Jude Law: ‘I think without children & family in your life, you’re not living’


Jude Law has a feature in the new issue of Modern Luxury to promote his new HBO miniseries, The Young Pope. I thought Jude was playing the so-called young pope as an Italian or some kind of European, but apparently his pope is an American. I’m not worried about that – Jude can do a decent American accent, and The Young Pope actually looks really good. I suspect Jude will be up for many TV awards for the miniseries in the coming year. Anyway, you can read the full Modern Luxury piece here. Some highlights:

He’s figured out the meaning of life: “It’s about having a family around you and being yourself in that family and learning who you are through it. I mean, what else is there, to be honest? I think without children and family in your life, you’re not living. It’s a wonderful, vital element.”

His research for The Young Pope: “I have great interest in faith and how faith evolves through different influences, but I had very little solid understanding of the Catholic faith. So I read the history of the Vatican. I read the history of the popes and the papal order. I read around the history of the church. It was a never-ending library. … I didn’t really feel like it was getting me particularly any closer to this character.”

Being so good-looking when he was young: “I think for me, personally, for a few years I felt I was doing some really good work as a young actor, and it seemed people just wanted to talk about what I look like, as opposed to the work I was doing.”

He’s happy that people recognize his work now that he’s in his 40s: “I guess, you get into [your] mid-40s, as a man anyway, they don’t want to seem to emphasize that quite as much. Or maybe the emphasis isn’t there anymore because there are other young, good-looking types coming along, and they’re probably more interesting to write about. I love how age has such an influence on the job I do. The career you’re having as a 40-year-old actor is completely different than you have as a 20-year-old actor. … I could never have played Lenny when I was 25 because there’s a certain amount of experience he has that a 45-year-old has that a 25-year-old doesn’t have.”

Playing the press game: “There are ways in which I can have people think that I’m public property without being. You learn to play the game to a degree, where you go, ‘Okay. I give them that, but they’ll never have this.’”

He’s currently dating 30-year-old psychologist Phillipa Coan: “She’s mine and no one else’s. I’m very, very happy. A large part of that is the fact that she’s a very private person. And our relationship is a very private thing, and I think part of the fact it works so well is exactly because of that.”

Fatherhood: “I love being a dad. It’s emotional and exhausting. But it’s also wonderful…. Teenagers are going through such a hellish time, and the people they love the most, they’re going to get it in the neck. It’s like a rite of passage. When they come out of it—hopefully unscathed, a little wiser—and they return to the fold and sort of realize you’re not the ogre they thought you were, it’s a beautiful thing.”

[From Modern Luxury]

I do think Jude’s teenage kids – the ones he had with Sadie Frost – are probably going to end up going into acting and modeling and singing, much like the Beckham kids. They’ll be the nepotism models/actors for Britain, just like the Hadids, Jenners, Baldwins, etc of America. As for Jude’s relationship with Phillipa Coan… he has been very low-key with her. They’ve been dating for a year and there are only a handful of photos of the two of them. My guess is that they’ll be going strong… until they aren’t. Until she gets pregnant with Jude’s sixth child, probably.

Here are some pics of Phillipa and Jude at the ATP Finals in London in November. She reminds me of Mamie Gummer.



Photos courtesy of WENN.

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  1. Bichon60 says:

    He’s wrong. Children don’t automatically confer “living” and celebrities usually shouldn’t wax philosophical.

    • Becky says:

      Agreed, speak for yourself Jude.

      Although generally having a support network of friends and family is good for you (studies have shown this).

      • zxc says:

        Does he support the kids though? I don’t mean financially. Does he put them to sleep and take to the doctors? Wake up at night when they have a bad dream or a fever? He has what, 5 kids in 3 different houses? How supportive can he be between that and a gf and a job that requires him to travel? I like Jude and he’s not an idiot which is rare for actors but the thing that matters most to Jude is usually Jude…

      • grace says:

        I’m pretty sure he was speaking for himself.

