Gwyneth Paltrow sends snotty, passive-aggressive notes to Ben Affleck

Ben Affleck’s life is littered with ex-girlfriends with issues. Well, Gwyneth Paltrow has issues, and I think Ben has issues with Jennifer Lopez, so it all evens out. Anyway, this story is about Gwyneth – because everything is about Gwyneth. Even Gwyneth’s ex-boyfriend’s marriage and children are about Gwyneth. This is what Fox News is reporting – they claim that Goopy is “big” on sending too-personal notes and gifts to Ben Affleck, and that the whole thing is getting under Jennifer Garner’s skin.

Apparently, when Jennifer gave birth to Seraphina earlier this year, Goopy sent one of her “famous notes” along, and this one was a classic: “Gwyneth made sure to mention how she was happy that Ben was finally creating the family he had always wanted, a family, which the two of them discussed in depth when they were dating.” Jesus, Gwenyth. Why don’t you devote a Goop newsletter to getting advice from specialists on how not to be a passive-aggressive, snotty, condescending bitch? I can just imagine: “BE the Un-Goop”.

Gwyneth Paltrow is that kind of person who likes to stay friendly with her exes. Especially her ex Ben Affleck.

Friends tell FOX411 the star is big on sending personal notes and gifts for births and other major celebrations, and Ben and his wife Jennifer Garner have been on the lucky receiving end of such gifts.

“Ben and Jen got one of Gwyneth’s famous notes this year just after Seraphina was born,” says the insider. “It was very nice, but it was a little too personal. Gwyneth made sure to mention how she was happy that Ben was finally creating the family he had always wanted, a family, which the two of them discussed in depth when they were dating. It just rubs Jen the wrong way.”

But that’s just the beginning of Paltrow’s too-close-for-comfort behavior. Gwyneth has enrolled her children, Apple and Moses, in the same Beverly Hills school that Violet Affleck attends, according to our source.

“Luckily, Gwyneth and Chris are barely in California three months out of the year, so Jen should not have to run into her too often at school,” says the insider. “The other moms already have a problem with the paparazzi following the Garner-Afflecks, and Gwyneth Paltrow will only make the situation worse.”

So far Garner, and Paltrow’s husband, Coldplay singer Chris Martin, are playing it cool with the Ben/Gwyneth thing. Martin is so laid back, says our source, he actually promotes Gwyneth to stay in touch with Ben. And Jen is taking his cue.

“Jen will always allow Ben to have contact and friendship with Gwyneth,” the pal says. “But she doesn’t always like it.”

[From Fox News]

I have to admit, I don’t really care for any of these three, but this has given me a lot of sympathy for Jennifer Garner. If I was her, I’d send along my own “famous note” to Gwyneth, telling her where she can stick her Goop. Hint: Where the sun don’t shine! Before people start defending Gwyneth, I just have to say a few things. I get that this could be construed as just a nice gesture, albeit one that’s soaked in passive-aggressive Goop snot. And we’ve all been there, haven’t we? I’m guilty of the same kind of passive-aggressive crap with old boyfriends and their new girlfriends. You just want to do something to tell the new girl “He was mine first, bitch.” So you hug him in a too-familiar way, or you call a little too late at night, just to get under her skin. Here’s the thing though – you don’t do it after you’ve been broken up for more than eight years. You don’t do it when the guy’s married, and has kids. Then you’re just a bitch.

Ben and Gwyn are shown in header in March, 2002 and below in November, 2000. Credit: Bauergriffinonline


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  1. Fiestarter says:

    Oh will she just shut up and go away already?! She really seems to go out of her way to make people dislike her.

  2. Toe says:

    Well sorry,
    I’m one of those bitches then.

  3. dee says:

    she’s an ass hole…….

  4. Praise St. Angie! says:

    “Before people start defending Gwyneth,…”

    um, is there ANYone on this site who WOULD?

  5. Giz says:

    That photo is just begging for a Goop caption regarding how not behave in social settings.

  6. Bill Hicks is God says:

    I’ll just bet it rubs Garner the wrong way. Like in a cheese-grater across the forehead type of wrong way.

  7. Katharine Jaynes says:

    I don’t know if I believe this story… I thought they had an acrimonious break up and she said something about how he needed to go to rehab for booze & gambling.

    After they split he started dating J-Lo which put him in a “gross” place.

    And then After he and J-Lo split he went to rehab.

  8. Cinderella says:

    They were such an odd pairing in the first place. I doubt there’s any love lost between them.

    If anything, Goopy is probably envious of Jennifer not because of Ben, but because Jen has it together. Her career has surpassed Gwyn’s, her popularity as a good mom has surpassed Gwyn’s, and her marriage is most likely stronger than Gwyn’s. Goopy needs a few pointers.

  9. TxGal says:

    I can’t stand her and her attitude. She should be paying attention to her own marriage instead of butting in others people business.

  10. Lem says:

    I jst love cracked out pics of her.
    unfortunately I’m pretty sure I make that face.

    hopefully the story is false, the note is nice the wording makes her a creep

  11. mE says:

    It almost sounds as though she might be a little jealous or upset that he moved on and wasn’t pining after her? Those were my first impressions anyway.

