Benedict Cumberbatch: Sherlock might be sexy but ‘I sure as hell ain’t’

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Shout out to CB, who alerted me that Benedict Cumberbatch did an interview on NPR’s Fresh Air yesterday. Yes, Cumby can never stop hustling. Bless him. I’m serious – I’ve come full circle on Cumby’s hustle. At first I enjoyed it, then I found it vaguely annoying, then I just wanted him to STAHP, and now I’m back to being amused. Bendy obviously spent most of the interview talking about Alan Turning, but there were some good moments where he talked about Sherlock, Sherlock’s sex appeal and his own (Bendy’s) sex appeal. I’m including the embedded audio at the end of the post, but you can see the full NPR thing here.

On empathizing with Turing’s social awkwardness:
“I’ve turned up to costume parties in the wrong costume. I’ve made social faux pas aplenty. I’ve put one foot in front of the other and fallen over. If you’ve ever experienced the idea of feeling slightly outside, or the creeping paranoia of a teenager where you just feel that you don’t quite fit into anything, where you’re just finding out who you are and everyone else seems to have got it sorted, [you can relate]. … I think what formulated very early in his life was this incredible sensitiveness to the world and his environment and the way people treated him, and that was born out of having a stammer.

On Turing’s prosecution for being gay:
The choice then for men who were arrested and prosecuted for being gay was the choice between two years’ imprisonment or two years’ chemical castration through weekly estrogen injections. This is less than 100 years ago in a country that had just been liberated from the threat of fascism by one of the very men that they then punished for his sexuality. It’s barbaric, it’s frightening and sadly it’s not a history lesson — it’s something that we need to be equally wary of in our current climate of intolerance. … He, in that period, chose the estrogen injections rather than the imprisonment in order to be able to continue his work. The estrogen injections not only corrupted his mind but started to eat away at his body. … He lost this athletic body but he also lost a mind that was attuned to the one thing he was left to love and focus on, which was his work.

On Sherlock’s sex appeal
Being really hyperobjective about it, I kind of … do understand it because he’s aloof, he’s pretty cold and mean; but he’s utterly brilliant, can be incredibly charming, incredibly capable and smart and funny but also flawed. I think he’s rather a thrilling person to spend time with.

On his own sex appeal
It’s a projection of work, and that’s why you’re right to ask the question about whether Sherlock is sexy, because I sure as hell ain’t. And I’ve been around for 10 or 15 years before this happened and I wasn’t on any lists of the millionth most attractive. … It’s just very flattering and it makes me giggle, as [fans] know, because it is — it’s sort of silly. … I think it is a reflection of the work and hopefully how I come across when I’m talking about the work, rather than what I actually have got.

On fame
I’m still getting used to all of it. There are days when, like everybody, you feel not your best and not yourself and uncomfortable with who you are and not in your own skin and you’d rather be at home under a duvet doing what you do at home. You crave privacy, basically, and you have to get along in the world and see a colleague and go into the office with your cold or your hangover or just whatever the thing that’s griping you. And that’s the same with fame, I guess. There are days you wear it lightly and you don’t mind that people you’ve never met before recognize you when you walk in a room, or there are days when you just wish you were invisible.

[From NPR]

“You’d rather be at home under a duvet doing what you do at home”…? I know what I do under the duvet. Is it the same as what Cumby does under the duvet? As for his “I sure as hell ain’t” sexy talk… that was Cumby trying to sound like a bro. He was trying to put it in terms Americans would understand! I’m sure the word “ain’t” felt like dirty pennies in his mouth. “I hope I never have to say that terrible word again…” he muttered to himself. “Damn Yankees.”

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  1. Toot says:

    Awww, he knows himself well. Nope he’s not sexy. lol

  2. Crocuta says:

    I agree, you sure as hell ain’t.

    • spaniard says:

      +100000 you took the words out of my mouth

    • Say What!? says:

      I’m happy people finally see that he’s not attractive. When I was saying this a year ago people came after in droves, much the same way they do when I say anything negative about the Brange.

    • splittair says:

      I happen to think he’s very handsome. Different strokes.

      • Kat says:

        I do think he’s very good looking guy. I don’t really get the people who state either way with objectivity ..there’s no such thing. It sounds a cliche but it really all is in the eye of the beholder.

  3. GingerCrunch says:

    Word. Thank you to the writers who make it all possible for these “faces”.

  4. Claire says:

    Well you certainly ain’t now after (allegedly) knocking up that golddigger and pimping your private life for a golden statue. Hope it was worth it. He wasn’t bad looking irl before but I find him a bit repulsive. Ugly character does that to you. Why does a part of me feel sorry for him? Sigh

    • Nayru says:

      I 100% agree with everything you just wrote!

    • dumbstruck says:

      This interviw is NOTHING but damage control IMHO

    • Anny says:

      Yeah. Nothing makes someone more repulsive than getting someone pregnant. Absolutely. And imagine wanting to marry that woman afterwards. Positively repulsing.

      • Nayru says:

        Yes, I do find accident babies and rush to marriage repulsive. It does very much seem that way on my opinion and that is not attractive

    • Sam says:

      Considering she’s wealthy in her own right, I don’t think golddigger is the right term.

      These over-the-top BC comment threads make the work day go by a bit faster, I have to say!

    • Luna says:

      LOL Then, why don’t you move on? What are you doing here commenting on each thread about Ben?

  5. Lindy79 says:

    At least he’s not talking about Sherlock finger banging someone or playing with latex any more.

    • Gracie says:

      Lindy, you saved me from typing the same words. 🙂

      • Lindy79 says:

        It was my “He has Jumped the Shark” moment, even before all the PR mess. I physically cringed reading it.

      • Gracie says:

        Aside from way tmi, funnily enough, for all he looks down on smutty fanfics, he so sucks at writing one himself.

      • gg says:

        The latex obviously failed 5 or so months ago, or maybe he just failed to use it

    • Crocuta says:

      Did he do that? Eeek.

      • Lindy79 says:

        Yes, the writer made a quip about how she thinks Sherlock would be bad in bed.

        “Benedict is appalled. He also likes an argument. First, he disagrees with me. Then, when I remain unconvinced, he proceeds to describe exactly what Sherlock would do in bed, using the words ‘latex’, ‘porn’, ‘enter’ and ‘explosive’. (It’s too lengthy to quote in full here, but feel free to visit elleuk.com to read the transcript.)”

        Methinks he took it a little personally……..
        Also between this and the Hamlet thing, it made me feel a bit that if he disagreed with you he’d go on and on until you agreed with him.

      • Gracie says:

        To be honest, I am side-eyeing the journalist too.The way she phrased the question was cringe-worthy enough and he took the bait. Or was that a part of PR circus that had been in plan long ago? Why was this brought up in the first place? Just yuck. Thanks but no thanks. Stop force-feeding sexiness down our throats. Then maybe I will give his complaints of being sexualised more credibility.

      • Lindy79 says:

        It was Elle so it was always going to be shockingly bad and sycophantic but he went along with it just fine.
        He flip-flopped around on some topics around that time depending on what publication he was talking to.

      • Kat says:

        Oh, the Elle interview was 100% part of the PR circus. Undoubtedly.

      • Lilacflowers says:

        His description also indicates that Sherlock tends to explode prematurely

      • MtnRunner says:

        At least Sherlock is smart enough to check the latex and keep the explosion contained.

    • Kat says:

      That interview will forever be filed in the WTF drawer..

      This one, however, is rather lovely…

      • tsmiv2 says:

        At the time I thought the Elle interview was a just silly baity fashion rag nonsense. I kind of still think that, but a lot of it seems so inappropriate now. If Annabel knew what she now claims to know, then a lot of things she asked him were downright unprofessional. I also suspect there was alcohol involved again.

