Tom Hardy’s fiancée won’t marry him: “She’s a difficult woman to pin down”

Back in 2011, Tom Hardy and his fiancée Charlotte Riley seemed to call off their engagement. The breakup came at an odd time for Hardy. He was riding high after the success of Inception, he was getting cast in films all over the place, and he was probably fending off eager girls everywhere he went. One of those eager girls was Lindsay Lohan, of course. She allegedly told friends (and tabloids) that Tom was her “sober mentor” AND that he came to visit her in rehab AND that they were boning. Shortly after the Cracken crashed the party, Tom and Charlotte’s engagement was called off.

Skip ahead to January of this year, and Charlotte and Tom seemed like they were back “on” after less than a year apart. Charlotte was Tom’s date at one of the premieres for This Means War, but since that photo-op, I haven’t seen them together. When Tom was out and about last week at The Prince’s Trust Awards, Charlotte was not with him. But she was on his mind! The Telegraph’s gossip guy, Mandrake, got Tom to talk about their wedding plans:

Tom Hardy’s engagement to the actress Charlotte Riley could prove a long one. The public school-educated star of This Means War claims that Riley, 30, is keeping him on tenterhooks.

“You’d have to ask Charlotte when we’re getting married,” Hardy, 34, tells Mandrake at the Prince’s Trust Celebrate Success Awards, at the Odeon Leicester Square in London. “She’s a difficult woman to pin down, as she’s always so busy with work.”

The couple met while they were playing Cathy and Heathcliff in an ITV adaptation of Wuthering Heights in 2009.

[From The Telegraph]

Sigh… can you imagine being that position? The position of Tom Hardy trying to “pin you down”? That sounds like the beginning of some fan fiction I will contemplate writing a bit later on. So, Tom’s fiancée isn’t in a rush to lock it down. Maybe she has second thoughts? Maybe the sex is so amazing, she can’t think past the dong? I don’t know.

Incidentally, I was reading this interview that Tom did with The National UK – you can read the full thing here. He’s talking about his wild past and all that, but here’s the interesting part, where he discusses his past relationships: “I was a serial boyfriend… I’ve never been on my own. I’m an only child and I can’t live without company, but going out with me and being my partner is a struggle because I demand a lot of attention and I’m quite needy… I’ll do anything I have to do to clean up my act and be a better father and a better husband and boyfriend. That sounds really worthy, doesn’t it? But I have to do it.” Um… I know I should be reading the blaring “OMG STOP!!!” alarm that his words really mean, but all I can think about is how hot it would be to have Tom Hardy demanding my attention. Seriously, though – the whole thing about not being able to be alone, being needy – that’s his pickup line. If a guy said that to me in a bar, I would be more likely to go home with him.

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  1. Katie says:

    Poor, sad Tom Hardy. So hot but a little messed up. Still, so hot.

  2. Malika says:

    Kaiser, I want to read your fanfiction. All of them. XD

  3. bo says:

    If he said that to me, I would be running for the hills. Major turn off. I can’t stand guys who can’t give you some space and be able to stand up on his own. Grow some balls!!! Btw, if this quote came from a woman, it would reflect s person who lacks self worth and confidence. maybe this is the reason why his fiancée is hard to be “pinned down.”

    • Iggles says:

      I agree! Complete turn off. I like to be independent and don’t like it when someone loses themselves in a relationship. Sounds like he doesn’t quite understand who he is as an individual because he’s always been part of a couple! I know quite a few girls like that and I don’t find it enviable. I’m the queen introspection so I wouldn’t like being with someone who sense of self is lacking and mailable.

      However, I will say this isn’t the first Tom Hardy quote that turned me off. There was a previous interview where he talked about having a lot of feminine energy. Instant lady-boner killer! Every woman and man has a mix of both masculine and feminine energy (like yin and yang) BUT to mea guys who are too feminine are a turn off!!

      • Dinah Cancer says:

        “If a guy said that to me in a bar, I would be more likely to go home with him”

        Are you kidding me?! I’d be horrified. Needy men are manipulative, selfish, and sometimes even mentally abusive.

