What was more surprising, that Channing Tatum and Jenna Dewan announced their separation this week, or the news that they’ve actually been living apart for months now? I think I’m more surprised that Channing apparently moved out of their LA house months ago and we never heard anything about it. Clearly, they were having issues and clearly, they care deeply about each other and their daughter. So with all of those good feelings, why couldn’t they just weather the storm? I don’t know. But “sources” really want us to know that they DID try.
Channing Tatum and Jenna Dewan fought to save their marriage. Tatum and Dewan, both 37, announced the end of their eight-year marriage on Monday. A source close to the couple tells PEOPLE the pair tried to make things work after “growing apart” over the past year.
“They really wanted to make their marriage work,” a source tells PEOPLE. “But neither of them are people who will stay in something that isn’t fully right.”
The former couple, who have been separated for months, struggled with the idea of calling it quits.
“They fell out of love, and it was a tough realization to come to,” adds the source. “They are both just incredibly sad.”
Moving forward, the two are focused on co-parenting their four-year-old daughter Everly.
“They’re amazing parents and are determined to stay a family,” says the source. “Their daughter is their world.”
“This has been a long time coming,” another insider says. “Like any marriage, they’ve had their ups and downs over the years but they really started to grow apart within the last year.”
Here’s another question: what’s more depressing, the idea that Channing and Jenna broke up because of something shady like cheating, or the idea that they broke up because life’s a bitch and sometimes you can have all the love in the world for someone and still fall out of love with them? Who would have thought that Channing and Jenna’s split would get so dark, man?
E! News has a story that has a similar version of everything else we’ve been hearing – go here to read. Sources insist that “it’s been over for a while…They had been trying for a long time to see if they could make it work. It became clear over the last year that they wanted different things and were no longer on the same path.” The source says, “The things that fulfilled them didn’t line up.” I still believe that as the years kept going by, Jenna felt a bit like “why not me?” as she watched Channing become a global star and one of the most in-demand actors in Hollywood. She was proud of him, clearly, but she also had to watch his star rise as she did sh-tty TV shows that kept getting canceled. It’s not a bad thing to be ambitious, to want to be famous and acclaimed. And it wasn’t happening for her and I bet that was part of it too.
Photos courtesy of WENN.
Almost always, there is a third party involved. Maybe there wasn’t cheating but why not focus on trying to fix your family instead of moving on – unless you already have someone else in mind. I am not being cynical – relationship counsellors will say the same thing. A vast majority of relationship breakdowns happen with one or both of the partners have checked out because they have grown apart and have their sights on someone else. For the sake of their daughter, I am glad they are keeping everything civil – but I don’t think for a moment they are going to share with the general public every honest detail about their breakup.
Apparently they did try. But it didn’t work. It happens and it doesn’t have to have anyone else involved but two people who just don’t go together anymore. And one shouldn’t spend their whole life trying to fix something. Sometimes moving on really is the only option. Unless you are a martyr.
Ditto.
There’s a book out, which I skimmed while in the bookstore a couple of years ago, which covers long-term marriages. The author interviewed multiple couples who had been married for decades to find out why. Ultimately, it seemed the conclusion was that those who are in long-term marriages just didn’t quit. Even when things were not great, cheating, falling in love with someone else, falling out of love with your spouse, financial ruin, etc. these couples made a conscious decision to stay in the marriage and make it work. These couples found creative ways to work around their marital problems so they could stay together and it worked for them, because they both wanted it to work even if they had an unconventional marriage.
I think some couples just don’t want to work at the relationship anymore and either one or both of them decide they’re tired and don’t want to deal with the problem anymore.
A lot of long term couples marriages are extremely unhealthy and should never have gone on that long. Theres a social conditioning that teaches people (especially women) to value marital longevity over things like personal fulfillment and even mental wellbeing.
In the end of course there has to be a balance between working through things and loving yourself, I’m just very wary about listening to long married couples when I have no idea what tradeoffs they made, how balanced the sacrifices were and whether they would have lived better happier lives by admitting they shouldn’t be married.
