Was Cressida Bonas spooked by ‘busy’ royal life after speaking to Duchess Kate?


The UK papers have been taking it easy on the Cressida Bonas-Prince Harry speculation for several weeks, probably because Duchess Kate and Prince William were doing appearances every day and there was plenty of “young royal” gossip to go around. But when the UK papers dropped off, the American media picked up the stories. So, what we have now is an image of Cressida, a woman in her mid-20s who would rather go to Burning Man and have boho parties rather than marry the cute prince. And we have Harry, slowly understanding that Cressida’s game only works if he chases her. Allegedly, Harry’s friends are already whispering in his ear that Cressida is too flighty to be a royal bride. And now Star Mag claims that Cressida has been completely warned off the royal thing… by Duchess Kate!

Prince Harry and Cressida Bonas hit a major relationship milestone when they attended their first royal engagement together in March, but Harry may be thinking twice about continuing the momentum. Star can reveal that Cressida has gotten cold feet when it comes to tying the knot.

“Cressida wants to slow things down,” says a source. While Harry is eager to take the next step after mounting pressure his grandmother, Cressida is too much of a free spirit. “She’s used to making her own schedule… and she doesn’t wants to give up her entire life to attend royal engagements.”

Cressida has been telling pals that the constant pressures placed on Duchess Kate are also a major turnoff for her. “Cressida has spoken to Kate about the expectations that come with being part of the royal family and how unbelievably busy she is… Kate’s been honest about her struggles and it’s been a lot for Cressida to process.”

For now, Harry is giving his love some space to think things through: but he will need a decision soon, due to his age.

“The Queen has made it very clear that Harry would disappoint her if he doesn’t find a wife and start a family by the time he was 30. If Cressy doesn’t come around soon, he knows he’ll have to find another woman.”

[From Star Magazine, print edition]

Any story that involves “Duchess Kate telling hard truths about the difficult life of marrying into royalty” should automatically be discounted. Or should I reconsider? I have no doubt that Kate probably does think her life is super-hard. After all, her palace had to be repainted and the renovations on her country mansion are taking forever, and when is she going to be able to schedule another vacation?!?! And while Kate and William managed to get through dozens of events in less than three weeks, that was only after barely working maybe two full days in five months. Which, to hear Kate tell it, is probably grueling enough to scare off Cressida for good. Which perhaps was Kate’s plan all along? Kate doesn’t want Cressida to join the firm. Might as well scare her off now.

Now, all that being said, Cressida has two options. Option #1: Stop being so flighty. If you really don’t want to marry a prince, so be it. But then break up with him and be done with it. Why drag it out? Option #2: Stop being so flighty. If you do want to marry him and this is all some sort of if-I-run-will-you-chase-me game, stop playing the game. It’s been two years. The jig is up. We know you love him. He knows it too. Just get married already.


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  1. HH says:

    You know how I knew this story was a complete lie….

    “Cressida has spoken to Kate about the expectations that come with being part of the royal family and ***how unbelievably busy she is…*****”


  2. kri says:

    I have a feeling he’s damn good in bed. Look at those lovely forearms in that last shot. Oh, dear-I’m adding that one to my list, I think.

  3. GoodNamesAllTaken says:

    I think they’re just making this all up because they don’t really know what’s going on.

  4. Loopy says:

    Ha ha that would be very scheming of Kate. OAN sometimes women/men don’t know when to stop the ‘games’ and end up with egg on their face. There is only so far you can test someone, especially one with lots of options.

  5. Snappyfish says:

    I don’t like this chick. I miss Chelsy Davy (& if News of the world is to be believed based on all the drunk dialing, so does Harry)

  6. Sharon Lea says:

    I agree this story is hard to take seriously because I doubt Kate would reveal personal issues with Cressie, unless they were some generalizations we could all guess. ITA her angle, no matter what she decides, is to stop looking like a flip flopper. Nobody will take her seriously and we will never let her live it down. Either you take Harry, lock stock and barrel, or move on.

    • LadySlippers says:

      I don’t think she’s flip flopping — that’s the press.

