Rebel Wilson: ‘I’m very independent to the point where I’m too independent’

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Rebel Wilson covers the July issue of Marie Claire UK, partly to promote Grimsby (which was out months ago) and mostly to promote her supporting role in Absolutely Fabulous: The Movie. Rebel chats about how Jennifer Saunders (the creator/writer of AbFab) was one of her first big role models and inspirations, which I totally get. Saunders is such a comedic genius and Rebel should look up to Saunders. Rebel also chats about her no-nudity clause, and whether she’s “too independent” for a relationship. Some highlights:

She’s a huge AbFab fan: “As a teenager I’d put Ab Fab on instead of working. Jennifer Saunders was the first woman I ever saw on TV who wrote and performed her own material.”

How she started performing: “I was so unusually shy, bordering on a social disorder. So my mum – one day she drives me to this community acting class. I was holding on to the car door and crying. She had to peel me off the car. She’s like, ‘I’ll pick you up in two hours,’ And she left me.”

Sacha Baron Cohen wanted her to do a nude scene in Grimby: “They wanted full-frontal nudity. We write in the contract, specifically, ‘No nudity.’ They got in another girl – this larger burlesque dancer from South Africa – to be a nude double. And they got her to do all this stuff. Sacha would go, ‘See, she looks good.’ I’m like, I’m not doing it. I don’t care what you say.”

She would do nudity for a drama though: “You want to know that the people [behind the camera] have a certain sensibility and decency. And a lot of times in comedy they’re not those people.”

She’s single these days: “I’m very independent to the point where I’m too independent. If you’re a successful woman, you want to find the right person, but you don’t necessarily need them. I don’t know whether that sounds weird, but there’s a whole crop of young women who are in that situation now. I don’t want to settle for someone if they’re not right but, because I get to do such awesome fun stuff all the time, I really want to share that with somebody. We’ll see. I’m definitely on the look out. I’m trying to put it out there, but I don’t know whether the right person is in Hollywood — you only meet actors or musicians here.”

Hollywood glamour: “I’ve always tried to use my brain to get places. There’s so many glamorous people in Hollywood I just never want to compete with that… even the men get their skin lasered.’

[From Marie Claire UK]

I understand what she means with this: “I’m very independent to the point where I’m too independent. If you’re a successful woman, you want to find the right person, but you don’t necessarily need them.” I’m like that, and I’m not trying to make it sound glamorous or anything, it’s just the way I am. I like having my own way. I like doing my own thing without answering to anyone or checking in with anyone. I make my own money, I like my privacy and my alone-time. Which means that, for better or for worse, I enjoy being single. Also, she was right to follow her instincts with the nudity thing in Grimsby.

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Photos courtesy of WENN, Marie Claire UK.

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  1. lisa2 says:

    Go Rebel.. she looks sexy in those pics.. I know some people don’t like her.. but I do..

  2. GoodNamesAllTaken says:

    Ironically, I think people in her mindset (I’m happy as I am and don’t need to be in a relationship) will find the best person for them. When you feel strong, you will find men who are attracted to your best qualities, and there may be fewer of them, but they are better partners in the long run. That has been my experience, anyway. If I met someone when I was floundering, they wanted to “save” me, which ended up meaning control me, and didn’t work out when I found my own footing.

    • Locke Lamora says:

      But what about people who are so independant because they are afraid to open up? I’m a bit like that, and as much as I want to think I’m independant because I’m strong etc., it is partially because of fear. And that’s not healthy in the long run.

      • Artemis says:

        This is me too. I had to be independent which lead to my personality becoming very…cold. I love to love and be loved but I can’t let myself go there out of fear of being hurt.

        Also, very few people share the type of loss I experienced and I don’t want to talk about my past. I hate it when people ‘aww’ my story, like it’s my life, it’s tough… When people think you’re strong and they hear the shit you had to go through to become that way, I wonder if they don’t start seeing me as broken and pity me. I hate that more than anything else.

        Relationships are hard on people who have a normal-ish background, I don’t think I could deal with another human being 🙂 Being aware of patterns and attitudes is better than nothing I suppose.

      • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

        Hmm, you made me think about how I was then a little deeper. I was scared, too, Locke Lamora. I was just divorced, and I had a very hard time trusting or risking my heart. I think that’s why I decided to make a life for myself that made me happy with or without a partner. I met my husband, and something in me knew he was too special to pass over, but it was a one step forward, two steps back situation for a while. We would get closer, and I would panic. Again, though, my gut told me not to give up, and it worked out. So when the right person comes along, maybe you can take baby steps and small risks because he seems worth it. Not that the ultimate goal has to be to find a partner, but if that’s what you want, I hope with all my heart that you get it.

      • LuckyZeGrand says:

        And also when you’re a strong woman making her own bread you tend to build love up.
        You expect the love affair of all love a affair,an epic story that has everything you ever wanted and is equivalent of the great career life you’ve had.And today finding such a man and such a love is harder than finding a needle in a haystack.

      • QQ says:

        Whooo Locke/Artemis you speak to the choir here, I Too am in the waayyyy too independent camp and come from a not cuddly family, to the point it makes it very hard for me to operate in relationships, and in the constant “Having to see for someone else’s feelings” cause doing things on my own and being extremely competent and capable alone has become my default/standard, I’d say being emotionally vulnerable when you are your own little unit and on the go for a long time really does atrophy a little your feefees muscles?

        (LMFAO rN at thinking back on the fact that I’ve done my own electrical at home just to not call my Uncles or a “guy I was seeing” one time… and yes my dimmer switch fixtures were impeccable!)

