Charlize Theron’s mom wants her to break it off with ‘womanizer’ Sean Penn


Charlize Theron is really, really close to her mom Gerda. I’m not 100% positive, but I believe Gerda sometimes lives with Charlize, or at the very least Gerda lives very close to Charlize and they do a lot of stuff together, and pretty much see each other every day. For a while there, Gerda and Charlize were always photographed out and about with Charlize’s son Jackson. But I haven’t seen any pics of Gerda since Charlize started banging Sean Penn (and letting Sean spend time with Jackson). Does Gerda approve of Charlize’s baked-ham-looking boyfriend? Star Mag says no.

Charlize Theron and Sean Penn have turned their longtime friendship into a hot new romance, but there’s one person who isn’t a fan of the couple – Charlize’s mom, Gerda. Despite being on hand with Charlize to support Sean at his third annual Help Haiti Home gala on Jan. 11th, Star has learned that Gerda is fearful that womanizing Sean will break her daughter’s heart.

While Gerda has never minded the pair’s friendship, sources say she “begged Charlize not to let it turn romantic.” One of her cautionary tactics? Reminding Charlize that Penn just took a trip with his ex-wife Madonna to Haiti, where the pair reported hooked up.

“Charlize refuses to believe it happened,” the pal tells Star. “But Gerda worries about her, like any mother would.”

[From Star Magazine, print edition]

I don’t know you guys… Gerda was married to an abusive man (Charlize’s father) and one night, when he was coming after her, Gerda killed him in self-defense. I wouldn’t be surprised if THAT is the reason she’s not very fond of Sean Penn. Gerda sees something in Sean that’s all-too-familiar and she wants no part of it and she doesn’t want her daughter and grandson around it either. But maybe it’s the womanizing thing too. God knows Sean Penn is ALSO a womanizer on top of everything else. (“Everything else” = looking like a baked ham.)



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  1. Leah says:

    Looking like a baked ham hahahaha!

    • AlexandraJane says:

      Yes! the =looking liked a baked ham made me laugh out loud!

      • delphi says:

        Don’t insult baked ham! What’d pork ever do to deserve such shade?

        /food shaming
        //slightly sarcastic comment

    • Meaghan says:

      He does look like a baked Ham but obviously her moms problem with him is he is a wife eater! Does NOBODY remember the drama when he was married to Madonna!?! I don’t think it has anything to do with his ham face or womanizing and more along the lines of his history of violence against women.

  2. Greata says:

    Run Charlize Run!!!!!!!!!!

  3. ToodySezHey says:

    Her mom and everyone else with brain function wants it too.

  4. Kali says:

    I think the womanizing could be the least of Charlize’s potential worries with Sean….

  5. neelyo says:

    The only way I can stomach this relationship is to believe that Charlize is just toying with him and is going to publicly dump him and break his heart.

  6. ToodySezHey says:

    But why does Charlize ‘ mom look like a zombie I’m that picture?? Shyt part of me wants charlize to brain her with a bat. Kill that shyt with fire!!!!

  7. Giselle says:

    Thanks for bringing up Charlize’s mom’s experience Kaiser. I remember Charlize talking about this incident. I’m very surprised she would date someone with a history of domestic violence… it’s sad and I hope nothing happens.

  8. Ice Maiden says:

    Gerda sounds like a sensible woman. Charlize could have her pick of men, and she goes for… Sean Penn? Yes, I know love isn’t always logical and rational, at least not from an outsider’s point of view, but come on!

  9. SolitaryAngel says:

    Word from ya mutha, Charlize–please listen to her!!!

  10. blue marie says:

    I agree with Kaiser, I think the womanizing wouldn’t bother her a bit, it’s everything else that might. The dude has anger issues..

    • snakecharmer says:

      there was a weird blind item on cdan (i know i know) about him banging out a hooker while making her wear robin wrights wedding dress with the wedding video playing in the background ….

      • sushilover says:

        wwwww that’s weird! that might mean that he doesn’t got over the Robin Wright divorce yet…Charlize dear, do as Robin did: dump him and get a young hot BF like Ben Foster, who can father your adopted son, someone who doesn’t look a pathetic middle life crisis a**hole by your side (like Penn does)

  11. FLORC says:

    Wasn’t Sean also terribly verbally abusive to Robin too? Not sure if he was ever physical, but something about his personality makes me think he’s a short fuse kind of guy.

  12. eliza says:

    Penn always looks filthy. Take a shower.

  13. Londerland says:

    “Gerda was married to an abusive man (Charlize’s father) and one night, when he was coming after her, Gerda killed him in self-defense. I wouldn’t be surprised if THAT is the reason she’s not very fond of Sean Penn.”

