LuAnn de Lesseps’ last straw was when she busted husband Tom with his ex

LuAnn de Lesseps of Real Housewives on NY was presented photo proof last year that her then-fiance, Tom D’Agostino, made out with another woman at a bar. Instead of realizing it would have been a big mistake to marry the guy, LuAnn instead defended Tom, believed his lies that he was drunk and didn’t remember it, and blamed co-star Bethenny Frankel for breaking the news to her the wrong way! LuAnn said “Tom is devastated because it was a mistake, he is a guy.” TOM is devastated his mouth jumped all over that other woman’s, he had no idea! I’m sure there’s a bunch of other sh-t Tom did, only a fraction of which made it on to RHONY. So LuAnn went ahead and married him anyway, and their marriage was over in eight months.

Since this ridiculousness is the bread and butter of the Real Housewives franchises, LuAnn sat down for a very special interview with Andy Cohen, conducted at her home and airing on September 6. They’re meting out quotes and the first one is about how LuAnn caught Tom contacting an ex. How surprising that the guy busted cheating still cheated after he got married. Here are the quotes from the preview video released by Bravo:

“It was like the weekend before the reunion basically, and Tom went out and he called up an old girlfriend and they met up with a group of people and I didn’t know about it,” she says in the clip. “I found out about it the next day in the press, so that for me was, like, the final straw. I was like, ‘I can’t do this anymore.’”

The Countess also discusses a report that she slapped the businessman at a fancy NYC restaurant in July. “I didn’t slap him,” she says. “What I did was grab his face. It was in the heat of the moment. I was hurt about something. I wanted his attention, so I grabbed his face. It wasn’t really a slap.”

LuAnn is making a lot of excuses for grabbing Tom, that shouldn’t have happened. I wouldn’t be surprised if he wasn’t just meeting up with the ex in a group, and/or if LuAnn was minimizing the fact that she caught Tom cheating. I’m sure it would take a lot more than that for her to finally dump him, given all the excuses she’s previously made for him.

Tom has since been spotted with that same ex but they were just at some party and didn’t go or leave together, supposedly. Oh wait, LuAnn was seen out with her ex too, but they also just met up randomly. Sure.

This is what these type of men (and women, I’ll be fair I guess) do: they keep in contact with their old lovers so they can rotate them and have a backup when things go south with their current partner (because they’re cheating and not accountable for it) rinse and repeat. They look for people who will let them push past their boundaries and who will make excuses for them, like LuAnn, as a main piece for appearance and ego-stroking purposes. Once that person breaks up with them, they’ll try to keep them on the hook as a backup. I just hope by going public with this LuAnn is breaking all contact with Tom and isn’t going to take him back. She got out of this in less than year and hopefully she learned her lesson and isn’t going to find another dude just like this. Maybe she’s just as much of an a-hole though, I don’t know.

Here’s the video clip from the upcoming interview:




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  1. Neelyo says:

    Tom served his purpose, she got her golden apple back. Plus now she has a story line for next season as an added bonus.

    • MamaHoneyBadger says:

      Yeahbut…she had her status back before Tom came on the scene.

      Anyone remember the special Bravo did on her? It was useful in making me understand her, and I thought they’d roll out similar backstories on other characters, but they never did (or haven’t yet.)

  2. LAK says:

    The man was still dating right upto his wedding. Probably took a date to his wedding, but LuAnn was going to marry him no matter what anyone said. And if anyone dared say anything, she called them jelli ha8ers!

    • Nene's Wig says:

      She was so ridiculous – these women (plus others outside the show, I’m sure) were showing her PROOF that he was at the very least going out and acting like a single man, and yet she wanted to get married so badly that she just would NOT hear it.

      I feel bad for her but I don’t see why she wanted THIS guy so bad – she’s fun and beautiful, she could have almost any guy in NYC, so why did she turn a blind eye to this asshole?!

      • Bellagio DuPont says:

        Oh honey, he’s well connected, don’t you know? ……Old(ish) FAMILY name, FAMILY money, FAMILY properties with the pools and tennis courts all around the country (including Palm beach, manhattan and other socially trendy areas).

        He makes sense socially.

      • LAK says:

        I thought it was established that he wasn’t a real D’augustino. Name was a coincidence, but he traded on said coincidence in the sameway Stephen Belafonte traded on people thinking he was a real Belafonte.

