Jon Hamm & Jennifer Westfelt definitely split & he’s seeing Sandy Bullock now?


This is not a new story or new speculation at all, but it’s still worth gossiping about. Back in March/April, Jon Hamm confirmed that he had been to rehab to deal with some alcohol issues. Around that time, he was promoting the last half of the last season of Mad Men, and he was doing all of the promotional stuff solo. It was weird because his long-time girlfriend/partner Jennifer Westfeldt had always come out for Jon’s red carpets. She sort of clung to him, if we’re being honest. But she was nowhere to be seen for months. There were rumors then that Westfeldt and Hamm had split up, or that they were going through a rough patch because of his alcoholism and rehab stint. Then, over the past few weeks, Hamm once again flew solo as he promoted the Minions movie. Where was Jennifer? Who knows? Star says they’re definitely done now.

Say it ain’t so! After 16 years together, Jon Hamm and girlfriend Jennifer Westfeldt are going their separate ways.

“The relationship just ran its course,” says a source close to the couple. In fact, the once inseparable duo haven’t been photographed together since January, before Jon entered a 30-day rehab program for alcohol abuse.

But it wasn’t the 44-year-old star’s addiction that brought on the breakup— it was Jon’s reluctance to start a family with the 45-year-old actress. “I don’t have a driving force to have a baby,” the actor has previously said. “That said, I’m in a committed relationship, and if it ever came up, I’m not ruling it out.”

However, sources say he did just that. “Jennifer realized that she and Jon don’t want the same things,” says the pal. “So they agreed that it was time to take a step back.”

[From Star Magazine]

I feel very judgy for saying this, but men and women should know whether they want children by the time they’re in their mid-40s. I understand being publicly wishy-washy about it if you’re a celebrity (you don’t want to alienate those moms!), but if Westfeldt left him after 16 years because she only just now realized that she wants a kid and he doesn’t – well, that’s not a very good reason. Thankfully, I don’t really buy that reason. I think Hamm has some demons and Westfeldt probably dumped him months ago, and that was his “wake-up call” to go to rehab.

For what it’s worth, In Touch Weekly reports this week that Hamm is now spending time with his Minions costar Sandra Bullock. Hm… they would be an interesting couple, but I think she’s spent enough time with “men with personal demons” you know?

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  1. Jayna says:

    Back when everybody said they were broken up and he went to rehab, that wasn’t true, because I read an interview a month ago or so and he said “we” quite a few times. They must have still been together but shaky. So it must be a very recent breakup.

    The Sandy story doesn’t make sense. He would risk losing a long-term partner by refusing to have a child with her but become involved with a woman with a small boy who said her life absolutely revolves around her son? If that’s the case, then they broke up for another reason, not having a child.

    • NYer says:

      Well, we all know men who have broken up over the pressure to marry, only to get engaged to their next girlfriend within months.

      As for Sandra Bullock, sheesh, can she really pick ’em… (eye roll)

      • laura in LA says:

        IF Sandy’s really w/Jon, it’s only a rebound fling…

        (Poor Sandy!)

        And w/that, I predict her next hookup will be w/noneother than Ben Affleck.

    • Esmom says:

      I agree that Hamm getting together with Bullock doesn’t make sense. I think Star saw a photo of them together and spun their yarn from there.

    • ell says:

      i doubt they broke up because she wanted a child. that’s always the assumption with women who didn’t get to be mothers, but at 45 and after almost 20 years with him, I can’t see how that would be the reason.

      my assumption is that she either got tired of how he behaved and dumped him, so he went to rehab to try and save his relationship but it was too late, or maybe they fell out love. 16 years is a long time, it happens. but I bet it has nothing to do with children.

      • lucy2 says:

        Completely agree. If she truly wanted children and he didn’t, I can’t imagine she would have stayed with him so long, and into her mid 40s. I think it’s a convenient excuse that gets tossed out there whenever a couple who doesn’t have kids breaks up.
        Also, this is Star. It’s quite possible they didn’t break up at all.

      • Paula says:

        I totally agree. I hate how women are always portrayed like desperate to get married and have children, as if these are our only goals in life.

      • Dana M says:

        I thing by age 45, most women know what they want in life. Jennifer to me seems like a woman who probably decided not to have children a long time ago. Nothing wrong with this decision. I doubt they broke up because she wants kids now. They were together for 16 years and they probably already figured that one out a long time ago. I think they broke up because he is a Dbag and or he was cheating.

