Self-help guru Tony Robbins is a misogynistic douche who hates #MeToo survivors

Tony Robbins motivation expert releases book

I’ve never really paid much attention to “inspirational speaker” and “life coach” Tony Robbins. That’s not some kind of brag – I don’t pay attention to a lot of people if I see them for one second and they give off a bad vibe. Life’s too short and I move on pretty quickly. Of course I had heard his name before, I remember that he was in Shallow Hal and what little I did see of him, he just struck me as an evangelical huckster without the Jesus-peddling. Like, an apolitical, non-religious con man and snake-oil salesman. But thousands – if not millions – bought what he was selling. So what’s he selling these days? Misogynist bullsh-t, it seems. In a recent talk, Robbins told the audience: “If you use the #MeToo movement to try to get significance and certainty by attacking and destroying someone else, you haven’t grown an ounce. All you’ve done is basically use a drug called significance to make yourself feel good.” Basically, he’s saying that women who speak out about the abuse they’ve suffered are just looking to get famous and “take down” a man who is more important than them. Which is a garbage take. Here’s the video making the rounds:

He said he was “knocking victimhood” not the #MeToo movement and that no victim of rape or harassment or abuse should “throw stones.” He says, “Who should throw the stone? You shouldn’t throw that stone if you live in a f–king glass house. Is there any one of us that hasn’t done something that we prefer we’d not or that we’re embarrassed by or that was hurtful even if we didn’t intend it to?” So because everybody makes mistakes, no one should ever call out rapists, abusers, misogynists or sexual harassers? What?

When a woman in the audience, a survivor named Nanine McCool, challenged him and told him he was “mischaracterizing the #MeToo movement,” he physically pushed her back with his fist (as you can see in the video) and told her a story about a powerful male friend he has who refused to hire a qualified woman for a job because she is attractive and the man couldn’t risk it. Robbins told that story as, like, some sort of cautionary tale, because clearly men need to be treated like babies with no self-control. I mean, what are men supposed to do if they have to work with women? NOT expose themselves to their coworkers? Obviously, this sh-t is a big pile of NOPE.

Tarana Burke – who started the #MeToo movement – had a lot to say on Twitter:

It was fascinating to see a lot of Twitter reaction from men in media and just men in general – there were a lot of men who truly found Robbins’ words and thoughts repellent, and some even suggested that if a man speaks this way, you know he has some skeletons in his closet. Tweet @ me if you’ve got a Tony Robbins story.

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  1. Shotcaller says:

    This pompous, shallow famewhore has the nerve to talk about using significance as a drug? He’s been monetizing people’s insecurities for years and he has the nerve to shame actual victimhood? This induces Trumpian levels of rage in me. Why can’t the ground open up and swallow some people, Old Testament style?

    • Nic919 says:

      The arrogance of male privilege. As if coming out as a victim of abuse, assault or harassment is something one does for fun or profit.

    • Shotcaller says:

      Well said! This is what I’ve never understood. The lives of accusers are, without fail, turned upside down in the most tragic ways yet people still ascribe ulterior motives to their coming forward. I sometimes think women will never, ever win.

    • still_sarah says:

      The bible says people in glass houses (having fault or sins of their own) shouldn’t throw stones. But how does a victim of someone else’s violence and hatred live in a glass house?? Why does he assume THEY have some sin, like they caused the man’s behaviour? That is just victim-blaming.

      As a mature woman who was there for the decades of feminism bringing us forward, bravo to the men on Twitter who stood up and called this line of “thought” B.S.!

      • Rumi says:

        I can’t believe people pay to listen to these snake oil salesmen the universal truths you could get by reading philosophical books. Its way cheaper and more meaningful.

        He gets rich by feeding off your insecurities.
        I cannot stand him because hes a showman saying very basic stupid things and duping people out of their money.

        Go on YouTube and watch School of Life and as always approach everything with critical thinking. Great jumping off point to discover more.

        The #metoo movement is pivotal and extremely important for victims and survivors to be heard. It has empowered people to come out and speak up, how can that be construed as throwing stones – seriously fuck him!
        This boys will be boys mentality needs to die.
        My friend can’t control himself around beautiful qualified women so he’ll deny her an opportunity, because you know boys will be boys.

      • Rumi says:

        Nanine McCool Bravo. I got teary eyed watching that video. She kept her cool and stood her ground.

