When I covered Jason Collins’ dramatic and moving “coming out” story several months ago, several commenters noted that Jason had lived a “hetero” lifestyle for years, and he had even been engaged to a woman at one point. Well, now that some time has passed, Jason’s ex-fiancée Carolyn Moos has written an essay about what exactly went down between her and the NBA’s first openly gay player. As it turns out, it was much more complicated than I previously believed. They met at Stanford when they were just kids, and they dated for seven years throughout their 20s. He proposed to her, she was in the midst of planning their wedding and that’s when he pulled the plug, but at no point did he tell her he was and is gay… until the day before the Sports Illustrated cover story came out. I’m covering this story mainly because Carolyn wrote it herself and I find it interesting that she’s putting herself out there and telling her story. And because it’s interesting gossip – she’s still very hurt on a lot of different levels. You can read the full piece here and here are some highlights:
“A month before I was set to marry the man I loved, he called off the wedding. I had no idea why. He and I had been together for eight years. We had planned to have children, build a family. Nearly four years later, I got my answer. My former fiancé, Jason Collins, a pro basketball player with the Washington Wizards, announced last spring in Sports Illustrated that he is gay. Jason told me he’s gay over the phone on a Monday morning in April, the same day the magazine hit newsstands. However, he didn’t mention the article – that came as a surprise when I heard about it from a friend.”
After he proposed…
I remember feeling overwhelmed with joy and also thinking: finally. I was almost 30. In the air on the way home, I saw my future unfolding before me. I pictured our family: intelligent, athletic, tall, dynamic. I could hardly wait to get off the plane to start making plans for the wedding. Soon after, Jason and I moved in together in L.A. We cooked at home and enjoyed having barbecues. We discussed our future plans, agreeing that we both wanted children. I felt grounded in the knowledge that he wanted kids. Family is very important to me.A year later, he canceled the wedding, throwing me into a tailspin. Up to that point, everything I’d ever wanted, I had achieved through hard work and sheer determination. When I couldn’t get answers from Jason on what had gone wrong, I questioned myself and what I could have done better or differently. I should have been questioning him, but I didn’t think to do so at all. In the years that followed, I dated other men, I built up my business, I had a full life. But when it came to Jason, deep sadness and confusion remained.
The phone call this April ended the mystery. He left a message on a Sunday, saying, “I have something important to talk about—please call me back.” I was working and called the next morning. He uttered an eerily familiar phrase: “You may want to sit down.” Then he said, “Carolyn, I’m gay.” I was stunned. I managed to say, after a silent moment and then a deep breath, “I had no idea. I’m sure a huge weight is off your shoulders.” During all the years I had known him, I never would have guessed that he would come out as gay.
We talked again briefly that night. He answered a few questions, but there was much left to discuss and he said he had to go. As I tell this story, it has been several weeks since he told me his news and he has made no further time to talk, despite saying he would do so. I am sad that the media seems to be a higher priority. I hope this changes in the coming weeks, as I value open dialogue more than anything.
I can’t imagine what it’s like to go through all the stages he has gone through, all the deep layers. I don’t know what it’s like to wear a mask for 34 years. It’s sad that society puts that kind of pressure on a person. I also understand the macho stereotypes men face in the NBA. I ran up against a reverse stereotype in the WNBA: People said I was too “feminine” to be a pro player. I quickly proved them wrong, showing that my nail polish and dresses had nothing to do with my ability to compete on the court.
I empathize with Jason and support him. But at the same time, I remain deeply hurt by him. I wish he could have been honest with me years ago. I feel like there are two Jasons now—the man I fell in love with and the man I’m trying so hard to understand. He’s being hailed as a pioneer, but I believe true heroism is a result of being honest with yourself and with those you love.
Today, I am 35 years old and dating. I have a great life. I train pro athletes and high school kids, and I work at athletic camps with at-risk children. I’m writing a book that I hope will help other women. I froze my eggs last week as a backup plan. It’s an empowering option, something I had been planning to do for some time. I realized recently that maybe I had put it off because there was some seed of hope that Jason might come back to me. It’s hard to admit that. But I face up to issues—I run toward them one hundred miles an hour.
What I have learned is that my mistake was in thinking, “What did I do wrong?” I did nothing wrong. I was true to myself. I understand now that you can never truly know what’s going on in the mind of another person, no matter how well you think you know them. But you do know yourself. Be your own cheerleader. Trust in yourself.