  3. HK9 says:

    Oh girl. The last straw should have been when he was caught kissing random ‘friends’ in every hotel lobby in Manhattan while they were engaged. If she wanted to continue to date him and get on the that merry-go-round fine but marry him-oh no.

    (There is also a small part of me that feels that since she never had a traditional wedding, she decided that she was going to have one while she had the chance.)

    • Nene's Wig says:

      ITA – she wanted the “fairytale” and a big fat wedding, to hell with the consequences after.

  4. Meredith says:

    I know someone who knows him in a professional capacity (I don’t want to say much more than that) and she says he’s a total creep. Shocking, I know. She’s attractive and he was constantly hitting on her, before and after the wedding.

    • Tourmaline says:

      Juicy! Yeah totally believable even the little snippets they have shown of Tom on the show, he comes across like a jerkwad. I’m glad Lu finally cut her losses.

  5. BobaFelty says:

    She always talked about him in terms of what he owned, and how much she liked those things. He owns a place in Palm Beach, he has a great place in New York, he owns a huge yacht, etc. She never really talked about what about his personality she liked. I think she was lonely and got caught up in the idea of being super wealthy again (the lifestyle she wanted), not accepting that the tradeoff for the lifestyle (the loser cheater husband) was not worth it.

    She had an open marriage with her last husband, so I thought she was ok with Tom stepping out. Maybe him being with random women wasn’t a concern for her, but seeing him being flirty and romantic with an ex was beyond their agreement.

    • Bellagio DuPont says:

      @ Bobafelty

      Apparently***, Luann is wealthier than him personally. The wealth belongs to his family. Not to him.

  6. Aims says:

    She was so obsessive about Tom. Everyone warned her about him, but she was on a mission to marry him. When they were together , it was so clear that she was more into him then her. It was so bizarre . I’m always very suspect of a couple who are bragging and putting it on thick for people . If you know who you are and what you have , there’s no reason to be so obnoxious .

  7. JC says:

    She is man-hungry, amoral, petty, grasping, thirsty, narcissistic, and proficient in several languages. Those are the nicest things I can think of to say about LouAnn.

  8. The Original G says:

    He’s a hound dog. Sad for anyone who goes through this.

  9. PMNichols says:

    Say what you will but at the end of the day it still hurts. Sometimes people are blind to what’s right in front of them. It’s humiliating but we’ve all been or have known a woman who’s been there. Hopefully it ends as quickly as it started. I would be mortified.

  10. Electric Tuba says:

    She is a donkeys tuchus in real life. Watched her be quite a woman you would see next Tuesday at Molton Brown near Bloomingdales and again at a children’s boutique that use to be next to The Whitney. Once before she was even on the housewife circus I saw her demand a waitress call her Countess instead of Mrs. We slipped the waitress an extra tip for having to deal with her. It’s entertaining if you aren’t in her line of fire and she’s entertaining on the show but when she has low points in her life she builds her self esteem by throwing low hanging fruit at underlings and being a general snob.

    • CynicalAnn says:

      I’m not surprised. I watched a few episodes way back when it started and she was ridiculous.

  11. A says:

    Honestly, she never seemed that into this guy…it all seemed forced. I did buy that she was in love with Jacques.

    • JC says:

      I didn’t buy her and Jacques, either. Remember when the cast went on a trip and she hooked up with the wannabe pirate? Not the behavior of a woman in love.
      She strikes me as one of those women who can’t stand to be without a man—but at the same time seems to be incapable of really loving one—
      And the whole Tom thing made no sense other than buying her a storyline….same with Jacques.

  12. Bellagio DuPont says:

    Luann really surprised me with this relationship. She normally seems confident, relaxed and poised, but she showed a new (very unattractive) side to her when she began this relationship. She quickly became shrill in defensive of his cheating, despite the mounting evidence until it was clear that she would drag this man down the aisle by the scruff of the neck and even at gun point if need be. Desperation in its purest form.

    • shiba says:

      Attractiveness, without youth, loses it’s value with every day that passes (in some circles.) Tom’s marriage proposal gave Lu a reason to keep denying the ruthless ‘law of the jungle’ that she’s benefited by – until now.