Kelly Clarkson: ‘Being single doesn’t mean you’re gay, but I’m never insulted by it’

I’ve admired Kelly Clarkson’s approach to the press for some time. I mean I’m not a huge fan of her music other than enjoying it when it’s playing at the gym, but I like her. Kelly has faced criticism over gaining weight, and she never played the victim when the press covered it, nor did she crow about how content she was, like some other celebrities who will remain unnamed. When Kelly lost weight earlier this year, she was equally nonchalant about it and she didn’t get preachy or anything. She just remained very matter-of-fact and low key about the whole thing. So I shouldn’t be surprised that this is the same way she deals with longstanding rumors that’s she’s gay. In a new interview with Cosmopolitan, Kelly reveals that she’s not insulted when women hit on her and finds it flattering, but that she’s straight. I really like how she handles the question.

On people assuming she’s gay
“People think, ‘Oh, she’s been single for too long.’ That’s kind of an insult to the gay community. Being single doesn’t mean you’re gay. But I’m never insulted by it, obviously.”

On getting hit on
“I mean, I get hit on by the hottest girls ever. Oh, my god, if I were a lesbian, I would be so in luck. But it’s not just my thing. I’ve always battled for the boys’ team.”

“But usually the guys who hit on me are tools. It’s the ones that don’t hit on you that make you like ‘Why didn’t you ask me out?’ It’s like American Idol auditions: The guys who are the most confident are the horrible ones, and the ones who are good have no confidence at all.”

On her weight loss
“I lost 18 pounds. And I think that happens when you fall in love or date someone. If I’m going to be messing around, I gotta look good.”

“There’s not a fad diet. I was working with a trainer. You’d be amazed the amount of weight you can drop by halving your portions. I know it sounds crazy, but do it for two weeks and watch what happens.’ I just cut back my portions, I stopped eating late at night, and I work out a little more than I used to, and I literally dropped 18 pounds in a month. I think it happens when you get really busy. But when I’m on my off-time – girl, those 18 might come back.”

On extreme diets and exercise
“I’m not willing to do that. I’m willing to work a little bit because I want to be a healthy individual – which I always have been. I’ve put on weight, but that’s just what I’m happy with at that moment.”

“Brandon and I both have bikes on the back of the bus, and we both love the outdoors. Once your lifestyle becomes more active, obviously you drop weight.”

[From Cosmopolitan via Radar Online]

Last month Kelly got engaged to her boyfriend of about a year, Brandon Blackstock, and Radar reminds us that she was single for almost six years before she hooked up with Brandon! That’s a long time to wait for the right guy, but it’s obviously paid off for her. I love how she lost weight so sensibly and how she’s swearing off fad diets. She didn’t get some massive contract to lose weight, either, and she could have easily scored one. She’s a class act.

Kelly is shown on London on 12-6-12. Credit: Optic Photos,

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  1. MsAubra says:

    VERY true. Now somone tell my family! LMAO

    • Jane says:

      It is so easy slap a label on someone just because they don’t do what you think they should do.

      People just have to make assumptions, whether it is being straight or gay, they just want to know why someone would be happy in their own skin and not need to be linking up all the time.

      I feel sorry for women who don’t want to have children, people who are just not good at relationships and are fine being single and those who aren’t desperate and take their time to find a partner.

      Others just have to judge and start labeling or whatever. Those are usually the same people who can’t stand to be alone and are scared to live their lives without a partner, even if that partner sucks. A lot of older people are that way. They grew up in an era where roles were clearly defined and if anyone deviated from that role, then there was something wrong with them.

    • Justyna says:

      And mine. I didn’t met the right person yet, but I’m completely ok with that. I’m young and I don’t want to settle for the first douche I met like so many women I know. The only time I start to feel bad about being single is when my extended family comes over and they start to pity me like I need that, playing matchmakers or asking if I’m a lesbian. Having someone would be easier because they would just leave me alone. Their stupid remarks are the only reason being single sucks. Other than that I don’t care.

  2. Post-It's says:

    Can someone please send this quote to my grandmother?

    • cmc says:

      LOL! CC:my mom on that. No, mom, I didn’t break up with my terrible ex because I’m gay. Sometimes things just don’t work out. And then you wait for someone good.

      • MsAubra says:

        What bugs me about it isn’t so much that they think that, but the around about way my grandfather goes in trying to see if I am, it bugs, so knowing this, I let them think that. It’s amusing to me now! They BETTER not have a problem with the man I may get married to then!