      • SK says:

        The glass houses quote is not from the bible

    • Spring says:

      ^^^ YES to this: “monetizing people’s insecurities”

  2. Elkie says:

    So victims of crime shouldn’t ask for justice? Or only if they’re not victims of sexual violence? Or only if they’re not women?

    Gosh darn he’s revolting…

  3. EMau says:

    Everything about him screams con artist.

    • deets says:

      The entire way he holds his face screams HUCKSTER.

      He looks like the Mask trying to be charming. And that’s because Carey had insincere and smarmy with a dash of insanity down pat.

    • elle says:

      @esmom – I always wondered who he reminded me of – you nailed it! He has always given me the creeps.

      Years ago, he was a keynote speaker at an event owned by the company I work for. The president of the co. left a dinner with him because he was a misogynistic, arrogant bag of dicks. They didn’t cancel the keynote, though, so it wasn’t much of a stand.

  4. H says:

    Until this article I thought Tony had died. Too bad I was wrong. He’s scum.

  5. Mariposa says:

    I was just talking about Tony Robbins with a friend yesterday, and we both said what a bad vibe he gave off. That little anecdote he told was unreal. If all those men keep their hands to themselves they can employ a catalogue of models and they will be fine…it is the MEN who control this, not women. This New Age horse shite can be so damn damaging.

    • Snowflake says:

      Yes!! I am so sick of men blaming women for why they can’t control themselves! But get, they think they should be in charge of everything! Men CAN control themselves, just like women. By acting as if they can’t, they get a pass because they can’t help themselves. Hold men responsible for their actions.

      • ORIGINAL T.C. says:

        Saying you can’t control yourself from sexually assaulting an attractive woman who works for you is like saying you can’t control yourself from murdering people who come to work for you. There’s a name for those people (psychopaths) and a place to put them (prison).

      • otaku fairy says:

        This is one of the things that happens when males are fed this idea that “society” has some obligation to eliminate all distractions, ‘sins’, or temptations that come in the form of women’s bodies and sexuality in order to keep (mostly straight) males acting right. Instead of teaching accountability, you get this “it’s always someone else’s fault” (with someone else usually meaning women or girls who were too pretty or too immodestly dressed or who were too unwilling to wait in order to avoid becoming single mothers, etc.) approach to men’s failings, bad decisions, and vile behaviors.

      • Godwina says:

        This. I have to physically hold myself back from touching a man’s beautiful set of guns when t-shirt weather starts, or their flat abs, or cupping their junk, or whatever. Of COURSE women have that urge. The difference is we’ve been taught from infancy to hold off and not feel entitled to it, so we don’t tend to get handsy or rapey (with some exceptions). The lies people like TR tell themselves is so nauseating.

      • Godwina says:

        This. I have to physically hold myself back from touching a man’s beautiful set of guns when t-shirt weather starts, or their flat abs, or cupping their junk, or whatever. Of COURSE women have that urge. The difference is we’ve been taught from infancy to hold off and not feel entitled to it, so we don’t tend to get handsy or rapey (with some exceptions). The lies people like TR tell themselves is so nauseating.

  6. Bluesky says:

    Hmmm… Is this a preemptive strike about stories that are about to come out about him? I mean, seriously, can’t a man sexually abuse, intimidate, and abuse his power without being called out on it??🙄

    • still_sarah says:

      @ Bluesky : Yeeeeees, I too smell some nasty poop rolling down the turnpike and about to come into public view 🙂

    • bluhare says:

      Yep, I bet it is. He had the right level of outrage to make my sensors ping.

      • FLORC says:

        There’s something… would not be shocked if he helped cover up an assault or paid for silence for someone close to him if not him.

    • Christin says:

      Methinks he protests too much.

      He was famous during the 1990s, and would probably love to recharge his career and the cash flow from anyone willing to part with their hard-earned money. Any misdeeds that come to light now would sidetrack those efforts, and thus that thinly-disguised worry exited his mouth.

    • Merritt says:

      Yes. Anyone who is all “won’t someone think about the poor abusers and rapists” has something in there past. And the way he was trying to intimidate McCool, was further proof that Robbins in a creep.

      • HeyThere! says:

        I am sitting here and I cannot believe hegot away with physically pushing her backward and trying to intimidate her in front of ALL THOSE PEOPLE?!?! I would like to think if I was there I would have walked up and stood next to her for support.

