Star: Tori Spelling hired a PI who says Dean McDermott cheats with dudes too

Tori Spelling

At this point, I’m feeling as exhausted by the Tori Spelling & Dean McDermott marriage drama as Tori is probably feeling herself. It wouldn’t feel so tired if Tori was granting us fresh pap photos on a daily basis. I had to go back to 2012 to avoid repeating photos we’ve used recently, which is why Tori is preggers in a few of these photos. She’s been pregnant for so much of her and Dean’s marriage. Not that this is an excuse for his behavior.

We talked yesterday about how Dean McDermott entered rehab for his sex addiction. The story was that Dean wants to save his marriage after banging a Canadian random. We also heard a few weeks ago that Tori’s been aware of Dean’s cheating for years. I guess it didn’t really become a problem until everyone else found out about it, which is strange, but to each their own.

Dean has confirmed to Us Weekly that he is indeed in rehab and wants to win back his family’s trust: “I am truly sorry for the mistakes I have made and for the pain I’ve caused my family. I take full responsibility for my actions and have voluntarily checked myself into a treatment center to address some health and personal issues. I am grateful to be getting the help I need so I can become the husband and father my family deserves.” So he doesn’t admit the cheating or the sex rehab, but I think we can safely read between his smarmy lines.

This week’s issue of Star has a HUGE story about Tori and Dean. A three-page story. I don’t know how much of this is true, and I edited a lot of filler from the article. The gist is that Tori hired a private eye to spy on Dean. The PI came back and said Dean’s been skimming money from Tori, which could help explain the lack of vasectomy money. Wait, that’s not all! The detective also told Tori that Dean’s been cheating with multiple partners of both sexes:

*drum roll*

Tori Spelling was so upset over reports that Dean McDermott had cheated on her in Toronto with 28-year-old Emily Goodhand that she secretly hired a private detective to investigate her husband, who had been out of town for an extended period, promoting his cooking show, Chopped Canada.

Now, Star has learned, the P.I.’s report has come in — and Tori is horrified. After reading it, she now fears that Dean has not only been taking her money for years, but that he’s cheated on her repeatedly — with both women and men. “Tori is absolutely shell-shocked,” a family friend tells Star. “She’s in so much pain. Now, she’s terrified that the loving marriage she thought she shared with Dean was built on lies and deception. She doesn’t know where to turn.”

Though a part of her still wants to believe that her husband has done no harm, Tori’s fears have now made divorce a very real possibility. “She’s finally considering it,” the friend says, and even though she’s worried about the effect it would have on her four children, she’s scared that if her suspicions prove correct, she may have no other choice. “Her whole world is crumbling. She’s suffering. Tori never thought that Dean would turn out to be a cheating, thieving husband.”

But while Tori’s friend says she believes her husband has a sex addiction, she’d thought it was under control. As upset as she was when [Emily Goodhand came forth], Tori was trying to believe that Goodhand wasn’t telling the truth, or at the very worst, that her loving husband had made a one-time mistake.

But now, Tori’s hopes have been dashed. According to the friend, she now suspects that Dean’s fling was one of many — and that he’d betrayed her, repeatedly, with both sexes. “Never in her wildest dreams did Tori believe Dean was cheating with men,” the friend says.

Veering between disbelief and overwhelming anger, Tori has tried confronting Dean, the friend says. But he only makes matters worse by refusing to talk about whether he’s been unfaithful. “He won’t discuss his cheating behavior with her,” the friend says. “He either argues with her about her lack of trust, or he just flat-out ignores her.”

According to the friend, Tori now thinks it’s possible that Dean — a known partier with an off-and-on acting career — has spent much of her savings. “She’s terrified that he’s been doing it for years. It looks like he’s been using the money to party with his low-life friends. He’s nowhere near the man she raved about on her reality shows. She’s afraid Dean will swindle what’s left of her money.”

So far, Dean has done nothing to redeem himself in Tori’s eyes. “He’s going out drinking and acting irresponsible, like some sort of overgrown frat boy,” says another close source. “He has been very insensitive toward Tori and has become verbally abusive.”

