Kristin Cavallari’s ex, Jay Cutler, ‘pushed her away, made her feel isolated’

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You have to hand it to Kristin Cavallari, she’s switching up the outlets that she and her team use to smear her estranged husband, Jay Cutler. This time, there’s a mildly shady story in US Magazine, one of her preferred outlets, but instead of going to People, ET Online or her the network that airs her show, E!, she’s dished the dirt to The Daily Mail. There’s an entire strategy behind who she talks to and when, because it’s been a few days since she’s been in the news. I’m just going to excerpt from the two sources below so you can see the comparison. The stories get increasingly rude about Cutler.

“They would accuse each other of cheating, they always seemed annoyed with each other and weren’t on the same side when it came to [their] kids. There were rumors that Cutler was unfaithful with Cavallari’s former best friend, Kelly Henderson. However Kristin didn’t believe the rumors.

“Kristin didn’t get along with Jay’s parents, and that started from the beginning of the relationship.

“Jay’s really good with the cameras. When the camera comes on, he knows how to play the camera,” the source says. “When the cameras were off, he was not warm or as charming the way he was on the show.” – From US Magazine, video and article

One told “Kristin never had an issue with Jay for being lazy, this wasn’t the problem at all. Those stories are all BS.

“Kristin’s issue was how he behaved with her, their family, friends and fans. That was the problem that caused their marriage to shut down.

“He would be really rude and dismissive of anyone who would approach her.”

Another added: “God help the fans who wanted a selfie or to say hi in a restaurant. He’d quickly shoo them away or roll his eyes to their face as they’d ask for a photograph.

“HKristin is smart and knows how important her fans are. She values their support and is beyond grateful for them. Jay simply had no time or tolerance for them and this would embarrass her.”

An insider said Cavallari “found that the perception of him [a being a rude jerk when he was an] NFL player, wasn’t a perception at all.”

They added: ‘It was how he acted throughout their entire marriage and that’s what caused it to end. Once a jerk, always a jerk.”

“As the years went on, Cutler stopped having any time for Kristin. He pushed her away, made her feel isolated. Even when they were in the same house, she felt alone with their children.

“He’d always be in a bad mood and closed off. There was ice running through his veins and he’d couldn’t have been colder or more distant.

“His behavior when they filmed her reality show was at an all-time low.

“If he wasn’t happy with how something had come across, he would take his microphone off and storm off.

“This horrified Kristin and he was lucky that she was an executive producer as it meant that those scenes and his horrible behavior never made it on television.” – From The Daily Mail

[From US Magazine and The Daily Mail]

I believe that thr Daily Mail spoke to Kristin’s team, because this has her trademark denial of previous stories she’s leaked. She’s been doing that all along. Plus The DM story adds more detail and dirt to US’s angle about Jay behaving differently when the cameras weren’t around. We’re only hearing one side of this, but as I’ve mentioned that doesn’t mean Jay wasn’t emotionally abusive and distant to Kristin. It also doesn’t make her blameless in the messy way this is playing out in the press. She’s orchestrating this. This article is claiming that she edited his bad behavior out of the show, but I’ve seen clips that make him look like a jerk. Plus he had that reputation as a player as DM mentions. I bet he did treat her badly when the cameras weren’t around. The whole press rollout of their breakup seems so calculated though, and that’s rubbing me the wrong way.


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  1. M says:

    We’re clearly getting really bored in lockdown to keep up with these nobodies.

    The split doesn’t sound fun but also not awful – splitting because things aren’t great is fine but you can’t try to make lemonade out of literally no lemons. They split because one of them (him) wasn’t perfect, so be it. Not like she has some proper gossip to make this newsworthy. “He wasn’t always nice” – okay cool. Imagine having to wring this out so desperately to get your fifteen minutes.

    Again. We’re bored. So this will have to do.

    • Jellybean says:

      She is not nice. She is orchestrating a press campaign against him in a divorce that involves children. That in itself if bad, but her first salvo was to ask for sole custody, even though it appears he was an actively involved parent, perhaps even the main carer. These steps are not unreasonable if he was abusive to her and the children, but not if he is just grumpy with her and her friends. I would be grumpy if I had been dragged into some vacuous reality show. This has nothing to do with the welfare of the children, it doesn’t even seem to be about screwing as much money out of him as she can because she has her own money, it is just about getting her face in then papers, making sure she gets a new show and convincing the idiots that follow her on instagram that she is a hero for the ages.

