Katie Holmes on dating: ‘I feel like I’m still a teenager in a lot of ways’


Katie Holmes is the cover girl for the February issue of MORE, which is available on newsstands on January 26. The 37-year-old actress, currently starring on Showtime’s Ray Donovan, talks to the magazine about her new film, Touched with Fire, and her directorial debut, the mother-daughter drama All We Had. Of course, Katie leaves out the information we really want to hear – like dirt about her marriage to Tom Cruise and her dealings with the Church of Scientology, but hey, is anyone surprised that she doesn’t want to talk about that?

All in all, the interview doesn’t give us any earth-shattering revelations about Katie, except that she does, actually have a sense of humor – laughing out loud quite a few times. As the interviewer notes, “Her laugh is downright raucous—deep, loud and infectious. She has two types. There’s the single burst—Ha!—which usually accompanies some self-deprecating remark or realization. Then there’s the blast, Hahahaha! It’s like the audio at a fireworks display.” It’s good to know that Xenu may have given her back some of her pre-marriage personality. Here’s what Katie had to say in between the giggles:

On starting over, and living life on her terms: “You’ve got to keep going. In every part of your life. Focus on the positive. Stay creative. Go to things that interest you. Do work that’s fulfilling. Challenge yourself. What’s amazing about the human spirit, there are so many people doing inspiring things. If you focus on that, it makes your life richer.”

On finding new challenges: “I feel more creative. I feel ready…When I was a young actor, things happened quickly. My second job was Dawson’s Creek, and suddenly I was known. I was 18 years old; I had no life experience. I felt, ‘I don’t have anything to bring. I don’t know what it’s like to be, say, really angry. I’m doing the best I can.’ But with age I’ve gained confidence. I understand the kind of stories I want to tell. I have more experience in business. I feel more certain.”

On playing a bipolar character in Touched with Fire:
“I gained a greater empathy for people who are struggling with mental illness. Before the movie, I’d hear something about it and think, ‘Wow. But that’s over there.’ Unfortunately, we’re quick to judge, especially in this day of social media and the Internet—which I think is an ugly-maker. Everybody looks ugly when they’re on the Internet. But I wouldn’t want to live a flat life, with no pain.”

On trying new things and not being afraid to make mistakes: “I like to be around people who make me learn something. I gravitate toward people who are doing things I don’t know how to do. [Being intimidated] is a waste of time. Just ask if you don’t know something. Ask. You’re probably going to make a mistake. Get over it…Some problems are never going to be solved. So dance them off, and you’ll feel better.”

On dating:
“That’s not something I want to answer…[I don’t] have a five or 10-year plan. I feel like I’m still a teenager in a lot of ways. I do a lot of things I did then. I paint, I color. I cook sometimes. I still feel like a girl. I don’t quite feel like a woman, maybe because I’m the baby of my family. I’ll probably be 90 and feel like, ‘Not a woman yet!’ Ha!”

[From MORE]

Katie needs to quit being so coy about the dating thing, especially since pretty much everyone knows by now that she’s dating real life American hero Jamie Foxx. Hell, if I were dating him, I’d be jumping on a sofa. This relationship is definitely the most interesting thing about Katie, and it would be great to hear about it. And the whole Xenu thing. I read Going Clear and watched the documentary. Who wouldn’t want to know more about that? If she ever decides to open up about all of that, it’s sure to be an epic interview. And Katie, if you ever want to spill the beans, call me.


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  1. Nancy says:

    She still feels like a teenager and speaks like one too. She and Suri probably have that mom/friend thing going on. Wonder how that will work out…..I need more coffee.

  2. cannibell says:

    I have so much respect for her as a person, dating back to the way she left that marriage. She was smart, strategic, leveraged her support system and protected herself and her daughter as best she could.

    • tmot says:

      Yep. And she can’t talk, because lawsuit. :-/

    • Carol says:

      My respect still goes to her father. I would want him on my side for everything.

      • Borgqueen says:

        Katie relied on her support system, namely her dad who is a divorce lawyer. I want her dad on my side too. Katie surely signed a iron clad confidentiality agreement (much like Nicole Kidman did) and can never discuss the marriage or Scientology in exchange for her freedom. She wont discuss anything in interviews that Scientology could use against her. Remember she had to do auditing (and revealed her most intimate secrets) so Scientology still has alot of against that they would definitely use to embarrass her and discredit her. Katie is luck she got out. Thats why she feels like a teenager. She got her freedom back and is enjoying it. Good for her.

  3. teatimeiscoming says:

    I am in my thirties and I sometimes feel like an imposter. I wonder when I will feel like an adult; once asked my mom and she told me, “We’re all just faking it.”

    • tracking says:

      I like your mom, teatimeiscoming.