  6. Norman Bates' Mother says:

    “Ain’t”? That’s not the word I’d expect to hear from him? Is this another step to show how un-posh he really is?

    • Toodles45 says:

      It’s not the first time he’s used “ain’t”. I’ve heard him use slang and “hip” words and phrases for a while now, like saying he was a “hot mess” at the Moët Awards.

  7. anon says:

    I love that he knows he “ain’t” sexy and people are really attracted to Sherlock am I was gonna list a few more this things he has done but I only know Sherlock. But yeah he is a good a wonderful actor, and I truly think he is being serious when he states that he is unattractive, because he is, and no matter how many people say otherwise he knows he is not the best looking.

  8. NewWester says:

    I am so watching the Oscars this year. If Benedict wins, I want to hear what he says in his acceptance speech and if he loses I want to see his ” I am so happy to be here but man am I pissed off I didn’t win” face. When the camera focuses on him.

    • Lindy79 says:

      If he thinks he will win despite not winning any other award this season he’s an idiot, he should go just enjoying the night like he did last year.
      It’s Keaton’s award.

      • Lilacflowers says:

        Definitely belongs to Keaton, who gave the strongest performance. If AMPAS goes another way (they’ve never been friendly to comedies and Birdman has been labeled “comedy”), than it most likely would be Redmayne’s.

    • j says:

      it’s keatons, i enjoyed his performance even if the movie itself was over-hyped, and the winner has been like 40+ for the last decade lol

      sadly, don’t underestimate the lure of controversy when it comes to cooper though

      eddie doesnt have a chance. imo he shouldn’t have got the globe over jake g or david o

    • MtnRunner says:

      Agree. Keaton or Redmayne if an upset occurs.

      Ben shouldn’t have gotten a nod over Spall, Jakey G, Oyelowo or Fiennes. That’s the Oscars for ya — it’s not just about talent. Seemed more snubs this the category than usual, though.

  9. PunkyMomma says:

    Of course he has a duvet. He’s just precious, he really is.

  10. GoodNamesAllTaken says:

    I heard the interview on NPR. I love his voice. He came off well.

  11. Felice says:

    Laughing so hard at him saying he’s disgusted by people saying he should dedicate the oscar to his baby.

    • Gracie says:

      The irony is rich, isn’t it?

      • Felice says:

        I think she’s saying that people are laughing at me but some people are bad at shade since you have to go out into the sun to produce it :/

      • Kat says:

        Sorry, Felice but you haven’t made things any clearer for me. I literally have no clue what anyone’s talking about here.

      • Gracie says:

        Oh no, I meant the irony is rich as in the engagement is being milked for every way that’s in the book and yet he gets offended when people mentioned dedicating his firstborn to Oscar. (I mean, if the award is so important to him.) English is not my first language. Maybe I should have written a bit more there.

      • Felice says:

        Oh I deeply apologize. I’ve just had people be up my tail when I comment before so I was on the defense. Yes he does get very pissbaby when people ask him about personal stuff when he put it out there.

      • j says:

        i dont think there was any hiding the baby w/o looking bonkers tbh

        anyway, i think some of the baby talk from ppl is kinda nope, like implying the oscar is more important to him than his kid, that’s iffy as hell, sorry

      • Kat says:

        J,

        I totally disagree. I don’t see what’s so bonkers about hiding something about your personal life at such an intense time of press scrutiny. In fact, I think he’s kind of bonkers NOT to hide it.
        She could’ve easily not posed on the red carpet or worn something that concealed the bump. She’s not so pregnant that it would be impossible to do. And there was clear strategy to it. She made a performance out of it and then continued to play the game the next day with the ‘coat hold’ at the airport. There’s been so much game playing and I think it was a bit tacky to pull a stunt like that to get the press talking and then make the tabloid confirmation instead of just issuing a statement in the first place if so intent to get it out there.

        I’ve not seen anyone suggest the Oscar’s more important than the baby but I’ve seen a lot of people quite rightly suggest that the timing of all these announcements is very convenient. And of course they’re right.
        He can deny it all he likes but there’s no way that engagement announcement wasn’t timed and if he wanted to keep the pregnancy out of the spotlight until the Oscars was over, he could’ve done it. However, I’m not convinced that any of this is his idea.

      • Felice says:

        It can definitely be done. Keira is pregnant and you couldn’t tell unless someone told you.

      • j says:

        nah, hiding pregnancies never really works. there’s always speculation or it leaks and then you come off looking strange if you try to hide it too long, like gosling/mendes. IA they should have handled it differently but it always would have come out

        @kat–some of the stuff ive seen definitely can be read as the oscar being more important than the baby even if that wasnt the intent, and the dedication thing had that ring to it to me tbh. but obviously just my 2 cents, other ppl might intepret it differently

      • Kat says:

        But if you’re not heavily pregnant, you can always hide it. She barely looked pg most of the time during the GGs and if she had worn something else she wouldn’t have looked pregnant at all. Or like I say, she could’ve chosen to not be photographed with him. She doesn’t need to pose on every single red carpet. Yeah, there’s speculation, there always speculation..but the very deliberate reveal, I found so tacky, like I said. As for leaks, they very rarely come from anywhere else but the people involved and their PR.

        It’s clear he’s pissed off people are saying that he’s using these things in his personal life in a campaign, but I fail to see how an intelligent man can be surprised at that.
        But like I say, I don’t think this is his idea when all is said Dan done. I don’t believe the man who wants to guard his private life has been an act up to now.

      • Miss Melissa says:

        @j

        The thing is, if he really wanted privacy, then don’t announce the engagement at all, let alone in The Times. No one would expect to see Sophie on the red carpet. And then no need to hide the pregnancy because she’s not trotting herself in front of cameras and posing with you during awards season.

        You can’t have your cake and eat it too. If you want privacy, be private.

        He used his personal life in the campaign. Now it’s biting him in the rear. I get it. But he did it.

      • icerose says:

        Oscar Cumberbatch has a nice ring but my guess is he might also go For Alan Oscar Cumberbatch.

      • J says:

        @Miss Melissa

        i get what you mean about the engagement, but you’d still be “hiding” the baby because even if she never appeared in public, it will come out once the child is born. a ‘secret’ kid is the wrong way to go because the media will just dig like whoa once the kid is born

        at this point, unlike the engagement, they’re really are keeping the baby stuff private outside of an announcement which was going to have to happen anyway

        idk digs that include the baby are just not sitting right with me for some reason

      • Kat says:

        J,

        Nobody is saying she should never appear in public, but let’s be honest here, she only ever gets photographed on red carpets with him or suspiciously timed ‘pap’ shots in airports etc. Nobody is trying to track her down in her own…they just don’t care.
        The point is, it didn’t need to be announced now. They’re not keeping the baby stuff private at all…if they were, it would’ve been kept out of this Oscar press frenzy and a quiet announcement made when it’s all over. And like I said before, the way she/they chose to announce it was just tacky as fas I’m concerned..she seemed to treat it like a game. Despite the fact she knew she was making it obvious, she still played the faux bashful card with the ‘don’t look at my stomach’ trick whilst making sure there was a clear photo opp as she walked away from photographers.
        If she really just wanted it out there then what’s the need for the silly game playing?
        And let’s not forget he made the super baity comment about ‘most important news he’s had thats private’..he knew exactly what he was doing there.

        As for digs involving a baby, well the dig is at him/them/HW, not the child and completely justified. He’s not making things any better by getting pissy about it.