        This starts in jr high and high school when schools start telling girls what to wear as to not distract the boys. Yet the boys are out at PE with their shirts off.

    • magnoliarose says:

      I thought there was a story that came out but it disappeared under the pile of other stories, and it was damaging. Or maybe it was a while ago. Like Kaiser, I pay no attention to him and find him repulsive, so I can’t remember correctly.

  7. Digital Unicorn says:

    He has always creeped me out big time. Wonder what skeletons are in his closet.

    • Frome says:

      No doubt. Anybody who uses the “nobody’s perfect” argument on sexual harrassment and/or abuse is telegraphing his life story.

  8. Bobo says:

    How dare he push her back that way! He seemed very angry.

    • I had a boss do this to me once. He was a big guy, like Robbins. Backed me up against a wall, got in my face, gritted his teeth, told me he ‘didn’t like’ me, and I was never getting a raise or promotion because of that, despite having saved the company’s butt multiple times, and working just about every shitty position in the building, aside from maintenance.

      I ultimately called OSHA on his case, with the assistance of another employee… bad boss got busted for tons of violations, but I still ended up quitting when I got no help with the harassment, which was on-going.

      • Agenbiter says:

        Hooray for you and the other employee. Deeply appreciated.

      • Thanks. No one knew what really happened… they all thought we’d done something wrong, and quit or were fired. But we made future customers and employees safe (it was pretty bad), and that’s what’s important.

  9. Gutterflower says:

    The douche runs deep with this one.

  10. freddy says:

    That Frankenstein-looking mofo probably has a dedicated room in his pre-fab McMansion for all of the skeletons in his past….

    • joanne says:

      thank you. i was trying to think of what he looked like. the square head, square face and square teeth are all Frankenstein. you nailed it.

    • Sassyfrass says:

      Ha, ha, Ha! Nailed it!

    • minx says:

      Frankenstein it is! His head is enormous.

    • Olenna says:

      Franky in a McMansion…yeah, I can see it. LOL! My first thought was a braying mule, but I like your description better.

    • Christin says:

      I watched the Hal movie the other day, and he does have an enormous head and hands. It’s very evident when they are stuck in the elevator, and even makes for a few jokes in the movie.

    • Adrien says:

      He hypnotized Jack Black and made him see unattractive people differently so each time Jack sees Tony, he sees Tom Brady? Tim Tebow?

    • Felicia says:

      For the record, he apparently has a genetic disorder called Acromegaly which accounts for his appearance. I’m all for taking someone to task for crappy attitudes or words, but it’s also worth pointing out that “body shaming” someone over the results of a genetic disease might not be the most appropriate means of doing so.

      • Jag says:

        Thank you, Felicia. I was about to say the same thing.

        If I’m going to blast him – and I truly hope that he rots in jail if he’s harassed anyone or worse – then it’s not going to be about something that he can’t control. Some people with Acromegaly have major medical issues and die prematurely. I vaguely remember him doing an interview talking about how it negatively affected him. (Perhaps when he did a short-lived television series that helped people or couples? It’s been a long time.)

        And just in case someone would want to say it – no, his health problems do not have anything to do with his being a misogynistic jerk. He’s doing that on his own and should be called out on it.

  11. Svea says:

    A friend worked with him for more than a decade. Told me he is a rager. The friend couldn’t take the hypocrisy anymore. So yeah this fits.

  12. ORIGINAL T.C. says:

    So his “powerful friend” turned down the most qualified candidate because she was very attractive and he would be tempted to sexually assault or rape her? Which was OK to do before the Me Too movement but now that women are being believed he is afraid of facing consequences for rape/sexual assault? Good god, does Tommy Robbins realize what he just confessed about his powerful male friends? O.M.G. #someonecallthepolice

    So glad to see MEN coming out to attack him for implying they all want to sexually assault women and get away with it. Who says that? I’m sure he will be given a job soon in the WH with a metal of Freedom from the sexual assaulted in chief.

    • kNY says:

      I literally was just going to say he’ll probably get to be the next chief of staff.

  13. Joy says:

    So now we only hire ugly and unqualified candidates because if they’re attractive we might be unable to control ourselves? Got it.

    • still_sarah says:

      @ Joy : I am currently looking for work in an office environment. I am in my ’50’s and truthfully my looks are fading if not already gone (but my mind is sharp and my personality is on fire!), so this ‘ugly is the new qualified” is great news for me!!

