Kristen Bell was worried that she wouldn’t love her baby as much as her dogs

Kristen Bell has a new interview in the December issue of Flare Magazine, which she covers. They did something weird with her hair, but the editorial is impressive overall. They put her in glamorous holiday outfits that get me in the mood for Christmas and New Year’s parties. I especially love that navy dress with the sequin neckline, it’s gorgeous.

Kristen’s interview is as good as the photos. She gets candid about her home life with new husband Dax Shephard, she’s very protective of their daughter, and she reveals that she was worried she wouldn’t bond with her baby like she does with her dogs. Kristen is an animal lover and famously got weepy on Ellen just at the thought of seeing a sloth. She’s freaky about animals and she knows it.

As background, Kristen and Dax, my current favorite couple, welcomed their first child, daughter Lincoln, this March. Kristen and Dax were married in a small civil ceremony at the Beverly Hills County Clerk’s office last month. Dax told Jimmy Kimmel that the wedding cost a total of $142. There were no guests at the ceremony, although friends came over later with a cake that said “World’s Worst Wedding” on it. So when she says that she likes to stay home with Dax and that she tries to keep her life as down to earth as possible, I believe her.

She was worried she wouldn’t love her baby as much as her dogs
“I kept saying to Dax in all sincerity during my pregnancy, ‘I just don’t know how I’m going to like her as much as I like the dogs. I was being serious. Because I f*king love my dogs; they are my children. I love people the more i know them, and I didn’t know her. It could’ve been a water bottle in my belly, that’s about how connected I felt to her during my pregnancy. But within about 24 hours after she came out, my hormones reset, and they reprogrammed my feelings about her.”

Her birth plan
“I found it very important when making my birth plan to research both sides of the argument. I tend to lean toward a more crunchy-granola, organic-type lifestyle, so I thought, I’ll bring the yoga ball, I’ll have a playlist. And we got there, and none of it applied.”

On protecting her daughter from the paparazzi
“Dax and I realize it might make someone smile when we have sassy Twitter fights, or when I tweet something that he says to me. I’m fully aware that it’s a tiny taste of our relationship. But the real day-to-day, we are extremely territorial of. I would really not like to see the aftermath of the first person who tries to take a picture of Lincoln. There are going to be a lot of stitches.”

Why people love Veronica Mars
“Veronica says the things you want to say in tough moments and kind of grabs her balls a lot, which is very appealing.”

She and Dax are from different sides of the track in Detroit
“Dax and I would not have been friends in high school. He was a drug addict and he was wild, and i was very much a good girl who went to Catholic school. He is also five years older than I am, and he lived in Milford, which is a bit more drive-your-tractor-to-the-7-eleven-type Michigan, and I was closer to downtown Detroit.”

She secretly lived in Chris Kattan’s guest house
“I drove cross-country to L.A. when I was 22. One of my girlfriends was living in [SNL actor] Chris Kattan’s guest room, because they were friends, and I was secretly living in his pool house with another friend when he wasn’t there. It felt like a natural risk to take at that time in my life.”

On her secret to a strong marriage
“Our main rule is: Check your ego at the door, and be aware of when the other person is spinning out. As artists, everything is vanity- and narcissism- driven: my career, the strategy behind it, the next level I want to hit, my photo shoot, how I was in my acting scene, my premiere. So we try to do a really good job of being human beings in the rest of our life.”

On her social life
“Dax and I prefer to stay in. It’s not my first choice to put on a pair of heels and a dress and go out on a Saturday night.”

[From Flare Magazine, received via email]

I didn’t have a problem bonding with my son in utero. I have always had cats and while I love them I kind of mentally put them aside during my pregnancy. I still cuddled with them! I just couldn’t change the cat litter while I was pregnant and I knew that my baby would take center stage soon. Maybe it’s different for dog lovers, and I’m sure it’s different for everyone.

Kristen gets papped occasionally with her daughter, here’s a link to photos of her carrying Lincoln on set. So I think when she talks about knifing the paparazzo who tries to take a picture of her daughter, she means anyone who gets too close and in the baby’s face.

