Jeremy Renner: Paying for Ava’s preschool wasn’t part of the divorce decree


Yesterday, we discussed the latest chapter in the custody/financial war between Jeremy Renner and his ex-wife Sonni Pacheco. Sonni and Jeremy finalized their divorce back in December 2015, almost one year exactly after Sonni suddenly filed for divorce after less than a year of marriage. Sonni and Jeremy currently share custody of their daughter Ava Berlin, and Jeremy pays Sonni $13,000 a month in child support. Well, we heard on Tuesday that Sonni filed something with the court, claiming that Renner hasn’t been keeping up with the child support payments and he hasn’t been paying his half of Ava’s preschool tuition. Renner’s rep responded to the NY Daily News:

Jeremy Renner’s ex-wife Sonni Pacheco says it’s an impossible mission to get the actor to pay child support. Pacheco claims her 45-year-old ex-husband is behind more than $48,000 in child support for the couple’s 3-year-old daughter Ava, according to court documents obtained by TMZ. The documents also allege the “Mission: Impossible” star refuses to pay Ava’s $1,600 per month preschool tuition, TMZ reports.

However, the actor adamantly denies the accusations, calling them “baseless and completely erroneous,” his rep told the Daily News.

“He has unequivocally never fallen behind on child support payments — this year he has paid several hundreds of thousands of dollars for his young daughter’s child support and well-being,” his rep told the News. “He is a loving, attentive and caring father who moves his work schedule around to maximize his time with his daughter Ava. In terms of pre-school tuition for the 3-year old, this was never part of the divorce decree,” a rep for the actor continued. “His ex continues on a quest of trying to publicly demean the actor and extricate him from as much money as she can for her sole benefit.”

[From The NY Daily News]

“In terms of pre-school tuition for the 3-year old, this was never part of the divorce decree…”
That’s interesting. I think that’s a confirmation that Renner is not paying for the preschool, or he’s not paying “his half” of the preschool tuition. I discussed this idea on Tuesday, that most divorces involving children explicitly spell out who pays for what with the education costs. It would surprise me if Renner and Pacheco’s divorce decree does not spell out the education costs, but perhaps preschool wasn’t included, since preschool is still “optional,” not mandatory. As in, Sonni made the choice to enroll Ava in an optional preschool and Renner isn’t legally obligated to pay for it. Interesting.

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  1. Mike says:

    Why does she have to attend such an expensive pre school? If Sonni were paying for it herself would she choose the same school?

    • NYer says:

      Expensive? Either you don’t have kids or you live where the cost of living is less. Here in DC, preschool is about $1700 a month (and up).

      • Samtha says:

        Even in the low-cost-of-living place where I live, pre-school is 1200 a month. 1800 is NOT some super special elite pre-school.

    • V4Real says:

      Well in public schools it is free here in NY.

      • mp says:

        Is Jeremy Renner poor? Even if it’s expensive he should be able to pay for her education, is not like she wants more money for something superfluous.

      • V4Real says:

        I didn’t say he was poor but she made the choice to send her to pre-K at the age of 3. The child support money is for Ava so the mother can use a small portion of that for her Pre-K expenses. The money is not for her to go shopping for herself, it’s for the baby. She would still have over 11 thousands for Ava’s monthly expenses. How much clothing and food does a 3 year old needs. She will still have all the necessities. And like the lawyer said Pre-K wasn’t part of the agreement. Perhaps Renner agreed to pay for education once the child started kindergarten.

        And what about when the child is with him and not in Pre-K?

      • PrincessMe says:

        And just to add to what you said, V4Real, the 13K is his portion of Ava’s monthly expenses. Don’t tell me that she can’t pay for preschool if she deems it necessary out of that and still manage to provide well for the child while the child is in her care.
        People are jumping down his throat saying “just pay” and calling him a deadbeat when he seems very involved and seemingly does pay. Just because someone is rich doesn’t mean they should just roll over when someone says fork over. That’s how people end up poor again or not able to pay their bill later in life when their luck turns/they no longer command the same salary.

      • Tanya says:

        Not until preK, which starts at 4

      • Janetdr says:

        Most school districts in NYS offer preschool for 4-year-olds. 3-year-olds would be paid for for only for special needs kids.
        I took my kids to a private school for the first couple of years and my ex did not contribute extra at all. Not college either although he was required to pay child support until they were done.

      • Pandora says:

        @MP. She is already getting $13K/mo. That should be plenty to cover preschool, even the expensive ones. If that wasn’t part of the agreement and she can’t pay for preschool with part of what she’s getting for child support, she needs to check her head. It sounds like desperate gold digging.

      • BackstageBitchy says:

        It’s been free in New York for one year, and even in then, there are not enough spaces for all the Pre-k kids. We did not get a spot in public pre-k, as happened to many people. So for that reason and many others, we moved to LA. And guess what? LA has NO free preschool. If you want your kid to go to pre-k, you have to pay for it. We pay $1100 which is considered very CHEAP.
        I’m pretty sure Jeremy, the ex wife and the kid live in LA, not NYC. So I don’t think it’s fair to judge her pre-school choice by your own options and choices. Good for you if you have free pre-k. Many many many working Americans do not.

    • sherry says:

      It’s not even that … Child support is not “mom support.” It is meant to cover shelter, clothing, food and other expenses associated with the child.

      IMO – He is paying his portion of their child’s expenses. Obviously, he makes more than she does, but I think $13,000 a month is more than enough for the mother to provide a nice lifestyle for the child while she resides with the mother.

      • Bread and Circuses says:

        Yeah, it’s not hard to support a kid on $13,000 a month, even with preschool fees.

      • Sandy says:

        Call me crazy, but is Pre-school even necessary? Surely play dates and some guided play at home would be enough, unless Sonni is working and uses it as daycare. And I agree,13 thou a month seems enough too cover that.

        If Renner agreed with Sonni to enroll their daughter in Pre-k, then yeah he should help pay. If he wasn’t consulted then he deserves the chance to have some input on how is money is used in regards to his kid’s education.

      • Naya says:

        Some mums could raise a kid on $500, why dont we reduce the child support to that? Child support should reflect the parents income. Why should that kid have a millionaire father but have to live on what you or I consider a nice “lifestyle”. Frankly, Jeremy got off easy. Halle is paying 17k and her career is struggling and she doesnt have a real estate empire to fall back on. I’m finding it hard to buy the loving father routine when he quarrels about what is actually pocket change for him

      • Jellybean says:

        Naya, Renner initially made himself rich by working hard and being careful with his money, something I am sure he will encourage his daughter to do. He has already paid his several hundred thousand pounds this year since there is a 5% additional payment if he makes more than $2.3M, this means he is actually paying a lot more than Halle Berry. The money might seem like pocket change, but he has given her more than enough to cover the optional choices she makes about the child’s care. I also think he would be far better off looking after the money that will one day be his daughter’s rather than allowing her mother to bleed him dry and spend the money she saves on herself.

      • Caz says:

        Wealthy people need to be much more careful about who they have relationships, and children with. The Legal profession must make a mint over there in the US.

    • Mgsota says:

      I thought that was inexpensive…relatively speaking. That’s how much I paid in Minnesota and I’m just a “regular” person. My daughter’s school wasn’t even the most expensive one around!