      • Christin says:

        I bet you are a lot prettier than you think. Personality (at least to me) greatly enhances one’s looks. Even with two identical looking men or women, the one with a genuinely nice personality is automatically the better looking one.

      • magnoliarose says:

        @still sarah
        Beauty has nothing to do with age so don’t let our sick culture convince you any different. It evolves and becomes something deeper and more substantial because it is no longer only about attracting a man/woman. Anyone who looks for youth, beauty, and no substance is not worth a second of time.
        Your thoughts about your looks are most likely much harsher than anyone else’s.

      • Trashaddict says:

        Unfortunately studies say otherwise that “attractive” (whatever that means to he masses) and tall people are more likely to get hired, whether they are the best candidates are not. The only way to do really fair hiring would be to provide CVs with absolutely no identifying information: no names, no photos, no demographics. And then base the hire on the CV. Frankly this should happen with college and advanced education as well.

      • isabelle says:

        Our society does judge us by the way we look, that is a big part of why our society is such a hot mess and women are behind in the job market. No nice words or hope in “what should be” will change it. there has been for many years in the workplace agism problems with hiring (its harder to get a job after age 50) and pretty people get hired. Especially if the job is customer service or a public job. Attractive people get hired and there have been tons of studies on it. Maybe addressing the issue, being truthful about it, helps change that behavior versus believing someone somewhere will be open minded and then dismissing it so flippantly.

  14. Jess says:

    This is disgusting. And shows how far we as a society still have to go, when there are d-bags like this out there still blaming victims.

    • Arvedia says:

      Watching the video made me feel sick to my stomach. Pushing against this woman who quite possibly was an abuse survivor. Reading the apology he has issued in the meantime almost made me feel worse. These guys just don’t get it.

  15. psl says:

    Anyone here watch Dexter? Jordan Chase, anyone?

  16. momoffour says:

    Wow. That was bad. I just watched the TED talk by Paula Stone Williams on her life as a man and a woman. Sexism really does run so deep. Horrifying as this clip is- at least now everyone knows.

  17. Sue says:

    I am shocked at the number of people in the audience. Unfortunately, there are a lot of vulnerable people willing to pay good money for solutions to their problems – and they’re going to a huckster for help.

    • Christin says:

      I am also amazed he’s drawing such large crowds.

      My father gave me some great advice when I was in my 20s, and spending money on books by people interpreting religion or what have you. He said to be very cautious about giving money to people trying to make a dollar on “their” view. And he worked in the book business, no less.

  18. Purplehazeforever says:

    Kaiser is right…Twitter went crazy yesterday. Men came at Tony in droves for that ridiculous bullshit about his friend not being able to hire an attractive female. I’m not sure what Tony Robbins was thinking or if he was thinking at all here. I always had two thoughts on self help books, gurus, etc…they can be useful but sometimes I think people can get caught up in the idea that is all you need. As a survivor of sexual assualt, an adult child of a substance abuse/ alcoholic and as someone who watched her mother get hit by a significant other, self help books could not assist my traumas. Therapy was needed. 4 different times. I probably need it again. I did use self help books but I was guided each time by a therapist, none of Tony Robbins materials were recommended to me. Never. Therapists point out the con artists to you and he’s at the top of the list.

    • Esmom says:

      I think you have a great point about people trying to use “self-help” as a substitute for therapy. I think the stigma about mental illness is what keeps people from seeking out actual clinical help, sadly, and what keeps creeps like Robbins in business.

    • Shotcaller says:

      Some people can’t afford therapy while others don’t trust the Big Pharma backed clinical industrial complex. Others still are looking for non-Western takes on healthy mental hygiene. I get what you’re saying but self-help books aren’t necessarily the lazy man’s way out or the option least limely to be mired in social stigma.

      • bikki says:

        you are 100% right @shotcaller. self-help as a book genre is not at fault – it reaaaally depends on the author you choose.

  19. Rachel in August says:

    I couldn’t even finish reading this piece. I don’t even know what to say to this; there are no words. I just hope this story reaches far and wide and he suffers some big-time backlash for this. The suffering and horrific experiences he has minimized, he has no f*cking idea. How can he even see past the end of his nose?? Repulsive POS.

