Jennifer Garner & Ben Affleck ‘making it work,’ not sure if they will divorce

When Ben Affleck gave his kind of slurry arguably drunk sports show interview, many of you noticed that he referred to Jennifer Garner as his “wife.” He was telling the same narrative we’ve heard from him before about how Jennifer Garner made his career possible by holding down the homefront, which is nice because it shows he doesn’t take that part of their relationship for granted. I didn’t put much stock in Affleck calling Garner his wife, but it may have meaning. ET Online has a pretty long story they’re billing as an exclusive, with quotes that they’re “making it work” and the detail that their source does not know if these two will ever file for divorce. It’s carefully worded, but it hints at a reconciliation. Three weeks ago we heard that Garner was “adamant” that she would divorce Affleck. Does this mean that he’s still holding out hope or are they back together?

It’s been almost one year since Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner announced their split, and Wednesday marks the 11th anniversary of their wedding. However, while the two are separated, they still remain legally married.

“They still have not officially filed paperwork for a divorce,” a source tells ET, adding they “don’t know if that will ever happen…”

Affleck also recently referred to Garner as “his wife” in an interview on HBO. They’re “making it work,” the source notes about the pair, and as the months have flown by, the estranged couple has settled into a new normal of co-parenting and “the year of wine,” as Garner put it in a February sit-down with Vanity Fair…

Affleck didn’t travel too far following their separation. Reports swirled shortly after they pulled the plug on their longtime romance that the 43-year-old actor was still a presence at their family home. “He still lives on the property in Brentwood, California, but in separate living quarters,” another source tells ET.

There are no boundaries between them when it comes to their kids. The proud parents have been seen out and about together as a family on countless occasions. So much so that it has sparked reconciliation rumors, especially after their family trip to Paris and London in May while Affleck filmed Justice League. But will it happen? A source close to Affleck tells ET, “They’re in a good place and co-parenting the best they can.”

[From ET Online]]

So are these two still telling the press every up and down in their relationship or did ET ask and get this kind of non-committal answer? ET had another story a couple of weeks ago saying that they were “fine.” Whatever is going on, The tipster who sent us this story also pointed to this story in the Daily Mail in which Affleck was seen visiting a “friend’s” place in LA over the weekend. (Those photos are below.) He has wet hair so he may have been going for personal training or a massage or something.

People has a competing story that Ben doesn’t want the divorce but Jen is “adamant” about going through with it. It sounds just like their story from earlier in June. It was a year yesterday since they announced the divorce and then dealt with nannygate:

A friend of Garner’s says that “Ben still doesn’t want the divorce” but that Garner has denied reconcilation rumors to pals. She “doesn’t seem to mind at all that [the divorce] is not finalized,” but “she seems adamant about going through with it,” the friend says.

“She did have the best time in Europe with Ben and the kids,” says her friend. “She seemed to enjoy spending time with Ben again.”

“They have a lot of admiration and respect for each other,” adds a source close to the couple.

The couple are continuing to stay together at their family home when they’re both in L.A. as Affleck flies back and forth to London for filming.

Another source close to the couple told PEOPLE recently that “nothing has changed” in the relationship: “They’re still all about putting the kids first.”

[From People]

So this seems to be the new normal for them. I mean this kind of tentative relationship along with competing stories in the press about whether they’re getting back together or not. As long as we’re talking about them, right?

Radar reported that Jennifer’s mom and dad, who live in Charleston, WV where she grew up, have had their home destroyed by the devastating flooding there and are staying in a hotel. They state that Jen is planning a fundraiser to help, and she has also publicly asked for support for Save The Children, with whom she’s worked in the past and which is doing relief work on the ground. Incidentally, Radar claims to have an exclusive interview with Jen’s dad which “reveals how she won [Ben] back for good.” That’s what they write in the title, but all Mr. Garner says is that he is “awful proud” of Jen and “would prefer not to comment on her plans. Any news will come from her and not from us.




This is Jennifer Garner outside a business meeting. Like Ben, she also has wet hair. Credit: FameFlynet

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  1. Jane says:

    Ben has turned into a certified mess. She needs to get rid of him. His recent rampage (drunk or not) shows he’s losing it or has completely lost it.

  2. tracking says:

    I think people are wondering only because they haven’t officially pulled the plug, but I don’t think they will reconcile. Garner would be nuts to even consider going back to a man who not only cheated on her, but simply never seemed (equally) into her. I could see how reconciling would make his life easier, but not hers.

    • Misti says:

      Have Maria Shriver and Arnold Schwarzeneger (sp) officially divorced?
      These two could be following that model.

