I know she’s not everyone’s favorite, but I like Busy Philipps. I like her show, I like her personality and as I keep saying she’s grown on me. She is a unique person doing her thing and being utterly herself. Her fashion is ridiculous and some find her grating, but she doesn’t get hung up on that. Sshe really seems like a decent person. She’s not self sacrificing or anything but she doesn’t seem particularly caught up in her ego either.
I guess I’m saying all that because Busy getting a f-k ‘em tattoo on her foot reminds me of something Lena Dunham would do. But Busy isn’t a total a-hole like Lena so it’s a little surprising to me. She got a little outline of a a girl skating away, the words written in script. It’s like she’s leaving her detractors in the dust. It’s a cute little tattoo and is an illustration from her book out last year.
When people asked Busy in the comments what she would tell her kids about it she said it’s a good motto overall and that’s what she wants them to know.
I have no problem with this. As I mentioned in the story about Minnie Driver, I don’t exactly try not to swear around my kid. Plus it’s good to teach them that you’re never going to please everyone and you shouldn’t try. At least I think that’s what she means by f-k em. I’m not that pro tattoo though and I try to teach my son that I regret mine. They’re not the worst but I didn’t need to get them and tastes change. Busy has two daughters: Birdie, 10, and Cricket, 5.
Busy got her first tattoo just last summer, which was also for her book. So I guess she’s definitely not like Lena Dunham. She should quit with the tattoos while she’s ahead.
Photos credit: Avalon.red, WENN and via Instagram
As someone prone to dropping F-bombs (though can turn that side off when needed) I love this. I also love Busy. But I reallllyyy kind of want a similar tattoo now.
I always wonder about the context of these types of statements. It may seem very self affirming to tell the world to “F” em but I doubt many would like it if the world said the same thing back. Like I said it is all about context. In general I think people already care too little about others but want other people to care about them
Yeah, I agree. There is a difference between f* it and f* them. The latter seems unnecessarily hostile.
People who have a f@#k you attitude tend to put a lot of that energy out that causes a lot of the problems they are having these feelings about.
I would have wanted that tattoo in my mid twenties. I really felt like everything, everyone was against me and f@&k em! Turns out I was a negative nancy constantly dwelling on the words of others and I was incapable of being understanding other people have needs and exist outside of the parts I see.
Changed my attitude and it changed how I see the world and my life. Nothing wrong with the F-word, there is a lot wrong with a mentality of open hostility.
Well said.
I drop the F bomb frequently but really??? Way to teach your kids to sound like trash. Sorry but maybe her kids will turn out to be professionals where talking like this is not accepted. Don’t box your kids in like that!
I do too, and whatever, but I know that some people, older people and like, my mom, don’t like it. People make judgments about you when you talk like that, whether you like it or not. So, I explained to my niece that I do it because I do and I’m not going to stop and that she can if she wants, I won’t judge, but that some people won’t think she’s as nice as she is if she chooses to do so. She’s 18 now and such a cutie. She spells out b-i-t-c-h! And has learned to express herself in more socially acceptable ways.
I agree as a rule that’s probably true in professional settings, but I’ve been in a few different “industries” including regular office setting jobs and I’ve never been in a workplace where that language isn’t used. But it might just be my luck?
Oh my lord. People can learn when it’s appropriate and not appropriate to swear, let go of the pearls.
She doesn’t seem particularly caught up in her ego? No one in Hollywood can say this.
love it; and love the tattoo.
I’m learning the hard way that nobody in this world is looking out for you but yourself. So yeah, fuck em. That’s good advice.
You put that energy out that what you are going to get back.
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I 100% agree with you. Everyone is selfish and only cares about themselves and what YOU can do for them. If they see you as having no value, they treat you like sh*t…especially family. I say f*ck em !
For me, a little Busy goes a long way. Lately? Too much Busy.
Yea I find her annoying AF!
The acting like a 13 year old is silly until you realize it’s her mentality.
She gets on my last nerve.
That commercial that she does–don’t remember the product–her annoying voice is like nails on a chalkboard!
I’m not down with the tattoo or teaching your kids that saying or philosophy.
I shall happily sit here and clutch my pearls.
I always generally liked her but since reading her memoir I really like her. And I like this tattoo (and I’m not a tattoo person). I try never to swear around my kids but this tattoo reads to me as a reminder to yourself not to worry about what others think of you, which is a great reminder, especially for a lot of women (“f it” has a totally different meaning to me). I actually shared this Instagram post with some of my closest friends (all good moms) and they loved it too.
Agreed!
I try to like her… I even start to like her… and then I see something like that insta pic with the sunglasses. Stop. Busy, just stop. I can’t imagine being that hung up on myself.
I think I’m beautiful and special, but I’m also a grown woman who doesn’t need to be taking bizarre puffed-lip glamour shots of my own face and putting them on social media.
I’m sure everyone has their own opinion, but for me she just grates on my nerves and gives me second hand embarrassment.
In my 20’s, I really strongly considered getting a tattoo on the top of my foot. Never went through with it because scared but also worried I would regret it later. Fast forward to now, I’m 42, and I still would like the tattoo that I was going to get (a macedonian sun; it used to be on the drachma coin, it’s a greek thing), but am so happy I didn’t get it on the top of my foot. Lately I have been seeing this below-the-ankle location for tiny tattoos and love it! Maybe in another 20 years I’ll finally do it
I like all my tattoos and plan on getting more.
Me too. Even a few of my shitty ones remind me of where I was at that stage of my life. To each her own.
Same! I try to space mine out for that reason, so they don’t all remind me of just ONE phase of my life. I have a consultation for my next one on Tuesday, something to affirm how far I have come since I finished university and started building my career.
I kind of like it. I’m not a tattoo person, but I kind of like it for her.
As a motto, it’s fine when directed at people trying to hold you back.
The photos reminded me I need to make an appointment for a pedicure. My winter feet look nothing like hers.
During a particularly frustrating time, years and years ago, I had a bracelet made with IRDGAF for “I really don’t give a f@ck.” I wore it for several months. I still have the bracelet if I ever feel the need to wear that expression again, but I’m glad I didn’t get it tattooed on me because I definitely don’t feel that way right now. Occasionally I’ve had jewelry made by artists in Etsy that express a particular sentiment I need at a particular moment. It can be therapeutic without the permanence and you can get some nice personalized-to-your-style stuff at the same time.
Read the studies on swearing. People who swear are more honest (and probably more intelligent) than those who do not.
Also, people continue to see women who swear as crass, offensive, and emotional. Men do not have those adjectives associated with them when they swear. Swear it up, women, to bring on more equality!
…that’s fcuking brilliant!!
Her vocal fry voice is like nails on a chalkboard to me.