Also, I would like to put in a plug for Parenthood, which is Dax’s show on NBC Thursday nights and is one of the best shows on television by my estimate. I recently caught up with this season (I was away for a while) and I was blown away by how consistently good, and relevant, it remains. It’s one of the few, if only, dramas I’ve seen that accurately portrays relationships and families. Things are wrapped up in a bow a little too often, but overall it’s incredibly realistic, touching and funny. Give it a chance if you haven’t seen it. Dax gets some of the best lines on that show. Dax’s character, Crosby, recently had a plotline that reminds me of this story. He was having trouble bonding with his newborn daughter, and was suffering from sleep deprivation. He bent over the baby and said “I’m sure you’ll be the best thing that ever happened to me someday, but right now I really hate you.”



Cover credits: Kristen Bell wears a Dolce & Gabbana dress. Photography: Yu Tsai, Opus Reps.

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  1. bns says:

    I don’t get her appeal.

  2. LP says:

    She’s just the best. VM movie soon!

  3. blue marie says:

    I like her, her hair in these photos not so much. I bet it was a pain to brush out.

    • TheOriginalKitten says:

      Me too. She seems really chill and she loves animals-what’s not to like?

      But yeah these photos are terrible.

  4. Lindy79 says:

    That navy dress is fabulous!
    I get what she’s saying about the pets, I used to worry I could be a bit like that, myself and my sister are pet/animal crazy. That was until my niece came along and it all just seems to slot in to place.
    I’m just glad she isn’t one of these, “has a child so pets you’ve made the choice to get and have as part of your family for years are basically thrown to the side and forgotten” people.

    • Sharon says:

      Mhmm, but I feel disgusted by those dog lovers who are all “Dogs are as much a part of my family as my own mother” like literally I hear dog lovers telling people this all the time. “Would you do this to your own mother?” Newsflash, your dog didn’t raise you from 1-18 years old. How dare you equate your dog to your mother.

      • Tif says:

        Well, usually “dog lovers” (or responsible pet owners) say “Dogs are as much a part of my family as my own child” rather than mother. This is because, just like when you adopt a child, you’ve made a commitment to care for something that is essentially helpless without you.

      • msw says:

        I dont know any parents/dog lovers who would throw their child under a bus to save their dog. I have three dogs and two kids and they are all family to me. dont get me wrong, I still roll my eyes to myself when people say “i don’t think i could love a child anymore than i love my cat” or when Jessica Simpson called herself a mom because she had a pet dog, but who cares–at least they treat their pets like family. Animals are NOT disposable but so many people treat them as such.

  5. truthSF says:

    I connected with my baby very early during my pregnancy. So no, I don’t understand what and how she was feeling during hers.

    Plus, I don’t like dogs, nor would I think to put them above my child(ren).

  6. NYC_girl says:

    I tried to get pregnant a few years ago and it coincided with adopting a new cat after my last died suddenly. I toilet-trained him so I wouldn’t have to touch the sh*tbox, and it worked out so great. The kit costs $25 and within 2 months he was fully trained and only had one accident.

    • Lindy79 says:

      I’m fascinated! How does it work?

      • NYC_girl says:

        It’s a plastic seat that fits over the toilet and the actual toilet seat goes down over it. There are perforated rings on it – starting in the middle, you gradually remove a ring until the hole above the water gets bigger, allowing the cat to become comfortable. You also use flushable litter. It’s funny when I happen to catch Luca doing his thing – he still does that ‘burying’ thing afterwards, but now he just seems to be stroking the toilet seat.

    • Amanduh says:

      That is sooo cute!! When you walk in on him, does he look really…coy? When I walk on on my cat (in his sh!tbox as you hilariously put it), he always looks embarrassed or something. And then I have to walk away and it just turns into an uncomfy situation for all, lol.

      • NYC_girl says:

        If I walk by him when he is doing his thing, he will start meowing and make a production out of it. Also, if I flush too soon after he finishes, he gets annoyed and swats at me when I walk away. I got an automatic flusher so I can go away for a day or two. The first time it flushed in the middle of the night it scared the f*ck out of me! But I highly recommend toilet training cats – the fact that I don’t have litter all over my apartment is so great, and there is NO smell whatsoever. The cat hides when people come over, and they often don’t believe I have a cat.

  7. Lexie says:

    I get her appeal!

  8. Erinn says:

    I love this woman.

    Also, I think it’s really nice to hear celebrities talking about how they had fears about motherhood, and pregnancy. Most of them just kind of go on and on about how it’s the best thing ever. It’s nice to hear for the ladies that do have fears. I’m terrified to have a baby; and hearing someone with a platform say that they were scared of how they’d bond is nice.

    • Lindy79 says:

      This! +1000

      Same for the post baby bodies and diets. I wish more of them were more honest.

