Ben Affleck & Lindsay Shookus are together in Hawaii, but are ‘not rushing anything’

Ben Affleck was surely upset over the fact that the entire internet called him out for lying about his giant back tattoo. The New Yorker even had a think piece about how Ben’s sad midlife crisis represents the ennui of privileged white men or something. I’m sure he had discussions with his people over how to handle that and they came up with the strategy of ignoring it and acting like everything is fine. Hence these new paparazzi photos of him on vacation in Hawaii with his girlfriend, Lindsay Shookus. As we’ve seen on many of their other outings, their outfits are somewhat coordinated. I would call Ben out for having the paparazzi accompany him to Hawaii, but he’s there to train for Triple Frontier with his costars Charlie Hunnam, Oscar Isaac and Garrett Hedlund. We’ve already seen shirtless photos of them in the ocean so there’s incentive for photographers beyond documenting Ben’s pap strolls. You can see the photos of Ben out with Lindsay on People, which also has insider quotes about Ben’s life now.

[Ben Affleck and Lindsay Shookus] are “very much still together,” a source tells PEOPLE.

Another source says the couple are “not rushing anything,” but they “enjoy each others company” and “are in a committed relationship.”

Meanwhile, the second source notes that Affleck and his ex-wife Jennifer Garner are continuing to “work hard at being respectful to each other and are good parents.”

Despite their split, the stars have remained amicable and continue to co-parent their kids, Violet, 12, Seraphina, 9, and Samuel, 5. Affleck and Garner, 45, separated in 2015 and filed for divorce in April.

Affleck has also been continuing his treatment for alcohol addiction. He “is doing well,” a source previously told PEOPLE.

“He has been very on top of his health and responsible,” added the source. “He wants to be sober and healthy.”

[From People]

Ben is ok, see? He’s not upset that he got caught lying because he didn’t really say that, we misheard him. It’s all our fault for paying attention to the things he does, like it was all J.Lo’s fault that the tabloids mocked him post-Gigli, when he bought her that giant pink diamond ring, drove around with her in a convertible Bentley and bailed on their wedding. How long until he throws Shookus under the bus? He’s not going to do that to Garner, he met his match in her. She’s Teflon and he knows it after all these years.

Ben Affleck picks up his children from church

Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck spend time with their kids

Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck spend time with their kids

Photos above are from 3-18 (blue jacket) and 3-5 (with Garner). Credit: WENN and Backgrid

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  1. Nicole says:


  2. Krill says:

    Aha. I was waiting for a smiling Ben on a pap outing. And a positive PR piece fed to a friendly outlet. Ben is so predictable. He is reacting to that brutal New Yorker article.

    The only surprise is that he didnt rope in Jen and the kids for some smiley photos first.

  3. Iknowwhatboyslike says:

    It’s scary how “Nick Dunne” like he is. You could teach a psych class on Ben’s personality.

  4. i, pet goat 2 says:

    *Triple* *Frontier* and mostly white men? Yeah, so timely. LOL.

    • Mia4s says:

      I noticed that too. Written and directed by a white man about a group of (mostly white) friends trying to save another friend from a drug lord (I assume one of the two Latino actors in the main cast is the drug lord 🙄) in scary, scary South America. Oh joy, I’m sure.

  5. julie says:

    Is all of this to distract from the fact that Ben has moved back in with Jen and the kids? Not so sure that Teflon Jen would survive that going public, hence why it’s all been suppressed AND why Ben looks so cheery. He’s having his cake and eating it too, and has found two women who are A-okay with his BS. Also, I’m embarrassed for the once-prestigious New Yorker for manufacturing an entire article around Ben’s tattoo. That isn’t journalism, and it’s not even important.

    • kate says:

      I think she still loves him, or a part of her does, but she would not take him back. That would be too pathetic after not one, but two public humiliations (the nanny and Linds).

    • Krill says:

      Has he? I havent heard that.

      That said its unsurprising. I have been saying for years even long before the nanny, that Ben sticks around her because of the structure. He resents her for it but he also knows that he needs it. It helps contain his excesses and even his falling off the wagon circa 2014, we now know was during his spell living at the Beverly Hills Hotel. I’m sure there had been a few slips before but the major tumbles didnt come until he was out of her supervision.

      Thats why the divorce is still not done. And why he will keep that string to her until she falls in love and decides to cut it herself. But I’m sure the old regulars will arrive to shout at me about how he will divorce her just as soon as his next movie is released.

      • A says:

        On the contrary, I think most rational people have concluded that the divorce will never be final, Jen G will never move on, Ben will continue to publicly date other women, and now, he will apparently live at the family home in secret. Affleck always gets what he wants and ITA, that’s why he looks so happy these days. He’s weasled his way back into the house without even having to give up the gf. SMH at all of the dumb women in this equation.

