Hailee Steinfeld will ‘never know’ what it feels like to go to prom or homecoming

2018 MTV Movie And TV Awards

Hailee Steinfeld was just a child when she starred in the remake of True Grit, where she stole every scene away from Jeff Bridges and Matt Damon. I knew that Hailee would be a major star, but I didn’t know it would happen the way it has. Hailee is 21 years old now, and she’s got a good career as an actress AND singer. Plus, she dating Niall Horan, so that makes her extra-famous. Despite all of that, I feel like Hailee is legit low-key – we barely ever gossip about her because she’s not scandalous in the least. The only thing bad or notable I can say about her awkward teen years is that she didn’t always dress age-appropriately. And that’s it. Anyway, Hailee covers the December issue of Cosmo, and she chats about love and music and her new movie, the Transformers spinoff called Bumblebee.

Falling in love (with Niall): “When you fall in love, you pick up on the tiniest things about yourself. I am one to spread out on the mattress and take up every inch of space. Now I don’t want to do that anymore. I want to make as much room for you as possible. You start doing things for this person and going out of your way to make them happy. And when you see them happy, it makes you happier. When you love who you are with that person…there’s nothing that compares.”

She’s never been a messy party girl: “That side of it has never been my thing,” she says. Not that she didn’t try. Years ago, she hit up a party, hoping to meet new people. “I got completely shut down by everyone and maybe it’s because I didn’t have a red Solo cup in my hands. I realized, I’m not going to stay here and feel ­uncomfortable just to fit in.”

She didn’t have a typical teenager life: “I used to go on Facebook and see all my friends dressed up for winter formal or homecoming or prom. I would think, Even if it’s the worst night, I’ll never know what that feels like.”

She wants to know what deep love is: “I want to know what that’s like. It’s terrifying and amazing and feeling absolutely everything and being slightly afraid.”

[From Cosmopolitan]

I don’t mean this as an insult – truly, I like Hailee a lot – but you can really tell that she was a child star and that she’s been sheltered from a ton of “real world” experiences. The way she talks about falling in love and having that yearning for experience, it strikes me that the statements are slightly odd coming from a woman who is almost 22 years old. There’s an emotional immaturity which is quite common in younger girls, like 13 or 14 year-olds. But it’s almost like Hailee never got to develop that side of herself when she was really that age, so she’s doing it now.

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Cover and photo courtesy of Kai Z. Feng for Cosmopolitan, sent from promotional email.

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  1. Kiki says:

    Poor rich baby didn’t go to prom. The saddest tale I’ve ever heard :((

    • Annika says:

      IKR?!? 🙄

    • cannibell says:

      I didn’t either, and I sure don’t have the excuse that I was becoming a movie star!!! (A bunch of my fellow wallflower girlfriends and I went bowling.)

    • SamC says:

      Why the snark? It was just a comment and have heard/read other child celebs say that too. It’s all a trade off. Imagine they romanticize what Prom must be like as much as us regular folks do going to the Oscars, or maybe the Met Ball is a better analogy.

      • arr says:

        Yeah, I see no ill-will in anything this girl said. It actually makes sense that a young celeb who didn’t get to experience “classic” high school moments such as prom would probably romanticize them. The grass is always greener. Plus it isn’t as if she is complaining about any of the amazing opportunities she’s had as a successful public figure.

      • Nikki says:

        Agree totally with SamC and arr; I think she’s just musing on different experiences she’s had or won’t have. Prom is always romanticized in the movies, so it’s no crime for her to muse on it.

    • minx says:

      I went to an all girls’ Catholic school, we didn’t have homecoming or prom.

    • DesertReal says:

      I’m right there with you Kiki, playing the worlds tiniest violin duet…

  2. Miss M says:


  3. xdanix says:

    I like Hailee, but yikes, girl. You might not know the feeling of going to Prom, but most of us will never know the feeling of getting to go to the Golden Globes, or the OSCARS (or a million other INCREDIBLE life experiences she’s already had and will continue to have.)

    • me says:

      Does she want to know what it’s like to have to work during high school at some minimum wage job? Maybe that would make her happy.

