Has Cressida Bonas already broken up with Prince Harry? (update: yes!)


A month ago, we thought Cressida Bonas was a sure thing. We thought Prince Harry was moving her gently into his royal circles and that an engagement announcement would be happening at any moment (or at the very least, by the end of the year). But what has followed since then has been… odd. It seemed like Cressida was pushing back on the idea that she was chasing The Ring. It seemed like Cressida got a glimpse of what it was like to be a royal bride and she decided she would rather go to Burning Man than host Harry’s dinner parties. Speculation increased that Harry’s friends were warning him away from Cressida because of her immaturity and reticence against marriage. And on and on. Now “sources” claim that Harry and Cressida are already over?

Prince Harry has been dumped by his girlfriend Cressida Bonas, insiders say.

The pair apparently decided to go their separate ways after Cressida — known as Cressie to her friends — told Harry that she doesn’t want to marry into the royal family, according to tabloid reports, and just wants to lead her life away from the spotlight.

“Harry and Cressie have split,” said a source. “Harry wants to settle down and get married like his brother, Prince William. But Cressie is still young and had huge reservations about marrying into the royal family. They had a chat over the weekend and decided it’s best they cool things off. Harry’s hoping she’ll change her mind, but for now the romance is very much off.”

[From Showbiz Spy]

I’ve tried looking through the UK papers to see if there’s any sort of speculation there, but I think the royal reporters are still on a high from Will & Kate’s royal tour so they haven’t gotten around to speculating about Harry and Cressida. Considering it’s Showbiz Spy… yeah, it just sounds made up. But! If Cressida really does hate the idea of marrying a prince, then yes, I would hope that she would break up with him. Poor Harry. None of the aristocratic girls want to deal with royal drama.

UPDATE: I can’t believe it happened so soon!!!!! People Mag reports that Cressida and Harry are done. We’ll have more on this tomorrow!!


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  1. merski says:

    Yikes, she does not seem to have much sense of style…

  2. Helvetica says:

    Good. Now he can get back with his true love, Chelsy.

    Cressida is very pretty.

    It seems Harry has a thing for women who do not want to family into the family.

    • Liv says:

      Gosh, I’d be so happy if they get back together!

      • Liv says:


      • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

        Wow, married to a jeweler! Brilliant!

      • LadySlippers says:

        People forget how on and off they were. They were a young love that probably wouldn’t have made it even if Harry wasn’t an HRH.

        It’s time to let them go as it’s pretty obvious that both Harry & Chelsy have long since moved on.


        I know!!!!! 😉 Totally jealous right now!!!

      • Kali says:

        @Goodnames – I did a jewellery making course last year where the tutor had been proposed to with 15000 cold hard cash and she made the ring. It was stunning! One could only imagine the possible engagement ring for Chelsy!

      • Andrea says:

        I hope Chelsy has found happiness. I agree with everyone, Harry and Chelsy had a young romance and it just ran its course.

      • HH says:

        @LS – They had a picture of Chelsy Davy in a bathing suit the other day… Wow! I”m sure that would make me forget how on/off the relationship was.


        Also, Chelsy has the best camera presence! A smile that really lights up her face.

      • Liv says:

        I know that they were on and off a few times. I don’t care. 😉

        Seriously, I think they were a great match, but I totally understand that she doesn’t want to be part of the royal family. He could abdicate from his position though, couldn’t he?

      • LadySlippers says:


        Abdication is something only the Soveriegn can do. In order to remove any other person from the Line of Succession a bill has to be passed in the UK and all the Commonwealth countries. It’s much easier said than done.

        Plus, Harry has a strong sense of responsibility. As children, he would volunteer to take William’s place when William grumbled that he didn’t want to be king or want the fuss. In fact, it’s how Harry got the nickname — Good King Henry.


        I’m still mad from yesterday! 😉

        *grabs smelling salts*

        But those were nice pics of Chelsy with her beau on vacation.

      • pleaseicu says:

        Sebastian Shakespeare should stop passing off Tumblr and Instagram as an inside source. I want to like Sebastian because I enjoy gossip but I get the sense that he doesn’t have any consistent inside sources and seems quite reliant on social media leaks as a primary source.

        Those holiday pictures he’s trying to pass off as current or recent are almost a year old. They just recently leaked from Jacobi’s social media accounts though and were passed around Tumblr fan pages not that long ago.

        They’re from when Chelsy was working out of her law firm’s office in Turkey in 2013 and Jacobi and Irene and other friends visited her. Jacobi and Irene have since apparently broken up for good. Chelsy’s been back working in London since October or November of last year. I’m not even sure she was in England for Easter either since there were some twitter sightings of her out with her family in South Africa at Easter. She does look great and very happy in the pics though.

      • LadySlippers says:


        The press clearly thinks facts are optional sometimes when writing! Pics are great regardless of time taken but thanks for correcting their ‘facts’.

      • Ellie says:

        However Chelsy recently put the same pictures on her instagram and facebook account.

      • LadySlippers says:


        Really?!? Oh so the plot thickens!!!


        Does this call for a tin foil hat tea party?!? Gosh, I just ordered my new tin foil hat and it won’t be ready for awhile. I just knew I should have gotten some Hershey’s Kisses when I went to Target. DRATS. Hate 20/20 hindsight.

        Oh what is a poor hatless Loonie to do?!??


      • HH says:

        @LS – Last one. I can’t resist. Double Man Candy. Harry in his Polo attire and Idris Elba looking divine and dapper.