      • Sharon Lea says:

        You may be right. Its just weird to see these stories if she has PR people helping her.

      • LadySlippers says:


        That’s because I don’t think she has PR help. That’s just a goofy idea because it’s pretty clear when real PR people are involved with the BRF (see Operation PB).

        In fact, I don’t think the Middleton’s get much help otherwise people would have a better opinion of them. Paid PR people are usually way more effective than normal everyday people. Diana was an exception to this.

      • FLORC says:

        There was a spike of Middleton good news for a bit. Everyone just took it as bs pr moves. Carole finds and returns dog and such. They tried to create a more positive image, but no one was buying it. Then they faded into the backround and imo that’s the best thing the Midds could have done to improve their image.

      • pleaseicu says:

        I think she does have PR help. She and her brother were both listed as clients of stuart watts pr in london until it started to blow up on the internet that Cressida had a publicist and then Cressida and her brother were both mysteriously removed from the site as clients.

        But, even after her name was removed from Stuart Watts website, a pap on twitter, Tanna of Ikon Pictures, the one the middletons use and who seems to now also have an inside track with cressida/bransons as well, told twitter followers to direct all inquiries about cressida to stuart watts. So, I think she does have some help in crafting a controlled and spun PR image.

      • LadySlippers says:


        The help the dogs story was just a one time/ limited push deal. If they had a PR firm hired we’d get a steady stream of that.


        I don’t doubt that she is/was a client. However, it’s bad form for her to use it as Harry’s girlfriend (or wife) without the BRF approval. It’s not something she can use that way and the patchwork stories we see reflect that. Her stories might point to a tip here and there but nothing consistant.

        Think back y’all about Tom Cruise before and after he fired his PR woman. Huge difference in coverage and public opinion. Same thing when Charles hired a PR team to rehab his image. It was called Operation PB and it worked very well. If they all had a PR person hired — we’d see it. Everyone would see it.

  7. The Original Mia says:

    Kate isn’t offering advice to Cressida about royal life. She won’t do anything that rocks her own boat, and William hearing from Harry about Kate’s meddling might not go over well. In other words, this is a whole bunch of BS.

  8. Dame Snarkweek says:

    Kate really cares what Cressida does. Said no one, ever.

  9. Francis says:

    Hahahaha so silly. Kate may try to scare her off, but I doubt it will work, if things with Cress and Harry are going well.
    The Rumours were that Carole wants two Duchesses in the house, but she’s still pinning hope on Pippa getting George Percy, the heir /of/ Duke of Northumberland.

    • Dame Snarkweek says:

      This is so much hooey I don’t know where to start. Pip and Percy have been friends since forever and roomed together with other pals at university. Even if people didn’t speculate about Percy’s sexuality there’s the fact that Percy is not the oldest son. God forbidding an unfortunate accident Percy will never be a duke. I’m afraid you got some gossip that sat out on the counter too long at room temperature. Throw it out, lol.

    • justme says:

      Not sure about George’s sexuality, but he IS the elder son. That is why he has the courtesy title of Earl Percy. He should someday be the 13th Duke of Northumberland. He has a younger brother Lord Max, who is dating a German princess.

      However he and Pippa have only ever been good friends, that is definitely true. As to his orientation, there are rumors from various gossip forums, but mostly they are negative, in that he never had a girlfriend that anyone heard of. However since except when he is with Pippa nobody pays any attention to him (which is probably just fine with him) nobody really knows. No boyfriends have ever been mentioned either!

  10. itsetsyou says:

    Is Harry’s hair getting thin like William’s now? Noooooo!

  11. Allie says:

    Obviously I have no idea what she’s really like, but from her media image, I reeeaaalllllyyyy don’t like her. I’m the same age as her and I don’t appreciate the press pretending she’s this crazy hard worker. Girl doesn’t understand what real hard work is, living pay check to pay check. Must be hard going on all these vacations and stressing out over whether or not she wants to marry a fricken prince. Those are some tough life choices. She must be so stressed right now. Total eye roll. Also, I don’t believe in rich hippies. Done venting.