      • thaliasghost says:

        Yes, speak for yourself, British actor who I associate firstly with cheating on your partners and having multiple children all around. That demonstrates a lot of care for your children…not. He also is the one cheating and thus, leaving the mothers to do the actual hard work of parenting as he moves on to the next relationship.

        I also agree with the point that some people are really lucky having a family with great, loving, supportive people. Some are not.

        The children are already modeling and are indeed the UK version of nepotism.

      • M4lificent says:

        Yup. If you are paying proper attention to your 5 kids spread across 3 houses that are likely on at least 2 continents, then you don’t have time for a girlfriend.

    • here or there says:


    • lisa says:

      yes, he’s ridiculous, (1) breeding doesnt give you meaning or happiness and (2) how many families does he need even if this is his philosophy?

    • Jess says:

      Completely agree, and I hate when people say crap like “you don’t know what love is until you have a child” or things equally ridiculous. I have a child, the love is different than love I felt before but that doesn’t make it greater than love I felt before. Life is worth living with or without children, I’m surprised to hear a man say something like that, usually it’s women trying to passive aggressively put another woman down.

    • Alix says:

      ITA. Celebrities should shut up most of the time. Especially those who value their family so much that they’re habitual cheaters.

    • Nancy says:

      I’m sure couples who are happy but unable or not interested in having children might disagree with him. Hey Jude…were you happy with Sienna when you slept with the nanny. With some people, the less said, the better. I would put him in that category.

    • Miss Jupitero says:

      Thus spake the guy who banged the nanny.

      “Family” means many things for many people, and it doesn’t have to involve popping out babies or thanksgiving tables. There is such a thing as “chosen family,” which I cherish. I would argue that friendship and community in general is underrated, and that we suffer greatly for neglecting our connection to humanity outside of the family unit.

      Not to go too off-topic, but I would love to see more emphasis on community and neighborliness in our culture, and less obsession with just having children. I just read Bowling Alone by Robert Putnam, which examine show we have become increasingly disconnected from one another– I recommend it. He has another book, Our Kids, which takes on how the next generation is facing horrifyingly diminishing prospects also looks good.

      I marvel at how so many people who would consider themselves to be “pro-family” also support near-dystopian economic policies that pretty much make it impossible for most people to support and care for their families, and which guarantee increased misery and deprivation for the coming generations.

      • Sixer says:

        “near-dystopian economic policies”

        Mr Sixer is currently reading a load of feminist economists who are talking about changing family shapes and how the existing system can’t cope with the monetising of care labour (elder social care, childcare, etc) and how mainstream economics is decades behind the curve using modelling for households that don’t exist any more. Shout out if you’re interested – when he gets in from work I’ll get him to provide a few links.

      • lisa says:


        i would love to hear some of mr sixer’s recommendations on that

      • Miss Jupitero says:

        Count me in, Sixer! I would love that!

      • Neverwintersand says:

        I sign under every word you just wrote, Miss Jupitero! Chosen family, in my mind, is even more important, than biological one. I know a lot of people, who are very, let’s say, animalistic, as in they are only nice to their offspring (and sometimes their wifes), but are indifferent (or worse) to everyone else. I just can’t with that…

      • Sixer says:

        I think the basic thrust is that women are now independent economic actors. Family shape has changed from mostly permanent nuclear families plus a few permanent single mother families to often non-permanent units that flow in and out of two and one parent households. But mainstream economics still assumes the former. Since we are actually in the latter, the care economy is now financialised because women work in the capitalist economy full-time. But capitalism as it stands can’t cope with a financialised care economy because the in the care economy, the output is the relationship (between carer and caree) and you can’t put a monetary value on it. Either you price it high and it can’t be afforded or you price it low and the care is unacceptable (or the nursing home goes broke). Neither of which recognises the value in the care economy, which is that the output is a relationship not an outcome. It also doesn’t recognise social reproduction – ie, someone/something has to produce the next generation of the economy because the next generation will have to generate the GDP to keep everything going.

        He says this article is a good overview of the issues:


        He says the briefing papers and analyses on this site are UK focused in detail but should show the principles you can easily transfer to US specifics:


      • Sadezilla says:

        Well-stated Miss J, and yes please, Sixer!