    • dumbstruck says:

      A BIG laugh after many days. AND we know who said that !! 😀

    • Lindy79 says:

      At least he’s admitting that he Googles himself

      • Gracie says:

        Sometimes I’m not sure if he’s just an awkward guy or a class A idiot. The situation to this point is undignified any way you slice it, so why make a comment like that? Besides, would it be so bad to name the child ‘Oscar’ or ‘Bafta’? You know the saying, the more he protests…

      • Lindy79 says:

        Its a very strange thing to bring up when asked about Eddie’s win, or being up against his friend.

      • MtnRunner says:

        I have to admit that I smiled at the knowledge that he read Lainey’s take on Ben losing to Eddie at the GGs:

        “As for Benedict Cumberbatch – you saw his face when Eddie Redmayne was called, right? There’s Cumberbatch throwing everything into this race – an engagement, a baby, an interview every five minutes – only to watch someone else take it. To me he looked… unprepared…? I certainly was. I was expecting him to dedicate it to his unborn child. After all, he has the might of Harvey Weinstein behind him.

        So…now what?

        Michael Keaton has a healthy lead and instead of chasing, Cumberbatch is fighting off the intrepid Eddie Redmayne. Do you leak the sonogram photo? Do you release a Dr Strange promo? Do you team up for a duet with Jennifer Aniston on Jimmy Kimmel? Do you get married while bungee jumping? What’s the move, CumHards?”

        Similar sentiments have been expressed here too…

      • Kat says:

        I don’t buy his reasons for stumbling across that article at all. So, he’s trying to say he causally looks for YouTube clips of his own presenting to see how he did and just ‘found’ that? Not buying it Cumbs.

      • KT says:

        Kat, for the heck of it, I Googled their names name plus Golden Globes, and Lainey’s article is in the top 5 results. Add ‘present,’ it comes in first.

        I wouldn’t have thought that either, and he could be full of it, but yes, it’s possible.

        I can’t ever get Youtube stuff to work right on my phone so I usually skip to the first embedded site.

      • Alice says:

        While googling or youtubing, do you think he’s run across any of Sophie’s stellar performances? I sometimes wonder if he’s familiar with her work as in some interview he described her as “a great director and actress”!!!!!????? He must have only read the enhanced cv.

      • moodgirl says:

        You mean he wrote the enhanced CV.

      • An says:

        ‘Cumhards’ from LG is actually a negative name for the conspiracy theorist fans, I think.

    • alice says:

      Bring me up to speed, please. I missed about five minutes mid-interview when I had to dash into a store and haven’t had a chance to re-listen. I don’t get the baby/Oscar reference.

      • gg says:

        @Alice: it wasn’t the NPR interview but something he said on Tavis Smiley. I didn’t hear it myself but there was a thread on imdb about it and here is what it said from their “rough transcript”
        So, all this sort of thing about strategy and what’s gonna be next, and…somebody said am I going to dedicate the award to my child? I can’t think of anything more disgusting. And the idea that this is my life. It’s not, I’m working in London playing Sherlock Holmes in the middle of doing the Christmas special so I’m here for a day and I go home.”

      • alice says:

        Thanks. My PBS doesn’t carry Tavis, so I’ll download from his site later.

      • **sighs** says:

        I’m confused too, Alice. What would be *disgusting* about dedicating your oscar to your baby. People dedicate oscars to their spouses and parents , and yes, their children. Are they all disgusting?
        He has completely lost the boat. I can’t with him anymore.

      • j says:

        @ **sighs**: its kinda obvious that it’s not that type of comment about genuine dedications

        imo i said above, it sounds like one of those the oscar is more important than the baby aka baby is a prop thing. im not a fan of that vein myself, tbh

      • Kat says:

        That comment really doesn’t mean that he thinks the Oscar is more important than the baby, it’s just a way of saying his personal life has been used in the campaign. And it has. He’s just pissed off that people have noticed.

      • Oscar says:

        I just realized Daily Mail has supporting article Re: Tavis Smiley Interview where BC is a “working actor and is NOT campaigning!!”
        It all makes sense why HW took over some of his TV appearance… they are trying to change their narrative and doing damage control!

      • KT says:

        @Oscar: When Harvey has appeared in promotion in the past, it was because someone was starting to pull out.

      • Oscar says:

        @KT Wow, I had no idea bout that! Who in the past have pulled out of Harvey’s campaign? I did get the impression that he’s saying less and less, not only bout the enGAGment, but also the pregnancy. Could he be trying to retain his privacy coz the baby is a touchy topic for him? Still doesn’t make sense tho why he’d be so rude and unprotective of SH. It’s really disappointing because based on his old interviews he always said he’d be enthusiastic when the time comes and he just ‘can’t wait to talk about his kids’… or does kids not included til their out of the womb? In the DM interview he says “Much to dad’s amazing selflessness as a man, and I hope to echo that when my time comes to be a dad”
        It’s like it hasn’t registered in his mind that he is already a dad!

      • Miss Melissa says:

        I don’t think the Lainey comment is unfair. I think it’s pretty spot on.

        I get why he’s offended by it. Because he sees the truth in it. He did throw everything at the award.

        Maybe he is rethinking and starting to pull back. But he can’t unring that bell.

        I’m sure he is regretting it now. Hindsight.

      • tsmiv2 says:

        I don’t think he was offended by it. He didn’t seem upset at all to me when he said it. He just seemed kind of eyeroll-y. There was no outrage or anything.

      • Alice says:

        Oscar. I think he’d be showing a great deal of enthusiasm if the baby were planned and with a woman he was in love with. This appears to be an “Oh, no” after just a very few dates. He talked in the past about not getting just anyone pregnant and wanting to take time to know someone and build trust. That seems to be blown out of the water.

        He’ll be crazy about the kid when it comes, but for now it must be very embarrassing to be caught out this way. He’s supposed to be the smart one who knows how to avoid this. And he can’t hide away – he still has to show up for interviews and appearances.

      • KT says:

        @Oscar: Quite a few people actually start to balk near the end, especially if they agreed only to the nom but didn’t really commit to a win or just can’t do it anymore. You start seeing Weinstein pop up and sometimes even push and pull, like Weinstein claiming Jennifer Lawrence was taking a year off two days before the final Oscar vote and Lawrence disputing it during the SLB campaign.

        It’s really hard to tell what is going on with the baby. He’s being relatively tight-lipped there, and the response from his PR to the tabloids seemed reactionary as opposed to planned in advance. When you plant a leak, you also have a confirmation ready to go, and they did not.

        Unfortunately, sometimes quiet means something is really wrong and they don’t want to discuss whatever that is, so yes, not sure what the deal is there, but I wish them luck and a healthy baby.

  12. Beth says:

    He’s sexy when he’s not trying to be, but he’s ALWAYS a dork, and that’s what’s so great about him. He’s a big dork.

  13. scout says:

    You said it, brother! Not sexy at all but super POSH! 😀

  14. Lilacflowers says:

    I’m too sexy for this shirt.

  15. Olenna says:

    Well, he sure said a mouthful.

  16. do no evil says:

    As I said before what I am seeing on Cumby’s threads lately are the stages of grief. And some of the posters make me really sad. Can’t you see yourself objectively?

    1. Denial – engagement is PR, pregnancy is PR, it is all fake, there is no baby. It seems like we paassed this stage now.
    2. Anger – he is sold out to PR, I don’t respect him anymore,he looks ugly now, his finacee is an escort blah blah blah
    3. Bargaining – OK, let them get married (just of Oscars, of course), just as long as they divorce soon after, or may be something bad happens. Yes, I saw some people wishing them harm
    4. Depression – yes, it is coming for you, you know who you are
    5. Acceptance – can’t wait

    • Lurker says:

      Amen, Do No Evil.

