It feels like this happened years ago, but no – it was back in April when we learned that Miranda Lambert homewrecked yet another married man. Spare me the “he homewrecked himself” thinkpieces too – Miranda Lambert is just one of those women who always goes for married men or men in serious relationships. It’s her pattern. It’s her type. Her current boyfriend is Evan Felker, and Felker left his wife for Miranda within a matter of days of being on tour with Miranda. Miranda was reportedly not even remorseful about what went down, and I do believe her Instagram about “I do this thing called whatever I want” was about breaking up yet another marriage. So, a few months have passed. The dust has settled a bit. Miranda decided to give an interview to HITS Daily Double (via People Mag) about how no one really understands what’s going on in her life and she’s just a misunderstood country girl, y’all. Some highlights:
Breakups help her write: “2015 pushed me into a writing mode I’ve never been in before. It’s very humbling to be hurt, and I have to be honest. My fans expect that from me. I was going through a divorce very publicly, and thank the Lord I am a writer. That meant I could find some way to deal with it, that people could say, ‘I get it — I’ve been there too.’ And ‘It’s why I related to you because I went through the same thing.’ It made me feel so alone, as much as it does anybody else. There’s fun stuff on there too. I feel like I’ve captured the seven stages of grief, but it took me 24 songs to get there.”
She’s flawed: “I am who I am. I am honest about being flawed. That’s all I can be, you know? I cuss. I drink. I get divorced and get my heart broken. I break hearts. I can’t do or be that anymore, or it’ll drive me crazy. I won’t be good anymore. I felt, maybe, a different kind of fear than any other record. It was really my life’s work and my life’s story. But there was also relief, I was thankful to let the music do what the music does — and to allow myself that.”
On social media & rumors: “With social media, it’s a whole other thing. And it’s such bulls—. I’m thankful for the drama of it all because it gets sillier and sillier. They make up so many lies, no one can know the truth. The truth is it’s in my music if you listen close enough. I took three months off all socials in 2015. I loved it. I realized I wasn’t picking up my phone looking at Twitter and Instagram. I wrote 75 songs in six months because I wasn’t using my mind staring at mindless s—. I took a week off a little while ago, and it felt so good.”
It takes a special kind of narcissist to be a serial cheater and serial “other woman” for married men and then act like you’re the most misunderstood victim ever. I’ve been thinking about this too: would we have some kind of hate-respect for her if she just shrugged and owned who she is publicly? If she was like, “Yeah, I’m a maneater and nothing gets me off like banging married men,” would we accept her as she is? Because I find it extremely annoying that she’s still trying to convince us that her public persona is all “damaged, liquored up girl with a broken heart.”
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Lol being honest would be more like “I have a thing for breaking up marriages and stealing men from other women. I’m insecure and do this to feel wanted and superior”
“And the married men who get with me don’t understand that once they leave their families, they’re no longer exciting. Men are dumb, right?”
*Writes a song about clueless cowboys*
“I’m insecure and do this to feel wanted and superior”
This.
Oooohhh you ain’t nothin but a HUSSY, little girl. She needs to pull her knee socks up and get learned real quick. Lol
No but all kidding aside she’s terrible and no matter how nice she may sound on that mic I’ll never root for anyone that can’t figure out how to not ride that bulldozer in her panties over other people’s houses. Even if she admitted that’s her thing. Bad things aren’t good things lol
OK I love this: bulldozer in her panties, “bad things aren’t good things.” So right on
People who say, “I am who I am,” frustrate me. It’s like they’ve given up on trying to be a *better* person. These are the same people who usually finish the thought with something to the effect of, “And if you don’t like it, you can leave!” And that is exactly what I do. I get those people out of my life as fast as I possibly can. Miranda is awful, she knows it, and she doesn’t care. Ugh.
I was out somewhere with a friend and he was tired of waiting for a staff person to help him so he took matters into his own hands. Afterwards he just shrugged his shoulders and blamed it on his being impulsive. As in Miranda’s case there is no excuse for intentionally harming others because you’re a selfish jacka** (staff person got in trouble for not being where they were supposed to be. )
I mean, I can believe that people who do destructive things like cheating or going after married men do it because of some pain in their life. Like, I sort of secondhand knew someone who slept with multiple married men, and when she was little her dad left her and her mom to run off with a younger woman. So I’m totally willing to believe her behavior is an ongoing reaction to that, and maybe Miranda has some pain going on too. But I also think that it’s not enough to just say ‘well, I hurt people because I’m hurting’ and then stop there. Everyone has pain of some sort and it’s on you to learn how to deal with your pain in a nondestructive way. I have sympathy for people’s pain, and I don’t want to tell Miranda or anyone else that she can’t talk (or sing) about it, but I’m not willing to just excuse crap behavior because of it. So if she’s saying all this just to express herself, then fine, but if she wants some kind of public determination that her cheating is ok then I think she’ll have to keep waiting.
the old “do unto others before they do unto you” defense?
She’s still a horrible person…
There is a difference between being flawed and being an asshole.
+1
No sorry, you’re trash miranda and everyone knows it now.
Yes, men homewrecked themselves and they deserve to be dragged for it because they weren’t forced to do anything, the other women is not the only one to blame, they both are.