    • Anna says:

      That’s not a very expensive daycare at all. Where I work you pay at least 1500 a month. Generally in major cities if the daycare is licensed you won’t find a place where you can pay less than 1200$. The most I’ve seen is 4000$ a month

    • Juju says:

      Thanks God, in France school is free, i can’t believe it is so expensive in the US 🙁

  2. lee says:

    Oh FFS. Pay for YOUR CHILD’S education, you cheapskate loser. It’s not like the ex is asking him to pay off a credit card, it’s tuition. Gross. He’s gross.

    • muffin says:

      He’s paying her 13000 $ a month in child support . Why the hell is that money for if nor for preschool? If she only goes to preschool on her mothers time with her why would he pay for it? I imagine he or the nanny he hires and pays watch the girl on his time .

      • lee says:

        Um, living costs? It is extremely expensive to live in LA and the child is supposed to have virtually equal living environments with both parents. Mom is not allowed to live in squalor while Dad floats around his half dozen mansions with his boyfriend.

      • muffin says:

        maybe mom could get a job?

      • V4Real says:

        Um mom is not living in squalor she is living off her daughter’s child support. Wasn’t she a model or something before she got with him. Like the above poster said she can get a job, it’s not like it’s going to decrease her child support payments. Since she herself has said that the child is in pre-school she can go to work while the baby is in care of the school.

      • Jellybean says:

        If he has already paid her several hundred thousand dollars this year I don’t think she is living in squalor even if she is having to pay all the kid’s day care during her half of the week.

      • Zombie says:

        She has a job. And the 13k were detailed in the custody agreement , not only simple child support is also do that Ava can have a similar life with mommy and daddy , regardless of wherever she is with. To base that he doesn’t pay because it isn’t in the divorce decree, excuse me, is so lame. So it means he can not agree to simple decisions and he has to be taken to court every time ?? We are going to have these type of news for the next 15 years then.

      • Anna says:

        @Muffin, Sonni does have a job… That’s why she’s put Ava in preschool.

    • Ravensdaughter says:

      Exactly. What a douchebag! Pay for a great pre-school and be happy your daughter will be getting the benefit of it.

      • Jellybean says:

        He seems to take her all round education very seriously. I strongly suspect he feels more formal education for a 3 year old is not a good thing and, considering her time is already split, that she would benefit more from the time she spends with him and her family. If the mother has chosen differently she cannot then insist he pays for something that was not agreed in their divorce and is not mandatory.

    • FingerBinger says:

      Finger painting and taking naps doesn’t equal an education.

      • Krista says:

        There is years and years and years of data that say the opposite. Play for children IS work and it turns out to be incredibly important in development.

      • V4Real says:


        LOL…..thanks for the laugh.

      • Jellybean says:

        That is true, but when parents are very involved in their child’s education and personal development, it need not be done by others, certainly not when you are talking about a 3 year old. It is better that parents come to an agreement on this, but if they cannot and end up doing different things for their half of the week it is hardly reasonable to ask that the costs are split, especially when she has already received “several thousand dollars” this year alone.

      • bankonit says:


        *claps* You dead yet tho?

      • FingerBinger says:

        @BANKONIT I don’t know what that means. Is that a joke or a threat?

      • Audrey says:

        Even with involved parents, preschool is a great idea for all children.

        I’m a former preschool teacher so my daughter is getting a very solid education at home right now. But we’re still sending her to preschool this year(she’s 3). She’s very smart and doesn’t need it for educational purposes at all.

        Preschool is great to get children used to school, interacting with others away from mom and dad and just prepare them emotionally for the huge change coming when they start school.

        I do prefer the system we have here. She will go twice per week this year for a few hours per day. Next year she’ll go 4 days per week for a few hours. Then she starts kindergarten, half days 5 days per week. Then starts grade 1 full time. It’s a wonderful way to ease children into the routine without overwhelming them.

      • K2 says:

        In the UK early years education is seen as so important every child is entitled to a free 15 hours a week, paid for by the state, once they are 3. Expensive private schools offer it as much as small local playgroup settings, because it’s just universally accepted now.

        Play is how kids learn. A good preschool is really beneficial.

    • shura says:

      But it’s not her “education.” It’s childcare. Mom isn’t working, yes? Ok, so mom wants a little extra free time. Fine. (I say ‘extra’ under the assumption the child is sometimes with her father) Her choice. But pay for it with the 13,000.

      • Gena says:

        I’m kind of under the impression that Jeremy rarely sees the kid.

      • Jellybean says:

        Gena, have a look at his instagram, he lives for that kid.

      • paranormalgirl says:

        I believe that impression isn’t accurate. They share 50/50 custody and spend equal amounts of time with their daughter. Look at his Insta. It’s filled with pics of his daughter. He is clearly a loving father.

    • StormsMama says:

      Agree 100% with you Lee.
      How gross.
      Pay for your child’s education.
      It’s not a very expensive school (I imagine many in LA are 3-5x that to ensure exclusivity).
      This is NOT the battle to have with the ex.

      • LikeSchoolOnSunday says:

        Sorry, but this is crazy. I live in LA. My husband and I pay $1700 a month on childcare (same age) and make half of what she is getting in alimony. We more than make that work. Not to mention this little girl is the daughter of a celebrity, she will get into wherever they want her to go, NO PROBLEM. I know this as fact having recently gone through the private school circus here. This is just greed on the part of the mother, and frankly rather offensive. It doesn’t take $13,000 A MONTH to care for a three year-old, not even here. It’s an insult for to mom’s, dad’s and step parents who make it work, with a hell of a lot less (if anything at all).

        Whats her contribution, especially if custody is 50/50.

      • Little Darling says:

        Let’s say that 7k went to housing (that would be a more than decent home in LA) another 3k went towards daily expenses (outrageous but whatever same lifestyle etc) that would still leave 3k to cover school and extra. If that breakdown doesn’t work, something is wrong.

        She wants alimony is what this is all about, and she doesn’t get it because she was only married for a year. CA courts are NO JOKE.

    • Zuzus Girl says:

      How much more do you expect him to pay Ice? Wow. Hope you never have a child with an ex.

  3. Mia V. says:

    I may be ignorant on my comment, but if he’s paying $13,000 a month for the kid support, can’t she pay preschool with that money? It’s for the kid.

    • claire says:

      It just really varies. My friend’s ex pays child support, and that amount is meant to cover his half of monthly expenses, so for childcare, school, etc. But others consider the child support to cover everything, without the custodial paying anything, and separate payments required for stuff like school, sports, classes, etc. Which is weird to me, but, whatever.

    • MiniMii says:


      I am so sick of people screaming “pay for your kid” at Renner. He IS paying, that’s what the $13 grand a month is – child support. If the mother wants a kid in a super expensive school, and 13 gthousand a month can’t cover it, well boo-hoo, maybe SHE needs to pay the balance.

      Good for him for not just rolling over and paying.

    • Samtha says:

      This is how my husband’s divorce worked out with his ex:

      -A monthly payment
      -Half of schooling, medical costs, etc.