      • Tiffany :) says:

        “I would argue that friendship and community in general is underrated, and that we suffer greatly for neglecting our connection to humanity outside of the family unit.”

        I agree very much!

      • GreenTurtle says:

        Sixer, thank you (and Mr Sixer) for sharing the info and links. Great food for thought!

      • Liberty says:

        Sixer, thanks to you and Mr Sixer for the links — fascinating subject that needs more attention. Will be reading this.

    • Jessica says:

      I’ll give him an eff you on that one. We could not. We spoil Siamese brothers.

    • isabelle says:

      Especially when they pay other people on payroll to take care of those kids.

    • Redgrl says:

      You know, I loved him in Talented Mr Ripley. And in that lousy Alfie remake he looked eerily like a young Michael Caine.
      But his “you’re not living without kids” is pretty offensive. I don’t judge my friends with or without kids – everyone has one life and however they choose to bring themselves happiness and make a difference in the world is their own choice.
      It’s particularly offensive considering he had kids with Sadie Frost, cheated on her, got together with Sienna Miller, cheated on her (with the NANNY!) and from what I see has a few other kids since then. I don’t want to be cynical, but I’ll bet the ex-wives do the bulk of the heavy lifting re his children – I.e live mainly with mum. So he hasn’t exactly been the Mr Family Man he is purporting to be. Which I wouldn’t care about or judge if he hadn’t been so judgemental and hypocritical…

    • velourazure says:

      Uggggh. Now the dudes are spouting this garbage?

      I feel like somebody has to be pretty insecure in their own self worth to think that procreating is the best way to be a fulfilled human.

    • HadleyB says:

      And what about the baby he had with his one night stand? He never does anything with that child ( I heard via gossip and not sure if its still true but lets go with it is..).

      That child will probably need some counseling as it gets older knowing his father is famous and wanted nothing to do him.

  2. Karla says:

    I know what he means about family but a lot of people have AWFUL families who make life a misery. If you have a great family, then nothing can beat it. But a terrible family? It’s the same as awful friends or an abusive relationships….

    • Kate says:

      To be fair, he didn’t say parents or siblings. My bio family is a nightmare and I cut them out long ago, but the family I’ve made with my partner is wonderful.

    • jwoolman says:

      I got through adolescence by promising myself that asap I would move far, far away with my cat and never have to live with family again. And mine wasn’t anywhere near as awful as so many others, they were not evil but just emotionally draining to be around even briefly. My opinion has remained unchanged over the past few decades. Even phone calls with them are wearing. Dysfunctional families do not promote living….

      • detritus says:

        Samesies. My family is very loving and caring and sweet, and controlling and incapable of dealing with differing opinions.
        I made the same promise to myself you did, and we cut the 5th year off on highschool when I started, so I was pumped.
        Would never, ever, ever go back. I convince myself it wasn’t bad every once in awhile, because they are wonderful on the face, but it always bites me in the ass.
        I love them greatly, but mostly from afar.

      • Kitten says:

        Speaking of which, pets can be family. I know I think of my cats as such.

      • lisa says:

        @jwoolman – that is a really good way of articulating it, my family is emotionally draining and i have no interest in being with them

        signed, escaped with cat

      • Nancy says:

        @jwoolman: The picture of a little girl planning her escape with her cat made me sad. I’m happy that you got away from the dysfunction and made a life for yourself away from the angst. Their loss. We are born into our families, but choose our friends, and sometimes those friends become our family. That blood is thicker than water theory was penned by an employee of Hallmark.

      • Miss Jupitero says:

        Similar experiences here. For me, a version of hell would have to be a long unending family gathering from which I could never escape. I have always wanted something different.

        The Soul selects her own Society —
        Then — shuts the Door —
        To her divine Majority —
        Present no more —

      • bogos says:

        So agree with you. Especially when parents are so needy, dissatisfied, insecure. They can drain much of the life out of their kids in trying to validate their own lives and choices. Paralysis, feelings of being used, emotional blackmail are ever present. Better to escape and start your own household. Law sounds like a user to me. Most really creative people don’t think like him either.