      • Locke Lamora says:

        @QQ, the weirdest part about me is that I do come from a very loving, warm family, I never had any major heartbreak. I’m not sure why I am the way I am.

      • claire says:

        @Locke: Yep, that would be me. Well, it used to. I kept hearing “you’re too independent” enough that I decided to really dig deeper into what they were saying. It wasn’t that they wanted to threaten that independence, but that I was ‘cold’, I wouldn’t accept help, listen to advice, let people in. And some of those actions from partners were just their ways of showing caring, but I saw it as a threat, as wanting to take away my independence, which then led to rejection of their caring basically, and no one wants to feel rejected on that. I hope this makes sense. It was something I really had to think about, and evaluate.

    • LM says:

      There’s a great Ted Talk that speaks to this very thing for anyone that is interested…
      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCvmsMzlF7o
      I watched this about a year ago and started to practise opening up… being the most vulnerable I could be and so much turned around for me. Having all the protection mechanisms around my heart really wasn’t working for me and didn’t save me from hurt it generated hurt. I know it sounds corny but I decided to take my power back and not give it away so freely. There is GREAT deal of power in being vulnerable.

      • QQ says:

        hmm I’ll go watch!

      • notsoanonymous says:

        Brene Brown (who is the speaker in this TED Talk) has written a few wonderful books. She stresses that you don’t have to lose your strength or who you are in order to be vulnerable, in fact, the more vulnerable and authentic you are, the stronger you will become. She’s wonderful.

        If you are going through any kind of struggle, I highly recommend reading Rising Strong. It has been healing as I have battled back from postpartum depression and a subsequent miscarriage. I’m not to the end of that journey yet, but I am better because of it. 🙂

      • Anners says:

        Thank you LM and Locke and Claire – I just really needed this conversation today. It’s given me a lot to ponder and hopefully will be a catalyst for positive change. Thanks again!

  3. Alex says:

    I’m the same way too. Totally get it.
    Rebel looks amazing here and this interview read really well.

  4. MrsBPitt says:

    Go Rebel! I love her independence! More women in Hollywood need to try to be alone once in a while, instead of jumping from relationship to relationship (I’m looking at you Mariah)! She sounds very smart to me. I also think she was smart about the nudity in Grimsby. Sounds like it was more to laugh at her, as opposed to a drama, where it may be more integral to the plotline.

  5. Tina says:

    She’s great. I’m looking forward to seeing her as Miss Adelaide in Guys and Dolls. She should bring something really interesting to it.

  6. Patricia says:

    Well god forbid Marie Claire magazine actually show her body or her double chin. These shots are ridiculous. There’s no shame in being bigger. The way they shot these pics it’s like they did everything they could to hide her shape as much as possible. How ridiculous, what a wasted opportunity to properly photograph a beautiful and talented woman.

    Besides that I love the interview. She’s a class act.

    • Zuzus girl says:

      “Well god forbid Marie Claire magazine actually show her body or her double chin”.-Exactly what I was thinking. Can they hide any more of her so the public isn’t traumatized by her less than “model perfect” boby? I don’t care for her comedy but seems like a decent human being and she’s still a beautiful woman, full figure and all. I hate those pictures.

    • Agreed! They are clearly covering up her body. I’m insulted for Rebel. Love her, love AbFab. I think I love her Mum too.

    • magnolia says:

      I haven’t seen the mag, but Marie Claire UK’s website shows a full length shot of her looking hot:
      http://www.marieclaire.co.uk/news/celebrity/553164/marie-claire-s-july-issue-cover-star-rebel-wilson.html

      But yes, it would have been nice for them to make that the cover shot.

    • Jag says:

      Thank you for saying what I was going to say about the photo shoot!

      She has her chin and neck covered in both pictures. Heaven forbid that we get to see what she really looks like. Do they even know how to photograph larger women these days for covers? (Hate her hair in the second picture.)

      As for what she’s saying, I understand it but still don’t like her.

    • Anastasia says:

      THANK YOU. I was coming here to say exactly that. I love Rebel, but shame on Marie Claire for these poses! Dear Lord. So she can only show about six inches of her face?

      Ridiculous.

      • SJO says:

        Me too. Seriously WTF!!!!??
        Like I am not going to buy the magazine if the chick on the front isn’t hot and skinny.
        Its a women’s magazine; and she’s a comedian not a super model.
        And we aren’t 14 year old boys.
        It just really needs to stop.

  7. Neelyo says:

    That header pic looks like an old shot of Daryl Hannah.

  8. Lucy2 says:

    I’m that way too, and happy for it.
    It bothers me that she had that clause in her contract, and yet he still tried to talk her Into it.

  9. Erinn says:

    …not digging the photos. She looks tacky. I think half of it is the shade of lipstick, it just makes her look kind of cheap.

  10. missmerry says:

    another woman cropped in tight because she’s not a size zero.

    looking beautiful, but I can’t help but notice they do this on covers for her and Melissa McCarthy, etc.

  11. Lucy says:

    Great interview!! Even after the whole age scandal thing (which honestly wasn’t even such a terrible thing), I still love Rebel a whole lot.

  12. CharlotteCharlotte says:

    I love what she says about comedy crew not necessarily being the people to treat your nude self with respect. It’s very nicely shading SBC and team without actually saying anything outright to piss them off. The crude humour is not empowering to women. Especially not to a larger woman getting naked on camera.

    Go, Rebel.