      • Bridget says:

        But don’t you know that women gets the baby fever?

      • Kiki04 says:

        Ditto everyone……I can’t imagine they finally had the baby talk after 16 years, at the ages of 44 and 45. If she wanted kids and he didn’t, they would have split long ago. It’s fine if they broke up for other reasons, but I don’t know why magazines always have to make it about someone wanting kids and someone not wanting kids.

      • RobN says:

        Speaking only for myself at 50, it’s easy to be comfortable with the decision not to have kids when it’s still your decision. There is a weird moment around 45 or 46, when you realize it isn’t really your call anymore. You’re not confronted with having to make a decision, you’re confronted by having already made one and that’s a different deal. I don’t know what, or if, anything happened with these two, but it never surprises me when the baby issue comes up again long after you think it’s settled.

      • laura in LA says:

        RobN, thank you so much for saying this! It’s especially refreshing coming from a male point of view…

        Without going into too much personal detail, I always said I never wanted to get married and have children just for the sake of doing so. And when I was in my 20s, even early 30s, all the marriages and babies didn’t faze me much. Qué será, será…

        But just when I thought I’d made peace with being single and childless at 40, it seems like there was a rush among women my age to have babies, married or not. In my case, it never really felt like a choice as circumstances prevailed. And now, here I find myself at 43 still single and childless, and though there’s only a sliver of a chance, I’ve felt longings for a partner in life and maybe a baby or child, too. Or maybe it’s like “last call”, feeling leftout, and wondering what could’ve been?

        So to say that anyone should “just know” and make it happen assumes it’s really that easy. Yet when we make these generalizations about men and women or judgements about age and oversimplify such important life issues, we do a disservice to ourselves and each other.

        It also makes me think the person saying this is in for a shocking surprise someday – such as when they find out they’re infertile, or the person they married has been unfaithful, or their child is not such a sweet little darling anymore.

        The fact of the matter is: People change, and humans are more complex than we give each other credit for.

      • Bridget says:

        People can absolutely change, and it is their right to do so. It just irritates me that they’re implying that she’s just been passively waiting this whole time for him to give her a marriage and a baby.

    • Kaye says:

      re the “we” thing: I’ve been divorced for 15 years and I STILL say “we got a lot of rain at the house.” /shrug

      • Dee Kay says:

        Yeah I read those post-rehab interviews where he said “we” a lot but I didn’t give it too much credence — it could just be habit. Or he didn’t want to “announce” a breakup without Westfeldt being on board with how that news was made public. I thought they were definitely broken up when he entered rehab.

    • Nerdista says:

      Plus, isn’t it all the rage that she’s gay?

  2. Luca76 says:

    Maybe it’s more like she was waiting for him to want a family and she realized it’s now or never for her?
    Anyway Hamm is troubled I hope Sandra isn’t involved with him.

    • Morgan says:

      She’s 45…. her “now or never” moment should have come about a decade ago. At least 5 years.

      • kcarp says:

        This is Hollywood fertility where the good eggs age to a seasoned 55 years before they are put on the shelf. When at 55 years old a woman can no longer use her very good eggs to get pregnant she may consider a surrogate, just as her subscription to AARP starts.

  3. Kingsbury says:

    Jon “set a human being on fire in 1990” Hamm, as I call him now. Ugh. I seriously question Sandy’s choice in men. Hope Jennifer got sick of his cheating ass and dumped him. She’s better off without him (though perhaps her career isn’t).

    • laura in LA says:

      I agree, and I don’t care how long ago it was or how much he may have changed since then – I’ll never believe it until he comes out and says so, still waiting for that public amends…

    • qwerty says:

      lmao, perfect name

  4. Gabrielle says:

    She has terrible taste in men plus he’s really hot, although douchey. This would not surprise me at all.

  5. perplexed says:

    Maybe that frat hazing story shocked her as much as it did the rest of us…

  6. Lindy79 says:

    Until it’s confirmed, I’m giving Sandy the benefit of the doubt. She may have had bad taste in the past but she also wasn’t a mother then. I don’t know her obviously but she strikes me as the kind that would put her child before a relationship if she had concerns.

    • bettyrose says:

      ^THIS! No way am I believing this till I hear it from Sandra’s people. Plus, she did put her child first last time, so there’s already proof of her priorities. When the stripper story broke, she went off radar and didn’t reappear until the adoption was complete.

