Emmy Rossum: ‘I’m not like Fiona. I’ve never had a one-night stand. Ever’

Emmy Rossum

Emmy Rossum covers the February issue of Complex magazine to promote Shameless, which I still haven’t watched. I want to watch it, really, but I’m a television commitment phobe. It will happen eventually. Emmy’s so physically lovely, and I’ve heard so many great things about the show. This Complex spread is all leather and vinyl, and Emmy looks good. Her body is pretty insane.

The interview is rather surprising because it contains a lot of substance. I guess I’m used to Emmy pulling up a chair and yakking about her dog’s massive wang to magazines. She still talks about sex here, but it’s rather deep stuff to be coming out of a starlet’s mouth. Let’s get to it, shall we?

On the nannies that raised her: “They were all women who were in their 60s–my mom wouldn’t let anyone who was of procreating age take care of me. My nannies taught me that if you wanted it bad enough, impossible things could happen, like your dad coming back. That was something that was verbalized to me as a kid, like, ‘If you light this many candles or if you pray or do this or do that….’ It made me disillusioned as a teen when that didn’t happen, and when I started becoming known as an actress and it still didn’t happen. There were a lot of disappointments. That’s something I draw on for characters and that’s definitely where my distrust stems from. I feel like I’m going to read this and be like, ‘Wow, I was way too open.'”

On having an absent father: “It initially made me want a relationship with my father more but I realized that’s not possible. He’s not interested in that. Whether or not I was ready to face that, I had to. I definitely have feelings of abandonment and self-protection over that, and Fiona does, too. Her feelings toward her mom are probably closer to my feelings toward my dad because her mom is MIA and my dad is MIA. We have that childish hope that somebody who doesn’t care about you suddenly will.”

She’s not a Hollywood trainwreck: “Nobody can give you a guidebook on how to play it. Jennifer Lawrence plays it best because she’s not playing it. People can tell when you’re playing. I must not be that interesting. I don’t like the club scene and most of the people I’ve dated haven’t been actors, so I’ve finagled my way out of it. But it’s not as if paparazzi don’t park outside my house and snap my photo. They do. I just [don’t] go to clubs without my underwear on. The club scene just never interested me. It’s not like I didn’t do it for a week, but then it was boring to me. I couldn’t hear anybody. I love getting to know people. In the club you’re oversaturated and not experiencing the people you’re with.”

On her biggest romantic fail: “I was walking down the street in Greenwich Village late at night with a fellow I went on a few dates with and a bar was playing a Justin Bieber song. I started dancing and having fun with it. I knew some of the words. He must have thought I really liked Justin Bieber because a couple weeks later I was on location and he sent me a care package with an autographed picture of Justin Bieber and a bunch of my favorite candy. I thought it was funny so I sent him an autographed picture of Carly Rae Jepsen. Our relationship ended shortly thereafter. But I actually had the picture of Justin Bieber up ironically in my room for a couple months. It was pretty funny. That was before he was urinating in public and saying Anne Frank would’ve been a ‘Belieber.'”

On sexual themes in pop music: “There’s this Enrique Iglesias song ‘Tonight (I’m F—in’ You).’ It’s basically about tonight he goes to a club, he sees a girl, and then he’s going to f— her. How about buy her a drink first? How about find out her last name? It sends women the message that that’s how you should be treated, because girls are programmed to want the famous guy, to listen to what they say. There’s a lot of harm that could be done through stuff like that. Women putting that sentiment out there, I have no problem with that. There’s a kind of female empowerment that Sex in the City started that women should retain their sexual power. That’s not how I approach sex, but if a woman wants to have sex that way, I’m OK with her doing that. I think there should be equality. The idea of sex being in a club. ‘Tonight, I’m f—ing you’? To me it;s just so gross.”

On nudity: “I can do it when I’m in a character. When it comes to Shameless and it’s story-related it feels natural because I’m Fiona, not Emmy. There’s a distinction for me. It’s a different mentality approaching the scene. We always try to straddle–no pun intended–comedy and believability, finding the reality in it, what we can show about this moment and this sexual encounter that will illuminate something. Sex is taboo in our culture, but if you ignore it as part of the human experience and shy away from it because you’re scared to show it as an actor you’re limiting yourself. Of course guys that I’ve dated have said, ‘You know that people are going to j-rk off to that scene, right?’ and I’m thinking, Yeah, but I did so much emotionally. Isn’t that interesting, too? I guess there’s a certain masturbatory nature to sexuality but at the same time there are so many interesting things to be investigated that started with Kinsey and Freud. Pr0n isn’t what it’s about.”