      • charmnsass says:

        Conversation I had with my aunt today while getting my lashes done at my cousin’s salon:
        My Aunt: Soooo are you finally dating a guy?
        Me: No, I’m not. I’m up for a big promotion, so most nights I’m at the office pretty late. Plus, I’m planning a trip overseas next month that I’m really looking forward to… Anyhow, dating is just not a priority right now; I’ve got a lot of great things on my plate. I’m happy, auntie.
        My Aunt: Soooo (insert awkwardly long pause), are you dating…..girls then?
        Me: *forehead slap

    • Chicagurl17 says:

      After my divorce, my dad asked me once on speaker phone in an office full of his co-workers, “Are you gay, is that why your marriage didn’t work? I mean, you have a lot of girlfriends.” To which I replied, “Are you seriously asking me this on speaker phone?” When he replied, “yah, why does it matter?” I said, “I guess it doesn’t, but no, no I’m not gay dad. I like c*ck. Love c*ck. Big c*ck. Big c*ock attached to good guys.” The room cracked up and he hung up on me. Never asked again.

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      • Original N says:

        I hate that you were asked that in the way it was asked as it clearly bothered you, but I have a friend who hides his lifestyle from his family because his parents wouldn’t be open minded and accepting enough to ask it the way your dad did…so, when I read your response, I immediately thought “well, bless him, for being so open…wish more people were like that for their children.”

  3. brin says:

    I love her!

    • EmmaStoneWannabe says:

      IKR – she’s the real deal. Very cool girl.

    • TQB says:

      Me too. She seems like she would be the greatest gal pal ever. Other than it would be super embarrassing to do karaoke with her.

    • Original N says:

      I love her practicality towards most issues (food, people, etc.) … but I do not love her fake blonde hair. It looks terrible!

  4. andy says:

    “Being single doesn’t mean you’re gay.”


    People constantly use this as “proof” someone is gay. Really?


    • fabgrrl says:

      It’s the 21st century. “Proof” of being gay is having a same-sex partner. I can’t believe people still look for “evidence” It’s okay to be Takai. And it’s okay to be single.

    • Schnauzers!!! says:

      I agree. My husbands mother used to complain to her other DIL that she thought my husband was gay because he never brought anyone home or outwardly told them he was looking for a woman. I’m sure it was something like this: OMG! He’s 29 and not married! Oh no he’s one of “the gays”!!! AAAHHHH!!!
      Then he brought me home and I was bombarded with VERY personal questions about about his penis…and THEN I knew why nobody else was lucky enough to be brought home…should have told me something. 😉 LOL
      My inlaws are a dramatic bunch…(we don’t live ANYWHERE near them…)

    • Miss M says:

      So true.

      This is the longest I’ve been single and the new housemates that I have want to bring up the drama and petty comments.

      Kelly is a classy young lady!!!!

  5. TheOriginalKitten says:

    Always really liked Kelly.

    She’s someone who seems to love singing (and she’s amazingly talented) but not fame, which I find really refreshing. She’s not like K-stew, bitching about being famous nor is she like a KK, who lives and breathes for any sort of attention. She just seems like a real person.

    I can imagine so many other celebs handling this question poorly. She did a great job.

  6. sarah says:

    I love her. Not a huge fan of her music but just as a person, she’s awesome. She just seems so real and so honest. Love it.

    • psykins says:

      I love love loved her during American Idol (I mean…I was 11 or 12, of course I did) and ate up her first 2 albums. But honestly…I REALLY hate a lot of her newer songs. Just really shitty lyrics (What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger? My life would suck without you? So cliched), which is weird because they’re not even songs she’s written. In fact, most of the songs wikipedia says she’s written ( are some of my faves! Why does she pick other people’s crappy tunes to record 🙁

  7. Chatcat says:

    It’s refreshing to see Kelly and JLaw type of ladies getting media attention and celebrity coverage. They are smart, talented, funny, honest and beautiful both inside (the important part) and outside. It really makes many of the “other’s” trashy and void life’s stand out as just that…trashy and void.

    • Lucija says:

      JLaw is nowhere near as nonchalant about her weight.

      • valleymiss says:

        Agreed! I want to like Jlaw 100%, but she talks *way* too much about her weight, and how she doesn’t care about weight. Lol! Methinks the lady doth protest too much. There’s nothing wrong with caring about weight. Jeez, own it. Gwen Stefani sure does.

