Star: Cameron Diaz & Benji Madden are ‘unraveling’ fast, he’s a total ‘nag’

Cameron Diaz

A new story in this week’s issue of Star seems largely based upon these paparazzi photos from 4/22. Cameron Diaz and Benji Madden visited United Talent Agency in LA. They didn’t hold hands (like they used to do) but walked apart from each other. Star says jaws were clenched and tension was rife. They exited the building separately. Cameron flipped off the paps (although I didn’t include those pics), and she and Benji departed in separate cars. Trouble?

When Cam and Benji married in January after an 8-month courtship, I was charmed. Cameron gave a sweet speech about how she waited to marry because she “didn’t want to settle. ‘Tis true that girlfriend dated an army of douches. The pregnancy rumors began immediately, but we haven’t seen a bump yet. In March, we heard that the couple was already in marriage counseling as a preventative measure.

Now Star has a 4-page roundup of what’s (supposedly) going wrong in this marriage. The gist is that Benji has turned into a nitpicky, jealous killjoy over Cam’s career. He thinks Cameron is capable of doing more serious acting instead of a bunch of forgettable romcoms. He wants her to do indie movies and also not to make out with other dudes for work. Cameron doesn’t want to stop making romcom money. She wants a baby, he doesn’t, and so on. Some highlights:

* When Cam & Benji left UTA, “They were not happy. An upset-looking Cameron walked out of the building before Benji and gave photographers the finger. Benji also looked angry when he exited after her. But he didn’t try and follow her; he got into his car and left.

* Trouble is brewing. “All of a sudden, they can’t seem to agree on anything. And they’re both wondering why they were in such a hurry to get married.”

* “Benji has been nagging Cam to get her career back on track and focus on more serious roles, instead of her typical romantic comedies, so he pushed her to set up a meeting at a new agency that day. But at the meeting, Benji was basically trying to run the show. He kept talking to the agents about were he saw Cam’s career going, instead of letting her do the talking on her own.”

* Cameron was upset. She told Benji that he knows nothing about the movie biz and should focus on his music. They didn’t speak again that day. “She used to think it was cute that he was taking an interest in her work, but now she’s finding it increasingly annoying.

* Benji always compares himself to Cameron’s past lovers, and he worries that “she’s out of his league.”

* Cameron desperately wants a baby (of course). Benji doesn’t want one yet, and Cameron feels like he pulled a bait and switch with her. Because before they married, Benji said that being a dad is “what every man wants.” But “with all the concerns she’s had about being a parent, she finally feels like she’s in the right place. But now Benji’s done a 180, and it’s killing her. She thinks he lied about wanting a baby.”

* Both parties believed they met The One, but now they feel dumb for rushing into marriage.”They were so smitten, and now their relationship is unraveling just as fast as it started.”

[From Star, print edition, May 11, 2015]

One unusual thing about this story — it features a man doing the “nagging” a woman instead of the usual equation. If this story is true, Benji needs to back off on Cameron’s career. She’s been doing her own thing for two decades of adult life. She doesn’t need a man stepping in to micromanage her career. As far as a baby goes, Cameron always said she wasn’t drawn to motherhood, but she also used to say that about marriage. So who knows if she really wants a kiddo. Did these two rush into marriage? Perhaps, but that doesn’t necessarily forecast disaster. This story may not be true at all. They could have exited the building separately and angry for a variety of reasons. Or maybe they’re on different pages for more reasons than one.

I do hope that Cameron and Benji make it work … because that dreadful tattoo would be the ultimate regret.

Benji Madden

Benji Madden

Cameron Diaz

Photos courtesy of Fame/Flynet & WENN

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  1. Two degrees says:

    Wow already!

    ……Just waiting for the JLO- Casper marriage. …..divorce.

  2. GoodNamesAllTaken says:

    Just because you’re married and you love each other doesn’t mean you won’t argue and get angry with one another. Maybe the article is true, but I wouldn’t put much stock in one fight. Happens. Especially in the first years before you learn how to communicate without escalating the disagreement.

    • Kitten says:

      Everybody wants a KIDDO

      *summons Kiddo*

      I know we talked about this before GNAT but I think fights are good for a relationship. At least in my current situation, it’s brought my BF and I closer.

      • Jegede says:

        Well, you look at JFK Jr and Carolyn Bessette’s infamous park fight.

        The consensus was that it was over, only for them to get married months later!!!