Is it nit-picky to point out at that at no point in this essay does she mention their sex life? I know, it’s nitpicky and it’s “blamey” too. This is seriously not her fault, and I’ll really hate it if all of the comments are along the lines of “she should have known!” It’s pretty obvious from reading Carolyn’s essay and from reading Jason’s SI essay that he was deep, deep in the closet and that he spent a lot of time worrying about and maintaining his “heteronormative” image. I don’t doubt that Jason cared deeply for Carolyn, and he probably loved her too. I imagine it was a “if I can’t make it work with this girl that I adore, then I guess I really am gay” situation. Still, I want to know if there were any clues in their sex life (or lack thereof?).
Photos courtesy of Richard Foulser/Cosmopolitan.
I don’t know if you know if someone is lying to you and to themselves. This is not the first of these kinds of stories. There are people that are married for years and years. Having children/grandchildren then they come out. Regarding sex in relationships.. well reading comments here and on other sites how women go all frantic over some men.. it’s easy to assume that there is not a lot of sex happening in many relationships. People kind of accept it and just carry on. I hear stories of couples going months without it. They don’t tell friends/family. They just keep it to themselves. So the sex life is not an indication.
Good point- the frequency might not have been as big a clue as one might think. They both had real feelings & pain and he should have been honest with her. Yes, I know, easier said than done. HOWEVER, stories like this one should be front & center in the gay issues debate. A society that encourages people to be closeted helps NO ONE. Dysfunctional communication because society is so focused on “appearances” and “normal” helps NO ONE either. While I feel bad for her, the “closure” thing is always confusing to me- just MOVE ON. It seems she kind of did, so maybe she keeps talking about still feeling so hurt so she could have a “hook” for her article. It’s not about gay/straight, right/wrong- if he/she doesn’t stick around they weren’t “yours” to begin with- the relationship didn’t work- let it go. I guess she finally got her closure? Hmmmm
I know regarding the “closure”. I don’t get that. I mean relationships end, marriages end, people get left daily in this world. I’ve had it happen to me. and Yes you go through it. But I reached the conclusion and glad I did that it is best to just let go and move on. I don’t need to grieve the loss for years; or need to confront. Sometimes the answer is simple; You are not what they wanted.
I seriously had forgotten this story. I saw her face and was wondering who she was and what actor she was talking about. The public forgets. and it forgets quickly if the party(ies) don’t talk about it. I hope she lets this be the end. Life is short so find the person that WANTS you and forget the one that didn’t.
Yup- time is the only thing you can never get back- why waste it on someone who doesn’t want you and/or makes you sad? Society’s obsession of the “must get married & have kids” to be “accepted” seems to be a problem for both of them, too. If she wanted to get married/have kids so much, almost 10 years is a lot of “waiting” to do for any guy, especially if you have the personality that will jump to “I wasted my youth” if it doesn’t “work”. Everybody’s different, but try to know yourself well enough whether being in love is enough and don’t let “promises” of others make you lose sight of what you REALLY want. The Daily Show did a really funny bit on Disney princesses several weeks ago- Jon S was calling them out on the Merida makeover & how some princesses are not great role models bc they are “literally lying in a coma, waiting for a man to give you life”! The video is at the link & that part is @3 minutes in…
http://blogs.indiewire.com/womenandhollywood/john-stewart-takes-on-the-merida-makeover-the-princess-and-the-pr
I understand her and feel sorry for her for having gone through all of that. It’s not fair to her and he could have handled it much better.
Who runs off to the media before telling your loved ones? He should have prepared her for it.
I don’t see him as a hero at all.
Quite frankly, he’s a jerk and his sexuality doesn’t protect him from being a jerk.
I completely agree. This story is just like my girl friend’s story. My girl friend, who is smart and strikingly beautiful, met who she thought was her soul mate in college and after a 6 year monogamous relationship she found out he was gay. This creep literally stole 6 of her best years and I am so sick and tired of people building up this extreme a**hole as some kind of hero!!!
This almost destroyed her…..for some reason the media forgets to tell the other side of the story!!!!
um wasn’t she his EX? so what did he owe her then?
I agree. When his story first came out, I and a lot of other people were so proud and happy for him. I’m deeply sympathetic towards this woman, because her only crime was she fell in love with a man, who was in such denial of who he was. I have and will always be pro equality, what I can’t support is treating someone who loved you, poorly. He should had at least sat her down and told her his truth. And however she reacted was her right, and he should respect her feelings.
