Anna Paquin: I’m ‘proud to be a happily married bisexual mother’

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True Blood comes back for its seventh and final season on June 22. I wasn’t impressed with the way that season six ended, but you know that I’ll keep watching it until the bitter end. I can’t get enough of that campy show.

Star Anna Paquin came out as bisexual in 2010. She later clarified why she went public. “There is a lot of prejudice against us but the more people talk about it, the less of a deal it will be.” She was right. Since Anna came out, Evan Rachel Wood, Amber Heard and Maria Bello have all come out as bisexual.

Anna lent her support to Gay Pride week in some new tweets saying that she’s proud to be bisexual. Cool! Here’s what she tweeted [via US Weekly]



Just yesterday I heard an interview on the Diane Rehm show on NPR with Piper Kerman, the woman who wrote Orange is The New Black based on her experience in women’s prison. (She’s portrayed by Taylor Schilling on the Netflix series.) Diane specifically asked Piper about her sexuality (she’s bisexual). Piper said that times have changed dramatically in the 20 years since she came out and said that “I think we’ve come so far that it’s amazing.” (You can hear her comments at 42:00 into the last video on this page.)

Piper is right. There used to be a huge stigma around bisexuality, as if it was a choice and as if people don’t fall on a spectrum of sexuality. Not everyone is on one side or the other and there have been great gains in public awareness. Celebrities like Anna have helped.

Getting back to True Blood, I have a very mild spoiler to share. Stop reading now if you’re spoiler averse. Alex Skarsgard (Eric Northman) recently told TV Guide that his vampire character has a sexy dream sequence with human Jason Stackhouse, played by Ryan Kwanten. Yes! It’s one of those homoerotic sex dreams that the humans have about vamps when they’ve ingested their blood. (Remember the shower scene between vampire Bill and Sam Merlotte?) Alex said that the scene “was written like an Argentinean telenovela, totally over the top. It was tough because Ryan is incredibly funny. I couldn’t stop laughing.” I hope we get to see that soon! There are more True Blood spoilers in Alex’s interview if you’re interested.

Anna Paquin and Stephen Moyer walk down Abbot Kinney with their twins Charlie and Poppy and Moyer's daughter Lilac

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Exclusive... Anna Paquin Takes The Twins For A Stroll

Anna is shown out with her twins in March and April. She’s shown on Oscar night with her husband, Stephen Moyer. Credit: FameFlynet, and PCNPhotos

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  1. Audrey says:

    I’m in the same boat. 🙂

    I hate the stereotype that bisexual people won’t be satisfied with one gender. I love my husband and would never cheat on him.

    Being bisexual means that there aee more people for me to be attracted to, not that I actually want to sleep with everyone that I see. I’m very satisfied with my life with my husband and daughter

    • Ag says:

      yeah, i never understood the “slutty” stereotype that people assigned to bi and gay people. as if “slutty” was not a thing amongst some heterosexuals.

      • Madi says:

        I think a lot of people think bisexual means threesomes or that they will cheat because they cannot be satisfied with just their partner. The more people talk about bisexuality the more people will maybe understand

    • Jules says:

      Good for you. But why does she need to publicize it? I am a happily married woman. Does it matter if I am straight, bi or gay?

      • Audrey says:

        My immediate thought was that it’s a bit of response to the ERW stories that her marriage broke up cause she wanted to be with women.

        The stereotype is more common than a lot of people realize. I don’t advertise my sexuality, but whenever it comes up with someone who didn’t know, I always get asked if my husband lets me still sleep with women.

        No. I’m in a monogamous marriage. I don’t need to sleep with anyone, I’m happy with what I have.

      • BestJess says:

        Simple. Because there is an enormous amount of both social and institutional discrimination against anyone who identifies in any other way than hetero. This discrimination harms people. It kills people. Talking about it helps beat back the ignorance.

        Hetero people see themselves mirrored in popular culture all the time, they’re not discriminated against. There’s no need to “publicize” it, we already know about heteros.

      • Venus says:

        It does matter, because there’s a huge stereotype that if you’re bisexual you’re incapable of a steady relationship with one person. She’s saying that you can be bisexual and just have an ordinary life. When you’re married to a man, it’s easy for people to think you’re “over” being bi — probably even more so once you have kids. I’m bi and married to a man, with him for 20+ years. Am I straight because I’ve been (monogamous) with a man for so long? No way.

      • Allie says:

        She wants to publicize it because there are still homophobic people who believe she should hide or believe she shouldn’t have the same rights. She didn’t randomly tweet that she’s bi, it was in response to Gay Pride Week. Hopefully one day it won’t matter to everyone what you’re sexual orientation is but we are not there yet.

