Gwen Stefani & Blake Shelton are banging each other to get back at their exes

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As I keep saying, I hope Gwen Stefani doesn’t really fall for Blake Shelton. I think their romance is part fun/rebound/whatever and part public relations, but even though all of the machinations have been publicist-driven thus far, I’m hoping that Gwen doesn’t develop feelings beyond “I’m just having fun with this.” Us Weekly’s cover story is about just that, with sources claiming that both Blake and Gwen are mostly being driven by the desire to screw over their exes. Props to them.

For Gwen Stefani, dating well is the best revenge, and she certainly is by jumping into a new romance with fellow Voice coach Blake Shelton after her devastating split from husband of 13 years, Gavin Rossdale. Shelton, 39, had been coping with his own sudden divorce from wife of four years, Miranda Lambert, after she refused to follow through on their plan to start a family, says a source. Both he and the mom of Kingston, 9, Zuma, 7, and Apollo, 20 months, “have been through horrible marriages and are bonding over that,” a source close to Stefani reveals in the new issue of Us Weekly. “The relationship is very new, but it’s a lot of fun.”

Adding to the thrill? That their coupling might irk their exes. “Blake kinds of wants to get back at Miranda,” says a Voice insider.

And Stefani, who directed her team to release a Nov. 4 statement confirming her romance with Shelton just hours before the CMAs, wouldn’t mind delivering a little comeuppance of her own.

“After everything Gavin has done, she hopes he sees what he’s missing,” says a Stefani source of her courtship with the five-time Country Music Association Male Vocalist of the Year winner. “She’s moved on with somebody better who is really good to her. Her being happy is the best revenge. And she deserves it.”

[From Us Weekly]

Girl, you’ve got broken heart written all over you. I mean, it’s fine – considering the way Gwen loved Gavin and the way she built her whole world around his ambivalence towards her, it’s perfectly understandable that she would still have some issues about everything. Oh, well… I hope Gwen and Blake are having fun. As for Gwen’s broken heart, she gave an interview to DC’s 94.7 Fresh AM and she ended up getting real about the pain she’s been in.

“I wish it didn’t happen – I wish that all this wasn’t happening. But at the same time, I feel like it was part of my life journey…Because of my situation right now, which we all know what I’m talking about, I feel like I go back and listen to a lot of that stuff and I’m, like, I get sick. You look at the songs and go, ‘That was a red flag. That was a moment where I was feeling just as bad as I feel today, and why did I keep it up?”

[From People]

I know exactly what she’s talking about – all of those years where she sang every love song to Gavin and openly adored him and wanted the whole world to see their love… and he didn’t really give a sh-t. Poor Gwen. I hope Blake is treating her well.


Photos courtesy of Fame/Flynet, cover courtesy of Us Weekly.

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  1. Jayna says:

    I think Blake really likes Gwen A LOT. Watch his happy birthday wish to her from the first part of October, before it was out they were dating. It was very sweet, and looking back now knowing they were dating, he was wearing his heart on his sleeve in the birthday wish.

    His birthday wish to Gwen is at the 18 second mark.

  2. Shambles says:

    Was prepared to snark about the revenge-banging, but then I got to the part about her post-breakup pain…
    *ugly cries*
    I’m here with you, Gwen. Looking back on the relationship I recently got out of, there were SO many red flags that I chose not to see. From day one, there were so many moments that should have had me saying “F*CK NO” and heading straight for the door. But I wanted love so, so badly that I was willing to see it where it was not. I want to feel foolish, but like Gwen said, it’s all part of the journey. It’s helped me to realize that the love that comes from within my own self is the most powerful and essential love of all.

    • BengalCat2000 says:

      It’s been five years this month since I left the love of my life. Dating since has sucked. I was recently “talking” to a guy online (friend of a friend), we plan to meet, it’s super hot and then out of nowhere he tells me he “connected” with a woman he’s had a crush on for two years. I’m so depressed lately. Thank God for friends and work. But I’m tired of searching.

      • Shambles says:

        Bengal, I can only imagine. It gets so lonely sometimes, when all you want is that warm, peaceful sensation of sleeping next to the one you love. But I truly believe that if we keep our hearts open, love will find its way back. Recently, someone that I kind of consider my “first love” and possibly even the love of my life has come back around, and who knows? It could be nothing, it could be magic. But there is always hope. *hugs*

      • Stephanie says:

        I’m single too. It does really sucks sometimes. I hear ya.

