Jimmy Kimmel’s show has such good writers. They consistently come up with funny viral videos, attention-getting skits for celebrities, and ways to make us notice things we otherwise wouldn’t care about. Hence this clever stunt. Kimmel had Bachelor Sean Lowe and his soon-to-be bride, Catherine Giudici, on his show last week. That was ahead of their live, televised wedding on Sunday. It was ABC’s fourth Bachelor wedding. (BuddyTV has a recap of the ceremony if you’re interested.)
So Jimmy asked both Sean and Catherine the question they’ve capitalized on since the beginning of their relationship: did they really wait until marriage to have sex? He didn’t just ask this question while they were talking on air, he had them both take separate lie detector tests. Then he promised to reveal the results on Monday night. Spoiler: they both passed. Or did they?
“Bachelor” stars Sean Lowe and Catherine Giudici got married in a live, televised ceremony over the weekend, but it was their claim that they’d abstained from sex throughout their entire engagement that may have gotten even more attention. It certainly got the attention of Jimmy Kimmel.
The late-night host wasn’t satisfied to take the couple at their word, and so he strapped them into a lie detector machine to find the real truth. Each of them was strapped in separately, and they stood by their claims that they had never had sex with one another. He promised to reveal the results on Monday night’s “Jimmy Kimmel Live,” one night after their wedding.
Viewers got to see both of them strapped into the machine and questioned, where they stood their ground. When it was over, Kimmel asked, “Did they abstain from sex before marriage for a period of 16 months?” He was a little disappointed to find out that they’d been truthful. He also felt strangely proud of them.
It’s a very valid question. We’ve heard that Sean’s “born again virgin” claim was all for publicity, and it’s not like he was a virgin from the get-go. Maybe they’re telling the truth though, this lie detector kind of convinced me. Not that it means their relationship will last by any means. I’ll be surprised if they make it past the year mark.
Here’s the video where Kimmel asks these two about waiting until marriage. I have basically the same question he has “How do you know you really want to get married? Maybe you’re just really horny for each other.” He also asked “do you know how to do it?” I couldn’t marry someone without giving the tires many hard kicks, but to each their own I guess.
Here are some photos from Sean and Catherine’s wedding, thanks to Reality Tea. Other photos are of Sean playing football last week, and with Catherine in November. Credit: WENN.com and FameFlynet.
I love this couple.
Uh, you are wrong…all four (4) couples met and married someone from the same show, same season.
Thanks I will edit that, but seriously, they all are people who met on the show and got engaged on the show?
Yes, with a twist. One bachelor, Jason, proposed to a girl from his season and broke the engagement, saying he’d picked the wrong girl and then proposed to the runner-up from the same show. They are now happily married with a baby.
I know very little about these people. I assumed he was Mormon, but that doesn’t follow with the “born again virginity”. I’m actually a little uncomfortable with them going on Jimmy Kimmel and being mocked. Are they so naïve they didn’t realize they were the butt of the joke?
I’ve noticed over the last few years that in reaction against “slut shaming”, virgin shaming is rearing it’s ugly head. It’s a personal choice, and it certainly protects people from STDs and unplanned pregnancies. As long as each individual makes their own choice (versus the patriarchal ownership of a daughter’s virtue by her creepy father who gives her a purity ring), what’s the harm?
I totally agree with this, and I’ve noticed it too. It seems that whatever choices a woman makes for her sex life, she’ll be shamed for it–she’s called either a slut or a prude. It’s awful. There’s nothing shameful about being a virgin or choosing to not have sex, and there’s nothing shameful about having sex with whomever you want (as long as you’re safe about it), or anything in between.
If you click on every level except sex that’s a deal breaker. I don’t care what anyone says. Sex is really important and if you’re married to the dude and you’re either having bad sex or no sex that’s your que to leave.
Subjectively, ITA with you 100%.
That being said, waiting to have sex is a personal choice and I have a lot of respect for people who remain true to their convictions ‘cus that shit can’t be easy.
Also, if other…er, activities are allowed then they might be having more fun than we think. Maybe the guy gives great head? In that case, even if the sex is awful, she could still potentially be getting great orgasms for the rest of her life and ain’t nothin’ wrong with that, my friend.
Probably TMI, but I dated my ex-husband for three (3) years and was a virgin when we married. I’d never do it again.
If your man is good at other things but the actual sex is bad then that’s a positive. You have something to work with there. But what I’m saying is; if the actual sex is awful and your partner is unwilling to do anything else to please you then that’s a deal breaker.
If you are in a sexless relationship and both people didn’t agree to it it will lead to a lot of angry hurt and resentful feelings. I’m in no way saying that this is their story, but a general observation.
@JudyK-you dated him for THREE years and never did the nasty? Wow!
@Aims-Hey, you’re preaching to the choir here.
I won’t go on a second date with a dude if the sex sucks. Oopsies-have I revealed too much???
I’m pretty impatient..not much for waiting 😉
Kitten, I know it sounds implausible, but it was a very long time ago. I was 24 when I got married; standards were different back then.
There’s a big difference between my situation and Sean and Catherine’s. They both had prior relationships (with sex), but, for each other, decided to wait for marriage. Another big difference: I was NEVER best friends with my ex-husband, unlike Sean and Catherine. We saw each other only for formal dates in the evening…we never hung out together. So it was unrealistic romance that fell apart on our wedding night and never improved, because we didn’t have the bond of “best friends” and shared experiences to get us through rough times.
I started back to work in another city three weeks after we got married. We worked in the same area and walked together through an underground tunnel to get to our respective destinations. I will never forget him “rubber necking” every pretty girl who walked by, three weeks after our marriage. I despise the man to this day.
Oh, and I made up for lost time after the divorce.
