Jenna Dewan on her split from Channing Tatum: ‘My instinct is to set the record straight’

Do you remember how Ashton Kutcher responded to Demi Moore’s memoir with the sentiment “I could say more but I won’t?” There’s something so lame about that, and yet Jenna Dewan is essentially doing it in her book and coming across like an angel and a badass at the same time. You have to respect that. E! has details from Jenna’s new book, Gracefully You: Finding Beauty and Balance in the Everyday, which partially covers the end of her marriage to Channing Tatum at the beginning of 2018. I’m relying on E!’s excerpts because it’s only just been released and I haven’t read it yet. Jenna has been open about her spirituality, she calls herself a hippie, and she dealt with the pain of her divorce by leaning into that. She says that she was devastated when she learned that Channing was dating Jessie J. It’s possible there was overlap and that Channing was cheating, but if so she’s only hinting about it.

“[Divorce] was never on my docket of dreams, but alas, here I am, learning and growing through one,” she wrote. “In the beginning I turned to the typical remedies. I drank a whole lot of wine with friends. I had many moments of deep, painful, big cries. And both were very necessary in getting me to the next hour, through the day, on to another week.”

“In the beginning of my separation, it felt as though I were in a dark closet, desperately trying to find the light or the way out,” she revealed. “I was in a state of shock. One week I’d be doing really well and the next I was slammed with a whole new slew of emotions. The rumor mill was churning out story after story. There were many times I hid under the covers, wondering what was next. The pain hit me like a tumbling avalanche. I was completely overcome with fear and sadness. It took many moments of sitting alone with my grief to force me into surrendering to my roller coaster of a situation.”

But every setback comes with it’s fair share of lessons for growth. “The separation tested me in ways I hadn’t thought possible,” she shared “I started to wonder if everything I believed in and always talked about was real. Could anyone or anything ever be trusted?”

The most painful part of the divorce may have come when Jenna revealed that she found out about her exes relationship with music sensation Jessie J alongside the rest of the world.

“I was learning things about my ex most people wouldn’t have to face–and over the internet, as it was happening,” she revealed. “There I was, on a plane, alone, finding out about his new relationship. I felt blindsided. Choosing grace as I learned everything about my personal situation along with the rest of the world was really difficult.”

However, like the name of her book implies, it was an opportunity for the actress to practice what she preached. “It was quite a challenge to remain graceful; to say the least. That’s when your real character comes out,” she explained. “Instead of reacting the way I wanted to…I asked myself this: How do I choose grace in this moment? Had I not been practicing this way of life beforehand, I definitely wouldn’t have handled this news very gracefully.”

Although it wasn’t an easy situation to navigate, Jenna had already found someone new during this time. “When I was ready, I started dating someone amazing,” she wrote of her relationship with Steve. “It was this cosmically great thing where we circled back around each other after a moment of instant recognition years ago.”

“Do you know how many times I’ve wanted to go online and write exactly what’s on my mind? Thousands,” she shared in the book. “My instinct is to fight back, set the record straight. What stops me every time is: ‘Choose to say what you would want yourself to live with a week from today.’ Or ‘Choose what you would want Everly to read when she’s older.'”

[From E! Online]

So is she saying she thinks Channing cheated because he moved on so quickly, but she’s not sure? I’ve been through something similar and likely did not handle it as well. However I knew from this job that there was no way I could write anything about it and that there were only certain people I could talk to. Once you know the power of gossip, you know how to wield it when you’re telling your own story. Jenna is doing that expertly here. I like how she is focusing on her child too. Compare this to how Jaime Pressly recently said that favoring her oldest son would not matter to her toddler twins. They’re going to grow up and google her! Also compare it to Ashton Kutcher saying he was focusing on his wife and daughter and wouldn’t respond. That’s just what Jenna said, only she planned and crafted it a million times better.

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  1. Kittycat says:

    It must be difficult to go through a public divorce.

    Perhaps I wasn’t paying attention but I didnt hear a lot of rumours.

    • Arizona says:

      there were rumors about cheating and if I recall, she set those rumors straight pretty quickly. I also thought that she was dating Steve before he started dating Jessie, so I think she’s just saying it was painful he was in a new relationship? I could be wrong on the timeline though. I don’t think that she’s saying he was cheating because she was very explicit in denying any cheating rumors at the beginning.

      • The news about her relationship with Steve did out before the news that he was dating Jessie J. I remember thinking that she had moved on rather quickly after they split up.

      • Arizona says:

        yeah, it stuck in my brain because I remembered thinking that I was surprised by how quickly she was dating someone after such a long relationship with Channing.

  2. JanetFerber says:

    I have to say I’ve never seen her happier, so I’m glad for her.

  3. Lucy2 says:

    I thought it was a given that he was cheating, or trying to? Wasn’t he messaging other women while they were married? Or maybe I’m remembering wrong. Either way, I think she’s handled it pretty well.

  4. Originaltessa says:

    Ugh, that must have sucked. Glad she got through it she seems happier than before.

  5. Sierra says:

    Her new man is sooooooo hot..