  7. Elyse says:

    They were both so damn pretentious in all the interviews I’ve seen with them. Over frat boy Hamm anyway.

  8. Maya says:

    If it’s true that Sandra is with him then she is a bigger idiot that I thought.

    She was with doucheb*g Jesse (who was also a nazi) for 5 years.

    Jon is an equally vile man – did she not read about the horrible stuff he did when he was in college?

    Sandra’s good girl image is surely but slowly being exposed – she was excused for allegedly not knowing about Jesse being a nazi, she has been excused for being best friends with a racist like Chelsea Handler despite having adopted a black son.

    If this Jon is true then let’s see if she again gets away with stuff others would be crucified for by the media and public.

    • LeAnn Stinks says:

      That’s an excellent point. The fact that she has German ancestry and claimed to have no knowledge of James’ Nazi ways, never sat right me, either.

      Quite frankly, I don’t believe her.

      • Betsy says:

        That basically sounds like you’re calling her a Nazi because she has German heritage. Is that what you meant to say, really?

      • pumpkindoc says:

        LeAnn Stinks: You don’t believe what about whom? Crazy train, my boo. Isn’t this post about Jon Hamm and Jennifer Westfelt? How and why did you arrive at Nazis????

      • LeAnn Stinks says:

        No Betsy,

        My point was, because she is of German heritage, one would think she would be even more sensitive to being tied to those particular issues and would have done her due diligence in knowing what her husband’s affiliations were, and would have taken prompt action in distancing herself knowing that with her heritage, people might give her a side eye.

        Pupkindoc, I was replying to Maya’s comment above regarding Bullock’s questionable judgement in men, and specifically her former husband Jesse James, whom Maya also mentioned.

        James was exposed as having white supremacist beliefs. Bullock was married to him for five years and claimed that she had no knowledge of his Nazi leanings. I was saying I have a hard time believing that in those five years she didn’t know anything. Obviously, I am not the only one who feels this way as evidenced by some of the other comments.

        Finally, Aren, I agree I find it hard to believe that she never stepped into James’ office at least once or twice and knew it was filled with that stuff?? Eye roll.

      • LeAnn Stinks says:


        You can only hide that stuff for so long. I also find it hard to believe that the Discovery Channel did not know, as they seem to protect their talent.

        Many people online complain about the authenticity of “Alaskan Bush People,” and the Brown family, whom the show is about, is in legal trouble in Alaska. Many Alaskans have said they would like Discovery to cancel the show because it is “fake.” Has Discovery canceled it? No, it’s airing season three now. As long as the company continues to make money, and has viewers, they don’t care. I am sure it was the same with James.

        Again, in the five years she never saw one piece of evidence? A tattoo, perhaps? A questionable person that he socialized with? Sorry, I don’t buy it.

      • Ange says:

        “My point was, because she is of German heritage, one would think she would be even more sensitive to being tied to those particular issues and would have done her due diligence in knowing what her husband’s affiliations were, and would have taken prompt action in distancing herself knowing that with her heritage, people might give her a side eye.

        LeAnn Stinks it seems a bit much to ask that Bullock be totally across the whole German thing just because she has a dab of it in her ancestry. Of course one should do due diligence on a potential partner (and I’m not speculating either way whether she knew or not) but I don’t know, using the ‘she has German heritage’ thing is an overreach IMO. Your average man on the street wouldn’t even know she had it in her. Sins of the fathers and all that…

    • Aren says:

      I think that’s the exact reason she adopted a baby of a different race from hers. According to Jesse’s mistress, Sandra was into the nazi stuff as well. Of course nobody believed her because she was a racist “nude model”, but if Jesse’s office was full of parafernalia, it’s impossible to believe Sandra was oblivious.

      • pumpkindoc says:

        A different race from whom? The reason for this “different race” baby is for what? Is there a grand conspiracy of anti-racism afoot?????

      • Alice says:

        I guess he fooled all those people at the Discovery Channel also. Apparently, not a single producer, director, cameraman, etc. ever stepped inside his office. Or, he hid his crap from them the same way he hid it from Sandra.

  9. INeedANap says:

    If he’s with Sandy, I would just be impressed at his taste for age-appropriate women. But he seems like a guy with a shiny exterior and a lot of hidden demons.

    Westfeldt’s nose — is that real? It can’t be real, right?

    • Ratchetosity says:

      @ “he seems like a guy with a shiny exterior and a lot of hidden demons” —

      and that seems right up Sandy’s alley for some reason to me.