I strongly disagree with this. There are many times when a couple wont be able to have sex for extended periods or even ever. Think sexual disfunctions, low sex drives, asexuality, illness, disability, genital abnormalities, mental disorders like OCD, etc etc. But many couples still manage to have happy marriages without the promise of sex.
I dont know how old you are but I suspect that as you mature in your relationship you will find that while sex is awesome, it is really just a cherry on the top. You could live in a sexless marriage if all your other needs were fulfilled but good luck with a marriage where the sex is great but your intellectual or emotional needs arent met.
I’m in my thirties and have been married for seven teen years. Sexuality is a desire and important. Of course there are many factors that come into play regarding lack of sex.
I was talking about two healthy and able people who were unwilling to improve or wanting to please their partner. I also said that if there was an agreement between the two regarding having a sexless relationship then that’s their business, but if one doesn’t want sex and the other one does then there’s a lot of hurt feelings involved. Sexuality is not a dirty word nor a dirty act. And it should be talked about without shame.
I agree with you, Aims. It’s one thing if someone can’t have sex or both partners have low sex drives and don’t want to do it anymore, totally. It’s a completely different ballgame if you marry someone who wants to have sex every day and you would rather just do it once a week. Very soon, the more sexual partner will become resentful, unattractive, and restless and the less sexual partner will feel like the other only wants sex all the time.
The key is compatibility whether it be mental, physical, or emotional. If you like dressing up in a latex jumpsuit and being called Santa during the act then you should probably find someone who’s cool with that. If you don’t really enjoy having a lot of sex, you need to find someone who’s cool with that, too. You can’t do that as a virgin, and I don’t understand why anyone would enter into a contract for life without knowing 33% of the picture.
“” I couldn’t marry someone without giving the tires many hard kicks”
Amen! They have good intentions I guess but this is madness. It’s 2014 in the USA, not 1014 in Iraq. Sexual compatibility is a big deal when you’re aiming for THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. I’m not convinced they will last past the first two kids – but they do seem to have staying power!
I’d be curious to hear statistics on divorce rates on couples who waited until marriage. Surely it’s not higher than the greater than 50% marriage failure rate of the general public.
If I remember right, divorce rates among those who wait are lower than the American average. However, this isn’t necessarily because they wait. Abstinence until marriage is most common among those who are conservative and religious. Those same people tend to look down upon divorce as well. Thus, they are more likely to remain in marriages, as opposed to divorcing. So the short answer is – yes, couples who wait are more likely to last. However, you can’t directly attribute that to waiting. There are many factors at play here.
Not necessarily. Some couples don’t have sex! Or they have very little. Plenty of couples out there have little to no sex – people with mental trauma that prevents it, medical conditions, or people who just aren’t interested. As long as both partners are on the same page, it works just fine. Nobody should be looking to TV, or the media, or anyone else to try to see how important sex should be to them. There’s only what works for you. I’ve met a great many couples who are sexless – or nearly so. I’ve also met people who can’t go 24 hours without. As long as they have a partner /partners who are on the same wavelength, it’s cool.
Yeah. My good friend fell madly, love at first sight for a really great guy and learned about 3 weeks into it that he had been injured during active duty and as such had a lot of difficulty having sex (he had a bad back injury and a lot of nerve damage). They got married and are still married 5 years later, but they don’t have much of a sex life- while intercourse is pretty much off the table, they don’t do much of the other fun stuff. I wouldn’t be happy in that relationship, but they both are. People have different expectations for the importance that sex plays in their relationships.
But two people who enter into a marriage without having had sex can’t really know that can they? Even if they think they have similar drives it may turn out the reality of their pairing might mean one or the other deviates from that.
I’m going to be really crass here, but when he says he’s “waiting” that means just intercourse right? I assume handies and BJs are still allowed?
My take on it is. Hands and oral is ok but not actually penatration. I could be wrong though.
Ha, great minds must think alike because I was totally thinking she’s probably given him a few beejs. I wonder if an*l counts too? LOL.
Side note, people who are “born again virgins” really irk me for some reason. Once you’ve lost it, there ain’t no going back.
I think it depends on the circumstances under which “it” was lost. Just because you make a mistake doesn’t mean you have to keep making it… Everyone has to decide what’s right for their own body. That said, I would prefer they use the word celibate or abstinent (as Wik says below).
I’m sorry but I think this “born again virgin” thing is crap. Either you’re a virgin or you’re not.
This!!! CELIBATE. ABSTINENT. Do they not know these words exist??
Okay, do you need to tell everyone in the whole world. I find them very cheesy.
That first picture of him playing basketball in the blue shorts…. Did he STUFF his shorts for this shot??? Looks like a rolled up sock…. Lol
I have to add, it has it’s own shadow!!!! Lol I can’t be the only one seeing this?? 😀
Snort! Jaw drops.
I agree with @Renee28….if you have had sex before, you are not a VIRGIN!! Give me a break! And why does this couple keep talking about this?? In my mind, TMI…..do we really need to know this?
I think he might want to not really wear those silky blue shorts in public.
For a born again virgin, he sure is displaying the goods via specific outline.
Cute guy though
Can’t stand the show….cringe when all these giddy women compete and make asses of. themselves over a guy…thet act like they’re in junior high or rush week in a sorority…class it up, women!
I’ve worked with couples for many years & rarely were they on the brink of divorce because of bad or infrequent sex. Over 30 yrs the #1 problem is different values over MONEY. #2: second/third marriage involving kids from previous marriages/relationships. #3: in-law interference. Sex is way down on the list, overall. What surprises people is that they go into relationships believing that if they have same interests it will draw them closer. Actually, what makes marriages endure is not shared interests. It is shared values. If what Sean & Catherine portray is genuine, I’d put my money on them to last.