Jeremy Renner’s split from his wife of ten months, Sonni Pacheco, is still an utter mess. When we last checked in on them, Sonni had told the court that Renner shouldn’t have any kind of custody with their daughter Ava Berlin because Renner keeps loose guns in his home. In addition to requesting sole custody of Ava, Sonni has asked for a lot of child support, plus she wants him to pay her legal fees. His response to her: get a job. Oh, and she signed a pre-nup and he wants it honored. No spousal support, although I bet he is paying some kind of child support. In any case, Team Renner has filed more paperwork with the court, claiming that Sonni threatened to release “intimate videos” of him unless he helped her get a green card.
Jeremy Renner’s estranged wife threatened to release intimate videos of him if he ever went back on his promise to help her get a green card … this according to legal docs Jeremy just filed. Renner is in the middle of a bitter child custody fight over their nearly 2-year-old daughter Ava. Sonni Pacheco’s gunning for primary custody of their child and wants more than $13K a month in child support. Jeremy has been sharing 50/50 custody since they split up in December.
In Jeremy’s new legal docs — obtained by TMZ — Jeremy says Sonni repeatedly admitted she married him to get a green card and financial stability. He claims she repeatedly told their roommate Jeremy should be nice to her and not fight her on the green card or money issues or she’d release the embarrassing videos to TMZ … By the way, TMZ never spoke with her and we wouldn’t post such videos.
Jeremy says there are multiple issues of bad parenting on Sonni’s part, the worst of which was back in September when he was on location and she left their kid alone in the house for 15 minutes. She went in an Uber to party and never checked to see if someone was at home to care for Ava. Their roommate filed a declaration saying Sonni smokes and drinks and in fact stopped breast feeding because she felt guilty she was drinking alcohol. The roommate also claims Sonni did coke during a vacation right after Ava was born. We’ve reached out to Sonni’s reps, so far no word back.
First of all, is this “roommate” the same guy that Renner has seemingly lived with for years? Isn’t that Renner’s “business partner”? And now that guy is slamming Sonni as a druggie, a party girl and an unfit mother? SHADY. I have no doubt that Sonni married Renner for some semblance of stability, and to protect herself legally if everything fell apart (which is happening). I also don’t doubt that she probably has some videos of Renner doing some sketchy stuff that he probably wouldn’t want put out there publicly. But all of this, all together… they both seem like total sketchballs.
Oh, and I love TMZ’s editorial note “TMZ never spoke with her and we wouldn’t post such videos.” Bullcrap. If Sonni showed Harvey Levin a video of Renner doing blow or something of that nature, TMZ would totally publish it.
Photos courtesy of Fame/Flynet.
This is beside the point and maybe harshly judgmental on my part, but why would a multi-multi millionaire with a wife have a roommate?
For some reason I thought that the roommate moved out when the wife came in the picture. This whole situation is a mess…. I can’t
Apparently he stayed in the guest house until the baby was 6 months old then moved to a new house. Renner was filming on location pretty much that whole time and although mother and baby were with him a lot, it makes sense to have someone around while he wasn’t at home. I am sure the judge will want to get to the bottom of this and I don’t expect the details to be anywhere near as salacious as people make out.
I thought that as well; I guess I just assumed it, since it obviously isn’t what happened.
somebody he can trust to stay in his house while he’s away and keep an eye on the help and the house. like a personal asistant but a friend
or gay lover acccording to some people
Hmmm. Are there other wealthy married men in their forties with roomies? Why not have the arrangement that everyone else has, a housekeeper or close relative or PA check up on the house? And anyway does Renner really travel that much? Also, this roomie does he not also wish to have some kind of domestic set up with his own girlfriend or boyfriend one day? Doesnt this set up crimp his style too or is this one big frat house where your last night bedroom partners have awkward breakfast together with your roomie and his dish in the morning? I have many.questions.
Bet you it was a Triad arrangement gone awry
but yeah Both (or all These people) involved seem skeezy to the max
Having a roommate is sooooooo very common for celebs, especially those that tour or film for months at a time. It is possible this guy is something more, but it is also possible that he is a long time friend.
@Tiffany : ), who wrote: “Having a roommate is sooooooo very common for celebs, especially those that tour or film for months at a time.”
Aside from Leo DiCaprio and Jeremy Renner, what other celebrities have long-term live-in roommates?
@Emma- the JP lover: Taylor Swift and Karlie Kloss are roommates. They both travel constantly, but Taylor has a room in her apartment that is specifically for Karlie to stay in when she’s in NYC and they’ve both referred to each other as “roommate.” I don’t think they are lesbians, but there were a lot of rumor about them because it seems strange that two young multi-millionaires would choose to live together.
Also the roommate is not the business partner. The guy he has had the house flipping business with for years is named Kristoff. I remember this because I wanted to win the lottery and buy one of their houses I read about. $20 million…sigh…
The roommate cited is the Kristoff guy:
http://www.people.com/article/jeremy-renner-divorce-roommate-reveals-shocking-details
PS. Hope you win the lotto.
I just read that People link. Am I being hypersensitive or does it reek of woman shaming on Kristoffs part. Casually tossing in that she considered an abortion is attempting to exploit the idea that women who even see it as an option are undeserving mothers. And the fact that she stopped breast feeding adds into that “what kind of mother” mentality. I dont know, Kristoff is really rubbing me off the wrong way.
Also, why are People and TMZ using two different names to refer to him? Or are there TWO male roommates now?
Exactly. He thinks anyone believes that? He’s just embarrassing himself at this point.
RIGHT?? Roommate 😂. It seems that Jeremy and his “roommate” wanted a child, they got it and now they’re trying to get rid of the mother. Shady schetchballs indeed.
Nonsense. If anyone is shady it’s Sonny.
L&Mmommy has it exactly right. Jeremy Renner is seen making out with this guy all over town. This is a beard relationship gone very bad. I don’t know why he doesn’t just come out. Its not like he has leading man quality looks or acting ability. If he and his boyfriend wanted a child together, they should have gone the surrogate route, like so many others. Its hard to have much sympathy for her cuz she surely knew what she was walking into, but I sure don’t have any for him.