I’m happy for him, he’s living a truthful life. But he should apologize for the pain and time wasted that this woman had to endure.
Agreed. I sympathize that Jason felt he needed to stay in the closet all those years, but he never should’ve strung Carolyn along like that, lying to her for almost a decade. And then dumping her without any sort of explanation!
That’s a thoroughly sh*tty way to treat someone he claimed to love.
I completely agree that when you are with someone for a long time and you love each other (even if not romantically/sexually), the decent thing to do is to be open and explain and apologize, ESPECIALLY if you are going to open the whole thing up to public scrutiny since there can be a lot of shame for the person left behind.
What I think a lot of people are forgetting or don’t realize is that not all of us know we are gay our whole lives. I didn’t come out to myself until I was about 21. I struggled with figuring it out for a while, but I certainly didn’t spend my whole life KNOWING I was gay. I thought maybe I hadn’t found the right guy, or that love would develop over time with someone who I otherwise adored. When the light bulb went off, it was obvious. But until that moment, I could have easily strung someone along without realizing it. Granted, 21 is still fairly young, but from what Jason wrote in his piece, it sounded to me like he had a similar experience at a somewhat later age. Who knows if he even realized or accepted that he was gay when he broke off the engagement. Maybe all he knew was that he didn’t love her the way she deserved to be loved and he wasn’t able to express or accept why.
I think he could have and probably should have handled it better when the story was about to come out, but it’s pretty upsetting to see so many people blaming him as if it was malicious. The issue is with society forcing people to deny who they are for so long and so deeply that they hurt themselves AND their loved ones.
i don’t think he was stringing her along at all. he more than likely didn’t understand or admit it to himself. coming out isn’t just about telling other people you’re gay, it’s about self acceptance too. denial is a powerful thing. obviously i feel sorry for this woman, it’s painful when serious relationships end you don’t understand why. but what he did was in no way malicious, he was struggling with himself. also, they had been separated for a long time and he did call her to let her know.
A woman you broke an engagement with four years ago is not a loved one
This may be controversial, but I do not care if you are gay. To lie to someone who loves you for years on end is selfish and wrong. I can only imagine the pain she felt when she learned her relationship of 8 years had been a clever russe to benefit him at the cost of her feelings. Yes society puts pressure on certain people to be heterosexual in order to pursue certain careers, but how hard would it be to just pretend to be a player and “date around” rather than tethering an innocent woman to you only to throw her away. I’m so mad at this, maybe because I’ve been hurt and lied to before and I know that it’s the worst feeling to have to wonder how much of a relationship was real feelings. It can be gut wrenching and definitely can cause serious trust issues. Everyone wants to talk about how hard he must have had it being in the closet, but that was his choice. She didn’t have one. Being in pain doesn’t give you the right to cause pain to other people. One thing the article didn’t mention was if he ever apologized for wasting her time and lying to her. If he hasn’t then he’s not only a coward he’s an ass as well. I feel no sympathy for him.
I agree with you except rather than pretending to be “a player” he could have contracted a relationship with someone who knew the rules. Meaning she gets to be the public girlfriend/wife and lots of money for her time. However, if she really wanted children and marriage why was she waiting around all submissive for him to finally propose to her? She should have been out of that relationship years before.
If my boyfriend told me he wasn’t going to propose to me for ten years, I wouldn’t leave him, even though I really want a family. He’s my best friend and I’d never want a family without him, which makes this so sad, she loved him so much and was willing to wait and wait because she wanted to marry *him* and start a family with him, and he just dropped her like a hot potato. He could have had the decency to tell her before he asked her if she wanted to spend the rest of her life with him, only to pull the rug out from under her
It sounds harsh, but I agree with you TG. If she wanted marriage and a family, I’m not sure why she hung around for so long. As Beyonce said in “Single Ladies”: “I gave him three good years…” That’s pretty much all the time you give a man if you want to settle down. Waiting more than a few years for someone to propose is a huge gamble. On the other hand, if she hasn’t had a substantial relationship with anyone else since Jason, I understand why this woman is still hurting. Hopefully she meets the love of her life and moves on.
This lady – wow, i do have sympathy… to a point. She needs to remember two things. Jason Collins coming out as gay: Not about her. She tries to be all classy about it but you have to wonder, are they even friends now? Is he really being a skunk in not making time for her? And seriously, they broke up four years ago. She should have moved on before this announcement ever came out. Engagements end, relationships break up. It’s sad, but it happens to everybody, for a lot of reasons.
they broke up years previously. he called her to tell her which is probably more than he needed to do.