      • Amity says:

        I once heard that when people live alone with animals the animals begin to take on human traits and the people begin to take on animal traits. It creeped me out a little.

  3. Sixer says:

    I can’t help but like Jude, even with his various Lothario issues. He’s taken his acting seriously and you can see that it has improved substantially over the years. Also, I watched The Young Pope. It’s beautifully made and acted but I didn’t understand it at all. A bit like Jude and his research really. What story was being told entirely escaped me.

    • Emma says:

      I agree about The Young Pope. The whole time I was watching it I wasn’t entirely sure what was going on and what Jude Law’s character’s motivation was. The show is almost Twin Peaks-like in its oddness. But it has stuck with me and I have been thinking about it and some of the visuals ever since I finished watching it.

      • Sixer says:

        Yes! I was completely absorbed by it but it was like, oh, I don’t know, a daydream? I didn’t understand what the beginning-middle-end of the story was supposed to be or what it was trying to say.

    • lightpurple says:

      I like him, even though his life has been quite messy. I’ve always found him a fascinating actor and am looking forward to The Young Pope.

      As for Philippa “she’s mine and no one else’s.” Sure, Jude, but are YOU anyone else’s? That has always been your problem.

      • Sixer says:

        He has plenty of twattish tendencies, doesn’t he? I think I’m inclined to let him off because he doesn’t really try to make us believe that the plonker aspects of himself aren’t there. Or, I don’t know why I let him off. Unlike me!

      • Jayna says:

        I took it to mean that as an actor it’s like he is public property and the world knows so much of his life. She isn’t in the business and doesn’t seek the limelight while with him. The relationship with her is his and no one else’s, meaning the public.

      • Liberty says:

        Maybe he is starting to be aware of stuff, and more aware of his past dickish ways….a newfound “ah, THIS is important” — “urgh what have I done?” sort of awareness. Who knows. The mortality swing? Or he and Hugh are starting a club.

        Albeit he clearly also needs to think even more about the pronouncements he is making now.

    • grabbyhands says:

      I am intrigued by it, but I am about to ditch my HBO subscription and I can’t decide if I want to keep it long enough to watch it.

      On a lighter note, a bunch of people have tweeted about the show even though it hasn’t aired yet and the result is hilarious. Buzzfeed compiled a list.


      • Esmom says:

        Omg, thank you, hilarious. That’s the funniest tweet compilation I’ve read since Trump’s book reports. *wipes tears*

      • lightpurple says:

        He’s just a young pope, from a pope family!

      • Esmom says:

        lightpurple, I liked that one since my son has been playing that song on the piano. I also liked “who let the popes out” and most of them, really. I don’t tweet and I’m developing a real aversion thanks to Trump but sometimes the twitterverse really comes through with wit and humor.

      • Sixer says:

        THE CAT! A papal moggie!

      • Imqrious2 says:

        OMG #14: the cat with the slipper on his head (“We are NOT amused!”) made me laugh out loud SO hard!!!

    • Timbuktu says:

      I’m with you, Sixer! He’s for sure crap to date and love (long-term, anyway), but luckily, since I will never have to endure that side of him, I can enjoy him as an actor. I find him to be a very good (like most British actors, come to think of it, is he also classically trained?) and I think he’s still plenty good-looking, in fact, more so than the current crop of Chris-es, who all look like generic interchangeable jocks to me. I can’t think of another actor who I’d characterize as “looking like Jude Law”, which has gotta be a cool thing when looks are such an integral part of your job, I think.
      Ditto on The Young Pope, as well. Interesting but confusing, like an exercise, rather than a story.

      • Lindy says:

        Could not agree more with the “current crop of Chrises who all look like generic interchangeable jocks to me.”

        And I do think Jude Law the actor is pretty fantastic, though he seems lacking in self-awareness about a lot of things as a person.

        Now I am intrigued about the Young Pope…. the descriptions y’all are giving are unlike descriptions I have heard about most other shows or series so I kind of want to check it out!