  3. Tina says:

    Their divorce papers are going to be like Article 50. Never gonna happen.

    • Maria says:

      for heavens sake, Jen, Go

      • Myrna says:

        Yeah, she’s not going anywhere.
        She’s a doormat.

        Don’t want to get a foolish bump watch going, but I can’t help but notice that her tummy is protruding in that navy top/skirt/skirt whatever horrible outfit.
        It caught my eye only because she’s been photographed in her gym spandex quite a bit recently and she’s been very toned, trim and with a flat stomach.

        Just saying…

      • Gigi says:

        @Myrna Her stomach always protrudes now. She’s talked about it.

      • Myrna says:

        She has?
        Didn’t see that.

        I’ve noticed how flat her stomach has been as of late.
        Really flat.
        So seeing it protruding like this caught my attention.
        Not that I’m shaming her – it’s slight, so if not pregnant no big deal.
        But it’s such a stark contrast to how her stomach has looked recently and makes me wonder.

        Wanted to add that her young carefree weight lifted off her shoulders demeanor in recent months is because she has Ben right where she wants him.
        She’s empowered.
        It’s not because she’s over him and has moved on.
        She’ll never leave him.

      • Gigi says:

        “I get congratulated all the time by people I know. This one woman who had babysat for us said, ‘Oh, my gosh! I can’t wait for No. 4,’ and I thought, ‘What is going on?’ ” Garner said. “So I asked around and apparently I have a baby bump, and I’m here to tell you that I do! From now on, ladies, I will have a bump, and it will be my baby bump. It’s not going anywhere,” she said. “Its name is Violet, Sam and Sera.” And it’s not in stark contrast to anything, she has had a belly for years and hides it with hoodies.

        As for the rest of your post, I see that you’ve been reading Lainey. Nah. She’s not empowered, she looks foolish. Clinging to a man who cheats on her constantly and a marriage that is literally a joke.

      • Myrna says:

        I wasn’t doubting that she talked about a baby bump, but thanks for posting what she said.

        But I am basing my opinion on pics I have seen of her and these pics posted today are a sharp contrast to all of the other pics I’ve seen of her in recent months.

        Not sure if you’re being snarky with me when you note that I must be reading Lainey.
        I do read Lainey.
        Apparently, you do, too!
        But I promise you that my opinion and words are my own!
        I’m a real grown up independent thinking intelligent woman 😎
        I believe JG’s new attitude is because she feels empowered having him exactly where she wants him.

      • Wren says:

        We all think it’s ridiculous but she may not see it that way. She might see it as the tables have turned finally and she gets to really call the shots.

        Anyway, I’m wondering why the narrative is floundering. She’s been such a master PR planner thus far, why is the second act dragging out this long? We need resolution! Otherwise it’s just a bad soap opera when before it was a pretty decent Lifetime movie.

    • GoOnGirl says:

      Jen is never gonna divorce Ben. She is a doormat. Just my opinion. If she’d wanted to divorce him, she woulda done it right after the cheating scandal. She’s in it for the long haul. Don’t know why. Guess she loves him. But she will stay around and he has been looking like a hot mess lately.

  4. Krista says:

    Has it really been a year since nannygate?? These two are so boring, but man did I love every piece of gossip about the three of them last summer.

  5. Esmom says:

    I don’t think I buy this. Maybe it’s just me but even with her hair wet and unstyled she has a radiance about her that looks to me like someone who has had a weight lifted off her. He just seems kinda lost.

    • Crumpet says:

      Good description. Or maybe she just has him right where she wants him.

    • susiecue says:

      I agree. Look how radiantly she’s high stepping in those awful shoes.
      I’m sorry, I can’t!!! Help it. I really do agree and don’t think they’re back together but those shoes overshadow everything. Somebody help her!

      • Gigi says:

        I’m pretty sure that her blonde friend is wearing those same ugly sandals when they arrive at LAX. They have matching shoes, matching necklaces, work out together constantly, take romantic trips for two to Paris, and are inseparable. She’s far too dull to be gay but… just saying…

      • Dlo says:

        OK, I have zero fashion sense but that entire outfit, including the shoes, is Ugly

    • Sullivan says:

      I agree with Esmom. Garner looks genuinely happy and, yes, radiant. No way she’s taking him back.

  6. Jayna says:

    I just read a long interview with Ben regarding the Justice League, writing a new Batman movie, and his new role as producer. He sounded, great, busy, and very focused and very passionate about it all.

    I don’t believe for a second they are getting back together. I just think Ben doesn’t want to be the one to file, and Jen refuses to be the one to file since he broke the marriage. I still expect to see the divorce happen by summer’s end after the financial end of splitting up is done..