      • Kitten says:

        I must be an alien because I never crave that sh*t. Being single is BOMB in my opinion–no rules, no worrying about someone else, no fighting/heartbreak, no making time for another person or dealing with that person invading your space. It’s f*cking great, man.

        If you want I can loan you guys my boyfriend? I should probably check with him first but if he’s game, he’s all yours. Great guy too- a bit hairy, but funny, nice disposition etc.

        You can only have him for a few days though because I’ll need him to help with the Christmas tree on Saturday–sh*t’s heavy and cumbersome, know what I’m saying?

      • C says:

        Bengal, the same happened to me. It’ s been five years since the love of mu life left and dating is hell. I don’t think I’ll ever be the same.

    • rascal says:

      Yes, and yes! I just got out of a 14-year marriage and while there aren’t many regrets (mainly my two children) I can say, I kept moving along, through red-flags and all. I relate to Gwen deeply. She has always struck me as someone who just loved her husband a little more than he loved her.
      Looking back on my journey, I’m glad I’ve been through what I’ve been through but I wish I would have left sooner. But, I didn’t that’s ok because I’m out now.
      I hope they are having a blast with each other but she’s going to have dig in a bit and look deep… she’ll have to eventually try to figure out why she sticks around with men that clearly don’t seem to care for her. There’s some Freudian elements to this and I hope she figures some out the deeper pattern. It’s the only shot she’ll have at finding a healthy relationship. #ArmChairPsychologyRantOver

      • Shambles says:

        Rascal, it sounds like you’re in a good place with the choices you’ve made. I’m glad you’re out of a situation you didn’t need to be in and forging ahead on your journey.
        As far as Gwen goes, ITA with your armchair assessment. To a degree, I think a little purely physical fun can be okay right after one gets out of a really heavy situation. But you’re right, eventually she’s due for some serious introspection.

    • reed says:

      $20 bucks says that you are totally the Gwen in that relationship in that you are the catch and you just didn’t know it.

      • Misulinka says:

        H lovely ladies, just here to remind you all, that it can be so.much.wost… I was in the 15 years horrible marriage with someone, who can compare to Charlie Sheen alikes. I am serious… After I literally runned out of our house, with my kid and few bags, he managed to get the kid, and leave me on the street. I keep fighting him at the court, but it is finantially draining, and emotionally unbearable. All this time (its been 5 years) I keep thinking about all these red flags!! Why?! Why?! All I could come out with so far, is actually thinking that how actually f*cked up our society is. Right from the beginning of girls lives, down to marriage, children, work, young women lives, down to ageing. The law, social status, just about everything is not friendly or helpful towards women. At all.

      • Shambles says:

        Misulinka, that’s awful. I am so, so sorry to hear that. Wishing you strength and hope during what has to be a scary and horrid time for you. I truly hope that good wins out and that you and your child can find some peace soon.

        Reed, D’aw. You’re making me blush.

      • justagirl says:

        @Misulinka so sorry for what you’ve been through and are going through. You are much healthier now than before and you shouldn’t blame yourself for not paying attention to red flags. It took courage and strength to leave, and passion and dreams for the future to keep fighting. There’s good articles from professionals at and supportive people posting, if that is helpful. May you have some light & peace in the midst of chaos.

    • TheSageM says:

      Same here. Divorced after 10 years in 2009. So many red flags, even on my wedding day I knew it wouldn’t last forever. Then after that I got into a disastrous two year relationship with a guy who did not treat me very well at all. On one hand, I would like to go back and slap my younger self. On the other, well, I met the love of my life in 2013 and we’re now engaged to be married next March. All those hard lessons have helped me appreciate what I have now, and cherish it even more.

      • Shambles says:

        TheSageM, this gives me hope! Though it sucks that you had to go through so much heartache to get here, it’s awesome that you found the love you needed right when you needed it. Congrats on your engagement!

    • justagirl says:

      @Shambles Rascal BengalCat2000 Yes, I get it, I know it all too well. It’s so bad when you see all the red flags that you still remember now, but ignored then. It’s even worse if you realize you’ve done that in multiple relationships…though it’s an eye-opener to healing & true change.

