Neil Patrick Harris & David Burtka cover Out Mag’s “Love Issue”: sexy & awesome?

I’ve never been crazy about Neil Patrick Harris’s boyfriend/partner David Burtka. I adore Neil, and as such, I’ve accepted that David is in his life and hoped for the best. But David seems… I don’t know. I can’t put my finger on it. He’s like Jennifer Westfeldt, Jon Hamm’s girlfriend. I’m annoyed by them, but I can’t figure out if it’s just jealousy or because Westfeldt and Burtka are simply annoying people. Anyway, I had a point! My point is that I never really cared for David… until now. Because these Out Magazine photos of David and Neil are HOT. They cover the February issue of Out Magazine’s “The Love Issue”. Instead of an interview with David and Neil, the magazine simply let’s them tell their love story in their own words, in the form of two essays – you can read them here. I’m going to excerpt some of Neil’s, just because I love it so much – this is all in Neil’s voice, Neil’s own words:

How Neil met David…
I ran into my friend Kate one day and she was with this brooding, James Dean–type guy in a leather jacket who gave me the head nod and then turned away. I assumed he was Kate’s boyfriend and said, “Nicely done.” And she said, “David? He’s not playing on my team, but he has a boyfriend.” So, then I just kept seeing him on the periphery, and in turn, catching up on him, but I didn’t want to be that guy who was creating some sort of romantic interference. So, I was always around when he was around, hoping the stars would align. When we all hung out for the first time — I was invited by Kate to an American Idol viewing party — I just stammered around him. I couldn’t take my eyes off him.

They’re both Gemini…
There’s something kinetic about him and his being. He’s classically sexy, yet he’s very much a boy in his energy. It’s a great dynamic. When I see people who are equally attractive, they tend to seem more quiet and kind of Marlboro Man-y, and David’s the antithesis of that. He’s more like Tigger. I’m, in turn, very introspective — the thinker, rather than the doer. I tend to weigh options before making decisions, and David is the polar opposite of that. We’re hyper similar and also incredibly opposite. We share a wardrobe. We have the same shoe size, body size, height, and weight. We’re both Gemini. We both like the idea of family — not a nuclear family, but a social family. Yet, we’re incredibly opposite in the way we process information.

Neil on his single days…
I remember being in my mid-twenties, lying in bed thinking, I’ve never taken a shower with anyone before; I’ve never had any kind of long-term relationship. I remember thinking that the rest of my life would be solo. I wasn’t weepy when I thought that — it was just a realization that I had gone this long being self-sufficient. Thankfully, the world changed and perceptions changed, and my life went to the East Coast, where there’s a much greater acceptance of anonymity and freedom. In New York, I was able to date with my head held higher. In L.A., it felt much more gossipy. It’s all baby steps: You have to be OK with telling your friends you’re going on a date; you have to be OK with the people in your world meeting and judging them; you have to be OK with breakups. I’m infinitely grateful all those steps led to Mr. Burtka — once we started talking, we never stopped.

Neil fell in love first…
I initially fell for David harder than he fell for me. I was in love with him before he was comfortable saying it, and I think that speaks to our past experiences. I remember saying, “I think I love you,” and he was like, “That’s really nice,” which is not necessarily what you want to hear. But I appreciated his honesty in not jumping the gun and saying something because he felt obliged to…. What defines a relationship is the work that’s involved to maintain it, and it’s constantly changing. Sometimes I’m deeply in love with David and head-over-heels, and sometimes I question whether it’s going to work out and is meant to be. It’s like a business relationship, as well as a personal one; we have a business together and that’s maintaining our love for one another.

Engagement and marriage…
David first proposed to me five years ago on the actual street corner where we met. We were on our way to an event at an Indian casino 45 minutes out of town in a limousine, and David wanted to stop for some reason that I didn’t quite get. I thought he wanted to get some booze or something. And then he got on one knee and proposed, and I was so freaked out by it that I said, “Yes,” but I didn’t know what it meant. Then I got the ring and loved it, and a year later, on Valentine’s Day, I proposed to him in Santa Monica. That was four years ago. The callous on my right hand is long-formed—and not from masturbation. I’m dying to move over to the other hand. I’d also like to call him my husband. I’m not the biggest fan of the word “partner”: It either means that we run a business together or we’re cowboys. “Boyfriend” seems fleeting, like maybe we met two weeks ago. I’ve been saying “better half” for as long as I’ve been able to. I think it’s a little self-deprecating and clearly defines that we’re in a relationship, but it would be nice to say “my husband.”