      • LadySlippers says:


        I think you are trying to kill me.

        Death by Hot Men!


        I should find some good Harry hand p•rn to sooth myself with…

  3. Helvetica says:

    And Harry’s hair is funny in that picture

  4. LadySlippers says:

    It’ll be interesting to see if it’s true. Until then, I’m very doubtful.

  5. Em says:

    I feel for Harry. He seems a good chap and would really like to settle down like his brother. He just can’t quite find her.

  6. blue marie says:

    It’s always seemed to me that the papers want it to happen quicker than the speed it’s going. I dunno know though, since the only thing I ever read about either of them is on here. (and really I only click to look at pictures of Harry)

    • aquarius64 says:

      I agree. The press was pushing for a royal marriage and now it has egg on its face. Watch the palace PR put out that Harry was the dumper and Cressy was the dumpee.

  7. GoodNamesAllTaken says:

    I’m not saying this is true, but as much as I love Harry, I could understand her decision if it is. She already has money and social position, and she would be signing up for a lifetime in a fishbowl of craziness and criticism and total lack of privacy.

    • LadySlippers says:


    • Jegede says:

      Social position yes
      But you’ll be surprised about how few of these aristos actually have cold hard cash. Including the Bonas’ crew

      Story is likely not true…….But if it bothered her family and friends so much why were they CONSTANTLY briefing the press (especially Mondrake of the Telegraph) of how perfect she was and how Harry will never find better?

      • Goofpuff says:

        her father might have money issues since he’s the blue blood but isn’t her mom heir to a rich banking fortune or something?

        anyway I still think she’s just probably too young to be wanting to get married and would rather wait a few more years understandably. get the living a fun young life out of the way before engaging in a long life of scrutiny and proper behavior and kids.

      • LadySlippers says:

        Cressida’s mother is the aristo and her dad is *well* off.

      • Skint posh people. That’s what my Scots husband calls them.

    • Liv says:

      Yep. If it’s true that the queen comments on Kate’s dresses and hair!, I’d be more than unwilling to join the firm. Who wants to be controlled like that?

      • FLORC says:

        I really doubt the Queen has such a severe leak that heard her say those things, but I do think the points she allegedly made were correct.

        And it’s not about being controlled. It’s about sacrifice. You get a wonderful life and all you have to do is appear very rarely apparently and follow the rules. Not hard.
        If I was Cressida I would fear the Diana vs. Fergie parts. Cressida will always be married to the spare and therefore will be cut down to make the heirs wife look stunning.

      • I like to think that if the queen was commenting on Kate’s hair, we would see a long overdue end to the sausage curls, and a sleeker, more modern coif…

    • Dame Snarkweek says:

      YW FLORC. I was going for subtlety with the corection although I find your rare slip ups to be terribly cute.

  8. LAK says:

    Did Flee receive this much hate when she was dating Harry?

    Irrespective of the truth, Chelsy and Cressida have received so much hate that it’s a wonder anyone would want to go there.

    • LadySlippers says:

      On tumblr she did. But tumblr seems to hate all the women that date their ‘heroes’.

    • HH says:

      If I was dating Harry, it would be going for the ring or not at all. The last thing I’d want to be known as is Prince Harry’s Ex, especially in the case of Chelsy. She’s just so accomplished in her own right.

      • FLORC says:

        If I was in love with Harry I wouldn’t marry him. I’d be his mistress. And i’m all about marriage and love.
        I just think he might find his passionate love and his public/work love 2 different things.
        If that makes any sense.

      • HH says:

        @FLORC – “I just think he might find his passionate love and his public/work love 2 different things. If that makes any sense.”

        So Harry’s love would be divided among what is “suitable” and what he truly wants? That seems to coincide with the many “faces” of Harry that he has admitted. The Prince. The Soldier. And just plain Harry. The real question is… Which would you want in bed? 😉

    • Suze says:

      So true, LAK, so true.

      Although Chelsy is being retconned by some people as the love of Harry’s life, the perfect consort who got away.

      But back in the day boy the contempt for her online was intense.

      Maybe Cressida will be looked back on in fondness some day, too.

  9. Kali says:

    Aristocratic girls already have all of the benefit of money without any of the downsides of the royal family. Why would they want to marry in? He need to take a leaf out of his brothers book and actively look for a woman who would be ok with all the BRF palaver. Not terribly romantic but you have to be realistic.

    • LadySlippers says:

      Again, agreed. I feel for Harry in this regard.

    • Chinoiserie says:

      I have never understood why some people believe that Cressida wishes to marry Harry because he is a prince. What benefits being reality would give to Cressida. I believe the royals (or at least William) would rather be aristocrats. No responsibilities and more privacy but money and connections. People always act that if William was not a royal he would have to get a real job but in reality he could just do whatever he wishes then. I understand why people say Kate was chasing William however, I do not know if she was but it seems more likely than Cressida chasing Harry.

      • LadySlippers says:


        I’m with you on this but we’re in the minority here.

        People honestly think that the HRH is a huge carrot and fail to take into consideration all the princes that say the truth is actually the opposite of what people think.

      • bluhare says:

        Actually, you aren’t in the minority here. Most regular posters have said pretty much this. You might be in the minority elsewhere, but not here. Sorry, but you’re in with most of us, LS.

      • FLORC says:

        Add me to the minority.
        Being Royal by marriage is not something those that are well off wish for.

        And I agree completely with the rest.
        Harry always seems duty bound and works with the press roperly. Only times he doesn’t is when around William. Older brother showing his bad influence I guess.
        Like with the Sand bagging for the flood.