On shooting sex scenes: “In the beginning I was hesitant and nervous to do scenes like that. I cared about how it would affect my real life. And it has affected my real life. People think that I am a much more sexual person than I am because they identify me with the character. People on the street are more crude with me because they think I’m Fiona. Those are the moments when it actually affects me on a my-feelings-get-hurt level, because they’re confusing the two things. I’m not like her in my real life. I’ve never had a one-night stand. Ever. We were just talking about this on set the other day. Seventy percent of the girls that I polled on our set have had a one-night stand. I’ve never had one. The one quasi-one-night stand that I had evolved into a two-year relationship. I was like, ‘Is there something wrong with me, or them?'”

Would she do nudity on stage? “It would be a lot harder for me. On Shameless, it’s a closed set. There’s only ever you, the actor, and the camera guy in the room at that time. It’s a private experience and I try to forget the fact that millions of people are going to watch it and I try to execute it the way I would any scene and focus on the emotion of it.”

[From Complex]

There’s a lot here to digest, and it’s deceptive stuff because one can easily conclude that Emmy is merely talking about sex for over half the interview. She is doing exactly that, but it doesn’t come off as an overly bawdy conversation. The part about one-night stands is interesting and doesn’t come up very often during interviews. I wonder if she’s telling the truth about never having one. I’ve never had one myself, but I’ve gone there after the third date. That’s still too early in my experience and a total waste of a potentially good guy. Live and learn, I guess.

Emmy Rossum

Photos courtesy of Complex magazine

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  1. Applapoom says:

    She does have an insane body. Love the television commitment-phobe quip, that is what I am like, mostly movies for me!

  2. Tapioca says:

    The key is to know yourself – if you’re not the type to separate sex and love, fine; if you happy and fulfilled with one-night stands or a no-strings relationship that’s cool too.

    I get way too emotionally invested to want to have a one-night stand so they’re not for me! All those Disney princess films I watched as a child have obviously over-romanticised my relationships…

    • JojoAnn says:

      I agree completely. If you cant disassociate sex and love then just dont go there. I had a one night stand in college, it was great. I remember his first name and how good a.time I had but his face is a complete blur. And honestly, I kinda think that scratching that itch helped me do better in my finals, which started a day later.

      • FLORC says:

        College is the time to scratch that itch.
        If 1 of you is too attached it can get weird, but if both of you just want a fun time why not?
        I wonder if she’s fibbing here or really means what she says. No slut shaming.

    • I Choose Me says:

      This is me. I can play out whatever in my fantasies but when it comes to real life, I just can’t get down unless I have feelings for the guy. Lack of conversation skills is a deal breaker for me too.

      • Helvetica says:

        Me, too! I wish I wasn’t that way sometimes! I wish like hell I could just DO IT but I can’t. Sadly I have to have annoying feelings for someone. LOL

  3. Aussie girl says:

    Interesting interview. Is there something regarding her family and past that missing?

    • Sofia says:

      I don’t know. If you read the whole article they say she was raised by a single mother, because her father left her mother while she was pregnant. Her mother hired several women over the years to watch Emmy while she was working. Those would be the nannies who Emmy said told her that if she was good her father would come back. Naturally she faced some disappointment when that didn’t happen! Her role on “Shameless” (as the daughter of an absentee parent) made her really want to seek out her father and try to develop a relationship with him. However he wasn’t interested. She says something along the lines of “you can’t make someone care about you. You just have to accept that they don’t” (I’m paraphrasing here but check out the article for the story.

  4. blue marie says:

    As long as you’re careful there is nothing wrong with a one night stand, sometimes a girl just needs a good screw. I’ve had them, but I’ve also waited, it just depended on the mood I was in..

    As for the interview, I have a hard time remembering who Emmy is..

    • Nerd Alert says:

      ITA. I could have written this post myself. It doesn’t have to be one way or the other; I think it’s totally fine for a woman to get her rocks off even if she enjoys being single. For about 6 years in college and after I was mostly single. I had a few flings and a few f*ck buddies and a one night stand–I was always safe. If someone came along who I thought I might be seriously into, I waited. I don’t regret a thing.

      And I, too do not remember her. I’ve seen her in something, but not Shameless. Meh. Imdb it later.

      • Katy says:

        Phantom of the Opera with Gerard Butler

      • FLORC says:

        Nerd Alert well said.
        Be safe and comfortable.
        I will say once I met my future husband on college I didn’t touch him and messing around with fbuddies lost the allure. Waiting is a good sign you’ve met someone great:)

        I watch Shameless on occasion and have seen PhantomOTO and Beautiful creatures, but she’s a big meh for me. Shameless is great though. Not because of her though.

