her is more telling about some people than it is about her.
She has a nice body tho….she looks kinda good in that last pic…..well sans the ugly shoes!!! lol.
Self-effacing, self-actualized and surprisingly compassionate toward the person who hurt her. I’m not going to tear her down for it. She says at the beginning the purpose of her post is to release the residue from a toxic relationship. I hope this has done that for her.
I have no sympathy for this girl. You can’t change a man! Especially a man that lies, cheats and publicly humiliates his last wife. It reminds me of a Maya Angelou quote…something like, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.”
@MissyA You’re right it isn’t her responsibility to make Sandra feel any way and that is totally on Jesse. I guess being a woman myself and if I jumped into a relationship where my boyfriend’s last relationship’s dust hasn’t settled, I think I would be a bit more considerate and not flaunt our new love. But not everyone is like that. It also would make me cringe if my new boyfriend was saying such ugly comments about his last marriage so publicly and for no reason whatsoever. Sandra never once said anything negative about Jesse, she just dumped him and rightfully so. I feel like he didn’t truly care for Kat but used her to hurt Sandra. Again, that’s my own opinion.
Jezi, that’s not spit sliding down her face. It looks similar to spit, but I think we can safely say it’s something else. Other than that I agree with you 100% percent.
@Spacelamb Hahahahahahaha!! So gross but so funny!
So, answer me this. WHY did her ask her marry HIM? Why didn’t he just continue freely on his merry way?
oh good grief, misstrishm, Happy21, margaritachum and willdone – you guys never read “The Dirt” on Motely Crue did you? Nikki Sixx is a trashy, wife-abusing whore from hell. NOBODY deserves him.
I feel bad for Kat – I think she’s doing her best at least. Not so for JJ.
Hahahahahahahaha! ‘nuvo’ has been replaying LA Ink…funny how Orbi was ‘the one, she’s never felt this way before, been in love like this, never going to have another boyfriend’ then suddenly Orbi’s out Nikki’s ‘the one, her soul mate, he owns her heart, never felt like this before’ then Nikki’s out Jesse’s ‘her soul mate, the one blah blah blah’ Each of them was blindsided by the quickness with which they were dumped and replaced. I’m not tearing down a woman who trusted the wrong man then got her heart broken; I’m loving that this moron who seemed to forget everything she said and did was recorded (with her permission) is finally getting what she DESERVES! She has no loyalty to friends, employees, husband or lovers. Karma much?
Yeah, let’s start a relationship trying to change or “fix” a person.. No wonder why they broke up!
Nikki Sixx has been through rehab and a lot else since The Dirt. I don’t believe he’s the same guy he was back then. That book was written 10 years ago.
@Zelda – I completely agree with you about cheating. No situation or person is black and white. This is not me defending JJ, however. I think the guy is terminally douchey.
The Superficial said everything that I was thinking:
“So let me get this straight. Kat Von D started a relationship with Jesse James for the sole purpose of trying to change him, only to have it entirely backfire in her face because he continued to act exactly like he did before they started dating? Wow, what a strange and unusual turn of events. I bet she’s the only woman this has ever happened to, it’s so unusual.”
Well, I really don’t like it when ‘celebs’ use pseudo enlightenment to explain their mistakes. She is not going to school anyone on self actualization.
I would have had more respect if she had said something more sincere and heartfelt. Not wrapped in faux new agey tripe.
When she saw how awful he treated Sandra and the nasty women he did it with, that was a clue. He didnt cheat once. He did it many many times without condoms. She is player who got played and is stunned that it happened to her.
Maybe now she knows how she made other people feel and will change her own toxic behavior.
Plus her smug smile needed to be slapped off her face. And his. They acted like insensitive jackasses in public and said stupid hurtful things. If he had truly changed he would have been contrite and apologetic to the woman he hurt. He would have only said nice things about his ex. That right there is a big damn clue that he isn’t a
good person.
She’s no babe in the woods either. She done many many laps around and then some. So she got what she deserved.
19?? Douchbag of the year…wonder how many Asston has racked up.
… and Mr. Sixxxxx has been through several women since. Kids or no, nothing is going to make him monogamous, ever.