These couples were very open about the dysfunction in their marriages. One woman admitted to having a lover for the past 20 years who her husband knew about. Another confessed she knew her husband had multiple infidelities in their younger married life, but chose to stay with him to keep the family together for the children and the family as a whole.
The book put into focus that all of these fairytale, happily every after, soulmates for life isn’t the bill of goods we’ve been sold. Yes, by the end of the road, many of these 40, 50 and 60 year marriages survived and these couples do love one another, but it wasn’t without a lot of sacrifice, compromise, forgiveness and hard work.
I don’t think that’s necessarily healthy.
My parents have been married for 26 years now and even tho it’s gotten way better now than before, they made a conscious decision to stay together but boy after watching their years and fights, i would rather be single than be in a similr set up.
Similarity I met my currently boyfriend after he left a 10 year relationship. There was no foul play, no cheating, he just felt they weren’t right for each other and it wasn’t working. There were no huge fights and often it was a lot of work and compromises but he wasn’t in love, she didn’t feel similr and often he was pressured not to leave and work on it.. hence why instead of it going on for 5 years, it carried on for 10 and at the end it was deeply depressing for him to remain in an arrangement where he wasn’t in love with the person. I was also in a similar postion but left as well. It’s funny because we both never understood what we wanted from relationships until we found eachother and it was an ‘aha’ moment.
Sometimes things happen and they don’t work out. You can’t force someone to remain in a relationship if they are not happy. And truthfully, it worked out in the end.
I wished my parents had divorced since I was a teenager. Couldn’t stand all the fighting and yelling. So just because couples endure a marriage doesn’t mean it was happy and how much harm they caused their children.
My parent’s divorce 22 years ago was the best thing that happened to the kids and themselves. I remember being thrilled at 13 that I would never hear them fight again. Mom found her lobster after that.
I hundred percent agree with you. There might not be physical cheating, but starts with an emotional attachment to someone else. You just not fall out of love, love just moves away to a different dwelling. It said in the daily mail that Channing was an immature flirt and Jenna was tired of ot
I agree. My mother is a psychologist. She says that 50% of relationships fail bc one partner has another “waiting in the wings.” This has only escalated since Facebook.
Agreed as well. Also, I’m not judging, but, in marriage, you fall in and out of love with each other all the time. Love morphs changes throughout the years with it overall typically becoming stronger. Some days…weeks…(sometimes months!) you cannot stand the person next to you and then that changes and you’re in love with them again. That instant attraction and infatuation changes and morphs into friendship and a mature love, in particular when children are involved. I also realize some marriages just are not right, and couples realize they are not a good fit or have changed and cannot make the adjustment and one should never stay in something that makes you miserable for everyone in the family.
I think if the relationship is really good (both people are balanced and mature), the love will stay regardless of who else comes into the picture.
My parents fell out of love long ago (yet stayed married because they’re the most passive-aggressive people on the planet, and live in the same house like frenemies), but there was absolutely zero chance someone else was involved for either to fall in love with instead. Neither drastically changed, but all their romantic love just seeped out and by then they had us kids they felt they “should stay together for.” As I grew up we observed them grow resentful of each other’s habits and personalities. Never got to the point of physical abuse or cheating, but they have emotionally and verbally abused each other, failed to support each other when either was depressed and living amidst that toxicity screwed up my brother’s and my feelings about romantic relationships. We’re both terrified of ending up “trapped” with the wrong partner, so we struggle to trust anyone and both have some anger issues.
Divorcing and trying to co-parent as friends will be a healthier thing for their daughter to witness if they aren’t in love any more. A long marriage is not an accomplishment for people who are faking it, it’s a curse.
Yo. I know Blind gossip is usually trash but….they have receipts.
Yes, thank you! Blind Gossip does have the receipts in addition to Channing being known as having a wandering eye for years now. A couple of years ago he even tried to pick up one of my relatives in a similar manner that he tried with the woman providing the BG receipts. So no, they didn’t simply try their best and really worked at their relationship but just ” fell out of love”. Yeah, right lol. They’re really done because Jenna is either sick of looking the other way when it comes to Chan Man’s infidelity or she just found out about it. Either way, their sugar coated divorce announcement was a joke…with so many people knowing Channing is a cheater their words just look disingenuous and contrived.
