Jennifer Meyer: Ex Tobey Maguire is my ‘best friend’ and ‘the greatest ex husband’

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Jennifer Meyer is tight with the women in Hollywood. She’s the daughter of an NBC chairman who used to be the ceo of Universal Studios, so she’s part of the Hollywood set and she was always going to run in those circles regardless of whether she married Tobey Maguire. She’s also a well-regarded jewelry designer and is likely doing well on her own. I mention all this as background to this story that she gushed about Tobey, whom she divorced last year after 10 years of marriage. Tobey and Jennifer have two children together, daughter Ruby Sweetheart, 11, and son Otis Tobias, 8.

“He’s my best friend,” the jewelry designer, 40, exclusively told Us Weekly at the Create & Cultivate 100 Launch in Culver City, California, on Thursday, January 25. “He’s the greatest ex-husband a girl could ever have.”

“The day begins with the kids and ends with the kids,” she told Us of co-parenting with the 42-year-old actor. “So you manage to get your time in and work hard in the middle, you know? They’re really amazing kids, so we figure it out together.”

She added: “It just manages to work out really well.”

Of course, when not balancing work and family, Meyer sometimes spends time with her famous pals — including Kate Hudson, Jennifer Aniston, Gwyneth Paltrow and Nicole Richie.

“I mean, listen, nothing’s better than a night in on a couch with your best friends and a bottle of wine,” she said. “If we go out, nothing’s better than Mexican and tequila.”

[From US Weekly]

Maybe I’m just a cynic but this sounds over the top to me. I get that some people are better off as friends than lovers and that divorce and co-parenting can bring you closer that way. Jennifer’s buddy Gwyneth Paltrow just said something similar (but creepier), that her ex Chris Martin is like her brother, but we know Gwyneth is full of sh-t. Is Jennifer the same and is she one of those LA people who talks in superlatives, or does she genuinely feel this way about Tobey? It’s so hard to get a read on that guy, but he doesn’t come across as the “ex husband who becomes a best friend” type. Still, I like that it’s trendy to be friends with your ex and that so many famous people are trying to emphasize that they do this. It sets a nice precedent for people who are divorcing and it’s arguably easier on the kids too. I think they’re exaggerating to say the least, but it’s nice.




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  1. Jillian says:

    My parents divorced when I was six and they were always civil around me. I’m grateful for that

    Where can I see Jennifer’s necklace?

  2. Ashley says:

    Isn’t she like The Cool girl and not in a cliche try hard way but that she’s just cool,down to earth,and chill.Loved by alot of people in hollywood and the high fashion circles thats what i’ve heard anyway. I’ve always like her.

  3. k0n4y says:

    Her jewelry is SUPER nice but only affordable by the 1%.

  4. Bridget says:

    I love that notoriously sour Tobey married a woman more connected than he is, and is pretty much required to be nice.

    • Tiffany says:

      YES !!!

      She was the big get in that relationship, not the other way around.

      • Molly says:

        Yep. She has a very successful jewelry line and a pile of genuine
        and fun-looking friends. WTF is Toby doing these days? Hanging out being bloated with Leo?

      • upstate diva says:

        Absolutely. At the time of Spiderman, her father was chairman of Universal; Ron Meyer is a King (and kingmaker) of modern Hollywood, and Jennifer has always been at the center of that friend group. I always laugh when I saw stories that suggest that the Anistons of the world were doing her some kind of favor to hang out with her or buy her jewelry. I think she is probably pretty chill; she got no (material or social) worries.

    • PoodleMama says:

      Totally agree. She also has aged better than he has.

      That said, I truly doubt they are best friends. Everything I have ever heard about him is what a jerk he is and how his horrible attitude and douchebag ways ruined his career.

  5. bonobochick says:

    I didn’t even know they’d gotten divorced. Heh.

  6. @BitingPanda says:

    You know what makes it super easy to be friendly with your ex?

    When both of you have more money than you could ever really need. When you’re not worried about how you are both going to pay your bills, manage your kids and your work, manage to communicate all the daily stresses of doctor’s appointments, after school events, weekend practices, etc. without nannies and assistants.

    • littlemissnaughty says:

      Money can really be the kicker. Not just during divorce but also after a death in the family. The behavior people exhibit when it comes to money … all bets are off.

    • Chell says:

      It is possible to be friends with your ex despite money problems. When my parents divorced my dad was making 750k a year and my mum was a house-wife. She got a job so she wouldn’t just need my father’s money, a decision she was extremely grateful she made years later when my dad lost his job and suddenly could not pay the child-support they had agreed on. He didn’t pay child-support for three or four years, my mum didn’t complain or take him to court. She understood. It was shaky financially during that time. Neither of my parents could afford many extras and we had to scrimp and save. This did not get between them and my mum still invited him to all family gatherings. When my dad could afford it again he paid all the child-support he owed her.
      If people just try to act human and understand each other (it goes both ways) then it is possible to be civil through anything. I understand it doesn’t always work this way, my dad and his other ex-wife do not speak, since she isn’t interested in being civil in the slightest.

      • GirlMonday says:

        Sounds like your parents are good people.

      • Malako says:

        Sounds like your parents didn’t manage to make savings on 750K a year?

      • Chell says:

        Malako, there was a series of bad investments, expensive vacations, and slightly frivolous spending that lead to the moments I posted about. The whole point of the post, however, is that my parents acted in a civil way when facing this situation. They also both learned a valuable lesson about money, but that wasn’t what my post was about.
        I, however, am slightly curious about the point of your post, since the only discernible purpose of it seems to be to pick fault for the sake of picking fault or for the sake of sheer nastiness.