    • susieQ says:

      Pressure to marry Charles (Harry) – childlike bride Diana (Cressy) – other (strong) woman Camilla (Chelsey) — history repeats itself?

      • FLORC says:

        Do you work for Star magazine?

        Seriously, the story of Camilla is nothing like Chelsy. Maybe how things have been rewritten, but no.
        Now if Harry had several mistresses and Chelsy was the only one keeping her mouth shut after not sleeping with Harry’s brother anymore we could draw a comparrison!

        And Cressy knows what’s up. She’s not young an naive like Diana was at 19 with a 6month whirlwind courting

  12. RedWeatherTiger says:

    Cress is really quite pretty, but she often has a sort of pissy expression. Maybe she just has resting bitchface?

  13. Suze says:

    Story is from the Star, ergo it’s probably 90 percent a crock.

    I agree with Kaiser. If Cressida does not want to marry into the royal family, she should simply cut her losses and move on. Although Harry would then have two ex-girlfriends who “didn’t want the royal life”. Where will he look for a bride? Hmmm? Among starstruck nineteen year olds?

  14. SoCal says:

    Coming soon for Cressida…
    Her Royal Highness, The Princess Henry, Duchess of Clarence…me likee lol.

    If Cressida is looking at Kate’s royal duties then she has got nothing to worry about because she has lowered expectations when it comes to royal duties these days. And, I don’t think they would allow the spare’s wife to work harder than the heir’s wife. So Cressida, can get married, put her feet up in a recliner in one of those Kensington Palace apartments and not do a damn thing; you’re in girlfriend.

    I just realized that if Prince Harry marries Cressida there will be three wives whose names start the letter “C”: Camilla, Catherine, Cressida, wow. Are we going for a trifecta? lol

    • CynicalCeleste says:

      Also known as the duchesses of Cornwall, Cambridge…and potentially Clarence…wow, that’s a strange and interesting point.

    • LadySlippers says:


      As an FYI you only get the ‘The Prince/Princess’ if your a child of the Sovereign. Philip, however, is the exception to that rule per QEII. So for example, Charles and Andrew are The Prince Charles and The Prince Andrew. Same goes for Anne and Edward.

      Her (or anyone married to Harry) title would be HRH Princess Henry Duchess of X (and then whatever lesser titles Harry gets). Only widows/dowagers and divorcées have their own name included in their title (i.e. Diana, Princess of Wales (divorcée) or HRH Princess Marina, Duchess of Kent (widow/dowager)).

      • SoCal says:

        I got it wrong again, darn, lol.

        When I was commenting above, I was also looking at Sophie’s full title on Wikipedia and that’s why I wrote “The Princess Henry” because her’s says The Princess Edward. I understand that her husband is The Prince Edward because his mother is the monarch. And I understand that when Prince Charles becomes king, Prince Harry will get the “The” in front of his name, right now its still HRH Prince Henry of Wales.

      • LadySlippers says:


        Titles are tricky and every country has different rules. Makes it hard so no worries. 😊

      • Kori says:

        This is why Marie Christine is known as Princess Michael–her husband is Prince Michael of Kent. Speaking of whom, Prince Michael is the only Prince without another title (saveHarry who will undoubtedly be given one) unlike his brother theDuke of Kent or cousin the Duke of Gloucester. If MC didn’t want to be called PM, what would she be called? Just MC Kent? I wouldn’t think you could use ‘Lady’ since he’s not a member of the peerage.

    • Dame Snarkweek says:

      So it *is* HRH Princess William, Duchess of Cambridge? I’m confused.

      • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

        But Diana was Diana, Princess of Wales and Sarah Ferguson was the Princess Andrew blah blah, so maybe when Charles is King, Kate will be Princess Katherine? LadySlippers?

      • Dame Snarkweek says:

        The queen okayed that.

      • justme says:

        When Charles is King, Kate will be HRH Catherine, Princess of Wales.

        She’ll never be Princess Catherine because she is not royal by birth. That is the way the British handle that particular title (Continentals handle it differently). The one exception was the Queen’s aunt by marriage, Alice Duchess of Gloucester. When her husband Prince Henry Duke of Gloucester died, she would have become Dowager Duchess of Gloucester, however the Queen decreed that she would instead be known as Princess Alice Duchess of Gloucester.