@GG you haven’t read the herion dairies or his latest book This is gonna hurt Nikki’s changed his life completely he used to be all that but he’s not he’s full on sober now and he’s kicking ass all over the world.
Jezi – I really respect your opinion. I think people really and truly can’t help who they love (or think they love), so the timing isn’t necessarily an issue for me. And I guess I personally didn’t find any of their PDA to be particularly excessive – especially considering they’ve all sold their souls to be in the spotlight. (There’s a morbid public appeal, so there will be documentation.)
I will say this, though. If I were Kat’s girlfriend, I’d warn her to be wary about a man who can’t keep his ex’s name out of his mouth – it was particularly demeaning to both Sandra and Kat when he compared/contrasted their bedroom proclivities.
All in all, I’m not exactly sure why I’ve made this my hill to stand on. I don’t like or dislike Kat Von D more or less than any other “celebrity” – they’re mostly all hyperboles to me. Stories to keep us entertained. I just appreciate that, given she’s a public figure, she chose a public forum to express her remorse. It felt apt, and I respect her a little more for having done so. Still, “haterz gunna hate”, and I respect that not everyone is going to appreciate her owning her mistakes. It’s just disheartening to see people get really, really petty about it.
Once cheater always a cheater
Hey G, I have a theory on why Jesse asked Kat to marry him – I believe it was mainly motivated by hostility towards Bullock and her many adoring fans. Being a man of the weakest possible character who never really manned up to his douchey debauchery, I think he felt compelled to hurt Sandra for “hurting” him. I’ve always had the sense he actually perceived himself as a victim in all that. If he could convince people he had found bliss with Kat (as much to protect his career as his fragile ego) then surely it meant the whole Sandra debacle was somehow Sandra’s fault. The guy is a total and complete sociopath.
He’s totally done womanizing? It’ll take awhile for me to believe that. There’s drug addiction, and then there’s the rest of your life to straighten out, including the womanizing.
Believe what you want plus he’s not married anymore who cares what he does now FYI they were all womanizing back then not just Nikki. But your going by a book that was written a good 11 to 12 years ago. People do change and Nikki has.
I don’t think that Sandra is “laughing her head off” at all. What is sad is that Sandra showed no emotion about this whole mess – she acted like a robot. I feel sorry for her. She has obviously not dealt with what happened at all. And having a husband that you adopted a baby with cheating on you with several women is nothing to laugh about
He cheated? No. You could not have seen that coming.
You are pissed off that he cheated? You thought you were so special and unique that you could change him. Loser. The guy never took responsibility for destroying his marriage and hurting his kids yet you thought your skinny tattooed ass would get a better deal from him? Deluded.
@MissyA: Yeah. KVD had no responsibility to somehow be more sensitive to the ex-wife who she’d done nothing to hurt. They had no relationship! For all we know Sandra Bullock was looking at stories about Kat and thinking, “When you ramble on with your new agey ‘place of pure honesty and love’ bullshit, please leave my name out of it.”
@skuddles: Being a man of the weakest possible character who never really manned up to his douchey debauchery, I think he felt compelled to hurt Sandra for “hurting” him.
Well said! I’m sure JJ’s puny little soul is secretly thrilled by Kat’s statement. It’s providing him with fodder for the Poor Unloved Jesse routine which he will no doubt be using on women for years to come.
And Kat thought Jesse wouldn’t be a cad because….?
You wait months after breakup to tell us that! So screaming for attention!
In other shocking news, the sun still gives light, and water is still wet.
Thanks Cirque28 🙂
@misstrim – how do you know – do you know him? His past with women says it all to me. Red. Flag.
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i bet she is hating the fact that she tattooed herself with Jesse’s ugly ass face. I would laser that crap off, stat.
Jesse is an Aries and they are nothing but cheaters the majority of times. Tiki Barber, Jesse James etc. I dated one, an Aries Taurs cusp, who was the love of my life, and he did nothing but stray. They cant handle boredom. But they dont know they pain it causes. They may have very little regard for peoples emotions. Taurus men also are only faithful when in love.
I don’t know about Sandra, but I am definitely laughing my a** off