[From Out Magazine]

I get a little bit choked up, okay? Don’t judge me. But I thought the part about Neil telling David he loved him first and the part about marriage were just… lovely. Bittersweet, emotional, beautiful. Sigh… okay, I’m all for Neil and David now.

Photos courtesy of Out Magazine.

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  1. Nev says:

    sweet pics!!!

  2. Nev says:

    sweet pics!

  3. Sassenach says:

    Neil’s words were beautiful. I hope David knows how lucky he is.

  4. Camille says:

    I love the cover. It’s really sensual.

  5. Asli says:

    I’m a Gemini too! *High-fives Neil and David! That essay was beautifully written and I love how it was about love and how honest he was. I love you, Neil!

  6. Lindy says:

    Totally beautiful–pics and essays. His words really capture how love and marriage feel to me, too. Very sweet. Also very sexy!

  7. mia girl says:

    This is lovey.

  8. Relli says:

    Aw that is just the cutest thing ever! Good for them, everyone needs to find that person who will love them no matter what. But i feel you Kaiser, I was never sure about David but over the years he has sold me on himself. I love his character on HIMYM as Lily’s ex Scooter.

    • Polkasox says:

      I didn’t know he was scooter! Scooter is so funny. That makes me like him even more now.

    • WillyNilly says:

      OMFG I didn’t even put it together that it was David. Which is sad since it’s the worst disguise ever. haha

  9. Angelique says:

    I love NPH. And I’m a Gemini too !

  10. Jenny says:

    In the top pic, all I can think about is “huge boner Doogie Houser”

  11. embertine says:

    I know what you mean – he seems shady and I can’t define why. I think it’s because when you look in his eyes you don’t get the feeling anyone is looking back, but maybe that’s just in pictures.

  12. Astrid says:


  13. TheOriginalKitten says:

    They look incredible together!

  14. Findley says:

    So happy for them!

  15. apsutter says:

    The pictures are so intimate…I love that.

  16. MsM says:

    SUPER CUTEEEEEE awwwwwww…. loved it =)

  17. ohcutemissa says:

    True Love. Jealous.

  18. Jackie says:

    great pics. i thought they were married? c’mon you americans…get with it!

    coming from a proud canadian, where gay marriage has been legal for a number of years.

  19. mikamoo says:

    NPH is SO hot!

  20. mikamoo says:

    Love love love the photos… you can feel the love.

  21. Girl says:

    I love how honest he is about the waxing and waning of relationships. This weekend my husband and I celebrate 20 years together and I can tell you we still have those times. May they continue to be happy together.

    And get married!

  22. flourpot says:

    Goddamn, I’m jealous. Go, them.

  23. phlyfiremama says:

    So very very lovely~especially “we have a business together and that’s maintaining our love for one another.”

  24. Lisa says:

    Can I watch?

  25. Erinn says:

    I literally ‘awwwww’ed when I saw this. Ugh. So freaking cute. And I got a little emotional reading his interview. It was beautiful.

  26. ana says:


    • Sloane Wyatt says:

      They make a pretty pair, and any love is good love, so you have to take what you can get:)!

    • Samigirl says:

      If you aren’t being sarcastic, you’re disgusting, dear.

      Who are you to judge the relationship of 2 people you don’t know?

      Love is beautiful, in all shapes, sizes, and sexes.

    • Flan says:

      Yes, Ana, you are.

    • Lisanne says:

      Leave ana alone…you can’t force everyone to think alike.

      • duncecap says:

        we are allowed to think ana is disgusting. No? I’ll just think it privately, then.

        Unless of course she thinks its disgusting that they’re in bed and clothed. Come on, fellas. Just because you’re settled down, with kids and committed doesn’t mean you can’t show off a little skin. Come on!

  27. Agnes says:

    Lovely, sweet pictures. Awesome to see happy people just being happy. 🙂

  28. kay says:


    I still cannot stand David, he looks so untrustworthy. I do love NPH though and hope he is as happy as he seems to be.

    • Blondey says:

      I get the shady vibe from him too! After reading the interview, all I could think was “one-sided love” and “a golddigger who realized his sugar-daddy’s star was on the rise, so he proposed to lock in a life of ease”. Hope I’m wrong for NPH’s sake.