      • Chatcat says:

        I agree too. No female should have to justify her weight or lack thereof. If JLaw mentions it a wee bit too much it’s because she is probably asked it more then she offer’s up any blanket comments she may make.

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    • Chicagurl17 says:


  8. Sweet Dee says:

    I love Kelly’s attitude and outlook in general, and I like how she responded to that question. I don’t have her albums but I, too, have a few KC songs on my running mix and they are great for that.

    What I don’t love is this hair color on her. I wish she would go back to brunette.

  9. lucy2 says:

    I like her so much. She’s down to earth and real, and has such a great attitude towards it all.

  10. Gine says:

    Yeah, as someone who’s been single for a long time, I get this too, and it’s so dumb. It usually comes from older people who still think being gay is something scandalous, and who have no idea how dismal the dating pool is out there now. Or from serial monogamist friends who simply can’t comprehend being single for one second of their lives.

    • Macey says:

      Ditto to this.
      It really gets on my nerves at times b/c a lot of ppl think you cant possibly be happy unless you’re with someone. I’m single more times than not just b/c I don’t get that ‘chemistry/click’ thing with many men. Id rather be by myself than with someone that I really don’t feel anything for. I have a few gfs that go from guy to guy and have constant drama that usually ends in disaster or heartache. no thanks. I’m just not a dater, never have been. the few relationships Ive had I knew almost instantly that I was going to be with them but sadly those are few and far between any more.I live in a small town and most guys my age have already been married/divorced 3-4 times with a bunch of kids to different women. There’s nothing wrong with having a past but I’m just not into dealing with all that.

      • Gine says:

        I’m exactly the same (even living in a small town)! And I love how the people who get on my case most about being single are always the ones in the worst relationships. It’s like if everyone is as miserable as they are, they can pretend they haven’t made terrible decisions.

      • Jayna says:

        Being in a bad relationship or with someone you aren’t attracted to is the loneliest place in the world to be. I would far rather be alone than to feel so alone in a relationship. Some people just can’t be alone, though.

      • Miss M says:

        @Jayna: Exactly!!!!!!

        I don’t find weird people who are waiting/looking for the right person. I find weird people who cannot be alone, ever…

      • Spaz says:

        Seriously. I’d rather be single and happy with me than be with someone and miserable. I’m so glad there are other very cool, very SMART chicks like me. I’ve been single for a decade and thankful I’m in a good relationship with me than in a terrible marriage. Even worse if I had kids in said marriage. And I married the dickheads I USED to date. I would’ve been. Thank god for unanswered prayers. 🙂

    • Trek Girl says:

      Regarding the “dating pool” comment: the dating pool likely wasn’t that different in previous years or decades.

  11. Summer says:

    She never does anything wrong. I have so much respect for her.

  12. Asiyah says:

    I love her! She seems like such a goodhearted person and I wish her nothing but the best.

  13. RobN says:

    When I brought my future husband home, half my family said “Really? We thought you were gay and just hadn’t come out.”

    Apparently not running your entire life as if it’s a mad dash to the wedding finish line is enough for lots of people to assume you’re gay.

    • MsAubra says:

      Which is why we’re eloping! LMAO

      • RobN says:

        We ended up eloping, too! Three weeks of listening to my mother making plans to invite my cousin’s friend’s mother’s next door neighbor, and we took off for Vegas. Mom is still pissed off.

      • LittleDeadGirl says:

        I may end up doing the same and my mother also won’t forgive me but I HATE big weddings. I just want something small and no that doesn’t mean inviting 400 closest people I don’t know, never see, and don’t like. I mean like 30 or 40 people …

      • H26 says:

        Hubs and I got married at the Court House, to make it up to my parents us not having a big wedding, my parents were our witnesses. We spent the money on an awesome Honeymoon to Cancun and my parents threw a “congrats you married” party when we got back. Best decision ever!

      • MorticiansDoItDeader says:

        @robN, my mom tried to invite HER manicurist to our wedding! 😳I put the kibosh on that one

  14. Belle says:

    Love, love, love Kelly and genuinely wish her the very best!

    I will admit to watching two *cough* seasons of American Idol… the first season, which Kelly won… and 2008, which David Cook won, who I also love, love, love! 😉

  15. MsAubra says:

    Off topic, we need a support group! LMAO

  16. Rachel says:

    I saw that coat at Ann Taylor LOFT the other day. I immediately gravitated to the sparkles, but I just didn’t think it would be that comfortable.