    • SnarkySnarkers says:

      Absolutely! I sometimes worry about this kind of thing myself so its nice to hear celebrities talking about it. It always seems like pregnancy is spun to be “the most magical time” and if you experienced anything less than that beyond cravings for pickles and ice cream then something is wrong with you.

    • Teeny says:

      I agree with this. She’s not a preprogrammed robot, she has really feelings and concerns that a lot of women may feel at some point but don’t share.

    • Elise says:

      Yes, it’s great she can share her fears/anxieties/scary thoughts about being a new mom that many of us, in some form, experience. It means that she CARES and is trying to do her best even when it’s tough, and it is tough. I would rather read 1000 posts like this than about Kim K. It took me a few months to adjust and feel really bonded and it’s great that Kristen is just being honest!

    • Samtha says:

      Yes! It’s so refreshing to hear a celebrity mom just be honest. It’s NOT always amazing and wonderful, being a mom. Sometimes it’s scary and frustrating. (I just had a baby a few months ago, so I really relate. Though most of my fears involved blending a new baby with the step-kids, rather than with my pets!)

    • lucy2 says:

      I love her too. I always find her refreshingly honest and funny. Plus the way she still loves Veronica Mars as much as the fans – other actors have tried to step away from early roles like that, but she embraces it.

  9. MrsBPitt says:

    I remember having my second child and thinking I couldn’t possibly love another human being as much as I loved my first child and then, well, its just amazing how much love we humans are capable of. I love my dogs, but I can honestly say, I never wondered if I would love my dogs more than my babys!

  10. QQ says:

    Love em… That’s a really real (not very talked about) look at that having a baby when you arent a baby crazy person, Like, it’s not all puppies and rainbows and oxytocin from the gate

    • TheOriginalKitten says:

      Exactly. I was a bit shocked that she was so forthright about it, considering how scary The Mommy Police can be.

    • msw says:

      Absolutely agree. I loved both my kids from pregnancy onward, but it isn’t like that for everyone. I really don’t know why moms are so intent on tearing each other down–the closest thing I can guess is that they feel some desperate need to validate themselves as parents and can’t imagine any experience different from their own. After my first, I quit reading any and all parenting forums because I don’t want to be a punching bag for someone else’s insecurities. I love Kristen and I’m glad she’s talking about it. I’m bored of all the rote “it’s so amazing” answers and I’m glad she’s not afraid to be another voice for the moms who don’t feel an instant connection to their child. It’s hard enough being a parent without being shamed for everything.

    • I Choose Me says:

      Hear, hear! Just another reason why I love this woman.

      I’m so looking forward to the Veronica Mars movie. Oh and just to let my inner fangirl off the leash a little – Veronica & Logan 4Eva!

  11. feebee says:

    I like her. And I love Parenthood. So grateful that NBC have actually stuck with one of the best and unfortunately under-watched shows on TV.

    • Sloane Wyatt says:

      ITA, feebee. Parenthood is a fabulous show. Everything about it is excellent, from the caliber of the actors, the unexpected plot twists, the droll and often silly humor, the sets, the music, to the absolute immersion into the show!

    • IzzyB says:

      Me too. I love watching it, the plot lines are always believable and entertaining and never overdone or trying too hard to be funny. I hope it stays around :)

  12. Maria T. says:

    I think her candor is refreshing. Not everyone immediately bonds with their babies, even after they are born. I didn’t feel close to my babies when they were in utero. I loved being pregnant but I couldn’t envision what they would look like/be like, so it was hard to conceptualize. With my first, I adored him the second I saw him – the second one was harder for some reason. That took a few weeks. I think it was because I felt guilty that somehow I would be taking something from my first son if I loved the second one as strongly. And then I learned that there’s plenty to go around – and love grows!!

  13. GoodNamesAllTaken says:

    Thanks for the plug about Parenthood. It’s my favorite show on TV, and whenever I ask someone if they watch it, they’ve barely heard of it. Everything CB said is true. Give it a shot.

