Jennifer Lopez covers the new issue of Self Magazine and she’s showing off her crazy body. She’s a 45 year old vampire with the abs of a teenage dancer! But I can’t say I’m totally in love with this editorial – I’ve never really loved it when Jennifer slicks back her hair completely. I love it when she does big, bouncy hair. Just my personal preference. Anyway, J.Lo talks about dating younger men, love addiction and divorce. Some interview highlights:
She’s a dancer: “I still consider myself a dancer first and foremost. Well, after being a mother, of course.”
She doesn’t want to be called a cougar: “Enough with the clichés about women. We can date younger guys. It’s no big deal. All the old clichés about women need to be undone. Enough already. We’re in the other position now. We are desirable older, we can date younger guys and it’s not this big taboo. Men have been doing this for years, and it’s no big deal.”
She’s trying not to repeat her past love disasters: “When you have that much pain, you have to anesthetize yourself in some ways. People do different things. Some go out and party and sleep around, but that’s just not my way. I found the comfort in someone else. That’s called being a love addict. When I face myself, I go, ‘You have a fear of really being on your own. So you know what? That’s what we’re gonna do right now.’ But it took me years to get there. So first it was learning to love myself. And then it was about facing my fears.”
Playing a character who cheats on her husband with a younger man: “I can relate. I’ve been through divorce. I’ve been cheated on, just like every other girl in the world. So you sympathize, you understand the emotions. And I’ve dated a younger guy once in my life, so I could definitely understand that part, too—the attraction.”
Producing her own movies: “People would have been like, ‘Oh, a female-driven movie. I don’t know if we want to do that.’ But now we can just go do it ourselves. All I have to do is bank on myself, which I’m in the business of doing.”
Her future: “I want to prove to everyone that I can do everything and be a superwoman. But I have to take time for myself.”
I think it’s a good sign that J.Lo has been publicly “single” for the last half of the year. I mean, I’m sure she still has a relationship with Casper Smart (he hangs around like a fart in a windless day), but she keeps insisting that she’s single, I’m sort of believing that their current relationship is more like friends with benefits. But Jennifer has been going to events by herself or with friends, and it seems like she’s taking a breather from the dating world. Which is good. She IS a love addict and she is terrified of being alone. Maybe if she gives herself some time, her next boyfriend will be someone really hot. Like… David Gandy.
Photos courtesy of Self, J.Lo’s Instagram.
Very nice looking cover. I wonder what sacrifices JLo has to make – in terms of time and diet – to keep in such good shape. I believe I read once that she has always been a teetotaler, so I suppose she avoids a lot of alcohol-related calories.
One of her ex-husbands (a non-famous one) said she always watched what she ate and did exercise almost every day. Another ex from when she was in her early 20s said the same and she lost weight when she became a Fly Girl.
Her being a dancer (and a better one than most of her peers, including Beyoncé) and being a natural perfectionist make it probably easy to maintain that lifestyle. It’s who she is. Her vice is men/love, not food or drugs.
Given her fortune, she has unlimited access to healthy food which a tremendous help when wanting to keep a nice figure. There is also the myriad of personal trainers and nutritionists, however a lot of stars in Hollywood have as much resources but they don’t look like her especially at that age, therefore genes play a big part of it.
Well, but money can’t buy you discipline. A lot of Hollywood stars also drink, smoke, do drugs, and sunbathe. With all that money and access it is just as easy and tempting to not take care of your health. And, if you are stupid, which a fair number of them are, you might think you can get away with all that and just fix it later with surgery, and we all know how well that usually works out!
Beyonce is hardly her peer age-wise (shes over a decade older) or careerwise (shes significantly less successful). Jlos claim to fame these days is her dating life, judging some talent show and her diva notoriety – not withstanding her rubbing her 45 year old butt against some 20 year old Australian rapper in that ridiculous video.
I think the fact that she’s been consistent with her weight and diet has been a huge asset too. She’s never starved for size zero or really fluctuated much at all and I think that’s helped her skin keep its elasticity.