    • Misti says:

      So do you think maybe they will stay in never-never territory?
      Separated but not divorced?

      • Jayna says:

        No. I still think the divorce will happen this summer before the school year starts back up so it’s not some news happening during the kids’ school year.

  7. Maria says:

    SHE has won HIM back??? ahem…

  8. Joni says:

    They’re making it work….as in the co-parenting. It makes sense if you read the whole thing and not just the headline.

    Anyways, I don’t believe anything from ET Online. Last year they had ‘sources’ saying they weren’t divorcing then a few days later they announced their divorce, so that shows how much they know.

  9. Alex says:

    I mean who knows but coparenting doesn’t mean the relationship between Jen and Ben will be any better. I’ve seen divorced couples that absolutely would not stay married but when they put the kids first their relationship was better and actually grew into friends. Again not saying that’s the case here but when people put their kids first they can withstand quite a bit.

    • Jayna says:

      Yeah, there was this couple, both high-profile jobs, who had a contentious marriage and divorce, but had really for the past four years put the kid first as co-parents and worked on any animosity towards each other during the marriage and actually began to get along after the divorce as they worked on what was best for the child, and even a couple of years later took a family vacation together and had family meals together every great once in a while. They were proud of how great they were doing co-parenting and how their child was thriving. Lately, it’s hit some problems, unfortunately, and not so friendly, but they hide it from their chld.

  10. MizFabulous says:

    I have a friend who has been divorced for over 5 years who still occasionally refers to his ex as “my wife”. It doesn’t mean anything, it’s just a habit after having been married for nearly 15 years.

  11. jferber says:

    I think whatever is best for him, in his own eyes, will take place. I despise him. He has contempt for Jennifer and their marriage, but always knows there will be a soft spot for him to land when he f-cks up again. Voila. Through Jen and the kids, his image is mended and he’s an upstanding family man again. Until he goes on another bender. People say he’s self-destructive, but I think he’s extremely undisciplined, self-indulgent and selfish. Messy. Matt Damon is by far the better man and would never make his wife or family crawl through the muck with him like Ben has done. Truly shameful on Ben’s part. And yet, Ben is an A list, vastly wealthy player in Hollywood. Infantile and arrogant people do well in Hollywood.

    • als says:

      Unfortunately, infantile and arogant people do well everywhere these days. Or at least, that was my experience.

    • Gigi says:

      His image doesn’t get mended if he stays with her. No one will ever be able to talk about them as a couple without mentioning his affair with the nanny. He’s been a known cheater for years and she didn’t get that doormat rep for nothing. Just read the comments over on Daily Mail or somewhere in an article about them. If there are 100 comments maybe 1 or 2 will be like, “I really want them to work it out, I am praying for them and their beautiful children!111” which you know is just some lonely frau in Arkansas or something. The rest want them to finalize the divorce already. His days of being perceived as Mr. Family Man are well over. You can’t shtup the nanny. Poor judgement, as Garner herself said. I honestly think that’s why she will proceed with the divorce. There’s just no way to right the ship now, he’s totally tainted and she is ALLLLLL about image and pr.

    • Wren says:

      He has always seemed to assume that his wife and kids would just be there for him to come back to, no matter what he does. And now that hangs in the balance, but the longer it hangs there the longer the whole thing will stay exactly the same. Old habits are hard to break, and this lingering “to divorce or not to divorce” dance is getting really stale.

      The story was moving forward so well, I’m wondering what happened to make it stall out like this.

      • Diane says:

        I think it has to do with the potential failure of the two non-Batman movies he has coming out.

  12. lilacflowers says:

    The Boston Globe has reported that Ben is working with her on the fund raiser

    • Kate says:

      …which they pulled from Radar and which is at least 95% completely made up.

    • H says:

      I’ve seen some comments on FB about Garner and West Virginia. Apparently a lot of folks believed the Radar story and are now wondering where she is and why she hasn’t done more.

      • Adele Dazeem says:

        Interesting. I grew up in Charleston and the house her parents live in is NOT in the areas that were affected. It would really surprise me if her parents ‘ house were destroyed. Frankly I’d be surprised if they had slight water damage.

      • Bridget says:

        @Adele That’s what some of the comments on the Radar story said, that her parents’ house wasn’t touched and that’s why the article was BS. That didn’t stop every other news outlet from repeating it, though.

    • Myrna says:

      The Boston Globe kisses Ben’s a**.
      They’ll play up his role no matter what.