I don’t know. Part of me feels like she should get a grip. I don’t want to lessen her pain, but this is hardly the worst thing to ever happen to someone. It’s not as though she married him and he was picking up escorts the entire time (a la Rock Hudson).
Plus – it’s been 4 years. I dated a man who is probably bisexual with strong male preference for a year. We lived together but I always had my suspicions – so I ended it. He’s a great guy and we’re still friends 12 years later. Obvs not the same thing as being engaged/dating for 8 years – but I feel the victim stance is strong with this one. Generally 4 years past a relationship, people have moved the F on, right?
She is not “getting over” her relationship. She is dealing with finding out there never was one. Cut her some slack.
She just discovered that the guy she spent 7 years with was lying the whole damn time. Everything, even the most honest human moment (sex) was a damn lie. What she thought was a flash of desire in his eyes was probably just gas.
Atleast when a man cheats on you, you still have some moments of truth to walk away with. Here you are left with nothing. That guy is no hero, hes a time thief. Honestly they should make this bs an actionable tort! There were other ways to hide his sexuality, he chose the most cruel path. Eff him! The least he could do is sit with her and help her resolve the damage he has inflicted. What a dbag.
So true!
but he wasn’t lying to her. it’s not like he had some secret double life. he probably hadn’t admitted his sexuality to himself and he was just trying to make a “normal” life. at least he didn’t go through with the wedding.
I don’t feel anything for her, because after he came out and she expressed how hurt she was, because she felt like she wasted her prime years with him, she said she was shopping her story to a producer in hopes of getting her own reality show.
Sorry but she lost me and my empathy right then and there.
I agree. I rolled my eyes as soon as I heard she was getting more publicity for her story. I get it. She’s hurt. Get some professional help and move on. Don’t milk this sad story for all it’s worth just bc you want to be famous.
You are being far more sympathetic to him than I am. In total, it was eight years. That is the time when most women start to panic about marriage! and babies! and everything like that, and he specifically made promises to her knowing he could never follow up. The fact that he still hasn’t spoken to her shows that he is either ashamed of his actions, or that he is less of a person than his essay suggested.
I get that coming out is incredibly difficult, especially in his situation. But, despite the bravado of his S.I. essay, Jason was afraid of hurting himself and instead hurt another. It sort of dampens the hero story.
Exactly how I feel.
Well you know what? Millions of other women have been her age and have planned for marriages and babies and all that stuff. And you know what? Those plans don’t always work out. Those women get hurt by their Prince Charming. Tough luck! Too bad! Move on and don’t keep licking your wounds years later of you really never will have a marriage or a baby (if that’s your dream).
i agree with emmie_a. lots of women waste their youth on relationships that fail. it sucks but it happens. for lots of reasons. ok, she’s hurt that she probably never really understood him. but she’s had years to get over it.
^^^This^^^ He’s no hero in my book.
Well she told Inside Edition she is looking for producers to document her journey to become a mom in exhange for paying to her eggs frozen.He told her he is Gay what else is there to say.He lied to his twin,his parents his friends and to his self.Move on
Except his twin and his parents didn’t lose eight years of their life building a relationship that she believed would end in marriage and children. He knew that was important to her and he wasn’t honest, for whatever reason. She has every right to be hurt, extremely hurt, because she can’t get that window of opportunity back. Having children will be much more complicated now than it would have been ten-twelve years ago. I feel quite sorry for her and think her essay shows compassion that I would not be able to show in the same situation.
He wasn’t honest with himself, though. It would have been far worse if she had married him and had kids.
That is just a really long time to string someone a long. I feel bad for both of them… on her side, she clearly has some insecurities and this probably wrecked her.
she needs to move on. It sucks that she pretty much wasted 8 years of her life with him but what’s done is done. no point rehashing the past.
I disagree that she should have known he was gay due to whatever. She loved him, and hopefully some small corner of him loved her too. However, the fact remains that he used her. And that’s somehow been overlooked, sad to say.
I feel for her to a point, yet reading this it seems she just wanted the wedding and the idea of marriage. “I remember feeling overwhelmed with joy and also thinking: finally. I was almost 30.” Makes it sound like it could been Jason or any guy that would ask her to marry him.
+1000
Yeah I picked up on that too-although that’s not an unusual approach for a lot of women.