      • moodgirl says:

        I thought Harvey had finished passing out dollar bills. Anyhow, go get your dollar. 💰

      • Anny says:

        Seriously, this is actually really immature way to react to someone daring to have a different opinion.

      • Lurker says:

        Wow, I had no idea I was a paid shill for Harvey. Here I thought I was just a bored Canadian office worker exhausted from all the Cumbrouhaha. Do No Evil, brilliant assessment. 🙂

      • moodgirl says:

        💵 💸 💰 💵 💶 Pick up your cash from Harvey.

    • PunkyMomma says:

      I can’t disagree with your assessment – the grief and subsequent depression has had me bed ridden clutching a stuffed otter for weeks. I don’t think I will ever fully accept Sophie Coment as the Otter’s true love. Nope.

    • 'P'enny says:

      I’d replace depression with boredom

      I’m in stage 4 – I cant be bothered with 5

      • gg says:

        Is there a stage called “desperately trying to maintain interest because of huge investment made in Hamlet tickets”? Because that’s where I’m at. After that I’m done, gonna pretend he does not exist except as Sherlock Holmes every couple of years

      • Lilacflowers says:

        I was never bothered to begin with. I’m just here for the Comet Sophies.

      • Felice says:

        @gg

        That is me too. I’m still saving for my plane tickets but luckily I have my accommodation worked out.

      • KT says:

        It’s reaching its end point; honestly, I’ve seen worse campaigns.

        Once Weinstein starts appearing in the media like he just did on a talk show, it’s usually a sign someone is starting to balk.

      • Sixer says:

        I’m weeping and wailing and gnashing my teeth. I’ve rent my clothes (is that biblical?) and I’ve soaked my pillowcase with bitter tears of salt. And more besides. How many stages does grief have again?

      • gg says:

        @Sixer: Hmmmm, salt! Where’s the tequila?

      • Felice says:

        @Sixer

        I’ve known people who have used Rent the Runway for funerals 😛

      • Sixer says:

        Ha. His funeral or mine?! I might put an RIP Benny monument in my garden. I’ve never been so BEREFT.

      • icerose says:

        There are five stages of grief but you can also have anticipatory grief for those who were able to see the coming of comet Sophie and prolonged grief disorder which goes beyond Hamlet and is now termed Dr Strange love grieving step 7 .

        And of course for those of us there is Disenfranchised grief for those who trans their grief for he who no longer tweets or PR’S onto the Otter and his disappearance in Oscar land..

    • Andrea says:

      This is true, but overall, I think there is something amiss here given how much he wanted children/wife and how happy he has been with others. I guess we will find out if there is or isn’t but my gut tells me there is something fishy here (I am not a conspiracy person thinking she’s an escort or trapped him etc, it probably literally was an oops on both their parts).

      • moodgirl says:

        That’s the theory I have a problem with. I have a hard time believing this is a oops baby. How does she get pregnant in what appears to be a few WEEKS after they got together? I know that no birth control is one hundred percent effective, however, he has managed to avoid a pregnancy his entire active life, I am going to assume from late teens to 38 years old. Sophie has managed to avoid getting pregnant for her active life. They both lived with people, him for twelve years, so they know how birth control works.

        I am not being nasty or judgemental, but being honest when I say, based on numbers, I do not believe for one second that Sophie did not see an opportunity and took it. When I add his actions and behavior, even before the announcement and her behavior – rude, petulant , condescending, manipulative and the constant smirking – I see a woman who saw a chance to grab the coattails of an actor who was not only famous in his own country but poised to become a bigger star worldwide and she took it.

      • Kat says:

        People often say ‘birth control isn’t 100% effective’, which is true, but that’s more manufacturers covering themselves, as you don’t get a 100% guarantee from…well…anything, really.
        It can fail, but unless you’ve made the mistake of negating the effects with antibiotics or some thing…it’s very, very rare that it just fails to work.

      • gg says:

        When I saw “oops” I mean on his part, moodgirl. I would not put it past Sophie at all…..

      • MtnRunner says:

        The fishy thing to me is how perfectly timed the conception was for the Oscar Campaign. Whether Weinstein was orchestrating anything behind the scenes are not (I wouldn’t put it past him), he must have been dancing a gig when he found out.

      • **sighs** says:

        I’m with you, moodgirl.

      • dumbstruck says:

        HIGH FIVE to moodgirl’s post. ANother question is HOW the timing is SO perfect?? Admit it or NOT Benedict maybe agreed to this child carrying fwd. She could have terminated the pregnancy if she was not so desperate to get attention.

      • moodgirl says:

        More honesty: Harvey had absolutely nothing to do with this mess, Ben played a small part in the pregnancy- no pun intended – nor does it have anything to do with awards season. It is all on Sophie, a woman who saw a naive guy who had what she wanted and she made a move. Everyone else is working around that.

    • jammypants says:

      This made me chuckle haha!

    • Ant says:

      It could be worse.Tom Hiddleston getting hitched with one of Sophie’s cousins.

      • MtnRunner says:

        Let’s not intermingle the two of them any more. I want “tweetless, put-my-head-down-and-work, keep-my-private-life-out-of-the-tabs” Tom to remain untainted by Ben’s Oscar-thristyness and bleeding private life.

        Imo, Tom has grown and matured over the past couple of years. Ben has either changed for the worse or shown his true colors — either way, regressed.

      • TotallyBiased says:

        @MtnRunner–SO MUCH YES^^^^^^
        I’d rather have him tweetless and invisible than part of such a maelstrom–and this is without an opinion about the realness or lack of realness, or to what degree personal lives are tangled up w/Oscar campaigns (it is WAY too complicated, just like PEOPLE are way too complicated, for this Aspergers Kid).
        I just want the Dragonfly King to be himself … whomever that self may be at any particular stage.

      • MtnRunner says:

        TB, what’s funny to me is that in the past, when they were compared on CB posts, Tom was always in the less favorable light (circa 2012-2013). Now, Hiddles looks soooo much better than Cumby (to me at least), that comparing them makes me feel bad for BennyAnnE. They’re English actors in their 30’s with a huge internet fanbase. That’s where the similarities end for me.

        I just hope Tommyanna doesn’t disappoint and revert to his try-hard ways when promos start up again this Spring. With the way he has kept a low profile in between filming and after ISTL, I’m hopeful he won’t.

      • scarf girl says:

        MtnRunner so much yes. I just got my hands on OLLA. It is on the weekend to do list.

      • MtnRunner says:

        scarf girl, enjoy the magic of Tom & Tilda for all of us Dragonflies.

      • icerose says:

        That my dear is anticipatory grief and can be assuaged with watching Hal, Adam or Freddie in the arms of an actress or replaying Loki at Hall H on a loop

      • scarf girl says:

        MtnRunner, perhaps the universe will give us a Sunday or Monday Hiddles or Swinton post (long live the Swinton) and I will report back. For Lilacflowers, I will include descriptions of libations.

        Icerose, I have thoroughly enjoyed your posts this evening. I will revel in my anticipatory grief.

    • Anny says:

      I love you. This is brilliant!

    • Lilacflowers says:

      @Sixer, re-watch Peaky Blinders and you’ll be fine.

    • Luna says:

      You are so right!
      But there is another category of posters here. Some of these posters, icerose, MtnRunner for instance, never were his fans. They are here only to trash Cumberbatch.

      • MtnRunner says:

        Oh Luna, wrong again. I’m sorry that you take criticism of BennyAnnE so personally. If you’d been following the threads and actually reading what I have have posted over the past few months, you’d see in plain english that I am a fan of his work. It isn’t all or nothing. While I don’t think he deserved an Oscar nom, it doesn’t mean I think he’s a bad actor. I just think there were five others that deserved it more than him this year.