  6. Erinn says:

    I do kind of wonder if maybe he played both sides of things for a while. Maybe he cheated before they separated – I don’t know. But it almost comes off as they were sort of not ‘over’ during the separation – like as if they were maybe working on the relationship a bit. Or maybe he had implied that he wanted to work things out while still dating Jesse. Who knows. I’m sure it wasn’t an easy situation.

    She still does manage to come off pretty well here, all things considered.

  7. Eva says:

    I thought she was the first to move on after the divorce? Either way, finding about your ex’s new relationship on the internet must be painful.

    I don’t think she’s necessarily accusing him of cheating, to me it seemed like she was talking more generally about going through divorce publicly and how you have the urge to want to correct every rumour.

    • Kebbie says:

      Yeah I don’t think she’s accusing or even hinting at him cheating either. I thought she moved on first too, so maybe she gave Channing a heads up and expected the same from him.

      ETA: I looked it up and before anything about Jessie or Steve was reported People had an article saying they were both dating other people. So I’m not sure how it came as a surprise a few weeks later that he was dating someone.

  8. Arizona says:

    I just looked it up, and it looks like both Jenna’s new relationship and channing’s new relationship were publicized in October 2018. so I’m a little confused by her reaction about finding it out in public, since she was apparently dating someone at the same time? I do think it would have been better for Channing to tell her directly that he was seeing someone, but maybe he wasn’t sure about how serious it was going to be at the time?

    • Toot says:

      Exactly, she already had a new partner too, so maybe she wanted Channing to tell her ahead or something. Which I don’t see the reason to if Jessie isn’t around the kid yet.

    • lucy2 says:

      Because they have a kid together, I think they should have told the other person as soon as it went from casually dating to a relationship, and it should have been done personally before the news got out and it was online.

      • Arizona says:

        that might not have been the case though – it’s possible he got papped with Jessie and it came out before he had determined that it was a serious relationship, though. my husband’s ex wife saw us together when we’d only been dating a month, and she freaked out – but we’re didn’t know whether it was serious yet, and I hadn’t met any of the kids yet either.

        otherwise, I totally agree.

    • Abby says:

      I think finding out on the INTERNET that my former partner of over a decade, the father of my child, was dating someone new… that would wreck me too. Even if I was in a new relationship.

  9. Joanna says:

    She is so pretty. I tried stitchfix for the first time and got my first delivery yesterday. Everything fit perfectly. I was afraid to try it, thinking it would be too expensive but you can set a price range. I absolutely love it!

    • Arizona says:

      I love stitch fix! I’ve gotten so many good clothes for work, which is hard for me to find at stores because I’m petty and often have to look in the junior section.

    • Originaltessa says:

      I dud stitch fix for a year, and some of the stuff they sent is like my all time favorite stuff. But then there’s some random stuff that I didn’t like at all and they blatantly ignored my requests. I told them under no circumstances to send me jeans. I own 6 pairs of very nice designer jeans and do not need or want any more. Guess what they sent almost every box? Jeans! It infuriated me and I quit the service.

      • lucy2 says:

        That’s frustrating. My very first one I said NO YELLOW and they sent me a yellow top. Like someone went out of their way to find a bright yellow top! I sent it back with a comment though, and everything since has been good. I get one every other month, and pretty much keep everything. The few things I’ve sent back were because it was too similar to something I already owned.

  10. Lena says:

    I remember thinking her relationship with Steve seemed like revenge dating (like Liam’s does) at first because within a month of hearing (but not seeing) that Channing was with Jesse she was seen all over being papped with Steve. It definitely seemed like she was reacting to the news of her ex or I think she might not have been so public about it.

  11. hhh says:

    She was with her dude way before Channing was with Jessie. Now she plays victim to get attention.

    • Lena says:

      NoActually Channing’s was reported then after Jenna was papped with the new guy.

      • hhh says:

        There are pictures of Jenna with her guy from MAY 2018 walking dogs. Google it. Also check caption under photo of her announcing pregnancy on his insta. Channing and Jessie were first linked in October 2018. It’s clear who moved first.

      • Kebbie says:

        Do you remember where you saw those May 2018 photos or have a link? I tried finding them and I couldn’t.

    • hhh says:

      I can’t post link apparently. Its on hawtcelebs title “JENNA DEWAN Out with Her Dog in Studio City 05/23/2018”

  12. Kathgal says:

    I don’t think it matters if you yourself are dating/not dating when you find out your ex is with someone else. It can still hurt. Even if it was you that moved on with someone new first. It. Can. Still. Hurt. Give her a break.

  13. Stef says:

    Divorce is hell, especially when you still love each other but know you can’t stay together any more. It happened to me and I can relate to so much of what she says here, especially about wanting to set the record straight but having to consider how to handle it all gracefully.

    I was married to a top cop who was the love of my life. I took on his 2 stepkids as a custodial stepmom for several years and it was hard, but they were his life, their mom was gone, so it was a package deal. I grew to love them deeply and they’re still in my life. When we split up, mostly due to the stress of it all and 2 high profile jobs (mine not as public as his, luckily), it was horrible for us both.

