RuPaul: The talk of LGBTQ acceptance today is ‘just people f–king posing’

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I don’t watch RuPaul’s Drag Race, it’s just not my cup of tea. I’m happy that it exists, but I don’t need to watch it. So I still don’t know why I clicked on New York Magazine’s interview with RuPaul, except that I was probably just going to skim the piece briefly and I ended up getting hooked and reading the whole damn thing. I would actually recommend it, if you have 20 free minutes today – go here to read the full piece. It’s not that RuPaul is particularly controversial – in fact, he seems to actively avoid some touchy, hot-button subjects – but I enjoy the way he thinks. He reminds me a bit of American icon John Waters – decadently odd, seeking pleasure in the unique and bizarre, proudly counter-culture. Some highlights:

Whether he’s part of the mainstream: “No. You know, I’ve never been on Ellen or David Letterman or The Tonight Show, and there’s a reason for that, which I don’t want to go into, but there’s a reason that I’ve never been thought of as someone who can go on there… So am I part of the mainstream? No. People know my name, people know what I look like, but am I invited to the party? No, and there’s a reason for it.

Whether he’s ever wanted to be invited to those events: “No. In fact, I made a pact with myself when I was 15 that if I was going to live this life, I’m only going to do it on my terms, and I’m only going to do it if I’m putting my middle finger up at society the whole time. So any time I’ve had yearnings to go, “Aw, gee, I wish I could be invited to the Emmys,” I say, Ru, Ru, remember the pact you made. You never wanted to be a part of that bulls–t. In fact, I’d rather have an enema than have an Emmy.

RuPaul’s Drag Race has never been nominated for an Emmy: “It’s not insane when you take the car apart and you really look at what the car is. You understand that it can’t recognize it, because in doing so it would recognize all of the flaws in their doctrine, in their whole ideology. Drag doesn’t conform. It’s actually making fun of [conformity]. Now, the talk-show hosts … get it if I’m making fun of myself and if I’m a punch line for them, but not as a human being. They would have a transsexual on because a transsexual is saying, “This is who I really am. I’m real.” I’m saying, “No, I’m not real. I’m actually everything and nothing at all.”

What he thinks of Lip Sync Battle: “Oh, I don’t think of it. It’s a poor ripoff of our show. Regular, straight pop culture has liberally lifted things from gay culture as long as I can remember. And that’s fine, because guess what? We have so much more where that comes from. Take it!… But it’s funny how that works, even in gay culture. There’s a certain “gay shame.” Gay people will accept a straight pop star over a gay pop star, or they will accept a straight version of a gay thing, because there’s still so much self-loathing, you know?

Whether the talk of acceptance is bulls—t: “They talk so much about acceptance now today and it’s like, yes, but trust me — I’m old and I know this sh-t — it’s superficial. Because as soon as the lights go out, you’ll see how advanced people’s thinking is. This so-called “Will & Grace acceptance” era is just people f–king posing. Things haven’t changed that much. You see it in politics right now — that’s the f–king truth of people. And you know, people will have you think, “Oh, we’re fashion. We’re gay. That’s my gay over there!” It’s like, no. We’re still a very, very, very primitive culture.”

The drag community’s relationship to the trans community: “I think it’s a boring topic. I don’t really want to talk about that because everybody wants to ask about that. It’s so topical, but they’re complete opposites. We mock identity. They take identity very seriously. So it’s the complete opposite ends of the scale. To a layperson, it seems very similar, but it’s really not. I don’t think it’s complicated. Some people take identity very seriously. I don’t. I choose to laugh at identity and play with it. I’ll wear a suit or I’ll wear a sailor’s outfit. I’ll dress femme. I’ll dress butch queen… I’ll do whatever. All of the experiences I’ve learned and every ascended master you’ve studied will say the exact same thing: Life is not to be taken seriously. Most people are dumb as f–k. If you look at their voting habits and their eating habits, you realize people are stupid. So we could talk about stupid people or we could just stay with smart people who know how to have fun and not even focus on what dumb people do. It’s not worth it. I tell you this as someone who’s a smart motherf–ker: Don’t waste your time fooling with dumb people or trying to figure them out or trying to educate them. It doesn’t work. It’s a lose-lose situation.