      • Ashley says:

        While I agree with you Jellybean, because I despised Kristen on the Hills. She was a mean girl and a bully. But something about this rings true to someone I know who was emotionally abusive as well. The fact that he isn’t clapping back would be the same way my ex would handle this as well. He’s a robot. He has no outward feelings. He’s cold. He’s isolating. Something about this picture she may be painting actually makes me feel sorry for her. I know what it’s like to deal with someone like that, and I am slowly trying to get through it. I’m rock bottom right now so I have empathy.

  2. Erinn says:

    AHAHAH Christ. She came out with a Louisville Slugger.

    Say that the person in the relationship who ISN’T known for being on TV Shows is great at playing for the cameras, which – what does that say about Kristin? Is she saying that someone with zero background in reality TV is better at reality TV than she is?

    She complains about how he treated family and friends – but literally opened with a complaint about his parents. Look. I have insane extended inlaws. Some of them are actually terrible terrible human beings who say racist, vile, terrible things and who try to cause trouble for EVERYONE around them that isn’t related by blood. I KNOW how much strain that can put on a marriage. Since she didn’t bother going into any sort of detail, I’m going to assume it’s a relatively normal kind of friction between them. Maybe they didn’t agree with her anti-vax stance – can’t blame them if that was the case. But at the same time, it’s a tricky situation when you’re the grandparents if you’re talking about the child rearing of your daughter in law. But I also suspect that if there WAS that kind of issue she’d have just come out and said it. This seems more likely to just be an attempt to cause pain for them/Jay and try to get him to fight it out publicly.

    Part of me is impressed and the other part is horrified. She truly has some hustle, and a lack of shame, I think. She knows she needs to play it up for the fans so everyone will keep tuning in to her projects, and I do appreciate that. But this one sided smear campaign REALLY shows you what kind of person she is. He has remained quiet – he’s not attacking the mother of his children in the press. This is the kind of constant buzz that someone who is also being attacked in the media would put out as a response. She’s waging a one woman war, and the other side doesn’t even seem to be participating.

    At the end of the day – none of this is in the interest of the kids. She’ll say it is. She’ll make sure to use them as pawns in her narrative. But it’s clear that this is about her, and not about doing what is right for the kids. I just can’t imagine putting my (non-existent) kids through that just to save face publicly.

    • Allie says:

      If I’m not mistaken, I think the California custody courts try really hard to maintain 50/50 custody arrangements, unless one parent is a clear danger to the children. And I don’t think they look fondly on one parent trying to alienate the other parent from the kids, especially when the reasons are as stupid as “he was mean to my friends.” So I don’t think her attempt to get sole custody or to publicly trash the father of her children is going to work out the way she wants it to.

      Kristin should read up on the Kelly Rutherford custody case and see how well this approach worked out for her.

      • Kebbie says:

        They live in Nashville, but I think most states award 50/50 custody if both parents want joint or full custody.

  3. Lisa says:

    This does not need to be public.

    • M says:

      Basically, there is no information beyond day to day life. Grumpy isn’t not gossip worthy. The children’s father being a hands on father is also not gossip worthy. Wanting to buy a new home? Still nothing. This has run its course. We’ve heard enough.

  4. Yamayo says:

    I’m probably the only person who watched the show…
    Honestly she came across as worse than him. He was mostly disinterested and quite open about wanting to do his own thing.

    • LaurenMichelle says:

      I watched clips of K and J.
      Jay is more relatable than K.
      Kristin was so incredibly mean on the Hills…and Jay won’t eat her sh*t like everyone else does. Very satisfying to see a successful man stand up to her.

      K & J are dismissive to eachother in a loveless marriage, and the timing of this divorce is rather gauche.

  5. Melissa says:

    He’s the abusive, ice cold, lazy, mean jerk…yet she’s the one lighting him up to every tabloid that answers the phone. She’s gone full Brad Pitt.

    • Winnie says:

      If he’s such a jerk, why is it he’s the only one keeping his mouth shut? He’s not said one thing about her to the press. That’s better than I could muster after this smear campaign. The more Kristin talks, the worse she looks.