    This. Ever since these two started even as a rumour, all I could think was a big red line connecting Sean Penn’s history of domestic abuse and Charlize’s own experience. Nothing about the match seems healthy. And she deserves better than to end up as another one of his punching bags, verbal or otherwise – another strong woman who probably thinks she can change him. He might have got rid of his guns but he’s not going to change who he is.

  14. Melinda says:

    Charlize is probably in that ‘blissful’ stage (yeah, I know – Sean Penn -ugh!) where she thinks she can tame Penn and change him for the better. But the question is how she’ll react when the inevitable happens. Will she put up with his behaviour or will she tell him to hit the road? I hope for the sake of her son that she makes the right decision.

  15. Mimz says:

    She could do SO much better… But hey victims of abuse or trauma do end up many times falling for equally abusive people. Its unconscious (?) But it happens.
    Sean is the dirt bag (HA!) That hit madonna with a baseball bat. I would stay MILES away!

  16. Christin says:

    Was her father ever proven to have a history of physical abuse? From what little I have read, the story has changed a bit from physical to verbal abuse history. I have no idea what she really grew up seeing, and her father is not around to give his side.

    My point is, her mother may of may not have actually been physically abused. If she had grown up seeing that, why would she not steer clear of a man alleged to have similar aggressive behavior?

    • Londerland says:

      Sadly, it’s a pattern with many children from abusive homes that they end up in similar relationships as adults.

      Or maybe it’s Polanski syndrome – where the ugly reality of a famous person’s past behaviour is well known to the ordinary public, but other celebs assume it’s tabloid exaggeration and give them the benefit of the doubt…

    • Mimz says:

      Honestly, Charlize might be a movie star but do you think her life as a kid was like a movie? Do you think if the Police thought otherwise they wouldn’t have arrested her mother?
      I’m sorry, but if he is not here to defend himself, it’s probably for good reason. I do not wish anyone any harm but I also know that there are pretty messed up people everywhere, and yes, even actors have family members that can be murderers or abuse victims.
      Questioning her mom’s actions so many years later just to snark at Charlize for her (admittedly poor) choices in the love department, don’t justify such assumptions.

    • Christin says:

      Her family situation is not her fault, but it also seems to have different versions told over time. People have commented as if it is a known fact that she witnessed physical abuse during her childhood, but she has at times said it was verbal abuse (possibly related to drinking).

      No type of abuse is acceptable, but claiming abuse or fear after shooting someone in the back (and another man, too – a detail that gets left out of the story) is questionable to me. It always has seemed just a little shady. Why not divorce? Why suddenly play vigilante one day when there are different stories about whether the victim was actually a physical threat at that moment. Just because the police wrote it off doesn’t mean it was 100 percent the way the person who pulled the trigger portrayed it.

    • snakecharmer says:

      i think abuse is hard process. many patterns of behavior repeatedly manifest in relationships, especially in terms of controlling men.

  17. Mandy says:

    I had never heard that story about Charlize’s dad. How awful. I agree with Gerda-DUMP SEAN. He is NO GOOD.

  18. jj says:

    People can say whatever they want about Penn, but I do think that after all those years in showbiz, he has never opted for the easy -I just want to make some money- way. He consistently seeks interesting projects in which he gives excellent performances and I do believe his involvement in politics and social causes are not PR driven but rather because he actually cares.

    Theron is no dumb blonde bimbo who will take shit from him and I think she very much knows what she has gotten herself into (if they are real, which I doubt)

    Funny that Penn, who everybody loves to hate got a classier GF/PR deal than Johnny Depp.

    • eliza says:

      Well at least Depp doesn’t have the reputation as a hot headed abusive ahole. That trumps anything about Penn.

      • FingerBinger says:

        Johnny Depp used to trash hotel rooms on a regular basis. There was also some rumblings about drug use. His relationship with Kate Moss was supposedly very contentious. It definitely isn’t the same thing,but Johnny is no angel that’s for sure.

      • jinni says:

        @FingerBinger: Trashing hotel rooms (really there was only one known incident, it wasn’t like he was doing that every weekend) isn’t the same as holding your SO against her will and torturing her until she was able to escape.

      • jj says:

        I am sure hanging out with Penn is no picnic but Depp has some very creepy and dark skeletons in his closet, things that his PR team successfully kept away from the mainstream media for years. His shady business dealings in the Viper room and the disappearance of his business partner Anthony Fox just before he could testify against Depp in court (The guy is still missing). His friendship with Polanski and the West Memphis three, his interest in artwork by a mass murderer. I would be scared shit getting involved with Depp.