      • Two degrees says:

        Me and my roommate at the time of the JFK Jr.-Bessett fight both said after the footage ran on entertainment tonight , “He’s going to marry her” …..the passion in JFK Jr. Was something we had never seen before with other gf…and he did just that marry her.

        Still Cameron and Benji just seem so mis matched. It may not be working.

      • Pinky says:

        @Jegede Only to then argue about flying together to Martha’s Vineyard on July 16, 1999….

      • Jegede says:

        @ Only the 3 people in the cockpit know if an arguement took place, but there is actually evidence of the NY Park fight and a proposal followed.

      • Jegede says:

        @Two Degrees. –

        Yep if Daryl Hannah was too docile for John, Carolyn was the exact opposite and some men are attracted to that.

        Another person who liked ball busters was Ronald Reagan.

      • Two degrees says:

        That’s exactly what my roomie said at the time. This lady CBK stands up to John, she fights back, it turns JFK Jr On that she challenges him, He’ll marry her!

      • Boo says:

        Your destiny can be your doom, re JFK Jr and Carolyn B., et al I think a fight like they had in Central Park was a sign of serious mismatch. I agree fighting happens and is healthy, but that looked like he was being assaulted by her verbally. I only remember one image, of him sitting down and her standing up and screaming down at him while he had his hands over his ears and his head bowed. Nightmare.

      • Christin says:

        I think that an occasional disagreement is fine, as long as it is respectful and not borderline abusive.

        On that note, I always had mixed feelings about John and Carolyn. That public argument made me wonder how they were behind closed doors. Most people can hold it together a bit better in public, especially if they know they will be photographed.

      • Andrea says:

        I had mixed feelings about Carolyn and John too—I have read many stories of her being a major cokehead and flew off the handles easily due to her drug use. This is possibly why she flew off at him in Central Park. I always felt sorry for him—thought he may have been better off with Darryl Hannah. Sad they have been gone a long time now regardless..

      • Bob Loblaw says:

        People frequently mistake passion for long lasting love. Passion certainly has a role in any love affair but if it’s all you share, the relationship is doomed.

    • SamiHami says:

      Exactly. It’s ridiculous to think that marriage is nonstop bliss every minute of every day and that if you’re not grinning like an idiot you must be miserable. I’ve been married 26 years-very happily-and my husband and I still argue now and then. Not as frequently as when we first were married, but it still happens occasionally.

    • Mrs. Darcy says:

      Yeah, my first year of marriage there were some doozies, and I couldn’t even remember now what they were about. Everything just felt way more dramatic than it needed to. I think it happens a lot? A long time single girl like Cameron, this was always going to happen, esp. as they got married pretty quick. Time will tell, I can kind of see her freaking out and doing something rash but it depends how patient he is I guess. The guy kind of needs to find a way to not irritate the woman in the long term if I’m being honest! Compromise on both sides, obv. but generally speaking ;-0

      • MrsB says:

        So true. I laugh when I look back on my first year of marriage. The fights were always soooo overly dramatic. 8 years later and we’re still happy together, so I don’t think them fighting necessarily means anything.

      • Christin says:

        First year is definitely the biggest period of adjustment.

    • AtlLady says:

      When my daughter was getting married, the only advice I gave her was to remember that two people living under one roof are going to get on each others’ nerves from time to time. She and her brother always have been extremely close but are known to drive each other bat guano nuts. Rough rights of passage are to be expected, just weather through.

  3. RhoSue says:

    He’s right, she is out of his league. Look at her all glamorous in that red dress. Then look at him with his pants falling off his butt. What was she thinking.

    • Two degrees says:


    • jugstorecowboy says:

      Those pants make him look like a troll.

    • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

      Agree, not to be mean but I find him very unattractive.

    • Liv says:

      Maybe he’s a nice guy and she was happy to find a decent man after all the douchebags. I’d take him a thousand times over Jared Leto.

      • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

        True, and looks aren’t everything, but it is possible to find a nice guy who doesn’t wear pants around his hips.

      • Crumpet says:

        Based on the principle of how belts work, I can’t fathom the purpose of wearing one in the instance where your pants are hanging onto your upper thighs instead of your waist. Especially a heavy one, like Benji is wearing in these photos. I would think HIS belt is only adding to the downward forces being placed upon the waist of these pants.


      • Liv says:

        Yep, a bit too low for my taste as well, but some are into it!