    • Ange says:

      MTE. I have had plenty of one night stands, probably waaaaaay more than the average person but I never approached them as a person who was giving away their power, if that makes sense. They’re only a shameful thing if you believe in yourself there’s something to be ashamed of. Most of the time the dude and I had a great time and I’d meet some genuinely funny, interesting people. Eventually, like one of the other commenters, I one night standed into marriage and my reign ended lol.

  5. SamiHami says:

    A starlet that doesn’t sound like an idiot? Wow!

  6. raptor says:

    I tried to have a one night stand once. We’re married now.

  7. Tessa says:

    See, Shameless promotes casual meaningless sex just as much or more than Enrique Iglesias. I love her. I have ever since the show started, and I honestly think she’s easily one of the prettiest girls I’ve ever seen… but she needs to take a deeper look at the show she’s on before she gets on Enrique.

    • SonjaMarmeladova says:

      She is amazing in Shameless. Shameless is amazing, one of the rare remakes that is better than the original, IMO.

    • Sofia says:

      I don’t think it “promotes” casual meaningless sex. It depicts it, but that’s something different.

      In the interview Emmy isn’t criticizing casual sex either. She says it’s not for her, but she also says she has no problem with other people doing what they want. What she is objecting to in the song lyrics is that the singer denies the woman any agency; any power over her sexuality- he sees her, and he’s going to f*ck her. He has no interest in getting to know her as a person or even learning her name. She’s objectified. That’s what Emmy is taking issue with.

      On Shameless Emmy’s character does engage in casual sex, but she also retains her sexual power: it’s her choice if she wants to sleep with a guy, when, who, and how often. She has agency and does what she is comfortable with. Yes the show has dealt with themes of rape and sexual exploitation a few times. This has always been depicted as wrong and harmful. In fact when Fiona encounters a work situation in which the boss is demanding sexual favors from his employees she tries to start a revolt, urges the workers to complain, and eventually decides to leave the situation. In another storyline she learns that her bother’s girlfriend is being molested by her father. Despite the fact that she doesn’t even like this girl, Fiona does what she can to help out, including letting the girlfriend live with the family in their already crowded house.

  8. lucy2 says:

    I just started watching Shameless, I think I”m about half way through season 2. I’m not sure how much I like it, but she’s better than I expected in the show.

  9. JessicaC says:

    Emmy doesn’t make sense, she talks about how women shouldn’t be treated as sex merely objects to be banged in a club, but then says if a woman wants to do that it’s cool. Also, she’s kind of sexist. Enrique Iglasias can’t say “let’s f-ck in this club”, but if a female pop artist said that, then it’s fine. I am more than for Emmy saying woman should expect more and not settle for being treated like a sex object and that their wants don’t even matter, but then sat that. Don’t say it’s only not cool when a man says it but that it’s totally cool for a woman to tell other women to settle for being treated that way.

    • Awwww says:

      I think she meant that it’s cool if a woman comes to that conclusion on her own.

    • Nerd Alert says:

      Yeah I noticed that, too. She said she’s fine if women do it but not men, and then in the next breath that she thinks things should be equal. This is why we practice our interview answers.

      I’d like to think that if anyone, anywhere, came up to me and said “tonight, I’m f*cking you,” I’d either laugh or tell them to f*ck right off. I don’t like being told. But a lot of people, male or female, would be down under a lot of conditions.

      • Kristen says:

        I think she’s talking about the double standard. In her opinion, it’s gross for a dude to go out to a club and say to a woman, “Tonight, I’m f***ing you.” She goes on in the interview to discuss one-night stands and sleeping with people you just met; it doesn’t seem to be HER thing.

        Her comments about how it should be equal allude to the double-standard. Women haven’t been “allowed” to express their sexuality quite like men have. If Miley Cyrus came out tomorrow with a song in which she sang, “Tonight, I’m f***ng you,” the backlash would be epic. EPIC.

      • Nerd Alert says:

        I get that. Like I said, she needs to practice her interview skills. In person it probably sounded fine, but on paper it’s contradictory because of how she worded her answer.

  10. Mimz says:

    I instantly became a fan when I watched her on Phantom of the Opera. What an amazing voice and performance overall…
    I don’t watch shameless because I missed the first season and I don’t like to start series halfway…
    But anyway I think she’s amazing, and although very sex-oriented, the interview was quite interesting. I also never had a one night stand but I can’t deny that sometimes I wish I could have one lol. Two years and no action can make you reconsider your principles haha!

    • Decloo says:

      You can watch the earlier seasons on Showtime on Demand, Hulu, Amazon Prime or Netflix. It’s an amazing show.

  11. kimbers says:

    Great interview! Love her!