        What I and others are shading is his public behavior. This isn’t a site where posters just fawn over their favorite actors; we call them out on what we see as bad choices, mock them and side-eye them when they start going off the rails. If you’re looking for a place where everything is rosy in Cumberland, you really ought to head over to Twitter or Tumblr. There are plenty of ladies with rose-colored glasses that will never insult your sensitivities to BennyAnnE.

      • wahine992 says:

        @MtnRunner – Brava!! Well said.

  17. mazzie says:

    Question for the Brits – is he posh or is he middle-class who made good because he went to the good schools? (Not that it matters but genuinely curious.)

  18. InvaderTak says:

    I would think we’d be damn colonials instead of Yankees. Ya know could he and his family go so far back and his family had to I’ve been involved.

    • Lilacflowers says:

      The man went to a Red Sox game last summer. He should know that “Yankees” means an evil baseball team. Seriously, there is no hope for this otter.

      • Lindy79 says:

        Damn Yankees also the name of a Ted Nugent band from the 80’s.
        He’s creeping in everywhere

      • Nayru says:

        Rediculous it’s the sox that are evil! I have been living in New York state most of my life and have just relocated to Boston for a job. I still cannot root for the enemy.

  19. dumbstruck says:

    So whats new other than Bendy’s Self loathing?

  20. MtnRunner says:

    He is so *not* a bro…

    • moodgirl says:

      Give him a few points for trying.

    • MtnRunner says:

      He’s been trying too hard for months. Ugh. He’s like a dying fish, flopping back and forth. He probably keeps a chiropractor on speed dial to help with the whiplash he’s giving himself.

      • Gracie says:

        Let’s hope he will go back to the ocean for a while once this is all over. He really needs to get away and lay low. Maybe then he will gain some perspective and regroup.

  21. Kat says:

    Actually, the more I think about it, the more it’s starting to wind me up. There really was no reason to make such a public display of her being pregnant and then the tabloid confirmation that followed and all of this before the globe voting needed and knowingly ending up in a press frenzy a few days later, just like the engagement. But he’s publicly whining about the people rightly giving it a huge sideeye? Flipping hell..

    • Green Girl says:

      Agreed. I had a whole long post typed out on this, but instead I’ll just say he never had to announce any of this.

    • **sighs** says:

      Paging Joseph Gordon Levitt, james McAvoy and Tom Hardy! Can you please direct Mr. Cumberbatch in how to actually keep your privacy, so that he doesn’t have to complain about not getting it?

    • gg says:

      Absolutely the only reason they *had* to get engaged when they did, instead of just waiting until Oscars season was over, was because of an “oops” pregnancy. And the only reason for announcing it the way they did was to be able to use it in Oscars PR.

    • moodgirl says:

      Two things:

      1.) He panicked
      2.) Sophie was demanding to be seen. Based on her behavior I don’t think she would take a back seat and laying low would defeat the purpose of her original effort – fame.

      • Oscar says:

        I doubt he ‘panicked’ and hastily made the times announcement. All of his interviews beginning with Elle and all the ones after it indicate ‘planning’ that would lead up to the enGAGment, including the tabloid leaks.
        ITA with no. 2 tho – she could have the pg as leverage to get what she wants.

      • moodgirl says:

        I forgot about the other articles. Agreed.

  22. Linz says:

    *Shakes head*

    “The actor is now 38 years old and glad fame has found him later in life when he’s better able to handle it.

    “Lots of stuff in my life is happening, which is truly phenomenal,” Cumberbatch said. “I’m 38 and I’ve finally settled down and you know my private life couldn’t be in a more sort of spectacularly wonderful place.”

    He just got engaged to theater director Sophie Hunter and they are expecting their first child. He doesn’t like talking about any of that, but he did announce his engagement in the Times of London.

    “Which seems an utterly hypocritical thing for someone who doesn’t like to talk about their private life to do,” he said. “But it’s just a very traditional format to announce an engagement, you know, it just seemed like a thing I would have done if I wasn’t in the exalted and weird position of being famous for my work.”

    • Felice says:

      This was printed?

      • Froop says:

        There’s a video. It was on CBS This Morning. Links are on Twitter/Tumblr.

      • Felice says:

        I mean, that’s cool if he acts ‘over the moon’ in private but I would be more convinced if he acted it more publicly in November up until now. It just seems weird but if he’s weird that’s cool.

      • Kat says:

        He doesn’t seem remotely happy about much of this right now and looks horribly tense when he’s photographed with her majority of the time. Everything he says seems forced and this is no different. He really just needs to stfu.
        I think what’s most annoying is he still trying to keep up a pretence of ‘I’m so very private’. You DO like talking about it, because you’ve done nothing but make bizarre and squirmy comments since November and yes you are hypocrite.
        The ‘it’s what I would’ve done if I wasn’t famous’ speech got boring on the 43rd time I heard it. You ARE famous, therefore that changes things. A lot.

      • **sighs** says:

        “Which seems an utterly hypocritical thing for someone who doesn’t like to talk about their private life to do,” he said.

        Why, yes, Benedict, it does.

    • lindy79 says:

      At least hes acknowledging that it was hypocritical (and stupid) if being private was the intention.
      Excluding red carpets they’ve not really been seen together so in hindsight maybe not making a Times announcement and doing every single event together since wasn’t the best idea.

      spectacularly wonderful…ok then

      Were the Mail definitely the first to get the confirmation? Or did they just get the same pr response as everyone and claimed they were first?

      • Felice says:

        What about the Mail confirming the pregnancy? There were other less trashy outlets that probably would’ve loved that boost of being the first to announce it.

      • Linz says:

        But he was constantly talking about the Engagement/bringing it up. (Example: Planning his Wedding on planes/in his sleep)

        He opened a can of worms. Engagement Announcement in The Times, talking about the Engagement/bringing it up, constantly baiting and pregnancy confirmation (The Daily Fail)

        And he is still baiting: “my private life couldn’t be in a more sort of spectacularly wonderful place.”

        @Lindy. Yes, they were the first to get the confirmation.

      • Kat says:

        Linz

        Exactly. He’s brought it up under his own volition A LOT. Instead of refusing to go further than ‘I’m very happy, that’s it’, he’s unleashed all these bizarre and unnecessary quotes “I know my forever more and it’s name is sophie hunter”
        Also, the crowbarred quote into the interview on paddington and don’t forget the fact he baited the press about the pregnancy back at the BIFAS with that very obvious quote designed to get the gossip going.

      • Green Girl says:

        “Excluding red carpets they’ve not really been seen together so in hindsight maybe not making a Times announcement and doing every single event together since wasn’t the best idea.”

        Yep, I agree. They could have kept this quiet until the wedding, I’m thinking. I’m always impressed with the stars who keep their personal lives quiet, and only announce months after the fact (if at all!) they had a baby, got married, etc.

    • Hexentanz says:

      He has settled down??? Where?? On the red carpet? Doesn’t he know that this kind of statement has to be reinforced with a pic of Sophie in the kitchen ( the one the he and Olivia designed) baking otter-octo-shaped cookies??? While he and Adam decorate the nursery with gifts from the nannies?? All exclusive in the Daily Hunter Mail of course.

      I just can’t anymore with him. This constant BS about saying how much he loathes all the stuff that’s been going on, just to turn around and do that exact stuff once again.

      How dumb of us commoners to think that this Oscar campaigning is his live. He only comes for a day and does and interview before he flies back to go to work. He is NOT campaigning.

