Elizabeth Olsen, 28: ‘Your 30s sound like the best decade for a woman’

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Elizabeth Olsen covers the latest issue of Modern Luxury. It’s actually a lovely shoot! I used to think that Elizabeth’s face looked slightly “off,” like she had some plastic surgery that didn’t quite suit her face, but nowadays… I appreciate that quality about her. She doesn’t look like a plucked, sucked and tucked p0rn star. She actually got a sort of young-Meryl quality about her. Anyway, Elizabeth is currently promoting Ingrid Goes West and Wind River, but you won’t catch her giving in-depth, confessional interviews. She learned from her sisters that it’s better to leave some mystery, even in interviews. Some highlights:

On cultivating an air of mystery: “I was not caring what I was saying [in interviews] because I’d assumed no one would read it. [My sisters would] say, ‘You know, even if you don’t think anyone’s going to read this article, someone might pull the quote later for [something else].’ It’s all part of how you hope someone interprets you, and how they frame who you are and the work you do. They’re very tight-lipped – notoriously so.”

Anxiety: “I still deal with so many anxieties of how I come across. I’ll go home at night, spinning with a guilt complex of, ‘Did I say something stupid to that person who I respect? Do they think I’m a freak?’ I don’t want to think like that anymore.”

She’s 28 and looking forward to her 30s: “Your 30s sound like the best decade for a woman. What’s so beautiful about being older and wiser is you are sitting heavier in your shoes with your feet on the ground. I can’t wait!”

She purchased her first house & she’s been renovating it. “[It] has been so much fun and stimulating creatively… I was also thinking, ‘There’s this small room upstairs, which would be good for a kid.’ I don’t know where things will lead, but I do think about it in that way: ‘I think I could raise kids here.’”

[From Modern Luxury via People]

I feel like this is the new thing for actresses in their 20s, to talk hopefully about how their 30s are going to be so amazing. That, to me, is strange. American culture worships youth: teenaged and 20-something women are the most everything in our society, the most desirable, the most culturally elevated, the most catered-to demographic. That being said, I feel like a lot of women, famous or not, in their 20s feel like it’s a garbage decade – they’re in debt, they’re in sh-tty relationships, they’re still figuring out their lives, their work, etc. Here’s the thing, though – IT DOES NOT GET BETTER LADIES. I’m in my 30s. And while I’m more content and I have fewer f–ks to give with each year that passes, let’s be clear: your 30s are probably going to suck too. Sorry.

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  1. deezee says:

    Its a nice photo shoot and I understand about the face being a bit “off.” It probably has to do with how much she looks like her sisters. We’ve spent the last how many years seeing them? And then their younger sister shows up, looking like them but not.

    • tegteg says:

      Her face looks “off” because she had a bad nose job. Google before pictures of her – her nose was perfectly proportionate to her face, and I really don’t understand why she had it done. Now it’s too pinched and short.

      • NotSoSocialButterfly says:

        I googled, and honestly, it appears that she has had two nose tip refinements. Her original nose was cute, first iteration nice, now stupidly narrow.

      • Becki says:

        I can;t handle her nose!! It throws me off every time. The rest of her face is beautiful, but that nose right in the middle jacks it up.

      • magnoliarose says:

        Her original nose was so much better and she was beautiful now all I see dead space in the middle of her face.

      • Elisa the I. says:

        the gap between her upper lip and nose is now too big. She is great-looking, but was stunning before…

        and in my case my 30s ARE better than my 20s. More money, more self-confidence, and I def give less f***s. However, I made some massive changes in my life approx. 4 years ago, so change does not happen by itself, it needs work! 🙂

      • A says:

        I think her hair colour accentuates whatevers going on with her nose. I don’t remember her nose looking this umm remarkable when she was a brunette.

  2. marc kile says:

    She’s a talented actress and i always enjoy the films she’s in hope her career is a long one.

    • Trillion says:

      If you haven’t yet seen Ingrid Goes West, take care of that! She’s so good. (plus!!! Aubrey Plaza!!!)

  3. polonoscopy says:

    But but but… I’m 29 and I need lies to tell myself.

    COME ON KAISER.

    • Brittney B. says:

      Just scroll down and read all the comments by us 30-somethings!