        Best I can hope for Harry is he finds someone to love that can also deal with being the Spares wife and not someone that wants to marry up and use him. Cressida doesn’t need his titles so if they marry that would be sweet.

      • Dame Snarkweek says:

        Cressida’s sister is married to an incredibly wealthy man and is living the good life without pressure, responsibilities or tiaras. It seems ideal compared to dodging courtiers.

      • LadySlippers says:


        Then it just *feels* like that’s the minority opinion, ya know???

        But yeah, even if it is the minority opinion, it’s not just a rare and lone opinion. And I do know I have company. 😊

      • Green Girl says:

        Please include me at your table!

        When I was much younger, I would have thought being married to a prince was the be-all and end-all. But now that I have really seen what goes on, I wonder why anyone would want this lifestyle!

        I agree that Harry should look for someone who is a bit more middle class. But serious question: How does he find someone who is middle class?

    • Lee says:

      Exactly. Why choose a constricted, rules-heavy, fishbowl life if you’re already rich and an aristocrat? The days of wanting to be close and/or related to the royal family for power are long gone, as they are mere figureheads with only the downsides to offer. It sounds awful and non-romantic to say, but it might be that Harry may be luckier with another Kate-like “commoner”.

      • Ronia says:

        “It sounds awful and non-romantic to say, but it might be that Harry may be luckier with another Kate-like “commoner”. ”

        God forbid. Indeed, it is an awful scenario. I trust Harry has more brain than that. Sometimes the background matters as Kate Middleton keeps proving. Being a royal, Harry can do much smarter than marrying a commoner. And gain a much smoother sailing doing so.

      • Dame Snarkweek says:

        Classist rubbish, imo.

  10. Birdie says:

    She can’t dress herself to save her life.

    • Rockymtnprincess says:

      Thank you! I know I’m much older but I just can’t wrap my mind around her style. It seems to me that she is constantly late and just grabs whatever is cleanest on the floor on her way out.

      • Helene says:

        That’s typical of the true aristocrats. They don’t try to hard because they don’t have to. They are already better than everyone else. That is why Kate will always be middle class – the aristocrat attitude runs in your blood, it can not be taught.

      • Olenna says:

        You know, Helene, I’d been thinking the same thing about her style (or lack of) and wondered why she was taking such a beating in the comments. I don’t know if she thinks she’s better than everyone, but I doubt she gives a flying flip about what people think of her clothes. If she got papped walking down the street in a bucket hat and pair of pajama bottoms, I wouldn’t be surprised. She can wear that “look” without effort; Kate and Pippa cannot.

      • Dame Snarkweek says:

        I sincerely hope you are being ironic.

      • John says:

        I think it’s more a dance culture thing. Most ballet and modern dancers I work with foster the beggar look, breezy and comfortable and waifish and mismatched.

      • Ronia says:

        Helene is right, nothing ironic in it. When you’re raised with the attitude that you already *know* all that is needed to be known, you don’t care if A and B think you actually *know*. I went to my prom in one of my grandma’s Brussels lace undershirts. LOL True, I had pearls for a belt. I wouldn’t care what anyone thinks about it nor do I now. However, Cressida has more style than someone like Kate will ever have in their life. Cressida has the guts to challenge because she doesn’t depend on anyone for approval, internally, regardless who she is dating and regardless her (or her family’s) finances. This is confidence which Helene rightly points as a result of her background and upbringing. It doesn’t mean no one else can have it but it means in the aristocratic circles children are just raised in such a way, it doesn’t even take someone to tell them so, it’s in the everyday connections with family, relatives and friends. It develops with the time.

      • Dame Snarkweek says:

        So is that the reason my husband’s cousin is afraid to be seen at the club in anything other than the “right” clothes? She comes from money on her dad’s side and was raised as if it were no object. She pretends as if she were casual about her lifestyle but she and her husband are extremely uptight about it behind closed doors. Meanwhile I live in NYC and know tons of people from working or middle class backgrounds that dress for comfort and self-expression alone. They are confident, independent and fearless – without the benefit of the proverbial silver spoon in their mouths.

        In 2014 your way of thinking makes less an less sense to me. Their is some credence to your ideas, of course, but the rest of it is more inaccurate and anachronistic than many would like to admit. Some people feel the need to perpetuate class confines as if they were static and infinitely proscribed. That is simply laughable.

      • Dame Snarkweek says:

        This seems more the culprit, imo.

    • Helene says:

      Dame Snarkweek: Haha, yes I was. (English is not my first language.) However, I still believe that Kate’s carefully planned and “spotless” dressing is a tell tale sign that she is (used to be, is perhaps more correct) middle class.

      • Dame Snarkweek says:

        Lol, so relieved and yes, completely agree with you.

      • Olenna says:

        I’m reminded of the DM article about how Carole’s superior attention to detail that was the envy of all the school moms. How could she dare to have such perfectly groomed, well-mannered children with name tags carefully sewn into their clothing? I always wondered who planted that story.

  11. Sabrine says:

    A wife like Kate who handles her role in the royal family with grace and style will be a little harder to find. Good luck to Harry. Eventually he will find someone suitable.

    I certainly don’t blame Cressida for bolting. The snarky comments about her on here are minor compared to what she’d face if she married Harry.