What he thought of Carol & The Danish Girl: “I loved Carol. I thought it was a beautiful film. I loved the story. The Danish Girl, I couldn’t see past the wigs, which were terrible. I did love that one time where he gets dressed up and looks like David Bowie. He’s in a suit that has these huge wide legs, cinched waist, and he’s not in women’s clothes, he’s in a man’s suit. It is gorgeous. It’s worth watching the movie for just that one shot. Anybody in that David Bowie suit, oh my God, gorgeous.”

[From Vulture]

There’s so much more in this interview, like Ru talking about how much he loves Judge Judy (he deems her the most important person in pop culture), and how he’s studied Buddhism, how he loves to play with language even if it offends people, and he tells a really beautiful story about meeting David Bowie. I’d also like to point out that RuPaul is 55 years old – he’s getting to be that age where he really has no more f—ks to give, which is why this interview is amazing. I am LIVING for his wig shade and his “don’t waste time on dumb people” shade.

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  1. Oli says:

    Well if ru is talking about Caitlyn Jenner then I agree.

    I also agree with ru saying things haven’t changed much, to true.

    • Josefina says:

      Nowadays you just have more outrage for intolerance, not less intolerant people.

      • Oli says:

        What I will never understand is even though time has changed we still haven’t. This gets me because people always use time as an excuse for these type of situations. When we should be blamed for our discrimination not time. Time is not an excuse for any of this craziness, it should have never happened. It also sucks because I feel like I could talk about this stuff forever but it wouldn’t matter, they didn’t listen to Martin Luther King Jr. They didn’t listen to ghandi why would they listen to me or anyone else.

        It’s actually sad and to me a lot worse now then it was then. Yeah now no ones necessarily getting killed like they used to, but no one feels welcome either. Plus we know more about this now , yet racism, homophobia, religion, and gender inequality is all we seem to care about.

        Can you believe all we do is essentially care about colors, and who someone likes, and what they believe. It feels like we’re in kindergarten.

    • drnotknowitall says:

      Cait has literally nothing of value to add to any conversation. She is busy shopping and doing lunches. Ru is more of a feminist than Cait will ever be. Bless Ru, what a wonderful mind. Ru is a person truly comfortable in their own skin. Now that is a role model.

      I do watch the drag race and I love it. 😀

      • Oli says:

        Don’t watch the show not really a tv person anymore, but it’s amazing so few words from ru and all of it was wisdom, then you have Caitlyn……….sigh it would be easier to look up all of her stupidity then for me to get a headache and write it.

      • crab says:

        I watch and love that show! If someone asked me if I had one person in mind to hang out with for a day it would be with Ru! How much fun would that be??

  2. Josefina says:

    RuPaul. Without a shadow of doubt, one of my favorite people in the world. Textbook badass.

    • stinky says:

      yes

    • Jwoolman says:

      Yes, definitely. RuPaul is brilliant and so talented. He identifies as gay male so he isn’t expressing any “woman trapped in a male body” feelings, it’s all art. I remember the first time I saw his female character and didn’t realize it was done by a man. Not sure I would even call his act “drag”, since I associate that (perhaps wrongly, especially today) with obviously not real/off/often insulting guys’ twisted ideas of what women are like- RuPaul’s female persona is just a great , funny, and believable character.

      RuPaul is a very centered, confident (and obviously extraordinarily observant) person and so that shows in his work whether playing culturally male or female. I remember RuPaul played both his male self and his female RuPaul in an episode of Sabrina the Teenage Witch, as a warlock judge trying to once again teach Sabrina a lesson about something. The switching back and forth between his two “selves” was indeed magical.

      The only other male I had previously seen successfully handling female characters was Flip Wilson. His female characters never made me feel more or less insulted, they had a real touch to them and he respected his characters zany or not. But I haven’t watched Drag Race so there may well be many others with the gift nowadays. The guy (also identifying as gay male) whose female character won Eurovision was very good- I saw her in an interview and she never broke character. Years ago I saw a good one from some British or Australian or something like that (sorry, my memory is just vague and I know they don’t sound alike) whose female character was an older aristocrat. But so far I’ve never seen anybody really match RuPaul.

      • Petrichor says:

        Re the character whose name you’ve forgotten: you’re probably thinking of Dame Edna, who is Australian.