    He moved on very quickly but that’s how he deals with relationships, I was his 3rd wife. I was destroyed when I found out, more so when he married number 4 earlier this year. I was trying to date, although nothing serious, but I still loved him and was forced to move on. I get how she felt about hearing her ex has a new love, regardless if she was dating or not. Sometimes people throw themselves into new relationships after divorce as a way to force themselves to move forward. You can’t truly understand that until you’ve lived it. I used to judge people so much for stuff like this, after so much pain and self work to learn and heal, I’m wiser now.

    She handled the cheating rumours and divorce with dignity, grace and respect. I admire her for that (plus she’s one of my favourite dancers).

  14. Sam says:

    I wonder what Michelle Beadle thinks about all of this. Does anyone know her take or if she has hinted at anything? This is all very public and it has to hurt a little. (I’m a big Beadle fan. That’s why my interest is with her.)

  15. Stef says:

    Also, thanks for calling out Young Living as a shady MLM company. I work with them in Utah and they’re awful (side effect of my job, consulting for terrible brands).

    Young Living and DoTerra are responsible for the faux health crap of the essential oils craze in the last few years. MLM out of Utah are all cult-like and should be avoided like the plague….

    • lucy2 says:

      OMG a friend of mine is into that and posts about it CONSTANTLY.

      • Stef says:

        They teach sellers to leverage family and friends and “be the brand” they’ve bought into. It’s a popular business model but often the products are terrible and over priced. I find the trend of essential oils (I.e. cheap, synthetic chemicals) is particularly annoying.

    • jenner says:

      Super shady. And sadly they are taking over the essential oil business by buying in bulk.

  16. DS9 says:

    This seems rather passive aggressive but divorce is hard so whatever.

  17. Oliviajoy1995 says:

    She also says that Channing wanted more kids but she wasn’t ready and now she is pregnant from this guy. It didn’t take her long to move on either so I’m not feeling too sorry for her.

  18. jenner says:

    Her writing style, I just can’t. She talks about how she chooses grace about 5 times, yet she sounds like a poor-me victim shoving it back in her ex’s face. These celebrities and their life lessons, it is just so full of ego crap.

  19. Rojas says:

    I’m sorry but she had whole boyfriend before Channing and Jesse made it public. Maybe Channing didnt tell her they were dating because he didnt know if he and Jesse were serious yet. I don’t see the issue if he hasn’t introduce it to their kid. Its funny tho that when Magazine found out there were dating she and her new BF were suddenly being Pap. Channing wanted kids and she didnt but now she preggo with a new man and engaged. I dont feel sorry for her.

    • Kosmos says:

      Anytime two people separate and consider divorce, it’s almost agreed that they realize one or the other could date other people during that time, right? Not surprised by this at all. I got the feeling she wanted the separation more, and he went along with her wishes. Then he found someone to date, not knowing if it would turn into something more serious because you don’t know that right off. Then they were papped together and it was published. Jenna wrote early on right when they split up that she felt strong about it. I always thought it was mostly her idea, but then the fact that he found someone else was understandably hurtful to her. I think she got together awfully fast with the new guy and then another baby right away–that’s too fast for everything. People that break up want to replace the old with someone else right away, but it’s not always good to move on that fast.

  20. Ellie71 says:

    Channing certainly has a type or is it only me who thinks Jenna and Jessie look a lot like each other.

    • Kebbie says:

      Everybody said that at the time, and they compared Jessie to Jenna unfavorably to the point both of them posted on Instagram about it.

  21. Courtney says:

    Channing downgraded hard IMO. What happened to his career around the same time? He should have Chris Pratt’s career right now.

  22. Lisabella says:

    He’s a closeted homosexual just like HJ. I’m dead serious. I’m glad she is happy with her new partner.

  23. Tashiro says:

    Why say anything at all?

  24. Rebecca says:

    Why do I feel like she’s covering her own butt? I remember reading about her and Steve Kazee weeks before Channing Tatum got together with Jessie J (at least that we know of). Could it be that she had an emotional affair while she was married?

  25. Killjoy says:

    Guys, a Young Living rep is trying to get my grandma with dementia to sign on with her. I’m soooo mad. I only know about this because my husband monitors my grandma’s email for signs of scams or issues she’s having (she’s often too embarrassed to communicate them directly to us). Now I need to call this rep and tell her to back the eff off, and that no, my 83 yo dementia-having grandma won’t be grabbing a quick lunch or coffee to “learn about the exciting Young Living opportunities” available to her.

    IMO, if a celeb or celeb-spouse is going to spill tea, they need to be more explicit or shut it. She’s inviting us to speculate about this situation, but being coy enough to have some plausible deniability. It’s just not interesting to hear how she wanted to give her story, but ultimately decided it’s classier not to. Just don’t say anything then!

    • Sunshine says:

      Killjoy nailed it. I always thought she called the paps bc there really wasn’t a reason for gossip. Except she’s pretty, but who isn’t—In HW.

  26. mash says:

    then you’re TRULY not ready to date. because the moment you breakup you gotta know that they could walk out that door and meet someone…. that day and there is NOTHING legit wrong with that….it just doesnt FEEL good to you.