        Yeah, I completely agree with you Iggles. Needy men (and women) will never be satisfied. They get into relationships because they have some sort of self deficit. They use their boyfriend or girlfriend to fill a hole in themselves. But because human beings weren’t meant to provide that guys like Tom Hardy end up either driving women away (because they suck them dry with their neediness) or throwing them away because of their insatiable and selfish nature. Sad to say but Tom Hardy has a lot of issues. It seems that girls overlook them because he’s a celebrity and because he’s what they consider attractive (although I beg to differ).

        He has an expiration date on the women he dates. He wasn’t lying when he called himself a “serial boyfriend”. Give it five years. And, then we’ll see if they last. Not to mention, he cheated on his former girlfriend with Charlotte. Most of the couples I know who founded their relationship on infidelity didn’t last. They have a lot going against them.

        I suspect she’s not marrying him for a very good reason. LOL, look at her avoiding commitment. Sounds like someone is the man in this relationship.

      • Devyn says:

        LOL the “feminine energy” comment was a complete turnoff for me too. Still, he’s got an incredible (and very sexy) screen presence imo.

  4. kate says:

    he sounds like jennifer love hewitt

  5. Lis says:

    “Maybe she has second thoughts? Maybe the sex is so amazing, she can’t think past the dong?”

    Maybe she *is* really busy and they can’t find the time. Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar.

    That said, I’m not sure it’s the best idea to marry someone before they’ve sorted their issues out.

    He is hawt, but I couldn’t live with someone who needed that kind of attention. If you wanted children, he might be like an extra one.

    “If a guy said that to me in a bar, I would be more likely to go home with him.”

    If he said something like that to me, I’d run. I wouldn’t even be polite about it.

  6. Laurabb says:

    I know! Ithought that was the weirdest part of the whole story!

    • Rosmarina says:

      That press clip is from an English paper. Public school in the UK is the US equivalent of a very expensive, prestigious private school. English papers can’t seem to help mentioning markers of status like that. They do the same with Dominic West and the p.m. David Cameron, who knew each other at Eton.

    • GoodCapon says:

      The British tabloids are always like that. But it only happens when the celebrity is question goes to a fee-paying school (private or public) if he or she went to a state school, they wouldn’t print that particular info.

  7. Naye in VA says:

    Im a giver lol. I can give all that attention and then some lol

  8. Sam says:

    I’ve never understood the concept of marriage but I would marry THAT.

  9. really says:

    She sounds smart, waiting a while to make sure that he’s evolved and matured into a reliable and trusworthy person.

    • Carolyn says:

      or she’s playing the game wrong and Tom gets tired of waiting and moves on to someone else and gets married very quickly. Watch this space.

    • Kat says:

      Charlotte will wait until Tom to be more famous in Hollywood for marrying him, so she will try to piggyback on his fame.
      She don’t love him so much now he’s not that famous, this is why they won’t married yet.

  10. heyhey says:

    needy people are the worse,dont care how hot he looks.

    a man confirming he is needy is a turnoff yuck

  11. backwards says:

    He was so hot in RocknRolla.

    ….but I still would ya know what I mean?

  12. merski says:

    I don’t see this man’s appeal…. o_0

    • Darlene says:

      I don’t either. Even clean-shaven, he’s kind of gross. :/

    • bluhare says:

      I didn’t know who he was when I watched Wuthering Heights, and couldn’t decide if he was hot or not, but I couldn’t stop watching him. That’s the appeal he’s got for me.

  13. DavidBowie says:

    The mountain man look does nothing for me.

  14. lisa says:

    I just don’t see it or get it with him.

    but I applaud the people that do. You have a visual gift I’m missing.

  15. MitzieMartin says:

    I was a big fan until I watched him on the Jonathan Ross show in the UK where he seemed an uber twat, off his face, ragey, gone right off him.