    • Syko says:

      I’ll have my 74th birthday next summer, but inside I’m still 19. We never change inside, we gain experience and hopefully knowledge and confidence, but we never really feel like adults.

      • Santia says:

        My mother-in-law (who is 83) says this all the time, that she’s still a little girl inside all the wrinkles. LOL.

    • Size Does Matter says:

      I like your mom, too.

      Side note – other than having back my teenage body, without knees that crackle going up the stairs, I’d rather not feel like a teen again.

    • Rice says:

      You’re mom is awesome and so is your name :)

    • Azurea says:

      I’m 57 & the youngest of 4 by many years, & I still don’t quite feel like an adult, even though I’ve had both my parents & my husband die within an 11-yr timespan, and gone through many tribulations since then. That’s not to say I haven’t stopped growing & learning. In fact, that seems to be speeding up! Quite the ride….though nothing like Katie has gone through.
      Resilience is key. Go, Katie!

  4. t.fanty says:

    She will never talk Xenu – as long as that Scientology money keeps coming in every month.

    • K2 says:

      So another nine years, then.

      I dunno, though. I suspect she may be chary of what it would do to Suri to have her origins thrown into the open that way, whatever the truth/reality. No kid needs to hear their parent denigrate their other parent/the marriage that created them, even if he is a raging Lord Farquaad.

  5. #BlackOscar2020 says:

    The question “What did the great Tom Cruise see in this extra very ordinary woman in terms of looks, talents, charisma?’ is one of the most intriguing pop culture questions. She’s missing joie de vivre chip from her soul.

    • ell says:

      the great tom cruise. i’m so so side eyeing you over this one.

      • #BlackOscar2020 says:

        Learn to respect talent and hard work. That man is on the top of his profession for thirty long years and he’s the last Hollywood superstar.

      • ell says:

        i mean, i didn’t think tom cruise had these sort of fans anymore. for some reasons this is hilarious to me.

      • tmot says:

        The “great” Tom Cruise…amazing that they still have people posting this shit.

      • Pandy says:

        I agree with #blackoscar. You can’t deny toms talent and he is a true movie star. Katie? Nothing compelling there.

    • kate says:

      That’s the appeal. She’s a blank slate.

      • #BlackOscar2020 says:

        I used to be his super fan. He lost some of his sheen after he starting dating her. Thank the gods that marriage and burden is over now

      • Gia says:

        @#BlackOscar2020 I used to like his acting as well like in Jerry Mcguire and he was awesome in Magnolia, but then he jumped up on that couch and I began to read about the Scientology stuff and it all went downhill from there. Now, I just avoid his movies, same with John Travolta. I’d not blame Katie Holmes for this at all. I think she didn’t know what she was in for with the Scientology crowd.

      • truthSF says:

        Really @#BlackOscar2020?! He Lost some of his sheen just from dating her? But not from criticizing mothers on how they deal with postpartum, and shoving Scientology down our throats? Your priorities…..

    • Tammy White says:

      Tom cruise talented? At what?

    • Anne says:

      Hmm, my sense is he was primarily concerned with advancing his career, and, at that time, she could help him with that. Here’s my cynical view:
      1) YOUNGER FANBASE: Katie was an established name among a younger generation (from her Dawson’s Creek days), so she could help broaden his appeal among that younger fanbase. I also think the “all-american” nature of that show fit well with the “all-american” image he likes to cultivate.
      2) MEDIA STRATEGY: The main advantage of any public relationship, as we know, is press exposure. In the end, Tom & Katie’s relationship seemed to be all about maximizing tabloid attention – from his jumping on that couch to their endless parading of Suri. He was using his family life to stay prominent in the headlines and, for a time, she was willing to participate in all of that. It backfired.

      Unfortunately, she seemed to be dazzled by Cruise in the beginning and was willing to follow him wherever he wanted to go. I’m sure it was a tough lesson for her.

    • alihar999 says:

      Great? Seriously….have you looked at the returns on his movies lately? I haven’t seen one of his movies in years because I think he is a total lunatic and I refuse to support his films. I do not think I am alone.

    • justagirl says:

      @#BlackOscar2020 What did Tom Cruise see in her? He saw a young woman who could be easily influenced, who would give herself up to follow him – the perfect wife for someone with a massive ego who is in a cult-like religion.

      She says she likes people she can learn from, she’s not afraid to make mistakes or be intimidated…that is someone who is still re-finding herself & her joie de vivre, after a one-sided emotionally suppressive marriage. Kudos to her for standing up for herself & getting out.

    • K2 says:

      I’m pretty sure she gave the best audition. Maybe if he tried dating instead that could work out better for him? Then again.