    • jinni says:

      So because he’s a “good” actor and has a girlfriend you approve of that means his sh*tty behavior should be overlooked. Plus, what does Johnny have to do with this? Johnny may have had a temper when he was younger, but at no time has there ever been rumors or in the case of Penn legit stories about him abusing his partners. Compare Penn to Josh Brolin, Charlie Sheen, Sean Connery, Mel Gibson, Sean Bean, the list goes on unfortunately. There are plenty of men in Hollywood you can compare Penn to and Depp isn’t one of them.

  19. Bex says:

    The whole world wants her to break it off with Sean Penn!

    • Santolina says:

      But when Mom says it, it’s more likely to backfire. Don’t people do the exact opposite of what their parents tell them when it comes to choosing a partner? *sigh*

  20. MrsBPitt says:

    He strikes me as the type of dirtbag, that will tell you anything and everything that you want to hear in the beginning of the relationship…but eventually, his true colors show…she is a fool is she thinks this abusive leopard has changed his spots…

    • Christin says:

      This is what I suspect as well. He seems like the type who can be charming at first, but look out later.

      • MollyB says:

        Yep. He seems charismatic and charming until you starting “taking him for granted” and “acting like a bitch”.

      • snakecharmer says:

        christin i have had several boyfriends who were so amazing, for the first six months to a year. then, when we were deeply involved became extremely controlling . many people will hide their true personality. its hard to understand if you are an ernest person who isn’t conniving. you are spot on.

      • Christin says:

        I didn’t really understand emotional abuse until having first hand experience. They are aware enough not to start out with their controlling, browbeating behavior. Emotional abuse is a slow, deliberate process.

        I am sorry others have had to go through it. I was fortunate enough to get away with a lesson learned at a young age, yet I know others (both men and women) who have put up with it for years and won’t leave due to fear, having children, etc.

  21. m says:

    Unfortunately many women are drawn to men like their fathers. My grandfather was a abusive and legally insane…all of my moms boyfriends when she was young were losers like her father and she always talks about how lucky she was to break the pattern and find a guy as great as my dad.

    • Hiddles forever says:


      It was the same for me, it took a report to the police to break that pattern. My father was abusive (and not physical… Who cares when you hear an ahole screaming all day and putting you down for twenty years? People should care about abuse, not just physical abuse!) so I spent a good 20 years with losers until I found the big one, the superloser… Well who nearly killed me.

      I hope it won’t take that much to Charlize to realise she is together with an abusive loser.

      • snakecharmer says:

        it breaks my heart to hear that. ive been there. men can fool you, but at some point you have to stop it for yourself.

    • Lis says:

      My father was physically and verbally abusive and left me with little self-esteem, but enough NOT to pick a husband even remotely like my father.

      Like I told all of my previous boyfriends, “The only man allowed to lay a hand on me was my father. You hit me and I will not hesitate to kick your a$$.”

  22. TheCountess says:

    Team Gerda. Charlize has dreadful taste in men.

  23. Dani says:

    She must be desperate, insecure or just crazy to go for someone like Sean Penn. She has THE WORST taste in guys. She’s so pretty and comes off super cool – what are you doing Charlize?!?!

    • FingerBinger says:

      Robin was with him for 20 years. Also married and had children with him, but she’s wonderful and a great person. Charlize dates him for a few months and she’s “desperate, insecure, or just crazy,” and has “THE WORST taste in guys”. Interesting.

      • Doug says:

        @Fingerbinger your comments, also on other posts, are always talking s-hit about Robin Wright. What did she made to you? She’s not even mentioned on the post but you always bring her up in a negative way. I read all post here and you comment Robin Wright in a negative way in every Sean Penn post related, even when Robin is not the subject. Did her dog s-hit on you garden?

      • FingerBinger says:

        @Doug My point is that Robin Wright is with him, literally for decades, and she’s talked about like she’s the greatest thing since sliced bread. Charlize hasn’t been with him that long and all of a sudden her sanity, character and morals are all called into to question,but not Robin’s. That doesn’t seem fair. What was wrong with her that she stayed so long. For the children? Maybe she’s crazy too. BTW If my comments bother you so much you don’t have to read them. You can skip over them if you like.

      • snakecharmer says:

        robin is an amazing character actress and so gorgeous. i love her

      • snakecharmer says:

        i love charlize too. they are both amazing women and i think great role models. its hard when it comes to relationships

      • sushilover says:

        I think Sean was a decent father and husband for most of the marriage to Robin, She really changed the brat back a**hole Sean was until he net her into a focused actor, respected and Oscar winner. I doubt Penn would have achieve what he did without Robin’s stability and support. He acknowledge this himself, in more that one interview he said Robin was his anchor. The obviously he screw everything after the success he had he went into becoming a queen with serious drug problems, everybody in Hollywood knows he is a coke head. Poor Charlize.

