Selena Gomez: ‘I don’t really appreciate people judging me on my looks’


This is a photo of Selena Gomez on her first red carpet in almost a year for WE Day. Selena announced last year that she was taking some time out of the public eye to take care of herself. And she really did step away, which – good for her. But she is slowly re-entering the public eye. Wednesday she appeared on the Dream It Real podcast (she should have been on the Gossip with Celebitchy podcast, that’s the best podcast). During her interview, Selena revealed that she doesn’t think the people who are talking about her really know her, especially if the only comments they have are about her looks.

Selena Gomez is opening up about her journey in and out of the spotlight in her most candid interview to date.

The “Wolves” singer is the first guest on Coach’s new Dream It Real podcast, released on Wednesday. During the 30-minute conversation, focused on authenticity, the 26-year-old star talks about going to therapy and reveals the one thing people really don’t know about her.

“I don’t really think that people know my heart,” Gomez says. “I think that sometimes people may think that I politically say the right thing or I’m safe or I’ve been trained to speak this way. I don’t know how to be trained, like how on earth would somebody be training me to speak things?”

“I think that a lot of people don’t understand my heart, you know?” Gomez continues. “And I also don’t like that, it can be sometimes about appearance too. I don’t really appreciate people judging me on my looks, or anything like that.”

When asked what she means by that, Gomez explains, “I just think that the world today, with so much exposure to everything…it’s great to dress up and to feel beautiful and to do those things, but…and I’m flattered when, maybe, guys are like, ‘You’re pretty.’ I am, it’s just not…I would just love someone to love me for the person that I am.”

[From E! News]

I guess I’m a little confused. When she referred to those who talked about her, I thought she meant the media. But we only know of her through public appearances so it’s not really possible for us to know what’s in her heart. So is she talking about those around her? If so, I can understand her grief because that would suck if all your friends could talk about was your looks.

The quotes provided are cryptic, but cryptic in a way that it sounds like Selena is working through her thoughts as she speaks them, not to play games. Considering she spent her down time examining herself, it would be especially frustrating to come back from that and read all these superficial and inaccurate representations of her. It also sounds like maybe Selena, who was a child actress, did put up a façade in the press, whether coached or not, and is now trying to live as her true self. If that’s the case, she’ll break through. It might take a little while but if she stays focused on herself and her health, we’ll learn the real Selena. She said therapy helped her immensely and wishes she’d gone long before now. I think therapy is a godsend and wish everyone had access to it. I’m glad Selena is finding comfort there.




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  1. runcmc says:

    I really don’t understand what she’s trying to say. It must be about what her peers think about her, because I’ve never seen Selena Gomez being criticized for seeming coached or rehearsed. Like that’s not a thing the general public says about her.

  2. Emby says:

    I’m sorry but that is just a lot of blather that means nothing. Whatever is “in her heart” (eyeroll) she does not seem bright.

  3. Alissa says:

    I wish her well, she seems like she’s had a hard time being in the spotlight the last few years. I actually have enjoyed a decent amount of the phone she’s released in the last couple years too.

    and I don’t mean this has a comment on her looks, but I wish someone had adjusted the neckline on that dress before letting her take a bunch of photos because it’s creating an unflattering optical illusion.

  4. Becks1 says:

    I…..don’t really understand what she is trying to say.

    But, if she is finding her way as an adult in Hollywood, and trying to do it in a way that is right for her, then good for her.

  5. Leriel says:

    Selena is bodyshamed around the internet A LOT, especially after she gained weight after transplantation. “She is dull”, “She has baby face”, “She lost weight because she’s on drugs”, “She is overweight, why she’s posing in bikini” etc. So I guess that’s what she means, and she is right – nobody should be judged by their looks.

  6. josephine says:

    I like all three of her looks here. I have a soft spot for her since my kids loved her tv work – I thought she was very natural, very cute as a child actor.

    I think it would be brutal for any child actor to have to grow into adulthood in the spotlight.

  7. Rebecca says:

    She”s been criticized for not being political enough the same way Taylor Swift was often criticized for not being political enough (before she came out as Democrat) . I think that’s what she is taking about when she says people think I”m to careful about what I say.

    She seems to me to be very social media sensitive. So, when she talks about the criticism she receives, I think she’s referring to 3 things : social media, the press, and certain people around her.

  8. TheHeat says:

    That’s the problem with social media platforms like ‘The Gram’ (which she once dominated – not sure anymore); you aren’t offering your “heart” on there, you’re offering your image. So, while I feel bad for her, and agree that everyone should be judged on the merits of their character, she also needs to acknowledge that she has entertained this beast in a huge way. Maybe this is her wake-up call to move on to things that showcase her spirit, instead.

    • Naddie says:

      Just like that. People wanna have the best of the worlds, and it just won’t happen. I think, while the world is not a fair place to live, we often take back what we put out.

  9. Chelly says:

    My job offers 6 free sessions and sometimes I think i should really go…then I dont. But I always hear how healing it can be. Maybe one day

    • Kate says:

      Do it!! It’s scary to find motivation to start and to maybe face things you’d rather not examine. I don’t think you’ll regret doing it.

    • Shannon says:

      Therapy is amazing to me. It’s like a spa day for my emotional well-being. I do suffer from anxiety and depression, so maybe it might not be as useful for some other people as it is for me, but I really recommend giving it a try.

  10. Lucia says:

    I always thought 2 things about Selena Gomez:

    1) She’s a very pretty girl
    2)She could do better than Justin Bieber.

  11. Mar says:

    She reminds of Britney Spears. They both seem a bit lost I this world because maybe they both peaked at a young age.

  12. rose says:

    She has no singing or acting talent so what else can people say about her ? She’s such a pretty woman and seems sweet but that’s it .

    • ME says:

      I do think it’s really mean when people on the internet criticize her for her weight though (which is mostly due to her meds). But she is a pretty girl and she has gotten very far on her looks…talent wise she is just OK. Not the best actress or singer. I really like the work she’s done with UNICEF. She, I believe, does have a good heart.

  13. Jb says:

    The moment the likes stop coming and the cameras stop flashing this girl is gonna be so lost. She also was quoted in previous articles that she likes privacy and wanting to be away from the world whilst maintaining an Instagram with millions of followers. She can fade into obscurity if she wanted to, stop acting and modeling and still have plenty of money yet she doesn’t and complains ppl make opinions based off of how she looks?? Self awareness is not strong with this one

  14. Michael says:

    I like Selenators Gomez a lot but I always wondered how she got so messed up emotionally. It seems to be a thing with Disney stars. What are they doing to these children?

    • Desolee says:

      Having the illness (illnesses?) and fame (and famous relationships) she’s had wouldn’t help either. It must be stressful.

    • ME says:

      I think a lot of her stress/anxiety issues are due to her Lupus.

    • otaku fairy... says:

      I don’t think Selena has ever mentioned that, but it’s not something that should be fair game to speculate about as entertainment. If at some point she says herself that that did happen to her, that’s one thing. With Britney Spears there’s a conversation about people needing to have boundaries when it comes to celebrities, and those principles definitely apply to assumptions about sexual abuse. She has talked about having mental and physical health issues, though. That plus fame at an early age probably haven’t been easy for her, especially with gender factored in.

  15. Patty says:

    I think she’s frustrated and lonely. It sounds like she really wants to be loved and in a relationship and it hasn’t happened yet and she thinks it’s because people get hung up on her looks.

  16. K says:

    I really think she cannot take criticism
    regarding her looks (like from Dolce or Gabana, I forget which one), which I don’t blame her but it’s part of being a celebrity. She also seems hung up on Justin Bieber, that’s why she is alone.