Miranda Lambert follows up her 6th CMA Female Vocalist of the Year victory with her 1st Cosmopolitan Magazine cover on the January issue. With the exception of some strategically leaked who-did-what-to-whom directly following the announcement of the end of her marriage to Blake Shelton, Miranda has kept relatively quiet about her divorce. After some breathing room, she is ready to open up a little:
On whether her views on marriage changed: “We were together for 10 years, married for four, were very quickly divorced, and are friends. I’m still processing everything and figuring out where to go and what happened. [Marriage is] a tough business, and we gave it our best college try … If I ever were to get married again — which is completely not on my radar at all right now — I feel like it’s not about it being a step in life. It’s not about a piece of paper or a diamond. It’s the way you feel about somebody and the commitment in your heart.”
On living a life full of everything: “I just want to live a life full of everything. Some of that might mean nights on my porch crying, drinking whiskey, and going, ‘Man this sucks right now.’ I don’t necessarily want to know that I have really bad, long, lonely nights ahead of me, but I have had some, and I still have a bunch ahead of me. But it’s about living in the moment and feeling every tinge of pain, then waking up the next day and going, ‘All right, I’m going to ride my ponies. I’m going to have a girls’ night.’ That’s where I am. That’s where I’m gonna live.”
I get what she says about marriage not being a piece of paper but I am not sure I agree with it not being a step. Prior to marriage, my husband knew I really had no intention of going anywhere; I was committed to him and he to me. But getting married for us was a huge step; like a giant stride over that greasy mud puddle when you are wearing your best heels step. Maybe she is saying she saw things only as a logical progression? They were dating for a while so the next “step” would be to get married; once married, she realized she had not focused on how committed they were (or their lack of commitment, allegedly)?
She looks good in the photos; all sun-kissed and sporting flouncy hair – my hair doesn’t flounce, I have flounce envy. I don’t have much to say about the dresses; they are fine – LBDs with plunging necklines, not terribly creative but complimentary on her. I am digging the blue nail polish and accessories though, I would wear the H-E-Double-Hockey-Sticks out of those bracelets.
Photos courtesy of Cosmo.
“H – E – double hockey sticks”: love you Hecate
As for Miranda, nothing to say really. I find her quite uninteresting in general …
I don’t really find either of them interesting. They’ve tried too hard to be stereotypes.
I don’t like her either. She is so OVERRATED as a singer, and she seems to be a majorly selfish person who has no boundaries, to boot.
Also, if you consider in helping to break up Shelton’s marriage giving it “the old college try,” then I guess Lamdirt would be right about that. 😉
I think for a lot of people, after they’ve been divorced marriage doesn’t feel like such a big step. My divorce went through so fast, it was by far the easiest legal issue I’ve ever dealt with. It would have been way more complex to end a 12 year de-facto relationship, marriage actually simplified the break up.
Unless one or both people try to drag things out, the actual process of ending a marriage can be exceptionally easy. Emotionally it can be terrible (as can any break up), but I think once you realise divorce can actually be a quick, simple process, marriage doesn’t necessarily carry as much weight.
I feel the opposite. The legal aspect of my divorce was not difficult, but the emotional part was very traumatic. It made marriage even more serious to me than before because I do not ever want to go through that again. It also made me realize that being alone is much better than being in a bad marriage, so I really had to be sold on the idea of marrying again, and only did it when I felt completely certain I had found the right man. The first time, I was more “I love him, he loves me, of course we will get married!” Because I was a twit. I’m not saying your point is not valid, just that different people react differently.
I had a similar experience. I was engaged and it was the first time I’d ever lived with anyone. It was a huge step for me, but I still felt a bit casual about the engagement (like, we love each other, we can make it work right?). Well, we never made it down the altar and now I question everything about my ability to make decisions and trust other people. If I ever get that far with someone again, it’s going to be an even more serious decision.
Love Gnat *because I was a twit*.
I feel the same way and I KNOW I was a twit, I eloped way too young (college age and not close to graduation!) and every single aspect of my divorce has been a step – emotionally and financially. I have now been single for almost all of my 30’s for that same reason of not wanting something unless it was really, really REALLY right. Also, I had major love on myself to do, and actually a complete life/career overhaul.
I remember crying my EYES out so many random nights when it really hit me that the vision I held on so strongly to of having kids and staying committed in a marriage wasn’t ever going to be what was. It was (and still can be almost 10 years later) hard to let go of the idea that my happy family couldn’t stay in tact.
However, there is not ONE SINGLE DAY where I regret leaving a marriage with two little kids and no job/plan at the age of 28 in order to live the remainder of my life peacefully, something that was not occurring in my marriage.
As I get ready to turn 40 I can feel the change that I *might* want to put out my mating call and see what I get back.