      I mentioned this book on another Gwen thread, The Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker. It’s about paying attention to that inner voice, our survival instinct.
      He covers the common patterns of people who do not have our best interests at heart, and are either going to abuse or scam. Reading those patterns/games/tricks helps you see them in your past & spot them in the present.

      We’re all worth more than the crap we put up with in the past.

    • Pandy says:

      Sending you and Bengal a hug. Don’t kick yourself for being loving. And you will find love again.

    • NeNe'sWig says:

      Late to this party, but I’m totally in that position right now, trying to decide to stay or go. One of the hardest things ever, so all you ladies that have been strong enough to say enough get so much respect from me.

      • BengalCat2000 says:

        Thanks for all the support ladies! I love this site because you’re all so smart , strong and supportive! Hugs from the Deep South!

    • Skyblue says:

      In September, I ended a two year relationship with the man I thought was the one. Broke my heart to no end but it was the red-flags that waved the whole time and an earnest prayer to the universe for a definitive sign that finally got my attention. Got the sign and acknowledged the flags! I ended it with no resistance from him. (Another sign). I was shocked how much I cried. I didn’t think at age forty-eight that I could possibly hurt that much. Felt like I was sixteen again. Now I’m just sort of angry and wish I had a Blake Shelton of my own to enjoy.

      • justagirl says:

        @Skyblue Congrats & kudos to you! It really takes a lot to do it. And it’s amazing just how many times we’ll allow our hearts to be broken. I know what that gut-wrenching pain is like, and to feel a bit too old to hurt like that. Part of that incredible pain is finally facing the betrayal & disappointment that’s been building up. Enjoy being strong, peaceful & true to yourself.

  3. kate says:

    I really don’t think she’s capable of just having fun. I mean, her two previous lovers were at times very actively showing their lack of interest in her, and she just clung on even more desperately. Woman is all in, even when her other half is 99% out. You don’t just change decades old behavior over night, and the fact that she’s immediately entered into another relationship proves that. She’s like the uber J.Lo, can’t stand to be alone for a second.

    • Susiecue says:

      I totes agree. She’s a clinger.

    • Uggh says:

      There are those men who are in it for their convenience and lie and send mixed signals. In all the photos of Gavin pre nanny, he shows a lot of physical affection for Gwen, always touching her etc. And in a long marriage, you sometimes think, maybe it’s normal for the romance to be gone or this is a phase. Then you think about the kids and how the man is a good father so…It is not easy and it’s not about Gwen being a clinger. If she had been a clinger she wouldn’t have pursued her own businesses.

      • Kate says:

        Gavin was very clearly not that into her in the early years of their relationship though. Even with the nanny situation, their married years were the high point of their relationship.

        From the way he acted in their early years I’m not sure he even considered it a proper relationship back then, whereas Gwen was 1000% in it. He dumped her many times and he’s always cheated (and never done a good job of hiding it). He only married her once his own star had well and truly fallen.

        The signs that he wasn’t that into her were there long before marriage and children. Even Gwen recognised it judging by her music and the way she talked about him, but instead of deterring her it spurred her on.

    • treyyfhfhfh says:

      her two man showed lack of interest in her? There must be a reason then.. Not one, but two!! What if she’s just too possessive and jealous.( she’s been HORRIBLE to Gavijn not allowing him to work.. Jeez! ) and people get sick of her?

      • Lux says:

        LOL! Not “allowing Gavin to work”, that’s hysterical. He hasn’t been relevant since the 90’s but keep believing that it’s Gwen who hasn’t allowed him to work.

    • justagirl says:

      Nope, not a clinger. As Uggh said if she was she wouldn’t have started her own businesses & stayed active as an independent name.
      This is a relationship-specific pattern of tolerating men who have a lot of drama, and also not realizing she’s ignoring her own needs in the relationship.

      Where it comes from can vary, but it can be related to insecurity/poorly defined sense of self, diminished self worth & respect, or family patterns growing up. It’s one thing to realize you’re with a douche who treats you poorly; it’s another to recognize a pattern & figure out why.

      Blake’s douchey past rep doesn’t look very promising for long-term happiness. Hope she has fun & then moves on.