      The monthly payment is for everyday expenses and to make sure the child has similar lifestyles with both sets of parents.

      • Jellybean says:

        He pays all the medical fees and I don’t doubt they will each pay half the educational bills, but the child is 3 and they are effectively talking about childcare, not her education.

      • Samtha says:

        Jellybean, that’s just not true, depending on where you live. Pre-school and daycare are similar but not always the same. If Sunni wants her daughter to go to decent private schools, her daughter needs to go to a decent pre-school as well.

      • paleokifaru says:

        If he’s paying her 13k a month then he may also have to pay a higher percentage for education and medical costs…we do because after 9 years my husband’s ex still refuses to work full time even though we have my step 50% of the time. If Sonni simply enrolled Ava and then told him pay up then he has every right to take that to court, particularly as I suspect he also has 50% legal custody. That 50% legal custody means decisions regarding education, medical, activities, etc are supposed to be jointly decided. Trust me, this is difficult, if not impossible, in acrimonious divorces. My husband’s ex would consistently stonewall us on getting my step signed up for sports, camps, etc and by doing so would get her way. Because my husband would follow the agreement and consult with her. Meanwhile in her time she would sign him up for things she thought were important, buy him “gifts” like instruments and then tell us that since she purchased them we had to handle the costs for repairs. All after the fact. So I definitely get it he’s saying no because it’s not in the custody agreement and she hasn’t consulted him. It’s not fair to expect someone who obviously wants to be involved in their child’s life to just toss money at your unilateral decisions.

      • S says:

        I’m the mom and the primary earner in my divorce. I pay child support for my split custody and I absolutely would expect to pay for half of preschool as well.

        Preschool is extremely important for kids – they learn socialization, form peer relationships, etc. There is a reason why Head Start is so important. Preschool is not childcare – jeez, I have a nanny for my two and the little one still went to preschool. It’s not like she expects him to pay for some optional rainbows and unicorns camp – it’s freaking preschool. It’s a pretty universal educational choice. Most of the people commenting here probably went to some form of preschool, and these days, especially in bigger cities, $400 a week for preschool is the norm.

      • Algernon says:

        @ Samtha

        As the child of a famous and well-connected actor, whether she goes to preschool or not Jeremy Renner’s kid won’t have any problem getting into even the most exclusive schools. That may well be a big part of why he doesn’t seem to think preschool is necessary, because he knows he can get his kid into wherever they decide to send her.

      • Naya says:

        Jeremy Renner is not a big enough name to get his kid into “any” school. He is hardly Tom Cruise or Beyonce. Those types of schools will likely have far bigger, wealthier and better connected parents on the waiting lists. In any case, child development studies have long established that pre-school serves an important function. So this isnt just about getting into good schools, its about giving your child a good “head start”.

      • Algernon says:

        @ Naya

        He’s extremely well connected. It doesn’t matter how famous he is, he’s extremely well connected. He has friends everywhere in LA. Pick a school, he will know at least one person to sponsor/recommend Ava. I agree that preschool is important, but not everyone sees it that way. I think it’s a reasonable assumption that he doesn’t agree preschool is necessary, and knows it won’t matter, in terms of getting into primary schools, because he can get her into whatever primary he wants.

      • LikeSchoolOnSunday says:


        She will have NO PROBLEM getting in to any school. He is a multimillionaire. Private schools fight over anyone with any type of name and money. You don’t have to be Tom Cruise or Beyonce, you just have to have deep enough pockets. She got a great head start… $$$.

    • Audrey says:

      They should have worked it out in the divorce. I suspect Kaiser is correct, they have an agreement worked out for when she starts regular school. But there were probably no preschool plans when they finalized things. Now mom wants to enroll her and thinks he should pay.

      I support preschool but have mixed feelings on who should pay. $13,000 per month is a heck of a lot so I feel like mom should be able to pay it. But perhaps they should split major expenses 50/50.

      Overall, I think the decision to do preschool should have been discussed together and payment arrangements discussed then. It seems like Sonni decided to enroll her and then just told Jeremy he needs to pay. He’s not an ATM

      • paleokifaru says:

        Agree 100% Audrey. I also support preschool (although I didn’t go myself but my younger brother did), especially for only children. However, if Renner wasn’t consulted and this is a choice she made by herself to be carried out during her time then I don’t see why he should have to pay. Different parents have different ideas about education. If he’s giving her plenty of hands on experiences and interactions with other children then I don’t see what the big deal is. He’s not keeping her out of elementary school or refusing to teach her how to read or learn math.

      • Sle says:

        I highly doubt that their divorce decree doesn’t spell out exactly how much he needs to pay for education and programs (sports, dance, gymnastics). It should go through all the extras and list exactly what percentage each party needs to pay even medical expenses. If he was on board and agreed to his daughters school he should be paying his share.

    • Kate says:

      In some states, child care is part of the child support calculation. Also, if she wanted him to specifically pay a portion of some type of educational expense, she should’ve negotiated it into the decree. A lot of divorce lawyers won’t allow their clients to agree to such expenses because it is very hard to get out of it.

  4. HH says:

    If you’re a celeb child, I guess it makes sense to go to a private institution where you’d encounter children who you can identify with. However, for average individuals…. Why would you pay for anything BUT college? Maybe if the surrounding school system was not so great. But $1600 a month is what, $30K a year?! For preschool?!

    • Luca76 says:

      In LA as far as I know most people who are even middle class try to have their children enrolled in private school. Why wouldn’t a man who literally has millions pay for his child to have an elite education? What a pig.

      • Jenny says:

        If the divorce decree ordered that he pay $13000 a month and does not separate out other expenses, then the childcare should come from that payment. It is possible anywhere in the US to live a very very comfortable life on $13000 a month.

      • Luca76 says:

        Yes it’s possible im not disputing that. I am saying he chose to procreate and should support his child and her education to the level that he can afford. It’s fair for him to pay for half of her tuition.

      • Jellybean says:

        Perhaps he thinks there are more important things a parent should be doing with their 3 year old child than sticking them in school. Have a look at his instagram. The focus of his time with her seems to be almost entirely fun learning, creativity and building physical confidence.

      • paranormalgirl says:

        How about we not call someone a “pig” when we really aren’t privy to their full agreement. My friend recently divorced and shares custody with her ex. She gets a set amount and that included early childhood educational costs. She paid for preschool with her child support. When it came time to enroll her son in formal education, they sat down, agreed (after several sessions) on a private school rather than a public school, and amended their agreement to include half the cost of the school, to be bundled into the support payment.

      • Tobbs says:

        The kis is three years old! It’s a bit much calling a man a pig over not paying for something that is optional. I’m not a fan of Renner but I applaud that he’s choosing to spend time with his daughter rather than sen her to preschool at the age of three. More dads need to spend quality time with their kids when they’re young and they should not be punished for it.

      • Annetommy says:

        Nice for this kid in a few years time to know that mommy and daddy were squabbling over paying for her to go to pre-school, and that everyone knew about it. Mom seems a gold digger but his attitude looks vindictive towards her. Most parents don’t have a court order specifying what has to be spent on a child, they just do what they can afford and what’s best. Pre-school sounds a good idea and he should cough up for the couple of years involved. I hope for this child’s sake they can try and resolve stuff like this privately in future.