  13. Kate says:

    They haven’t been pictured together in over a month (the Ben is wearing guyliner pics). That was back in May. And she was just pap’d at the airport headed to Europe with her blonde friend Nicole. So there’s that. I’m a bit disappointed that the poster here named Jane was wrong that they’d file by the end of June. Unless it hasn’t leaked yet, that was NOT insider info. That’ll teach me to believe some anonymous person on a board like this. RadarOnline makes up a new story about them every other day.

  14. JoJo says:

    The ET story that’s linked to in this article was from last June (not weeks ago.) and said they were “fine” and a split was not imminent, and then they split two weeks later, so ET is either making stuff up or spinning the story their publicist’s want to tell.

    I find it most interesting that they haven’t been papp’d together for weeks – since London. They’ve been seen out together frequently for the last year amid constant reconciliation speculation, so what’s different this time? Jen just flew to Paris – probably going to join Ben again in London again.

    Also, E! has a story about 1-year post split. They’re the one and only outlet that seems to be holding firm to the “no shot at reconciliation” story. Not sure why but interesting.

    • J says:

      She is in Paris with Nicole King for a Versace show. There are you tube videos leaving lax and arriving in Paris telling that narrative. Not sure where Ben is? Rehab? Also if she is jetting off for July 4th weekend, who is with the kids? Nanny?

      There was interesting comment on DM noting how the pics in LAX show her left hand in her pocket. After seeing the LAX video, it is clear she is trying to obscure the view of her left hand. In The Paris video it looks the same way with her right hand covering her left hand. Now I personally do not think she has a wedding ring back on – I just think she likes to keep the press guessing. Some of the questions from the paps in LAX were hysterical, with someone asking her if she still cooks for Ben. (Aside from the are you back together etc).

      • H says:

        There are pap pics of her on twitter arriving at LAX and the hand is completely visible — no ring. But I agree with your general sentiment, she loves the attention that this is bringing her.

      • JoJo says:

        Oh, didn’t see any comment about Versace show, and also the blonde in the pictures isn’t Nicole King. I thought it was from the back, but you can see it isn’t from the front. You can see her hand on the landing pics – no ring. Wondering if she’ll be meeting up with Ben in London. Maybe he took the kids there. All very strange.

        I agree with others above though who said she has Ben right where she wants him. She holds the power, I’m pretty sure, but I can’t tell anymore whether she’s just stringing him along or if she’s truly over it. (As I’ve always said, I think he was the one who wanted out originally, and she didn’t, but now I’m not sure about whether he’s changed his tune … Can’t even believe I’m saying that. :))

      • J says:


        It’s Nicole – watch this video.

        I don’t think she is meeting up with Ben and kids. Kids are probably home with a nanny or with their grandparents. Traveling back and forth to Europe for children is too much. As far as Ben he is awol. Rehab? London? Or just working quietly.

      • JoJo says:

        Oh, you’re right – didn’t look like Nicole in a pic, but it is! 🙂

      • Bridget says:

        Maybe he’s editing Live By Night after all the reshoots. That would make the most sense but who knows. When he wants to move around without being seen, he is clearly able.

  15. The Original G says:

    They’ve probably been living some version of this ambivalent arrangement for ages and could probably continue indefinitely unless one of falls in love elsewhere. Ben will just have to be more careful about his side-pieces. It’s still a meh.

  16. Nancy says:

    I hate man boobs.

  17. Tate says:

    They both look like they need a good scrubbing.

  18. Micki says:

    So they are living on the same property, having “no boundaries” when it comes to the kids and are “in a good place”. Splendid!
    I think they are negotiating the conditions of his future indiscretions (most discretly done!) and she’ll give him countenance “for the kids” or something and they’ll stay as they are now forever.

  19. Diane says:

    I think she’s freed herself in every way but legally from him. I do believe she leaves that to him and doesn’t care because she isn’t planning to remarry any time soon. If that were to change, she might take care if it’s not done.
    I don’t believe he has lived at that house since they split. A story just after Christmas I believe said that they tried it but it was too hard for her and he moved out, and he just comes back sometimes to stay, I assume when she is out of tow for something. He may have a space there, but he doesn’t live there.
    I think he is afraid to not be married as I think in his mind he thinks it lends him an appearance of respectability. He has alluded to that before and if you look around Hollywood most of the power players are married. It also allows Ben to play around and no gf can expect him to marry because he already is.
    I also think the no family pics is a Jen call. She is going to work on her independent woman identity and needs to distance herself from those images.
    My thoughts.

  20. Luca76 says:

    My guess is she never wanted a divorce in the first place and he wants one but not badly enough to actually pull the trigger and file so they are in a stalemate.