      This blog’s comments are too sticky-sweet! Where’s the snarkiness!

    • WOM says:

      Agree! I wish NPH all the best, but I don’t trust Burtka.

      “[Burtka]’s not playing on my team, but he has a boyfriend”

      Um. HELLO?! Burtka didn’t JUST have a boyfriend at the time NPH met him. He had a boyfriend AND they had two young children together. I’m a big girl — I get that relationships end, often for the better. But if we’re going to gripe about Nicole Kidman supposedly abandoning her kids with Tom Cruise, than it’s only fair to mention that Burtka has supposedly walked away from his children with Lane Janger.

      • Bea says:

        I think from what can be gathered from various NPH-interviews and from one explicit Twitter-statement David Burtka made is that those twins in his previous relationship are in fact not Burtka’s children. As NPH put it, Lane Jager had “gone through the surrogacy-process on his own”, although Burtka naturally “helped raise them” while they were a couple. Burtka said he’s like a “close uncle” to them and they actually all still see each other regularly… Make of that what you want…

      • WOM says:

        @Bea — isn’t that splitting hairs?

        If Burtka was in a relationship with a woman who used donor-sperm to get pregnant, and remained with her for four years and was a father-figure for her/their children, we’d gripe about him being a deadbeat dad. Yes, Burtka — like Kidman — has no biological link to those children. But people on this site regularly allege that Kidman “abandoned” the children she had with Tom Cruise. Doesn’t it indicate a gender-bias that we don’t clamour about Burtka calling himself an “uncle” to children that NPH use to say were his step-children? Why does the press and the public permit this double standard?

      • Tpn says:

        Except David Burtka have NO legal rights to his ex children, Kidman do.

        His ex was living in LA while Burtka lived in NY most of the time they were together.

      • Bea says:

        I don’t really think there’s a double standard, because these are two different situations. Kidman adopted those kids together with Cruise, they are legally her children, she has a responsibility towards them. It doesn’t look like that’s the case with Burtka. The kids are “his ex-boyfriend’s children”, not his. He has no legal responsibilitie (or rights for that matter) towards them. And it looks like Burtka and Janger didn’t actually live together, in different cities even. So from my outsider’s perspective, I do see a fundamental difference there. Others might not.

        And BTW, I do think there actually was and is clamour about Burtka and his relationship/responsibility towards these other children. Websites regularly write that Burtka already has twins from a previous relationship (which I think is incorrect reporting, when they are not biological or legally his) and you see lots of people commenting on him being a “run-away dad” and worse… So I don’t think he’s being let off the hook that easily, just because he is a man (or gay).

  29. Franny says:

    Now there’s a good reason to be in a relationship with someone of the same sex! Double your closet if they are the same shape!

    Damn you boyfriend, with your collared shirts and sweatshirts that are 3 sizes too big.

    • Samigirl says:

      Maybe worse? My husband is a LOT thinner than I am. He has 4 % body fat and CANNOT gain weight to save his life. He literally eats 3 double cheeseburgers and drinks 3 beers a day…and won’t gain a pound. Jerk. 😉

      Damn you husband, with your size small polos, and 31×32 pants 😛

      • Erinn says:

        Haha, that’s the worst. I can fit in my boyfriends t-shirts and they actually don’t look terrible. But we’ve both gained some weight in the last few years. I’d never fit in his pants though- he’s got tiny man hips, and I’m like half hips haha.

    • Lee says:

      ah yes, my wife and I can share pretty much all of our clothes and even shoes. Though it only really works if you have similar style. We have some overlap but there are plenty of items that, while I love them on her, don’t look right on me. ha.

  30. jay says:

    that top photo looks stupid. You’re going to both give model face in loose pajamas?

  31. Reece says:

    So beautiful!

  32. Emilie says:

    I love David and I love them together, and the long-term stable relationship they have. The pictures are intimate and sexy. Love what they said about each other and their relationship. it is true. It requires hard work to maintain love.

  33. WaywardGirl says:

    Love it!

  34. Miss Beca says:

    got goosebumps from the photos. i have always thought these two were great together–now if only we can get it together as a country so they can actually get married, already!

  35. meme says:

    Love is beautiful.

  36. sm255 says:

    AWWWWWWWWWWWWW! (I tried to compose myself but…)

    Sorry but this just makes me smile so muc. They look so adorable for each other and I’m really happy for NPH and his fiance!