    • Samtha says:

      I’ll be paying 1200 a month for a pre-school in Ohio this fall. Childcare costs are crazy.

    • Erinn says:

      I was wondering that yesterday – but I live in a small town. We just don’t have a competitive school system around here, and maybe ONE private high school in the province? I went to pre-school at the YMCA, and all I recall were doing arts and crafts, and swimming, and basically making sure you’re interacting well with other kids properly. Very basic lessons, keeping kids busy and learning, and getting them used to the idea of routine.

      But a poster from Toronto pointed out that schools like this are pretty common in more populated areas with more options for education, and for more competitive opportunities. Every day people ARE paying for these kinds of things – just not everywhere. We didn’t have options like Montessori schools in my area – but when you’re living in a big city, you’re going to have access to a lot more options for every stage of education.

      • HH says:

        Oh, I’ve lived in a couple different cities, from small to medium to large. I’ve heard discussions on school costs and I still remain flabbergasted. Mostly because I’ve met a variety of individuals who’ve gone to expensive schools… And I’ve never been $30K worth of impressed.

      • Luca76 says:

        Yes exactly. And in the elite world of private school the preschool you went to does actually matter. There is a reason that many educators are calling for universal Pre-K and even earlier intervention.

      • Jellybean says:

        I am a teacher and I think this is horrible. The notion of putting 2 and 3 year olds through all of this to get into a particular school is just wrong. The kid is already bouncing from parent to parent, while she is so young why can’t she just spend time playing with and learning from them? Take a look at his instagram and see all the things he is doing with her and tell me he isn’t teaching her and building her skills and confidence levels. I know for a fact that some parents just stick their kids in front of a TV or computer, but that is not the case here. Is he really such a failure as a dad because he thinks sending her to preschool should wait until she is 4? Several people have already pointed out that $1.6K is not a lot per month for a pre-school, so we are not talking an elite school anyway. The mother wants to send her, he obviously doesn’t. The mother has already been paid several hundred thousand dollars this year so she can afford to do what she wants. Surely that is the end of the story.

      • Lady D says:

        There was a story recently on the Daily Mail about kindergarten teachers getting upset with lazy parents. The teachers would spend the week teaching their charges potty training. They would make progress until the child went home for the weekend, but parents wouldn’t continue or enforce the potty training. By the time they went back to school they were back in diapers. I personally was absolutely gobsmacked to find out kindergarten teachers had to change diapers. Partly to learn teachers changed diapers, and partly the fact that 5-year-olds were still in diapers.

      • Jellybean says:

        Lady D, I can’t tell you how utterly heartbreaking some of the things I hear about at work are. Poverty and physical or sexual abuse are are horrific, but never underestimating the crushing effects of emotional or developmental neglect. Sometimes it is the parents who you would least expect that are the worst offenders and the kids who are the hardest to rescue are the ones whose parents over compensate when they get in trouble and blame the teachers. They somehow think it makes them good parents, but you can see it in the kid’s faces that they know the score.

      • Flowerchild says:

        @ Lady D and Jellybean

        Both of those stories are sad, both of your stories remind me of Mayim Bialik. She believes in letting her kids progress in their own way. So she doesn’t believe in working on her kids’ verbal skill like her oldest son didn’t speak until he was 3 and her youngest was 2. She also doesn’t believe in teaching your little ones the ABC or numbers, potty training, vaccination, how to write, read and so on.

        I find it odd that If her kid was 15 and still not potty training than it would be fine, but lets her kids watch TV and see a movies.

        Personally, I think she is doing her boys a great disservice by not working on their developmental skills. Unless she plans on her kids being trusted fund kids, they are going to be in for a rude awakening when they go out in the real world. The only good thing is that I see her kids being homeschooled if they have any type of education at all. A teacher would not have to deal with that situation.

      • Audrey says:


        I know someone raising her kids like that and I’m worried for her kids.

        She doesn’t vaccinate, doesn’t believe in doctors. Her oldest is three and doesn’t speak. She will not be sending them to school, she’s homeschooling even though she has no training and doesn’t plan on getting any.

        Her kids are pretty isolated, nobody really checks on their development since they don’t go to a doctor or anything.

      • Flowerchild says:


        That’s truly sad and scary. It’s scary because if there’s no doctor or someone checking on development skill, then she will never know if it’s minor or something much more serious.

  5. The Eternal Side-Eye says:

    …isn’t it awesome when people have kids they don’t want.


    Take your jack’o’lantern face somewhere else, like your daughter’s school office, to the secretary, to pay her TUITION. It is your CHILD’S education. You did the deed now suck it up and try to do right by the small human who’s really the victim in this.

    • claire says:

      Maybe he expects the preschool to be paid for out of the child support he’s already paying?

      • Erinn says:

        But if education wasn’t considered in that sum, then this needs to go back to the courts. If that amount was calculated without considering a pre-school cost – then it should be re-calculated with that in consideration.

        It’s not about what Sunni “deserves” or doesn’t deserve. If that sum was created to cover specific costs and education wasn’t one of them, the education shouldn’t be taking away from the previous costs. A lot of people see this as “well she’s getting x amount why is she complaining?”. But Renner isn’t that guy at the end of the block. He’s a VERY wealthy man – the cost of that tuition is a drop in the bucket for him. And honestly – of all the things to complain about covering – education shouldn’t be the deal breaker.

        I just can’t understand making so much money and not desperately wanting to do whatever you can to make sure your kid gets the best education you can afford. It’s not about a vacation, or buying her a pony. It’s the foundation she’s going to be building her life on.

      • Adrien says:

        He wants to punish Pacheco. $1.6 K/mo is just a paltry amount to this high paying actor. Poor Ava.

      • claire says:

        @Adrien: why would it be $1600? It would be $800 from him. It’s her kid too = she pays half, yes?

    • Abby_J says:

      Do you know anything about this man other than the fact that you don’t think he’s attractive? Seems pretty obvious he DOES want his child. If you have proof, besides the fact that he doesn’t want to give in to his wife’s demands for MORE money than the court saw fit for him to pay, I’d love to see them.

      I’ll wait. I’m sure I’ll be waiting for a very long time.

      • Anon33 says:

        Hey Abby: where’s your “proof” to the contrary??? And please don’t point me to an Instagram account. Which is clear PR.

        I’m waiting…

      • Abby_J says:


        I made no accusations, therefore, I don’t have to offer proof of anything.

        You think Instagram and all of the interviews are for show. Think what you want, but there isn’t a SHRED of evidence to back up the claim that he doesn’t want his kid.

        Apparently all that you need to prove something here is that the dude is ugly and might be gay.

        Still waiting.

      • Jellybean says:

        Anon, how about the fact that he married her mother and then fought like crazy in the courts to make sure he got shared custody?

      • V4Real says:

        I’m going to jump on Abby’s bandwagon and add you haven’t read anything about him not spending time with his daughter, have you? Also the ex hasn’t made claims that he doesn’t want or doesn’t spend time with his daughter. And yes, he did fight like hell to keep his daughter in his country to have shared custody. That’s all the proof you need. Now let’s see the naysayer’s receipts.