    • tealily says:

      That is so true. I feel like money is such a huge stressor in any relationship, let alone in a divorce situation. Whether or not they are truly “best friends,” it sure seems like the money would make that easier for them.

    • Avery says:

      @BitingPanda All of this!!!

  7. littlemissnaughty says:

    I have no opinion on her marriage but I used to really like her jewelry. Recently though, it’s veered a bit towards souvenir market in *insert Mediterranean country here*. Or maybe I’m not trendy.

  8. Wallaby says:

    I remember reading the anecdote of Tobey McGuire yelling at Molly Bloom telling her to bark like a seal or something during a poker game. I wonder if it made it into the Chastain film.

    Ever since learning about that story, I see Tobey as a quiet psychopath.

  9. ariel says:

    I saw Molly’s Game. And now I think McGuire is such a turd, I pretty much think anyone who kisses his ass is a turd as well.
    Though, that being said, I am a huge fan of divorced parents being a team to create stability and comfort for the good of their children, and if they actually do that, bravo to them.

    • Millenial says:

      Wow, I just went down the Molly’ Game rabbit hole…and, just, wow. That’s all I can say.

  10. Justwastingtime says:

    At the sole encounter I have had with her ex (in a playground in la) he was remarkably rude.

    I didn’t know who he was, thought he was a local, dad, and after we spoke asked my friend if she knew who that horrible little man was.

    So glad for her that she is out of the relationship, it must be exhausting putting up with his attitude,

    • Bridget says:

      She is wealthier, more socially connected, better liked than he is, and arguably more professionally connected. I’m betting that he had to put away a lot of the crappy attitude with her.

  11. Svea says:

    How come she’s not friends with Gwen anymore?

  12. Jayna says:

    I can see it. When I was in my early 20s, I worked with a woman in her 30s, who shared custody with her ex. She was remarried. She and her ex got along famously. Her husband really liked him also. Her ex remarried. They all spent time together for vacations and their child. They adored their daughter and it worked.

    My girlfriend divorced her husband. He was an amazing father and even husband in many ways, but lied to her about losing jobs and things. She couldn’t take it anymore and left. She was always the responsible one. But he would do anything to help out. He helped out on all levels with his daughter as far as parenting, , and was a nurturing man, even to his ex-wife. He cared about her. He just had other issues that made it impossible for her to stay married to him and wasn’t in love with him anymore. But they remained a family and stayed connected in that way.

  13. Lila says:

    She might be from a prominent Hollywood family and he a famous actor,but part of the divorce is that they both might have signed non disclosure agreements, so they only can say nice things about each other in public. I work for a divorce attorney and I have seen this part of a divorce. This happens especially if the two have public lives. Grievances are aired behind closed doors.

    • Malako says:

      I totally get that and that is probably what is going on here. Nevertheless if she wants to “keep face” in public and tell only nice things aka lie – she should turn it down to be more convincing.

  14. Other Renee says:

    I am friends with my ex. We divorced when our daughter was 12 and I was determined to never make her feel like she had to choose between us. When we attended her sporting matches, I didn’t want her to look up and see us sitting separately. We always sat together. When I remarried, my new husband sat with us and they get along great. My ex and I flew together to another country to watch our kid represent the US in a sports event. We celebrate her birthday and milestones together. I’ve seen so many parents tear their kids apart by acting like babies. I didn’t want to do that to mine so I made building a friendship with her dad a priority. Took time but totally worth it.

  15. Alexis says:

    I get along well with my ex, but this does seem a little over the top. But I mean, what are they supposed to say in a public forum like that? “I can’t believe I married such a tool, I can’t wait until our youngest turns 18 and hopefully never have to see his ugly mug again.”. Okay, that would actually be kind of funny.

  16. Malako says:

    “my best friend” and you divorced him? Girl, get real. A lot of marriages are sometimes more like “best friends” but that doesn’t lead to a divorce. There were reasons why you divorced him.
    I get that you try to keep it civilised. Good for you. But don’t do a Gwoopneth. It is just unbelievable.

  17. Nancy says:

    I hope she and Goop aren’t trying to make my ex husband and I are best friends happen. It’s important to keep a positive relationship if you have children especially. But, if I got divorced from someone I still called my best friend, think people and myself would question why I was divorcing him in the first place. All of this makes sense in my head, I can’t articulate it. Wouldn’t want War of the Roses, but also wouldn’t want to be besties with an ex and possibly his new wife or my new partner. Yipes

    • Raina says:

      Nancy, maybe because a lot of women don’t want to sleep with their best friends yet still want to have intercourse again before they die.
      Divorce or cheat…
      And, my ex and I are friends. We just couldn’t get along with living together/romantically. Sometimes important areas in relationships just die or run their course and the relationship evolves into something else. And, frankly, I think it’s great if a couple especially with kids can be good friends, best friends, whatever. To each their own. Too much discourse in the world as it is.

      • Nancy says:

        The whole scenario is just depressing to me. I don’t think most people try hard enough to make the marriage work. It’s too easy to get divorced and evidently still sleep with him. Whatever works I guess. I got married at 20 and at 38 hope I never go through a divorce.

  18. Kate says:

    If he’s so great and the best and blah blah blah then why did you all divorce? This is beyond bizarre to me.