Miranda Kerr owns her ‘bossy’: ‘Bossy? I can be…my son’s bossy too’

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Miranda Kerr covers the new issues of Vogue Taiwan and Harper’s Bazaar UK. I kind of like the Bazaar shoot – it’s not as p0rny as some of her recent pictorials have been. That being said, I really do believe that Miranda got some post-Orlando breast implants and she’s determined to show them off on red carpets and in magazines. I guess she’s getting her money’s worth. As for the Bazaar interview… it’s same old/same old. Some highlights:

She’s bossy: “There’s nothing in my way once I make up my mind. Bossy? I can be. I like to be direct. My son’s bossy, too.”

Walking away from her Victoria’s Secret contract: “I used to be in two different countries every single week. I made a conscious decision to shift gears. I’m very much a people-pleaser at heart – I feel that if everyone else is happy, then I’m happy – but I’m learning the power of saying no and putting my foot down.”

Her divorce: “Everyone goes through challenging periods in their life. That’s inevitable and it’s part of being human. I feel like it’s a daily process of being positive. It’s something that’s a choice and I have different tools, like meditation, even prayer – my grandmother taught me to pray when I was young – and just finding that inner peace All these experiences make me into the person I am. The tough days make the positive days even more beautiful. The challenging days add more depth and strength of character.”

On Orlando: “Well, we are very good. We speak every day. We’re really close, we’re going to be a family for ever and we really do love one each other. We have genuine love and respect for each other. We’re very connected and I feel grateful for that. We created something beautiful together and we both remind ourselves how lucky we are to have that. And yeah, it’s good. He’s a great dad. I’m lucky.”

There’s always room for improvement: “The older I get, the more of a perfectionist I become. I feel like I can do better, you know? There’s always room for improvement. I like to get constructive criticism and I love when people are honest.”

On son Flynn: “He has so much love around him. That’s why he feels he can express himself and be free. All he knows in the world is love. So cheeky and charming already. You notice his little British accent? Like his dad.”

[From The Daily Mail & Bazaar UK]

I feel like there’s a split between women who wear the “bossy” tag as a statement of pride, like, “Yes, I’m bossy. I own that.” And then there are women – like Beyonce and Sheryl Sandberg – who think that bossy is a misogynistic, weighted word, that we don’t call men “bossy” and so we should eliminate from conversations about women. But in Miranda’s case, I’m not sure it really matters. I don’t really think of her as bossy or the boss. As for the “constructive criticism” thing – Miranda has already said that she likes when people critique her love-making skills. Ugh.

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Photos courtesy of Bazaar UK.

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  1. GiGi says:

    I really do hate the word “bossy” for exactly the reasons you stated. To me, true women of power are committed, driven and passionate and they lift those around them. In my mind, “bossy” is someone who stands in a position of power and dictates to those around them.

    I have a child in my life whose parents actively encourage to be bossy. And it is dreadful to be around the entire scenario. It is a false definition of power.

    • P.J. says:

      @Gigi: While I don’t at all agree with the whole absurd “Bossy is sexist! We should BAN the word altogether!!” campaign/ideology (I mean, are there ANY ways left to criticize someone who also happens to be female that won’t be deemed off limits, “misogynistic” or “sexist” at this point?? Do we really want to raise girls to balk at/ignore/and believe that are exempt from all forms of criticism simply because they’re female?) I do totally agree with what you’ve said Anyone being “bossy” (a term I have never personally not could I ever conceive of applying to an adult) is anyone-female or male-pushing their figurative weight around and ordering-not politely asking-others to do what they want. Since that is never a positive character trait in ANYONE-at least not anyone I’d want to be around personally or professionally-is the point of the campaign to say “If we’re women who happen to be behaving in this manner you’re not allowed to call us out on it.”? Or is it to say we WANT to teach young girls & women to be “bossy” (which is by definition pushy, demanding and self serving) because that is what being in a position of power is?? I don’t get it. Why would anyone want their children (boys or girls) to aspire to behave this way? It’s very reminiscent of the movement that pushed the idea that sleeping with as many people as possible because it’s somehow “liberating” and “powerful.” Forgive me but, I think being incredibly selective about who I get intimate with, working hard, carrying myself with grace and treating others well at all times is what real power is; not an incessant need to prove that you are in control of people/places/things.

  2. aims says:

    I’m guilty of being bossy at home. Maybe it’s my virgo self, but I can definitely be that way. It’s something that’s a work in progress. But in my defense, my husband is the most easy going man on the planet, so someone’s got to be in control of our freak show.