      • Sixer says:

        I honestly think he has worked hard at being an actor and made the most of what talent he has. I do think there are plenty more talented out there but I kinda admire him for plugging away at the craft and wrangling a more-than-decent set of performances out of himself.

        And, while he doesn’t outright say “Ok, hands up. I’m an idiot who can’t keep my flies zipped,” he doesn’t rush about trying to convince us that he isn’t that and take us for fools. So many of them do that and it gets on my nerves.

    • minx says:

      I like him, too, and he’s more interesting the older he gets. Yes, he’s made some, um, poor decisions in his personal life.

  4. Jenns says:

    Which family is he talking about? Because he has several across the globe.

    • Esmom says:

      Lol, ugh. Maybe that’s why he feels like he’s “really living” with having kids because he’s got to keep on his toes.

      We’ve talked about this here before, that a person does not have to bear children to have a full life, ffs. It’s insulting and he should know better than to make generalizations like that.

    • Aren says:

      Judging others based on his current situation, the moral thing to do.

      • detritus says:

        Yup, I think his very large horse was getting lonely. He just had to get all up on there.

  5. jinni says:

    His two oldest are already models. The daughter I get being a model, but the oldest boy, Rafferty is like Brooklyn Beckham. He’s just a plain looking kid, who can’t pose, doesn’t exude anything interesting in his photos and is only getting jobs because of his family. But hey, I am not going to knock them for using their family connections to make moves for themselves. If I had big time connections through family members I would’ve used them too.

    • Digital Unicorn (aka Betti) says:

      I have to disagree, Rafferty has that male model look that comes across well in his shoots. Brooklyn is the plain one who can’t pose for sh!t and shouldn’t be a model. Rafferty looks like his father and he will grow into a fine looking man – i think he would have prob been approached to model anyway.

      • jinni says:

        Maybe he has potential and when the baby fat comes off his face I’ll see what you see. But in the things I have seen him in he just screams poser chav too me tbh.

      • Kitten says:

        I don’t know….I tend to agree with Jinni. He’s cute for sure and he does look a lot like his father but the thing that always made Jude so striking were his eyes. Rafferty doesn’t have Jude’s eyes. I think he’s an attractive young man, but not unique at all.

      • minx says:

        Yes, I think Rafferty is striking…but not quite in his father’s league. Jude just has that it factor. And yes, Brooklyn Beckham is very ordinary. I’m not in the habit of criticizing boys that age for their looks, but if he’s trying to be a model he’d better get used to it, because he’s just meh.

  6. nemera77 says:

    I’m reading the comment and thinking..


  7. robyn says:

    This is a cruel and ridiculous statement to the many people in this world who have neither family they can rely on or children. Sometimes “families” have to be random kind strangers or friends. I think he was speaking for himself but it comes across as a bit arrogant imo.

    • Esmom says:

      But it doesn’t sound like he’s speaking for himself at all. It’s pretty obnoxious whether he meant it that way or not.

    • Katherine says:


    • Kitten says:

      ITA. He sounds privileged and arrogant af in this interview.

    • lemonbow says:

      Cruel? C’mon. I don’t think he meant it that way. Family can be whatever you choose.

    • MissMarierose says:

      I totally agree. It’s ridiculous to say having children and a family (and you know he meant the nuclear kind) is the meaning of life.
      IMHO, the meaning of life is to find meaning in your life. However you choose to do it is up to you. For some, it may be raising children. For others, helping the less fortunate. And others still may find something completely different. But whatever that meaning is for one person cannot be broadly applied to the billions of people on this planet.

  8. Esmom says:

    Lol at “being so good looking when he was young.” Ouch.

  9. Lucy2 says:

    Family doesn’t have to be children or biological relatives, it can just be the people you choose to have in your life. I hope that is what he means, otherwise it’s rather insensitive.
    Also, 5 kids with 3 exes, I honestly can’t imagine how much family time he has with each.

    • Elisa the I. says:

      Right? I want to hear what the 5 kids and the exes have to say about being a family…

      • tracking says:

        +1 Sure, being a father is all fun and games when your exes are doing all the day-to-day heavy lifting.

