Ben Whishaw talks about coming out & how he doesn’t own a computer


Maybe this post is just for me, because I adore Ben Whishaw. Other people adore him too, but he’s not really scandalous or all that gossip-worthy. The most attention he’s ever gotten was last year when he married his partner in a civil ceremony and subsequently “came out” as a gay man. That was a minor controversy because the UK papers got a hold of Ben’s civil partnership paperwork and sort of “outed” him, although to be fair to the UK press, he was never really closeted and his publicist confirmed the news. All in all, it was a pretty uneventful coming out, but that’s good too. Ben’s well respected and in-demand as an actor no matter what. No one cares about his sexuality. Anyway, since then, Ben has been keeping a low profile… because he ALWAYS has a low profile. But he’s got a new movie (Lilting) coming out, so he did one interview and it’s making the rounds. Some quotes:

Ben on being cast as Q in Skyfall: “I’m very non-techy. I don’t even have a computer. But there’s something very appealing about that character. I was surprised to find myself in that kind of film, a big film, with such a big audience.”

“Coming out” to his family: “I did have to. It’s a phrase I’m not entirely comfortable with, but since it’s the only one we have… My experiences were not dramatic. No walking around the block. And everyone was surprisingly lovely. I hadn’t anticipated that they would be, but they were.”

Identifying with the gay character he plays in Lilting: “I identify with the character in Lilting in as much as I had a lot of fear in doing it [coming out] for a long time. And who can say why? I’m not sure I know. But it takes courage and people have to do it in their own time. It’s hard to have a conversation with people you’ve known your whole life about a very intimate thing. It’s massively weighted with all sorts of stuff, whatever the wider world is saying. It’s an intimate and private and difficult conversation for most people.”

Coming out is hard: “It is hard, I applaud anyone who does it. There is so much tension around doing something like that, that maybe you’re not quite thinking rationally. You can say absurd things because you are in a panic.”

[From The Sunday Times, via The Independent & the Mirror]

Wow, he actually answered some personal questions and he did it with grace. I’m glad everyone was “surprisingly lovely” about it. The most controversial thing to me is that he doesn’t own a computer?!!? How can someone in the “first world” not own a computer?!

Oh, and you know that terrifying Paddington Bear movie that they’ve made with Jim Broadbent and Nicole Kidman? The CGI bear looks like he came straight out of hell and Colin Firth’s posh voice coming out of the bear wasn’t helping matters. It was like Paddington Bear was a furry assassin, a killing machine in bear form with an icy voice. Well, Ben Whishaw is the new replacement voice for the bear. That should be an improvement. Ben has a lovely, sweet voice.


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  1. in_theory says:

    I don’t know much about him, but I adore him as Richard II in “The Hollow Crown” series.

  2. Illyra says:

    I loved him in Perfume.

  3. Lady Macbeth (Hiddles F.) says:

    I love him, period. And I also like the fact he always keeps a low profile.

  4. allons-y alonso says:

    Ah Ben Whishaw! From ‘Brideshead Revisited’ to ‘The Hour’, I adore him. It’ll never happen, but he is also my dream Doctor for Doctor Who.

    • jammypants says:

      wow, now that you mention it, he would have been a great Doctor!

    • Loveisthecoal says:

      Oh, he’s my dream Doctor as well! I just love him so, so much. Amazing actor and seems like such a lovely human being as well.

  5. CG says:

    Aw, now I’m thinking about The Hour being cancelled and I’m sad! 🙁 Love him, though. He was great (and ridiculously attractive) as Q!

  6. Bear says:

    Who is he? He sort of looks familiar but I’m not sure.

  7. Arhodo says:

    Love him!!

  8. Liz says:

    He’s such a talented man, loved him in Hollow crown and The Hour.

  9. Lilacflowers says:

    I just want to hug him. Then spend a rainy afternoon eating ice cream, watching old movies, and gossiping with him.

  10. frisbeejada says:

    Now he’s voicing Paddington Bear! – I grew up on Paddington, adore Paddington, adore Ben it’s a perfect match as far as I’m concerned – although I can’t quite see Ben giving anyone a Paddington ‘hard stare’…

  11. Adrien says:

    He’s really cute. I only know him as Q and the guy in Perfume ( underrated movie).

  12. Kori says:

    Loved him as Q in Skyfall. This is the kind of sort-of-nerdy-but-cute floppy-haired pale Brit I see my daughter marrying eventually. 🙂 But without the beard. And straight, obviously. 🙂 But when I saw him as Q, I was like ‘yep, that’s what my son-in-law will look like’.

    He’s a very talented actor and it’s good to see his coming out treated so casually. It seems like Matt Bomer’s in that way. And I guess gay celebs ARE just like straight celebs–reporters sneaking info on their marriages and all–at least if they were trying to ‘out’ the marriage and not him. If they were trying to play ‘gotcha’ with him about his sexuality, then that’s just skanky.