Though he did agree to start going to marriage counseling — and to go into therapy for his sex addiction — Tori’s friends believe that he’s just going through the motions. “Dean seems like he’s done,” said the source.

[From Star, print edition, February 3, 2014]

The story goes on to stress that Tori never asked Dean to sign a prenup because she believed he was her “soulmate.” Of course. So Tori can’t divorce Dean even if she wants to because he’ll take all of her (nonexistent) money. This is getting so torrid, and I’m not sure if I believe any of it at this point. Does Dean really go both ways? Who knows.

This is getting even more interesting because Mary Jo Eustace (who was Dean’s wife when he cheated with Tori) finally decided to give a statement to People: “I wish Dean only the best in his struggle to overcome the demons he has been wrestling with for many years, so he can become the father and the man I know he wants to be.” Ahem.

Tori Spelling

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  1. Suze says:

    She knew what he was when she picked him up.

    • MrsB says:

      Yep, hard to feel any sympathy for her. Karma really does work.

    • jessibes says:

      Yes and probably thought she could change him.

    • Gia says:

      Exactly!

      “Her whole world is crumbling. She’s suffering. Tori never thought that Dean would turn out to be a cheating, thieving husband.”

      Really? Because he cheated on his first wife with YOU, you absolute, f-cking moron!! They deserve each other. Only sympathy I have is for the kids. And Mary-Jo is a saint for not flipping the bitch switch with a, “Karma’s a bitch eh? Hahahaha! Suck it!”

  2. Tracy says:

    It’s not like she didn’t know he was a cheater from the get go.

  3. Renee says:

    Doesn’t add up. She hired a PI AFTER the Canadian random incident only to discover he’s been cheating with men and women? Chances are he’d refrain from cheating while the heat is on over the Canadian random. So I doubt any PI would make this startling discovery in this brief time period.

    • mytbean says:

      Wouldn’t proof of his cheating sort of screw his chances of getting money in a divorce? I thought judges considered infidelity a kind of breach of the marital contract and the cheater will walk away empty handed if there’s inarguable proof. Maybe Tori is making everything so public so that there’ll be no question when/if this lands in a courtroom?

      • Mauibound says:

        California is a no fault state I believe. Cheating and issues like that don’t mean squat in a divorce case

    • enya. says:

      I was thinking the same thing.

    • lovegossipbutnotL&E says:

      P.I.’s can find out stuff BEFORE. They don’t investigate just the NOW. If true, he probably dug up some sh*t.

    • dls says:

      the pi could have discovered past cheating instances

  4. crab says:

    I bet their ex’s are laughing their asses off because I know I am!

    • Mrs Odie says:

      I thought that too. Although with kids involved, it’s hard to be too smug. I wonder if Mehran is hurt that Dean didn’t slip him the peen, now that it’s “come out” he’s bi. I wouldn’t put it past Dean to hit on Mehran, but I know that Mehran at least would never do that to Tori. Unlike her HUSBAND who took vows to put her before all others. I didn’t want to believe this could happen, but Dean was the wrong guy for me (and Tori) to put faith in.

  5. Hautie says:

    I hate to say this. But I am not buying any of this story. At all.

    I don’t believe that ole’ Dean has been shagging all these random jump off’s. Be it women or men. That poor Tori “can’t” divorce him. There is no pre-nup! I just do not believe any of it.

    What I do suspect, is that Tori needs a new reality show. And has set in motion a way to squeeze a check out, by throwing Dean under the bus.

    Tori has done every kind of reality show with the exception of “help me SAVE my marriage”. And of course Dean has to be proven a sleaze ball, to get that PR attention she needs, to get a show order.

    So in steps Star. And a devoted three page “story” of poor Tori’s struggles.

    Please. Stop. I do not believe any of it.

    The only thing that has happen is… the pass, I have always given Tori and her big bag of crazy. Is over.

    • Jennabean says:

      That’s what I came to say.

    • FLORC says:

      Agreed.
      This is Star Magazine! They’re printing plausible scenerios, but it doesn’t make it true. This reads like a Blind Item.

