Cardi B ‘didn’t want to deal with the whole abortion thing… I’m a grown woman’

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Cardi B is pregnant. We’ve known that for months, but she only confirmed on Saturday Night Live last weekend. She’s pretty far along – some people claim she’s already 6 or 7 months pregnant. Which should make her Coachella set pretty exciting, just as her promotional tour her album will probably have to hit pause for her maternity leave too. It’s been a while since a young – mid-20s – celebrity got pregnant at an inopportune moment for her career. Variety had a breakdown of all of Cardi’s scheduled appearances throughout the summer and into the fall, many of which I think it’s safe to assume she’ll probably end up canceling. Especially if she’s already seven months along. So… is it fair or unfair to ask Cardi B if she thought about terminating her pregnancy when she first found out? I think it’s a fair question, although it’s certainly rude and none of our g–damn business. Still, that’s what she was asked on Power 105.1’s The Breakfast Club this week.

Cardi B said that she “kinda, sorta” thought about getting an abortion when she found out she was pregnant with fiancé Offset’s baby, but knew early on that she would continue her pregnancy. On Power 105.1’s “The Breakfast Club” on Tuesday, Charlamagne tha God asked Cardi whether she ever thought about “not having the baby,” since she conceived at the height of her fame and just before her album’s release.

“Kinda, sorta,” Cardi said. “I just didn’t want to deal with the whole abortion thing. I just didn’t want to … I’m a grown woman, I’m 25 years old, I’m gonna say this in the most humblest way: I’m a schmillionaire,” Cardi said. “I’m prepared for this.”

She added that her pregnancy wasn’t planned, and that finally confirming the persistent pregnancy rumors this weekend was a “relief.” Cardi was concerned with balancing her work and home life, but was peeved at the idea that she can’t be both a mother and a No. 1 MC.

“It just really bothers me and it disgusts me,” she said, “because I see a lot of women online like, ‘Oh, I feel sorry for you, your career is over,’ and it’s like, ‘Why can’t I have both? Why do I have to choose a career or a baby?’”

She also said, “I don’t want to wait until I’m 30-something to have a kid. I want my kid now that I have energy and stuff.” As far as her post-baby plans, Cardi said, “I have been working and thinking about album and thinking about what I gotta do next. I gotta take my time to nest and think … I’m hoping to [take] a month, three weeks [off].”

The lack of privacy surrounding her pregnancy was frustrating for Cardi, who didn’t even tell her own friends about the news before it got out.

“I have to prove [to] people that a baby won’t stop me … I just wish that I had a little bit more time for me to think for me. I didn’t like that people [were] harassing me,” she said. “I had a whole bunch of friends calling me like, ‘Why did I have to find out [about your pregnancy] on the internet?’ … It’s something so precious and private to me, and I didn’t even get to keep that for myself.”

[From Page Six]

I understand this point of view: “I’m a grown woman, I’m 25 years old, I’m gonna say this in the most humblest way: I’m a schmillionaire, I’m prepared for this.” Yes, of course she thought about terminating her pregnancy but ultimately she was like “but I’m 25 and I can handle this, even if it’s scary.” The thing is, I have my doubts about whether she’s really prepared for this. That’s not a slam on Cardi, it’s just that you can be as “prepared” as you can possibly be and then you have the baby and suddenly all of those preparations go out the window. The idea that she’ll only need to take off one month? Please. No, really: please don’t limit yourself that way. Take as much time as you need, Cardi. You don’t have anything to prove to anybody. You don’t have to go back to work until you are ready.

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  1. Harryg says:

    That abortion segment in John Oliver Last Week Tonight made my blood boil, and I immediately wanted to gift all I have to Planned Parenthood.

  2. ChrissyMS says:

    I love Cardi and so appreciate her honesty. I find the Breakfast Club interviewers to be pretty rude. Like condescending. She will probably need more then a month off before going on tour but she will have lots of help and babies are pretty easy once you get into the swing of things. HELP IS KEY. It will be less partying and more work.

  3. ChrissyMS says:

    Also I feel like Cardi has been pregnancy shamed. Like everyone should shut up and say congrats! Why is asking a woman if she thought about having an abortion appropriate.

  4. Kitten says:

    I totally get what she’s saying here. I’m always a bit in awe of how she manages to speak her mind and make off-the-cuff comments without coming off as judgmental. At least, from the interviews I’ve read with her, that’s been my impression.

    I also love “schmillionaire”.

  5. Pia says:

    I thought about that too reading the article….how can a celeb have an abortion without risking privacy violations?

    Also…she has at most spent 6 consecutive days with Offset.

  6. nikzilla says:

    Every time CB posts about Cardi, a string of haters comment on her about how uneducated she is, ghetto, etc. Proof that they don’t understand the culture she comes from.

    Anywho, good for her for being mature and also for not letting anyone dictate her life. I wish her the best.

  7. Chaine says:

    I get what she’s saying. She has money, so she can afford to pay for an unplanned pregnancy and to support an unplanned child. And she’s right, if you wait until later in your fertility life, who knows what might happen.

  8. Shannon says:

    I kind of side-eye that question; I mean, who asks a pregnant woman they barely know something like that?? Especially on a public forum! I think she’s kind of pushing herself with the ‘three weeks, maybe a month’ off thing, but idk. She is young and they do bounce back faster in my experience. I was back at work two weeks after having my first son (I was 19 LOL), I took eight weeks with my second (when I was 31). She’s right about the energy too. I remember all kinds of playing at the park, racing, so on so forth with my first. I still do things with my younger son but at 42, he’s 10 and as a LOT of energy and I get tired out and think, “I really should have had you when I was younger.” I’m not using a walker or telling kids to get off my lawn, but I just don’t have quite the same energy.