  4. Christin says:

    If he didn’t appreciate her then, why would he care now?

    I do think this is mostly a rebound, revenge romance with PR benefits (for the show).

    • Hollz says:

      Because now it’s a competition. Gwen was already his, so he didn’t have to work for her. Now someone else has HIS toy and he’s not going to be happy about it.

      (I’m not saying Gwen is a plaything, but I can certainly see Gavin thinking that)

      • WinnieCoopersMom says:

        Men do not get jealous the way women do. If a woman sees her ex has moved on, it hurts and she wants him even more (not always, but most of the time). But when a man sees his ex has moved on, it hurts but the image of the woman is that bc she gave her body/emotions to someone else, she is damaged goods now, so they tend to be like ” f that” and dont look back.

      • Kitten says:

        Yeah I’m not sure about the “damaged goods” part but I generally agree with what you’re saying here.
        Not to much sad/hurt, men get their ego bruised and pride wounded from seeing their ex with someone else and that just pisses them off and spurs them to move on. Forgive me for speaking in generalizations, but this has been my experience. Also, it sounds like Gavin moved on a long time ago and probably isn’t capable of being jealous at this stage. Hell, it might even be a relief for him to see Gwen with Blake in the sense that it takes the pressure off of him and HIS relationship.

  5. L says:

    I think she is finally done with Gavin and ready for a good tree climbing, by that I mean a tall tree like Blake. Ya, putting so much love/trust and hope into a relationship and it not being what you worked for, is really heartbreaking. But I think Gwene worked to hard for to long and now that she threw in the towel on Gavin, she is ready to have some fun. Enjoy gurl.

  6. Stephanie says:

    Obviously, this is a great plan. Lol

  7. antipodean says:

    It just goes to show that an absolutely gorgeous woman like Gwen can get hooked up to a wrong ‘un too. It seems the old maxim, “show me a beautiful woman, and I’ll show you a man who’s tired of f*cking her” may still be true in this misogynistic society. Is there any hope for us lesser mortals? Can’t we raise better sons?

  8. FingerBinger says:

    I like Gwen Stefani these stories are making me like her less and less.

    • Don't be hasty says:

      I don’t know why. These revenge stories are stupid. It’s obvious Blake and Gwen are really smitten. As for Gavin, was she going to let him go to the tabloids and say that it was Gwen who cheated when he lied and cheated for three years? Or let him take half her money after he betrayed her with the nanny? Sometimes a woman has to grow a pair.

  9. ash says:

    Obviously he’s been trying to hurt Miranda, that’s been obvious from jump.

    • kcarp says:

      I think she did something to really piss him off. I mean a 2 week divorce isn’t something normally done. He was mad and the fact he is still trying to stick it to her is pretty telling.

      • LeAnn Stinks says:

        Yes, rumors were she was cheating on him, and had been for awhile. Since Shelton’s and Lambert’s relationship started with an affair as well, the dissolving of their union, is not to be unexpected.

        Like I said before, somewhere Shelton’s ex wife was smiling at the news of their divorce.

      • idsmith says:

        Rumor has it Miranda was having a long time affair with someone in her road crew. Not that I believe Blake was faithful, but he was hurt by her relationship and I think it shows in his behavior recently

  10. The Original Mia says:

    How is someone like Blake, who was cheating on his first wife with Miranda, going to get his panties in a twist because his wife may or may not have been cheating? Seriously? I understand Gwen, though this whole thing has rebound written all over it. But Blake? Son…have a seat and talk to your first wife.

    • claire says:

      I haven’t seen anything concrete about him cheating on Miranda. Is there any source for that?

      • idsmith says:

        Miranda is not his first wife. He cheated on his first wife with Miranda

      • The Original Mia says:

        Thank you, @idsmith.

      • ohdear says:

        @claire and @idsmith but there has never been evidence that he had an affair. He admitted to knowing his feelings for Miranda were more than they should be and that he needed out the marriage, which wasn’t good at the time. Both denied starting anything before he left the marriage (which doesn’t mean it’s true, but it doesn’t mean its not.