I do feel for her, though–she must have been devastated–but I feel for him too. Sexuality can be a tricky thing. Coming out can be difficult for many people, probably doubly hard when you’re a black athlete.
It’s just a sucky situation all around…
I have been in a similar situation. Several years ago I was engaged (to a semi-pro basketball player coincidentally) and just a couple months before our wedding he called it off over the phone with no explanation. To this day I have no idea why. I spent several months wondering what was wrong with me-then him-but it certainly didn’t take me FOUR YEARS. I eventually came to the conclusion that it wasn’t meant to be for us for whatever reason and moved on. When I heard a couple years later that my ex was marrying someone else I really felt nothing. I knew I was better off without him. I certainly didn’t feel the need to be interviewed and shop around for a reality show. So, while I feel some sympathy, I also feel that she should have moved on long ago, should have already come to the conclusion that the breakup wasn’t ‘her’ fault, and should feel confident enough in herself to not let his coming out affect her.
I’m sure it was hard on her, but jeez, lady! Get over it already. It seems like she is trying to grab on to Jason Collins’ coattails to promote her book/movie/whatever. Oh, did you know >III’m< dating.
Relationships end all the time, and often people spend years beforehand lying to their partner and themselves about how they really feel. I’m not sure why people find “I’m gay” a more upsetting betrayal than “I haven’t loved you for 5 years” or “I pretended this was working because I wanted kids”.
We don’t even know if his being gay was the impetus for the breakup. He’d spent 8 years with her which would suggest there was once a very real connection there despite his sexuality. He didn’t come out for another 4 years after ending things, so it’s just as likely that he broke up with her for one the usual reasons eg. the relationship had started to sour. I know many gay men who had past relationships with women, and they had all the same relationship problems as normal couples and broke up because of all sorts of things. It’s not always as clear cut as it seems.
I’m sorry she found out the way she did, but she’s not the first or last woman to find out she was involved with a gay man. Terry McMillian, anyone? Her whole schtick about freezing her eggs is ridiculous. She’s not 50. She can have children if she wants to. When she spoke about finding a producer to tell her story, she completely lost me.
Maybe my sympathy bone is broken but c’mon! They broke up years ago. I don’t know that he owes her any time to talk things through. I feel like it’s one of those things where she’s better off not knowing all the answers. Closure is an illusion. Also, I’m sure it was shocking but she’s pretty clearly using this as a platform for whatever it is that she wants to pollute the airways with. Hope she sends him a thank you card.
Ugh. I don’t have sympathy for her at all. I know the angle is that he lied to her for years and years, but that was because he was lying to himself. He wasn’t a hit man and he didn’t bang her mom, you know? It’s not so black and white with this stuff–he could have been brought up to think his feelings were sinful and punishable by an eternity in hell. That’s some hard brainwashing to undo; plus it’s not very accepted in the macho world of sports.
Also, her whole essay makes it sound like the only reason she’s pissed off and hurt is because she’s operating solely from her biological clock. Her sympathy angle is wrapped up in that, but would it have been better to get married and have those babies, then find out later? She has been shopping for a reality show, too, so it’s about more than sympathy and hurt feelings. And heroism has nothing to do with honesty other than both being categorically virtuous.
And finally, people break up for all sorts of reasons. After eight years, this is hardly the worst one. Plus she had four years afterward to get over it before any of this happened, not knowing he was gay. He might have owed her an explanation at the time, but doesn’t owe her any more time discussing it now. The statute has run out.
There’s no statute of limitations on a broken heart. He was going to marry her, she was in love, and then he dumped her without even giving her a reason. And there’s a time limit on how long she’s allowed to be upset by this?
It also doesn’t matter that he didn’t intend to hurt her. He hurt her just the same. And he could have handled everything much, much better. One’s personal issues cease being personal when they mess up other people’s lives.
Well, that’s your opinion, and I get it, but I disagree completely. It is really not healthy to obsess over something like that for so long. Yes, there is a limit. People come to term with death easier than she is handling a breakup. If she couldn’t move on and get over it in four years, there is something wrong with her, IMO. She just got dumped, it happens every day. If the essay is truly how she feels, and I don’t believe it is, then she’s terribly emotionally stunted and someone should have called her out on it so she could get herself some help.
She doesn’t really talk much about loving him, either. She said it once or twice in the whole essay. The rest was about having what she wanted and how old and single she is now, thanks to him. She seemed to be complaining more than lamenting a broken heart.