      • Noname says:

        I think the fact he fought to keep his daughter in this country is evidence he wants his kid.

        Most of you are confusing a legal obligation vs moral obligation. If the divorce did not mention pre-school education, he has no legal obligation to pay it.

    • Little Darling says:

      ESE as a woman/mama of divorce to a high powered movie executive in LA, I can honestly say preschool isn’t part of the deal. Especially if mom is home with the child. Rarely, rarely do they consider preschool a mandatory expense that should be paid for. If Jeremy is with her half of the time during the day, and Sonni is sending her to school and not working, the court isn’t likely to Side with mom. I can also tell you first hand that the courts also want to see mom trying to get work, and trying to meet her half of the agreement. Courts in LA particularly look down upon mothers who want a free ride or want to stay home and live a life not working. I know this first hand. It’s good and bad, but mostly it protects all parties from being taken advantage of. I’ll also say that for a one year marriage she’s getting way more than most normal Civilian marriages would, being married for only a year. Also, it’s almost ALWAYS 50/50 here unless a parent is seriously, majorly damaged, and even then, they usually work through supervised visits etc.

      Child support is cut and dried and offers up Room to change as income
      Might change. I don’t think he ever disputed child support?

      As an aside, I think she’s an opportunist and I think he’s a jerk for the black widow comments. But that doesn’t change that from what I’ve seen in gossip I think he’s a decent father. Which is more than so many fathers I know.

      • A says:

        Thank you. As a feminist and child of divorce, I naturally want to see a woman taken care of and almost always just sided with them woman and would have agreed he should just pay just to shut her up. Then I dated a guy who gave his ex the house in the divorce, paid child support, paid for health insurance and all the private school and agreed to pay his ex alimony until the kids were out of high school so she could stay home and she still was constantly complaining and dragging him to court for literally things that were like in the $200-$2000 range. Which given the financial scope of their divorce was a drop in the bucket and she could have totally afforded. I know, rich people problems, but it totally changed my perspective….

    • Audrey says:

      He seems to be an extremely involved and loving father.

      He already pays a large amount of child support and pays even more as he earns more money.

      I don’t think he deserves to be insulted.

  6. Christine says:

    $1600 per month….so he’s balking at $800 per month? He’s just an asshole.

    • What was that says:

      He is a total creep..and cheapskate ..
      There is a theory about some actors that they never believe that they will keep the good jobs so they are penny pinching..but when it comes to your only and probably will be only child this is really bad…
      Unfortunately there are others like him..who treat the child like a ego game and he is not going to let the mother’win’

      • Little Darling says:

        But why should the mother “win”? That’s not fair to him either. Because he has a strong career he needs to just pay and pay her every whim when it comes to his baby? See, to me I see it as she will continuously take him back to court again and again under the guise of “child support” when in actuality I think she’s trying to stick it to him.

      • Jellybean says:

        Should he have let her win when she wanted sole custody? Or when she wanted the 10 month old prenup torn up? He has already paid her several hundred thousand dollars this year, he is not penny pinching. He strikes me that he is the sort of person who makes an agreement and sticks with it. I personally think that is a good thing.

      • Algernon says:

        @ Little Darling

        This is my thing. It’s not that I like him so much (although I don’t think he’s as bad as gossip blogs make him seem, I think he’s just kind of an idiot, like most actors), it’s that I don’t think anyone should just pay whatever their ex says, which is basically blackmail. Courts exist for a reason, let a judge work out who should be paying what. It seems like he’s already paid her a lot of money and she is choosing to send the kid to optional preschooling which he doesn’t seem in step with. I don’t think any of that is reason enough to just blindly pay whatever she demands.

    • claire says:

      Again, why wouldn’t his $800 a month towards the preschool come out of the $13,000 a month he’s giving her? That’s hardly anything out of the whole amount.

    • LikeSchoolOnSunday says:

      He pays her $13, 000 a month. She can pay for school and still live lavish. Does she work? Where is the other $800 coming from?

  7. HotTuna says:

    1300 in large cities is really not much. For me to work a full time job I pay 1000/month for my daughter’s preschool. And I’m in a B-city. Ugh.

    I also find his wording that he’s paid hundreds and thousand towards his daughters care strange. He can pay for everything when his daughter is with him and NOT pay child support and that statement would still be true.

    My ex is fighting paying me child support. He doesn’t want me to have “any more access to his money”. The court requires I keep receipts and prove spending was used for my daughter but he still refuses. But he would say he’s spent all of his money on our kiddo. So almost the same as Renner. (With hundreds of thousands of dollars less).

    • Audrey says:

      Renner pays his ex $13,000 per months plus more if he earns above a certain amount in a year and he has been working so he probably paid her a large bonus.

      He also pays for his daughter’s expenses when she’s with him.

      Your ex sounds like a real jerk but I don’t think Renner is the same situation

    • Jellybean says:

      Hot Tuna, she put a tweet of his into her court documents in which he basically said I am sorry you cannot manage to look after Ava on more than $300K. So I don’t think the wording is meant to be misleading, she has had several thousand dollars (>$300K) from him this year.

      • Abby_J says:

        I think it was a text. I only correct you because a private text about the issue between the two is different than going at each other on Twitter and I’d hate to give the Renner haters anymore ammo. 🙂

  8. Kate Ramsay says:

    Why does she have the kid in preschool? I don’t have kids. Is the ex working, or just doesn’t want to deal with a kid during the day?

    • Samtha says:

      I posted this the other day–there’s a difference between pre-school and daycare. Daycare is basically enhanced babysitting. Pre-school is literally school-like activities for younger children. If you live in a city like NYC (and possibly LA) and want your child in a decent private school, you need to send them to a good pre-school.

      Plus, it’s good for kids to have the experience. It prepares them for regular school and teaches them about socializing, etc.

      • Little Darling says:

        He’s a big celebrity. His daughter will get into any private school she wants without a wait list, I’m fairly positive about that.

    • Audrey says:

      I’m a stay at home mom and my daughter will start preschool this year. She is 3 but she’s always been home with me. We do various play groups and activities. But it’s not the same as school.

      We’re sending her so she gets experience being away from me. And she’ll be around other kids so she can learn to play and interact better with other children. Preschool is also educational and we’ll know that she has a solid foundation when she starts school.

      My friend has her masters degree in education and she highly recommends preschool for all kids. She said there is an obvious difference between kids who went and those who stayed home until kindergarten or first grade. The ones who stayed home have a harder time adjusting emotionally and spend a lot of time playing catch up.

      Mind you, my daughter will only go twice per week for a few hours(then more next year to ease her in). And it’s less than $100 per month.

  9. Samtha says:

    Why do you need a court to compel you to pay for your child’s education? Come on.

    Many (most?) custody arrangements have stipulations that parents make joint decisions on schooling, so if he doesn’t want his daughter in pres-school, that’s something he needs to take to court or a mediator.

    • Algernon says:

      Preschool isn’t required in LA county (maybe for whole state of California?) and so it’s often left out of custody agreements. It’s considered an optional expense. When it comes time to pay for Kindergarten on up, then his part of the deal will kick in, where he has to pay half of all schooling costs.