    • Goofpuff says:

      I’d agree with the grace and style if she and her lazy husband worked more and she stopped flashing herself so unprofessionally. it’s her job and she’s being lazy and she’s a horrible role model. plus you can’t be a stay at home mom when you marry into the royal family and use the public taxes to fund your lifestyle. public taxes = getting paid = do your job. if they weren’t using public money at all it would be different but they do

    • LadySlippers says:

      I’d hardly say that Kate is handling her role with ‘grace and style’. She’s encountering the same speed bumps others have encountered before her but luckily is doing it with a much lighter work load. That’s probably the key difference.

      • bluhare says:

        I actually think Kate does have incredible poise. I wonder if that’s what the person meant by grace and style.

      • LadySlippers says:


        Interesting. I hadn’t thought of it like that. Poise I can get on board with… Yeppers.

      • Francis says:

        Kate was just more desperate and willing to put up with anything.
        Look at how PW goes on holiday with Jecca and not a peep from Kate. She will look the other way,put up with anything she has to and did. It worked for her and now she’s a Royal , but girls like Chelsy and Cressida arent as desperate as Kate.

    • Jegede says:

      “A wife like Kate who handles her role in the royal family with grace and style will be a little harder to find”

      Guurrl you better duck & dive –
      You’re trying to troll the Kate haters right! LMAO

      • FLORC says:

        No need to Duck and Dive. This isn’t a mean thread full of Kate haters. Just people who differ in opinion, basing it more on facts than emotions.

    • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

      I agree with the comments that Kate has stumbled a few times and could work harder, but I also agree with Sabrine that Kate wants this very much, and wants to be a good wife to William. That may be the advantage to marrying a commoner with social ambitions. She doesn’t want anyone to say she wasn’t up to the job, or couldn’t cut it because she didn’t have the right background. I doubt Cressida feels any insecurity about that.

    • Helvetica says:

      “A wife like Kate who handles her role in the royal family with grace and style will be a little harder to find. Good luck to Harry. Eventually he will find someone suitable.”

      I agree. Kate is the entire package. And I think there aren’t many that would be able to do it as she does. It’s like she was born for it.

      • Grail Seeker says:

        I want some of what you are drinking, it seems like fun!

      • Liv says:

        Grail Seeker: 😀

        But it’s true. Kate handles everything perfectly. I think people find her boring because she’s so perfect. William never would have found a better wife for this job.

      • bluhare says:

        I don’t think perfection is boring. Kate’s a bit dull, but that’s not because she’s perfect.

      • Suze says:

        Kate wasn’t born for the role – it’s been hard work for her, as it would be for anyone.

        Kate trained hard for duchessdom. In fact, she is still training and probably will be for life. The fact that is she is disciplined and focused is an asset to her.

        That’s a compliment, btw.

      • Francis says:

        Hahaha very funny. Yes Kate was so born to it that we have topless and bottomless photos of her after she became a Royal bride.
        Kate was just a climbing schemer who was willing to be Williams doormat and put up with anything until he proposed.

  12. What? says:

    I think she very much wants that ring and to be set for life. He wants his own family. So, I’m not buying this breakup rumor. Engagement this year. (After Burning Man)

  13. Sally says:

    I don’t believe the whole “Doesn’t want the royal life” thing. Ok… it’s one thing to fall for a guy when you’re 19 and not bother to think about the obligations of royal life at that moment, ie: Chelsey. But when you start dating a Prince at 24/25 yrs old and your sister dated the heir when he was on a “break” with his now-wife, the “royal life will be too onerous” thing sounds pretty hollow.

    • LadySlippers says:

      Her sister didn’t date William — he carried a torch for her and she wasn’t having any of it.

      It could be equally likely that Harry was okay to see if the relationship would blossom into something long term. Just because he wants to have a family doesn’t mean he can’t/won’t allow a relationship to develop on its own.

      My guess is they were fine until they let the world in on their relationship and she got a taste of the fishbowl. Assuming the story is even true.

      • Jegede says:

        “Her sister didn’t date William — he carried a torch for her and she wasn’t having any of it.”

        And Isabella’s family as well as pals in the press have dined out on that story since.
        (For relevance In the absence of ‘Bellie’ having any acting talent or success).
        Especially as she was NOT the only girl William was eyeing on the regular for years.

      • LadySlippers says:

        The press also likes the story of the one that got away. It’s so romantic and dreamy. 😍(And never hurts sales either)

      • Dame Snarkweek says:

        Yes. The one that got away story gets bigger and bigger every single time the *ahem* Bransons tell it.

    • lunchcoma says:

      There are plenty of 24-year-olds who are still deciding what they’re looking for in life, and who are willing to experiment with lots of options while they’re deciding. I think it’s possible she met Harry and liked him, was willing to think about all the things that come along with Harry’s life while they dated for a bit, and eventually decided it wasn’t for her.

      • Snazzy says:

        absolutely! I imagine that at 24 some people are ready to get married and settle down .. but I know that at that age I certainly wasn’t thinking about that! I wanted to travel the world, make my mark! And marriage wasn’t a part of that …

        To each his own right?

  14. LadySlippers says:

    Other BRF News:


    William and Harry might be in the US this weekend!!!

    • FLORC says:

      Memphis! Too far.

      OT, but I was at the Marine Marathon supporting FMORC last year and didn’t realize the Marines challenge lots of other military branches for the race. Harry needs to learn how to run and get in there! Sweaty ginger prince!

    • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

      Cute picture of ginger beardy Harry!

  15. Loopy says:

    Like someone said, aristocratic girls get the best of both worlds, as they can still move in these high society circles but leave a relatively commoners life. The thirst was real for Kate, not so much Cressida.

    • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

      Oh, sorry, I didn’t read down and said pretty much the same above. Kate really wants the life.

  16. Green Is Good says:

    Please. Prince Hot Ginge is not interested in getting tied down. He’s what, 4th in line to the throne now? He’s sitting pretty. He can fly off to Vegas and party with girls. There’s no pressure on him to marry or have kids.

    • LadySlippers says:

      I don’t believe he’s getting pressured to marry. However he has stated himself that he very much wants a family.

      • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

        I can see why he would. Dating is such a circus for him.

      • Liberty says:

        I am going to go rogue and get all astrological Harry on you for fun now. Those who wish to can avert their eyes and mock. Those who want to can read this from August 2012 posted on astrology.com:

        “Chelsy Davy was almost certainly the love of his life but she felt she could not cope with the public pressures. She helped calm him down and he probably does need a wife to settle him. I’d look to 2015 for his next significant committed relationship which is when his Secondary Progressed Moon goes into his 7th, often a time when people feel the lack of a partner more keenly. At that point tr Uranus is opposition his Venus so it may happen suddenly. Plus tr Jupiter is then going through his 8th which is often a time of deepening intimacy. And his Solar Arc Venus is conjunct his Midheaven.

        “He does have Venus in the 9th which can suggest a foreign bride – Chelsy Davy was Zimbabwean. On his astrocartography his Venus Descendant line goes through Russia and down through Iran/Oman which doesn’t sound too suitable. His Venus Ascendant through the mid to west of Canada/USA. His Venus on the IC through eastern Australia. And his Venus Midheaven just covers the tip of eastern Brazil. So you can take your pick and wait to see.”


      • Dame Snarkweek says:

        Harry *does* have a South American and Italian tour coming up…hmmm….

    • Spikey says:

      Ha! Totally agree, at least, that’s what I would do. But the grass on the other side and all that… so, yes, I do believe that he wants domestic bliss – just because it’s nearly impossible to tie a girl down for him. But once he is married with a wailing toddler at home… uuuh, I’m so looking forward to those headlines!

  17. JulieM says:

    Cressida seems nice enough, but I never got any energy or passion between Harry and her. Just nothing, zip, nada. The heat was obvious with Chelsy. Seems Chelsy has moved on and I hope she has finally found happiness with the jeweler chap. Poor Harry.

    OR- the story is a ruse and Harry/Cress will be announcing their engagement momentarily.

    • RobN says:

      I don’t feel any heat there, either. She seems like the kind of girl men chase and then when they catch them, they figure out there isn’t much there.

    • Ronia says:

      There are nannies and separate wings in the house for the nurseries. Problem solved. He won’t be living a commoner’s life as a parent except if he wants to do so.

  18. magpie says:

    I just don’t see them happening.

  19. Weegie Warrior says:

    Sounds like she’s done an “Isabella” lol

  20. Santolina says:

    Harry’s girlfriend should be someone who loves him and wants to be with him more than, say Burning Man. That’s my hope, anyway.

  21. Megan says:

    Who wants to marry into a family where your husband’s grandmother can dictate the length of your hair, hemlines and style of footwear?

    • LadySlippers says:

      Royal life and Royal protocol aren’t for everyone.

      Just like military life and military protocol is difficult for a lot of people as well.

      • RobN says:

        That’s a good comparison. My best friend is married to a Naval officer. The degree to which she’s judged by the wives of his higher ups is stunning. She puts a lot of effort into being seen at the right events and looking good, but not too good. It takes a certain person to be able to handle it, to realize that his career actually can depend on stuff like this. I couldn’t do it.

      • LadySlippers says:

        I divorced a Naval officer and most people have no clue that Royal Protocol is basically Military Protocol.
        Royal Families sprang from military conquests and the rules are almost interchangeable they are so similar.

        And it’s not just officers that are judged — it’s up and down both the officer and enlisted side (especially both senior enlisted and senior officers). It’s tough tough tough. And not for the faint hearted I can assure you.

        Plus overseas, military families were absolutely told what was appropriate to wear off base. In fact, my son, then seven, had a HUGE temper tantrum because (please add appropriate foot stomping) he did NOT. WANT. TO. REPRESENT. THE. UNITED. STATES. OF. AMERICA. But we did, every time we stepped out our front door. It’s odd being judged by everyone on virtually everything you do.

        (Not saying everyone listened off base but we certainly had some *very* well defined rules for off base dress and conduct)

      • hmmm says:

        It helps to have a greater purpose, don’t you think? Seems rare, these days.

      • mayamae says:

        LadySlippers, you’re right that the enlisted in the military have it just as bad. I’ll venture to say being enlisted is comparable to being the loathsome commoner while the officers are the aristos. My cousin, a sergeant in the Air Force, was on the beach with his family. He overheard a mother tell her child not to play with his son because “they’re enlisted”.

      • LadySlippers says:


        I would see both as a service to my country. But being committed to that higher purpose makes a world of difference absolutely.


        My husband went from enlisted to officer so I’m very very familiar with the crap enlisted families go through.

        And your commoner=enlisted and noble=officer is both spot on and historically accurate. There are separate codes of conduct, separate eating and housing areas, separate parking areas, different privileges, etc.. Heck they even have different parks for the kids of the enlisted/officers to play in! (Wouldn’t want the children to mingle)

        The kicker? In Old Portsmouth Hospital (might have been another old Navy building) they had seperate water fountains and bathrooms! No joke. (It’s been changed but you could see the old lettering)

        Because I looked like an officer’s wife, I was frequently mistaken for one until they figured out I wasn’t and ran for the hills.