Moving forward, I don’t know if I’ll ever want to legalize a marriage but I am VERY open and enamored with the idea of a grande commitment ceremony, and know that I make an awesome partner. So.
@Little Darling
So many similarities- it was really hard for me to face the fact that I wouldn’t have “forever.” But leaving was the strongest and best thing I ever did. Wow, you did it with two kids. That took such guts and strength. I think that when you’re ready, you will meet an awesome guy because you’re strong within yourself and you won’t settle for less. I truly believe that mindset brings you relationships with people who want to uphold the best in you, rather than someone who wants to “save” you or take advantages of your weaknesses. Good luck to you.
@HoustonGirl
You will know in your heart when you meet someone you can trust. It will feel completely different than being with someone you can’t. ❤️
Four years of marriage and that’s the only question people are asking about. Since her ex is now stepping out with another famous women, she’s the odd man out. She’s always portrayed herself as a badass, so I hope she doesn’t let herself become a victim of the press. IMO there are a lot of men so much more desirable than Shelton……hopefully she will meet one of them.
She looks so unfortunate, even when photoshopped to the max. Bless her heart.
Dang, Anna. You must be from below the Mason-Dixon Line, for “bless her heart” is some serious southern shade. 😉
Right?? I was like, dang girl. I’m feeling the chill!!
Anecdotally, I’ve seen a ton of women lose so much weight post-divorce like Miranda, from working out but also stress?
I had a feeling the marriage was in trouble once Miranda suddenly lost a ton of weight. I think it can also go the opposite way. When someone gains a ton of weight within a year, you have to assume that something isn’t going well in that person’s life in terms of his/her health, relationship, job, etc. I have a body type similar to Miranda’s; we’re naturally chubby and it would take some major dieting/starvation and loads of exercise to drop down to the weight Miranda is currently at. I think it might be stress but also her way of relieving stress or trying to feel better about herself.
I get the opposite interpretation from her. That she’s saying marriage should be about strong feelings and commitment instead of being just a step you take in the ‘logical’ progression of a relationship because you’ve been together for x many years.
So because you had those strong feelings you ARE ultimately agreeing, your difference is in the semantics. She defines a step as being small where you define a step as being a big thing. Neither definition is wrong.
“once married, she realized she had not focused on how committed they were”…I’ve seen a lot of couples like this. They only get married because they’ve been stringing eachother along for x amount of years, and it has little or nothing to do with intellectualizing the commitment. People don’t really “talk” about commitment nowadays. They just date for a million years and then get married.
They way she talks about her divorce makes me think she will be fine.
I like Blake in The Voice. But I find him shady as a boyfriend, let alone a husband. I don’t know what truly went down. But I think she will be the winner in the long run.
I read some blurbs that made it sound like she f*cked it up. She said something to the effect that she had a good man so she’ll know what to look for…maybe the rumors that she cheated are true.
When she shared comments he made to her, he sounded super supportive. He said he liked her best without a bunch makeup (hopefully he can help Gwen with that!), and when she asked him why he hadn’t told her she was fat, he told her his job was to tell her he was beautiful, not fat. I also remember him saying a long time ago that he didn’t want to propose to Miranda until she was sure it was what she wanted because she was young when they met. Maybe he is an ass, but they present him as a pretty good guy.
I still cannot believe that Shelton went from Miranda to Gwen Stefani. I am no fan of Lambert, but she seems much more his taste than a 46 year old immature mother of 3 who dresses like an 18 year old. That’s why I think it’s all PR and so does ML. That’s probably why she seems so cavalier about it. She knows their relationship is a total farce and is probably glad she is not involved with the stupid constant Facetime stunts.
Stefani may be acting a bit inappropriate now, but I have never heard, or read anything bad about her, over her many, many years of being in the spotlight.
Lambert, however, I have heard and read nothing but negative things about her over her much shorter career. I say Blake traded up.
Interesting, I see him as much more like Gwen. They both seem super positive and easy going (she does seem high maintenance with her appearance and clingy, but hopefully that will die down). MIranda said she has a dark personality and Blake had to pull her out of it a lot because he is so happy all the time. Same genre and lifestyle, but different outlooks on life, maybe?
I kind of think they are both in a relationship that’s fun, and have zero expectation of forever. I don’t know why people think its fake because it might be a short term hookup.
She should be happy he’s jumped the shark. Never knew anything about her until all this break-up madness. She and Blake playing with the paps via twitter. Blake is a big ole messy drunk.
Her saying they gave their marriage their “best college try” kind of rubbed me the wrong way. Marriage is SUCH hard work. If I gave my marriage MY best college try, that would entail about 50% effort, doing a lot of eye rolling and dramatic sighing, and spending a lot of time looking forward to when it was over with so I could move on with life (and I got good grades in college!).
…actually, the eye rolling and dramatic sighing didn’t stop with college now that I think about it…