Except, if they wanted a baby and a surrogate,there’s no way they’d choose this mess of a woman. With Renner’s money they would have absolutely been able to hire a woman who would carry the baby, then leave. But a non-US citizen, early 20s party girl? This is not a surrogate arrangement. This is a mess.
Bridget, I argued the same thing until today. The “roommate” weighing in with so much intimate detail is pinging my gaydar. Now I think they picked a party girl from another country precisely because they thought she would be easy to control. They must have assumed that she would be eager to take a little coke money and run. That a girl like that wouldn’t want to be encumbered with a kid anyway. In any case they could always count on her residency problems to keep her beholden.
I think a professional surrogacy deal would have been much riskier since it would have required the involvement of third parties. Even if they went ” black market surrogate” they would still need to confide in third parties to find the surrogate. And then how do two men explain suddenly living with a baby? The oopsies pregnancy conceit was critical but then do you take a risk with an unknown surrogate to pretend to be a casual fling or do you find a desparate party girl in your circle who is already in your confidence and move her in?
I think you got it right. Do they actually think we buy any of this crap? Who cares why she stopped breastfeeding?! It doesn’t make her a bad mother – in fact, if she was drinking and stopped because of it, it shows she is smart and cares about their daughter’s welfare.
@TheOtherPinky: You really think it makes more sense that he’d rather subject themself to an expensive, embarrassing court battle (that their daughter will one day see) rather than just hire someone who would have the baby and then go away quietly?
“I think a professional surrogacy deal would have been much riskier since it would have required the involvement of third parties.”
But that third party would have a legal agreement with them that would terminate their parental rights. It would have been much less riskier to have a professional surrogacy.
This was likely a beard relationship from hell in my opinion. This is probably going to push him right out of the closet publicly.
How do you accidentally knock up a ‘beard’. I can see how you marry them, live with them but having sex with them is not a gay activity. I think this whole thing stinks, for their child, but not because he’s gay.
@Angel, who wrote: “How do you accidentally knock up a ‘beard’. I can see how you marry them, live with them but having sex with them is not a gay activity.”
It is if you are a bi-sexual who can–and have–slept with the opposite sex, but prefers sleeping with your own sex more.
Because he is gay! That is not just his roommate. It really angers me that he married this young Canuk, had a baby with her and now that she doesn’t want to be his beard, he’s just dragging her name through the mud. He is a great actor, talented man, but he is evil IMO.
Because this was truly a bearding situation. The roommate is actually Jeremy’s boyfriend/life partner. Funny, there was a blind item earlier this week (yesterday??) that matches this perfectly. haha
Frankly 13k pm in child support Isn’t huge for a multi millionaire either, just suck it up Jeremy, whatever you feel about the mother. Odd story all round.
Could it be because he is Gay and this room mate is Jeremy’s lover? I also don’t understand why the room mate still lives with him after he got married could it be this be why she is confidently squeezing his balls to make him cough out more money? what ever the case may be she is an opportunist, they had a prenuptial agreement and she should stick to it. the whole thing
Uh, so Renner’s ex drinks and does coke, along with Renner and almost all of his friends if most of the stories about him are to be believed. So what? All of these Hollywood types and their hangers-on appear to be as bad as each other.
(Initially typed that as “does cock”. Freudian typo…)
Thank you. Pot meet Kettle.
I used to practice family law and I always loved it when the other party in a custody fight would claim that their ex had been doing drugs or acting crazy during the relationship. Because, yeah, no one would be worried if their partner was doing this around the kids, right?! What BS from Renner.
He should just come out already. At this point this messy situation is much worse for his career.
I think I am reading the answer to a blind item I read last night . About a popular actor going through a nasty divorce/ custody. The “roommate” is more than a roommate. Interesting
CDAN always has blinds about Renner’s orientation. Apparently it’s well known. So I’m with y’all. “Roommate” either doesn’t exist or is more than a roommate.
This was on the “Blind Gossip” site. It was up last night. Supposed to be more “dirt” coming out in the near future.
BG is usually just making existing gossip stories into blinds and throwing in some plausibly true tidbits to make it seem more interesting. This was a story last night. So no surprise they have a blind about it today. Someone some where said blinds were just gossip mongering and that seems like a good description. I dint know how much stock I’d put in them.
How can anyone take either CDAN or BG seriously at this point?
I thought CDAN and Blind Gossip were totally false? Once in a blue moon, Blind Gossip may hit on something by accident, but CDAN was caught actively just making stuff up.
Are we still believing Renner is straight? Wasn’t Ted Casablanca from E! Online fired for outing Renner a few years ago? Instead of using one of his “Ted-speak” celebrity nicknames, he actually typed Jeremy and hit publish in one of his blog posts (that also simultaneously was sent out in his newsletter) but wasn’t able to quickly change it to a nickname before it went viral?
The room mate is his business partner,Best friend and rumored boyfriend.i could write the same blind also
How noble of TMZ.
I think it’s very odd that this “roommate” is still in the picture. This whole thing sounds very messy, and is probably going to make everyone miserable and embarrassed.
Good summary of the situation. I kind of wish they would just resolve it peacefully amongst themselves, like grown ups. They seem like train-wreck human beings, all 3 of them, but there’s an innocent child in the mix that doesn’t deserve any of this BS.
Wouldn’t it be nice if people took a good look at their romantic partners and saw how terribly unfit they are for the job of parenting BEFORE having a kid? I swear, there should be a test before folks like this have children. Ugh.
At this point I think they are both shady, and whatever prompted the pregnancy – beard, oopsie, etc. it’s such a horrible thing to do, bringing a tiny new person into the world if you are not mentally and emotionally (and I’ll even say financially) willing, able and ready to do a good job. If even part of this stuff is true, poor Ava. Two sucky parents.
Exactly my thoughts. What does it say about Renner, if he has a kid with a (an alleged) cokehead?
That he was careless one night? It’s not like they were in an actual relationship. She was a hookup he knocked up. It’s not surprising things are so acrimonious now, they didn’t have friendship or anything to fall back on.
Someone does coke once and they’re a cokehead???