Sometimes, it’s just “The Bitch of Living” (sorry, my nephew was one of the leads in Spring Awakening last Spring in HS lol). And yes, “falling out of love” does happen. And sometimes, love can be hate. But it’s a very good thing for their daughter that they can co-parent civilly. Kudos to them; so many can’t.
So true. That happened to me recently, we evolved together for years and it was great, then his thing got bigger than mine and I supported him, unfortunately we grew apart and fell out of love a little, separated because it was becoming unbearable, so much passive aggressiveness going on. It was heartbreaking but we did manage to make things work out well enough for the custody of our cat and not that I’m happy now but I’m definitely happier than when we broke up. It’s definitely for the best at this very moment, no third party involved. We’re both slowly moving on which is great. I definitely think that relationships need a bit of work however sometimes it’s best to separate when it becomes toxic. At least, you can still keep the good memories.
I wish them the best for the rest.
I don’t understand why marriages fail when I person wants the same level of fame as the other and it doesn’t happen. Is it Jealousy? I mean how can she resent him for that? I’ve not seen her in much but neither of them seem to offer anything more than so many other actors. Fame and success in Hollywood are such a weird, elusive and picky creatures.
I don’t get it either. Plus her star is bigger as part of a “couple goals” couple. She’s very beautiful but not a hugely in demand actress.
I think they fell out of love, maybe fell in love with new people. She all of a sudden started booking jobs she wouldn’t in the past (hosting gig instead of staring role – just my opinion), it looks more like she was setting up her independence path for the impending divorce.
You’re asking why a marriage doesn’t work out when one person’s career goals fall short while their partner achieves everything that partner #1 had dreamed of? When they become “wife of”? Trying to keep your personal life together when you’re professionally unfulfilled and disappointed?
Yes I am. If her failure to achieve success was because he was successful i’d come closer to understanding the resentment. But if they both try and one succeeds and the other through no fault of their partner. I understand the person who hasn’t succeeded would or might be jealous or resentful but to automatically blame the breakdown on this seems illogical to me.
It doesn’t have to be the fault of the partner – that’s an incredibly un-nuanced perspective. One person could get tired of being on the back-burner, or be tired of having the whole responsibility of keeping the home fires burning because they don’t have as many professional opportunities. It feels weird to have to explain to someone how being professionally un-fulfilled can impact a relationship, because it’s kind of a cornerstone of adulthood.
Something I’ve considered too is how many jobs did Jenna turn down over the years because Channing had a bigger, better opportunity, so she sacrificed for the family? Once they had a child, someone needed to be there and if he was constantly working and “striking while the iron is hot” where did that leave her? I’ve also seen speculation that he wanted more kids, but she didn’t. If true, it also goes to the not being a big deal for him. He’s not going to be out of commission for a year. He’s not the one expected to stay home and look after the family, because his career is bigger and more lucrative than hers.
@bridget. It “feels weird” to have to explain that to someone? How on earth is understanding that particular situation a cornerstone of adulthood? Explain that one to me please. Are we all made aware of professional inequities and their impact on a relationship at … what age would you say? you’re opining on a subject that isn’t black or white…. Some people do stay together, happily, while one achieves a much higher level of success. Your partner may or may not have anything to do with your level of success – and I understand OP’s curiosity about why people would automatically blame the disparity of success on the breakdown of the marriage. You paint a grim picture of partners’ support in marriage.
PS. Your condescension is irritating.
I think it could just be that their lives are going at different paces. My husband has flirted with the idea of a major career shift and it kind of freaked me out a bit. Any change is stressful, and when the change means that your partner is around less and less, that puts a lot of pressure on you to keep everything together. I can only imagine that stress gets amplified when the two of you work in the same industry and there are all those other feelings wrapped into it.
I doubt this has to do with career envy and I don’t know why people are pushing this theory so hard.