  10. Ollie says:

    The child support is 13 000 a month. What is the mother doing with all this money? How does a 3 years old lead a lifestyle that needs more than 13000 a month? Especially when the little girl lives 50/50 with the father.

  11. Cee says:

    Whatever. This is about his daughter’s education. A good pre-school leads to a good K, and then on to good private schools.

    This isn’t about buying Ava designer shoes and mini-bags, or even a pony. I don’t understand why he wouldn’t want to pay for it, considering he can afford it. My pre-school actually had a big impact on my application being accepted at my private school (kinder, preparatory and college).

  12. ItHappenedOneNight says:

    We live in a big city and have our son in a preschool that costs $1500/mo. It’s a very good preschool and because he’s an only child, it’s an opportunity for him to socialize. The research also strongly suggests that the advantages of sending your kid to a high quality preschool has long-lasting benefits for children well into adulthood. If her parents can afford it, why shouldn’t she have those benefits? If paying for preschool isn’t in the divorce decree (and every one is different), then Renner’s defense should be handled easily. Why this is all made public is beyond me, however. What DOES need to be included in the divorce decree is a provision that no disparaging remarks be made about the other parent (which is also another common inclusion.)

    • paleokifaru says:

      I completely agree they should not be running to the press or disparaging each other. However, if it was in the court agreement don’t you think these two would run to court every five seconds accusing the other of bad behavior?

      • Little Darling says:

        I get the impression that neither one is actually going to the press, but TMZ checks public court records every day to see who is filing what, thus forcing the publicists to speak about it publically once TMZ reports it.

      • paleokifaru says:

        But then they know the court documents are being monitored and that every time one of them files they will have to comment. It seems like mediation would be a better starting place for a lot of their issues. Although financial disputes may have to go directly court. However, the basic discussion of whether or not they believe Ava needs preschool and on whose time could have started with a mediator so it’s all on record. I would be covering my behind like crazy in this situation.

      • Little Darling says:

        Mediation is a very tricky process, because both parties have to be in 100% agreement, which would mean it wasn’t contentious at all. She is the one who is doing the filing, so either she’s tried talking to him via text to no avail, or she wants to publically shame him.

        Either way, it is going to be pretty clear who is in the right or wrong here if he is keeping records of all transactions to her and she of him. Making the claim that someone owes $48,000 of back child support has to be supported with some kind of evidence, so if this is in fact the case, it will be discovered in court. That’s no small chump change, and his lawyer is saying he has absolutely paid it, so it will be interesting what happens.

      • paleokifaru says:

        Mediation can be tricky but at least here, AZ, they can make some decisions without 100% agreement on an issue. An example is ex wanted no after school activities for an only child with excellent grades. My husband wanted team or social activities, ie learning piano from mom or another adult would not count. The mediator stipulated one per season of an activity minimum with more needing discussion. We have always offered to pay all/our larger percentage for activities taking place that covers time with both parents. A similar thing happened with an advanced (free) magnet school that SS got into. Mom didn’t want him to attend (don’t ask about the reasoning) and my husband did. Mediator said SS needed to give it a full semester and they could come back to him in the spring if he was unhappy with it or grades were slipping. He’s going into his third year there. So sometimes when people just won’t budge a mediator can find a reasonable solution that considers the kid and doesn’t have a parent who doesn’t believe in it footing a big bill.

      • Little Darling says:

        Right, in LA it’s more of a third party counselor to help diffuse hot button issues if you can’t talk about them with your ex alone. But if the issues remain, they advise you to make another appointment. To get that kind of decision here when the parties don’t agree, you have to see the judge.

    • Algernon says:

      They have that clause. I remember when their settlement was publicized, there was a comment that was something like neither side talk $hit about the other. I don’t know how that gets enforced, practically, though.

      • paleokifaru says:

        From what I’ve seen it doesn’t really. Although in the examples I know of it’s a lot of he/she said and trying to drag third parties into it. Even if you have written communication between adults you’d have to be able to prove the kid actually read that communication or it was read out loud to them. With a lot of people I know it’s either sniped about in mediation or they try to take it to court and quickly dismissed. Maybe it’s different in other areas. It’s probably also very different if it was put on some kind of public profile, put out as a quote to the media, etc. That seems more enforceable.

  13. Lilacflowers says:

    He has not said he won’t pay for Ava’s education. For all anyone here knows, he could be committed to paying for private school from 1st grade through college. He also spends a lot of time with his daughter. If pre-school is not in the agreement, it sounds like something the mother decided to do on her own, without consultation, and she should pay for it out of the healthy monthly child support she is receiving.

    • Jellybean says:

      I totally agree.

    • Little Darling says:

      Totally agree Lilac/jellybean. And let’s face it. This child will not be wait listed to get into the best private school because she is the daughter of a celebrity.

      • Algernon says:

        This is my thing. Preschool is not going to matter to this kid. She’ll go wherever Renner puts her because he can get her into any school.

  14. Morgan says:

    I follow him on Instagram and he clearly seems like a loving father. I totally buy that splitting this coat wasn’t in the divorce agreements, he’s following the letter of the decree and she is smearing him. Could he cough it up? Obviously, but I bet with his ex you have to stand firm with the decision or she’ll start finding all the wiggle room she can for more money.

  15. QQ says:

    COME ON MY VERY RICH AVENGERS MONEY GUY!!??!! is paying the freaking Kid’s Preschool that onerous for you?? worse than this sh*tshow playing out in public??? SMDH

    • Jellybean says:

      If you read his reps comment you will see that he has already paid her several hundred thousand dollars this this year. If she has unilaterally decided to put the 3 year old into preschool during her half of the week then she has more than enough money to pay for it.

  16. Aang says:

    My brother pays a monthly sum plus 1/2 of school, summer camp, activities. I think that is normal. And his ex does not work and can easily take care of the child during the summer but insists on all day, all summer, day camp.

  17. Menlisa says:

    Don’t they have 50/50 custody?
    I’m sure he pays childcare/nanny for his time with his own dime why can’t she do the same? She is getting $13000 a month.
    Does she work?
    Just because Renner is the richer of the two doesn’t mean he must constantly fork over whatever the mom demands.

  18. Nicole says:

    I will probably get a ton of backlash for this statement, and honestly, I don’t even care. Some of you are completely absurd with your ranting and raving about Renner paying for his child, and acting as if $13,000.00 a month is pennies. He is, and its $13,000.00 a month. That totals out to a little over $108,000.00 a year in support. That is more then most combined households in the US have. Could he afford to pay more, sure, but $13,000.00 isn’t chump change like some of you are ranting as if it is. Child support is for the child, not the parent. $13,000.00 a month can easily pay for tuition, clothes, food, and shelter in a relatively good area of LA. Are you going to live in the lush posh areas, no. But you won’t be living in the “hood” on that. If someone making $25.00 bucks an hour can support themselves and their kid, like some of my friends in LA do, then this chick can do it on $13,000.00. Some women, and their outrageous thoughts about what you do and don’t deserve, annoy the ever-loving life out of me. Life would be easier if you loved your kid more, than you hated your ex.