        I’ve heard what your cousin has heard more than once. Luckily, it was rarely directed at my children. But if you ‘looked’ enlisted things were different (enlisted often look like trailer park trash).

        Protocol is pretty well set in stone. Stupid but ain’t going anywhere.

  22. Andrea says:

    I really hope Cressie is gone soon, she seems too young and too flighty for Harry. This will be another relationship under his belt. I agree with everyone above, he needs a commoner or something close to it who is dazzled by the royal family.

    • LadySlippers says:

      Actually, someone who’s not dazzled by the BRF and can take all the limitations in stride is better.

  23. pleaseicu says:

    I think the true status of Harry and Cressida’s relationship will be revealed after Guy Pelly’s wedding in Tennessee this weekend. Cressida was invited as Harry’s plus one, she’s apparently set to sit next to Harry at the head table as his date. If she’s there and sitting next to Harry, I’m assuming they’re still on and just have a very unconventional relationship where they don’t see each other for weeks at a time. If she’s not there, I’d take it as a sign they’re likely over and went their separate ways.

    • Dame Snarkweek says:

      I was just going to say exactly this. There are few reasons why she wouldn’t attend if she and Harry are going strong. At least if she attends Harry will be forced to remain fully dressed.

  24. The Original Mia says:

    Never thought they were serious, though A+ to the press for trying to make it seem so. Harry will marry when he gets good and ready. Maybe he’ll find an American this weekend, who’d be willing to put up with the royal crush.

    Hope we get some pics of the wedding. Be interesting to see the mix of Southern belle & English aristocracy.

  25. Fan says:

    Back to Chelsea again.

  26. itsetsyou says:

    Kaiser, you bring up an interesting point: ” None of the aristocratic girls want to deal with royal drama.”
    Does it mean he would have a better luck looking for a (gasp!) another c o m m o n e r?
    And is it save to guess then that Kate Middleton wasn’t really chasing Wills, because he would marry her anyway since no one else would want that kind of life??

  27. bettyrose says:

    How is she immature? She’s 25. Burning Man should be her priority over marriage.

  28. Ellen says:

    And now People is confirming the breakup, with word that Cressida was too needy.

    That’s a pretty dramatic 180 from the established storyline. Sounds like someone in Harry’sc camp has lead feet when it comes to story-selling. But maybe the Palace decided that all the “she’s not sure, she’s making him wait” stories were unseemly?

    Or maybe they were never actually that into each other, and this has been mostly fantasy-land from the start.

    • LadySlippers says:

      I think they were ‘fine’ as a normal couple — i.e. no press. Adding the press and their made up stories was probably a bit much. Can’t say I blame her.

    • pleaseicu says:

      That seems to be the palace line with the women in Harry’s life. The ones that stick around for any length of time end up being “too needy” apparently.

      IIRC didn’t it come out during the hacking trial that palace courtiers leaked to the editor of News of the World that they felt Chelsy was “too needy” too? And it turned out Chelsy/Harry talked maybe twice a day in a little over a month while they were doing a long distance relationship and they were in their early, early twenties at the time.

      Wonder what the palace definition of “too needy” is.

      • LadySlippers says:


        I thought the same thing with the ‘needy’ verbiage. Too predictable.

        How hard would it be to say they wanted different things and choose to end it? Not that hard.

      • pleaseicu says:


        I agree. This is rather unlike the usual parting of the ways, designed to keep things smooth. Harry/Chelsy, even when off/on those two times, kept things amicable and respectful.

        This doesn’t sound like an amicable parting of ways, though the Telegraph phrased the break-up as a “breather” and “pause” on the relationship, even comparing it to William and Kate’s 2 month break-up in 2007. I suspect that People has the courtier-leaked version and the relationship is over.

        If not, I suspect that the “too needy” phrasing will likely make any “pause” in the relationship a permanent stop because that’s a rather unkind descriptor of her and the relationship. Her family and friends would be awful people to encourage her to get back together with someone who didn’t ever look that into her in public, broke up with her and then leaked that she was “too needy” for him.

      • lunchcoma says:

        Probably the same as the rest of society’s: a woman who wants anything a man isn’t willing or able to give her. It’s a very easy slur to throw out, and often a very gendered one.

      • LadySlippers says:


        Apparently whomever leaked the ‘needy’ comment was not rubber stamped by Harry.

        From the DM:

        “He is furious at this suggestion that the split was in any way because she was relying too much on him. Cressida is one of the most independent people he knows.’ “


  29. Talia says:

    While this hasn’t been confirmed, it wouldn’t surprise me if it were true. She seemed like the type to do a runner at some point anyway, and with her “bohemian” way of life, I cannot see her attending royal engagements and being all formal and pristine.

    Even if it is not true this time around, I do see them splitting at some point anyway. Harry will eventually settle down, but it won’t be with this lady; here’s hoping he doesn’t just ‘settle’.

    I never believed an engagement was on the horizon anyway, purely for the fact that she has not attended any formal engagements with him, met the Queen or cleared up her image in any way.
    Take Kate for example; she did at least 2 or 3 years of royal events prior to William’s proposal, and in the lead up to their engagement being announced, she was at William’s side regularly in public– Cressida has gone nowhere with Harry, apart from one WE Day event, which she only attended because the Bransons were involved.

    Sorry, I just don’t see it happening between them, and if this split is real, I’m not shocked at all.