        Unlike Princess Marina of Kent she was not born a princess, but rather the daughter of a very wealthy duke (Buccleuch) so her actual pre-marital title was Lady Alice Montagu-Douglas-Scott. The Queen wanted to avoid the Dowager term and also wanted to reward her aunt for all her hard work for the Royal Family, Princess Alice lived to be 102!

      • LadySlippers says:


        Yes, Kate IS HRH Princess William Duchess of Cambridge.

        The custom in England, adopted by several nations either formally ruled by the UK or still currently are, is the wife takes on the *exact* but feminine title of her husband. Only exceptions are earned titles like Doctor.


        While Diana was married she was HRH The Princess Charles Princess of Wales Duchess of Cornwall Duchess of Rothesay and so on. It was only *after* the divorce that her title (per British custom) became Diana, Princess of Wales.

        Same with Sarah.

        Married, Sarah was HRH The Princess Andrew Duchess of York and so on. Immediately after the divorce she became HRH Sarah, Duchess of York and then just Sarah, Duchess of York after QEII issued new Letters Patent regarding divorcées of Royal Princes.

        It is 100% due to the fact Diana and Sarah had their titles adjusted (post divorce) that people assumed that was and is the universal and correct title for all titled women. Not true.

        We in the US follow the same rule. Prior to marriage a woman is (for example), Miss Jane E Smith and then after marriage, Mrs Charles J Brown. If she divorces, she regains her name in her title, Mrs Jane E Brown (assuming she kept her married name and didn’t revert to her birth name).

        Calling Diana, Lady Diana Spencer after both her marriage and divorce is incorrect. Same with Sarah. Neither women reverted to their birth name post divorce (that’s always addressed in divorce paperwork).



        Once Charles ascends Kate’s title will automatically be HRH The Princess William Duchess of Cornwall* Duchess of Rothesay* Duchess of Cambridge* and so on. Cornwall (England) and Rothesay (Scotland) are titles automatically given to the eldest son of the Sovereign. Wales has to be formally given through investiture and is not automatic.

        *Territorial designations have a clear hierarchy in the UK peerage system. England trumps Scotland but both trump the UK which is where Cambridge originates from. So that’s the order the duchies will be in when listing them out.

        As for Alice, it was the Duchess that requested to be called HRH Princess Alice, Duchess of Gloucester rather than HRH the Dowager Duchess of Gloucester. A lot of women dislike the term dowager. Lol

        But this request was a dig at Marina. Back in the day, Marina lorded it over her two sister-in-laws that she was *born* a princess while Elizabeth and Alice were merely daughters of earls. So I’m sure Elizabeth had a field day when she was to be addressed as HM and not HRH.

        Ha! Revenge can be sweet!!!

      • LadySlippers says:


        Justme is correct and Alice was a daughter of a duke and not an earl like I stated.

        What I should have said was both women were only a ‘Lady’ prior to marriage unlike Marina.


      • Justme says:

        @LadySlippers, you are quite right that Wales must be given it is not automatic – I just figured it would be given pretty rapidly since William is already an adult, unlike Charles when he mother ascended to the throne.

        I messed up totally however with Catherine Princess of Wales!

        And it is true that Alice made the request, but the point is that it was granted by the Queen, which was not a given, since nothing like that had ever been done before. I think it was out of affection and gratitude for Alice’s years of service. She was a grand lady. Princess Marina and her “common Scottish girls” to the contrary!

        Actually Alice WAS a direct patrilineal descendent of the eldest son of Charles II – however her ancestor the Duke of Monmouth was illegitimate!

      • LadySlippers says:


        Actually Alice was never *formally* created Princess Alice — QEII just okayed her being called it. Lol And yes, I’m sure it was also due to affection and she was very fond of Aunt Alice. But QEII really followed her mother’s lead in stuff like this. Lol and I have *no* doubt that QM gleefully used the title for her SIL.