    It just seems that it’s so blase nowadays. Obviously there are some tests of whether a super-hunky type ala Chris Hemsworth could be gay and successfully (ie commercially) play a sexy leading man or superhero. But in terms of ‘gasp, HE/SHE is GAY?!’ doesn’t really seem to exist the way it did when I was growing up. It’s more of a shrug and the surprise is always that Jim Parsons and Wentworth Miller are in their 40s, not that they’re gay. With some it’s even ‘wasn’t that already known?’ I’m old enough to remember when Ellen DeGeneres coming out was on Time magazine and other ‘coming out’ stories warranted the cover of People magazine. Now they’re increasingly throwaway lines in a story (Zachary Quinto) and I think that’s great.

    • BOXES full of Pepe says:

      LMAO, because I literally went “What!? Jim Parsons is in his 40s!” Yes, indeed. He is 41.

      His looks don’t hurt, but Whishaw is so talented, his dreaminess almost doesn’t matter… almost 😀 (I mean it’s a bonus.) I watched The Hour because I’d heard good things about it, and a woman was responsible for the show (yep, I girl power like that within reason), and I still had Directv and they were replaying all the episodes. I totally fell in love with Mr. Whishaw and have seen everything he’s been in that I can get my hands on, (including materials relating to comedian Simon Amstell’s crush on him).

    • bella says:

      “Obviously there are some tests of whether a super-hunky type ala Chris Hemsworth could be gay and successfully (ie commercially) play a sexy leading man or superhero. ” I agree.
      Luke Evans is gay ( but not assumed. He went back to the closet when he started to do blockbusters) and he’s playing Bard in the Hobbit 3.
      Ben had the courage to show himself to his family and fans and I’m pretty sure his career will not suffer because of that. Maybe Luke should learn something with this lovely guy.

  13. idesofmarch315 says:

    He’s one of those actors that everyone seems to like. I seriously haven’t met anyone who doesn’t (those who know who he is,).

  14. MediaB says:

    …. And don’t forget he’s playing Freddy Mercury in an upcoming film.

    • kri says:

      He is playing Freddie Mercury!?! Oh, wow. That will be a performance I won’t miss! I find him mesmerizing.

  15. Tig says:

    I really liked him in Bright Star, but Perfume was a bleh. And Brideshead suffered so much in comparison to the miniseries- Anthony Andrews is Sebastian, Ben was pretty one note in that.

  16. Froop says:

    He’s beautiful. I can’t wait to see Lilting, some early reviews have been very positive.

  17. Lara says:

    My friend was sat next to him at a charity dinner once with no clue who he was. They talked and he said he was an actor. There was an auction and one of the lots was a one off walk on part of Gemma Athertons new play. My friend leans over and nudges him saying ‘go for it this is your big break’. Next day she watched Skyfall with me… Never will I let her live it down.

  18. j.eyre says:

    Ben is lovely and his soft, kind interview was a nice way to start the day. Any day Ben appears here is a good thing.

  19. Nicole says:

    I hated his character in The Hour so much that I can’t look at him rationally. I just want to punch his face every time I see him now.

  20. jammypants says:

    He’s extremely adorable and has such a soothing, sweet voice.

  21. Kat says:

    He is so beautiful and cute, i love him as an actor too!

  22. EscapedConvent says:

    I adore him. He’s replacing Colin Firth as the voice of Paddington Bear?! Oh, that will be wonderful. I hadn’t heard that.

  23. icerose says:

    Loved him in just about everything he has done ,In Criminal Minds he was mesmerising and I am really sad I missed his Hamlet.I saw him on stage in MOJO an his dramatic timing and delivery of humour was spot on. I was not crazy over the play but just seeing his and Daniel Mays’s performances was worth every penny.He also has a great singing voice so s definitely gong to see him as Freddie Mercury.I also saw him in one of his first stage roles His Dark Materials.
    I think everyone knew he was gay but respected his right to decide if and when he wanted to come out. I always admire him for that especially when he was being poked by the press in Cloud Atlas. I think in the UK we have always had gay actors who even if they had not com out were known to be gay and made no real attempt to hide it and no one really cared.
    In the early days watching him being interviewed was quite painful because he really did not like talking about himself but he seems to be easier about it now.
    Love that he has no computer-bet he reads a lot and listens to music.

    Thank you for posting this Kaiser

  24. Kimberly says:

    He seems like a nice guy and I think he’s a decent actor to. I liked him in Skyfall.

  25. H2O says:

    He was the best romantic male lead in Bright Star. He needs to do more of that stuff. I hope he doesn’t get marginalized.