      • xdanix says:

        Right? If she wants to know the feeling of actually not being able to afford stuff and having to budget and plan and save up for what you want and allow ME, in her place, to know what it feels like to be a Hollywood star and make a ton of money for releasing music that is… not awesome (I do think she’s a good actress but I do NOT think so highly of her music career, sorry Hailee), I would be more than willing to help her out Freaky Friday style or whatever haha 😀

  4. me says:

    Well I never went to prom or homecoming either Hailee lol !

    • VirgiliaCoriolanus says:

      I skipped both because I wasn’t interested. I also have not been that interested in dating (not a lot to choose from in my age group)……so in that sense, I am naive, although I am turning 24 this year. But I don’t see why that’s something to feel bad about or why it should be odd (in response to what the writer said). People are different. Not everyone falls over themselves chomping at the bit to party or start dating, etc.

      • me says:

        I totally agree with you !

      • Lofi says:

        I completely agree with you, something rubbed me the wrong way with the way the writer said that. Like we all have different experiences so why call her emotionally immature because she didn’t have 50 boyfriends at 15. Hailee has done a lot of awesome stuff in her life can we not shame her because she didn’t have a man for a few years.

    • Chaine says:

      Me neither, I had a dress for prom but no date and ended up not going, it was the 80s and I chickened out of going alone with my friends who all had dates. They came by my house beforehand and I took all their pictures since I owned a camera and apparently none of them did. In the grand scheme of things it’s not like missing it has had a major impact on me other than feeling bad about myself at the immediate time.

  5. Esmom says:

    This rubbed me the wrong way. My son, 19, doesn’t know that feeling either even though he went to regular high school. He’s on the autism spectrum and the vast majority of those typical teen pursuits were just too much for him. He’s now doing very well away at college, making his way on his own terms, but he had more than his fair share of anguish and heartbreak because of feeling like he just couldn’t fit in. He still feels to a certain degree that he is not worthy of romantic attention. Pardon me for not feeling very sorry for her.

  6. Deana says:

    Neither did I. So what?!

  7. I rarely comment but... says:

    What’s with all the snark? She clearly says even if it’s the worst night, she’ll never know what its like. Meaning she understands its not amazing for everyone but its just a fact that she will never know what its like. I never went to my prom either but I don’t get what she said that implies “woe is me”. It sounds like she’s just stating a fact there.

    • smcollins says:

      Agreed. I’m amazed at all the saltiness throughout the comments. Her answers were pretty harmless and not unusual from a former child performer. I don’t think she’s complaining, just speaking from her own experiences, or lack there of, even if it is coming from a place of privilege. 🤷‍♀️

    • Usedtobe says:

      I agree. I can’t fault her for her comments. It’s a statement, there is no implied poor, poor me.

  8. Steff says:

    I don’t know if this was proven as fake or not but Hailey’s dms were hacked and it showed her using the n-word. Happened back in September.

  9. Rose says:

    Gosh so much snark for her saying she didn’t get to go to prom. Do people just like being offended by nothing now? She wasn’t say her life was harder or awful or anything like that.

    • diana says:

      People are being snarky but no one seems to be offended. Are you one of those people who constantly complain about “generation snowflake” and sjw?

  10. Case says:

    Neither will kids with certain illnesses who are unable to go.

  11. Beth says:

    She had a different life than most teenagers, but if she really wanted to go to the prom, I’m sure one of her friends she watched getting ready to go on Facebook could have brought her if she wanted to.

    • me says:

      I’m guessing she was home schooled? Kids that are home schooled are still allowed to attend school dances/proms/games/graduation if they want. The only reason I think she might not have been able to go to prom is if she was on location shooting a movie? Well I was home doing nothing the night of my prom and it didn’t make one difference in my life.

  12. Kim says:

    I’ve got nothing but that magazine pose looks awfully uncomfortable.

  13. Margo Smith says:

    I saw an interview with her once, and did you know her parents pulled her out of school in grade 6? Why would you do that?! This poor girl truly does sound like a pre teen….

  14. Redgrl says:

    She does sound very young for her age.

  15. mela says:

    I didn’t go to prom either and I turned out just fine.