I always look forward to your comments, Artemis especially on brangeliniston and beyonce threads and on posts about blacks cos you’re reasonable. Very reasonable
I would never have ranked JLo as a better dancer than Beyoncé and I hope I’m not biased as I’m a bigger fan of Bey’s than JLo’s. But from the videos of both artistes I’ve seen(boy have I seen a lot) I think Beyoncé is the better dancer by a mile. Or maybe it’s bias
Yep, I agree Artemis. I think her love of dance, definitely helped her out with discipline in staying the same size. And she probably does eat fairly healthy, but probably has someone who makes it…not boring. I think that’s a huge deal with people who don’t want to eat more vegetables, less meat. They see it as just having to eat rabbit food all the time.
My dad kept trying to get me to eat healthier, but his version of eating healthier was to eat spinach with EVERYTHING. Which is kinda gross. So I finally just started experimenting with vegetarian dishes, and I make this dish with potatoes, carrots, and onions–sauteed in olive oil and a ton of spices that I like (along with lemon juice, LET ME TELL you, I LOVE LEMON JUICE), have it with rice, tomato sauce (seriously just blended a whole tomato and added spices), and the potatoes…and it was good.
And yeah–I could eat that every day (with at least one little chicken wing on the side 😉
‘he hangs around like a fart in a windless day’ Bwahahahahaha that is the funniest thing I have heard all month.
I love her from reading this interview. She is real aboout who she is and her flaws
She is SOOOOO gorgeous. But her face looks photoshopped-weird on the cover.
Yes sooo beautiful, absolutely stunning.
But she is getting that shiny tell tale botox wax skin look, to her face, it’s extremely well done, but it’s early stage of when Nicole Kidman did hers and it still looked natural at that point.
Still JLO is flawwwwwwwwless! Gorgeous woman.
Love her cover, she is so stunning. Wow. Gorgeous woman.
I hate the word Cougar applied to the woman dating younger guys.
Jen no problem with you dating younger men, but the choices she makes with some, Casper chasing Trannies girls….
Jen has bad taste in men, IMO. She is gorgeous though, truly stunning.
I hope she gets People Magazine Most Beautiful next year, she is gorgeous.
I thought her answer was fine, but, yeah, my issue with Casper wasn’t that he was young, but that I don’t think he’s really straight.
Cougar is a better name than sugar mamma because imo that’s exactly what she was to Casper.
Preach sister!
Good for her coming out and talking about love addiction. I hope she’s getting some real help for it. Not an easy thing to really recover from.
Why does she feel like she has to prove anything to anyone? Do whatever you want.
I love what she says about women not bring labeled cougars. Down with the older-women stigmatization!
I have always hated that term Cougar, it sounds creepy and predatory. Yuck.
Agree. And it annoys me that there’s not an equivalent name for men who date younger women – that’s just “natural” I suppose.
there is a word for men and its “creep”, how often is that used for women? see.
it is predatory, no matter the gender. its about having power or feeling insecure because of old age.
What if it’s about love and connection, Sara? What if it’s about two people that really care for each other deciding to be together even thought they’re not the same age? You sound like you think all relationships where people aren’t exactly the same age are somehow twisted and unhealthy. That’s so unfair.
@Sara How misinformed you must be. I am 11 years older than my guy and it has nothing to do with power or feeling insecure. It’s more about attraction, connections, sharing the same interest, feeding off each other’s energy and most of all being in love. Not only do we love each other but we really like each other. We enjoy each other’s company. My age is not a factor. As a matter of fact when we first met he thought I was around his age. Unless you have been in a relationship where your partner is older or younger you shouldn’t speak on something that you know absolutely nothing about. It’s not the same in all older/younger relationships but you make it seems as if it is.
I think it’s different things for different people. Some people sincerly fall in love with a younger person it happens all the time but……for some people it is about power, age and other issues…..
I know a woman ,who finds men her own age OLD, she constantly goes for men ten to 15 years younger and it is about control for her and not feeling like she’s old. She basically admitted that to me and my mom one day.