      Sandy doesn’t seem as innocent to me as she would have people believe her to be.

      For some reason ever sine the Jesse marriage I’ve always gotten a very creepy vibe off Sandra Bullock. You don’t stay as well-maintained as she does without some intense vanity. You aren’t married to the monster that Jesse was without being into the darkness that he was harboring. She’s a good mother and a good person no doubt but Sandra Bullock strikes me a s a very well-rounded woman in as broad a sense as I can say that.

      Kind of Angelina Jolie without the attention-seeking.

      • ell says:

        i’m no fan, but I wouldn’t say that wanting to look good is “intense vanity”. i mean, it’s not like she’s having tons of plastic surgery or going out of her way too look super beautiful.

        she has horrible taste in men though, she’s like jlo.

      • jwoolman says:

        I think her job depends on her “looking good”, especially as she gets older and Hollywood tends to think women should retire after 30…

    • Isabelle says:

      This, he make be a bad catch but he is at least is going after an age appropriate woman. She is older than him.

  10. Jaygee says:

    It seems odd to me that there was no announcement in regards to “we broke up but are still friends,” blah blah blah. I would expect that since he was out promoting projects. Maybe things are simply rocky between the, now, or they are on a trial break.

  11. lemon says:

    She wrote and directed a film about a woman having a baby with her best friend, a few years ago. I’m sure she’s thought about having kids before age 45!

  12. The Eternal Side-Eye says:

    Maybe she had a wake up call when the frat story broke?

    It’s one thing to compromise with a partner when you believe you’re aware of their good and bad, to find out something as shocking as that though?

    With the alcoholism, possible cheating, no kids/marriage it might have finally been the final straw and she had to get out of the relationship.

    Odds are petty great he hid that story from everyone including her and that’s quite a thing to learn about your partner after so many years.

    • Kitten says:

      Yeah that would be hard for me to get over.

      On the upside, now Ben will have a pal to troll for strange with.

      • ell says:

        when they did that movie together (the town i think?) they were both cheating on their partners with their co-stars. ben & jon are soulmates, they should reunite.

      • laura in LA says:

        Me, too…

        And I fully expect to see Ben and Jon trolling, though they really both should be rehabbing together.

  13. Size Does Matter says:

    Makes sense to me. Probably partly an Austin-commonality thing since Sandy adopted it as her town after Matthew McConna-however-you-spell-it and Hamm went to college and hazed his frat brothers there.

    • boredblond says:

      Wonder what frat boy brad Pitt (sigma chi) did? hmmmm. The painting everyone with the same brush is ridiculous…

  14. kibbles says:

    I have seen this particular rumor (Westfelt’s wanting to have a child) for years and a part of me has always believed it. I can see Westfelt as someone who loved Hamm so much that she put whatever desires such as children and marriage on the sidelines just to be with him. That is why I had pity for her because I always felt that things weren’t quite right with this couple and that Westfelt wasn’t completely fulfilled by just being Hamm’s girlfriend of 16 years. I know there are women, such as Jennifer Aniston, who are okay with never having children and just being in a long-term relationship, but I did not get that vibe from Westfelt. If children and/or marriage was the reason for this split, Westfelt made her decision about 15 years too late. I get the feeling that Hamm is not the type of person who will dwell much on a failed relationship. He will move on very quickly and it would not be surprising to me if he tried to hook up with Bullock.

    • thaisajs says:

      I agree totally. It always felt like she was one of those women who didn’t want to admit that her long-term partner really didn’t share the same life goals. I feel sorry for her if she just now realized that she wants a baby. It’s most likely too late for her to have her own biological child, but she could always use an egg donation, i guess. Or adopt.

      Good on her for dumping him.

    • Camille (the Original) says:

      I kind of agree with you both, I got that feeling about her too.

  15. Lilacflowers says:

    Is wanting to get pregnant for the first time in the mid-40s a thing now?

    This makes no sense. At his age, the likelihood of finding an age appropriate woman who doesn’t have a kid is slight. At her age, the likelihood of having a child outside adoption is also slim. Either this isn’t the reason or they are both clueless

    • Mia4S says:

      I don’t know that it’s a “thing” it’s just more possible so we hear about it more.

      Stars who do it are tricky though because they rarely admit to any assistance they had. Yes we all know stories of someone who had a shock late pregnancy at 45, 46 but usually it’s a result of fertility treatments, IVF, etc. Giving an impression otherwise (hey, Halle Berry!) is troubling. It positions it as something shameful when it’s not at all.