  20. happyoften says:

    I am getting tired of the “don’t be a victim”, or “culture of victimization” meme thrown out by these douchebags…. how ’bout we try not victimizing people? I mean, how hard can it be to NOT sexually harrass and abuse the women around you?

    Let’s talk about the empowerment of treating those around you with respect. The dignity of self control. The growth that comes from being held to account for your actions and behavior….. but I suppose it is much easier to blame victims for having the temerity to be honest. Easier to sell, I am sure. Tony Robbins can f*ck right off.

    And mad props to Ms. McCool for standing up to this jackass in his own house, in front of a large crowd, and in spite of being physically pushed back. Ovaries of steel is what she was packing. Huzzah!

  21. Shaz says:


    • Mmmo says:

      Yeah, the pushing her back… i feel like it wasn’t even intentional, it just “happened” because he was trying to control his words but his actions betrayed the anger he had inside about what she is saying

  22. minx says:

    Ugh, this guy is still around? I had forgotten. What a POS.

  23. Harryg says:

    How revolting is this? How revolting he is! Pushing her back like that!

  24. Ladykeller says:

    Did he really say victims shouldn’t throw stones. Yes we have all done things we are not proud of, I’ve said hurtful things to people, I’ve lost my temper and screamed at my kids, I’ve accidentally walked out of the store without paying for something and not gone back but I’ve never f@$king raped anybody or molested another person. I guess I have no right to call out sexual abuse because I’m not perfect.

    As for his friend and the attractive employee I have a guide for how to handle beautiful women in the workplace. 1. Don’t touch their bodies 2. Don’t make needless comments on their bodies and 3. Whatever you do do not rape them. And also fyi sometimes plain and unattractive women are assaulted and harassed. It’s shocking I know but sadly true, although he strikes me as the kind of Trump like douche that doesn’t believe less attractive women because who in their right minds would want them.

    • Mmmo says:

      Yes. There have been cases of psychos in their 20s breaking into care homes to rape elderly women. Rape is not a compliment.

  25. Spring says:

    I’m so glad Robbins opened his mouth and showed more of who he is — and that he’s getting called out on his shit. He’s long been given too much of a pass for his tactics. Ever since I first saw a video of him speaking in the early 1990s, he’s given me the heebie-jeebies. Ugh, sometimes I just can’t believe the bullies and hucksters our culture worships and rewards so heavily.

  26. OTHER RENEE says:

    I have read many self-help books: Chopra, Wayne Dyer etc. I was attracted to these books not only because of the books themselves, but because of the way the authors seemed to live their lives. Never once have I had the slightest interest in Tony Snake Oil Salesman Robbins. The slime vibe is just too strong. It has nothing to do with physical characteristics (I don’t like to criticize on that level). It’s just a very strong vibe.

    • Mmmo says:

      Same. Unlike the people here rolling their eyes at self-help and motivational authors/speakers in general, I’m ALL FOR IT. Deepak Chopra, Wayne Dyer, Byron Katie, Mel Robbins, Tom Bilyeu, Mark Manson, Adyashanti… I could go on. There’s some awesome people out there with amazing advice to give. I’ll buy their books, follow them on insta or facebook, watch their vids. This guy, for some reason, always seemed like a fake to me. Never spent more than 10 mins on his stuff, he just gives off a bad vibe imo.

  27. BobaFelty says:

    Well, for all his talk about personal responsibility….there are starting to be stories on Twitter about the multiple affairs he has had over the years.

    Men who are this afraid of the MeToo movement and women in general becoming empowered, seem to be the type with their own misdeeds. Can’t wait for women to tell what this jerk has been up to.

  28. FLORC says:

    I have no Robbins stories, but he seems like a pos. That his pr team went on immediate damage control before anything broke is so telling

  29. Saucy says:

    I’m surprised at his comments; some of the ‘greatest’ are clients of his so clearly there’s some core truth that he espouses which helps go-getters perform. Also, the reason I’m surprised is that I watched a netflix documentary on him (more hagiography really; not sufficiently critical in my view and he’s by no means perfect). There was a scene at one of his seminars where a woman from South America I think, stood up and announced to the whole audience that she had survived in a cult where rape and incest was commonplace – the abuse went on from childhood until she escaped. It was some sort of religious cult (aren’t they all??) and the abuse was apparently sanctioned by whatever deity they believed in. He was visibly moved and vowed to help this woman. Although a hagiography I didn’t get the impression that scene was set up in any way. The woman’s pain was authentic and his response seemed so too; if it wasn’t she should have got an Oscar!