What this says about Jeremy Renner is that he is fighting to stay in his daughter’s life. Sonni misjudged who she was dealing with. She thought he’d roll over and allow her to take the baby and cash away with her. He’s not. And yet he is getting slammed on here. Why?
Best line from Parenthood (paraphrased) “you have to get a license to drive a car, buy a dog, or catch a fish, but they’ll let anybody be a father”. Also, anybody be a mother. It’s a terrible situation for Ava. This is inescapable for her in the age of digital media, she’ll be able to read all about it before she’s 10.
Yes! My friend just quoted this line the other night while I was out with girlfriends. And we were talking about situations far less crazy than this.
Other way around; pregnancy came first. He dated her for just a couple of weeks, and that would’ve been that, except she got pregnant. He said he married her to give Ava a traditional family or something, but it’s possible he also saw the train wreck coming and wanted to ensure he had full legal rights regarding Ava. It’s much more likely that she saw him as a meal ticket than he saw her as a beard–assuming he’s even in a homosexual relationship.
Roommate?
That is some 1950s style euphemism right there. Who advised him to use that term?
LMAO
I think the big 1950s euphemism was “secretary.” Or maybe that only referred to females.
It’s fine to drink while breastfeeding!
Yes, that’s my takeaway from this entire mess. Poor Ava. How unfortunate for her to grow up in the center of this.
Renner needs to pay up and shut this down. It’s making him look bad, and he has plenty of money.
I don’t understand this at all. He should give in to extortion? He should absolutely support his child, and that’s what the courts are for. The judge will determine how much he should be paying. No one, man or woman, should “pay up” in what amounts to a blackmail scheme. Even if you don’t believe the stuff about videos and everything, she has filed papers stating she wants primary custody and more support, even though he’s already offered a 50/50 deal.
I didn’t think someone could use their boyfriend as a character witness, but this is California, so it’s probably par for the course.
Maybe you should have had a more rigorous surrogate screening process, Jeremy.
All I have to say is that I feel sorry for this poor kid that has to deal with parents like this. Get your shit together, behave like the adults in this situation and find a solution. Both of you.
And next time, think really, really hard before you bring another child into this world.
I always assumed she was a surrogate for him & his ‘roommate’. Green card for a baby type of deal.
^This. Wasn’t Renner outed by Ted Casablanca years ago?
I’m not sure who he is but if he is the guy who got fired from E then yes.
The same Ted C wrote some blinds saying Bloom and Kerr was a beard RP stunt or that Toothy ( Jake G) had a baby with his secret boyfriend/best friend via surrogate ( via his sister Maggie G) and she raised their baby ( in clear Maggie G’s daughter was in real Jake G’s kid) or Rooney Mara was gay but has an affair with David Fincher ( blind written after the release of the Vogue article on them with Fincher trolling the writer)
Renner yet talked about the gay rumors and he doesn’t care .
It never fails to make me laugh that people think *Jeremy Renner* has the power to get people fired.
@Algernon: that slip was definitely what got Ted fired. He accidentally used the name Jeremy instead of a sudonym in a Blind that was clearly intended to be about JR and Tom Cruise on the set of MI4, and even though he fixed it fast he was almost immediately put on leave and then fired, after being at E! for many, many years. Word was that it wasn’t Renner himself that cared, but The Powers That Be – they had a lot riding on MI4 and don’t forget The Avengers was on the horizon for him at that point (back when it looked like he was going to be a bigger factor in that movie).
Teddy C’s Blinds were a mix of the ridiculous and the believable, so we’ll never really know what was what. Toothy Tile? Absurd. But Eva Longoria and Tony Parker as swingers? Totally believable. Personally, I have no clue about Renner and any of his preferences, and I find it a bit rude to speculate, but I’ll say this: if he hired Sonni as a surrogate than whomever connected them should be fired, because who hires a 22 year old Canadian Citizen party girl as a surrogate?
@ Bridget
Ted C fell off the wagon and stopped showing up to work. A bunch of his interns quit E around that time and they had a potential harrassment lawsuit on their hands, which is why he got fired. He was already having troubles because Seacrest got an editorial position over him, when he expected that promotion, and then his personal life got super messy and it spilled into the work place. *If* the Renner thing had anything to do with it, it was just one more brick in the wall. I will repeat it: studios don’t have that kind of power. Further, they rely too heavily on friendly coverage from E to pick a fight over a gossip columnist. The only deals studios make PR-wise are things like, “If you say something nice now, we’ll give you an exclusive later.” That’s it. They don’t go around getting people fired because it would create too much ill will.
I do agree about Sonni Pacheco being a terrible choice of surrogate, which is why I don’t believe she *was* a surrogate. I think Renner knocked up a fling.
@Algernon …
Ted Casablanca got fired because he (or whoever edited his Blind Vice before printing it) accidentally used Jeremy Renner’s real name in his Blind Vice piece instead of a pseudonym. He changed it, but not before people read it in his Blog. What he did potentially left E!Online open to a libel suit, whether what he said in his Blind Vice was true or not. So they fired him.
P.S. I disagree that Studios don’t have that kind of power. The absolutely do.
@ Emma
I make commercials for E. Everyone knew Ted C was having a lot of issues behind the scenes, but roll on with your bad self, the fantasy world of Hollywood is way more interesting than the surprisingly boring every day reality of it. I assume that’s why any time I attempt a “think of the most boring option, that’s what’s happening” approach, I’m met with “no! Conspiracy!” answers.
@algernon: they probably threatened serious litigation over that incident. Now, I’m not saying that it was necessarily true, but it was pretty clearly the straw that broke the camel’s back.
@ Bridget
The interns who quit threatened to sue for stuff going on with Ted C at the time. After he was fired, they all went to work at E as assistants.
@Algernon …
You didn’t have to work at E!Online to know that Ted Casablanca’s personal life was in the toilet. It all quickly went downhill when his marriage ended. However, ‘Conspiracy Theories’ aside, considering his life–as you say–was a prolonged mess it is still a profound coincidence for E!Online to have endured so much from him all those years only to suddenly fire him ‘after’ he printed a Blind Vice using the real name of an actor instead of a pseudonym.
We are all simply voicing our opinions, but Ted Casablanca isn’t and wasn’t the only source in the entertainment world solidly in the ‘Renner is gay’ school of thought, either.