Channing is a heavy drinker, he literally casually refered to himself as an alcoholic in that GQ magazine from a few years ago. She on the other hand is more into the health kick and general wholesomeness. Plus there was a time that they wouldn’t go longer than a few days apart but that was before she had work committments like that dance show. These people grew apart
I don’t know why people are pushing the jealousy narrative either. It’s much more likely drinking and time apart played a big role. Maybe she didn’t appreciate solo parenting all the time and wants to find someone she can be a true partner with.
Honestly she probably just realized she’s entitled to half of everything he’s made in the last decade and she might as well cut and run while she’s still young. It won’t take her long to find someone who can make her happy.
Agreed. Plus, it’s usually the guy in those situations because they get all weird about not being the breadwinner. It’s not as likely here I don’t think.
Yes, it sounds like another blame-the-woman angle. He’s an alcoholic and a cheating horn dog and she’s finally cutting her losses.
I also don’t think career envy because when they actually got married he was the star on the rise already and she hadn’t booked any new leading movie roles (that i am aware of). If this was envy they would have ended long ago.
Not jealousy – people are far more nuanced than a straight “she’s just jealous of him”. But marriage isn’t just being in love, it’s building a life together. When both parties are pouring time and energy to make their career a priority, and be parents, and try to be married – that’s a LOT. You have to have a full set of tools to make things work. Add in different lifestyle preferences and a lot of travel? It takes a lot.
Co-sign. How many non-Hollywood marriages fail when one of the parties works too much and doesn’t put enough effort into the relationship? And when each of them is doing such different things (one working a lot away from home, one mostly at home caring for a young child) that’s a lot of strain on a marriage. Kids take so much time and energy that even when both parents are not traveling it’s hard to stay connected with your partner. After too much time goes by of not being connected…there goes the love 🙁
But look at how many of those relationships are successful because one party specifically stepped back from their career. There are a few exceptions – like Jennifer Connolly & Paul Bettany, who alternate – but for the most part one partner ends up having to sacrifice career momentum in order to make the relationship work.
Bridget, I think we agree! I’m saying I don’t think it’s a simple “she’s jealous of his fame” I think it’s more nuanced that he was working too much, she was taking care of their kid more (although she does work too), they were doing their own thing too much and not connecting. Once a couple stops connecting, then all sorts of bad feelings and resentments can fester, but those feelings aren’t really the “cause” of a breakup they are by-products.
Whether they consciously decided that she would work less or it just happened that he became more successful, I think one or both of them just stopped prioritizing the marriage and they grew apart. Two working people can make a marriage work if they both prioritize each other, and a 1-working 1-at-home marriage can fail if they do not.
My take after a whole day of stories and background gossip, she was the driven, mature, solid one (crunchy and granola too) that made him “grow”. He was the ‘fun’ one, boozy and charming and a little bad.
Super hot dynamic perhaps when you’re dating, but it’s less fun to chase after your drunk husband as he flirts with a crowd and you have a young kid to put to bed. It’s even less fun when you most likely have to be the ‘bad’ parent too.
deets – i think you are wise and on the money here.
Agreed. It’s one thing to watch your drunk husband like a hawk at parties when he’s all you’ve got, but when there’s a kid at home and he still hasn’t changed? I don’t blame her.
And there’s that quote about him being a functional alcoholic and he says something like “she knows what she bought into.” He obviously had no desire to change. The newness and hotness of being with him wore off and all that was left were his vices and infidelity.
Sounds plausible.
I follow both of them & up until 2017, they were super into each other super in love, it’s how they were the whole time they dated & through 7 years of marriage. Then 2017 there is practically nothing, he posted more about her (I think she only posted his picture once), but still not the usual lovey dovey stuff. I wonder if they were the couple who everything was just so good & so in sync for their whole relationship, that when they hit a rough spot, they didn’t know how to work through it. They assumed it meant it was over, instead of realizing most relationships do hit a rough patch now & again? It’s sad, but I like them & find no reason to assume cheating or her being jealous.
He’s been cheating on her for years, so I feel like the lovey dovey stuff was mostly just performative. At least on his part. She went along with it and pretended he actually did worship her. I’m guessing she picked at the scab at some point and the house of cards collapsed.
Really?? Is that true?? Who did he cheat on her with?? She doesn’t strike me as the type that would tolerate infidelity. I don’t think I believe this.