  11. Jaded says:

    Whatever happened to taking time to heal? I don’t really understand jumping right into a revenge relationship – is it because your self-esteem has taken such a bad hit and you have a desperate need to shore it up? I was always introspective after a break-up and the last thing I wanted to do was get with a new man right away. In fact I was afraid of getting hurt again so I’d just sort of go into hibernation. I doubt this relationship will last.

    • Andrea says:

      I used to be a bouncer—bounce from one relationship to another. But now in my mid 30’s with my first real broken heart (yes I have broken everyone else’s heart previously) I just can’t imagine getting close to someone or opening myself up to someone anytime soon—especially when the new girl my ex is with is 13 years younger than I am and 10 years younger than him! I also get far fewer looks from men at 34 then I did < 30. What is it with men and younger women? But overall, I think healing after a broken heart is necessary.

  12. Lauren says:

    I remember reading an article where Gwen said even after however many years of marriage, Gavin had very rarely ever seen her without makeup. She said she makes sure to get up before he does every morning so that she had a full face of makeup on before he saw her. I remember thinking that was crazy and very sad…and showed how insecure she is.

    • Lauren says:

      I found this in an article:
      …says Gwen, who has revealed that her husband Gavin Rossdale likes her to wear her makeup at all times.

      ‘I like to make my husband [Gavin Rossdale] like me more, and he likes it when I’m wearing makeup,’ she explained to Harper’s Bazaar.

    • Ridic says:

      Puhleeze. The world is awash in women who get their boobs and asses done among other things to keep their man. The suburbs are filled with bleach blondes with rock hard yoga and pilates abs. I can’t pet a dog without the wife transporting herself to her husband’s side in a flash because she thinks I’m trying to steal her man. Look at the Kartrashians. I’d hardly single out Gwen, who built a career for herself.

      • Andrea says:

        This is true, the world is full of insecure women. I am someone who has a lot of male friends and have found when searching for new male friends that a lot of women feel I should have girl friends only. Reallly!?! Is this 1950 where we have to separate after dinner while the boys have cigars and cards and we ladies chat about kids and clothes? Or they find a woman with male friends odd–something is wrong with her, she must be a man stealer! Pleeasee…I wish some women would get less insecure because it prevents me from finding some amazing friends.

      • Veronica says:

        I wouldn’t say it’s strange for a woman to have a lot of male friends, but I do think it’s a red flag if she has lots of male friends and absolutely NO female friends or shows a blatant disregard for boundaries. I don’t care if you hang out with my partner. I do care if you hang out with my partner and blatantly disregard me, yeah?

      • Andrea says:

        I have female friends but my guy friends (particularly my two guy best friends) know me better than anyone and I feel closest to. I have been friends with one 23 years, another 10 years (I am 34). Is that really a red flag?

      • Veronica says:

        No, that’s fine, because you’re not saying they’re better friends because they are male or refuse to associate with women. One of my closest friends is a guy I’ve known for over ten years – I’ve just made sure to acknowledge his wife as part of the combination deal, y’know? It’s not so much about gendered relationships so much as acknowledging relationships must evolve with time and circumstance. Not all people do that (male or female), and that’s what I mean by a red flag.

      • Lauren II says:

        I still like Gwen. She is a savvy businesswoman,and has been through unimaginable hell with bi-sexual Gavin.
        Gwen seemed to worship Gavin – and he enjoyed making Gwen feel inadequate and undeserving of his love.
        Blake and Gwen have genuine chemistry and fondness for one another. Hope it lasts.

    • Andrea says:

      That article spoke volumes about Gwen’s insecurity and how insecure she was with him.

      • Kitten says:


      • Veronica says:

        I remember feeling really sad when I read that. She was my style icon for years, and I was just crushed to realize how unhappy she was with herself. I know a lot of people knock her for being immature, but to me that’s just reflective of how toxic their relationship really was. How can you grow together when one partner has all the power? If you never challenge each other, you can’t mature.

    • WinnieCoopersMom says:

      Wow that’s pathetic. I used to think Gwen was untouchable. Not anymore. I will give her some props though for the Blake PR-romance. Anything she does to stick it to Gavin, especially in the public eye, is deserved and praiseworthy after what he’s done to her and their family.

  13. Amanda says:

    How old are these two again? Seriously.