@ Emma
Not really, sloppy editorials fit with everything else that was going on at the time. The reason I choose to believe Ted C’s firing was about his BTS issues is because his staff quit, there was a rumor about a lawsuit, he was fired, and then they were *all* magically hired back right after he was gone. I didn’t hear about the Renner thing until months after all that went down, but it made sense to me that that’s what the public latched onto, because the rest of it (the people quitting/getting rehired) never made it out of the office.
You’re right, though, everyone has their own opinion about what’s going on. It just seems that eventually, the people with undercover gay rumors have receipts. Look at Luke Evans; eventually it comes out. It’s never come out with Renner, and it’s always the same story recycled over and over, and now he’s willing to have his life turned upside down in court through this custody case, so, if ever we would find out for sure, it would be now.
Here’s my thought: who are you more worried about being sued by: a few interns, or a really pissed off movie studio who’s already super sensitive about their property? Remember, they were already fighting an uphill battle at the time with MI4 and Tom Cruise, and printing the name of a BI subject is a serious breach. As Emma said, it would be an enormous coincidence that after a long line of bad behavior, Ted C happens to be fired right after he pisses off someone with real power. Either way, it’s not something I would read as proof that Renner is gay. Nor would I call his roommate proof.
@Bridget
This is my entire point, though, that the studios wouldn’t get involved in that. They rely too heavily on an outlet like E for good press to stir the hornets nest over a gossip item, even a “breached” blind item. They’d just say that stuff is made up anyways (which a lot of it is), and that would be that. To sue or not to sue would be left to the actor and his or her representatives, and Renner has never even threatened a suit against anyone printing rumors about him. If you think they’re not worried about intern lawsuits, they are. (http://www.hollywoodreporter.com/thr-esq/how-all-intern-lawsuits-are-746945)
Those types of suits represent a fundamental shift in how they do business. E would be much more concerned about first getting rid of the guy bringing all this grief to their door and then second settling with the disgruntled employees to prevent a suit, which is what they clearly did given that everyone went back to work, with promotions and raises, once Ted C was gone.
I find, though, that people generally want to believe the studios are the big bad controlling every little thing. That’s actually the agencies’ role these days, but whatever. I think it’s because of the legacy of stuff like Rock Hudson’s forced marriage, etc.
I don’t know much about Ted C but my argument is why marry an accidental pregnancy? Especially if the girl is as shady as this. He doesn’t rely on a clean cut family guy image to sell his movies, the girl is trash so marrying her doesn’t make him seem more PG. If I was in his shoes I would wait until a paternity test, then try to get the custody of the child or marry the girl whatever floats his boat.
I believe he is closeted as the roommate story seems like bullshit and I think he was afraid of being outed hence the undercover shady surrogate. Marry the girl so she can get her greencard and the rest is history.
However I genuinely dislike Renner so I wouldn’t put it past him to dupe the girl into marrying him and conceiving the child naturally hence the fraud claim.
The whole thing is crazy shady.
@Algernon, who wrote: “Not really, sloppy editorials fit with everything else that was going on at the time. I didn’t hear about the Renner thing until months after all that went down, but it made sense to me that that’s what the public latched onto, because the rest of it (the people quitting/getting rehired) never made it out of the office.”
Sloppy ‘editorials?’ You ‘do’ know that Ted Casablanca was E!Online’s ‘Gossip’ Maven, right? He had a very popular Gossip Blog and was famous for his creatively written Blind Vices, but I never read any ‘editorials’ at his Blog. The fact that you–who have told us how much you’re all up in E!Online’s business–didn’t know about Ted’s immediate firing after printing an actor’s real name in a damaging Blind Vice until “months after that all went downt” is … telling. So ‘you’ go on with ‘your’ bad self.
@ Emma
I do know that Ted C was a top talent at E!, and he was supposed to get an executive job that ended up going to Seacrest instead. Around the same time, his personal life fell apart and he was having problems with both his subordinates and his superiors. He stopped going into work, he stopped returning people’s calls, he stopped communicating with his editors, so he got fired. I didn’t hear about the Renner thing for months because whenever I would hear, in the real world, people talk about him, that was simply never mentioned. It was the drinking and the combativeness and the inters quitting and threatening a lawsuit. There was *so* much going on, and the Renner thing was the least important part; it wasn’t even registering with anyone in the real world as anything other than an editorial mistake that got made because by that point Ted C wasn’t going to work or talking to anyone. When I finally heard someone say they thought that was why he got fired, I was surprised, but then it made sense as the whole mess at E never really got out. It was also when I realized that the internet is an echo chamber and what happens in the real world has very little bearing on what gets spread around online, and I’m mad at myself now for getting into this because I know better than to try and go against whatever story the internet is telling itself on any given day. The internet is always right.
It seems this child was one of those “oops forgot the birth control” children. Getting married is not a requirement, so not sure why they did it in the first place. Renner should just pay child support and move on, like so many others do. I like Renner as an actor, but this behavior is just not good if you want a healthy child and it is important to have at least a cordial relationship with the mother of the child. Both of these folks are behaving badly and the whole “roommate” and that opinion is just wrong. Trashing the mother or father of your child should not be done. They need to ratchet down the public animosity, settle their business in private and move on. And I think his sexuality is irrelevant.
jen2
It’s a classic story.
She gets pregnant. He wants to do well by her and make her a citizen by marriage. And to keep their child near him. Marriage in this case seems to have been approached out of that angle and not for love. For citizenship. And likely to demonstrate Renner was trying to do the best for his child. It’s a smart move all around for him.
The roommate is talking trash. I kind of think it’s an Aniston/Handler tactic. Renner can’t come out and say this stuff right now. His friend can though getting the information out there while keeping his hands clean.
Still, that poor baby. I hope this all gets settled before it has an impact.
Well, I guess I don’t follow enough gossip in detail. Did not know the back story. Thanks.