        I find that people who ask why gay or bi need to publicize their sexual orientation are a bit homophobic themselves. Why do you care if they say they’re into women or men? How does it affect you? They publicize it because they have a right to and because there is still a stigma attached to being gay/bi.

      • Jen says:

        Are you serious? It blows my mind when people say stuff like this. IT MATTERS BECAUSE PEOPLE STILL HAVE NO IDEA WHAT THEY’RE TALKING ABOUT unless it’s about a completely heterosexual relationship. There are plenty of kids out there who are totally confused about who they are still.

    • Amy Tennant says:

      Me too, Audrey!

    • Anastasia says:

      I could have written this word for word. Been married for over 20 years to the love of my life, who happens to be a man. Could have been a woman, but wasn’t.

    • Paul says:

      Yep. I love these two

    • ol cranky says:

      Way back when I worked at a company where people were pretty much accepting of people regardless of nationality, religion, race, sexual orientation etc. Some of the people with whom I worked knew that my now ex is bisexual and we had a discussion about it and whether I was concerned whether he’d cheat on me. I pointed out that we all knew that at least 4 of our straight male co-workers were cheating on their wives and, as far as I was concerned, cheating was cheating regardless of the gender of the third party. The question of my fear of him cheating because he was bi never came up again.

  2. Patricia says:

    “But… But… Bisexual women can NEVER be faithful! Bisexual women must have sex with women even if they are committed to a man, or they rot away in misery! A bisexual woman can’t deal with monogamy!! ”

    This is the kind of drivel we hear on posts about Amber Heard and it makes me so mad. I’m bisexual. I’m also insanely monogamous. I’m happily married to a man, often have dreams about sex with women but guess what? I love being monogamous and married. I’m so glad Anna continues to show the world that bisexuality does not equal an inability to commit to a relationship.

    • Jules says:

      Just a cynical question…………how many of these actresses are actually bi?

    • Venus says:

      And that’s five of us married bi women speaking up! Go, us. And go, Anna Paquin.

    • Artemis says:

      Why even ask that question? Do we ask heterosexual people to prove their heterosexuality? How does that even work? Do they have to have a partner and make out in front of others?

      I don’t get this type reasoning, especially because people will say it’s fake or for attention anyway. They will dismiss what they see in favour for their own opinion.

      For example, Ellen Page could’ve been bisexual as she dated men/boys in the past and she was never openly dating women. People here and everywhere else said she was a lesbian. People don’t care for ‘proof’. Or all those actors that are called gay (e.g. Gyllenhaal, Cruise), they can date/marry as many women as they want, people will make up their own truth.

    • TexasTexasTexas says:

      They can also apply that idiotic thinking to heterosexual relationships. You don’t magically quit being attracted to the opposite sex when you get married. Monogamy is monogamy, regardless.

  3. Sumodo1 says:

    (*Waiting for other shoe to drop*) So, it’s an open marriage, right?

    • kri says:

      I don’t think monogamy and sexual preference have anything to do with one another. If you are a cheater, you are a cheater.Doesn’t matter who it’s with.

    • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

      Do you sleep with every person you find attractive even if you’re married?

      • jaye says:

        THANK YOU! People continue to look at being gay, lesbian or bi as one dimensional. They focus on the “sex” part when, like with heterosexuality, it’s far more complex. In fact, the only discernible difference between being straight or gay, as far as I can see, is WHO you love.

  4. Madi says:

    Yeah Anna!! By the way those two little ones are super duper cute. The one on the right looks like he has his dad’s eyes 🙂

  5. Talie says:

    My question is: How does her bisexuality remain satisfied in her marriage? Does she act on her feelings? Do they have threesomes?

    I’m not being cute… just curious.

    • Ag says:

      i presume the same way my heterosexuality remains satisfied in my marriage – i am crazy about my husband and i’m so attracted to him that i don’t want anyone else.

    • Cirien says:

      Fantasies? Sex dreams? *ahem* “alone time” if she gets any to satisfy that side of her? Just because she’s attracted to both genders, doesn’t mean she loves her husband any less. Not does it mean she actively wants, or feels the need to bring a woman into their marriage. You’re heading into all kinds of (nasty) stereotypes here….

    • embertine says:

      Talie, how does your heterosexuality (if that’s what you are) remain satisfied in your relationships? Do you sleep with every attractive man you meet? No? Then why would a bi woman need to cheat any more than a straight woman?

    • Audrey says:

      My sexual urges are satisfied by my husband

      I find other men and women attractive just like straight married people still find other people attractive.

      I don’t need to sleep with women to be satisfied. I’m just capable of being in a loving and satisfying relationship with either gender.