    • Kitten says:

      Exactly. Plus he’s an actor, a job that is incredibly time-consuming: it requires being on-set for long stretches of time as well as all the promotional duties.

      It doesn’t leave a ton of time to split between 5 kids who are presumably in 3 different locations.

  10. huh says:

    She has a killer profile.

  11. Ann says:

    Wonder how much time he actually spends with his many children by many women? I doubt he was actually being a real father to any of them.

    • jwoolman says:

      That was my first thought also. It’s easier to have an idealistic view of kids if you aren’t around them parenting 24/7. Makes for a very different relationship. Not necessarily a bad one, but still more in the uncle who visits occasionally category. If he had joint custody and the kids spent half their time with him, then the relationship would also be different. Juggling schedules with so many kids by different mothers must have been interesting, regardless.

  12. grabbyhands says:

    I think without children and family in your life, you’re not living. It’s a wonderful, vital element.

    I don’t think he meant this as cruelly dismissive as it sounds but I wish he had chosen his words more carefully.

    There are a hundred different reasons why people don;t have family or children around them and their lives are as wonderful and vital as those who do. And frankly, family is as much what you create as what you are born into.

  13. paolanqar says:

    Oh another celebrity is trying to enlighten us about life. Entitled to say the least. Especially if it comes from someone who just impregnates any woman he meets and has offsprings all over the place. I doubt he spends enough time with each of them.
    What he said is very disrespectful for those people who cannot have children and to those who choose to not have children. Life is life, with or without children.
    I am so sick of hearing this. My life is worth just as much, thank you very much.

  14. Ramona says:

    Lmao at the obvious father of the year gambit. As if people who are genuinely close to their families announce it to a magazine. PR, please.

  15. suze says:

    He’s a good actor, but really, he should keep his deep thoughts to himself.

  16. sirokese says:

    I know quite a few non living people who mysteriously enjoy a vital life.

  17. Kitten says:

    “I guess, you get into [your] mid-40s, as a man anyway, they don’t want to seem to emphasize that quite as much. Or maybe the emphasis isn’t there anymore because there are other young, good-looking types coming along, and they’re probably more interesting to write about. I love how age has such an influence on the job I do. The career you’re having as a 40-year-old actor is completely different than you have as a 20-year-old actor. … I could never have played Lenny when I was 25 because there’s a certain amount of experience he has that a 45-year-old has that a 25-year-old doesn’t have.”

    Must be nice to be a guy huh? As men in Hwood get older, they get more interesting roles and more respect and they’re still seen as handsome as they age. Sadly, none of these things hold true for most women actors.

    I normally like him, but this interview annoyed me for a myriad of reasons.

    • anon33 says:

      Same. He comes off like a total asshat here.

    • Lucinda says:

      I was beginning to wonder if anyone was going to call out that statement. I don’t begrudge him the opportunity to have a different career as he gets older but it was very clear that he didn’t see how that is only true for men. Women actors have a different career at 40 too. It’s called “good luck finding a decent part”.

  18. Barrett says:

    I’m in mid 40s w endometriosis and had several miscarriages. I love my parents and niece and nephew but Jude’s words are painful even if unintentional. Not all of us win the biological lottery.

    Trust me the pain is so great some days that you feel like you are not living or are just making it it through. But you push on.

    And I would adopt, my hubby who I love says it’s honestly not for him. Relationships are more complex than yelling at me to adopt.

    • Goldie says:

      My heart goes out to you Barrett. I always it really sad when people desperately want to have children but aren’t able to for whatever reason.

    • TQB says:

      His words are harmful, thoughtless, and callous. i’m so sorry for your struggle.

    • Embee says:

      I am 38 and had bad endometriosis. I had surgery but was told I’d never be able to have kids. I am very close to my nephews and spoil them rotten. I don’t get along well with my only sibling, but I wish I could. With no children of my own, I’m still alive and happy. He must not have been thinking when he made these comments. Or he’s a selfish, heartless jerk

  19. ash says:

    From the previews ….i got the sense of a House of Cards of sorts with the young pope….