It seems likely this was all agreed on before they married, I am sure he wouldn’t have married her without an agreement that they would share custody if they split. The wife decided to file for divorce, demand the prenup was over turned, claim he was unfit, ask for primary custody and a huge amount of child support. He is paying child support, that isn’t the issue, it is all the other stuff. If the extortion is proved it looks like she thought she could pressurize him into paying up and still support her green card application, there has already been an embarrassing leak to the National Enquirer – maybe that was an opening shot? I guess we will find out more next week when everyone is under oath and evidence will be required.
TMZ would not publish it. They would make sure they got it after another outlet published it. They’ve been publicly called out in this mess. They’re smart enough to protect themselves 1st and then get the footage. Had their name not been used this would be a different story.
Sonni sounds awful. If these situations even partially happened they’re bad. And the way she’s going about this whole thing seems like a bare grab for money.
As far as the roommate. Renner has a long history of lady loving. And more actors than you’d think live with their friends or employees they’re friends with. It also aids with caring for the home base and seeing to that while they’re traveling. And some people like living with friends, not alone. Those rumors always seemed forced with him.
This is what I think too. Kato Kaelin anyone? Didn’t he live in OJ’s guest house for years?
See also Chace Crawford and Ed Westwick being roommates for a time when they were on Gossip Girl. Rumors that they were gay started circulate then too. Although there was never any concrete basis for those rumors. Reason I don’t think Renner is gay is because I’m privy to a photo where he’s at a party and has his hand up his date’s skirt. But he could be bi for all I know. *shrug*
Yes, Renner is a womanizer. Always has been. But people choose to believe he’s gay and he really doesn’t care. And why should he? As for Sonni, he never should have married her. But I can understand his rationale. He didn’t want to be his parents.
Totally bizarre why someone of his stature would not have been more careful about whom he chose to make a baby to raise with his, um, roommate.
Why does a successful Hollywood actor need a roommate to live with him, his wife and their child?
I’m surprised that the “roommate” is not called the nanny as that would look a lot less suspicious for everyone involved as to me this definitely seems like a bearding situation that went completely wrong. However, the only person that I feel sorry for in this situation is Ava as she has to grow up with two obviously messed up parents who seem to care more about themselves than her.
This is the first time I’ve actually thought, “Yeah, Renner is gay,” and it’s for exactly those reasons–why is the roommate still in the picture?
This is my take….Renner is stupid!!! He barely knew this woman…has unprotected sex with her (or maybe, he didn’t and he paid her to medically get pregnant with his sperm, whatever) then MARRIES her, FFS…(and everyone knows these pre-nups, never work, they always fight for more) and just how didn’t he see this coming??? EVERYONE SAW THIS COMING!!!! And, as always, it will be the child that suffers…
I’ve never liked Renner…I think he is overrated in the talent department and has a bit of an “a$$hole face”…
All I can think about is their daughter reading all this crap one day. What a mess.
Yup. I’m still shocked to hear about adults acting like children when there’s a baby involved and a break up. Their control over eachother and their own selfish wants come 1st while their child comes secondary. I’m not saying this is happening on both sides of this, but at least 1.
This is what happens when you knock up and subsequently marry a random hook up.
Just a mess.
Renner should send a memo to Benedict Cumberbatch that this could be your future, mate. Men should always wrap it unless you want to be a daddy.
He should also send one to Chris Evans.
Seriously, these guys who have so much to lose in failing to glove their love seem to have this invincibility complex. They can never know if she’s protecting herself, but there’s plenty that guys can do to minimize the possibility of bringing a child into the world. I think it has something to do with the entitlement that comes with being told they’re the sh*t and being catered to as their star rises.
The stress of having to deal with someone in a dysfunctional relationship, the loss of income, bad PR should be enough to make them think twice. Now, a poor innocent child is made to suffer by having parents who hate each other. I feel so sorry for Ava getting caught in the middle of all this.
This makes Renner look worse than Sonni.
I really couldn’t give a fig about Renner’s sexual orientation, that’s his own business, so is his decision to have his business partner living at his home. In fact it kind of makes sense to have someone you run a business with around managing things when Renner’s off filming somewhere. But it sounds like he married a total grifter who’s willing to sink to any level from publishing private photos to using their baby as a weapon to squeeze him for money.
How vile some people are.
I don’t care about his sexual orientation either ,but the “roommate” story doesn’t fly with me. Your business partner does not need to live with you. Just starting out in business and living together is understandable. Still living together after you’ve made money is something else.
If the roommate, who by the way lives in the guest house, is the same guy he owns the remodeling/house flipping business with then yes, they do need to both live on the property if they are trying to avoid capital gains when selling the house.
“To claim the whole exclusion, you must have owned and lived in your home as your principal residence an aggregate of at least two of the five years before the sale (this is called the ownership and use test). You can claim the exclusion once every two years.”
Lmao. What man in his 40s(?) wants to live in a guest house on his buddies compound, I mean who would even date that guy? There’s no way they haven’t made enough from flipping for Kris to be able to buy his own place.
All I got from this is that they love Goldfish, Cheezits, and triskits.
She got custody of the Cheez-its, so she wins already!
And they recycle! She’s carrying paper and cardboard, and I’m pretty sure the whole bag is full of cardboard boxes.
Yup – time to wheel out the ‘secret’ Gay long term lover the cast aspersions on the bought and paid for baby mama now they want to get rid.
It Stinks – I don’t care what hall of fame level gold digger people claim her to be – she had his child, it may have been a contract but the person with the power in all of this has ALWAYS ben Renner – he has the money, the influence, the power and the business savvy ( plus some really expensive Lawyers)
And…did anyone else read this and think – this is why Marvel’s trotting out Chris Evans and Lily Collins as a *cough* romantic relationship? They’re trying to distract from all this drama. Because even though Renner’s a minor character in the movies, they do not like this kind of personal life drama.
A movie about superheros… and the main parts are being played by people who need PR control for various reasons because thier private lives are… less than superhero-worthy, I guess. Only in Hollyweird.
Wouldn’t that be something if Renner, Evans, and RDJ were ALL closeted? Not saying they are, just sayin
Studios just don’t have that kind of control over people, and they haven’t since the studio system dissolved in the 1960s. Further, Marvel is last studio that would spend the kind of money that sort of thing would require. Is it really so hard to believe that Chris Evans maybe *likes* Lily Collins? And also that Jeremy Renner is kind of a d-bag who married a woman who is also kind of a d-bag, and now they’re having an ugly d-baggy divorce?