  30. Lee says:

    Why do these girls bothering dating a Prince for YEARS if they don’t like the possibility of becoming Royalty? Sounds like BS excuse made up by the girls to save face. Harry has always been the socialable, party guy. I think it’s the girls who want more but Harry doesn’t. Unlike William he doesn’t have to worry about getting married, having an heir etc. He can be a bachelor for life. There’s no pressure on him and don’t see him in a hurry to settle down at all.

    • Tilly says:

      Exactly. Particularly now that George is around, there’s even less pressure on him.

  31. Neners says:

    People Magazine is claiming Harry dumped Cressida because he found her too needy. Stand by!

  32. Liz says:

    :Ha! Cressida is gorgeous, has money and status without all the bullshit that comes with royal “work”. Harry has admitted that it’s been hard finding a woman who is willing to take on all the royal bs. My money is that Cressida pulled the plug and or wasn’t into Harry.

  33. Diana says:

    I’ll bet you anything that they were never all that close to getting engaged like some outlets were reporting. And he probably was turned off by all the public pressure and maybe by her to propose. $10 say he doesn’t get married anytime soon. I mean for heaven sakes it wasn’t to long ago that he was in his hotel room in Vegas naked with a gazillion people present. He’s a player.

  34. AnnieCL says:

    Well she’s got the awful taste in fashion down pat if she ever changes her mind!

  35. HoustonGrl says:

    I admit, I’m surprised! I thought after Harry invited her to that charity event, the engagement was a sure thing. She’s young though. There’s a big difference between 25 and 29, in terms of priorities.

  36. bettyrose says:

    Will post breakup Harry be consoling himself with another romp through southern Cali and Vegas? Any chance of getting a copy of his itinerary?

    • pleaseicu says:

      No Vegas or Cali, but he is supposed to go to Brazil in June. A broken-hearted Harry let loose in Rio? lol

  37. whatnow says:

    when she got invited to host the royal event she probably had what her life would be like flash before her eyes. Put that with the publicity and all that went with the engagement is imminent rumors and she gave Harry a big fat NO THANK YOU. If the royal life is not what you want then marrying a prince will just not work out. She may have learned a few good things from her mom’s many marriages. Perhaps mostly how unhappy one is when trapped in a life you don’t want because of your marriage.

    • Talia says:

      I don’t mean to be pedantic, but she wasn’t hosting at the event, she was just sat in the crowd. And a large part of the reason she went was because the Bransons were in attendance, or she likely would not have gone.

      However, I completely agree with everything else you are saying. It probably still did provide a taster as to what life would be like, and she obviously didn’t like it.

      • whatnow says:

        thanks for the clarification. As for her PR working overtime afterwards hinting at the imminent engagement etc. sometimes you get streamrolled or talked into things. You are maybe caught up in the moment and then later you do some thinking. Could also be they were testing the waters as to what her life would most likely become. Or yes, very much could be she wanted to go out with a bang which in that case the royals wouldn’t want her anyway. She knows how to play the game to well for their liking. She is young and unless soul mates with Harry certainly doesn’t need the life style. She lives well enough right now and is doing what she wants.

    • Jegede says:

      Problem is AFTER those appearances her people were briefing the press on how Harry would not find better then her, engagement imminent, co-hosting dinners to the infamous summit of a few weeks back.
      So she did not appear to be frightened by the taster of what it could be like. Quite the contrary

      • Talia says:

        Yes, I do agree that her PR people were doing overtime to make the public believe it was headed somewhere more serious.

        Perhaps she didn’t want to be seen as just another notch on the royal bedpost, and therefore tried to place more importance on their relationship than what truly existed?
        If she was going to go out, she wanted to do it with a bang, and what better way to do that than to make the media believe Harry’s relationship with her was more than just a “fling”…

  38. kay says:

    I love how everyone assumes that harry is the one who is always getting dumped. I have said it before and I will say it again that these girls know full well who they are dating. Cressida has been best friends with Eugenie for years and Cressida was completely aware of what was going to come her way. as far as all the media leaks what I think is funny about that is the aristo set talks more to the press than the meager little middle class group.

    • Talia says:

      Of course the aristo set talk more– they’ve got to keep their profiles raised and their family names polished. Wouldn’t do to have the public believing one of their little darlings was dumped by a Prince!
      It’s ridiculous.
      The middle class have nothing to lose, and have more of a level-headed approach to the media, so to be honest, Harry would be better off marrying a commoner.

    • Ronia says:

      Not true at all. At the time the “middle class” set talked A LOT. Only aftewr achieving the goal the “middle class” set became quieter.

  39. LadySlippers says:

    From the Telegraph:

    “Prince Harry and Cressida Bonas have ended their two-year relationship after she struggled to deal with the attention of being the girlfriend of the Prince, sources have confirmed to The Telegraph.

    The news of their split ends talk of an engagement, with sources saying that the repeated speculation about a wedding was the final straw for the couple’s relationship.

    When Harry and Miss Bonas appeared at an official engagement for the first time together last month, it was taken as a sign that they were increasingly comfortable being seen as a couple.

    Speculation followed that they might soon announce their engagement, but the intense global attention only served to reignite long-standing issues between the pair.

    They had found it impossible to conduct a relationship in the “full glare” of the international media, a problem that had existed from the moment they became an item.

    Miss Bonas, 25, who friends described as “laid back”, had always found it difficult to cope with the attention of being a princess-in-waiting.”

    •There’s more but those are the first paragraphs. Journalists are taught to put the most factual stuff first because very few people read to the end.