  37. fabgrrl says:

    I love these two, the interview was sweet. They seem like great guys and I respect them…but I was also having some dirty, dirty thoughts while looking at these photos ;^)

  38. Jayna says:

    They were on that food show this week called the Chew or something. It is on ABC, I think. I don’t like the show, but happened to be home and they were on. I officially adore them as a couple. They were funny. I didn’t know David changed his career (he had always been a foodie, loved to cook) when his mom died and he felt lost and wanted to change direction. They did a Newlyweds type answers thing. They got almost everything right, better than most straight couples. Seeing them together makes me sad that there is still a huge part of our society that consider them sinners and not able to be married. They sound like wonderful parents. It was funny. They said their last argument was arguing over and worrying about one of the babies being sick.

    Rosie O’Donnell was on Piers Morgan. Listening to her talk about what it was like growing up gay and how when she dated a guy one time she loved it only because she felt such approval from society and able to show affection and talk about her life in public. It was a moving interview.

  39. taxi says:

    Do we see pictures of other couples lounging in bed? Neck kissing? Why these two? This is more intimacy than is tasteful to display on a mag cover. I get the point. They love each other. I’m with Kay & Blondey on these two.

    • Jayna says:

      They’re fully clothed. Just because it’s a bed you’re offended. One kiss in all the photos. They were great photos. I’ve seen celebrity couples pose lovingly together all the time.

    • Original Chloe says:

      Well, we actually quite often see covers and photoshoots of naked of half naked non-gay couples in suggestive poses. Much more suggestive. One google check will result in a series of links, I could do it for you if you want.

      All I see in those pictures is love and tenderness and devotion, something we all want. I’m so surprised anyone could call it distasteful or be ‘offended’.

      • Jayna says:

        Many homophobes would who say: Let them live their lives. I don’t care. Just don’t shove it in my face, meaning show affection publically.

      • Flan says:

        Jayne, there are way more suggestive and half-naked pictures that are not gay on celebrity websites.

        They did not shove it in your face, YOU went to a celebrity website.

        Don’t be a hypocrite.

    • Tazina says:

      The photos are no worse than the ones of David and Victoria Beckham. In fact, they’re considerably sweeter. The gays are here to stay and are allowed photoshoots just like other folks.

      I wish the babies were in one of the photos with the two of them.

    • Yip says:

      More of it I say. It kinda, um, turns me on. Ahem.

  40. RobN says:

    Funny, because I love these two and how cute they are with their kids, but I think the pictures seem incredibly awkward and not at all sexy.

  41. Angi says:

    So beautiful..and not going to lie here…but a little hot as well.

  42. lucy2 says:

    The proposal story is so sweet, on the spot where they first met!

  43. aprayerforthewildatheart says:

    They make a beautiful couple…HOT. If going to an American Idol viewing party, just to get close to NPH, isn’t love I don’t know what is! XD

  44. Princess Lizabeth says:


  45. Maritza says:

    My how times have changed…
    I love Neil Patrick Harris, he is adorable, I’m just happy he is happy. I hope they last forever together.

  46. ezra says:

    Sorry, don’t trust Burtka.

  47. Isa says:

    I love the pictures! What a great article.

  48. mln76 says:

    Really love the pics and the article. I wish them the best.

  49. seVen says:

    how incredibly cute! I hope these two last

  50. Lentil says:

    I adore the story of how they moved to NY. Going past their family homes on the way and picking up furniture that would eventually make up their home – it’s such a wonderful thought.

  51. kimberly says:

    They are probably the best pics I’ve seen in an editorial in years!!! They’re seriously the ultimate hot couple by far!!!!!!!! move over aging badly angelina and brad . . .

  52. I Choose Me says:

    Aw, those two look so sweet together. I love seeing people in love. 🙂

  53. crys737 says:

    This is too damn sweet. I dream of a love like that.

  54. francesca says:

    I really don’t care at all.

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  56. Renee says:

    Love the pics! NPH and DB look so happy together. quite sexy!

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  62. Nadine says:

    First of all i love these guys together…they are beautiful pictures and they seem totally in love.They are certainly not disgusting love comes in all shapes and sizes! And all these people saying they don’t trust David as if they have only being going out with each other for a month. They’ve been together for 8 and a half years!!!

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