        ETA: The smiley Jen and kids photos will be next weekend at Easter. She’s proven herself to be a willing participant though, so shrug.

      • Julie says:

        @A MTE. They will probably show up to church on Easter in the same vehicle, just to make it even more obvious that he’s back to living there.

      • Jenfan says:

        @Michelle, I strongly believe Stefan is a paparazzo. The stuff he “knows” can only stem from someone who follows Ben and Hen around including watching her house. He must have connections with other paps in other cities thus his info that Ben does not stay in CPW apt with Linds when he goes to New York. I think he knows what he is talking about because a lot of the stuff he says does get verified afterward. That said, I’m not trying to make excuses for Jen. I just can’t really understand what is going on here. There are people on the DM that think the whole Ben and Lindsey romance is staged. I don’t think so, the pap strolls yes, but the relationship not. I can’t understand how he can be publicly dating someone (someone he supposedly cheated on his wife with for years) and be living on the grounds of his ex-wife. Across the street yes, but not on the property. Something does not make sense here. Unless, it really is s few days a month. and after the filming he is either living in NYC full time or buys another house.

      • Krill says:


        Most rational people have concluded that they are constructing their own normal in light of his addictions and inability to create and maintain structure. Its the same crowd of tinhatters who spent the past five years claiming he was a heartbeat away from divorce who are now pedalling the idea that a multi millionaire is secretly living with his family for the home cooked meals and laundry. Or that the only reason why his estranged wife would let him back is because she just luuuurves him.

        Their reality is that this is probably the best arrangement when he is in LA. They already built him a house on the compound in 2015. The kids get to grow up around their dad and their dad is incentivized to keep beating his disease. Or you could just let the multi-millionaire movie star lose in Hollywood by himself and hope that the loneliness, lack of accountability and idleness that comes with living alone or with employees doesnt send him back to old habits. And when it does, pray it doesnt crush your children.

    • Mia4s says:

      They’re going to distract from him moving back into the family home by having him happily parading around Hawaii with his girlfriend? Huh? I would hope not; that’s insane. If he were living there and it comes out (and it would) Garner looks even more pathetic than she already has in the past. Not to mention how confusing that is for the kids. That makes no sense.

      This is going to be another case where they will be rumoured to be getting back together for the next 25 years, even if he marries his new piece. It’s Aniston/Pitt part 2, but at least there weren’t innocent kids involved in that case.

      • A says:

        Ben apparently gave up his rental two weeks ago and moved back into the family home. Not sure how it would ever get out as long as he keeps the girlfriend and house-hunting pap strolls going on the regular. No one ever knew when he was basically living at the Beverly Hills hotel. Some pap agencies (backgrid and x17) have already dropped hints that he’s moved back in. I suspect they have pics but have been paid not to publish them. And yeah, the one who looks the worst here is actually Garner, which is why the pics are MIA and it’s basically just whispers around the internet right now. There’s no reasonable explanation for him to be there. Gossip Cop issued a non-denial about it, which basically confirmed it. Jen needs to get a backbone and it’s pitying that after all of this, she still doesn’t love herself.

      • Jenfan says:

        Ben may have moved “back in” but for practical purposes not – he will probably only be in LA a few days in the next few months. He will probably either be away filming or living in NYC. I think it’s a matter of convenience with the kids. Maybe Jen just really does not care. Maybe she has her own new person in her life so she is just ok with all of it.

      • JoJo says:

        @Jenfan – Honestly, I cannot see how it’s normal, even if just for “practical purposes.” It took her years after the split to make a physical break and then even more to actually file for divorce (which was ultimately essentially a joint filing.) And it was only a month ago that she made a big statement about how being single isn’t what she wants, etc. I can’t see how it would be healthy for anyone involved to have him back on the property, especially the kids. Even if it’s for convenience, it’s another major readjustment for them if and when he moves off of the property again. And she’s so into therapy – what therapist would think this seemed like a good idea? Really strange, if it’s true.

      • michelle says:

        LOL, nope. Jen doesn’t have a new person in her life and she isn’t going to get one either, with her “ex” husband still living with her. We all know why Ben has moved back in: free meals, laundry, being around the kids while Jen and the nannies do all the real work — getting to have his cake and eat it too. What does Jen get out of all of it, exactly? He’s not supposed to be her problem anymore, nevermind the issue of where he dumps his stuff when he’s in town for a few days. Her home with her children is not Ben’s storage facility. What happens when filming ends and he’s back in LA full-time? What will your excuse be then? I’ve seen you over on DM communicating with Stefan, so I know you know the score here. Making excuses for Jen is just a waste of your time at this point.