      But i happened to fall in love with a man and he’s all that I need now

    • nan says:

      Maybe because for many people bisexuality is not an “appetite” but is more of a personal quality — such as that a bisexual person could be in a relationship with either a man or a woman IF the right person comes along — i.e. gender is not a deal-breaker. A bisexual person doesn’t have any more of a struggle being monogamous than a heterosexual or homosexual person does — it depends on each individual and the specifics of the relationship they’re in as to whether they’re going to be or remain monogamous.

    • Jen says:

      How the hell does your heterosexuality stay satisfied in your marriage? By having sex with the person you love!

      WTF kind of ridiculous question is that?

    • Talie says:

      Interesting points overall. Although, fascinating that no one seems to want to approach the issue of them maybe having some leeway on bringing a woman into their bedroom. It’s not cheating for everyone. It does work for some couples.

  6. The New Classic says:

    She had twins?

  7. eliza says:

    I couldn’t care less about her sexuality but I do care how awful she is on True Blood. I am so glad the show is ending because I will never have to watch her in anything again.

    I have watched TB since the beginning only stuck with it because of Erick and Pam and of course Layfayette! Paquin and Moyer, in my opinion, are the weakest part of the show. Sookie’s fairy storyline is horrible. I kept hoping all these years she, Bill and Aldice would be casualties! Lol.

    • Aeryn39 says:

      Thank you!!! I only stuck with it because of Pam, Lafayette and Eric as well!

      I read the books and though they’re not the greatest things ever written (albeit light years better than the Twilight books IMO), I wish the TV series had not focused so much on Bill like in the books. There was a lot more Eric and Sookie in the books and I find Paquin less annoying when she’s in Eric’s orbit.

      • claire says:

        Sad the way Eric got treated in the last book. I’m still so bitter about that. haha.

    • Jen says:

      Yep, Bill and Sookie/Anna and Stephen are the worst part. Yet they’re somehow still the leads? Boggles the mind. I like them as people fine, but as actors they’re horrible.

  8. Chrissy says:

    Why is she talking about this now, you ask? It’s hardly a coincidence that the last season of True Blood start next week. Her and her husband need all the publicity they can get since their acting on TB leaves a lot to be desired. Long live Eric Northman!!!

    • lucy2 says:

      She talked about this quite a while ago, and I think just mentioned it again on twitter because it’s Gay Pride Week.

    • Jen says:

      She only mentioned it on her Twitter because it’s Pride week.

  9. Duri says:

    I didn’t know she was bisexual but it’s nice to see someone with perspective. Her kids are so adorable 😀

  10. mfmaefh says:

    that little girl made me smile

  11. Dame Snarkweek says:

    Really, people, the kids are alright.

  12. lala says:

    @ CB – are you as horrified as I am by the spoiler picture of Eric with Hep V??? I swear if that’s how they kill him it will make the ending of the show worse than the ending of the Sookie Stackhouse novels. And I didn’t think ANYTHING could be worse than the ending of the SS novels….How wrong I was! BTW totally feel the same way about S6 and am watching S7 only because I need to finish things that I’ve started lol

    • mayamae says:

      Since Eric died in the last episode, I’m confused how he can even be in season seven.

      • lala says:

        LOL he’s definitely alive. Askars dropped that tidbit in the tvguide interview he did in the beginning of june…he pretty much killed the Sookie/Eric ship too.

  13. Miss M says:

    She was barely there , but her name came up before Ellen Page on the credits and I couldn’t understand why…

    • Kori says:

      She had a larger role but it was cut for time and story reasons. Probably still something about billing in her contract though.

  14. db says:

    Love Anna, sure will miss her once the show ends

  15. Tiffany :) says:

    I don’t care what storyline they create to give “Jason Stackhouse” more time unclothed…

    I find him incredibly hot, and I think Ryan Kwanten the actor has a lot of skills. I saw him in a Law and Order playing a Marine, and he really surprised me with his talent. I wish I could see him in something other than TB.

  16. Misery says:

    I am glad that all these women are coming out as bisexual. It blazes a trail for others.
    BUT, I was wondering, are there many bisexual female celebrities that are dating/married to women? Most of them seem to have male partners.

    Don’t get me wrong, I DO NOT mean to imply that they are not really bisexual or anything of the sort. It’s just that I can’t think of many bisexual female celebrities that are/have been in same sex relationships in the public eye.

  17. siri says:

    Somehow, bisexuality makes sense to me, since love can come in many ways, not first, and foremost, being related to gender. Who knows for sure to whom he/she will be attracted to- but it’s always gonna be a PERSON. Whatever the gender. But, like @Misery says, I also noticed that most of the bisexual women are choosing a male partner in the end…anyone here to try to explain? Same here, it’s not an assumption of any kind, just a serious question.