  14. Kookoo says:

    What a strange thing to say…

    • I felt the same way she did!!! My boyfriend voiced that HE was worried about me loving the dogs more ;) of course I loved the baby more, BUT, not right away! I thought, really – ‘who is this kid?’. Now when I had my 2nd (and last!) baby I bonded RIGHT AWAY! I had the experience of the 1st to go off of I think ;)

  15. serena says:

    I really like her! She’s so down to earth and doesn’t seem to live in the bubble, sparkly world celebrities often portrays. I think it can happen to a lot of women to not feel a bonding right away with your baby, and she shouldn’t get negative feedback for that.
    Also, I can’t stop smiling at the video with Ellen about the sloths! lol

  16. joan says:

    I’m not familiar with her work as an actress but this is a pretty good interview. My question is why Flare magazine? Who – besides people waiting in a doctor’s office – reads or actually buys this magazine? Celebs wanting to increase their exposure normally gravitate to the likes of People, Vogue, Elle or even Marie Claire or In Style. Parenthood rocks.

    • Green Girl says:

      I am not familiar with Flare magazine, but perhaps Kristen wanted to talk more about motherhood than the usual “I love my child! My child is the reason I exist!!!1!!!” celebrity articles you see in some of the magazines you mentioned.

      Additionally, a magazine like People typically has pictures of the baby with the new mom or dad. Perhaps Kristen didn’t want her child splashed on the front page of the magazine, so declined interview requests from those publications.

      But going back to the original topic, I think this is a refreshing take, and I applaud her for the interview.

    • claire says:

      I AM familiar with Flare and it sucks. It’s a Canadian magazine with very low readership — appeals the lowest possible denominator. Green Girl your argument makes no sense – Flare is no better than the other mags you mentioned.

      • Green Girl says:

        Hi Claire – I’m not familiar with Flare magazine.

      • glaugh says:

        claire – Flare magazine is really not that bad? It’s like Elle Canada. Its like a cross between a fashion and celeb gossip magazine, but they have interesting topics sometimes. As you can see from this interview, she is actually talking about real topics that concern people.

  17. LAgirl says:

    I think she’s great. I love that she is so matter of fact and chill. So happy for her, baby Linc and Dax!

  18. Axis2ClusterB says:

    I absolutely love them! And I never would’ve thought that Dax Shepherd of all people would be my favorite part of my favorite dramatic series.

  19. Dyllish says:

    I’ve loved Kristen since Veronica Mars but I find her statements odd, most people I know always say how much they love their child even without seeing them yet.. I’m not pregnant but I already feel like I love my unborn children to death, Is that weird?

    • Erinn says:

      I don’t know – I think there’s too much pressure and expectation for women to just automatically love their baby the minute they know they’re pregnant. And I’m sure they do, in a way. But there’s always this fear of “what if I’m not a good mother, what if I don’t really like having a baby” that can push at the back of your mind.

      I’ve never been pregnant either, and I have a fear as well that I’m not going to enjoy pregnancy, or that I’m not going to feel as connected to my child as I ‘should’. I think it’s a common thing to have doubts. I know that I’ll love my children, unconditionally, but I don’t know if I’m going to feel as connected as some people do during pregnancy.

    • Note odd at all! Honest!

    • screwStewrat99 says:

      Its hard to explain. I just had my first child in August. I hated being pregnant, but I knew I really loved and cared for my daughter. There were times though when it felt alien. There’s a person inside you that you are expected to love, but you don’t know that person yet. Ugh I don’t know how to explain it. When my daughter first arrived I loved her, no doubts. But at the same time I felt like I had to get to know her. I had this idea of her when she was inside me, but she came out and has her own little personality and flare. I’m just gonna stop because I’m not sure if this makes sense. Every pregnancy is different and I guess you just have to experience it (or be able to explain better).

    • msw says:

      it’s not weird. It’ s just isn’t the same for everyone. This is way overly simplistic, but so much of it is hormonal. Your body produces hormones to MAKE you love the baby–a lot can get in the way of your hormones transmitting those messages (other hormonal messages related to stress, depression, etc).

    • Diana says:

      It isn’t weird, but it doesn’t work that way for everyone. I always thought the same as you — that I would bond very intensely with my unborn child. Being 32 weeks pregnant right now, I have felt NO connection whatsoever to my baby the entire time, despite my attempts to connect. I’ve had a moderately difficult pregnancy, as well, with some scares. So it really hasn’t been an amazing experience for me.

      I don’t feel guilty about it, though. A lot of moms in my due date club have expressed similar feelings. It is what is. I think the best way to go about the whole thing is just to be open to the fact that, with pregnancy and childbirth, things often go WAY differently than you imagine them. And you might feel totally different than what you expected.