    • sills says:

      Hell yes I will judge, if at 36 years old one can’t wear pants properly it looks like a sign of arrested development. Like that photo on here of dolled-up Pam Anderson next to Rick Salomon in shredded-up jean shorts (at age 47). They look like sullen teens and by extension their lady friends look to have questionable taste. Now get off my lawn.

      • Belle Epoch says:

        Ha! This ^^^^

      • Bob Loblaw says:

        Okay, at 48, and I am officially in the get off my lawn crowd. I ran down a kid and his dog, with a Baggie of dog poop in hand, to scold him for letting the dog crap on my lawn. Yeah, I did it, I’m turning into my psychotic father. Of course, once I caught the kid, I found the earbuds accounted for him not hearing my shrieking. Still, I laid into him, he did apologize, I calmed down. And I apologized and I told him to get free doggie bags at the dog park. I’m officially old and crotchety.

    • Sofia says:

      Why it matters how he looks like? That’s true for men and women. If he was a great human being he could even dress like a homeless guy, it’s just irrelevant.

    • nicegirl says:

      Seriously. I wonder if she sometimes wants to shout, “Dude, pull up your pants!!!”

    • Denise says:

      Fair or not, he’s always reeked of insecurity to me in terms of how he appears. Shoulders, expression, etc. It’s sad if he really can’t support the incredible career she’s built for herself and mislead her about wanting kids.

  4. Jegede says:

    I would have sworn Diaz was pregnant, going by those earlier shopping pics with in-law Nicole Richie.

  5. Sabrine says:

    He should mind his own business if he wants the marriage to work. Sticking his nose into her career and offering unwanted advice will be the death knoll for their relationship. You have to give the other person space, not try to overtake their identity. If he is even a little controlling, they won’t even last a year. Of course, who knows if this story is true or BS.

  6. lizzie says:

    she is extremely charming and has made some terrible movies more than tolerable in the past (feeling minnesota…cough…) but the last 5 years have not been great. her last few movies were unwatchable. so maybe he’s a smidge correct about her career and she’s stinging over it. if he truly is a jerk – it fits her pattern. if he is a nice guy – maybe she is having a hard time adjusting to that after decades of being treated poorly.

  7. Jag says:

    I completely believe that entire story. My guy did a bait and switch not only about moving to my state to be with me, but also about wanting children right away. It took a couple of years for it to happen, but now I’m rethinking being with him because of it. (We’re long distance and I don’t want to move to his state.) Even though I don’t like her very much, I have to be on TeamCameron

    • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

      Obviously, I don’t know the whole story, but I wish I had listened to myself when I had nagging feelings about my first husband. He would promise something and then say he never said it. I married him anyway, and guess what? He was a liar. Duh.

      • Crumpet says:

        I had a relationship like that once. Made me question my sanity! Thank God I got out when I did.

    • ellie says:

      Happens to many of us.

    • Bob Loblaw says:

      My brother married his fiancé, a beautiful virgin, and her personality came “out” so to speak after the wedding. Before the marriage, she said she wanted children, after the marriage, the truth comes out, she’s five years older than she claimed and she refuses to go to a gynecologist ever. She has no interest in having children and is, I’m sorry, bat-shit crazy. She told me me 90 year old grandmother, sweetest lady on earth, God rest her soul, was an evil woman. I tell you truly, she was one person to all of us before the marriage and another after. She has picked a fight with every member of my family and cut my brother off from every single friend he ever had. Listen to your gut. People can be very manipulative.

  8. BengalCat2000 says:

    I don’t know about this story. Maybe HE wanted kids and she didn’t. I find it hard to believe that a man who gets a giant tattoo of his wife’s name on his chest not agreeing to have a child. Or maybe I’m projecting because at 42, I’m f*cking sick of being asked why I never married or wanted kids.

    • TeaAndSympathy says:

      Hi there, BengalCat200! What? People still ask these questins? People are still that rude? A couple of ladies I work with are in your situation. None of my group would even think to ask “why…?” In my experience, if someone trusts, and feels comfortable with you, they I’ll tell you freely and honestly of their decisions, without you ever having to ask. Some people are just too rude and insensitive. I don’t know what’s with these two, but having seen BM interviewed for some things here in Australia, he seems like a nice decent guy – pants around thighs notwithstanding – so I wish them well.