    • Zoe says:

      He’s british and it was meant to be humorous. Jonathan Ross commented Hardy was joking and it was a stunt on his part. He couldn’t believe the media & comments believing the fake angry moment. Apparently Tom’s a good actor because people actually thought he was upset.

  16. Gaia132 says:

    What a needy mess..

  17. Jayna says:

    Howard Stern always says the same things. He is needy and hates being alone, but Beth loves that about him she says. They are best friends. She still does a lot on her own and has her own career and passion for animal rescue causes, but he hates for her to travel for extended periods and is miserable the whole time she’s gone.

  18. Onyx XV says:

    I always thought he was gay. Maybe she does, too.

  19. Leikyn says:

    Blech. Celebs need to ditch the Grizzly Adams beards. Maybe she’ll marry him when he shaves.

  20. NerdMomma says:

    Ick, maybe she’s waiting for him to wash his hair and shave. He’s gross to me.

  21. Amy says:

    They were Cathy and Heathcliff in a Masterpiece Classic version of Wuthering Heights a few years ago. It was available on Netflix instant when I watched it. That was the first I ever heard of him and I absolutely swooned.

  22. Beatriz says:

    sigh….I love him.

  23. Jenna says:

    I like him, but gosh that grizzly thing he has growing on his face is gross!

  24. nina says:

    Tom is a hot mess, but there’s something endearing how honest he is about himself. He never tries to bs who he is, and you gotta respect that.

  25. Moi says:

    Ya I’m betting that his girlfriend claims she’s busier than she really is. “Ya ya I’ve got this really important thing…”. He’s sexy as hell, but trust me, needy men are no fun.

  26. WOM says:

    Substance abuse issues, emotionally demanding AND physically unappealing. Run, Charlotte, RUN!

  27. Zoe says:

    Good for Charlotte! Bet a lot of other actresses would have married the moment he proposed. It’s OK to admit you’re a needy person and need people. It’s not Ok to obsess over someone or pretend you’re not needy when you’re needy. He’s always very open & honest in his interviews. That’s rare in Hollywood. Its attractive when people realize their weaknesses versus their strengths.

  28. neviot says:

    Tom’s neediness and codependency isn’t attractive to me, but his honesty and self-awareness certainly is. He possesses an extraordinary grace that allows him to learn from not just the mistakes of his own past but also from the lives of those around him, and he’s grown markedly more mature and self-collected in the past five years. Good for him and Charlotte, really, for not rushing into marriage. Theirs is a partnership that ought to burn slow and long.

  29. Kat says:

    Charlotte Riley is just an attention whore. She’s with Tom only for him make her famous, just look at the pictures of them in premieres of his movies, she is always posing for the paparazzi in an exaggerated way, she almost pushes Tom just to appear in the pics, she is so fake!

    Tom’s ex-girlfriend Rachael Speed (mother of his son Louis) is so much beautiful and natural than this “thing” that he’s with now.

  30. erika says:

    any woman who would not want to marry him asap has lost her mind!

  31. Sarah Gonzalez says:

    I would like to see him as Christian Grey from 50 shades of grey! I would go see it in a heart beat..

  32. Anonymous says:

    Come here Tom my baby. I’ll give you all the love and attention you need x

  33. MI5 says:

    I love this guy and who cares….This is the real Tom!

  34. Lisa Brown says:

    It’s such a pitty the writers of Celebitchy didn’t do their homework very well; because this ‘splitting up’ never happened! It was a false rumor,just because Tom didn’t show up at the Bafta’s. In fact he seemed to be on a holliday with Charlotte and Louis because he had to leave soon for 7 weeks for filming Lawless).

  35. Ashley says:

    First of all she looks like a man! I would marry him in a heartbeat! Look at him! Listen yo his voice! YUMMMMM!

  36. Matt says:

    Everyone in UK movie/theatre world knows that Tom never goes anywhere without his mum. He is a sweetie, but a major mummy boy. Maybe thats why Charlotte doesnt wanna marry him

  37. Iggles says:

    Eww. Wow, this guy has a number of issues! He’s definitely taken residence in the “not hot” pile..