    • Katie says:

      AMAZINGLY, everyone is different. Everyone has a unique experience, even though there will be commonalities.

  20. KC says:

    People who refer to or think of their pets as “babies” are creepy as hell. It just indicates a complete disconnect on reality and it often shows in their ability to show compassion for actual humanbeings. I’ll never forget seeing a pic of a homeless teen with a dog and reading the comments below it that went something like “oh that poor baby, I’d be happy to adopt him. What breed is he?” Its like they couldnt see the dirty half-starved kid holding the dog. Horrible people.

    I do like Kristen Bell, cute as a button. So I am disappointed to hear that she would emotionally equate a child (any child, not just hers) to an animal. Thats major emotional stunting.

    • Erinn says:

      I get that.
      I call our pets the ‘furbabies’ but I don’t actually see them on the same level as a human. I know they’re animals. I love them, and I’d probably do anything I could for them. But it just isn’t the same as having a human child. I’m their ‘human mom’ for all intents and purposes though; especially because we adopted the cat from the shelter while she was really young. She bonded to us really quickly. With the dog, I know to treat her like a dog first and foremost because that’s what makes a dog happy. They don’t want to be babies. They want a stable pack environment.

      I get angry too when I see people more concerned in that kind of circumstance. Both are living creatures, both need care. Just because an animal is adorable doesn’t mean that it’s more important than a starving child.

      Keep in mind, the things she said about the animals and the child were before she was holding her baby. It’s a different ballgame. If you have a child, and get a pet, and then treat the pet better than the child, THAT would be emotionally stunting. I don’t think what she did is.

    • TheOriginalKitten says:

      “People who refer to or think of their pets as “babies” are creepy as hell.”

      You realize that this is how a LOT of people view their pets, right?
      You’re also really REALLY reaching with the “emotional stunting” comment.
      Instead of denigrating people who feel differently than you, maybe you should just be thankful that there are people on this earth who love and care about animals?

    • Milygu says:

      I like animals more than I like most people. Doesn’t mean I’d help a starving animal before a starving kid, but I think animals are often more enjoyable to be around. Guess I’ve got issues…

      • TheOriginalKitten says:

        Oh you didn’t know? Apparently you have “major issues of the emotional and/or psychological kind”.

        LMAO! ;)

      • KC says:

        You make it clear that you wouldnt prioritise a dog over a human child, so you are ok. Thats the right balance. Its the emotional stuntees who would even defend that madness who need help.

        Kittens and puppies may be cute but they are not people.

    • msw says:

      You’ve described pretty much every dog person as a horrible person. That’s a big fail.

      Most of us have the sense to know that animals and people are not the same and our love of animals is a sign of compassion, not a sign that we don’t care about humans. If someone is not capable of being compassionate towards animals AND people, maybe they are not that compassionate after all.

      • KC says:

        I seriously doubt that ‘all dog people’ would fawn over a homeless animal while showing zero regard for its equally homeless teenaged owner as those commenters did. However, if you are right and that is a common trait among dog people, then I have no qualms saying that dog people are horrible humanbeings.

      • msw says:

        What? I didn’t say that it is common for dog people to fawn all over a dog while ignoring humans. Read my comment and try again, please.

      • MorticiansDoItDeader says:

        “People who refer to or think of their pets as “babies” are creepy as hell. It just indicates a complete disconnect on reality and it often shows in their ability to show compassion for actual humanbeings”

        I think it’s precisely the opposite. Most people who are passionate about animals are compassionate people in general. They’re the ones I’d trust to watch my children (even if they didnt have children of their own).

        Research around the world demonstrates the tremendous benefits of owning a pet. Studies show that children who own pets have more empathy and nurturing ability, and as they grow into adulthood, essential skills to develop meaningful relationships. Don’t believe me, see for yourself:

      • KC says:

        I said that people shouldnt equate their pets with humanbeings and gave an illustration of how that kind of warped thinking manifests in our society. You then chimed into say that I had just described all ‘dog people’. And I responded with the fact that people who think or behave that way are horrible creatures and if that covers all ‘dog people’ so be it. What did I miss?

        Quick question for all the ‘dog people’. Theres a hypothetical fire in your appartment building. You may only save one living being. Your pet dog (or as some like to call them, your “baby) or your surly next door neighbour who you never liked. Who do you save? If you are even hesitating then you are exactly the sort of person who I called emotionally stunted.