  30. Ruyana says:

    Tony is talking like a man who has multiple victims to worry about.

  31. Spring says:

    I found the video of Robbins little #MeToo rant fascinating. I admire Nanine McCool for standing up to his sexist, patronizing, patriarchal crap:

    In that video, Robbins is the very embodiment of bullying and toxic masculinity — a pro at using his voice, size, gender, facial expressions & larger bodily movements to intimidate. Matthew Remski called this “somatic bullying,” and he writes so well about it:

    • ElizabethR says:

      Thanks for sharing that article – well worth reading for the nuanced points it bring up. Rang incredibly true especially in regards to trauma survivors. Thanks for sharing.

      • Spring says:

        Great point about trauma survivors — I wonder how many people have gone straight into freeze / dissociative experience when hit with Robbins’ & other overbearing people’s somatic bullying. I know I would have, and that’s even more reason why I appreciate Nanine McCool’s ability to stay present and responsive in the face of his intimidating tactics.

  32. Jaded says:

    This guy is a raging narcissist verging on the sociopathic. Tony, THIS IS WAR. Prepare to meet your doom.

  33. Liz version 700 says:

    Watching that 7’ tall man tower over a woman half his size and use his had to attempt to intimidate her into shutting up…. no one will EVER convince me that this abusive behavior isn’t a regular thing for him. He always creeped me out, but now he makes me queezy to even look at.

  34. HeyThere! says:

    It’s Noon and I just watched the first clip…..what the hell am I watching?!?! The fact that he doesn’t get why that story just makes men look like weak, sad faced clowns with no self respect for others or themselves is beyond me. I feel sick to my stomach after watch that…and people buy that and think it’s OKAY?!?! I can’t bring myself to watch more videos of this sad excuse for a man.

  35. LittleWing says:

    The way he pushed her back, intimidating her – the guy has rage issues. You just know there’s a story there. What a creep.

  36. Betsy says:

    Way to go, whoever that lady is! Not backing down when someone has the literal and metaphorical microphone and is that much bigger than you! That’s amazing!

    And I don’t know what’s worse: what this crap bag said on his own behalf or the heinous story he shared. That sounds like a lawsuit waiting to happen because it’s just sex discrimination.

  37. TheOriginalMia says:

    Before seeing this video, he gave me the creeps with that smile. Seeing him in action, being physically intimidating and dismissive of survivors, I see I was right to be leery of him.

  38. Naddie says:

    It amazes me (in the worse way) how a person like this have followers. Also, how is it possible not to have violent tendencies after reading and watching something like that? I wanna kick his face.

  39. DiegoInSF says:

    How disingenuous is his apology? He’s a creep. Can’t believe the stadium was full, so many gullible people! Went on his Twitter and the people defending him are hardcore MAGA people, hmmm.

  40. Elizabeth Rose says:

    What I wanna know, is how Oprah will respond to this. I wanna know how she’s going to denounce this POS that she’s so proudly given a public platform to on many occasions (undoubtedly increasing his audience) and under the guise of enlightenment esp. as part of her SuperSoul Sundays. I want to hear her take him down and if she doesn’t then I consider her problematic.

    • Deanne says:

      This! I’ve been over Oprah and her snake oil pushing for a while. Oprah give all kinds of grifters and scam artists a platform on that show. Tony Robbins and Joel Olsteen are just two that come to mind. I doubt she’ll say anything about her buddy Tony, now that he’s put out a non-apology.

    • Natalie S says:

      There’s a clip of Oprah rising to the challenge James Cordon set, to make him cry, and she does it so easily that it’s impressive and also pretty creepy. She’s a smart, incredibly accomplished woman and I question why someone that perceptive about people promoted hucksters like Dr Phil and the rest.

    • Addie says:

      I’ve always wondered why Oprah has promoted so many shysters. It’s always made me question everything about her judgement.

    • Jussie says:

      She is problematic. Deeply problematic.