    • Dani says:

      Robin and Sean were before my time really (their daughter is a year younger than I am) so I don’t know much about their relationship which is why I didn’t say anything. When their relationship started falling apart I was all about 10 year old so…

  24. Lis says:

    Personally I think Charlize is one of the most beautiful women on the planet and I don’t understand this hook-up. Maybe behind closed doors he is a decent guy? Or is well endowed??? Who knows …

  25. BooBooLaRue says:

    Team Gerda!

  26. Katherine says:

    I doubt anyone knows what Charlize’s mom thinks about this. But her mother should be the LAST person Charlize should be taking relationship advice from.

    • Christin says:

      Agree. Rather than worrying about breaking her heart, I’d worry about him breaking my daughter’s jaw.

  27. Maureen says:

    The pictures of Sean with Charlize and little J at the store gave me second-hand embarrassment. There’s this guy with a tough, alpha male reputation and he’s all following behind his (much younger, much taller, and more elegant-looking) girlfriend looking like a bit of a jackass and more than a bit emasculated. Especially the photos of him trying to entertain the little boy who appears to not even be looking at him. There’s something really pathetic about that entire set of photos from that shopping trip.

    • Julia says:

      I had the same feeling. I saw a poor f_cker trying so hard to maybe start a new life at 54, when he trow away his marriage to Princes Buttercup, for what? Booze, drugs and hookers? He will do the same with Charlize, if she’s desperate enough for a man. At 54 years old you cannot change a man. Besides, at 54 more than a father to Jackson he looks like a grandpa. Pathetic.

    • Liam says:

      He’s not at all an alpha male. He calls himself that way, but he’s just the opposite: an insecure 5 7” asshol* who beats women. If I ever run into him, I’ll start taking photos him my cell phone, aspect him to react the way he did recently with a fan. I may get a few days in jail for assault, if he’ll ever have the nerve to press charges, but I will beat his a** properly, like nobody did before. That will put him in his place, little overrated prick of an actor.

      • Maureen says:

        I don’t believe he’s an alpha male. I actually made this point in another thread the other day that he’s not. What I said above is that he has that *reputation*.

    • FingerBinger says:

      So if he tries to act like a gentleman or at least pretend to be a gentleman, he’s been ’emasculated’? So he should act like a caveman,(which seems to be the consensus), and drag her around by the hair or walk ahead of her in the grocery store? OK. He also tries to entertain the kid and that’s wrong too? I guess this guy can’t do anything right. I’ll also let you in on a little secret: many ‘tough guys’ actually do have a soft spot for children.

  28. Grace says:

    Why nobody talks about the age difference. My God, in the post about his ex wife Robin the age difference between she and her fiancé Ben is always noticed as in a negative way, calling them toy-boy and cougar, very disrespectfully. When the man is 15 (Robin and Ben difference is 14!) is always a normal thing. Penn is 54 years old and could be Jackson grandfather. God, Charlize must be desperate for a man, to take that garbage home.

    • Maureen says:

      The age difference is the very least of the problems here. Also, he can’t be Jackson’s grandfather, because he’s not old enough to be Charlize’s father. [EDIT: Sorry, I was wrong. I thought he was 50, not 54.] Still, the age difference between Charlize and Sean is really insignificant compared to the other glaring problems, namely his anger management issues, his drinking, and his cheating.

  29. Ravensdaughter says:

    Yikes! I can see the crusader tendency in both of them-devoted to causes and serious about carrying them through-but otherwise, bleech.
    Maybe Sean has reformed (ha-ha-ha).
    As for what her mother thinks, I think it’s Charlize’s call. She’s almost 40-there must be a point at which your parents stop feeling that their opinions should carry weight (vs just being take-it-or-leave it advice); by forty, the “child” should be free to make his/her own decisions without parental hysteria..
    I tried to give my 35 year old niece-I thought I was her favorite auntie!-some advice about her impending marriage. The advice was NOT “don’t marry him”; it was to discuss and resolve the child issue before marriage. We have had a great relationship forever, but she has a tendency to disappear into her boyfriends and lose her own power and common sense. I was really concerned that they might get married without seriously discussing all the implications-including whether to have children or not in the first place. One big red flag: they are both very ambitious with their careers, but my niece is not Ivanka Trump. They can’t afford to hire a nanny to cover long days.
    Yes, the advice was based on my own very painful experience, and I said in the e-mail (first mistake) that I loved her very much and I was giving her that advice because I loved her and would never want to see her suffer. I considered it take-it-or-leave-it advice. SMACK! She slapped me down like a fruit fly and hasn’t spoken to me since…

  30. Ryan K. says:

    Robin Wright was a keeper. You ungrateful a**hole