  12. Beth says:

    Are she and Ben even friends? I never see them together, at the same event. I just don’t picture her sending them gifts.

  13. PJ says:

    I wonder if Gwyneth sent her ex-fiance Brad Pitt similar notes on the birth of his kids? And would Angelina care?

  14. Ally says:

    Around the time Affleck was going out with J.Lo I remember Paltrow saying that he had always wanted a girl who would bring him a beer by the pool. I thought that was pretty dead on, and he certainly seems to have found his sneaker-wearing, beer-bringing match in Beige Garner.

  15. OXA says:

    I do not know any other mother of 2 small kids that has the time or energy to involve themselves in such self-involvement. Most mothers dont have time to be present all the time in their own lives. Goopy cant find enough ways to insinuate herself into other peoples lives.

  16. nan says:

    Goopy has her daddy’s money,,,and does not need fame, popularity or a good husband…
    Sorry but it is true!!!
    Yeh, I hate it as much as you do!!!

  17. headband says:

    this is a load of crap. She probably sent them a “congrats” card because they probably sent her an “announcement.”

    .. And who ARE these people that think you shouldn’t be friends with someone after you break up!? Grow up!

  18. Kelly says:

    “So you hug him in a too-familiar way…just to get under her skin. Here’s the thing though – you don’t do it after you’ve been broken up for more than eight years….Then you’re just a bitch.”

    Well, actually, no. Doing this at any point post-breakup makes one a bitch.

    Any woman who feels the need to send the message “He was mine first, bitch,” should seek counseling, stop viewing others as possessions and/or get on with her life.

    (The male correlary holds true as well.)

  19. Jo says:

    i love Gweneth…. affleck and garner not so much

  20. Bree says:

    Um yeah…Miss ‘my daddy was a director and that’s how I got my break,’ Paltrow.
    Can’t stand the cow.

  21. LuLu says:

    Since Gwenyth likes to send personal notes to pervious lovers, it makes me wonder. Has Gwenyth send Brad Pitt personal little notes about their previous life together and the dreams they shared? They were once engaged. Let’s hope she does, I would really like to hear about Angelina knocking that bitch Gwenyth on her boney ass!!

  22. karen says:

    I don’t know if this is true.. But I think it could be.. I do remember she did something like this when they asked her about Brad Pitt and his kids ( no notes just a passive aggressive answer).. plus she said she had never met Angelina when she has.. they made a movie together.. I wish she would focus on Acting and let all the “goop” stuff go.. she seems to be moving off the charts in a wierd way. Ben A.. too.. When a relationship is over.. let it be over..Why did he feel the need to talk about JLO.. It has been over.. Both have spouses and kids. Why are these people talking about their X when they have a Current.. don’t get it. I loved Gwynthe in Emma, but now I just don’t like her much at all.. Shame..

  23. gg says:

    :lol: !! Lem I agree – I probably make that face too! lol

    Unfortunately that is probably the reason I think she looks so detestable in the above pic of her with Ben. HA

  24. sayrah says:

    She’s just too much. It’s funny how she’s gone from someone everyone liked 10 years ago to this.

  25. Mizz Expert says:

    Whether this story is bogus or not, I love the fact that stones are being cast at Gwyneth Paltrow, one of the most over-rated, minimally talented and least deserving Oscar winner. The article is at least half correct in that she is thoroughly full of herself and so nauseatingly sanctimonious. This progeny of famous people’s career is on the wane, so go away now Gwyneth, and be a parent and shut the crap up!

  26. the original kate says:

    gwyneth’s note is not about the baby – it’s about her, as is everything else in her goopy world.i am close friends with two of my exes- i went to ex #1′s wedding and i introduced ex #2 to his current girlfriend- but i would not be so tacky as to send notes referencing our past together – can you imagine?

    “dear john, i am so glad that you finally got the wife you always wanted, as we discussed in depth when we were together. ok, enjoy the fish broiler! love, the original kate”

  27. TaylorB says:

    “Gwyneth made sure to mention how she was happy that Ben was finally creating the family he had always wanted, a family, which the two of them discussed in depth when they were dating”

    And here is a copy of said note…

    “Dearest Jen,
    Congrats on the new baby! That is wonderful. Back when we were slappin nasties Ben always used to scream how much he wanted a family with me more than anything in the world, but since I was to good for him clearly it seems any old chick would suffice… Anyhoodle, I hope you both enjoy the $50,000 real Ivory and Ruby Diaper Geenie/cocktail shaker, it is a MUST for any new mother.

    Your spiritual guide, Goopy”

  28. fizXgirl314 says:

    Kelly i agree with you… i’d never do that… it smells way too much of desperation to me…

  29. Iggles says:

    Wow, Gwyneth is so insecure! She chose to move to England and go on hiatus from acting so she could be the “perfect” mother. Now she’s pissed to find out that she’s irrelevant. It happens!

  30. the original kate says:

    @ taylorb: LMAO! but you forgot the line in goop’s note where she said “i hope you are planning to move to spain and raising the children there, as it is so much more civilized than the states. ask ben to tell you some of my backpacking in spain stories – they are hilarious! love, goopy.”