But women who purposely go after married men obviously have no sense of sorority and don’t have respect for other women. So no, she wouldn’t get any respect from me if she just owned the fact that she is a shitty person altogether.
Exactly. Like, no the guy’s not cool or blameless here either, but this is habitual for her. He f-ed up, but she is a bad person.
I strongly dislike her after all these revelations, but I also keep listening to her and Jason Aldean’s duet (“Drowns the Whiskey”) and when you consider both of them being cheaters, I’m really even more disgusted with myself! Alas.
Part 1 is admitting your flaws, part 2 is working to fix them.
It is interesting how we judge women vs men on this. I just read an article that glorified Roald Dahl’s secret agent work as a philanderer. Discussing his conquests with quite a bit of glee.
https://www.telegraph.co.uk/culture/books/booknews/7931835/Roald-Dahl-was-a-real-life-James-Bond-style-spy-new-book-reveals.html
To her credit The Weight of These Wings which features songs written after her and Blake broke up is, in my opinion, her mostly solid effort to date. The whole album is fantastic instead of just one or three songs being good.
Miranda is a great performer and I like her music but girl is a freaking mess. One day someone is going to do to her what she has done.
I will also say that a woman cannot force a man to cheat or leave his wife or long term girlfriend, the man would need to be unhappy in the relationship because if someone is crazy about their wife or girlfriend, they would not jump in bed with anyone.
I am SO sick of hearing that a woman can’t force a man to stray. That’s true to a point, but anyone who has been married a decade or longer will tell you that there are PLENTY of times in a marriage when temptation can beckon, and if someone really works to entice someone, he or she can surely can be a mighty temptation, whereas if the person kept from crossing a line and behaved discreetly, it would have never progressed. Yes, only the married person betrays the marriage, and definitely bears
the ultimate blame, but spare me the argument that the other person is blameless. UGH!!
The idea that a man only cheats because he is unhappy is not only false, but incredibly insulting to any woman who was once cheated on. If someone is unhappy, they should simply call it quits, and not be in a relationship stringing their partner along until someone “better/fun” comes along. Cheating is about character and morals. You respect the other above anything else, and if you don’t love them anymore, you walk away, you shouldn’t use someone else to nudge you
Marriage is hard and boring at times, even more so after children come along, and honestly, it’s not for everyone. But both men and women can feel tempted. The ones that act on it are the ones to blame.
And if you are a man or a woman that is knowingly going after a married person, yes, you’re as much as an asshole as the cheaters themselves.
Nah bit still, it’s up to the married person to guard the boundaries of their marriage. You don’t have to sit there and let someone wiggle onto you and flirt with you, the option to walk away is always there. YOU decide how far you’re going to let it go.
And not for nothing but Evan was only married for two years if that.
When people criticized Elizabeth Taylor for marrying so soon after Mike Todd’s death, she said, “He’s dead and I’m alive!” She also said to Debbie Reynolds, whose husband Eddie she later stole when Debbie had 2 kids in diapers, “You’re such a GIRL SCOUT, Debbie!” THEN she dumped Eddie Fisher for married Richard Burton. She was the original bad girl, but made no apologies or excuses despite the Vatican and every news source condemning her. I think she was incredibly selfish, but yes, at least she owned what she was. Miranda’s victim act gets on my nerves all right; when did she get her heart broken?? I only remember several wrecked families in her wake.
Yeah, what exactly is her “grief”? I don’t recall anything other than repeat allegations of cheating.
I thought “men cannot be stolen”….
If they leave their wives/SO’s, it’s because they choose to leave.
Even if some Siren comes along tempting them, don’t they think enough of their current partners to just say NO???
I still stand by my previous comment:
Miranda, girl, you messy.
She reminds me of the girls that brag about how ‘crazy’ they are and that’s why they have no girlfriends. Only with her it’s sleeping with married men. Can’t get no friends like that. None.
“I cuss. I drink.” Someone call her and tell her that this isn’t the 1920s anymore and that none of this is shocking, especially the cussing part. The drinking maybe not so much, depending on her circumstances.
In the spirit of “honesty” let me just say that I’m tired of people being honest about their flaws. I don’t care. People know how flawed you are with or without you telling them. Stop using your “honesty” as a way to avoid being making the effort to be a better person. Or at least be honest about the fact that you can’t be bothered to be a better person in the first place.
Girl is a mess and an as*hole. I’ve tried, but I still love her music. She’s a great performer! At this point people know her pattern, any guy who gets with her is looking for an excuse. The bulk of the blame falls to the men, but she needs to own some of it to. What is it about single men that is such a turnoff to her?!
I’d feel bad about pointing out the five head but she’s not a great person so…
She seems like a very broken individual. She utilizes the “I’m not perfect” narrative, but honey, nobody is. The difference is MOST people try to do better after they’ve made mistakes. She does not.
Yes, Miranda, you’re flawed like everyone else on this planet. Seems like you’re using your flaws as source material for your superior song writing skills. Clever girl.
The next song Miranda should record, “Poor poor poor me, poor poor pitiful me. Oh these boys won’t let me be, Lord have mercy on me, woe is me. “