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Men don’t leave unless they either been kicked out or they have someone waiting. I feel she kicked him out given how she’s been trying to rebrand lately. So I don’t think there is a mistress he’s about to step out with, but if all the blind items are true he was just a cheater who couldn’t keep it in his pants. Potentially he could have given her a STD due that behavior which might have been the final straw.
Either way I assume he’s got small man syndrome of sorts he married way above his league. He is an ugly looking man, i’ll never ever understand the thirst for his man.
Wow, so much to unpack here. First of all, the “men don’t leave unless …” uhhh where are you getting that from? Men also have the ability to feel unhappy and leave a relationship based solely on that.
And accusing him of cheating and giving her an STD?????! Wow, where are you getting that from? What a nasty and baseless assumption. Let’s not even touch the super rude things you say about his appearance. Jeez.
Blind Items for years now have said he is a serial cheater, people in the comments yesterday talked about seeing him at party with his arms around models. It’s obvious he was a cheater. But please keep believing in the social media #goals bs that they kept pushing.
Runcmc
Maybe not alll men, but perhaps that has been DiligentDiva’s experience.
I know it’s been mine. Not with regular relationships, but legally married couples, anyway. Lots of the men I have known, both my own friends to coworkers, will usually not leave a marriage they have invested in, especially when there are children involved unless they have been kicked out or leave to live with another (usually younger woman) they’ve fallen in “love” with. Maybe it’s the fact that around me one person can no longer afford to live comfortably by themselves while paying alimony AND child support, but that’s only part of it.
I’ve known men who cheat and cheat and cheat. Claim they are sooo unhappy in their marriage, but yet never leave. If they are getting away with having the cake and eating it too, they ride that bus until the wheels fall off. They seem to subscribe to that “cheaper to keep her” mentality. They have the wife taking care of the home and kids, even if they both work. These types have grown comfortable with having a “live-in housekeeper/nanny” in their wives. They will usually leave it up to the woman as in, make her life miserable by sneaking around, starting fights with her, etc so that they don’t have to do the dirty work of pulling the plug. The ones that do take the initiative to actually leave are the ones that already have the next one lined up.
Maybe this doesn’t apply to Channing and Jenna since they have money and means. But who knows. It would not surprise me. Not in Hollywood anyway.
All Run said was that he’s ugly. And he is.
I read that once about Paul Newman and his second wife and that once when they had a fight so bad he left the house bit not for long. When he came back he back he told her it was cause he realized he had no where else to go.
JeanGray for the win.
My husband and I were at a TIFF party with him and he had his hands all over various models/clingers. At one point one girl was sitting on his lap and he was caressing her behind. It was gross. We typically try to avoid these industry parties because they just depress me, men in Hollywood are dirtbags.
This. Theres a crop of married actors all around the same age that I dont believe for even one second are monogamous. justin Timberlake, Tom Hardy, Chris Hemsworth, Ryan Reynolds, Ryan Gosling and even newly wed Michael Fassbender. Call me a cynic but no matter how “well suited they appear” (two comedic actors from Washington like Pratt and Faris or two hiphop dancers like Tatum and Dewan) these are all just first marriages on a timer.
Never found him attractive. His eyes are too close together. That’s all I’ve got.
men don’t leave relationships unless they have someone waiting in the wings? are you serious with this BS? men have feelings, standards, and autonomy just like women. don’t fall into these tired gender stereotypes.
i don’t like either one of them so don’t counter like my comment has anything to do with them. that’s just a ridiculous statement.
It doesn’t help to save a marriage
https://blindgossip.com/?p=86054#more-86054
Oh WOW, they have the receipts!!!
omg whoa
So this is how he spent his time while Jenna was home with their daughter? What a prick.
What an idiot he is.
The receipt is fake, it’s from a celebrity impersonator. The selfie is a screen shot from this video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LoWK3WqxmwI
That makes me feel better. I think I can’t actually handle the receipts. lol.
I know I’m way too invested in this celeb couple!!
Blind Gossip just never stops their bs do they! Not that I doubt that Channing would pick up girls online but that it takes special scum to fake receipts like this. And Blind Gossip is that scum.