I think it sounds creepy and predatory too, but not the way you’d think. To me, it’s not something I’d ever call myself. It’s a word that’s used by 19-year-old guys on OkCupid who think that because I’m in my 30s, I must be lusting after them so hard that I’ll put up with all kinds of immaturity and degrading treatment. As long as both people are reasonably advanced into adulthood, I think age differences are fine, and I often do date guys a few years younger than me. I still don’t like the word, especially since there’s no similar one for men who date women 5 or 6 years younger.
I made this comment on the Britney cover thread, every celebrity magazine cover (other photos) is photoshopped. There could be airbrushing too. That’s no surprise. I think JLo looks great. She’s right that it’s fine for older women to date younger men. It’s just that people criticized Jlo’s choice of Casper not just because he’s younger but he’s not her professional equal. He seems like an opportunist. It would be great if she could find a man with substance and who has something more to offer her long term instead of another user that she clings on to out of the fear of being alone.
I agree, she has Awful taste in men. Casper ……
Not just that, but she was overinflating his role in her tour, because they were together. She made him one of the choreographers, and he was going around talking to the press about how he was the LEAD choreographer, until JLO’s manager nipped that in the bud. If it had been a man who’d done that, there’d be just as much sniggering going on. It’s ridiculous.
Sounds like someone got herself some therapy! Good for you, Jennifer! She IS a vampire. My son is 25 years old and thinks she is gorgeous! Why wouldn’t a younger guy want to date her….
yep ! Good for her.
Yup! Enjoy the “singledom”, your happiness is within you, shouldn’t expect or depend on others to bring you happiness. Everything else is a bonus!
The photoshopping in the arms is strange. Especially her right arm, on the left.
She is older than Goop and looks better.
It puzzles me that someone with her beauty, fame and money does not see the awesomeness of being single. She has the ability to be a total boss and she brings it down with her sappy love and romance crap. Bah humbug
“men have been doing it for years” is such a stupid point. as if that makes something good then.
Jenny has a problem. she isnt dating younger because she found this amazing guy but because she wants to control the love in her life. she couldnt control Diddy, Batfleck or that other guy she was married to.
Yeah, but isn’t that also part of the script for older guys/ younger women?
GOD YES. My mom shortly dated this older guy when she was thirty and he, fifty. When he found out that she wasn’t barely old enough to drink (baby faced), and therefore wouldn’t be that much more impressed by him if she spent more than a few hours with him, he dumped her.
Control often is an issue with people who regularly seek out partners who are very young, but I don’t think that’s what’s going on with Jennifer. By most accounts, she seems to end up being used and hurt by men rather than the other way around. I think there’s something else going on there.
David Gandy is all the hotness but based on interviews he sounds like a d-bag. I think Jenny can do better than Casper and better than David, she can get a hot non-douche if she applies herself!!
jlo is always stunning.
she doesn’t realize her amazingness…and she suffers from insecurities…
in spite of her talent, fame and fortune.
many celebrities have fragile egos apparently.
look at clooney’s revealed in the sony hack emails.
who’d think?
i’d love to see jlo end up with someone FABULOUS.
an established, respected, gorgeous man.
it’s perplexing why it hasn’t happened.
Spanish news have her dating William Levy. Yes, the one from her video “I’m into you”.
So beautiful and her red carpet/pap pics don’t look that different from this so I doubt it’s all photoshop unlike others aka Britney.
Look at the muscle in her right arm. It doesn’t look human.
Jennifer Lopez is a timeless beauty. I’m a self proclaimed Lopez Looney. (Kaiser has been pushing the David Dandy and Jennifer for a while now. LOL) Insight: Whoever falls in love with Jennifer has to get past the wall of Benny Medina. I would love for her to fall in love with a hot and powerful Producer – older but not Viagra dependent. LOL
Jennifer is absolutely gorgeous. I’ve dated a couple guys younger than me but only by 2 years. I hope she finds the right guy no matter what his age