    • Menutia says:

      Well I’m 34 and I love my 30s! Love!!!!! I also had really fun 20s though. I haven’t been immune to struggle, but t isn’t contingent on my age. So I think s a case of anywhere yo Go, there you are.

      • Nancy says:

        38 and sad that they’re getting close to an end. I do think that people should appreciate any age they’ve reached. We all get our turn at being young, middle aged and if we’re lucky old.

  4. Happy21 says:

    My 30’s have been AMAZING! The 20’s were still filled with a lot of the angst that I suffered as a teen along with not really and truly knowing who I was and tried to find an identity. Even though in my 20’s I would have told you that I had it all figured out, in truth I didn’t. It was when I hit my 30’s that I really was able to be me and not giving a flying F**k about what anyone thought of me, I was able to stick to my guns, be blatantly honest with those around me and was able to finally love me for me and find comfort in my own skin. Mind you I did lose my mum at 32 and that was a tough thing to go through and I think part of that definitely molded me into who I am now, at 39.
    So yes, for me my 30’s have been just awesome. Now that I’m staring down 40 though I can tell you it scares the bejesus out of me!! I wish I could stay 39 forever 😀

  5. Aims says:

    I turn 39 next week and I can honestly say that I have have grown to not sweat about the small stuff. I’m all about keeping things simple . I didn’t have some grand enlightenment . I’ve learned the importance of living your life with zero F’s .

    • Scotchy says:

      Just turned 40 and let me just say, I feel like the 40’s are where it’s at, my 30’s where all over the damn place..

  6. karen says:

    i confess, when i read the headline, i was feeling a bit bitter: my 30s are still rather awful. the world we are in is going down in flames, helped along by many people, and you can only make tiny changes in yourself/your immediate world, and so far, that’s just not enough.

  7. GrowthISgood says:

    Um well maybe they suck for you. My 20s was a sh*t show, but by the time I got to my 30s the dust was settling and I KNOW myself now. I love being 31 and life keeps getting better the more I know myself.

  8. Lucy says:

    I mean, I kinda wish neither of them would suck, and I don’t think it necessarily has to be the case. There are up’s and down’s, sure, but MUST they suck in every single case?

  9. Maya Memsaab says:

    I turned 30 last month and I’m not feeling any of this optimism about the next decade of my life. I’m an immigrant in the UK and my partner is British. The political uncertainty here over the next year is going to have a massive impact on my life, which is frightening. However, I’m going to end up with a PhD without any debt, which is a huge privilege that I’m beyond thankful for. That, and I’ve become more diligent about moisturising and sunscreen.

  10. Lightpurple says:

    Wind River is very sad, very bleak, and very good.

    • Heat says:

      Yes! It was bleak as all hell. I thought it was well done, but I was really disappointed by her underwritten part. Going in I thought they would have relatively equal parts, but that was not the case at all. Renner was excellent, but I think it could have been better overall if there were more for her to do.

  11. perplexed says:

    I think what people say about you becomes less important to as you get older. In that sense, some people probably look forward to getting older (i.e wisdom and acceptance??). But money problems don’t seem to cease. Trying to have financial security is probably what makes every decade suck.

  12. Nikki says:

    I saw Wind River at the weekend, and was blown away. She and Renner did amazing, it was a brutal story line but a brilliant film.

    • Jellybean says:

      The plus side of working with Renner is that he then helps you renovate your house, at least Lizzie said in an interview that she was using his construction crew. I guess after 27 houses he would have a few tips to offer.

  13. Cleo says:

    I’m honestly starting to worry that being a woman just sucks and age is irrelevant, lol.

    As a teen all anyone ever said was that being in your 20’s is amazing but it hasn’t been amazing at all. It’s been worse than I could possibly have ever imagined. I’m still insecure and lonely but now I also have to pay my own bills and have a lot of college debt.

    But I hope in my 30’s I run out of f*cks to give. I do think I’ve heard a lot of women say their 30’s are better than their 20’s and their 40’s are better than their 30’s so maybe with age comes the ability to accept the world as is and just go with it.

    • perplexed says:

      “I’m honestly starting to worry that being a woman just sucks and age is irrelevant, lol.”