      And I think she showed her mettle when she left him. She used his own Nicole Kidman playbook against him while in a far more vulnerable position, and when he least expected it. And she won every single round.

  6. ell says:

    lol she doesn’t say she’s still a teenager in terms of dating though? that quote is about something else. she’s saying she won’t talk about dating. and honestly, i don’t get why should she stop being so coy about it? people know, fine, but she wants to keep it private what’s so wrong in that? all celebs say they want their private lives to be private, but then they don’t act like it. she’s actually being coherent with what she says, i see no reason to criticise her over this.

    also, by all accounts jamie foxx never talked openly about his relationships not even about the mother of his daughter, so he’s just doing what he always did.

  7. Elisa the I. says:

    Sometimes I feel like a teenager and a granny at the same time. (;

  8. serena says:

    She looks amazing in the photos! I kind of get why she doesn’t want to talk about dating, because she was burned so badly she doesn’t want to spoil it (and maybe it’s not official and they’re just hooking up regularly). As for Xenu, I get that too, it’s not an easy subject and I bet she wants to live her life without worrying of being persecuted for saying something in the press.

    • Eggplant says:

      I think it’s also because Jamie Foxx is an EXTREMELY private guy about his relationships. He refuses to name the mothers of his two girls. Maybe they’re not even exclusive. He’s said he’s got another girlfriend (in the last two years) to deflect rumours about Katie.

  9. Little Darling says:

    I eloped when I was 19 and left my ex when I was 29, and to go back into the dating world at that point was EACTLY like being 19 again. Or worse, like 17. I felt SO stunted, like when I was married people still had pubic hair, when I became single, everyone shaved. I felt like I had the emotional dating skills of a child, because that was exactly where I was when I entered my marriage. Not dating or exploring during those years really stunted my emotional maturity with dating, especially since the scene changed so much in those years!

    Now I’m 40 and I haven’t remarried yet because I realized in my 30′s I had much to do and learn about loving MYSELf. I changed careers, I went back to school. I took care of myself and learned how to financially support myself independently of my ex. But most of all, I grew myself up into the woman I am proud to be.

    I give her a few more years and she will call herself a woman. She certainly didn’t act like a teenager when she left Tom in the most amazingly epic way ever. Those are some MAJOR big girl panties and I’m proud of her.

  10. blahblahblah says:

    I kind of feel like Katie Holmes keep things quiet with her potentially dating the American hero because Scientology is still there, ready and waiting to use anything possible to cause whatever damage they can.

  11. maggie says:

    Is she actually dating Jamie fox? I’ve heard otherwise. He’s dating someone else.

  12. Rebecca says:

    I don’t think she can talk about scientology. I’m guessing it was part of her divorce agreement that she not talk about scientology. Have you ever noticed that Nicole Kidman also rarely talks about scientology; and, when she does, all she says is that she respects her children’s beliefs?

  13. BRE says:

    Has anyone read “Movie Star by Lizzie Pepper” by Hilary Liftin? I can’t believe that book was published. It is fiction but it is pretty much Kate and Tom’s story down to the burner phones and crazy religion.

  14. justagirl says:

    This poor woman lived in a media circus with Tom, her young daughter was subjected to it constantly. We now rarely see Suri…this must provide them both with a small sense of ‘normal life’.
    Making her dating life public would once again invite the intrusion on her private life, and another association as ‘girlfriend of’.

    Many single moms keep their dating life quiet, because they care about the impact on their kids. It’s quite possible that Suri is aware of Katie’s dating life…but by not having it truly public, Katie can minimize the impact on her life & Suri. I think she’s smart to do that.

  15. Eggplant says:

    Go Katie. I’ve had a soft spot for her ever since she made The Great Escape. And she and Jamie make a great couple. They’re not interested in being opened up for public consumption though, so I don’t think they’ll ever go public unless they get married or move in together.

  16. OrangeCrush says:

    She looks fantastic in that blue dress. She looks like she just rolled out of bed in the magazine pics. Still pretty, but I want to brush her hair.

    I feel like every interview she gives is centered around the word “creative” and how “creative” she is and how she likes to be around “creative” people and how she wants to grow in a “creative” way.

  17. meg says:

    do you really not think a major part of the divorce from tom cruise included a nondisclosure agreement so she couldn’t talk about scientology, tom, being interviewed by the church to date tom, etc. church going people may put the word out that they’re single an looking and others will set them up with another church goer so they have similar values, but interviewing a list of women prior to tom even meeting them?

  18. Amelia says:

    The reason she won’t talk about dating might have something to do with the fact she is ACTING like a complete teenager. She dumped Suri off with her relatives in Michigan and is jetting around with Foxx. Her sister is basically raising her daughter right now, which I have no respect for.