  31. Sudini says:

    Yep, well said Kelly and fizXgirl..I can’t understand the disrespect some people show when it comes to their ex’s new relationships. And I’ve never understood the need to be involved in an ex’s life at that point. There’s just no relevance anymore and it’s quite frankly just boring and gross. So much better to move forward with your own life.

  32. jojo says:

    First of all, props to CB for finding and using the pic of Gwennie with a bitchy look on her face – I LOVE it!

    Secondly, Gwyneth Paltrow is the biggest loser of this planet, far worse than Paris Hilton, Spencer Pratt and even Michael Lohan.

    I read an interview with her one time … the interviewer came to her house in London, and when the interview was over she just got up and walked out of the room. Didn’t say thank you, didn’t say goodbye, didn’t show him the door. He noted it at the end of the interview.

    The ONLY reason she ever made it as an actress is thanks to her parents. She has no talent whatsoever, and she’s not pretty at all!

  33. iris says:

    Jennifer Garner is a tough cookie.

    She dumped her first mediocre husband because he was interfering with her career. Ten minutes later she was dating her Alias co-star, when she made sure Benny was falling for her, she dumped Michael Vartan and got pregnant with Benny’s child.
    She’s got what she wanted.
    She left Gwynnie and J.Lo in the way and she became the one and only Mrs. Affleck.

    Her passive-aggressive tactics paid off!

    She can handle Goopy’s cards, J.Lo’s engagement rings and her hubby’s wandering eye and his many temptations!

  34. CeeJay says:

    Well of course, because Gwenny’s time with Ben HAD to be more relevant and important than anything he’s experienced since.

  35. Ned says:

    The source is obvious: Jen Garner.

    Garner is rightly threatened by other woman, and especially exes of Ben.

    Ben used to date beautiful women, who made it on their own, and not by piggybacking Ben’s career.

    Garner is one horsey-faced insecure woman, but it makes sense, since Ben never intended to marry her or to start a family with her.

    When you force those things on a man, you might get more insecure.

  36. Ana says:

    I don’t keep in touch with my exes. But if I did I don’t think I would be passive agressive like that. I just really don’t care enough.

    If Gwen really does this, she needs to grow up. She already has children and a family as well!

    Unfortunately, I know what it’s like to have an ex pester you. It sucks. If you can’t be mature about it, then you don’t need to keep in touch.

  37. RubyKaur says:

    I wonder is she is aware of how annoying and disliked she really is!

  38. nj says:

    In my own personal opinion, keeping in touch with an ex when you have a family is wildly disrespectful. I would not do it to my husband and I’d make damn sure it was not done to me. Now if its okay with other people, fine- I understand that for some people this is normal and not a problem and that is fine-for them. But I think if you seek out that ex, it screams volumes. I just would not bother to seek out my exes- even the nice ones who I wish and hope the best for in life. Its rude. Its not my place. And I am certain many of those exes wish for me but are respectful enough to leave the past in the past. That alone shows they care rather than looking me up and bothering me for the sole purpose of being sanctimonious. And if Gwyneth Paltrow ever pulled a stunt like that on ME, it would be the LAST thing she ever did…

  39. Ned says:

    nj, what’s the big “stunt”?
    Even if it’s true- the mere thing Paltrow did is to remind Ben, that he discussed having a family with her.

    The only way this is problematic, is if Ben never discussed having a family with Garner, and wasn’t serious abour her, thus the dig is-
    “you didn’t marry me, so this horsey faced farmer (Garner) forced in onto you.

    I can see why this would make Garner feel even more insecure, but she totally earned it by getting pregnant to a guy who never intended on marrying her, after cheating and using relationships with men to get a career and promote it.

  40. Caitlyn says:

    I don’t understand why Gwyneth sending a note to Ben would be upsetting to jennifer garner, it’s just a note. I would have thought Ben attending her son’s birthday party with Violet would have been more upsetting to jennifer.

  41. Praise St. Angie! says:

    Ned, I hate to break it to you, but Gwyneth Paltrow did NOT “make it on her own”.

    her very famous parents had a little bit to do with it.

    I’ll give you JLo, tho…as much as I don’t think she’s very talented, she did work her butt off to get where she is.


    “since Ben never intended to marry her or to start a family with her.”

    how is it that you know this little tidbit?

  42. BlueSkies says:

    If Gwyneth was pretty and acted like she does, then I would like her but sadly, she’s not. A beauty wouldn’t act like this, I guess.

  43. Paloma says:

    It was reported Gwynn once said that the type of woman Ben likes (long after they broke up) was a wet T-shirt contestant; that is when he was dating JLo. Also, she was sticking her big nose in Brad’s business. She is a true b! Guess what, gwynn. Men get over you; you are not the end all to be all.

  44. getoveryourselfalready says:

    “Any woman who feels the need to send the message “He was mine first, bitch,” should seek counseling, stop viewing others as possessions and/or get on with her life.”

    As the 3.5 year significant other of a lovely man who used to date a celebrat that regularly tries to interfere in our relationship (and treated him worse than a baby does a diaper)–THANK YOU!!!