      And you’re so right. Hasn’t Tori been shopping for another reality show? She was a few years ago and was shut down. Now this “scandal” pops up with increasingly torrid details coming out all the time.
      Not buying this at all.

    • lovegossipbutnotL&E says:

      Except, doesn’t she have a new show coming out with Jennie Garth? I thought I read that somewhere. Would she do both that and a reality show? I think maybe there is some truth to this (look at the dude, totally skeevey), but she is probably making it bigger for the attention and publicity. =-O

      • dls says:

        yes she does have a new show coming out. totally agree dean is eww. he and mr ed from leaho rimes kept man should get together and compare notes

  6. Applapoom says:

    Should be prepared for a man to cheat if he was someone else’s man before. Also, her father died in 2006, the same year she married Dean (their on-set affair started in 2005) so guess the parents, with decades of experience in hollywood may have expected it to come to this. I am sure they knew their daughter well enough to expect she would not have a pre-nup. So thank goodness for that. Tori would have been a complete idiot with all that money. I loved all of Aaron Spelling’s tv shows, such a guilty pleasure! Beverly Hills 90210, Melrose Place, Models Inc…good old 90s 🙂

  7. lucy2 says:

    I don’t have much sympathy for her on the cheating part, they both cheated to get together. I also find it interesting, after her discussing money troubles and her spending, and getting a justifiably bad reaction from the public, now suddenly Dean’s been “skimming”.

  8. danielle says:

    Wow, did Tori leak all this? She’s really playing hardball. His ex must be laughing her butt off.

  9. xxx says:

    I hope she’s figured out he’s only in it for the money and probably has been since the beginning.

    • Mrs Odie says:

      It’s starting to look like Candy made the right decision, keeping those Aaron Spelling bucks out of Tori’s reach until Dean is out of the way.

      • MyCatLoves TV says:

        Call Candy what we will…..she saw how this was going to play out and did what was necessary to save her wayward daughter from herself.

  10. ToodySezHey says:

    How can I put this……

    So??????

    Who cares about some has-been heiress and her low-rent, possibly twink K Fed

  11. eliza says:

    I hate her toe-less booties. That is all.

  12. Sloane Wyatt says:

    Shit just got real.

    Tori’s picker is busted, just like her judgement.

    She needs to dump Dean and then dive into charity work with her kids. If she had some meaning in her life, Tori could turn it all around and regain her self respect. I think she must be horribly insecure and she really needs to rebuild her life.

  13. Dorothy says:

    Karma is a beyotch! Their exs are shaking their heads; I know I am! I personally don’t believe that sex addiction rehab works. He is doing because he between a rock and a very hard place which means he is screwed! 🙁

    • Mitch Buchanan Rocks! says:

      Mary-Jo dodged a bullet – sometimes blessings in life come in strange packages. Wonder if she has re-married?

  14. Immy says:

    Makes no sense, Tori and Dean are too poor to afford a vasectomy for Dean, but then Tori has the funds to hire a PI, and then to have Dean put in rehab for sex addiction????

  15. serena says:

    “Tori never thought that Dean would turn out to be a cheating, thieving husband.” .. never thought? Is she serious? That’s how they met and ended up together in the first place!

  16. Quinn Parker says:

    There’s no rehab for fixing CHEATER. Sorry, guys.

    And Karma…she’s a real bitch.

    • Decloo says:

      Yeah, I love how you can go to rehab now for cheating on your spouse. What other bits of nastiness can we cure with rehab? Stealing? Poor fashion choices? laziness?

  17. TheCountess says:

    There’s rehab for doucheism?

  18. Dani says:

    I know I’m the minority but I actually like Dean. This whole story just seems too elaborate….almost too fake. I would buy that he cheated, but I don’t buy the whole PI finding men and women etc.. She also seems unbearable honestly (not that it makes it okay to cheat!!!) so I don’t doubt this is some big ploy of hers to get him to wits end to leave her and not ask for a settlement.