    • Nina says:

      Many of my friends had their first child in their early to mid 40s. They were focused on their careers and didn’t get around to it before, or had not met their partners until then. There’s this delayed adulthood among many people now– myself included. I only started having the urge to have children in my early 40s after my nephews were born so I think it’s totally possible to hit that moment of it’s now or never.

      As for westfield, she may have been so in love in Hamm and held out hope that he’d change his mind. And she may have lied to herself about how much she wanted children. Or she may have hit that it’s now or never point too, and realized she needs to move on. If this story is true.

  16. M.A.F. says:

    If she is 45 then I’m sure by the time she hit her mid-30’s she already figured out the family/kid/marriage thing. They had been together for 16 years, they had that conversation a long time ago.

    • Crumpet says:

      Yes, 45 seems to me to be late in the game for deciding you want kids. I realize there is adoption, surrogacy, IVF, etc. But having a child later in life (when you’re old and cranky like me) is tough!

      • Lucky Charm says:

        My grandson tires me out, and I don’t even watch him everyday. (Although if I didn’t have to work to pay my bills, I would definitely spend every day with him!) I can’t imagine having my own child at this age, it would be exhausting. I can’t believe that at their ages and as many years they were together, the baby/child topic wasn’t already discussed at length. If they broke up it was because of something else.

    • lucy2 says:

      Exactly. I thought they were both always pretty clear on the no marriage/no kids thing.

      • Andrea says:

        I’m 34 and made the decision at 28 when I was diagnosed with PCOS that I do not want children and I have stuck to it. I don’t buy she wants kids. I loathe when people assume every woman is desperate for a baby. It simply is not true.

  17. ell says:

    why does she have such terrible taste in men?? sure, he’s attractive, but she can do way better in terms of personality. he has quite a few issues, and he cheated on westfelt quite a bit. SANDRA NO!

  18. Crumpet says:

    Sandra has a history of befriending male coworkers (Keanu Reeves for instance). She seems like a gal who can buddy around with guys without it being anything beyond platonic. I can buy that they are pals. He probably hopes to nail her, but I doubt she would get involved with him. If she did, I would be very disappointed indeed!

    • serena says:

      She dated Keanu and Matthew McConawhatever after working with them. Ryan Gosling as well maybe? Did they ever work together?

      I know Sandra and Ryan dated for a while. And Chris Evans.

      • Jayna says:

        Sandra and Ryan Gosling dated for quite a while. They were very serious.

      • StormsMama says:

        Serena: good point

        Also she did work with Ryan on Murder by Numbers (was that the awful title?) —he was in early 20s and she is her 30s when they dated

      • Bridget says:

        I’m pretty sure the Sandra/Ryan/Evans stuff was just gossip column fodder, because Sandra’s always kept her love life locked down as much as possible. That isn’t to say that word doesn’t get out, but the Evans stuff was clearly a leak from his people, and the Reynolds stuff felt like wishful thinking in addition to Blind Item bait.

  19. Mia4S says:

    The Sandra thing just seems like a convenient side story since there are lots of pictures of them together for Minions promotion. I highly doubt it.

    Did they break up? Who knows! Was it over kids? Eh, maybe. If she wants to have a child it would have to be a very deliberate choice as assistance with likely be required at her age (or the issues surrounding adoption). Maybe they just outgrew each other. It happens.

  20. Embee says:

    They look cozy in that photo (Sandy and Hamm), although he looks like he’s thinking “we’re boinking and you don’t know!” She’s all “this man makes me hot but I’m a pro so I’m trying not to show that we had sex three times this morning.”

    I like Westfelt and hope she moves on to a relationship that serves her as well as him.

  21. Talie says:

    There were plenty of blind items to suggest that he stepped out on her and that coupled with his issues…not a recipe for a healthy household.

    The sad part is that he probably will impregnate some starlet in the next year.

    • ell says:

      maybe he stepped out after rehab? old relationships can be very rocky after someone gets help for addiction.

  22. Eleonor says:

    When a long relationship ends there are multiple reasons, in this case the “start a family thing” is a pr way to give something to the media without saying nothing.

  23. kri says:

    JLO and Sandra need to form a club for women who cannot pick good men.I hope she isn’t with Hamm. After that psychotic hazing stuff came out, I can’t even look at him anymore. So disappointing.