    I’m a sucker for meglomaniac/power driven, mecurial pro (an)tagonist, with major flaws and unwavering ego:
    – How to Get away with murder
    – House of cards
    – Damages
    – Sopranos
    – Boardwalk empire
    -Scandal (only olivia’s dad and cyrus)

    • Nitsirk says:

      Since I already saw it (its really weird actually…what did we do to deserve this honor?? XD), I can tell you that you’ll like it if you like House of Cards. Even though its a bit slow sometimes…
      The visuals are really fantastic, even though you can tell that they did not do enough research about the Vatican gardens!

  20. Lucy says:

    It’s nice that he’s doing well, but he should speak for himself on the family/kids topic. Those things are not for everyone.

  21. Timbuktu says:

    I gotta say, though: these are the most FANTASTIC celebrity pap shots I have ever seen! They look so lovely together, engaged, engrossed even. I obviously don’t know if it’s going to last, and going by his track record, it probably won’t, but there is no doubt that they are in love now. I mean, with all their hard core posing, Tiddles never looked quite like this to me, and so many other celebrity couples (even quite legit ones) look downright anemic compared to this. Which is fine, too, mind you, not everyone can look loved up in public! But these two sure do!

  22. Svea says:

    Considering he couldn’t keep it in his pants snd has a couple of oopsie kids he barely sees, he needs to sit down. Furthermore he never had to do the heavy lifting. Another desperate celeb trying to latch onto the parent/family narrative so popular now in order to stay relevant. It is ridiculous.

  23. Dani says:

    I don’t care what he says, he’s my FOREVER crush. Seriously, if I was having a son (having another girl!!) I was considering naming him Alfie. I have problems.

  24. perplexed says:

    Well, I guess he genuinely likes children. That seems to explain why he has so many of them with a variety of women.

    His acting in The Young Pope does look good.

    Did he get a hair transplant? I could have sworn he was losing his hair. But now he kind of looks the same as he did when he was 25, but with only a few more lines.

  25. Emily C. says:

    He invariably sounds pompous, self-involved, shallow, and generally up his own rear to me. This is really no different.

    And his girlfriend is not “his.” Normally I don’t take exception to that kind of language, and will even say it’s fine to feel a little possessive. But the way he says it rubs me completely the wrong way. For one thing, the first thing I thought of is, are you hers too? Kinda doubt it since, you know, cheating cheater who cheats.

    Signed, someone without children (and glad to be so), and with a very full life no matter what this arrogant, self-absorbed airhead says.

    • Timbuktu says:

      It struck me as odd when I first read it, too, but someone upthread pointed out that he may have meant it as in “I’m not going to share her and our relationship with journalists and the general public”, in other words, a sort of romantic and polite way of saying “I’d rather not talk about her”.

  26. TQB says:

    I’m sure I’m not alone but came down here to say that’s 100% BS. FOR MR. LAW, children may be the thing that makes his wandering-D life “living.” I love my child and my family but parenthood is freaking hard. If you don’t want that life THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU. Your life is full and meaningful and you are truly living JUST FINE.

    NEVER let anyone shame you or guilt you into being someone you’re not, period. That includes parenthood.

    T OUT.

  27. Ashley Nate says:

    I’m surprised he actually spends time with all those kids he made with different women. Family time my @ss. He only cares about planting his seeds and moving on to the next, like he’s god’s gift to women lol

  28. spidey says:

    Thank you Jude. As a single (for ever) OAP with no children, it is very good of you to tell me that I am dead. Funnily enough, when I look in the mirror I could swear the person looking back at me is alive. And I have no family within 100 miles (for which I am rather thankful given what they are!), but I do have some very good friends who are family to me.

    PS wonder how much your kids have seen of you over the years, Jude.

  29. NeoCleo says:

    I interpreted his comment about “family” loosely and to me it means a system of emotional support which one can get from good friends and wonderful pets as well as from relations.

  30. Bobafelty says:

    Over 30 and single here….guess I’m just a dead woman walking.