    Read the rest here:


  40. Francis says:

    Chinoiserie says:
    April 29, 2014 at 8:43 am
    I have never understood why some people believe that Cressida wishes to marry Harry because he is a prince. What benefits being reality would give to Cressida. I believe the royals (or at least William) would rather be aristocrats. No responsibilities and more privacy but money and connections. People always act that if William was not a royal he would have to get a real job but in reality he could just do whatever he wishes then. I understand why people say Kate was chasing William however, I do not know if she was but it seems more likely than Cressida chasing Harry.
    +1000 Absolutely spot on.

    It’s the same reason her sister Isabella wanted no part of William. IMO The Modern Aristo girls have the life they desire already without the hassle of being a constants media target and constraints.
    Glad it’s over, now she can live her life and not be so worried about press hassles
    She was dating an Earl before Harry, for about four years. I wonder if she’ll get back with him?
    It was obvious she disliked the media, it’s good they split now, instead of dating more years, engagement then splitting.
    Good luck to her.
    Can’t wait to see what Harry gets up to at the Memphis wedding this weekend.

  41. Xantha says:

    Run Cressida run as fast as you can away from that fucked up family! And yes I know her family aren’t saints either, but why trade in one dysfunctional family for another one? I cheered when Chelsy ran as well.

    I don’t think she was piling the media with stories as much as people here think. I feel like that was 90% the tabloids really wanting another fancy Royal wedding so they embellished their relationship all on their own. And giving that she’s being called “needy” and there were reports that Harry’s friends were having doubts about her makes me think it’s probably Harry’s PR people planting stories, just to stop all the wedding talk.

    So once again: Run Cressida and don’t look back!

  42. lunchcoma says:

    Seems like everyone saw this one coming.

    I’m guessing Harry’s not shopping for another serious girlfriend immediately, but when he starts looking again, I think he’d do well to take a long view. I think he might do best with a woman who’s from a somewhat similar background, but who’s lived enough that she’s willing to make some really substantial sacrifices to be with him. He’s probably going to run into more women like that in his 30s than in his 20s, so rushing to settle down might not be the best plan.

  43. Raven says:

    Looks like Showbiz Spy was the first to break this story and using their own sources…I wonder if that means there’s something to those Benedict Cumberbatch secret girlfriend tales after all.

    • LadySlippers says:

      I thought that too.


      • Raven says:

        Then again, it could have been a lucky guess. The writing was kind of on the wall for Harry and Cressida and these rumors had been swirling around for a while and especially recently.

  44. John says:

    People first says that *he* broke up with Cressy because she’s too needy, nobody seems to have picked up on that.

    Personally, I find her to be dull as dirt, but I’ve found most dancers fresh out of school are vapid, as they’ve only spent their lives learning about dance and have very limited breadth and depth of other knowledge.

    • LadySlippers says:


      That’s being countered with new quotes. See the comment above reportedly from Harry.

  45. A Fan says:

    Three cheers for Chelsy!!!!

    [*You know you still love her, Harry*]

  46. Bridget says:

    I want to know what’s next for C ressida, because this whole Harry thing was an awful lot of trouble for an on-off relationship (2 years my bottom). What’s her endgame? She gave up dance, so is it going to be an attempt at acting like big sis? (Emphasis on attempt there).

  47. Suze says:

    Poor Harry! Two blonde exes, neither of whom wanted or who could handle the royal life.

    Where does a young ginger royal look for a bride these days?

    • LadySlippers says:

      I feel for Harry too. Especially after his very raw comments about wanting a family when he was on the Jubilee tour.


      • Francis says:

        Maybe He should have pursued Princess Madeliene of Sweden when she was single, she was perfect Princess material , but alas now she’s gone to a wealthy American and happily married.

      • Suze says:

        I suspect that Harry’s problem is that the type of women he loves and wants to spend time with are not the type of women who would want the exposure and dedication to duty that comes with royal life.

        Even though they had different personalities, I think Cress and Chelsy were both like that.

        I give our Duchess Kate a hard time, but I do think she is more than willing to do what it takes to be a good royal consort.

  48. daisy says:

    oops. i was wrong. lol

  49. Amanda_M87 says:

    I’m guessing that Cressida didn’t want to live a royal life. Seeing what they go through I can’t really blame her if that is the case.

    On a side note, maybe I have a chance with Harry now. Just kidding 🙂

  50. Francis says:

    It ended for the same reason Cressida’s sister turned down William when he came calling on her (Isabella) during the split from Kate and when PW pursued her sis Isabella in years prior to Kate, even as a teen. Some of the Aristo girls know the score and know for them it’s not worth the hassled life of living in a goldfish bowl of the Royal Firm. These Aristo girls can live on their estates,or in their posh London flats, live within the aristo circle,have their titles or titled families , their own family money, not dictated on what to wear,what to buy,Where to holiday, how to walk, what career to pursue, and most of all,not be continually hassled by the press and be fodder to the public mood swings.
    Isabella , Cressida’s sister wanted NO part of even being a possible Queen for William, so I think many of the aristo girls just don’t want it. I think Cressida liked Harry enough to take it for awhile, fell for him, but was never comfortable with the media.
    Chelsy was reported as saying she will NEVER go back because the Royal life is not for her. She found the constraints horrible.
    I think it’s over for Cress and Harry and she will move on,maybe to the Earls and such, living quietly she dated before Harry. These Aristo girls have titles, or have titled families and live like Princesses without all the hassle and they are not desperate for a title so maybe they just see it as more of a hassle after awhile.