  24. meme says:

    I like Jon Hamm whether he has demons or not. (Don’t most all artists/actors/musicians have demons?) So they broke up after 16 years? Susan Sarandon and Tim Robbins broke up after a really long time AND they had kids.

    • Kingsbury says:

      Drinking/drugs/cheating are one thing. Vicious, terrible violence that goes unpunished is another thing entirely. He is a very talented actor and very handsome but not a good person. Everyone has demons, but not everyone sets people on fire and sexually abuses them.

      • meme says:

        Frat boys do ugly horrible things and personally I think fraternities and sororities should be abolished. BUT, I’m not going to hate on Jon Hamm for something he did decades ago and was probably drunk when he did it. I’ve never heard anyone say anything bad about him and people who have met him say he’s a very nice man.

      • serena says:

        They also say Bill Cosby and Mel Gibson are a very nice man when you meet them. And this may be an overkill, but Hitler himself was supposed to be extremely civilized and polite to the people around him.

        As for ‘excuse him he was drunk’… sorry, but “In vino veritas.”

        That is like saying “find it in your heart to forgive the guy for killing that family when he floored his car into theirs – for he was drunk after all.”

      • meme says:

        @Serena, Comparing Jon Hamm to Gibson and Cosby and Hitler is utterly ridiculous. Gibson has been a lunatic longer than he hasn’t and there were rumours for years about Cosby.

        Bullock knowingly married a NAZI (oh please, don’t tell me she didn’t know) so do you think she’s an awful person too?

      • ell says:

        “Drinking/drugs/cheating are one thing. Vicious, terrible violence that goes unpunished is another thing entirely.”

        what?? if you’re in a relationship with someone who drinks, does drugs and cheats, chances are you’re in an abusive relationship. are we really excusing it because it could be worse? smh.

      • KellyBee says:

        @ Ell

        Read Kingsbury comment again. They said NOTHING about being in a relationship with someone who Drinks/drugs. Just that those demons are nothing compared to beating someone and setting them on fire which is what meme was trying to Imply.

      • justagirl says:

        @meme Even if he was drunk, that’s no excuse for what he did. Reading the full reports it was disgusting and inexcusable. This wasn’t an ‘oops’ drunken idea that went wrong, it was sadistic, violent actions against another human being.

        While SOBER he skipped out on owning up to it and left town, while other participants admitted their roles & accepted punishment. Two years later he still hadn’t shown up & they issued an arrest warrant. 3 years after that it was resolved.

        Being unaccountable to his own actions & leaving town says a lot about his character. He was unwilling to face the consequences. That’s not a nice person, that’s someone who has no morals & only cares about himself.

      • meme says:

        @serena….remember that recent church shooting in Charlotte where 9 black people were murdered by a white maniac? Some of those family forgave him. And you didn’t answer my question about Bullock…she who married a skinhead Nazi.

        @justagirl .. the issue was RESOLVED. end of story.

      • Kitten says:

        I’ll probably get crucified for this but I’m feel like throwing caution to the wind today.

        When the Jon Hamm sh*t went down a lot of people talked about the crowd psychology and herd mentality of fraternities, which is actually really fascinating. It doesn’t absolve Hamm of his responsibility, but it does shed light on how potentially good people can get influenced by their peers to such a strong degree that they will adopt behaviors that are not their norm.

        I think I would feel differently had Hamm done this independently and not as part of a university-sanctioned “brotherhood” that seems to use violence as a welcoming mat.

        That might sound like I’m qualifying his actions, and I don’t know…maybe I am to a degree, whether intentionally or not. Maybe I’m blinded by my own preconceptions (misconceptions?) about fraternities being awful organizations that encourage good people to do destructive things.

        What I’m getting at is that for whatever reason–maybe because this happened over 20 years ago, maybe because I don’t want to hate him, maybe because of my own ignorance, I just can’t put Hamm in the same box as Cosby or Gibson. A big part of it for me is that it was ONE incident many years ago, where with Gibson and Cosby or even Sheen it’s a repeated pattern of violence and/or abuse.

        Ok, I’m rambling now. Carry on…

      • Bridget says:

        I agree with you Kitten. I’m not saying he is absolved or excused, but I would at least be willing to hear what he has to say on the subject and acknowledge that there is potential for someone to find redemption even after such a dark episode.

      • Dara says:

        @Kitten – a herd of frat boys can be a scary thing. A guy might be a model citizen when out and about alone, but add a friend or two or three plus alcohol and all bets are off. My friends and I used to say that the collective IQ of a group of guys dropped by 10 points every time a new one joined up with the herd – and that was while they were all still relatively sober.