    • Who ARE These People? says:

      We have friends who still have older children at home (high school) in their 60s and I don’t know how that works. Changes in energy are real, even when you eat well, exercise, etc. We figure you just have to outsmart them if you can’t outrun them.

    • Ayra. says:

      The Breakfast Club is disgusting. It’s just a cesspool is misinformed, misogynistic men (and a women who barely says anything against it) who have no boundaries and think they can ask anything, trying to justify them being ignorant.

    • Veronica S. says:

      Considering America is a lovely country that requires no paid maternity leave, millions of poor and working class women are forced to do that all the time.

    • Lua says:

      I absolutely hate it when people say they should have kids early and get it out of the way because energy. I have plenty of energy in my thirties, and because I didn’t have kids when not ready, I will not only appreciate mine more now, but I also got to travel the world in my twenties, purchase two properties (one of which I rent out), get my dream job because I was free to educate myself, and my husband had the time to work his way to the top of his business. We are now VERY well off financially, have no debt, have seen the world and connected on a level that will leave us with things in common after our child is out of the house, and we both have plenty of energy thankyouverymuch. It’s offensive, and people need to cut that ish out.

  9. Mia4s says:

    She can definitely have her career with the baby…and she will definitely be judged and shamed when she hires two nannies and an extra assistant or whatever. Bring on the sancti-mommies!

    She needs to start canceling appearances soon. That’s the only thing the feels a bit unprofessional. Give plenty of notice so people can adjust. Beyond that. People need to calm down and give her space.

  10. I know this young lady from one song and this site – I like everything she says here. I find it gross that anyone had the balls to ask her if she considered abortion, but she handled the question much better than I would have.
    Frankly, she comes across a lot better than most of the celebrities in her age group we discuss.

    • Domino says:

      I honestly think she should have said next question. Shut that sh*t down, and tell people, my business is my business.

      If Jake Gyllenhaal can refuse to tell a reporter what is in his sandwich, a woman can tell the breakfast club I am out of here, don’t have to answer that question. Just like she said I dont have to explain to anyone why I am staying with the dad.

      I can’t help but feel angry since abortion is a question a man NEVER gets asked, but if she gets asked, men should then. As in, how many times men have paid or tried to pressure or just support a partner who is having an abortion.

      And let us ask – are the men worried their career will tank now that they have a baby. How long is their paternity leave going to be. Etc.

  11. Bethany F says:

    I appreciate her acknowledging that unplanned pregnancy is scary and it’s normal to consider abortion. We need to break the stigmatization around abortion – it’s 2018 and it is a just medical procedure at this point. There is nothing wrong with considering or having an abortion. I refuse to let anti-choicers and their religious hang ups impact my decision to have a legitimate medical procedure. personally I don’t regret it at all. It doesn’t haunt me. I don’t even think about it anymore and I’m not going to pretend it was an emotional thing because overall, it just wasn’t.

    they were rude to ask of course but that’s the breakfast club for ya 🙄

  12. HeyThere! says:

    she has a few million, I assume. She will be fine. Get a few good nannies and maybe one who travels with you, if she wants baby close by. If anything this baby will make her more popular, at least it does for most celebs.

  13. Merritt says:

    I have two thoughts on this.
    1. People need to stop shaming Cardi B for being pregnant.
    2. I wish she hadn’t made it seem like abortion is only for the very young.

  14. Boxy Lady says:

    That probably wasn’t a fair question but that was definitely a fair answer.

  15. Annabel says:

    If going on tour 3 weeks after giving birth seems unrealistic, I think it’s because it’s easy for us peasants to lose sight of the fact that most of the hard things about the first few weeks after having a baby can be fixed with money. Yeah, WE were catatonic with exhaustion for months after we had our kids, but if you’re a schmillionaire, you can hit the road with baby + an entourage of nannies and night nurses and probably get a decent amount of rest and meet all your professional obligations with all that help.

  16. Amelie says:

    Woah a month maternity leave! Or just 3 weeks? That seems optimistic. But then Gillian Anderson only took a week off after having her first kid when she was on the X-Files (and I believe she was also in her 20s at that point) so I guess it can be done. I’m sure she’ll have a lot of help even if she has to push back her tour. A tour bus isn’t the ideal place for a baby but they are so small and young at that age they can fit anywhere.

    But kudos to her for keeping the baby. I am not pro-life but I’m sure it must have been hard for her to decide when she is at the height of her fame.

  17. Tata Mata says:

    I don’t like Cardi B but it is bloody rude to ask anybody in an interview publicly if she considered to have an abortion. Such a thing is private.

    All the best for them. And yes, do buy help if you need it.

  18. Veronica S. says:

    Eh, we already expect American women to just jump back into work ASAP, considering the country has no paid maternity leave. Three or four weeks without pay can be devastating to lower income families. Don’t know why people would think she’s crazy thinking she can do that given her upbringing – she likely saw it all the time, and she has hell of a lot more support.

  19. Sophie says:

    My experience as a working mother has been that every hour you spend on your work/passion is an hour you miss out on time with your baby, and your baby misses out on time with you.

    You can have both things (career and motherhood), but you will have less success at work than your childless coworkers and you will have fewer memories of motherhood than your stay-at-home friends.

  20. Jen says:

    It can be done. I was pregnant my whole first year of grad school (and working) and started summer class within 4 weeks of having the baby and then had to make up all my internships that I was too tired for while pregnant. And I breastfed. She will need to maintain control over her schedule and I think it’s hard to plan ahead for and prioritize what commitments to keep, but she can do this. Many poor women do this, everyone!

  21. enike says:


    PS. How a grown up woman get pregnant unplanned in this day and age?