  21. Diane says:

    Also, I think these next two movies are not going to perform well and Batman roles are going to become his big roles for the future unless he finds another strong woman like Jennifer who can Give him the stability she did and that he credits her with. That’s an essential item in the world of an addict in my personal experience, and Ben has said in interviews it’s a weakness he has to watch and has already been to rehab once, so there’s evidence to suggest issues there. All of this is speculation, of course. It’s also sad for all of them.
    I’m not saying he isn’t talented.

  22. Lucy says:

    Get divorced, don’t get divorced, just stop using the whole thing for PR!

  23. H says:

    I don’t think he’s staying at the family home either. Not sure when that changed though, pre-Europe or post. I think he has been dating as well, just based on some of the pics that we have and IDK, common sense. He isn’t celibate. As for her, she seems happier and I think she has moved on emotionally and mentally. If they were still together, she’d have to babysit him like she has for the last decade (and looked miserable doing it). The stress of being with a philandering dude who has substance abuse problems would be there. I’d love to know if he has the kids while she’s in Europe with her “friend” or if relatives and nannies were brought in. One thing is for sure, he is not calling the paps. Haven’t seen a pic of him since he got caught leaving that random home, have we?

  24. MrsBPitt says:

    I really think all the pictures of her and the children going to church lately, is going to be her reason for staying with him. She will use her faith to reconcile and forgive him for his indiscretions….

    • Myrna says:

      Good point.

    • Bridget says:

      She’ll use her faith to move forward with strength, alone. She put up with his shenanigans for way too long as it is. Church doesn’t encourage people to stay in toxic relationships. That is absurd.

  25. Angel says:

    This all translates to a point – they’re still sleeping together.

    • J says:

      I kind of agree. But I think they are together. I’m waiting for the next pap shots of them together. Don’t know when that will be.

    • Bridget says:

      Lost in translation. How do you figure? He was spotted coming out of a home freshly showered. Hasn’t been spotted with Jen since May and looked like he wanted to die every time before then. Seen in Miami with a blonde which was never denied. He’s getting sex but it’s not from her.

    • Jayna says:

      He looks at her like he would look at a sister. He looks at Matt with more passion.

      The romance is over.

      • JoJo says:

        @Jayna – As you know, I agree! I guess I’m one of the few who thought they were a weird match from day one, and to me, they haven’t seemed like [happy] romantic partners since way before the split – years and years – so it’s pretty hard to imagine how they go back from that at this point. I don’t know why I think this since I have nothing to base it on – but things seem different with them right now. In the past year, there have been so many family outings for the paps, and now nada – in the two weeks since he’s been back. Feels like that marks some kind of change, but maybe it means absolutely nothing.

  26. Ash says:

    I’m at the point where, if I never heard another word about these two, I’d die happy.

  27. Ican't says:

    Are you sure she was outside a business meeting? Because that outfit and hair that looks like she just jump out of the shower does not say business meeting.

    • Ash says:

      She’s pretty much a slob all the time. When she does a red carpet, she’s either matronly or dressed for the prom. She never gets it right. But that seems to be why the big-hipped fraus in flyover states like her — she’s so awkward and relatable!

  28. Daphne says:

    Love and manipulations is the name of the game.Don’t y’all get it.The vanity fair article,the praising of Ben all the time It is called narcissists source of supply.Love according to narcissists.That is the only thing that kept Ben around Jen her willingness to play the game.Guess whose playing the game now J Lo all this back and forth is not for you guys is for her.Eventually Ben shall end it with Jen and get back with J Lo as long as she waits around.Anybody wants to bet on that

    • Jets says:

      Let me guess English is not your first language? I didn’t understand anything you said..LOL

      • Daphne says:

        Jen has no pr motives,her motives are to please Ben all the time.The wet hair Ben asked her to do that.The vanity fair article was a strategy to keep Ben.She seeming like a doormat are all done with the intention of pleasing Ben.Even her way of living is to satisfy Ben.You see Ben is narcissists (google the term)and narcissists love to be flattered all the time even when they are wrong.Jen is just doing what makes Ben happy she is not really out to manipulate the public,that is Ben’s doing.Right now JLo has caught in on the game so she wants Ben back,so she is playing the game too with more subtlety because she does not want to become a clown.So Ben is getting his ego boosted by two women vying for his love,so right now he is playing both of them.That is why the narrative keeps changing.To keep JLo on her toes not knowing what he shall do next.Same with Garner she cannot figure out if he will stay or leave her,but she is determined to try everything to win him back.Why all the manipulations she is lying as much as him.Lie she would not take him back.Vanity fair article translation.I shall give you the divorce as you want.So what happens now Ben knows he can get Jen to do whatever so he is pleased that he can use her.In short to understand better read about narcissists.You will start getting the whole picture.