Wow, that’s good to know. He would be beyond dumb to leave a paper trail like this, so makes sense. But it wasn’t difficult to believe either, for good reason.
I never have and never will read Blind Gossip. It will kill even more of my brain cells. I stoop low with a couple of reality shows I watch, but reading or believing certain rag mags like Star (unless photo proof) and believing the Blind Gossip site is beneath even me. LOL
That blind is embarrassingly awful. Not saying he’s never cheated but does that text exchange really seem real to you??
No. It made no sense. I’m not savvy enough to recognize doctored screen shots though.
Daaaaaaaamn. Should have scrolled down before commenting above.
I am almost as appalled at how terrible a writer he his as I am about him DMing random women.
OK, fine I will come out and confess that I find he really, really hot. I also love his lips, eyes and good nature. She is drop dead GEORGEOUS, two good looking and nice people. I loved this couple, he seemed to worship the ground she walked on. They were low key and just happy to be in each other’s company, they were the Hollywood couple I rooted for.
Whatever happened, I like their civil tone and their breakup press release. It was distinct to their personality and will hold up well when their daughter is old enough to read it. Divorce is always sad but I feel like both parents will be great co-parents to their daughter.
I felt the same way.
Yet another one Blind Gossip had been calling for a while.
Why is the label always “Cheating”. Isn’t it possible they had an open marriage, and he could text anyone he wanted, as long as the third party kept their mouth shut? They don’t owe the world an explanation of their arrangement. I honestly can’t imagine trying to have a monogamous relationship with a person who traveled for work constantly and had opportunities for sex thrown at them hourly. Both for my own needs, and being practical about my partner’s needs. Sex without emotional intimacy would not upset me. Having a steady side piece with emotional ties would.
@BitingPanda
Yes, it’s possible that they had an open marriage, only they know what, if any arrangement they had between them. They certainly don’t owe any explanation to anybody.
It’s their marriage, their business.
What I don’t understand about open marriages is why bother getting married?
Why not just live with someone and not make such a commitment, if not ready to do so?
Monogamy is not for everybody and if they are not hurting anybody with their lifestyle, if all the people involved understand upfront what they are agreeing to…what is the problem?
I’m only concerned when there is no clear consent and when someone is underage.
Also, s@x can start out as only a physical experience, but what if it grows into an emotional intimacy that neither planned for?
Open marriages are not so simple, it can have serious implications, if feelings develop.
We are only human after all.
My personal dream was that they had a wide open relationship, because they’re both totally bi. You know that scene in Magic Mike, where he and the girl forget the name of the woman they just had a threesome with? I was always convinced that was based on Channing and Jenna.
As for why get married: lots of folks with open relationships identify as “monogamish” — that means you know one person is your primary partner, but you both enjoy having fun with other people, together or separately.
i think he looks like a giant potato, i do not understand his success at all
she’s freakin beautiful though, and i always liked her when she was on SYTYCD
He’s built but his face is jacked up to me too. Like a big potato with all the features crammed in a small area in the middle.
@lisa
I agree, I don’t find him physically attractive at all, but he seems like a fun loving, nice guy.
Maybe that’s part of his success.
His face doesn’t appeal to me at all, his features are kind of squashed together in the middle of his face.
She is cute, but something seems off to me around her mouth/smile/teeth.
I like that she is not afraid to change up her hairstyle, it’s nice to see a confident woman who is not obsessively attached to her long hair, which is so common.
Jenna didn’t go and shaved her head, it doesn’t have to be drastic, but it’s still great that she has a bit of fun with her hair.
@ashby – yes she & Emma Stone have the same thing going on with their teeth/jaw – it’s odd.
This is why it’s so important to have strong relationships outside of your marriage/romantic relationships. Friends, siblings, whatever…but people who are in your life with or without your partner. I see so many girlfriends whose partner becomes their ‘world’, and that’s lovely till one of you is done. Falling out of love is real. Love your partner, but have your own life too.
I say this having decided to prioritise my partners career over mine (he enjoys and is much better at what he does than I am, and it makes financial sense for us as a couple, too), but the one thing I will never back burner is my girlfriends.