    • Sandy says:

      I’ll have to agree with you. Some seem to have a bone to pick with Renner and can’t have rational thoughts on the situation. I personally am neutral on him. I think he is within his rights to want to stick with the court order that he is faithfully paying, as far as we know and not give in to every whim of his ex. I think his ex doesn’t deserve a free pass because she has less earning potential and should be expected to contribute what is reasonable to support her daughter. This Hollywood convention of the rich ex financing the other’s lifestyle so the child can live “rich” all the time is crazy to me. This is why so many damn people are so entitled these days, this idea they are owed something in life.

    • Illyra says:

      Great posts Nicole and Sandy.

    • menlisa says:

      Agree with you both Nicole & Sandy!

    • Kassie says:

      I respectfully disagree.

    • noway says:

      Apparently he has 50/50 custody of the child too. I live in the DC area, also very expensive and $1600 is most likely not just Pre-K but also daycare. Most Pre-K programs, for obvious attention span reasons for 3 year olds is not full day, but usually 2-3 hours period. The other part is day care. For all anyone on here knows, he may not want the child in daycare for an extra five hours a day. People do realize that is $20,000 a year, and I send my child to a very good high ranked private school and pay that much. Generally the only time it costs this much is if daycare is a component of it. This isn’t just a pre-k program. To further make this an issue why try to shame the Dad. If you don’t like the agreement, go to court and ask for it. If he is paying the court allotted amount of $13K a month, then he will probably pay for this if it is allocated by the court. She is going to have to raise this kid with him for 15 more years, and if he continues to have 50/50 custody this could be a really hard time. I would be trying to get a long a bit better.

  19. AlwaysSuspect says:

    I’m going to have to side with Renner on this. The monthly sum provided should be more than enough to cover education. If it isn’t then their daughters expenses need to be itemized AGAIN for the court so that all can see where the money goes.

  20. Who ARE these people? says:

    If my lawyer wrote something like, “…extricate him from as much money as she can,” I’d have to whip out my red pen and fix it. And double-check that lawyer on everything going forward.

    It’s “extricate as much money from him as she can.”


    • Jellybean says:

      Laure Wasser is his lawyer. She didn’t write that. They haven’t filed a response yet.

  21. Thaisajs says:

    Yes, $13K a month is a huge amount of money for all of us. It isn’t much for him. Do we honestly think Sonni actually works? I doubt she does. She’s probably living on that $13K a month so of course she wants him to fork over that extra $800 a month. If she was working in any sort of job that paid more than minimum wage, this wouldn’t be a big deal. I doubt she’s even doing that. Which is why she’s asking for him to cough up more for the little girl’s preschool.

    Is it right for her to life off her kid’s child support? Of course not. But it happens all the time. If I were Jeremy Renner, I’d give her the extra $800/mo to avoid all of this terrible publicity. The fact he’s not helping pay for school makes him look awful. Much worse than if she was simply asking for more child support because she wants it.

    • Jellybean says:

      She has recently got a job as a realtor. I imagine that she put the kid into pre-school so she could work. They do share the cost of a nanny, but I guess there are some limits on the hours the nanny works. She only has the kid half the week, so I am sorry but I think she should cough up for the child care,

      As for making him look awful, this is just one more example of her picking accusations that make horrible headlines. She never wins these cases, but the damage is always done. It is highly likely this is all about putting pressure on him to stop fighting and pay her whatever she asks for. It might be painful, but I think it is absolutely right that he doesn’t give into blackmail. It would be nice to think that after awhile the courts could offer him some sort of protection, but I have no idea if that is possible.

    • claire says:

      He is helping. The money for his half of the preschool cost should be coming out of the $13,000 a month he gives her. If she’s living off money for her kid, then she needs to make an adjustment, not him. She doesn’t even have full custody.

  22. marmalazed says:

    I pay my kids’ tuition. That’s just the arrangement we made in our final decree. He pays me child support and I use it on the kids as I see fit. Plus, if I’m not counting on him to pay the school half, I don’t have to worry about whether he’ll pay on time, etc. It’s just less that I have to deal with him or rely on him. I get my child support, I pay the tuition–done.

  23. jferber says:

    The $13,000 a month is so the child can live in the same manner and style with BOTH parents. It’s about parity. Renner’s lifestyle with his daughter is supposed to be on a par with Sonni’s lifestyle with her daughter. I’d bet that Renner’s lifestyle (including homes/travel/entertainment, etc.) costs a helluva lot more than $13,000 a month. He is being petty about the pre-school. She’s an only child and it’s important for her to interact and play with other kids. And at the child’s age, play IS how they learn (I’m a teacher myself). So, yeah, he’s a petty bitch. Also, he’s made some really horrible statements about women. Is it proper for him to be parenting a child when he’s made so many misogynistic statements? Just sayin’.

    • Jellybean says:

      They live within spitting distance of 3 young cousins and goodness knows how many god childen, since he has a huge number of friends. The family is extremely close and they seem to almost live together so she is not living as an only child even if she is one. Renner may only pay a basic rate of $13K a month, but according to the statement above he has already paid her several hundreds of thousands of dollars this year; he has to pay extra if he earns above $2.3M. At 3 schooling is an optional extra that his ex has chosen and she can easily afford it. As for the sexist comments they were all made in the middle of this mess with his ex who tried to take the kid, tear up the prenup and blackmail him. As a character reference I turn to the lovely Amy Adams who was recently asked why she had asked for Renner to play opposite her in a big film coming up this year – ‘I had worked with him as an actor but I also know him as a compassionate man and a father’ … he is a lovely, lovely man and so compassionate, I just wanted people to see that in a role he played’ The quote is a bit dodgy but the general content is there and I can give you the video link if you want it.

    • Nicole says:

      Give me strength… This whole “fair” crap drives me nuts about women and men. So you are telling me, just because a person’s ex-spouse is wealthy, and to be “fair” then the ex-spouse needs to pay for the rest of their children’s life to provide a standard across the board? Sorry, but children shouldn’t be looked at as a paycheck. If you want your child to have the same luxuries as an ex-spouse that has a higher income, even with support, then get off your butt and work harder for it. I don’t care if you have a penis or not, you are effectively demanding to be paid more because you had sex and procreated with someone rich. It’s obnoxious.

      • Veronica says:

        The reason why child support was established to be an equal measure of living standards was because – at the time it was put into law – women and their children were literally being left in poverty after their spouses left them. It was dragging down the welfare system and putting a burden on taxpayers. Beyond that, a spouse who has sacrificed their career to raise children has permanently impacted their lifetime earning potential, especially if they’ve been parenting for a long period of time. Granted, I agree the laws could probably be reformed now that women have greater access to the workplace, but the laws are not gender-specific and apply equally in situations where the father is the primary custodian.

        Do I think that children should be used as a paycheck? Absolutely not. But do I think the child support laws are fundamentally flawed? Not really. Outdated, perhaps, and requiring of some editing, but still fundamentally sound in principle. Cases like this are a little egregious because the custody is shared 50/50, and in that case, I do think the child support expenses should have to be directly tracked to child care expenses, but in cases where one parent has full custody? I think supporting your children financially is the least a human being can do.