      • laura in LA says:

        Kitten, the issue here is not what Jon did as a frat boy, but that he still has yet to publicly acknowledge it to his fans and apologize to his victim who was maimed for life…

        It does, however, explain his drinking problem, also maybe why he didn’t want children with Jennifer, because perhaps she did not even know about the incident, and it’s the real reason she finally left him.

        Didn’t Jon learn anything from playing Don Draper, who himself finally faced his demons and (sort of) came clean? You can’t forgive someone who won’t acknowledge and apologize, and that’s really all he has to do.

  25. Me too says:

    If this is true, Sandra truly has terrible taste in men. Alcoholic and known cheater? Her ideal man.

  26. Div says:

    Lainey said for years, even before he went to rehab, that he had alcohol issues and he flirted (and stepped out) with other women when he was drunk. I wonder if she had enough of that…..That said he may have just re-evaluated his life after rehab and decided he wasn’t in love with her anymore.

  27. kimbers says:

    In interviews he’s coming across like a condescending ass. His ppl need to work on that. Toots! 🙂

    Ps agree that he has some demons. Sometimes you just look at a person and think, “yup. Ya. Bitch has crazy eyes” Jon has crazy eyes.

  28. lisa2 says:

    I’ve seen them both talk in interviews while promoting Minions.. they both stated that they have only met each other 1 or 2 times. They didn’t meet while doing the voice over for the movie. I think people forget that most actors that do animated films don’t do them together. I think this is very random.

    that being said I think Sandra is probably seeing someone or has someone. She has been divorced for a long time. And sorry I don’t think she is nun..

  29. Andrea says:

    I liked him in Mad Men and the two of them together, but I agree with others above after the hazing came to light, I just can’t find him attractive anymore. He has deep-seeded demons and I wonder what she has put up with all these years.

  30. serena says:

    I have a suggestion:

    Why doesn’t Hamm date Affleck for a while? They are both supposed to be party animals who enjoy alcohol and gaming. Ben won’t give Hamm any kids and let’s face it: sex is a small part of some relationships. So both of them being straight is of minute importance.

    They can join a book club, watch Martha Stewart, and take cooking classes together! In between those ‘wet bar heavy’ Vegas trips! I love it.

    They can talk about how awful Bush and Cruz are, and also measure each other’s enormous ‘members’… since they are both supposed to be abnormally large! What dizzying new heights for both men that will be!

    And when they feel finally ready for a woman, they can kiss goodbye and proceed!

    That is the best solution. The real Q is; where is the thirsty Hollywood publicist who will put this together????? I smell a lot of tabloid coverage and even an eventual Oscar-Emmy buzz…

  31. QQ says:

    Just so we’re Clear: Is “Personal Demons” our New euphemism for Restless C*ck Syndrome?? Yes? Ok

    • serena says:

      It is ‘code’ for alcoholism and drug addiction.

      Which means when you ‘party hard and long enough’, entertainment reporters will find a melodramatic title for your irresponsible and yes perhaps ‘whorish’ ways. lol

    • Cindy says:

      Ha! Good point. I guess it is sort of a spin. Sounds so much better than “horrible, dishonest alcohol/drug addict”.

  32. Keaton says:

    “I think she’s spent enough time with ‘men with personal demons’ ”

    I wish I didn’t know about Hamm’s hazing incident because they really LOOK like a great couple. They just seem to FIT each other But after the hazing incident revelation – not to mention his serial cheating – nah. I ain’t feeling it. Run Sandy!

  33. Joanie says:

    I predict that he will be married with a kid within 3 years.

  34. Sassback says:

    People forget the dynamics of this relationship. Hamm was a kept man for a very long time before Mad Men blew up. And both her more recent films weren’t about wanting to be married and wanting children, but actually rather statements about not wanting them. Ira and Abby was about how for the couple in the movie, marriage didn’t work but being together did. Friends with Kids was about how these two friends felt pressured to have children so they did and then they didn’t know if they should be together. Both works were defensive of how Westfieldt chose to live her life, a partnership without marriage or children. Possibly too defensive.
    Either way, the obvious thing here is that he got famous and started living a celebrity lifestyle and became a playboy, and the rehab thing was sort of his excuse, like his defense of his party life was substance abuse. I don’t actually think he has a serious addiction, I think she made him go to the rehab to cover up all those cheating and petting blind items. And then after that, he didn’t change. I wouldn’t be surprised if it was more he than she who initiated a break up, because she was clingy at times. Had he been serious about saving the relationship, he would have changed; my guess is he didn’t.