    • annaloo. says:

      *pom pomming*

  3. GoodNamesAllTaken says:

    Oh, he is sadly so right. I’m ashamed to say that NC just passed a law that business owners can put signs in their windows stating that they will not serve LGBT customers. My nephew lives there and he’s gay. I’m heartbroken and outraged and just want to put my fist through somebody’s face right now. There is more acceptance than there used to be, but there is a very ugly undercurrent in this country and its coming to the surface. I guess that’s to be expected in some ways – you shine a light into a dark corner and out pour the roaches. But he’s a sweet, gentle, smart as a whip kid who is going to see a f@ing sign that says he’s not welcome because of these ugly ignorant adults surrounding him.

    • The Eternal Side-Eye says:

      The roach comment is perfect.

      What’s happening in North Carolina is devastating. I keep telling myself never to be surprised by what Republicans do but there’s always an especially bitter irony is the party that always preaches for less govt. intervention going against local cities and forcing them to wholly discriminate against others. Hypocrisy so galling.

      I wish life was easier and all those effected be ridiculous bills like this could just leave the state and take their tax money and revenue with them. Let the backwoods and stubborn individuals live in a failing crumbling Mecca to their own ignorance.

    • Talie says:

      I’m sure it will eventually make its way to the Supreme Court and be overturned. But they spent a fortune making this happen!

    • Original Kay says:

      That’s heartbreaking gnat.

    • Sam says:

      The only positive that comes from something like that is that at least now the bigots have the ability to, as Patrick Stewart paraphrased, come into the open to let us all see how bad they really are. At least LGBT people will know who hates them. I remember the debates over people like Marcus Garvey, who was a black civil rights activist who openly met with KKK members and professed to respect them more than most white people at the time, because, by his logic, at least the Klan had the decency to hate him to his face, as opposed to the lip service of others. If the NC law does nothing else, at least it’s letting the intolerance come into the light. not much of a silver lining, but maybe it will have some unintended consequences for them.

    • sauvage says:

      I am darn straight, and I would never ever in a million years attend a venue that is known for LGBT phobia. And I am pretty sure that a lot of people of whatever orientation roll that way. So, maybe that’s the one thing that might get those hateful signs removed at some point, if they cost those owners business. At least, as Sam points out, by then we will know a certain important thing about certain businesses and can keep boycotting them.

    • Jensmom says:

      I am horrified by this information! Eventually it will be thrown out as unconstitutional, but in the meanwhile, people will be tremendously hurt. Dare I hope the area this “business” is in has an active LGBT community or is a in a tourist destination? Withdrawing economic support from an area can work wonders in their “righteous indignation”. I’m sorry for your nephew GNAT and hope he is ok and gets out of there soon.

    • Petrichor says:

      I hardly ever comment because I usually read CB late in the day West Coast time, and by then the conversations are pretty much over, but THIS… I want to say so much, but I literally have no words. Breath and speech have left me with this news. Devastating. Utterly devastating. And your final words about your nephew have brought tears to my eyes, GNAT.

  4. kri says:

    I watch Drag Race sometimes, and I am always amazed by the sheer talent of the people on that show. Of course, they have the best shading (and contouring) in the universe, and it always makes me laugh. As for Ru, well…he is nothing short of a pioneer to me. And he’s right about all of the crap.

  5. Talie says:

    I got hooked into this interview — I like when he gets spiritual and explains his life philosophy, it’s always interesting.

  6. MARKWEER says:

    I’ve been a follower of RuPaul for years. He has always been true to who he is in a casual, lets have fun with being who you are, no matter what you are/no judgements here kind of way. I don’t think he’s ever really sweated or about the political state of LBQT, because he probable truly believes that whatever is going to be is going to be (if that makes sense).

  7. Lucy says:

    I really like Drag Race, and I love what Ru says here, even if it does sort of kill my fantasy of him hosting the Oscars one day. Oh, well.

  8. Neelyo says:

    I agree. Rights in this country can be taken away at any time. When the Voting Rights Act was gutted, states like Texas didn’t waste any time putting draconian laws in place. I have no doubt that if the Supreme Court swings in the conservative direction again, same sex marriage will be one of the first things to go. Right after abortion, of course.

    • INeedANap says:

      In a lot of places in this country, abortion is effectively illegal. No clinics or few ones, extended waiting periods, limited access, lack of financial coverage, absurd misinformation…I’ll give the GOP this — they’re incredibly organized when they want to be.

    • Robin says:

      The Voting Rights Act wasn’t “gutted”.

  9. The Eternal Side-Eye says:

    He brought up a lot of amazing points though I do feel like he brushed off others because he either doesn’t want controversy or doesn’t have much thoughts (he wants to share) on it.