      • joyce says:

        The fact that Ben is including Violet on his fake house-hunting pap strolls is horrible. She at the very least still thinks that her parents are actually divorcing. Now he’s living back at the home? The dad moving in and out is possibly the worst and most irresponsible decision-making I’ve ever heard of. No wonder these kids are all in therapy and they won’t be leaving it anytime soon. Ben, Jen and Lindsay deserve each other and their little effed-up situation. I hope everyone is miserable!

  6. Who ARE These People? says:

    Garner is Teflon AND she’s the mother of his kids, so I do think he draws a line around that. In the rest of his life, though, he’s a mess.

  7. Snowflake says:

    Have you noticed how men his age and older look worse than women of similar age? He’s really let himself go.

    • katie3 says:

      Yes!!! & especially in Hollywood. Men can let themselves go and still work (Russell Crowe comes to mind) yet women must resort to plastic surgery and other extreme measures to preserve a youthful appearance.

      • kate says:

        Can you imagine if Jen G, Angelina Jolie or another famous actress showed on set looking like that? And those women would have good excuses (not that they need them) to justify body changes, like health issues, grief and maternity. Yet, the man of Hollywood get to show up looking like rotten meat.

  8. Carolnr says:

    Needed this story to distract us from all the articles on that horrendous tattoo!!! I’m surprised the People article didn’t restate that Lindsay accepts Ben for who he is , tattoo & all, lol!!!

  9. Your Mom says:

    Yet again he’s got a stain on his shirt.

    • Caroline says:

      The Cut has an article now ” An Ode to Ben Affleck’s Stained T-shirts.” They show all the pics of him & Lindsay where his t-shirts are stained! I didnt realize there were so many!!!

  10. Pcdr says:

    Isn’t it funny that we don’t see pics of him and Lindsay for the last month but after all the bad pr on the tattoo and that piece in The New Yorker on The Sadness of Ben Affleck. These pics surface – Coincidence? I think not!

    • Jenfan says:

      There were pics on Instagram on Friday and Saturday of Ben and Linds in Hawaii. He clearly is still with her – I believe the Instagram shots posted by regular folks excited to see him or serve him and his girlfriend breakfast. The pap pics ( and those do look stages) did not get published until Monday when that article came out that Ben was dumping her and moved back in with Jen. The gossip cop denial denied the dumping not the moving back in part.

  11. david says:

    Krill, it’s not a “new normal,” it’s enabling. Jen has always been and will always be Ben’s biggest enabler. The real world is just too tough for ol’ Bennie? This is a grown man. He needs to grow up, sober up and stand on his own two feet. That he hasn’t done that yet is because he has a crutch in the form of a doormat wife who just doesn’t get it and will apparently spend her life propping him up. If he’s truly living in the house, all that means is that old habits will never die and those kids will get a front row seat to his addictions, his sex life, his manipulating their mother and his BS. Let’s not act like he was ever World’s Best Dad when he and Jen were still a functioning couple. New normal? Nah, business as usual for these people. He’s an addict, she’s his enabler, simple. That’s all this is.

  12. babu says:

    If you haven t done so yet, read the New Yorker article, it s devastating until the last line.

  13. mela says:

    my only comment is I haven’t seen him hold Jennifer Garners hand and look at her the way he looks at Shookus.

    I think he’s back living in the home for convenience purposes and I wouldn’t be surprised if he is still sleeping with Jen. Shookus is dumb for letting this happen and I bet he is lying to her about the situation “I live in the guest house, it’s for the kids! I’m not having sex with Jen”. But she dealt with him living with Jen for 3 -5 years during their affair so maybe a few more months is something Shookus can live with if she thinks there is a light at the end of the tunnel. As outsiders, we can see Ben is stringing them both along with this BS. I have to say as usual though, Jen looks the most pathetic. If they didn’t have kids – he would be long gone. She clings to him. He shows up crashes at Jens then leaves with his younger girlfriend to hawaii…how can jen handle being such a doormat?

    It seems to me if you want to be with Ben, you have to go along with the messy way he lives his life or you are shown the door.

    • Jenfan says:

      If what your saying is remotely true – ala Ben sleeping with Jen. Isn’t it the opposite of the last 3 years? Then he was public with his wife and secret with Lindsay and now he is public with Lindsay and secret with Jen. Ha

      I don’t think they are sleeping together. He stays at the guest house a few days a month for the convenience of being with his children when he is in town. Period.

  14. S says:

    Midlife crisis.