    • ell says:

      his addiction is real imo, though. he looked truly terrible at times, and he looks 100 times better and healthier now. clearly there must have been something going on.

      • Sassback says:

        I think that’s because he’s done with Mad Men. I read an article where the Mad Men cast was limited in how they could keep healthy and exercise because they had to fit in with the limitations of the 1960s; people didn’t exercise properly or much back then, so nobody in the cast could ever get really cut or fit, they had to look natural. I remember it was a struggle for January Jones, who was in X-Men and had to stay fit. But Don Draper was supposed to look unhealthier and older as the series went on; if he’s looking good now, it’s possible it’s because he’s allowed to really work out and he doesn’t have to look that way.

  35. susan says:

    I figured that Sandy always saw something in her last husband that we couldn’t (see). maybe the Hammdong is a good “fit” for her right now 😉

    • Jess says:

      Lol, as in they both have big ole wangs? Or did I totally misread your comment!?

  36. JenniferJustice says:

    Okay. Why is alcoholism an excuse to cheat? Way to not hold a person accountable IMO. And, if you do know you got a wandering dong and liquor lowers your inhibitions, then continuing to drink only shows you want to cheat and drinking is your way of copping out. He is a cheater. He drinks too. They are not mutually exclusive. Cheating requires a certain mentality and that mentality does not change just because one stops doing drugs or drinking. He went to rehab and he may be sober now, but I don’t beleive being sober has changed his mentality and that he no longer cheats. I think she dumped him because he’s a serial cheater and that’s it. I hope to God Sandra Bullock is not seeing him. I don’t really think she is – it just sounds juicy for the tabs. I don’t care for Bullock since the Jesse James thing but I’d like to think she puts her child first now that she has one and would not bring an unstable or otherwise, unpredictable, possibly dangerous person for a healthy family, into her son’s life. Lastly, Hamm gets no pass for his college antics just because it was decades ago and he was probably drinking and doing what the group was doing. No. That, too (you know, vicious cruelty and sexual deviance) requires a certain mentality as well which does not change with age. He’s a POS – was then – is now. Run Jennifer, run!

  37. Cindy says:

    I don’t think Hamm and Bullock are dating. He will find a woman in her twenties…. unexpected love! she is so smart! she is an artist who understands him! etc etc.

    IMHO Sandra Bullock had zero knowledge that Jessie Whatshisnaziface was a lying psychopath. I think these types of people work their entire lives engineering a “good” persona and can fool nearly anyone. I don’t see Bullock as being *at all* like JLo….she was fooled once, and she cut him off with no glance back after Jessie was exposed. I think that’s why she has remained single for so long and that that whole experience really shattered her. (Not shattered in a pining way, shattered in a “i don’t trust my own judgment kind of way’. If that makes sense.

    • Neah says:

      I don’t think she had full knowledge of how deep Jessie craziness was but I don’t think she new about some of it and looked past it. Now I do side eye Sandra for her friendship with Chelsea Handler who has call a 2/3 year old black child a monkey because she doesn’t like the child’s mother.

  38. Bridget says:

    Sandra has always tried to keep her personal life close to the vest, so if all common sense has left her and she’s dating a man not only fresh out of rehab but also fresh out of a 16 year relationship, Star wouldn’t be the one to break it.

  39. G says:

    I’m not buying that they’ve broken up

    • boredblond says:

      Sounds like a way for the tabs to pick their ‘new man for Sandy’..and just before he did the film promo, there was a pic of Jon and Jennifer quite together on cdan..they never have been a call-the-paps fame ho duo.

  40. Jan Harf says:

    Ever since his hazing incident came to light, his hotness/likability factor has nosedived for me.

  41. Sean says:

    I would imagine Bullock’s girlfriend would be really surprised.

  42. Kym says:

    Wow..45 is treating her mighty well.

  43. lisa2 says:

    He just did an interview talking about how he didn’t want kids.. that they were a lot and that he had friends with kids and he was a great Uncle and that was enough.

    and as everyone said… people in relationships for that long a period know what they want and don’t. If she wanted a child she should have left a long time ago. Time is more on his side to change his mind than it is on hers..

  44. Pandy says:

    Git that Hammaconda girl!