    I absolutely agree about the thin veneer and how it isn’t concrete. Ignorance like what’s happening in South Carolina with the eternal bullshit fear of ‘men in the ladies room’ is used as a spector to frighten the ignorant. In the mean time major corporations are threatening to pull out of state and take their millions with them if they do so choose to discriminate against their own citizens so I love that.

    Likewise I aslo get the trans vs. drag thing too. I have to admit I understood drag way more initially. It was easier for me to conceptualize being a man and liking things society deemed feminine without wanting to be a woman vs. thinking you are a woman without any experience as one. But I also came to realize that’s because of my own neutral feelings towards my gender and that it’s different for others.

  10. Lama Bean says:

    Gracious RuPaul is so F-ing gorgeous! It’s ridiculous. Just fabulous.

  11. annaloo. says:

    That interview is GOLD and GLITTER and SUGAR – so worth the read!

    “This is my twisted little theory: that because more and more people became narcissistic and became self-analyzed or in therapy, their own personal issues became omnipotent, and they wanted the whole world to know, “My personal issues are important, dammit, and so I need to be around people who understand me.” Rather than the other way around, and fixing yourself from the inside out, they wanted the outside to reflect who they are. I’m working on this theory as I’m saying it, but I think the answer is in there somewhere. It has to do with the Me Generation, the narcissistic generation needing to make their environment reflect who they think they are.” – RuPaul

  12. prissa says:

    I absolutely LOVE Ru Paul. He is authentic and he’s the real deal!

    And I love how he embraces himself for however he wants to be. He can wear a suit or a skirt, rock it in both and still not be concerned with gender norms or labels. He’s a true individual.

    Love him, Love Him, LOVE HIM!!

  13. I Choose Me says:

    Love, love, love him. Can’t believe he’s fifty five.

    Don’t waste your time fooling with dumb people or trying to figure them out or trying to educate them. It doesn’t work. It’s a lose-lose situation.

    I need to print this out and stick this on my wall or something. It’ll help save me from elevated blood pressure and disappointment.

  14. kori says:

    he has been on Project Runway and was great. He has a very flamboyant personality but he’s also very grounded and smarter than people may realize. I loved what he said about drag/trans and identity. He seems like a really nice person in different interviews.

  15. LR says:

    I highly recommend the WTF podcast episode where Marc Maron interviews RuPaul. Hearing him speak about his childhood, his outlook, and his myriad of interesting experiences was memorable. One of the best interviews I’ve ever heard. For any of you who enjoyed this snippet of the print interview, seek out the podcast interview.

  16. Naddie says:

    I didn’t know who this man was until now, and I’m impressed by his mind. Gotta love when he talks about acceptance, because it can apply to other issues as well. He made me think about trans and drag’s identity, and I’m thankful for anyone who makes me ponder about an uknown side of a subject.

  17. Cupcake says:

    I LOVE RuPaul!!

  18. sauvage says:

    I loved what he said about the Age of Narcissism in particular. Such a wise, wonderful person. I’m so looking forward to the full development of the IDGAF stage in my own life. I’m only 35, but I actually feel I’m getting there more and more, and people like RuPaul remind why it is so important to just do you and not give a flying f***.

    • Petrichor says:

      I agree, Sauvage. I just turned 40, and have gained so much confidence over the past 4-5 years simply from taking my first baby steps into IDGAF land. It’s glorious and liberating.

      • sauvage says:

        Thanx, Petrichor! I’m happy to hear that it’s working for you, too.

        I’m starting to really look forward to turning fourty. (I made my better half promise he would throw me a Harry Potter-themed 40th birthday bash, that also helps!)

  19. Robin says:

    Love what he said about identity. Also love how so many people seem to mis-interpret what he said about identity.

  20. Dangles says:

    LGBTQ? I thought it was LGBTQI.

    Can I have a ruling on this please?

  21. Dee says:

    This isn’t “shade”, this is TRUTH.

  22. Goodnight says:

    Ru is awesome and what he says is very true. People are maybe a bit more educated on LGBT issues these days but people aren’t really any more tolerant.

    Straight culture has taken things from gay culture since the beginning of time and I like Ru’s attitude of ‘fine, take it, we have so much more to offer’. It’s refreshing when I’m so used to hearing people slapping at people for ‘appropriating gay culture’ online. Most of the people doing the slapping aren’t even LGBT, they’re self-titled allies doing more harm than good.