        Have you heard the theory that Bertie was *almost* passed up for George because of his marriage to Marina?!??? Oh what fun if it might have some truth to it!!! 😄

        Yep, all descendants of Charles came via illegimate children. 😃 William, Harry, and George are the first so far up the line of succession that will also descend from him (via Diana). And William, if he ascends, will be the first British Monarch to hold that distinction.

        As for Wales. I’m of the opinion that William will ask for a span of time before he’s invested. He’s not in a rush to be in the spotlight and will probably allow his father to enjoy the limelight before getting invested. I think he’ll wait 2-5 years before it happens. Strictly a guess though!

      • Jessica says:

        She will NEVER be Princess Catherine as she is not a blood royal.

      • LAK says:

        Justme: first name + comma+ title = divorced woman. Irrespective of whatever title Kate ends up with, referring to her as Catherine, princess or duchess of X is actually saying that she’s divorced.

        Diana and Sarah reverted to that form of address because they were divorced ie Diana, Princess of Wales or Sarah, Duchess of York.

        If as speculated upon, Sarah remarries Andrew, her form address will revert to The Duchess of York reflecting her new married status without her first name included.

      • Justme says:

        @Lak. Yes, yes, I already said I messed up earlier in response to LadySlippers.

        Mean culpa, mea maxima culpa.

    • Elizabeth says:

      I totally agree with you.

  15. Lark says:

    I’m not sure I buy that she wants to give up a normal life, especially when she has so many advantages as it is due to her aristocratic family and wealth. Lainey had photos of her exiting a tube on her blog the other day….. She seems to live a relaxed hippie lifestyle and takes the tube and goes to music festivals. She would have to give up a lot to become prim and proper and she would be analyzed under a microscope.

    • FLORC says:

      i’m there too.
      The argument can be made by a poster here that the Bransons have a hat in this. Cressida is a normal aristo. She doesn’t need a title. But Harry is the Spare and a beloved one. He would take more heat from the press to deflect from william and Kate, but would keep Cressida very sheltered and protected. I’m wondering if she’s not quietly getting her ducks lined up and a list of charities to patron.

  16. Maum says:

    She’s only 25!!!!! There was no way I wanted to get married at that age. She’s just moved in with some friends, she’s having fun…
    I don’t think there s any rush for either of them to get married.

  17. Moore says:

    Well Harry has a part of the marriage deciding too. She most likely doesn’t control when and if a proposal comes. I doubt she could propose to him.
    Maybe she continues to go out with him because he keeps asking her out. And hasn’t married him because he has not yet asked.

  18. aquarius64 says:

    I know everyone knocks the royals doing these tours like the Cambridges did in Australia and New Zealand, calling them paid vacations. These tours look like soft ball diplomacy to me. It’s true that the queen does “reign but does not rule” (neither will Charles or William) these tours are put out to establish and support the current system of government that the Commonwealth countries signed off on by majority vote. (This is my interpretation as an American.) That’s why the sticklers for protocol, the respect for different cultures within the realm (like the nose rub greeting in New Zealand) and the meet and greets with children, etc. I look at that tour and I look at Cressida. Sorry, just because she was born with a platinum spoon in her mouth doesn’t mean she can automatically do the job. She doesn’t look ready for prime time at this moment.

  19. Elizabeth says:

    And Kate does what exactly?

  20. jwoolman says:

    Here’s a novel thought: stop assuming you get a twofer when a royal or a politician marries. The other person shouldn’t have to suddenly go in halfsies with all the stuff expected of the spouse. We have the same problem in the US, for example with the silly idea of First Lady for the President’s wife. If the guy remains unmarried, he manages in his royal/political duties fine by himself. Why should that change when he marries? This is all a holdover from times when women rarely had opportunities for direct power and so worked through their husband. Sometimes spouses do toss in together on various enterprises, but today it really can’t be expected. The two people may already have very separate work lives that both have prepared years to do. Or in the case of public activities expected of a royal – his wife may just not be suited to that. If The Ginge wants a wife to enthusiastically take up the royal chores, he’s better off with an arranged marriage and forgetting about marrying for love, just follow the traditional royal path of outside love partners … It’s all so silly when you think about it.