I don’t know why people always look for conspiracies with celebrities. People aren’t that complicated and celebrities aren’t that smart.
Studios may not have the same kind of control over actors that they did in the days of the Studio System, but its naive to think that there is no gamesmanship happening. We are talking about a multi- multi-billion dollar industry, where the actors themselves are a product. What they wear, who they date – it’s a part of their image. It doesn’t mean that every single celebrity relationship is as etup, but many stars have acknowledged being set up by their agents (for example, people are pointing to Evans and Collins because they share an agency and she’s not exactly averse to this kind of arrangement). The gossip column inches are worth a ton of money in free advertising and help raise the profile of the actor, and help create an image. Because for the most part these actors and actresses are products, and the I agents are working their tails off to sell the product the best that they can. Plus, who says that anyone has to force the actresses and actors into PR relationships?
You’re right about agents getting involved, but that’s not the same thing as studio involvement. Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston were famously set up by their agents because they thought it would help clean up Pitt’s profile to be seen with America’s Sweetheart, and that it would also boost Aniston’s profile. Did they then force Pitt and Aniston to get married? No, they just set up a date. Maybe Chris and Lily’s agents set them up, but I don’t tend to believe that because Chris Evans has never played those games before and he has no reason to now. he’s more popular than ever and he’s really not done anything different except star in popular movies.
I actually work in this industry, in production. In general, the public way overestimates the “gamesmanship”. I see a lot of suggestions happening, like, “you should go to this party and be seen with these people, that would be good for you,” and there are a lot of business deals, like the fashion contracts. That stuff is about brand management, about creating an image, but it still doesn’t impact someone’s personal life. Personal life management is more geared toward keeping things *out* of the press, like arrests and drug problems, than putting things *in*, like relationships. Has it happened? Sure. It just doesn’t happen as much as people think. Really it’s sad to say it but Entourage is basically a documentary. You see how much control Ari has over Vincent Chase? That’s how much control your average agent has over your average star. Which is to say, almost none.
@Algernon, who wrote: “You’re right about agents getting involved, but that’s not the same thing as studio involvement. Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston were famously set up by their agents because they thought it would help clean up Pitt’s profile to be seen with America’s Sweetheart, and that it would also boost Aniston’s profile.”
Did I miss something? Did Brad Pitt’s profile need “cleaning up” in 1998? Could you please post a link to whatever it was that ‘dirtied’ his profile? Because I honestly can’t remember a thing. Thanks!
Yeah, I think people are stuck in the 50s impression of Hollywood. Marvel probably wouldn’t be involved let alone know the personal details of their actors lives. Agents may pressure their clients to closet but the days where you were beholden to an agent are long gone. If a guy wants out he can simply change representation. Of course the PR agents are constantly trying to work their clients image but in the age of the net and camera phones, I don’t even know how much control they have on that either now.
@algernon I think we’re saying essentially the same thing here. “You should go to this thing and maybe go out on a date or two with this person” is the new system. Marketing and image has drastically changed in the digital age, and that definitely includes personal style AND relationships. That isn’t to say that people are forced to be together by a draconian studio system, but suggested set-ups and photo ops are definitely a part of the business. And I would say that for the most part, actors and actresses are will in participants. Sometimes it goes well, like Aniston and Pitt (or Cameron Diaz and Justin Timberlake) and sometimes its an embarrassment, like Superman and Kaley Cuoco. Now, I don’t think that every single celebrity pairing is fake, though I’d guess that there is more than one set-up between amenable parties.
I will also point out, that long gone are the days when the studios were the only ones profiting off of an actor’s positive image. Nowadays it’s all about building your ‘brand’ and I’d be willing to wager that we’re seeing willing participants here. The Instagram posts, the set up dates, the fashionable premieres, it all ultimately adds up. It’s why Chris Pratt posted a photo of himself all gym-ed up to get folks excited about Guardians of the Galaxy (the unveiling of the physique is like a requirement for superhero movies now), why the studio pays for Zoe Saldana’s stylist for her promo tours.
@ Bridget
I don’t deny that “friendly pairings” happen, it just doesn’t happen as often or for as long-term as people think. No one is getting married for PR, for instance. So much of it depends on a person’s willingness to see subtext, too. Henry Cavill and Kaley Cuoco, for one, I don’t believe was a set up. I think he met her, thought she was hot, started boning her, she called the paps, and he bailed. I don’t think there’s any subtext there beyond Cuoco trying to leverage a moment with a guy who had a lot of attention on him at the time. Same thing with Chris Evans and Lily Collins, what’s the “proof” they’re a set up? They’re both repped by the same agency, but CAA reps hundreds of actors. Sandra Bullock is repped by CAA; was that a set up, too? Or is it just a coincidence because *half* of working actors are all repped by one agency? It just comes down to how willing you are to see conspiracy. I’m not willing to see conspiracy without something concrete, like Scientology being involved (because they’re effing creepy). It gives the entire system too much credit.
Maybe not, but for a he-man action type actor, coming out as gay will ruin whatever career he has carved out for himself. Then he AND the studios suffer.
The bottom line is ALWAYS about money. Always.
@algernon – we’re not all crazy people who are convinced that certain ottery actors got married and is expecting a baby all as a PR setup. There are always going to be some folks that are convinced that everything is a lie. And there are always going to be folks that think everything is genuine. I think it’s somewhere in the middle, because it’s no secret that coupling 2 celebrities increases their coverage exponentially, and it’s a pretty painless way to do so. You go on a few dates with another attractive person.
WIth Renner, if this whole thing with his wife was a smokescreen, then whomever suggested it should be fired, because why on earth would anyone hire a 22 year old Canadian party girl as a surrogate? This is a total debacle.
And I don’t get why people care so much if Chris Evans was set up with some harmless Disney girl. He got set up on a couple of dates – so?
I was firmly NOT on the conspiracy/PR relationship bandwagon before, and true, studios may not generally exert that much control nowadays, but if Marvel/Disney saw this total clusterbomb of news coming from the Renner side, then yeah, I can see how they might want to push a PR-friendly “relationship” with Chris and Lily. Even if they embellish some details, like, how into each other they are, or whether they headed back to her place, etc. Eh. This whole Renner thing is going to be a trainwreck, so Chris and Lily better put on some serious PDA if they are to be the distraction.