      For the LAST time Cumberbatch, if you were NOT in this glorious postion that you are in and you had announced it in the Times, nobody but your friends and family would care.

      • Linz says:

        LMAO @ Daily Hunter Mail.

      • Gwendolyno says:

        He IS campaigning. He’s campaigning so hard it might set a new standard for obsessive Oscar campaigning. So hard it’s starting, I think, to have a negative effect, as more than one commentator has said they’re starting to get sick of the in-your-face Cumberbatchiness all over the place – interviews! Ads! Wedding and baby announcements! How cute he’s pronouncing words! Etc etc etc etc.

        Give it a rest, Bennie. You ain’t winning.

    • dumbstruck says:

      AGAIN some hyperbolic expression about her LOL does it ever end?

    • moodgirl says:

      So they got their days confused, he was on CBS This Morning one day later than originally announced.

      • Oscar says:

        umm… Benedict is a property of The Weinstein Company remember! It doesn’t matter whether who was going on CBS first its practically the same.

      • Alice says:

        I don’t know. He was definitely listed to be on Tuesday, then HW showed up instead. Today’s interview seems to have been recorded earlier, maybe the day after the GG whe he crammed in a bunch of sit-downs.

    • ANON says:

      For the number of times he has said it, announcing your engagement in The Times is not ‘something normal people do’.
      It’s something you do when there is an assumption that people wider than your circle of family and friends would be interested to hear about your engagement.
      I know someone ‘normal’ who did it and it was actually perceived to be quite an arrogant move.
      I think he has said he did it so friends would see the announcement before seeing a grainy picture of a ring on her finger? I like the implication that his friends are avid readers of The Times engagement announcements and this was how they herd the news.
      IMO this was effectively his way of announcing it to the press in a fancy way. But no, it’s not something ‘normal people do’.

      • Miu says:

        add to that the fact that most of his friends and colleague didn’t even know they were dating! (SH isn’t even friends with his friends on social media and her mother’s surprised reaction like she wasn’t told prior the announcement) So it just made the whole thing seem like a joke!! I also noticed they were only happy for Sophie and didn’t mention Ben :-/

      • Fuji says:

        Friends , colleagues and family didn’t even know they were dating because they weren’t dating.

        No matter how many over the top statements it will always smell like sudden engagement due to a one-night stand oops pregnancy.

      • moodgirl says:

        It’s a stretch, but maybe SH went to Setlock for 17 minutes so that she and BC could tell his co-workers and crew about the pregnancy news before it hit the street in the Daily Mail. If so, one would think that BC’s co-workers would have known about SH if the two had actually been a couple for any length of time. I know that AJ had visited the set and Setlock most certainly would have been familiar with OP.

  23. Anon says:

    I still can’t get over the fact that you people believe this woman is actually pregnant (or actually pregnant with his baby).

    Lies, all lies. And the amount of shade he’s been throwing since the announcement… you people are blind.

    And deaf too.

    • Really? says:

      @Anon
      Come on, please don’t bring that nonsense here. In case you need help with the facts: Sophie Hunter is engaged to Benedict Cumberbatch to be married in addition she is pregnant with his child (as confirmed by his publicist).

      • Anon says:

        It was confirmed by a “spokesperson”, not his publicist. Remember that.

        And that spokesperson was probably SH. The one engineering all of this stupid crap.

        Or think about this… why would he confirm a pregnancy to the Daily Mail?!? Why not People mag, which is actually reputable?!? Makes no sense.

        Wake up and smell the BS. And if you actually think this whole thing is real… ha ha ha.

        No wonder Hollywood is so successful running BS PR campaigns. People will believe anything they read.

        Sad, sad, sad.

      • Linz says:

        @Anon

        It was confirmed by his Publicist (Karon)

      • Elysian says:

        I veer from side to side tbh. I’m over it now and am sick of the slalom. Whether or not the pregnancy/any of this is real, it’s pretty difficult to deny that something is wrong. Badly wrong. And that could be anything from an unplanned pregnancy that he’s regretting to pillow baby to hired surrogate. We don’t know and chances are, we’ll never know.

        It’ll play out how it plays out. Either it’ll all be over in a month or two (post Oscars) or there’ll be a baby. There’s not much point in speculating right now because he’s either in way too deep or it’s all actually happening. We can only watch.

        Meh. It’s a bit fascinating from a distance and satisfies my passing interest in psychology, but since Timothy Spall didn’t get an Oscar nom, I’m backing Keaton 100%.

      • Anon says:

        No, Linz. It was never actually confirmed by her. It was confirmed by a “spokesperson” in the Daily Mail (aka SH probably) and other outlets ran with the story and slapped Karon’s name on it (uncredible sources, might I add). Go back and look it up.

        And for all of you questioning me… the only reputable sources for celebrities are People Mag and Us Weekly. Every other outlet is full of s$&@.

      • Felice says:

        I’m assuming cumberbatchweb talked to Karon’s office about it and someone said ‘yes’ but it’s not like publicists don’t lie.

      • moodgirl says:

        Are you being sarcastic?

        “And for all of you questioning me… the only reputable sources for celebrities are People Mag and Us Weekly. Every other outlet is full of s$&@.”

      • Felice says:

        Well TMZ can be reliable too when they have video or audio ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

      • Linz says:

        Lmao @ “People Magazine and Us Weekly are “reputable sources”

      • gg says:

        People love to laugh at TMZ but I was working at a news org when Michael Jackson died and TMZ scooped *everybody* on that story. My org wouldn’t even believe it for the longest time because it was “only TMZ.” They may be sleazy but they are often right. And JFC anon, People and US print exactly what’s on the press releases that get sent to them!!!

      • Claire says:

        Yeah anon kinda blew her cred when she said only people and us weekly are credible. Guess she wasn’t around when those were the two mags gushing over Cumberbatch’s PR sham.

    • dumbstruck says:

      OH anon u stole my words. M yet to see an actual bump rather thn loose fitting clothes.

      • moodgirl says:

        No one would be so crazy to fake a pregnancy, especially in the late stages. Can you imagine walking the red carpet and the pillow falls out?

      • Anon says:

        What makes you think a miscarriage is out of the question (and I thought the narrative everyone was going with now was 3 months pregnant)?!? And you’ve seem the Tumblr blogs… homegirl already has a fake pillow at home. And she’s had plenty of practice wearing it already.

        Not to mention… if you think she’s the first celebrity in Hollywood to fake a pregnancy… oh boy. I even read once that a celebrity faked CANCER for sympathy from the public.

        And I thought faking a pregnancy was low… but faking cancer takes the cake on despicable.

      • Claire says:

        Anon who in Hollywood has had fake pgs or illnesses? This is what I’ve been wanting to know.

      • Anon says:

        I’ll just say this Claire… do you really think that Kelly Preston gave birth at age 48?!?

        Now Halle Berry… that was real. But Kelly? Nah. I read she wore a belly the whole time.

        And I hope you don’t think her and John Travolta’s marriage is truly real… well, it’s real, but she’s a beard.

      • Claire says:

        You can give birth at 48. Uncommon but it happens. Not sure whether her pg was real but more inclined to think it’s fake or a surrogate father for entirely different reasons 😉

      • Anon says:

        Oh, she had a surrogate or adopted. But she wanted everyone to believe it was actually hers and John’s, hence the fake belly.

        And it probably helped to keep the gay rumors at bay.

        In her defense, she was distraught over the death of her oldest son. And she wanted another child. And maybe she didn’t want to be pregnant again. And like I said… it helped people to see John as straight, so…

        And a fake father? Not a chance. Their first son looked exactly like John, so I’d like to think this kid is theirs (unless they adopted). She probably just used a turkey baster to get pregnant the first time around.