      I feel like her biggest fans are people who never actually watched her show beyond the occasional celebrity interview. It was always such trash. She promoted hundreds of obvious scammers and snake-oil salesmen, and gifted many of them with a platform to do damage to hundreds of thousands if not millions. She gave a voice to anti-vaxxers and other anti-science crazies. She regularly had segments on relationships that were packed with misogynistic and straight up dangerous advice. She promoted idiotic and dangerous weight loss methods. She dived straight into the most outlandish, fear-mongering urban myths and started panics over nonsense. She preyed on vulnerable people who’d experienced tragedy, breaking them down emotionally because it made for good tv.

      But hey, she gave people free cars every so often so it’s all good apparently.

  41. Electric Tuba says:

    That’s assault right? I mean you can’t just put your hands on someone? I honest to god would have called the cops had I seen this. I’m so tired of us being pushed around, threatened, and treated like objects.

    And that politician who pulled out his gun the other day to tell his constituents he didn’t trust them? I apologize if the story was already discussed. In that moment I don’t understand why a police officer wasn’t called.

    Are these things not crimes? When people see these kinds of men immediately get their “hands slapped” or immediately felt with I think it sends a message that no one is going to take it anymore. Maybe? Uuuuuuggh!

  42. Matrioshka says:

    Yeah that seems like a very touchy subject for him so he probably has some skeletons in the closet. Can’t imagine why else he would physically try to intimidate an abuse survivor who called him out on his bullshit.

  43. adastraperaspera says:

    Wow, he used to project the image of a trim, clean cut game show host type, but he has lost his looks completely. And his composure. I watched the video with the sound off, and his body language is off-the-charts aggressive. Are we going to find out soon that viagra causes brain damage, exacerbating existing personality problems and violent impulses? I don’t remember so many men in their late 50s and up acting like cartoon villains–freakishly raging like Hulk Hogan and always needing 20-somethings hanging on their arm. Strange times.

    • Jag says:

      I’m not sure how much the Acromegaly that he has influences those things, other than his looks. The aggression, bullying, and intimidation are all his own.

  44. Agenbiter says:

    I vaguely remember he told a story in one of his early books about how he ‘counseled’ a rape victim to ‘take responsibility for her life’.

    • Agenbiter says:

      As I recall it was soon after it happened, when she had come to Robbins and his wife for help in the middle of the night. But that would be too outrageous. I must be mistaken.

    • Agenbiter says:

      Re: Tony Robbins: I Am Not Your Guru –

      “Throughout the documentary, Robbins goes from telling hopeful – perhaps even innocent – lies, to being a flat out douchebag. He

      … Encourages a survivor of systemic childhood rape to tell the story of her abuse without preparation (or really, consent) in front the entire audience. He then encourages her to form artificially deep and vulnerable relationships with three random ass dudes from the audience who are supposed to check in on her. She is to refer to these men as her “uncles.” What. The. Fuck.”

      • Electric Tuba says:

        Thank you for sharing this. I am horrified.

      • Betsy says:

        I…. I am speechless. That’s such a mind bluck for that poor woman. And still that audience went forward and supported him.

      • Jag says:

        What?!? I had no idea! I hate that I have thought that he was doing good things for decades. I might have read his very first book when I bought his very first course, but haven’t gotten into anything that he’s done since then.

        I truly hope that he’s taken down asap by this. Omg.

  45. Nibbi says:

    He physically. walks. her. back.
    While pointing out the “dangers” of the #MeToo movement via an example of a “rich, powerful man” not hiring a beautiful, qualified candidate because he apparently felt unable to handle the “risk” of having her around.
    Like, she might report him, thanks to being emboldened by #MeToo, if he tries to harass her.
    It’s like, “don’t you dare go around being emboldened to stand up to us (especially tall, rich, famous) men, little ladies!!”


  46. Mrs.K says:

    I doubt he cares what people think. He is worth 480 million usd and still raking in the dollars regardless. He is the epitome of male privilege.

  47. Yes says:

    CB- I think you always get it right. I’m really so refreshed because this guy has one particular manipulative technique and here it is listen closely: He says one confusing new age thing , followed by one direct normal understandable thing. He confounds the listener into believing that he is somehow above them- really a controlling cult leader F face!!

    • RYotGrrrl says:

      So true, like what was that wacky phrase he used? Oh, “you use significance like a drug”. That is the most F’d up twisted statement. Is it wrong to want self worth? I’m basically a low live syringe using heroin addict- “because I want to feel respected as an human being”?? WTF. Only if you’re disagreeing with a cult leader- then the individual’s needs are all shades of “wrong”…hmmm. This guy is SATAN.