“O what tangled webs we weave/when first we practice to deceive!”
Give it up already, Renner. We all know,, anyway, and besides you were never going to be Brad Pitt
Yep.
This is turning really ugly really fast.
Hey Eve!
Hey ya, my fellow Marvelite! Counting the minutes for The Avengers: Age of Ultron, I’m sure (in other words, really excited as myself).
But I’ll get to see it a week before you do (April 23). And I’m NOT SORRY!
😛
Ugh. I’m beyond jealous!
How old was this girl when he met her? Exactly. Middle-aged and older men dating too-young little gold diggers get exactly what they deserve. I have no sympathy at all for him. She was transparent from the start, and he probably arrogantly thought he would always have control… What an idiot. Now that kid is just mush, battered between these two dimwits. I can only hope they come to thier senses for her sake, but it doens’t look hopeful so far.
And if he’s gay, I’d have TONS more respect for him if he just came out already. A roommate? At his age? With a wife and kid around? B*tch, PLEASE. Talk about transparent.
Completely selfish to bring a child in to this mess. I know it can still hurt an actor’s career to come out in Hollywood but it’s about priorities.
His ‘roommate’ sounds very bitter.
Well, I guess that solves the blind gossip blind item. This is who I thought it was, anyway!
Everyone says “roommate” like the guy’s living down the hall, but dollars to donuts he’s in a guest house. And frankly, that’s not unusual. I myself lived in the guest house of a very famous and successful director for several years. He didn’t “need” a roommate but he felt better having someone on his property while he was out of town, and for me it was a low-rent living situation in a super nice part of town I never would have been able to afford on my own. Sure, because I am younger than him and also a woman, there were people who assumed he was getting “benefits” from my presence, but the only benefit was that I didn’t charge him for dog walking. It’s not that unusual of an arrangement. Try for a moment to consider that you *don’t* know the truth of Jeremy Renner’s sexuality and just consider that he invests millions in real estate and maybe he wants to make sure someone is keeping an eye on the property since he’s not around all the time. He spent most of last year out of the country making movies; it makes sense he’d move someone onto the property, especially since he tends to live in the homes he’s renovating, which means construction crews and decorators, etc, coming and going all day long. Also, maybe he wanted someone keeping an eye on his wife while he was away, which doesn’t sound like a bad idea, given how this is turning out.
I just feel bad for Ava. One day she’ll be old enough to Google her famous dad and all this crap will come up.
I tend to agree with you. Remember Cato Cailin who lives in OJ’s guest house. When I went to university in Hawaii I stayed in a guest house and ran errands and walked the dog for a family. Where I live now we have many houses with cottages in back. Currently my oldest son lives in ours, but I know some well off people who let their mother’s helper live in those cottages. Rennet’s roommate setup may well be a sort of friend/helper relationship. But on to Sonni, she strikes me as a grifter/ con- artist. I see no redeeming qualities in this woman. Poor little baby Ava.
I’m trying not to judge her too harshly because she’s really young and I truly believe Ava was an oops baby, and maybe Sonni Pacheco wasn’t really ready to be a mother. She could be a totally different person by 35 and look back on all this with shame and regret. Who knows.
Cato was an out of work actor at the time. It made sense for him to live in that guest house. This just doesn’t mKe sense from Kristoffs perspective. As I asked above, has he really not made enough from their successful business to be able to have his own home? How does he organize his own love life from a guest house? What forty year old lives in a guest house when he can do better for himself? wouldn’t you feel like a third wheel living in your bffs compound as he begins a family (unless you knew she wasn’t going to last very long of course which he clearly must have)?
@The Other Pinky …
Well said and agreed.
Another report with more detail said he was living in the guest house and moved out when Ava was 6 months old. That would have been roughly the time filming was wrapped on the two films Renner made that year; both were filmed outside California. These guys aren’t stupid, they must know how bad this looks. They are clearly prepared to have the court look into their relationship and examine Mr Winter’s motives and character as a witness, so I doubt they have anything to hide. I also saw somewhere that Renner’s sister has also filed a statement and since she is a mother of three and has worked for child welfare, she is potentially far more damaging to Ms Pacheco, she will certainly know how to identify and highlight legitimate causes for concern.
I’m with you on this one. Since when having a roommate is equivalent to being gay? Regardless of the living situation, or how much money he has it could be just someone looking out for his property
This whole situation has become about his sexuality and not her extortion whether he’s gay or not it doesn’t make it right, she got greedy and now she’s doing anything to get more money because she’s not satisfied with $13k a month. I’ll be more than happy with that if I was her
I thought they also lived together for so long because they were living in the houses they were actively flipping.
@ Bridget
That’s the story Renner tells. They live in the houses because when they started out they sunk all their money into it and couldn’t afford separate places. I’ve done commercial work with his reno company, and the employees there make it sound like Kris Winters is basically riding Renner’s coattails. He oversees projects when Renner is out of town, but Renner is the one making all the decisions, and they have a finance manager signing the checks. It’s just office gossip, really, which can be stacked against all the other gossip about Jeremy Renner, but this version of events makes it sound like Winters isn’t really successful on his own and pretty much depends on Renner’s goodwill to get by.
@Algernon:
Sheesh. Renner is out of town a lot, and wasn’t flipping houses the secondary career while he was trying to make it as an actor anyhow? Someone’s gotta take care of the day-to-day operations, ESPECIALLY when it comes to construction. And even so, wasn’t the other guy investing his own money as well? And they were incredibly successful as house flippers?
@ Bridget
They’ve been really successful, yes, and it’s a nice-sized company. There’s a good (and friendly!) management team. In the work I’ve done with them, I’ve never seen Renner or Winters, but then, by the time the house is ready to sell, they’re long gone and onto the next thing. I’m just under the impression the employees maybe like Renner more. The water cooler gossip makes it sound like he’s more popular with them.