      • Jets says:

        @Daphne Good Lord just STOP…

  29. Daphne says:

    Jen’s is not going anywhere except Ben tells her it is over.Ben wants to play both women.Both women want to win.Jen will stop at nothing to win even lie if need be.J Lo is keeping it more classy she does not want to lose her soul for a man Jen will go there for Ben.Ben is leaking different stories to keep both women confused and anxious.

  30. Gs says:

    ^ off course thats obvious from day one what else is there for @jojo if it wasn’t that lols

  31. Gs says:

    Cut off short…^
    I think he takes himself way too seriously. One negativity and he be back in marriage mode.
    What now is not the worst for JG. She isnt losing anything by it …her brand is pathetic anyways she cannot change it. She cannot be nothing but like this even with new man imo.

    TV gigs followed by movies..there won’t be end anytime soon imo. Unless he feel he safe to do without…

  32. loca says:

    Let’s be real Jennifer Garner will never file for divorce. There could be 100 nannies,STDs, etc and she would stand by Ben’s side forever with a smile on her face. Ben might be the love of her life but she isn’t Ben’s. He is there for the kids they are just prolonging the inevitable. Even if they don’t divorce now eventually it will be over once the children are older. I just wonder why Ben’s sources keep denying it. If he had an official girlfriend right now it would be over. She even said who he couldn’t date. Jennifer is selfish if a man is miserable with you just let him go.

    • Ican't says:

      Let’s be real Ben is a grown a$$ who can date who he wants and if he wants out he would go she not stopping him.

  33. iheartgossip says:

    They never planned to split. But look at all the free attention they ate up.

  34. jccw says:

    Once again Gossip Cop is on the case (on a holiday weekend no less) debunking Garners’ smiling face at the airport as a reconciliation. They site Radars’ story, but say nothing about People or ET. I’m surprised she’s in Paris for a fashion show of all things, since that’s about the last thing she is known for.

  35. J says:

    So we all thought this week would be interesting. Let’s 1st talk about what did not happen:
    1. Neither Ben nor Jen filed for divorce
    2. Ben and Jen were not photographed together either alone or all together with their kids. Though, Jen and Ben were paper separately and the kids showed to church on Sunday.
    3. Ben and Jen did celebrate their 11th anniversary or their split anniversary public ally.

    What did happen:
    1. A lot more nothing
    2. Then a stream of reconciliation rumors fueled by ET and people.
    3. Radar on line actually interviewed jen’s dad – though the content was on wV disaster.

    All and all this week did not live up to any of the hype some of us thought it would. Just more of the same. Here is. To hopping something real happens this summer with them. File or Reconcile.

    Happy Fourth everyone!

  36. Nikki says:

    Jennifer should DUMP HIS SORRY ASS and never look back, and her EMPOWERMENT would be the BEST thing for all 3 of her kids to learn from. It would make my flesh crawl to stay with a man who had disrespected our marriage as he has. Better to dump him when she’s still young and hot enough to be in the game, than wait another decade.

  37. Jets says:

    It’s really not that big of a deal that neither Ben or Jen have filed for divorce yet. It happens all the time, Jlo and Marc Anthony announced that they were divorcing July 2011, then Marc filed in April 2012 and JLo filed two years later in 2013. That’s just one example. Both JLo and Mark Anthony were already in different relationships too. Same with Gwyneth and Chris Martin, it took them more than a year before one of them filed. This is normal in their industry, probably because of separating assets and figuring out custody of children takes time. All this analyzing why they haven’t filed yet is much ado about nothing. One thing for sure is that they are NOT back together or getting back together, that ship has sailed, and I mean that for both of them not just Ben, I think Jen is done too.

  38. Kim says:

    I keep seeing posts on facebook about him having a yacht docked in Halifax. Not sure if that is true or what but some lady seems to think that he is on this yacht right now.

  39. Dizzy says:

    It is not so weird to get separated and not divorce. It happened to me for a year and my sister was separate for 5 years before she divorced. It doesn’t mean anything!! Except maybe procrastination.

    • JoJo says:

      I agree. My parents were separated for 6+ years before they divorced. I think the differences with Ben and Jen are that 1) now they’ve said a divorce “might never happen”, which implies they’ll never have any need to fully move on (but this is from “a source”, so who knows) and 2) others who remain separated but not divorced usually move on publicly with other partners and don’t leave so much ambiguity about the split. People said after the split that Jen would probably never date until the divorce was final, and she’s been very reluctant to even suggest that she could even think about it, and if Ben is seeing people, he’s certainly hiding it. So the question is, why aren’t they moving on after 1.5 years, and why can’t they be public about it if they’re not planning on staying together? This leads people to think they are reconciling.