    I waited for over 4 years for the right guy to come along. No one thought I was gay, but my brother did complain that I wasn’t giving guys a fair chance. But I wasn’t going to settle & I wasn’t going to string some guy along when I knew he wasn’t the one.

  17. Diana says:

    I asbolutely adore her. She’s just so down to earth and I also love her music; she’s crazy talented.

  18. Unbeweavable says:

    Oh I just love Kelly. So does my husband. He thinks she’s the most “real” singer and thinks she’s super sexy. That doesn’t hurt because we have similar body types. Ha!

    My grandmother thought that since I had never dated in high school and always hung out with one girl friend, that we were secretly lesbians. I just wasn’t a skank like my older sister. And let’s be honest, most high school boys are idiots.. She eventually realized I was straight when I started dating my now husband.

  19. Celt Lady says:

    KC proves that even CB posters will be nice when they comment about a down to earth, nice, normal celeb. If KC was a famewhoring, limelight seeking witch, then the claws would have come out about her weight, her appearance, clothes, whatever. She is not perfect, doesn’t pretend to be, and people love her.

  20. LittleDeadGirl says:

    Of course it does. Whenever I become single I start becoming attracted to women and then I have to take a second and jump on the first man I can to keep the gay away. Be vigilante ladies and gents. Don’t get gay! Ha. I did find her quote very amusing and so true. Loved the other CB posts as well … glad I’m not the only one.

  21. Jayna says:

    She’s so talented and I love how she will do some great covers in her shows.

  22. Jaxx says:

    I’ve always loved her. Her voice is phenomenal, even if you don’t like the song, you can’t doubt the quality of the voice singing it.

    I love how she just took the gay rumors in stride. Her actions did more to deny a stigma than anything could. Call me gay? So what, if I was it’s nothing to be ashamed of. All in a day.

    So glad she has found someone to love her as she deserves. Here’s hoping it lasts long and brings her joy.

    Agree that the hair color is not flattering, but I love her anyway.

  23. Lauli says:

    I absolutely love her and she’s right. You can’t generalize: in some cases being single is not a sign of being gay, it’s just waiting for someone you like, in others yes.

  24. eileen says:

    She’s the only American Idol I’ve ever watched and I LOVE her! She seems like the real deal-humility, funny, so apprecitaive of her success. It’s been 10 years -I’d say and she hasn’t changed!

  25. lilred1 says:

    I think her husband is related to Reba’s husband Narvell his last name is Blackstock also maybe a brother or something.

  26. Jennifer12 says:

    So, basically, if she’s cool with waiting for the right guy and focusing on building her career, that means she is gay? So glad that she doesn’t consider that an insult, but seriously? We tell women to be independent and then we question their lives when they don’t follow a certain path, like chasing guys down and not caring who a boyfriend is as long as she has a boyfriend (cough JLo cough)?

  27. tmbg says:

    I didn’t get that so much, although my mom might have thought it before I met my now-husband, but a woman at work gave me constant grief over my choice to wear dress pants.

    I prefer the Marlene Dietrich look. I don’t dress in a butch way, but just like black pants with a nice shoe and blazer with a scarf or whatever. Anyway, she would ask me constantly, “Are you trying to be like Ellen? Are you Ellen?” (This was in ’97 when Ellen had come out/was coming out.)

    It was incredibly bothersome because I was young and she was in her 40s, so I had no clue how to respond. All I remember was wondering what the hell was her problem with my pants! She wasn’t even a supervisor and they were perfectly good dress pants.

    Anyway, I agree – Kelly has always seemed like an approachable celebrity. I remember when she met Madonna. It was the most humble reaction I’d ever seen a celeb have.

  28. C Money says:

    Her talking about liking men is as convincing as when Michael Jackson “dated” Brooke Shields or Lisa Marie Presley…

  29. Jane says:

    Could someone forward this to my family? They like to assume that I’m a lesbian just because I never talk about my relationships, when it doesn’t mean anything, I’ve always liked to keep relationships and family time separate.

  30. Sarah says:

    6 years? I’ve been waiting 29 years for a guy!

  31. Kel says:

    She has such a good head on her shoulders and is ridiculously cute to boot – whether she’s 18 lbs heavier or 18 lbs lighter. Keep it up, Kelly!