      Pretty much. Every choice a woman makes (or has decided by fate/destiny) gets remarked upon by everyone and their dog. So annoying. Sometimes I’d prefer to escape to the Himalayas (and maybe take Netflix with me).

  14. KP says:

    I get what you mean and agree- something about the spacing/placement of her eyes and nose. I think she looks a little weird, but is beautiful and I appreciate it.

    Also, I’m 32, and I think it’s great. I do love my 30’s more every year. Things suck sometimes but it affects me differently and I’m capable of dealing, so no I don’t think it sucks nearly as much.

  15. jammypants says:

    Her lack of apprehension for aging and getting wiser and more comfortable reminds me of Emma Watson. I quite like both ladies. I’m hoping to catch Wind River this week. I turned 30 last year. I think my life is getting better actually. Plus genetics is kind to me and I haven’t shown signs of aging yet. I’m not sure how I feel about that yet. But I do feel now that I’m no longer immune to death like I used to think. I’m ok with uncertainty. In my 20s, I was worried a lot. Now I just save for a rainy day because you never know.

  16. ds says:

    I’m about to be 33 soon and I can honestly say that what I like about 30’s is myself. I don’t know what happened but I grew to love my body, my face – I feel feminine and happy about it. What I don’t like is the men. Most of the men my age are so immature and have no idea what they want. It’s so boring. What happened to them?

    • Cee says:

      This is now a universal ailment. I recently dated a 34 year old man who wanted to pretend he was 20, could keep partying and “i don’t know who i am or what i want”. He will turn 35 in 4 months. I wanted a man and ended up with a boy.

      It’s like women keep growing and men are just stunted until they realise they’re mid 40s and will end up alone, so they go out and marry whomever they cross paths with first.

  17. Case says:

    She’s lovely. She talented and seems rather intelligent, too. Given who her sisters are, you wouldn’t expect her to turn out so…normal.

  18. Brittney B. says:

    Haha, I turned 30 a month ago and I’m under no illusion that everything will get better. But! I’ve never felt more like myself, and I wouldn’t be 20 or 25 again for anything. I was so stupid and destructive for so long, and I’m honestly pretty excited about continuing to mature and get smarter.

  19. Cee says:

    IDK I just turned 30 and my life went to shit. I’m trying to sort it but I do miss the times before my shitstorm came home.

  20. Beth says:

    I don’t want to sound like a Debbie downer, but at 39 years old, I know my 30’s weren’t my best decade. My 20s were my best, but everyone is different and I hope her 30’s go well

  21. Enough Already says:

    Jumping on the bandwagon here about loving my thirties. In my twenties I was a hopelessly awkward, pudgy free spirit who got married before I remotely knew myself. In my thirties I was a fit, vibrant, ambitious sprite who grabbed life with both hands and enjoyed the ride. I’m 43 now and let’s just say things are interesting lol. I’m more grounded and put things into perspective better. My 40s were shaped by my mom’s cancer struggle and now that she’s gone I just don’t feel like sweating the small stuff. And yes, almost all of it is small stuff. I treasure my family and close friends and am peaceful and fulfilled. I have a suspicion, however, that my fifties will be the bomb 😉

  22. Adele Dazeem says:

    Okay not to be a dissenter but my 30s were worse than my 20s. My 20s, we were all lost and crazy and stupid and having fun but in the 30s…expectations arise. You start to feel like you’re losing ground w your peers, are you ever gonna meet someone, etc.

    That being said, my forties ROCK. I am having fun, have zero f s to give, have the gift of experience, intelligence and (finally!) the self confidence to just be me.

    Hang in there ladies, the best is yet to come!

  23. Vinot says:

    Her nose job is so distracting to me.

  24. paranormalgirl says:

    I think the 40’s is the best decade.

  25. Molly says:

    My 30s were all baby-having and small children, so I was exhausted and it’s kind off a blur. Still better than my 20s in many ways. But my 40s were fucking fabulous!

  26. skyblue says:

    My twenties and thirties were difficult for a million different reasons. I really enjoyed my forties and I’m half a year into my fifties and so far so good. I’m traveling more, finally making a decent wage and so comfortable in my skin. It is as if I finally stopped listening to my inner critic and shed all the external criticisms I let stick to me when I was younger.

