Kate Hudson’s 15 year-old son points out she didn’t ask if she could post a video of him


Saturday was Oliver Hudson’s birthday. We know that because he’s famous and has a wiki page that tells us that. But we also know it was his birthday because his sister, Kate Hudson, sent him this cute video of her brood singing him happy birthday:

Aw, that’s cute. We know Kate and Oliver are close, as are their families. My brothers have received similarly musical salutations. The difference between my messages and Kate’s, in addition to mine being a lot more tonally challenged, is mine are played for their ears only (you’re welcome, btw. Seriously, I cannot sing). Kate, as you can see, thought theirs was cute enough to post on her Instagram page to share with her 10M followers. Unfortunately, one of her followers objected: her oldest child, 15-year-old Ryder, who is featured in the video along with his siblings. Ryder left a comment on the post saying, “Mom you didn’t ask if you could post this,” followed by the eye-rolling emoji and the crying-laughing emoji. Kate responded with the “love you” emoji – the smiling face with heart pimples. The post, obviously, has not been taken down. So this back-and-forth could be an inside joke between the two, I don’t know, I don’t speak emoji. But we do know that Apple Martin took exception to her mother, Gwyneth Paltrow, posting her face without permission and that post was never removed either. It’s likely that Ryder has asked for approval rights on his image on his folks’ social media. I’ve been asked for that by both my kids. He hasn’t asked for it, but I extend the same courtesy to my husband (and my dogs, but they always say yes). We don’t have to ask my father, he simply asked that none of us use his image on social media at any time. Many people have opinions about the use of their images and they should be respected, regardless of how cute the shot or video is. But I find celebrity parents who can’t help but post their kids against their will especially curious, because these are people who have carefully crafted their image in the public eye, some even paying to get unfavorable images removed. So you would think that they, of all people, would honor their kids request to manage their media presence. However, what if the kids and cute family moments are part of their brand? It’s possible it’s just an accident when a celeb parent posts their kid, forgetting to get permission first. But what’s telling is that even after their kids shamed them, the posts stayed up.

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  1. ME says:

    I have cousins that post everything their kids do…even pics of the kids sitting on the potty…gross and a total lack of respect of privacy for their children. Parents please stop…especially if your kids are old enough to say you don’t have their permission !

  2. Skyblue121 says:

    He looked uncomfortable in the video. I think she should have taken it down. On a personal note, I have had discussions with a number of my friends about posting my image on social media. I joke that I am Beyoncé and prefer to curate my own life but honestly posting without permission is such a violation of privacy.

    • manda says:

      I would hate it if my parents were always posting my business and my face online. I feel for kids today.

      Relatedly–kids today have no privacy at all! I was at a bbq last week, and all my friends with children were showing each other their tracking apps etc so they can essentially spy on their kids. I know it’s a safety thing, but omg I’m so happy I was a teen before all this nonsense

    • Frida_K says:

      I have a friend who takes pictures of local people when on holiday that make me cringe. To this friend, the elderly person is picturesque, inspiring, and/or a great prop for humble-brag Instagram posts. To me, I say: that’s someone’s abuela and she deserves to be able to walk outside of her church without having her picture taken like she is a zoo animal.

      I hate that. I hate that.

      Elderly people in Mexico or the Mediterranean region are not great props for humble-brags. They are human beings, and at that age they probably have lived through the Spanish Civil War and World War II. Why can’t they sit in the sun in their local plaza and not be photographed?

      I could thoroughly go on a rant about this, but I will stop by simply repeating: I hate that.

      • ME says:

        Your friend should really ask their permission before taking their photos and using them however she pleases. I think that is so wrong.

      • Blueskies says:

        I have a friend whose sister does this frequently while on holiday and it makes me cringe. They’re both nice women but are also very photogenic themselves and forever posting “beautiful” selfies and scenic pictures. I’m certain they ask permission of any strangers to be photographed but they do end up looking like props. The captions of “I love her/him!” and “this beauty” don’t help.

        I feel for Ryder. He’s at that age where this stuff is deeply felt and it won’t be a joke to him. Of course it’ll end up being somewhat mitigated between him and his mother. He might opt out of these things as he gets older. Right now, being at home he has to be one of the gang most of the time.

      • Bree says:

        Oh my gosh, yes! I live in Europe, and it’s really disrespectful what (especially American) tourists do…the way they sometimes treat local people like props at Disneyland. Please, everyone, think: “what if this was my street?”

  3. Spicecake38 says:

    The boy is quickly entering adulthood in a few years.I for one believe that people get too carried away with what and whom they post.Social media is so very common and I believe people are forgetting that we all deserve privacy.I know many people who think nothing of posting pictures and videos of their children (and others) as if they are doing them some kind of favor.Well,it’s not always well received and it’s important to remember that the pictures posted don’t go away,and some day a child may not appreciate being on someone’s insta/Facebook or whatever.I don’t want any photo or video of myself out there period,but especially without my consent.