  31. ash says:

    yal dont get word nazi (yeah i said it) on him about the kids thing…. i think he just means having that unconditional love in the form of family can be be a sustaining force esp when you grow old… and kids can be seen as vitality, again, as you grow older….yal dont be so literal with this celebs man LOL, take it with a grain of salt hahah

  32. Jeanette says:

    And Nannies! He forgot the part about the nanny..

  33. Robin says:

    Another celebrity idiot who thinks he can wax philosophical. How many families does he have, anyway?

  34. Racer says:

    I should go play in traffic then! No children, no desire for children, my family is small and we do not procreate. My life is worthless.

  35. HeyThere! says:

    Maybe he’s putting the word out that he needs a few more ‘families’! Haha

  36. hogtowngooner says:

    “I think for me, personally, for a few years I felt I was doing some really good work as a young actor, and it seemed people just wanted to talk about what I look like, as opposed to the work I was doing.”

    Welcome to life of every actress in Hollywood, Jude. Luckily for you, you actually get to keep working long after you’re considered fuckable. They usually don’t (the few roles that get to production go to Meryl or Helen).

  37. Dolkite says:

    I think people are taking his remarks way too seriously. Okay, call him out for the multiple families, but does everyone take everything literally? The guy loves the domestic life (or claims to), at least if that involves small kids. Why do people think that that means he automatically looks down on anyone who is childless?

    Some of my friends have kids. I don’t want kids. I’ll say I don’t want a kid around all the time and I don’t want to deal with tantrums in public, etc. They say it’s different when it’s your own. I don’t think they’re an idiot because they chose a different lifestyle than mine.

    If a celeb got married and said something like, “There’s nothing like being married. Being attached to someone. I don’t understand how some people stay alone their whole life, or don’t remarry if their partner dies. I never want to die alone.”, would they be viewed as a shit and as mocking those who prefer to stay single or to not remarry?

  38. Bobafelty says:

    We’re just mocking a balding and aging douchebag actor for talking about the importance of family, when he tore his apart to bang a nanny and keeps on donating his sperm to more women in some kind of endless midlife crisis.

    It’s hard to take the topic seriously when the man is a joke.

    • Dolkite says:

      And how come him losing his hair and being in his forties somehow makes all this worse?

  39. tw says:

    So when does the meaning of life become clear? Before or after you bang the nanny and break up the family? And I agree with whomever commented about people saying “they never knew love before children” – ef off. From my experience, friends who have said that are the most miserable, exhausted, generally unhappy people I know. It’s like they’re saying it to make themselves feel better.

  40. Turtle says:

    I am a fan of Jude as an actor, truly. But he is totally going to be one of those 74-year-old guys with a 26-year-old girlfriend and a newborn, isn’t he?

  41. Dinah says:

    I hate it when anybody refers to someone else as “mine.” No one belongs to you. Not your mate or your children or your best friend. Death or any other one of life’s disruptions can take that person from you. He may belong to himself, but he is not the owner of a woman. That’s something Donald Trump would say. Trump’s dingbat third wife actually thinks that’s a compliment. It’s about as far from love as it gets. Shame on Jude for sounding like an inexperienced adolescent.

  42. geneva says:

    Barbara Streisand sang, “People who need people are the luckiest people in the world.” I think that is true but not everyone is lucky in love or family or whatever.

    I am 57 with no children but yes, do wish I had a family of my own…and was not as lucky for a variety of reasons..some of my own making. I bought into the “womens liberation movement” as it was called in the 70s and then did not really understand that trying to meet mr. right at age 35 and on up would be tricky…anyway.. I will not say I don’t wish things worked out differently, but I hate that because someone is a mother or a father that they can judge anyone elses experience. It is smug..no doubt…and unfamous people say and act the way Jude Law does all the time but yes, he is someone that created three broken homes and no doubt someone amongst those perfect children of his may suffer for it in ways he cannot forsee…and as the person said at the top..celebrities should for the most part just shut up.

  43. Fuck you says:

    Says the guy who cheated on his wife with his children’s nanny.