      On another note, I’m laid up in hospital, so my daughter took a week off work to give my bed and sitting rooms a complete makeover – painted ceilings, walls, architraves, doors, skirting boards; painted a pair of beautiful solid old wardrobes that I can’t bear to part with, new carpet, moved old furniture out and new furniture in…the whole kit and kaboodle. While she had the paint tray ready and waiting as she took a work call, our little Bengal, again demonstrating, his love of flicking water around and hopping in and out of his water bowls, was fascinated at the movement of white paint when a paw is dipped in and swished…as well as how four little paws look wearing white paint socks. Oh, then there was the game of Chasey, throughout the the house, as she tried to pin him down to clean him up. Bengals just will not be pinned down if they choose not to be. Aaw, and all the cute little footprints on the (thankfully, old) carpet, tiles, stairs….adorable…

      • BengalCat2000 says:

        @ TeaandSympathy, yes, people are that rude, but I’ve learned to tell them that I prefer to live in sin and am too crazy to raise children. That usually shuts them up quickly. But I teach art to children who want to know about my life. One of my students is determined to find me a husband. She’s 8. I also live in the bible belt, which doesn’t help, lol.

        I hope you’re feeling better. My Bengal loves water as well. She never leaves my side. She likes to dip her paws in my bathwater. Sending love to you and your sweet kitty!!!

    • Bob Loblaw says:

      You have my sympathy, I’m 48 and infertile, and I have been asked the rudest questions by so many people because of it. It’s like, because we’re women, other women think it’s okay to ask intrusive questions. Yes, please, let me hold a lecture on the failure of my ovaries, shall we have a slide show for the public? Why don’t you have kids, why haven’t you had kids, why are you waiting to have kids, is your husband firing blanks, you should try in vitro, I know this doctor, I heard about this thing, a friend went to this place, I heard if you stand on your head, maybe if you just relax, it’s something in the water, don’t wait too long, what’s wrong with you, I could go on and on and on. You have my sincere sympathy.

      • BengalCat2000 says:

        Thanks Bob. You make a very good point. I’m not infertile, just never wanted kids. But what if I were? I’m sorry people are so rude to you, and judging by your username, you are probably a super awesome person. Hugs!!

    • Denise says:

      That’s so rude that people ask you to explain yourself. I don’t understand what one’s situation has to do with another’s. I can kind of relate, I have been questioned by moms with two or more kids about why I only have one. Some people think their personal choices are the right ones.

  9. kellybean says:

    Last week, my fiance met me at Costco after work. We took two different cars home (because we arrived in two different cars) and I probably looked grumpy (who doesn’t after dealing with people blocking the aisles waiting for a bite of a cheerio?) but it doesn’t mean our relationship is in trouble. Dumbasses.

  10. lowercaselois says:

    It is normal in a marriage to argue and not hold hands. Star is hoping to stir up trouble and sell their rag.

  11. Christin says:

    I only clicked because it’s rare to hear a guy called a nag.

    And, he needs to be told to pull up his pants.

    • kittykat says:

      He looks ridiculous. Maybe a great guy but he dresses like an idiot.

      • jesse says:

        Not my favorite style either, but it’s not like he’s a lawyer or a doctor. Guys in bands can dress a lot worse

  12. M.A.F. says:

    Well, if what he said about getting out of the romcom movies is true then I agree with him. Leave the RomComs to the 20 year olds, it’s not cute if you are still making them in your 40’s. She should stay with the comedy but find better material.

    • Bob Loblaw says:

      I agree, age appropriate comedy, rom-com is fine if well written, she has great comic timing, she just needs good material.

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  14. Hannah says:

    One of the reasons Cameron is successful is she knows her strengths and weakness as an actress.

  15. PoppyAdair says:

    Ummm…the home page thumbnail pic for this story on my iPad is clearly one of Helen Hunt, not Cameron Diaz. Is this a Safari cache issue on my iPad or does Celebitchy’s crack team of IT gurus need to fix the pic?

  16. elle says:

    This can’t be! Isn’t Cam the love/relationship expert?

  17. Dara says:

    Whatev. I saw them in Seal Beach (of all places) 2 weeks ago and they were all over each other. Can’t say what will happen with them but they def were lovey that day.

  18. A.Key says:

    He sounds and looks like a total douchebag. She clearly has a type and has learned nothing.

  19. beets says:

    she panicked married the first guy who ever asked and he is a money /fame buster. benji would sell ice in hell if thought he could I pity this older lady with old eggs and not enough time .she likes to drink and so does he perhaps they sobered up for that day ? either way marriage is hard but these two make a mockery of it playing it out in media. She pays for all press releases why he is the bad guy. what little credibility he had is being ruined