      • Jets says:

        Of course Ben is seeing other women now, he was during his marriage and when they separated, hello?? the nanny!!! He got sloppy with the nanny, because she called him out and had receipts to prove it, she made him look like a fool and humiliated his ex wife too. He was just able to hide the other women he cheated with for years, most of his dalliances happened when he was shooting on location, no Jen, no paparazzi, he hid things well, but obviously Jen knew as she alluded to it in her Vanity Fair interview. JoJo, you honestly don’t think they are still together do you? I mean c’mon??

      • JoJo says:

        @Jets – I don’t know. Is it that far out of the question? Jen stayed with him for years no matter what, didn’t want the split by all accounts and said he’s the love of her life. And then there’s Ben who wants to want the white picket family life and likes the image and stability it lends to his career. They’ve officially separated, so if they’re not together, then I don’t see why they can’t be public about who they’re dating. If they’re not together or planning to be, they’re certainly creating a lot of unnecessary speculation and secrecy. I have no idea what the reality is, but no, it wouldn’t shock me if they settled back into their relationship status quo.

      • Diane says:

        Jojo, it looks like Ben is loosening up. He’s on a yacht in Halifax. He’s been spotted there several times and it’s unlikely he’s alone …. Maybe it’s the same brunette he was seen with on Jens birthday last year.

  40. ScotiaGirl says:

    Perhaps they are doing what seems right to them and feel no obligation to let the public know about what they consider their private live and don’t give a rats a** about the public speculation because it’s none of anyone’s business. That’s logic , but having said that I too wonder what’s going on with them too 🙂

  41. ScotiaGirl says:

    I think she is in France for the opening of Miracles from Heaven. I remember reading sometime ago the date over there and thought it was odd it was so much later than here. I wondered if she would time the family trip over there around it at the time I read it. But she did not. I could be wrong though

    • ScotiaGirl says:

      Yeah I was totally off track. She is at the Versace fashion show! Didn’t think that was her type of gig. She looked absolutely stunning! She looks so much more relaxed and it was cute seeing her and Bradly Cooper hangin. Wonder if Versace has something planned for her. This is totally not her normal extra curricular activity. Way to go Jen!

  42. Charlotte says:

    I found nothing on Ben in Halifax unless sightings dated 23 or 24 June and still there are no pics.In those days Ben was photographed on set in LA

  43. Charlotte says:

    could be anyone’s yatch. Why would invite strangers especially if already in good company ?

  44. Redgrl says:

    I can’t believe she left the house voluntarily looking like that. What a mess.

  45. jccw says:

    Wonder if they’ll both be home to spend the Fourth with their kids. I think it’s sad for the kids that it’s a holiday weekend and both of them are gone.

    • JoJo says:

      My guess is yes. Jen seems like she would never let any type of holiday go by without being there. That being said, I wouldn’t think it’s sad if the kids were with grandparents or other family for the 4th. We used to have lots of fun staying with my grandparents on special holidays on rare occasions. My guess is that she decided to go on a girls’ trip during this one-year split anniversary period to have some fun vs. focusing on any painful memories. It’s so unlike her to do something like this that it does make me wonder if they are truly over. They haven’t been seen together since May, and if they’re reconciling, I would think it’s strange that they didn’t spend this weekend together. Although she could be planning to go straight to the UK from Paris to meet Ben and the kids.

      • Greta says:

        Why do you think Ben and the kids are in England? What’s that fantasy based on?

      • JoJo says:

        Based on nothing really, but my inventions aren’t any worse than anyone else’s at this point. Ben and the kids may not be in England, but it has been said repeatedly that Jen will be traveling back and forth to London this summer while Ben films, so if that is the case, was just saying maybe she’ll go straight there from Paris.

      • Kyle says:

        @Jojo Tell me, when did Ben and/or the kids go to England? If they did go, why didn’t Jen go with them and then travel to Paris on her own? She’s in Paris for fun with her girlfriend, shopping, a fashion show and no apparent reason other than publicity for herself. She doesn’t strike me as the type to let her little kids make an extremely long international flight without her. I would bet $$$$ that while Ben may have quietly returned to the UK, the kids are still very much in LA possibly with their father or relatives or nannies. Or maybe they have worked out joint custody and they are splitting holidays now. Who knows. But you are so clearly desperate to have Ben and Jen reconciled that I may as well be talking to a wall here. There is no point in anyone discussing this with you.