  24. mary s says:

    Southern Cali girl chiming in here. First, $13,000 a month is not really that much for the area in which she probably lives. Housing payments, activities, and vacations really add up. For example, we live in a small city in the LA metro area, and my daughter’s group swimming lessons run about $50 per month at a community pool. Ballet is $145 a month for two lessons a week. A decent house in a nice neighborhood will go for around $800,000, probably more. That $13,000 is not going to allow for a lot of luxury out here. Asking Renner to pay $800 a month for preschool/daycare seems very reasonable. He is either not very nice or there’s more to the story.

    • Jellybean says:

      Here we go again. $13K/month is just the basic rate, he has already paid her more than $300K this year. I imagine next year she will be in school proper and their joint payments as agreed in the divorce will kick in. Based on his comments and instagram it is highly likely that the decision to put her in school at 3 was her decision alone and the child stays at home with him during his half of the week.

    • Nicole says:

      SoCal people are such a different breed then us Norcal folks. Sure $13,000 a month isn’t much if you want to eat out, and live in a posh area where all the hot spots are. But you live within your means, and you can easily afford a mortgage payment in areas of LA and its outer areas that aren’t crime ridden. Living in a middle class area, I have seen rent sitting at $3000.00. That leaves $10,000.00 a month for other expenses. But in LA, its so materialistic. Not all, but a good majority of you define your worth by what car you drive, clothes you wear, and neighborhood you live in. Sure if you want to live in Malibu, you will be paying $13,000.00 in rent easy. But you don’t NEED to live there, you just want to. I mean how do you think the people whom make 30,000 to $50,000 make it there, cause trust me, there are plenty that only make that and still do.

      • Little Darling says:

        I live in LA as well, divorced in LA and got 10k a month for my kids/alimony. Now, they were in school at that point, but 10k is more than enough to have a beautiful home, take vacations, join the swim club, pay for sports/extracurricular activities, drive a luxury car, buy pretty much anything we needed, put myself through school and still save. I had that amount for 4 years while I changed careers to have a more flexible career for my kids. No, I don’t live in Beverly Hills, or Malibu, but I live within walking distance to the beach in a great neighborhood with amazing school district. It’s absolutely possible. I work in LA, so again, no problem. It’s about choice. The funny thing is that initially, in mediation I put my costs at a comfy 5k, my ex balked and wound up having to fork over 5k more.

    • noway says:

      Okay Southern Cali girl now I know why a lot of people don’t have money. Yes $13,000K is a lot for 50/50 shared custody, and as others said because Jeremy is pretty good with his money he has paid a lot more as there is a percentage of earnings clause in the decree. If both are spending the same amount that would be $312,000 a year to raise a three year old. Now I know LA is expensive, but it is only 8th in the nation in cost of living, and I live in #1 Washington, DC. and trust me I can raise my child on $312,000 a year in a pretty high end house and neighborhood, and I have never paid as little as $145 a month for dance lessons a month or $55 for swim lessons try doubling or quadrupling the swim lessons price and she had both for few years.

      Here’s a tip though for her, if you have a spouse who is paying the court allotted amount without a problem, and you want more go to court and ask for it. Don’t shame him publicly, especially when you don’t have full custody. Eventually her daughter may read this. It just isn’t the way to handle it.

  25. Liz says:

    Some women are their own worst enemy. What is the big deal about sending her to preschool? It’s a wonderful way of helping children adapt to school. They became more aware of clean up time and learn to socialize. Why does Jeremy have to nickel and dime every situation? Halle B has to pay a significant amount for her daughter as well. He should too.

    • Jellybean says:

      I think if he already paid her more than $300K this year and covers all her medical costs and has agreed to pay half of the madatory and further education cost, then I think he has earned the right to say enough is enough. If they have a different approach to pre-school education it seems petty that she should go after him to subsidize the choices she makes during the 50% of the week she has the child. She has to take some responsibility for her choices.

  26. poppy says:

    the ex claims he is in arrears on his child support and has filed in court that he is specifically X$ behind. his attorney disagrees and claims he pays on time. i doubt her attorney is dumb enough to be so specific and make false claims which are easily proven when false accusations would have a very negative impact on any future filings. sounds like rennet pays when he wants and what he wants.
    she wants more support specifically for school but wants him to pay what he already owes, which sounds reasonable.
    he has never struck me as a reasonable person. divorce is never final (meaning you eliminate the other from your life, especially when you share offspring) and this makes him look bad.

    it isn’t as if he can’t pay for the school directly if he doesn’t trust his ex. pre-k is so beneficial and is considered the standard now so much so that most states pay for this “grade” of school despite not having robust education budgets. pre-k is valid at the very least.

    he can and should and pay his support payments on time. if he does what’s right then his ex will have to dig hard and deep to inconvenience him (if that is her ultimate MO).

    • Jellybean says:

      Wait for the outcome. Her accusation are always terrible and never come to anything.

    • noway says:

      In fairness, if they have this percentage of earning clause the lawyer may think he owes more. I haven’t seen her actual claim, and again I think she is classifying daycare as pre school to some extent too. I wouldn’t say just because a lawyer files a claim means it is true. If that was the case the courts wouldn’t be booked up. Also, if I was Renner’s lawyer I would see if we can ask for closed filings, and while we are at it Gabriel Aubrey’s lawyer should ask for that too, cause I think it is bad for the kids when they start to read about all this crap. It just doesn’t look good for the children, not sure if you can do that in California, but it would be a great idea.

  27. hogtowngooner says:

    If it’s true that she just enrolled Ava into a pre-school and then asked Renner to pay for half, that seems inappropriate on her behalf. Decisions like the when/where/how of education should be made jointly before enrollment.

    I feel bad for this kid when she grows up and reads about how immature her parents are acting, dragging all this out into the public.

  28. meh says:

    Jeremy Renner is garbage. I already hated him for his vile, sexist comments about Black Widow being a slut, and his non-apology thereafter. Now he doesn’t want to pay for his daughter to attend preschool, something that is pretty universally proven to benefit child development throughout a kids life. Shame.

  29. The Original Mia says:

    Sonni needs to stop with the vindictiveness. All this fighting with Jeremy isn’t going to accomplish a damn thing. She could have stuck with him and gotten more money. She didn’t. She was never going to be given 100% custody and allowed to move back to Canada, so it’s time to put the bitterness aside and coparent like an adult. Pay the money for preschool and move on with her life.

  30. Veronica says:

    I was all ready to be annoyed with him, and then I saw what he actually pays in child support, and I was like, “Really bitch?” My mother had three of us to deal with after my father washed his hands of us, AND a court order, and he still got away with paying her less than what he actually owed us. If Renner isn’t paying his child support, he can #%*! right off, but otherwise, she can do the same. At this point, it’s just unnecessary and vindictive.

  31. kimbers says:

    Clicked on this link bc i see his name from time to time, but have no idea who he is. I mow know his beard wants to to send their daughter to preschool and he’s some jerk who played on a movie I’ve never seen….cool.

  32. khaveman says:

    So, for her sake, rent/mortgage $5000, School 3000, bills 1500. Food 1500. That’s 2 grand left. And if she’s earning anything, that adds to it. Is this her living beyond her means??? I am not judging, but girl’s on a budget. And if you share rent with a housemate?