  14. parissucksliterally says:

    This is such a FAKE RELATIONSHIP. HOW can anyone believe this is real???

    I am sure they are friends, but this is ALL for PR for The Voice.


    • Cerulean Skygirl says:

      I’m glad somebody finally posted this!!! The Gwen/Blake “relationship” is a TOTAL PR stunt. I read months ago that even before “The Voice” started filming, that the PR folks were angling to put the two of them together for ratings & publicity. They are both very good at “pretending” to be a couple…. but there’s nothing more going on here.

  15. supposedtobeworking says:

    one thing that contestants on the Voice and Miranda have said is that Blake makes them feel more confident about themselves. If that’s all she gets from her time with Blake, I say go for it.

    I imagine life after the Voice will make it hard for them to be together and the relationship will fade, but everyone should feel like they were utterly adored by someone who matters to them, even if it’s not forever.

    • Tammy says:

      I watch him on The Voice. He seems to genuinely care about all of the contestants, even those not on his team. I am not sure I get all the hate directed at him. I know about the rumors he cheated on his first wife with Miranda and if it’s true, Miranda is no better than he is. I also know about the stupid tweet where he joked about running over a turtle. People often say and do stupid things every day, people often do and say mean things.. doesn’t mean they are completely devoid of humanity.

      The cheating rumors and his ill attempts at humor mean he’s a flawed person. It doesn’t mean he’s evil or bad. I just feel quite a few people that comment on here don’t understand that sometimes life or people are not easily defined. Life is not black and white, it’s shades of gray.

      • Andrea says:

        I couldn’t agree more on this. People want to brandish cheaters as evil people who don’t deserve love, when no one understands particular situations until they are in it themselves. I think a lot of people have been cheated on and therefore, cannot fathom the other way, but as someone told me long time ago, everyone has the capabilities to cheat, the right person and the right situation and BAM!

      • supposedtobeworking says:

        Agreed @Tammy and @Andrea. He seems very well liked as a person in the country community, and the guest people on the show have said they are big Blake fans after working with him (I remember Ryan Tedder said it). I get that he says stupid things, but I don’t get the sense that he is an ass. The things Miranda has said that he said to her are very sweet.

  16. kimbers says:

    Ew! He just looks like a guy who wouldnt change his underwear, wear deodorant and leave half finished cups everywhere. ..he’s NOT hot!

  17. Penelope says:

    Gavin never, ever looked like he was into her, even in pictures. And she wore makeup all the time around him? That’s just unhealthy. Maybe this time around she’ll find someone who will love her the way she is.

  18. Mela says:

    I don’t care if Blake was the most attractive and charming man in the world. He gets his jollies off of running over innocent animals so he’s a jackass to the highest degree and utterly repulsive. I completely believe that he’s trying to hurt Miranda because he can’t believe someone would cheat on him (even though it cheated with her and I wouldn’t be surprised if he cheated on her as well). The fact that Gwen rebounded with him (if it’s not just a PR-romance) just cements that she’s got bad taste.

    It’s sad to see that Gwen’s strong girl image is just an image. The fact that she groomed and modeled herself for a man that didn’t love her as much as she loved him is heartbreaking. I wished she’d take some time to do some soul searching and find herself again. You can’t have someone else be your source of happiness.

    • supposedtobeworking says:

      It’s been mentioned on here before, but he didn’t run over the turtles. He was in North Dakota for a performance when he tweeted that. And he said he didn’t really do it and he posted pictures of him stopping to let a family of turtles pass on a road. Most turtle species in Tx are threatened (not specifically by Blake) or endangered, so he could have been charged if it were true.

  19. iheartgossip says:

    Well it would seem they all are a bunch of cheating cheaters. Gwen, you’re a mother whose children are in a family crisis. Perhaps you could mother and not worry about the downstairs lady until later. Well, wait – Gavin has primary custody.

  20. What's inside says:

    If men just would be honest and upfront about who they are entering into a relationship, there would be less of this heartbreak. If women would just realize that you cannot shape a man to be who you want him to be, there would less of this heartbreak. If both men and women would just stop settling for less than they deserve, there would be less of this heartbreak. Did anybody read the Burt Reynolds admission that Sally Field was the love of his life? And how he did everything possible to screw it up? Now back to our regularly scheduled program.