      • JoJo says:

        @Kyle – lol. I never said I knew that’s where they were. I have no idea. But it’s a fact that it has been said repeatedly in the media that Jen plans to go back and forth to London this summer, so it wouldn’t be that crazy for her to fly from Paris to London. But maybe Ben has the kids in LA. Who knows. And anyone who knows me at all knows I’m not desperate to have them reunite at all. Couldn’t be further from the truth. I’m just being objective. Every time I think they’re done, they pop up together or go on a vacation, etc. So I’m not convinced they’re done, but I’m also not sure they’re reconciling – I don’t know what to think at this point.

      • Laura says:

        @JoJo Not Kyle but LMAO at your post. Okay, suuuuure. I don’t spend a lot of time on this board but I do know that when there’s a Garner or Affleck thread, you’ll pop up and it’s like BLATANTLY obvious that you are desperate for them to reconcile. PS I think he’s in LA with the kids. I think he has his own house somewhere and if the paps catch him/the kids anywhere, it will be at the kids’ church or possibly the film studio where Ben has been editing Live By Night. I guess we’ll find out tomorrow if/when any pics from today emerge. My money is on the church, because Jen calls the paps every Sunday to capture the stroll and the kids go so he will no doubt take them, if he is there. We shall see.

      • JoJo says:

        @Laura – Nope, couldn’t be more wrong. I’ve never been a fan of them as a couple. If I was though, I would have no problem saying it, like the many other people on other boards who actually are hoping they reconcile.

    • Greta says:

      Where exactly do you think Ben is?

    • Laura says:

      Where IS Ben? He has not been photographed in ages, not since being spotted coming out of that random house with wet hair. I don’t think the kids are in London. The paps know where the house is that they were renting, they would have photographed them by now. Same as at the family home. I would think that if he were watching them on his own and staying there they would have been pap’d by now. I’m thinking that whoever suggested that Ben has his own house in LA is probably right and the paps can’t find him. Maybe this is the kids’ first holiday with just their dad. Nothing else makes sense, really.

      • Ana says:

        He is back in LA. There are pictures.

      • Jets says:

        Yup, Zimbio has exclusive pics of Ben taking the kids to church with their other nanny. He hasn’t left LA yet, probably completing Live By Night before he goes back to London for another few months of filming.
        I can’t help it, but when I look at these pictures I automatically wonder if he’s having an affair with that nanny too, Ben just ruined himself for me, I just can’t with him….

      • Laura says:

        …that’s a nanny?! That is a hot nanny. Has she been seen with the family before that someone can link?

        ETA: As I was scrolling through them… I think Zimbio took down the entire photoset.

      • J says:

        Nice to finally see him with his kids, 1st time since he got back to LA 2 weeks ago. Too bad he can’t handle them without the help of a Nanny.

      • Kyle says:

        Seriously. What’s hard about church? You drive there, you sit, you drive home. He needs a nanny to help? That’s weird.

  46. JoJo says:

    The pics seem to be gone now? Why would that be? And how come Daily Mail didn’t have their usual pics of church?

    • J says:

      I share your question. Why did they take it down ?

      • JoJo says:

        I’m guessing Ben was able to get them to take them down? Seems he did the same with that Miami Herald uber blog post. Funny – Jen is papped constantly. Yet Ben is never seen. Is that because he knows how to evade the media, or because he’s able to pull some strings to get them not to publish? Also the fact that Jen left him alone for the weekend with the kids and a nanny is interesting. Is this her trying to trust him and see what happens, or is she finally letting go of the reigns, realizing there will be times they’ll spend alone with Ben?

      • tina says:

        My thoughts (for what it is worth):

        1. Jen has new representation and a movie coming out next month – we will see lots of pictures of her alone. She will probably be seen with men; however, they won’t be dating.

        2. Ben did not look healthy in the pictures – WB got them taken down or

        3. The nanny and Ben alone didn’t look good (always going to be speculation on that one) or

        4. The “nanny” was not the nanny but a friend of Ben’s. I kind of doubt this one though as it is way too soon to be introducing the kids to partners.

      • N says:

        I thought Ben looked fine/great in the church pics. Better than he has in a long time.

        Edited to add: I don’t know what their nannies look like. You never really see them anymore. The woman in the church pics looks like a thinner, prettier version of someone identified as a nanny in pics from a couple of years ago but damn, she got herself a makeover. It would be hilarious if Ben were dating another nanny.

  47. Tina says:

    Interesting. I never saw the pictures so if he looked healthy and happy, why take them down?