  48. HeyThere! says:

    Omg tell me this horrible person who I refused to learn his name is worth almost 500 million dollars….because of this selling crap cake that people eat?!?!

  49. Jules says:

    Classic misogynist who is deeply threatened by women. Gross. I hope he doesn’t have daughters.

    • bikki says:

      I was actually really impacted by the body language exhibited in the video. you can tell he was INCREDIBLY intimidated by this brave woman, Nanine McCool. loved how she stood her ground.

      • flan says:

        Yeah, the crazy pushing is just showing how he fears not being able to shut her up.

        I really like Nanine McCool too.

  50. pringles says:

    This is disgusting. I’ve read a couple of his books and he certainly sells ‘his impoverished upbringing driving him to succeed’ very well. He grew up in abject poverty and his accounts of the suffering he experienced as a kid are convincing. Like most people he’s probably super complicated emotionally but when you don’t have the mental tools to process with complex situations you can become very one dimensional. Had a bunch of acquaintances who were big-time Tony Robbins fans and who paid thousands every year, for three or four years running, to go to his stadium change-your-life programs. They were very one dimensional about ‘achievement’ and ‘success’ but certainly very motivated.

    • HollyGo says:

      Somewhere else they talked about how toxic his Mom is and was. I didn’t watch the clip of her but it apparently explains (does not justify) a lot.

  51. isabelle says:

    Just love when Jesus is brought into the convo to justify their own harsh judgement. Jesus saved the woman’s life when the crowd was ready to stone her after judging her. Then told them they had zero right to judge anyone and he knew they were sinners. Pretty disgusting Tony warped the story of how Jesus was kind toward a condemned woman to back his attacking of women.

  52. Leviathan says:

    Fuck self-help. The truth is we’ve been brainwashed by the media to crave lives like the conventionally attractive rich assholes we see on TV. Most of us will never even get close to that no matter what we do or buy. Accept that and get on with your life. Shysters like Robbins get rich selling you the lie that you too can have the life you’ve been conditioned to crave. You can’t.

    • Betsy says:

      Thank you. I think of this sometimes when I see people trying to live batcrap crazy goals that don’t actually make any sense. It’s like they’re acting out how they’ve come to believe life should be without any regard for whether or not that’s a laudable or reasonable life.

  53. HollyGo says:

    I’m trying to think back – there is some other guy that’s into Robbins. Was it Joe Rogan? I, like the author, didn’t really ever think of Robbins. I’ve never liked that whole group cultish guru stuff. But I never thought he’d be this bad. Doesn’t that all strike you as a man that is just barely holding on to his rage? What a brave woman she is. I was a bit frightened just watching. And is it just me or is he using some Scientology stuff? Remember the Cruise\Lauer interview?

  54. Lisa says:

    He’s disgusting. I don’t know how anyone so dishonest could live with themselves.

  55. bikki says:

    omg he’s disgusting. :-O
    and he’s also a mediocre writer. I ended up donating his last book. I should have just recycled that sh*t.

  56. Godwina says:

    Not that it’s AT ALL fair to call someone a rapist without hearing any accusations, but TR reminds me 100% of Showgirls’ Andrew Carver it’s not even funny, and I wouldn’t be alone with that scary spoiled entitled-looking doucheroo for a moment. NOPE indeed.

    And yes, after that speech? Skellies, he has em.

  57. LittleWing says:

    I read his statement, which is p.r. crap. He doesn’t deign to address pushing her back at all, doesn’t even mention the incident. What a flaming ahole.

  58. isadora says:

    This reminds me of Tom Cruise’s role in the movie Magnolia. He plays this succesful self help guru for men and condescending towards women.
    But eventually while he’s shown to be in control in the beginning, in the end it all unravels.

    I wonder what the skeletons are in Tony’s closet? This shit he said and did wasn’t a good look and no amount of apology (or non-apology in his case) can make it better.

  59. Jag says:

    I was one of the first people to buy his course when he first advertised it on television decades ago, and it did help me. I had no idea that he’s such a horrible person! Never again; he’s completely canceled. (Checking to see if I’m following him on Fb and Twitter, and unfollowing if so.)

    From what he’s saying, it makes me think that he’ll be the next one taken down by women coming forward.

  60. Bp says:

    What an awesome woman standing up to a pathetic POS.
    Please tell me his career is over!