    • minime says:

      Virgo here. “Bossy” problem as well, but in treatment…like, I’m just learning how to let it go with the flow and not stress if everything is not up to the plan. I guess it’s hardwork for virgos. 🙂 (I have no problem with the word bossy with this exact meaning, since assertive is something completely different)

  3. poppy says:

    so, she’s just not going to go away, is she.
    *all hopes crushed*

    • FLORC says:

      Maybe not entirely, but the less attention we pay here the less Kerr posts we will see.
      Don’t like her? Don’t post. that simple.

  4. Karen says:

    The whole “Ban Bossy” thing is the stupidest thing ever.

  5. Katey says:

    Bossy is a valid word. It’s usually negative bc being bossy is generally unpleasant for those on the receiving end. If you don’t want to be called bossy, don’t be bossy. Very simple. Men can absolutely be bossy. We’re going to argue over semantics? Move along.

    • P.J. says:

      YES Katey! You’ve articulated exactly the point I was trying to get across only in a much more succinct way 🙂 I really hate this new movement that’s pushing the idea that women are above criticism. The enormous irony here is that an effort to “ban” a word in the name of “empowerment” simply because a large group of women find it offensive in and of itself makes our gender appear fragile. (Yuck) Like, “We can’t handle a word we don’t like being directed our way. Let’s ban it!”

  6. CharlotteS says:

    Well good for her, she can call herself what she wants.

  7. MrsB says:

    I’m not even going to touch on the whole ‘bossy’ subject, but I have to say I have a lot of respect for the way she and Bloom are handling their divorce. They seem to truly be putting their son’s needs first instead of their egos. So props to them for that.

  8. raindrop says:

    Props to Miranda for not throwing her kid’s dad under the bus. Really, she’s being surprisingly graceful and mature about it. I half expected her to trash-talk Orlando, perhaps with a few veiled insults. Good for her.

  9. maybeiamcrazy says:

    I don’t get it. Bossy is just a word. There are bossy people, so it is stupid to ban that word. But it is eye-roll worthy when people use it as a compliment to themselves. It is a negative trait to have.

    English is not my first language, so i am genuinely wondering why this word is a cause to such controversy. Is it the way it is used in daily language?

  10. Jenna says:

    Not to be an ignorant pagan (I WAS raised in religion just… ah. Yeah. Found other paths) but just what does someone how to be ‘taught to pray’. Isn’t it just, you know “Hey god, here’s what is going on, thanks for this and wow I’m needing help for that” conversations?

    Unless her family is Buddhist or Catholic and their prayer requires props like rosary or prayer beads. (really really trying to be respectful while being totally confused over the statement – and totally willing to accept I’m a moron who should grasp the obvious. Let’s just say it’s come up a lot lately and I’m totally and completely clueless here.) But beyond that, I’ve got no clue what she might be talking about. And if it’s a vital enough thing to trot out into an interview of how she manages to be her, I suppose I’m missing something big here.

  11. lucy2 says:

    “There’s always room for improvement.” This is true – we’ve seen her photoshop skills.

  12. Abbott says:

    This grandmother she frequently name checks, is this the same grandmother who says Miranda hasn’t spoken to her family in over a year?

  13. aenflex says:

    She’s an idiot, just generally speaking.
    How will her son feel later in life when he gets to see mom dressed up like a porn star, I also wonder.

  14. peaches mcdooby says:

    funny i l call her a different “B” word

  15. RdyfrmycloseupmrDvlle says:

    Well, I find it refreshing that shes a woman not afraid to own her bossy label.
    Im a CEO and if I had a dime for every person that felt threatened and/or called me a B***ch for, you know, being the boss and acting like a boss. I have literally said to people/employees/collegues…”This isent a likeability contest. Im the boss not your friend. This is my business, get over it.”
    Label me whatever you want thats fine. I call myself HBIC ( head bitch in charge) so “bossy” is nothing.
    Agressive/exacting women in business are called “bitches” ( but are feared and respected. Think: Anna Wintour) Men that are agressive/exacting are respected and liked. Thats the way it is.
    I say whatever. Bitch? Ok, cool. Now get me my coffee. Pfft!

  16. Serene says:

    Ok…so bossy is also not politically correct now?? Sheesh! What’s next?
    With all the political correctness going on, I sometimes wonder how people are supposed to have conversations without offending someone or the other.