  27. A.Key says:

    I’ve just turned 31 and so far I’ve been way happier and more content than I ever was in all of my 20s.

  28. Millenial says:

    I just turned 30 and I’m feeling really positive about it. I can finally afford better wine and in terms of free time, my tastes are changing and maturing. I love snuggling up with a good book, trying a new restaurant with my husband, etc… I’m finally taking better care of my body.

    We have a two year old and are trying for our second after a miscarriage. I think my 30’s will be exhausting, but there’s something nice about feeling like “grown up.”

  29. NotSoSocialButterfly says:

    I’m 51 and feel fantastic ( woo hoo, zero effs to give!), but if I could choose a decade… I’d take my current wisdom and experience and go back to my early 30’s self. YMMV.

  30. Miss M says:

    I am 37. I really liked my 20’s, but I love love my 30’s and everything that came with it including my thyroid dysfunction.
    But If I have to base the best decade by my sister lives, I would say 40’s is the best. I look forward to getting there!

  31. Tan says:

    31 here and so far it feels way better than 20s. Yes you need to be more careful about your health in general and regular checkups increase a bit, but frankly I feel myself the fittest physically, mentally ( mental capacities) and emotionally than the roller coster immature 20s. I love the person I am now, and it reflects in the way I carry myself in my day to day life, in my positivity, in my ability to handle difficulties, disappointments and problems.

    Also like everyone said here, I give much less f–ks now than I did before, If I don’t like someone, I don’t mix with the person. I am not afraid of expressing my opinion at home, socialsettings or work.
    Overall, 30s so far has been much better.

  32. rebellia says:

    My thirties are still a mess. Job, debt, relationships. I know several people who met their now spouse at 19/20 and so they grew with their spouse, emotionally and financially. But also, maybe some of uw are just later bloomers?

  33. Becki says:

    I’m 36 & I love my 30s!! I was so insecure in my 20s, but I am so much more confident & care less what people think in my 30s. I love this decade & although being in my 40s scares me a little, I have a feeling it will be even better.

  34. prettylights says:

    I disagree about the 30’s sucking, but that’s just my personal experience. I’m almost 33 and feel pretty well grounded and am enjoying my 30’s. My 20’s were pretty messy. I finished college at 22, had several low paying jobs with not much opportunity to move up, partied and drank a lot, dated a slew of guys who weren’t right for me, and was generally unhappy and felt out of place among my peers.

    At 27 I packed up and moved halfway across the country by myself to a place I’d never even visited before but with better job opportunities. I made new friends and got a job that allowed me to start at the bottom and move up to where I’m a top manager now and am finally financially stable (which honestly sometimes seems like a dream to me after living paycheck to paycheck and being in debt for most of my life). I got married to the man I was dating on and off for years in my old city who moved 6 months after I did to be with me. I don’t care so much what other people think and am confident in myself, my intelligence, and my personality. I am starting to see some slight signs of aging and have gained some weight that is so much harder to lose now than it was in my 20’s but whatever, it’s just part of life. I look forward to what the future holds.

  35. themummy says:

    My 20s were not great. Things were up and down and I was impulsive and there were a lot of emotional upsets and intense stress. My 30s, though, were great from start to finish. Life always has its crappy moments, but I really loved my 30s. I’m 40 now and I see no reason why I won’t love my 40s too, honestly.

  36. Katrina says:

    I’m 38 and have an advanced degree. Most of my 30’s were spent building my career and struggling with crushing student loan debt. It’s only been in the last year or two that I’ve advanced enough in my career to be able to pay my loans and have some financial security. I’m looking forward to my 40’s because my loans will finally be paid off!

  37. Lensblury says:

    I never expected it, but ever since I turned 30, my life has been so much better. My 20s were all about struggling to find out who I actually am and what I want. Now I’m calmer, I don’t sweat the small stuff, my friendships are stable, colorful and happy, and I’m in a sweet relationship that started when I was 31. I’ve become more open and relaxed about so many things, I’m more daring and yet I do less stupid shit. I am also getting more respect – probably because I respect and love myself, and I show it. I’m 32 now, and I’ve been pretty happy with my life for two years now. And on a personal level, it’s only getting better. I really really do love my thirties.