  19. Lis says:

    Why she had FOUR children with a cheater and expected it to turn out any differently is beyond me.

  20. Mitch Buchanan Rocks! says:

    So cute they posed with Octo-Mom 🙂

  21. Jem says:

    Johnny Depp needs to pay attention to this

  22. Christin says:

    She was so confident in her loving marriage that she became pregnant weeks after giving birth. She made a comment about having to keep him interested.

    I guess you really do lose them the way you get them. I guess Mary Jo is keeping it classy due to having a child with him.

  23. hopperlea says:

    Always was and still a fan of Tori. Hope all works out for her.

  24. joan says:

    Sex addicts often were sexually abused as a child so maybe rehab will rule that in or rule it out.

  25. Barrett says:

    This headline made me laugh out loud. Ouch. The ex said it all in her statement.

  26. Vanessa Lutz says:

    Ok, I’ve been lurking around these parts for a looong time and this is my first ever comment. I don’t want to fight with anyone on my first day! Anyway, I once saw Tori cry and say “if it’s a girl I hope she’s pretty” during her first pregnancy on one of her many reality shows. I felt so bad for her and it let me know that she’s aware of her, uhmm, unfortunate looks and really suffers with low self esteem. That being said, she’s getting nothing less than what she deserves right now.

  27. anne_000 says:

    I now understand why Tori’s father gave her only a little bit in his will. He had to force her to get a pre-nup for her first marriage. But was probably too sick to force her to get one for her second marriage and died the following month. If Tori had gotten millions from her dad, then she & Dean would have used that up years ago on stupid, trifling stuff. She apparently has storage units full of expensive items. She was evicted from her last place for non-payment. She got a more expensive place instead. Her Santa Monica store closed down. She can’t control her husband nor her own personal finances from him. She apparently has no idea what’s going on with her money, if Star’s story is true. She made disastrous (allegedly) real estate deals. She’s a mess.

    And this sex-addiction thing? I don’t buy it. If you cheat, it’s because you choose to cheat. It’s not because some neuro-chemical made you take your clothes off. If he’s been cheating for so long, then it’s because he never thought much about it to want to modify his behavior. The only thing that got him into a (probably half-hearted) rehab session is because he got outed in public. That’s all.

    And this thing about resisting to pay for or get a vasectomy? Doesn’t Tori realize that any money Dean will shell out for child support to another woman’s baby will be by using some of her money? Just stupid (& greedy) all around.

  28. Deehunny says:

    This is only about money. She can stomach the cheating but not the money stealing if she gets a divorce that’ll be why. Kathy Griffin’s marriage comes to mind.

    • MyCatLoves TV says:

      I thought of Kathy Grifin’s divorce as well. Well, and my own divorce, too. Mess with my heart….I’ll cry. Mess with my money that I worked hard for….see you in court. After I have taken care of myself before filing the papers. Even if our loins or our hearts get the better of our better nature (brains), we can never forget that only WE can control OUR lives and only WE can depend upon OURSELVES if the stuff hits the fan. Be fair. But don’t be stupid. Maybe Tori (I don’t stand for the cheating on her part whatsoever, by the way) couldn’t do this alone. Maybe, just maybe, Candy is a more loving and understanding mother than we (I) have given her credit for. Maybe she really has been trying to protect her youngster this entire time. (While giving out the digs….)

  29. Jinx says:

    I think women who marry their illicit affairs are, indeed, surprised when they get cheated on (I’ve seen this pattern with friends.)
    I believe such a woman thinks she is just so hot that her guy couldn’t help but break his previous marriage vows. She thinks she’s so hot, her guy would NEVER cheat on her. She thinks their love was meant to be.

  30. John Wayne Lives says:

    “Ouch” and “of course he did”…. that’s all I’ve got.

    • oi says:

      I guess she never heard the old saying about cheaters.If they’ll do it with you,they’ll do it to you.MaryJ must be laughing her @ss off.

  31. lou says:

    He left his first wife when they had just adopted a new baby. So Tori really thought he would stick it out with her and not dump her if something better came along.