      I watched the show too and never saw him belittling Kristin. I saw plenty of her making fun of him and belittling him both to his face and behind his back.

      • Mara says:

        That’s true although you can never be 100% on what happens behind closed doors once the cameras stop rolling

    • Melissa says:

      @ Winnie — Clearly you didn’t read beyond the first 5 words.

  6. Tuntmore says:

    I feel bad for Jay, but I have less sympathy for Kristin.

    Jay was never quiet about his desire to retire from public life and do his own thing. If Kristin thought he would somehow change and become Mr. Personality, wanting selfies with fans, then that’s on her.

    Jay probably does act like a jerk at times. But his personality has always been consistent. I think Kristin believed what she wanted to believe about him, and it wasn’t reality.

    • Jodi says:


    • Dutch says:

      Agreed. Jay seems to have the personality of a house cat. He’s loving when he wants to be and completely independent and aloof the rest of the time. And he’s always been this way.

  7. Allie says:

    She should have enough respect for her children to not make this public. I hope, when this gets to divorce court, the judge slaps a gag order on her.

    • damejudi says:

      Get a GAL (guardian ad litem) to represent the interests of the kids.

      I’ve posted this before, but I don’t know who’s advising KC to pursue this smear campaign against her kids’ father. It’s terrible in so many ways, and in no way protects or leads to a better post-split outcome for those kids.

      • Jodi says:

        i’m going to wager a bet and say that she’s less interested in the impact of this in court and more interested in the public’s opinion of her. which says a lot.

  8. Lila says:

    That’s rich, coming from a reality tv star.

  9. Jodi says:

    this says to me that Kristin is annoyed that twitter is always blowing up about Jay being the best part of that show and she’s lashing out because…divorce. this campaign is the same tactic she used to completely throw her friend Kelly under the bus; smear, smear, smear. drama drama drama. Kelly backed out, like Jay, and has never said one word but Kristin couldn’t stop talking badly about her. shes not a good person at all. she always cries about how she can’t trust people because people “use her” for her “fame”. but she seems like the person who will light you on fire publicly the minute anyone does anything to her that she doesn’t want.

    • Yamayo says:

      She clearly introduced him more and more as the series went on.
      Script was he’s the alpha male that half her gay friends fancy and he’s strong enough to cope with her.
      I can see she would be annoyed that he’s now more popular than her.
      Poor baby 🙂

  10. Bucky says:

    She fake hysterically laughs constantly on the show, and it is creepy. Dead in the face, then abruptly throws her head back, mouth open, fake laughs, looks to see if anyone is laughing along with her, then goes dead in the face again. Hopefully, she only does that while filming?Kristen has an Exec Producer credit and Jay does not, so her accusation that he is svengalli’ing how he is perceived at her expense makes no sense.

  11. Jules says:

    This has got to be the most press coverage this girl has gotten, ever. And it’s obvious she loves it. Sorry for those kids.

  12. Harper says:

    Kristen needs some discipline to keep her mouth shut when the urge to slam Jay AGAIN surfaces within her, which at this rate is happening every 18 .5 hours. And Jay, you know, the one who was the starting quarterback at Vanderbilt and then in several NFL teams, simply has the discipline to keep his mouth shut.

    I’m wondering if there is something very humiliating to Kristen that was the last straw that made this split happen and that’s why Kristen is going full banshee at him. Because if it was mutual how do you go from zero to attack dog so quick?

    • Winnie says:

      Well, he was the one who filed for divorce. Maybe that’s what got her in such a tizzy?

      Only one spouse needs to file but she went ahead and filed a few days after him. The story at first was that she was surprised by his filing then it changed to “she filed” and “wasn’t happy”.

      I think she threw in that shady “misconduct” just to twist a knife even though there hadn’t been a peep to back it up. She talked constantly on camera about how Jay was a great dad, was the househusband, and how he never even looks at another woman.

  13. Genessee says:

    Are we seriously going to pretend that Kristin isn’t a life-long class A – “rhymes with the word witch?”


    She is no sweet loving delicate wallflower. Who is she trying to pull the wool over? ANYONE who has followed her career since she was a teen knows this.

  14. CROWHOOD says:

    That’s a lot of comments from people who “hate these nobodies”