      • Samtha says:

        @KC, you seem to be arguing that all people who refer to their pets as “their babies” would prioritize the pet over a human life. I’m sorry, but that’s a silly argument to make. Are there people out there who would? I guess. Sure. There are lots of different kinds of people out there.

        There are far more people out there who don’t value animals’ lives at all and who treat their pets as disposable possessions.

      • msw says:

        Yeah, those are not “dog people,” you see. Those are, at best, misanthropes, and at worst, sociopaths. If you wanted everyone to understand that you didnt mean dog lovers, you could have led your comment with something less broad.

      • KC says:

        Mort, theres a massive difference between owning and loving an animal and placing that animals needs at par with or even above a humanbeing. I suspect all people know this in their core which is why they insist on anthropomorphising (sp? ) their animals, referring to/treating them like babies. It would be much harder to pull some of the bs (say bequeething your pet in a will) if people wouldnt act like an animal is just a young person.

        Theres a strange reasoning that your options are either be a violent brute to creatures around you or put them at par with human babies. Happy to say its a false choice. Ynu can be a kind owner who never the less knows that should your animals interest ever clash with that of human being, that the human always takes priority. And crucially, should you ever encounter a homeless kid and his dog, your absolute first thought is for that kid.

      • TheOriginalKitten says:

        @KC-I wonder if you would make this argument to someone who was unable to conceive and ended up adopting a rescue pet in lieu of having a child. Would you seriously tell that person that he/she has psychological/emotional issues because he/she sees that animal as a part of the family?

        You really think that the people who are equating their pets with children (which is mostly just a figure of speech, not to be taken literally) would sacrifice their child’s life for that of a pet? How often, aside from your ridiculously unbelievable scenarios, do people really have to choose between their pet or their child?

        It’s starting to seem like you have some bizarre axe to grind with people who love their pets. If you don’t want to own a pet you don’t have to but to condemn everyone that sees their pet as a family member is very very odd, especially for the reasons that you are stating.

        Whether people empathize more with a homeless pet or a homeless child isn’t something to get upset about. The world is full of different people, your way isn’t the ONLY way and as long as people are loving (towards ALL life) then I don’t get why this is such an issue for you.

        @ Mort, msw, samtha-great comments.

      • Vee says:

        KC said:

        “Your pet dog (or as some like to call them, your “baby) or your surly next door neighbour who you never liked. Who do you save? If you are even hesitating then you are exactly the sort of person who I called emotionally stunted. ”

        Gee, I guess I’m emotionally stunted, in your opinion, (but it’s good I could care less what you think.)

        I’d save my dog in a heartbeat! As for the surly neighbor he can get his own a$$ out, or course, I’d help after my pup is safe. (If you’re talking about a child or someone I find worthwhile, then, somehow I’m going to get them both out.)

        I think you think too highly of humans. There are many people on this planet who are dismal pieces of crap, (murders, rapists, thieves, people who mistreat animals and who should know better, etc.) while animals are more pure of heart. JMO, but I’m enjoying the discussion you’ve started.

    • glaugh says:

      Wow… thanks for letting me know how many unresolved psychological issues I apparently have! Why are you being so judgmental of all dog/animal people based on one photo you saw?

      Babies aren’t cute to me and I’m never having them, however I have 5 pet rats (OH THE HORROR!) and I spend tons of time with them and I am their ‘mom’ in my mind ie. I take care of them. OBVIOUSLY i realize they are not human beings, and I would place a human life over a rattie life any day, but wow, your comment shows that you are EXTREMELY judgmental and narrow minded.

      • AceMom2 says:

        Well I’m right there with y’all I guess, because I often say that I like my fur-boy better than I like most people. I love him to bits & and if that means I have ‘major issues of the emotional and/or psychological kind’ then whatever, so be it!! Hey, maybe we can get a group rate on therapy since there’s so many of us out here… Lmao ;)

      • Pia says:

        Rats make fantastic pets and I miss mine dearly. To answer KC’s hypothetical question, you bet your ASS I’d save my dog before some random stranger. Despite popular belief, humans are mammals too. We are animals that are pretty good at taking care of ourselves. My loyalty is to my family, human or not, before any random person. Have fun coming up with all kinds of clever armchair diagnoses for why I am some kind of psychopath or something, they are fun to read.