Although I believe their was cheating during their relationship, I don’t think that was the reason they broke up. I remember tea of them having open relationship and threesome.
I do think they just fell out of love and just remain friends. They been broken up for months yet the were seen out and about laughing etc. They just hanged out like 8 days ago.
Sagittarius and Taurus? That was doomed from the start. You know why Rita Wilson and Tom Hanks works so well? Cause Cancer and Scorpio is a great combo
I know nothing (zip, zero, zilch, nada) about star signs so this is fascinating to me. What determines if a relationship is doomed or not?
Channing got kinda lucky by catching the eye of Steven Soderbergh. He’s been in a few of his movies, I believe starting with Magic Mike. Sometimes an actor just needs that break.
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Channing quite frankly got lucky by virtue of being an attractive white male. Until Magic Mike and 21 Jump Street ended up both doing better commercially than was expected (along with both movies being critically acclaimed) 6 years ago no one but his hardcore fans though this guy had any acting talent or charisma. The jealousy angle doesn’t make sense because as someone said it here Tatum, after Step Up, was seen as a rising star and Dewan wasn’t.
I recall no megastar expectations placed on her that were placed on him and if she was envious she would’ve left him years ago.
I was married to my ex for ten years (together for 11 years). I will admit that when we got together, I was a wild person – partying, sleeping with other men, jumping from job to job…basically very lost and immature.
I carried on like this for about three years. Then I decided to grow up and stop cheating and being a general loser. My husband never knew about the cheating but I’m sure he suspected that I was cheating as he was very insecure about me/our marriage. I am ashamed of my behaviour and vowed to be a better wife going forward.
He worked away a lot and it made me very lonely. It also made him lonely and eventually he started cheating with other women when he worked away (he was in another country for weeks, sometimes months at a time…in a situation that prevented me from visiting). Initially I accepted and forgave his cheating because of my previous actions. However, when he refused to stop, even when I begged him to (and he brought home a curable STD!) It changed how I felt about staying in the marriage.
I left him and although it was initially friendly, things deteriorated when I discovered he moved in with the last girl he cheated on me with THREE WEEKS after we filed for divorce. It broke my heart because it felt that I didn’t matter at all to him. But perhaps it was karma for my awful behaviour at the start of the marriage. He married her and they’re now expecting a baby…and I’m alone. I guess I got what I deserved?! Or perhaps things aren’t always what they seem…he cheated on every girl before me and I truly doubt he will change, especially since he jumped into another relationship immediately following our ten year marriage.
I am not perfect and have worked hard to fix the part of me that did the things I did in my marriage. It’s so easy for others to judge a marriage when they’re not in it and don’t know what has/has not happened. I hope that these two find peace and are able to work through whatever issues they have as individuals so that they do not repeat them in future relationships (like my ex is likely to do!)
You reap what you sow, that’s for sure. (I have also.) I’m not trying to be mean, but that’s just the law of the universe and the same as “what goes around comes around.” But he also has his issues. You seem like you’ve grown to be a very kind and mature woman. I have no doubt you will find the right person. Thanks for sharing your story.
Hi April…Thank you for being honest yet compassionate ❤❤❤
Meh, no one knows. My second marriage, we truly loved each other, but he decided he couldn’t live in the states (looking back, not a bad choice). He offered to buy tickets for my 10-year-old (at the time) son and I to move to Peru with him and travel. Not a life I could choose for my 10-year-old and take him so far from his own father, grandparents, school. So we got divorced. Sucked, but it is what it is. As the saying goes, “A bird may love a fish, but where would they build a home together?” No telling what their situation is, but it’s not necessarily always a third party.
Well I find this to be an odd split and don’t believe that there is nobody else involved….. in am most certain we will hear much much more……
When Jenna said she hated when people said something like people told her she had the perfect marriage, she could have screamed.
No one has a,”perfect marriage”. If someone is telling you That, they are lying through their teeth! Also what she said about not always liking her husband, that is true too. I have told my husband that in a stupid disagreement many times. I said i love you but i dont like you right now! I found her extremely refreshing! But at the end of the day, we both can’t imagine being with anyone else!