        Or he closed his eyes and they did the deed or something. Who knows.

    • Anon says:

      @Felice
      Believe what you want for now.

      • Anon says:

        @Felice
        My bad… I misread your comment.

        Hollywood is full of liars people. And 9 times out of 10… it’s the publicists doing most of the lying. Two words – damage control.

        For more sham proof… go back and look at his face at the Palm Springs red carpet premiere. That wasn’t the face of an “expectant father”. That was the face of SHOCK.

        That look alone should tell you all you need to know about what’s going on here.

    • Rosi loo says:

      Benedict said she was pregnant as he was leading her through the paparazzi at LAX the day after the Globes. You can see it in the videos, Ben saying “pregnant lady coming through”. He say’s it twice.
      Now, on the chance that you are right about this then that would make Benedict the biggest fkn douche!!

  24. lindy79 says:

    “For the LAST time Cumberbatch, if you were NOT in this glorious postion that you are in and you had announced it in the Times, nobody but your friends and family would care.”
    Exactly. Fact is he IS in that position and chose to do it anyway. The guys not dumb hes spoken many times about his fans and being photographed, hell he has attended comic cons, done ones dedicated to him ffs and did that stupid Beatle-esque photoshoot. This is not a man who was taken by surprise at the announcement getting that reaction, he’s way more aware than he will ever admit to. He knew EXACTLY what he was doing and what was going to happen and is pissy because hes being picked up on it.

    And nobody outside his fanbase knew or cared who she was until they went to the french open and sat in the vip box directly behind the umpire and players. Everything public about this relationship is 100% on them.

    • Hexentanz says:

      How dumb does he think we are??? I think that is what is making me so mad about him.
      He says” My fans are smart”, really??? If that is what he thinks of us (not even sure I want to call myself a fan anymore) he should know that we have figured out his game a long time ago.

      YES Lindy79, it is all on them. They made it public. The claim that all of it has nothing to do with the Oscar is ludicrous.

    • Anon says:

      Not sure what you are ranting about here… you know this is Oscar season, you know he had to talk about his personal life (and unfortunately he had to be set up with a huge fame whore) and you KNOW he’s under the thumb of Weinstein.

      Do you honestly think that he was in a position to tell HW that he didn’t want all of this publicity and/or talk about his personal life?!? HELL NO.

      He’s probably being wishy washy b/c he’s being forced to be open about something he doesn’t want to talk about. This is what I don’t understand. Everyone knows the deal here, and yet people are getting on this blog everyday complaining about him when they KNOW how Oscar campaigning works. It’s just ridiculous at this point.

      • lindy79 says:

        When you say set up with a huge famewhore do you mean Sophie?

      • Anon says:

        Lol… now granted, he’s being doing a bit of fame whoring himself… but yeah. I’m talking about Ursula.

        I don’t think he’s fame whoring by choice… everything he’s doing is coming off as half-forced/half-naïveté on his part. I don’t think he thought this Oscar campaign would turn into a three ring circus like it did. He seems to be backpedaling now a bit.

        Call me crazy, but whatever ego he had going into this mess I think is finally starting to disappear. I think he’s just embarrassed now.

      • An says:

        Don’t believe in a huge conspiracy or anything and he bears some responsibility, but yeah, it’s typical Oscar stuff and some of the response has been surprisingly dramatic. You’ve got disillusioned fans, and then people who didn’t like him to begin with {warning, salty opinion incoming: some with the misguided belief their current sainted fav wins brownie points if he fails or won’t ever play the game themselves} commenting. People don’t usually let someone leave a pedestal, they’ve got to keep kicking once they’re down.

        Big “but”-I can’t pretend I’d not do this in his position either, so…it’s not like someone is getting hurt, it’s harmless.

    • Anon says:

      And Lindy79… I just wanted to add that you are one of the smarter bloggers on this site. You know how all of this Oscar stuff works. And you know that SH/Ursula is not all what she seems (or at least I hope you do).

      Cut Ben a bit of a break. He’s an expectant father, lol! He’s under stress!

      Ha ha. He’s not really an expectant father (believe what you want to here). But he is under stress b/c Ursula wants her 15 minutes (and is faking a pregnancy for it). And boy is she working him hard to get it.

      I feel bad for him. I hope he gets away from her when this is all said and done. And goes back to being able to keeping his private life private as well.

    • MissMary says:

      *slow clap* YES, Lindy. All of what you said. yes.

    • scarf girl says:

      Lindy you are spot on. The interview with him complaining about the LG article really pushed me over the edge. I can add nothing to your words. 🍻 👊 👊

  25. Camille (The Original) says:

    If he wasn’t internet famous, no one in their right mind would think that this person is attractive or ‘sexy’. So yeah I agree with him, he is the furthest thing from sexy ever.

    • Elysian says:

      I don’t know. He looks quite like one of my exes, who was one of the sexiest guys I’ve ever seen.

      Different strokes for different folds and all that… He’s completely my type. Mind you, all my friends would point out that I’ve always had a thing for slightly weird-looking guys!

    • md1979 says:

      I think he’s really sexy actually. He’s not classically good looking, but he’s talented, well spoken, funny and charismatic. There’s more to sexy than just a pretty face.

      • Maggie says:

        I agree md1979.

        When you put the whole package together; the voice, the way he moves, his talent, his intelligence and the way he looks, that is one very attractive man.

    • Gwendolyno says:

      Not sexy AT ALL. And really too much in all our faces.

  26. Gwendolyno says:

    No, I think you were right before – his hustle IS annoying. To the max. Ease up, Cumberbuns. Give us a CumberRespite from it all.

    • scarf girl says:

      I will be glad when wedding said and done, Oscar over, and he is too busy prepping for fatherhood and Hamlet to poke his nose out at all. Honestly I hope they last. Because the only thing worse than the media spectacle we have witnessed would be coverage and speculation over the break-up. And one day, maybe, maybe, I will be able to watch his acting again and not be reminded of this over the top try hard awards campaign.

      • Nayru says:

        Won’t that be something if Cumberbatch becomes the new brad and angie where people are constantly waiting for “the breakup” and that becomes his legacy in his fandom. I bet he’d be wishing for the cake toppers, scrapbooks, and sherlock fan fic back.

      • The Real says:

        @Nayru

        Based on appearances only, I would describe Ben edict and Sophie more along the lines of Brad and Jen therefore we are just anticipating “Ben’s Angie” to make her appearance. Sorry, not sorry.

      • Claire says:

        Don’t ever be sorry. Especially with a name like that. I really hope he doesn’t get married to this woman.

  27. The Real says:

    On another note, how many posters here would feel comfortable living with a partner that designed the living quarters with a longtime ex-partner (presumably to raise their children)?

    I would inquire as if I were Sophie, I would be making plans down the line to find a new house. I would feel odd knowing my fiancee designed the house I’m living in with his ex-girlfriend of 12 years to presumably raise a family with the ex-girlfriend.

    • Nayru says:

      I’m not sure I would feel right about that. I would not want to move in to a place someone created with and for someone else. I don’t think the feeling is jealousy, it just seems disrespectful to the ex. I wouldn’t want to be in that position.

    • ellesbelles says:

      I was actually thinking about this this afternoon. I would feel strange in general moving in to a home that my husband had shared with someone else. Like the old ghosts are still there.

      • Natasha says:

        I’m the new girl here and I must keep different hours than most of you. I seem to end up posting at the end of a thread and when I return to see what replies I’ve received, it’s just a few and a whole new thread had been started (in response to Benny’s being on the tube every day this week)! And so again, perhaps I am adding my 2 cents 2 late. But here goes.