@Algernon
Your comments are interesting. I have always been a bit confused by Winters. It is clear that he is loved by the women in Renner’s family, to the point that I feel he is closer to them than Renner. Renner’s family are so careful not to talk about him on social media, but a few times Winter’s has seemed to go out of his way to mention Renner and say things that would fan the rumor flames: saying on E! that they were so close they finished each other’s sentences; the way he beamed when they were photographed together when the were hosting a party for the launch of some real estate thing; following the publication of a number of pictures of Renner, Winters has posted instagram pictures which makes it clear he was there too. I don’t doubt the wife is a nasty piece of work, but I have a niggling feeling Winter’s might have been stirring things up a bit and he would have been perfectly placed to do so. One of Renner’s friends posted a picture on his birthday thanking him for 20+ years of friendship, he said he couldn’t ask for a better friend and that Renner was “as loyal as an oak tree”. Could he have earned Jeremy’s loyalty and now the entire Renner family is blind to Winter’s manipulations? I am probably totally off the mark, but those thoughts were already there and the phrasing in Winter’s documents seem off, although there is nothing to say that his comments are being accurately reported or put into context.
Why can’t these two morons work together and focus on their daughter’s best interest?
So disappointed at Renner… Not that I had him on a pedestal, but I didn’t see someone like him shaming the mother of his child.
As for the roommate rumors, I really don’t care. But it is quite possible they are friends. I have seen guys who always have “that” friend they cannot “get rid of” and who is always in their lives bringing them down in a way… His friend could be that type of friend…
The only thing that is bothering me after reading this story is in the pictures it looks like Sonny is taking out the trash and the recycling (looks like packing materials) BUT I can see through the trash bag and she isn’t recycling the Cheez-its box and other items! That bag is full of recyclable items. I feel my inner rage monster getting irrationally upset about this. Recyclops out.
I immediately thought she was recycling all of it. Maybe recycling collection services in LA allow/require people to bag up their loose recyclables, and she bagged the boxes to make it easier to carry them?
I’d never guess Renner would take up a relationship like this and the more we know the worse he looks from a “Renner how did you get yourself here” perspective. I don’t know this girl, sure she wants her due but the both of them sound messy. Also tell Renner’s roommate you’d be hard pressed to find a woman that didn’t beg for a glass of alcohol after she delivered or that hadn’t taken a glass to drink. This isn’t the 40s. Stop with the dramatics. Now she’s a coke head Renner and that’s not reason enough for you to divorce her or try to get her help. But you use it as a custody ploy. MESSY. And Foul.
In Michael from AD’s voice, “HER?”
In Renner’s defense I think he has spent 2 years on damage control. His wife filed and started throwing mud at him over three months ago, demanding she get primary custody and, that the prenup be over-turned. His first response was simply a request to uphold the prenup and maintain shared custody. I strongly suspect he has tried everything to get it done quietly and now it has come down to fight or lose the kid. He has a top divorce lawyer who, I believe, specializes in quick, relatively painless divorces, so i assume they felt they had no other choice.
Kris Winters speaking to People is a misstep that is going to hurt.
I have been a big fan of Renner and his work but this has me thinking what the heck? These two are scraping the bottom of the barrel to exaggerate purely human mistakes into capital crimes. Except leaving the baby alone – but I also wonder if that has been shaded to the max. Renner is allowing Winters to talk all over town with this woman-shaming crap. She talked about abortion? I heard Renner is the one who wanted that. Winters is quite possessive and vitriolic. Renner may not be gay but Winters does not want him to have any woman in his life. Similar goings in with Renner’s last live-in, Jes Macallan. Makes me wonder if Renner has never been able to cope with intimate relationships and this plays right into Winter’s scheming.
I am starting to think two nasty, manipulative people might be fighting over Renner and/or his money and he is just too much of a softie to realize what is going on.
Wonder if Chris Evans/ Lily Collins was a pr stunt to try fix Evans imagine before this fiasco went boom…
Can’t wait to see how messy this will get.
Jeremy Renner getting arrested back in 2000 for cruising at a gay park and now this has convinced me he is 100% gay.
This totally does not make sense¡¡ If she had done all the things the roommate claims, I as a father would have got rid of her a while a go¡¡ The story is totally made up because I am sure he only financially cared about his daughter, and now with the custody battle he is looking bad. But I agree, they should both put their daughter in their first priority and stop with all this nonsense. Someone already wrote it, one day their kid is going to read all of this and what are they going to say?
This is mudslinging. Kindergarden level:
“He did …”
– “She did …”
“But he did …”
– “I did … because she did … ”
Poor child.
As for the parents: they seem to deserve each other.
It is ridiculous that separated partners and especially separated rich partners can bow out of paying spousal support / can deny to support the main caretaking partner who can’t work because the child is still very young. Does anybody really think that the non-working partner won’t spend any money on him/herself although the money is called “child support”? How can you support a child without supporting its main carer????
My point of view is: they both are responsible and so they both should “pay” in some way. And if the child is living with its main caretaker then this caretaker puts a lot of time and effort into its care and the caretaker deserves some compensation for about half of that effort and care that otherwise the other party should put in.
And yes, if any parent decides to not use professional childcare but to bring up her child herself then that decision should be honoured as well.
And when Sonni was pregnant Renner demanded she sign a prenup because else he wouldn’t marry her? So he practically blackmailed her into signing it … . Because as a married mother she would have more rights than as an unmarried mother which would have happened to her because she was preggers and unmarried.
There was such a case in Germany. She got pregnant and he forced her to sign a prenup just hours right before the nuptials. Thing is that being an unmarried mother is a huge shame (for catholics in Bavaria) and being dumped on your wedding day is an even greater shame and therefore his demand she sign a prenup was judged to be blackmailing. The judge declared the prenup invalid. 😉
And no, I don’t believe that leaving your child unattended for 15 minutes does endanger it gravely. If the child was lying in a baby buggy or in a playpen then it is not dangerous.
Also I wonder if the roommate has been bribed to come up with that crap right now? Now isn’t that convenient? And can it be proven (medical testing) if she has had alcohol or coke?
And is it just my impression or is coke abuse more widespread than I thought it was? Or is it just Hollywood?
They got married when the baby was 10 months old and they had been living together for over a year.