      • msw says:

        I have one pet rat right now–his cagemate died last week–and they are awesome pets. nice to see some rattie love here. They are completely misunderstood.

        kids and babies especially are not for everyone. I would go so far as to say it’s irresponsible to have children if you don’t want them. if people would prefer the companionship of animals I see no problem with that. I prefer both, but that’s me. I’m just happy that there are people out there who are willing to provide such loving homes for animals.

      • glaugh says:


        I am sorry about your rattie – hope your other one is coping okay. They are incredibly misunderstood. People don’t realize what intelligent and loving and truly sweet little creatures they are.

    • sputnik says:

      wow, maybe it’s my barren womb that makes me emotionally stunted, but i love my dog and treasure him. it’s good for the soul to love and take care of something, that can’t always be babies. perhaps your inability to empathise with other’s situations makes you the emotionally stunted one.

    • Vee says:

      (I have children and a husband)

      I think of my “pets” as my “animal children”. We’re bonded and we’re a family. Sometimes, I like animals more than people.

  21. ramie says:

    Good for Kirsten for being honest and saying what others may be thinking but would never say. Her dogs are part of her family, so it makes sense. Everyone is different, and some people are just not as maternal.

  22. Nicolette says:

    I like her, and I think she looks great. As for the dog comment (and I’m a pet owner so I know full well about the love you have for them), I think it was just a case of a first time Mom not realizing the absolute unconditional and very powerful love she would have for her baby. It’s really hard to describe or imagine until it happens, and it’s like no other love you’ve ever felt before. And $142 for her wedding? That’s great! What other celeb would do that? :)

  23. Louisa says:

    LOVE Parenthood!

  24. ashley says:

    I like her,dax is hilarious on parenthood. I love that show,it’s really well written.

  25. Bodhi says:

    As if I couldn’t love her anymore…

    I think it is a completely legit statement & it makes total sense to me. My dogs were my LIFE before I got pregnant & I was really concerned as to how my son would fit into the life we’d already bit. (Now I’m wondering how the girl I’m growing will fit in, that’s a matter for another day). I think it is wonderfully refreshing to hear/see a celeb new mom voice real worries & fears.

    I’m surprised that no-one has jumped all over her birth plan, yet. That topic seems to be a major comment generator around here ;-)

  26. Adrien says:

    But at least she’ll love her kid more than a sloth.

  27. Dawn says:

    So I am not crazy about the photo shoot as I normally find her really cute. What’s with the open mouth poses these days? I don’t like that look at all. I like her as an actress and I like that the two of them try to keep it real in their home but realize that they are in a business that requires lots of ego and narcissism to be successful. I would bet that they will turn out to be wonderful involved parents and will raise happy healthy child/children. It was a great interview and seems very honest and open.

  28. eribra says:

    I was not attached to the thing inside me the first pregnancy- in theory I loved him but really- how was it gonna go down once he got out of there? I loved being pregnant though and of course when he was born it was all puppies and rainbows and unicorn tears. Then I worried I would never be able to love baby # 2 as much as the first baby- he was actually the best, sweetest sleep through the night baby ever- how could the next little guy compete? Then he comes and it’s more puppies and kitten videos and of course your heart loves them equally as much and more in the ways they are unique and the ways they are similar. Mommy police always freak when you admit fears or truths ( like baby #1 was UGLY!- don’t worry he got model cute quick but at birth…Yikes!) I like it when celebrities are honest. I like her- even though she named her daughter my son’s name and I’m praying it doesn’t become a trend. Cause I’m a mom- and we worry!

    • minime says:

      I just want to say that I love your comment! It would be a lot easier if people wouldn’t be judged by exposing their fears.

  29. Lucy says:

    I don’t really know much about her, but I find her adorable!!!

  30. Aria says:

    She looks like a blonde blue eyed version of Natalie Portman. They could be doppelganger.

  31. mar says:

    I get her 100%. I am very in love with my 6 yr old girl, but Im not that maternal and it took me a while to get into her like I am now,. I am not a baby person.

  32. Jenn says:

    I love my dogs more than anyone except my kid so I get it.
    The way she’s posed in the blue dress looks weird.

  33. MegG says:

    I am SO glad someone has talked openly about this. I’m 8 months pregnant and have been worrying about bonding the whole time! I don’t yet have friends with kids and haven’t had any experience, besides being a big sister x2. How do you even bond with the baby in utero? My baby is unplanned and my fiancé wasn’t supposed to even be able to reproduce.

  34. kct says:

    Why curse during an interview? It’s not that difficult to get your point across. It’s immature, and I’m not impressed.