        I also used to work in the entertainment field and am quite familiar with how to play the game of “Celebrity”. Clearly Ben has lost. As well as being lost. Beginning to actually feel sorry for the boy. And make no mistake of it, regardless of his age and superior intelligence, he is quite immature.

        I agree with much of what Anon is saying as well as insinuating. I might even go further but you might think I was being a bitch or hater, and I so like to make a positive first impression. So, I’m going to post a few photos of Queen Sophia that, for me, says more than a thousand words.
        http://benophiedaily.tumblr.com/post/108881814402/sophiehunterphotos-theatre-director-sophie

    • Gracie says:

      That would be a no for me and personally I don’t think anyone should, unless you can remain objective and relatively unaffected by the history their shared while living in a house bore witness to the history they shared. Although from what I’ve seen, even those seemingly unaffected by the past (long-term) girlfriends/partners/wives tend to circle their way back to it whenever the couple has a argument. Also another point, they are not people like you and me, well, he’s not, who depend on that paycheck every month to pay rent or mortgage. Working people may not have the means to find a different place straightway; we might need to save up or work towards it. Things are a lot different for them.

      • Claire says:

        Add onto that she’s friends with Olivia. Likely not close one’s but still close enough to be friends on fb.

        Also I remember people saying none of his friends were friends with her on fb. Still true?

      • Gracie says:

        @Claire, these days people fb friends people they had a group dinner or group drinks with so if this is in the big wide world I wouldn’t take their fb friends status to mean anything more than mere acquaintances. However, in the theater and acting world everyone does seem to know or at least know of everyone. It’s possible they know each other or even are friends.
        I can only speak for myself on this one: I would never become romantically involved with someone who was once involved with a person I considered my friend, regardless the length of their relationship. There are plenty of fishes in the sea so why commit yourself to unnecessary drama and complications? It will be awkward and messy and people will know. They look at you as a couple; at the back of their mind they think about all these things which mean nothing to them in any real sense of the world but your relationship becomes entertainment news to them. They step away; they side-eye, and yet they can’t bring themselves to look away if there is any new development reaching the surface. Does this sound like what’s happening now?

      • gg says:

        Sophie and Olivia worked on a movie together (Friends and Crocodiles) in 2005, may be why they are FB friends, who knows? People have tried to say that Benedict and Sophie met then but I have seen no proof of it

      • moodgirl says:

        @ Gracie – High five! I NEVER even look in the direction of a friend’s associate, no matter what stage their relationship was in when they broke up. Won’t even think about it.

    • Alice says:

      If I were he, I wouldn’t make any changes right away. Renovations might last longer than the relationship.

  28. Nayru says:

    Speaking of which I’m really not understanding how someone spends a decade hemming and hawing about making a family with someone only to turn around and immediately do it with someone else they’ve dated less than a year. I guess one explanation is the ex wasn’t the right person maybe you didn’t know it til you met sir or madam right etc. It still strikes me as off and like you just wasted that other persons life/time while you stung him or her along.

  29. Dana says:

    You know what? This whole Cumby Bumby baby and marriage thingamajiggy and how fans are reacting reminds me of something that happened waaaayyyyy back in the 1980s during the hot, hazy summer days of Duranmania. I remember when Nick Rhodes got married to that she-devil Julie-Anne Friedman and Duranies were flipping out left, right and center. Everyone HATED her from the beginning. I even remember some fangirl jumping off a building in Toronto, it got that crazy.
    And you know what? The rabid fans were 150% right on the ball, even in hindsight. You read Andy Taylor’s tell-all and all the lurid details are there. about how crazy she was and how completely useless Nick Rhodes was. Julie-Anne is now some kind of roving chef in LA and her blog just shows what a vapid Cruella deVille she was and is.
    But now he’s just a washed up, rock star who is not aging well so who cares?

    Point being that Cumby Bumby is a bit of an instant-turn off now for lots of folk. He has oodles of talent and had an extraordinary amount of goodwill from his fans and other Hollywood players and he blew it because of the act. So I can understand people getting upset and pissed because he portrayed himself one way to the public and then displayed behaviour which went the other way. That’s a form of misrepresentation , and people generally don’t like that.
    He’s not getting the Oscar, it’s too soon and too early in the career, Keaton will and if not him, than Eddie will.

    • gg says:

      LOL! I was one of those teen girls who hated Julie-Anne Friedman but a few years ago I got curious, Googled her and found her blog. I actually think she is a really cool chick! But what do I know, I always did hate Andy Taylor……and still have a thing for Nick.
      I’d be glad if Sophie turns out to be half as cool and self-aware and funny as J-A is……

      • Dana says:

        @gg You really still have it for Nick? Wow! 🙂 I kinda outgrew him years ago and when I look at his choice of vacuous socialites and models he’s had as partners over the years, I’m kinda not impressed. Did you read John Taylor’s book as well? Between him and Andy’s D2, really actually come out looking very bad – just really immature, drugged up boys. It really tells you something when the most grounded, sensible person in that group turns out to be a supermodel, Yasmin LeBon.

  30. tsmiv2 says:

    Am I the only one who thinks the quote on CBS “finally settled down” is weird? It’s almost like he’s saying “yep, I’m stuck and resigned to my fate.”

    • Claire says:

      No I read it as “I kept putting deadlines on getting married and having a kid and even though I backtracked on it a year ago I can cross it off the bucket list”.

      He’ll regret all this though. Like Dana said, feel free to engrave my words

      • rosie says:

        I always thought that alot of his marriage/baby talk was PR, that it was what he thought his female fans would want to hear.

    • Kat says:

      Everything he says about all this sounds really odd to me, it always has one. Was one of the flags that’s something was off, really.

  31. Natasha says:

    Does everyone already know the connection between SH and HW? If you do, I apologize for the repetition. If not, you may find it helpful in connecting the dots. It goes like this: when Sophie Hunter lived in NYC she made friends with Brooke Geahan who is the girlfriend of a gent by the name of Edward Chapman. Now Ed has a sister, Georgina Chapman who since 2007 JUST HAPPENS TO BE MARRIED to………… Harvey Weinstein!!!

    Small world isn’t it???

    • Dana says:

      If this is indeed a Weinstein-orchestrated marriage, this is not going to go well at all. You can have that engraved into stone, if you wish.

      • Natasha says:

        Not sure Dana that HW “orchestrated’ the BC/SH match, but it is a hell of a coincidence.

    • tsmiv2 says:

      Her connections to Weinstein have been discussed on here in the past. Most seemed to have dropped that theory because of the baby. I still think they were set up by Harvey or Georgina or somebody in their group as his award season plus one. Going to the French Open and sitting in the front row screams ‘photo op’ not real date. However they got together, she got pregnant and now they are stuck together.

  32. katie says:

    Yep, he got that right!! 😝

  33. mollyrogers says:

    His use of ‘ain’t’ is less likely an attempt to sound ‘bro’ or ‘hip’ than a refreshing (sexy?) lack of “middle-class linguistic fastidiousness” as described in a 2002 Fresh Air commentary on use of the word:

    “There has always been something odd about the stigma attached to ain’t. The word has been around since the seventeenth century, and for a long time nobody thought it was worse than any other contraction. Writers from Swift to Tennyson used it in their letters and speech in a completely unselfconscious way, and so did a number of Jane Austen characters. It wasn’t until the middle of the nineteenth century that critics started to condemn the word, and made the avoidance of ain’t the emblem of middle-class linguistic fastidiousness. The English upper class hung on to it for a while longer — Winston Churchill regularly used it in conversation, and Dorothy Sayers was always putting it into the mouth of her aristocratic sleuth Lord Peter Wimsey.”