    • ME says:

      I have relatives that get mad when I don’t pose for pics at birthdays, etc. I know they are going to post them to social media and I don’t want to be a part of that. They get upset but I don’t care. It’s my picture and my choice. Seriously what’s wrong with some people? I also hate seeing people at the mall, even grocery stores making videos and posting them on-line. Everywhere I go I have to be vigilante. One embarrassing moment can be captured and put on-line and before you know it, you’re a meme ! No thanks.

      • Spicecake38 says:

        Yeah my daughter is the one child in her school/work/group of friends who has no social media.She toys with the idea of getting insta and has asked my opinion.I have told her that I won’t forbid it,but as she is approaching the time to apply for college and various scholarships that she will stand out for not having social media.Just like you @ME,I have told her that someone could say something hurtful,call her an ugly name,make her a meme-even if it’s just a cute pic,and that that doesn’t go away even if you delete it.

      • Dee says:

        @Me, I’m the same. I even had a bunch of rude comments like “who do you think you are???” or “who will even care??”. As if I need to be a celeb in order to have my freaking privacy private.

      • La says:

        @Dee I am pregnant and legitimately had people yell at me because we didn’t make any social media announcement until I was in my 3rd trimester. I wasn’t keeping it a secret, we just didn’t really care about social media! If any of them had actually bothered to talk to me I would have told them. People feel entitled to your life and it has to be way worse for celebs/celeb kids.

        I rarely post on social media and plan on teaching my kids to be very careful. And if I ever did post something they didn’t like (which is unlikely, the few posted pics of my kids are professional family photos) I would immediately take it down. We had the privilege of not having every moment documented for posterity and kids deserve the chance to do the best they can in today’s landscape to manage their own privacy.

  4. Ali says:

    Gorgeous family.

  5. Dani says:

    Her kids are seriously gorgeous. I get him though – my six year old always tells me stop taking pics of me or don’t send that to anyone. I respect her wishes and very rarely post pictures of her on any social media without asking her first. I get people would think it’s weird at six to ask her if she’s comfortable with it but if she can express it on her own, as her mother, I should respect her.

  6. Cay says:

    What ever happened with Chris Robinson wanting full custody of Ryder? I remember he went to court because he wanted to go from joint custody to full custody. Anyone know the story behind that and what happened? The rumor was that Ryder didn’t like living with Kate and that Chris didn’t approve of Kate’s parenting environment. Anyone know if there was truth to any of that?

  7. lucy2 says:

    This is why it makes me uncomfortable when celebrities put their kids in magazines and all over social media before they’re old enough to understand it all and be ok with it.
    If her son does want to have approval before posting, I hope she respects that.

    I have a friend who posts the MOST embarrassing stuff about her kids all the time. No, sorry, the world doesn’t need to know your poor kid was up all night puking. With photos.

  8. ‘However, what if the kids and cute family moments are part of their brand?’.
    THEIR brand, not the kid’s ‘brand’. Kids no matter their age, should be able to ask not to be on social media and their request respected. + And yes, I get that, in this instance, she may have forgotten his request – but once reminded, take it down)

  9. Jules says:

    The oversharing, overposting, and constantly taking photos of kids is leading to the massive increase in narcissism in society. Kids are taught at a very young age that they are the center of the universe. Imagine being a celebrity kid and growing up with millions of people looking at your intimate family moments. This is how people get entitled and lack empathy for others. We need to scale back, people.

  10. Chaine says:

    I’m just here for that adorable baby!

  11. Kate says:

    To play devil’s advocate, I wonder if the eyeroll emoji plus the cry laugh emoji meant he was being sarcastic and it wasn’t a big deal. I can’t believe I just typed that sentence.

    • Boxy Lady says:

      I had the same take, honestly.

    • Liz says:

      As the parent of a 15 y/o, I can confirm. I’d read that from my own child as (a) being sarcastic and (b) “NEXT TIME, REMEMBER TO ASK ME FIRST.” And no, I never post pictures of my kid on any social media – I’ve been asked not to. So if I take of picture of my kiddo it’s always “I’m just going to text this to your Dad.” or “Do you mind if I send this to Grandma?”

  12. Louise177 says:

    I think kids, people in general, want permission because it’s not shared by a few people but dozens to millions of people. The internet is forever. I wouldn’t want a photo or video of me being toilet trained to be broadcast around the world.

  13. paranormalgirl says:

    I post no pictures of my family on any social media. Shoot, I barely post on social media at all! But I just figure if my spawn want their pictures out there, they can do it on their own accounts.

  14. holly hobby says:

    Ryder has the makings of turning out into a handsome man. The Hawn Hudson genes are strong in that one.