It really does matter that he didn’t intend to hurt her. If someone hits you in the face, it matters whether it was an accident or not, doesn’t it? The pain exists either way but the reaction is always different. If someone intends to hit you in the face, it usually hurts a lot more than an accident, too. If anything, finding he was enduring a heartwrenching battle within himself the entire time should have made her feel better.
He broke up with her – that’s IT! YES there is a limitation on how much time you can throw yourself a pity party over that. God, how pathetic to still be upset over something so ultimately trivial. It’s not like someone murdered her child! He was just a boyfriend. He wasn’t that into her, regardless of the reason, he broke it off. He really did not even OWE her a reason why. Not wanting to be in the relationship is reason enough.
If the shoe was on the other foot here, and it was a female athlete coming out and a long ago ex bf coming out of the woodwork to cry about everything Carolyn is whining about, word for word, there is *no way in hell* that the commentary on it would be “poor guy! She is such a jerk! She should have thought about how being a lesbian in a hostile culture affected HIM!”
I felt like he was being a bit fame whorey from the start. Her essay makes the point even clearer to me that he called her to do a bit of damage control then he’s been too busy for her since then.
they had been separated for four years. he didn’t need to call her at all.
I would be more sympathetic to her if I could get past the stench of reality-show-wannabe coming off of her.
+1000. I was feeling sympathetic towards her until I saw that she’s interested in doing reality TV.
I had sympathy for her until she went on her pity tour doing ten tv interviews on entertainment shows,shopping a doc,she is also writing a book according to her new website
He dumped her without giving her ANY reason? He couldn’t even make up something, like “I’m not ready to be married yet”?
Sorry, that’s just skuzzy. She must have been through hell.
I think what’s sad here is that she’s having to deal with the end of this relationship again. When a relationship ends weirdly, or suddenly, it’s only natural for it to bother you, and follow you a bit. Four years later, she’s finding out that there never really was a relationship at all, that years of her life were a lie.
This is a new blow to her, not one she should have dealt with years ago and moved on from.
So when the first man in a major sport came out as gay we should have been saying ”but what about his ex girlfriend from 4 years ago”? This is unbelievably self centered. Also, its not like she was going to just have a couple of kids out of college – she herself is a professional athlete and wasnt exactly on the young mother track. Relationships sometimes don’t work out, and the whole point is that his being gay isn’t about her. Ugh, this irritates me so much I cant even coherently put all my thoughts down.
Jason Collins is an A #1 jerk. Selfish beyond belief. His ex-fiance was just an after thought. Oops before the big media story comes out what have I forgotten to cover. Oh yeah – I need to call the woman I lead on for eight years and give her a quick explanation. His apology to her was totally lacking she deserved better. What an a**.
@Lee
“The issue is with society forcing people to deny who they are for so long and so deeply that they hurt themselves AND their loved ones.”
I hear what you’re saying, but I really can’t bring myself to give Jason a free pass for his actions. He was about 30 when he broke up with Carolyn so callously. She was his partner and best friend for most of their adult lives, and there are a million and one ways he could’ve gently ended the relationship with respect and sensitivity — with or without revealing his sexual orientation.
Instead, he totally pulled the rug out from under her. I totally get why Carolyn spent all this time wondering what went wrong, driving herself crazy relentlessly analyzing everything that might have led to him dumping her like that out of the blue.
Moreover, Jason let a few more YEARS go by before he admitted to her that he was gay and even then he only granted her a short phone conversation.
Cowardly Jason was so intent on protecting himself that he ruthlessly hurt someone he should’ve treated with nothing but kindness.
So, while I understand and sympathize about the societal pressures on him, two wrongs do not make a right. Jason acted with great selfishness and zero integrity.
In fact, I’m starting to doubt that he came out voluntarily. Maybe someone threatened to out him and so he made the best of a bad situation, agreeing to the SI interview.
I feel sympathy for all she’s gone through, and for him having tried to live a lie. The only bad thing here is that he didn’t tdll her the reason at the time, and let her know about the article- she had a right to know she’d be a small part of a big story.
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I’m not even through the first paragraph “after he proposed” and it’s already 100% “ME ME ME IT’S ALL ABOUT ME!”
So frankly, I think she’s a selfish bitch and one who was more concerned about hitting life’s goal post moments when you’re “supposed to” hit them in order to live out some Perfect Life fantasy she had. I don’t feel sorry for her at all. I believe it was the Perfect Life fantasy that she loved and cared about, not him.
Cry me a river.