US: Jennifer Garner finds it ‘sad in a way to see [Ben] move on and be so happy’

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Yesterday we reported on the story that Ana de Armas looks up to Ben Affleck because he somehow juggles being a dad and co-parent with working. It was cheesy, over-the-top and sugary, and it was definitely from Ben and/or Ana’s dickmatized perspective. Well US had a follow-up story about how Jennifer Garner feels about Ben’s new relationship. It was positive toward her, but definitely something Ben would sad. Take a look and you’ll see what I mean.

[Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner] “have worked hard to get in a good place with each other,” a source tells Us Weekly exclusively. That being said, Garner is “always polite and trusts Ben and lets him do what he wants when he’s with the kids.”

“Although it’s sad in a way to see him move on and be so happy, she is ultimately happy that he is happy and in a good and healthy place with his life,” the insider tells Us. “That’s what she ultimately wants for the father of her kids.”

[From US Magazine]

I doubt Garner is sad at all that Ben has moved on. Read how that’s worded – she’s “always polite” and “trusts Ben.” That’s all how Ben sees her. I bet it took quite a while to build that trust and that’s why it’s being emphasized here. How embarrassing must it be to see photos of your ex and his much-younger girlfriend fawning all over each other while they’re walking their dogs? Plus he’s wearing her heart necklace and they just kissed on video. It’s embarrassing in a “what did I see in that guy/what are people going to think of me” way, not in any kind of regretful way. Garner is probably relieved Ben is someone else’s problem now. I kind of doubt she’s still seeing that restaurant technology entrepreneur, but I don’t think she’ll tell us about it until it’s absolutely necessary.

These are older photos of Ben and Ana along with a couple of photos of Jennifer taking her daughter, Seraphina, to a drive by birthday party on Tuesday. She’s also shown jogging a couple of weeks ago.

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  1. lola says:

    Yesterday, she posted a pic on Instagram showing that she was making homemade donuts. I’m pretty sure that’s a dig at Benana for always going out to get coffee, donuts etc.

    And I agree that she’s def glad that he’s someone else’s problem now, but I doubt that Ana will stick around when Ben falls off the wagon again.

    • Barb says:

      Wow, what a reach. Actually she tagged Chrissy Teigen in her insta stories with pics of her donuts. It was another desperate ploy for attention, just like her stunts with the paps. Not everything is about Ben.

  2. Flamingo says:

    If the narrative that Ben’s team is pushing is poor, old Jennifer is feeling sad about Ben moving on while she’s sitting a home, they might want to reevaluate. Jen can still get it and I have a feeling that Ben will be the one who won’t be able to handle it if/ when Jen moves onto a serious relationship.

  3. Mia4s says:

    “ trusts Ben and lets him do what he wants when he’s with the kids”

    Buuuuuullsh*t. But thanks for the update Ben. 🙄

    Purely speculation but I think this sort of thing points to why this relationship gave me second hand embarrassment for the longest time. She seemed to really really REALLY love and adore him and think he was brilliant. And he?….seemed to think she was a great mother. She seemed to want the marriage and he seemed to….want support and someone to clean up his messes. It was uncomfortable to watch.

    • Flamingo says:

      It was so uncomfortable. A few years ago, after they’d divorced, when she had to pack him up like a child and take him to a drive thru on his way to rehab… CRINGE!

      • Kosmos says:

        I was just thinking the other day that his new woman, Ana, is just that–new. After a while, maybe even quite a while, that newness will wear off and he’ll have to deal with real relationship issues. Not sure how Ana is handling being with a man who has three children he wants to spend time with. That would be hard for someone who has no children yet. She is going to have to get used to sharing him with the kids, etc. Jennifer was a great wife, maybe a perfect wife, no doubt, so if he could cheat on her and lose it with alcohol, he can do it on the next woman, just saying…….overall, I’m happy that Jen is done with him and she will have no trouble finding another man to love her.

    • frenchtoast says:

      He seems like the kind of guy that wants a second mommy. I’m afraid most if not all men are actually that way(?)

      • Jana says:

        I definitely don’t think he WANTS a second mommy, he goes for young and hot, but most of them don’t want to mother him; he is an immature, selfish man who actually NEEDS a nurturing, mother figure like Jen.

  4. SJR says:

    Jen must be so damn tired of all of BA baloney.

    Jen is a good Mom, actively involved in raising their 3 children. BA is an alcoholic man-child who lives in constant attention seeking drama, he inserts a new gf every so often either to take care of him, be his drinking buddy, or pr shots.

    Look at Jens pics, she is FIT. Self care for her instead of babysitting BA.
    I give her credit that she doesn’t trash talk BA in the press everyday, because I would.
    BA has all the time in the world for his pr gf, how about actively focusing on your 3 children?

    • Annaloo. says:

      Amen to this all. Ana, Ben is able to “so much ” because he has Jennifer doing it all. Ben ain’t doing anything but being Ben Affleck. How charmed for him!

    • Bucky says:

      She has a ton of motivation to resist trash talking him. Her family’s wellbeing, of course, but whenever he has a crisis, he’s putting her professional reputation on the line. She’s always going to be associated with his name. Jennifer has multiple lucrative spokesperson campaigns that obligate her to maintain a wholesome stable image. Keeping him in line must be exhausting. Having him distracted by a romantic relationship, however temporary, would be a huge relief.

  5. Kiera says:

    Is anyone else seeing nip in that one pic of Ana and Ben where she’s in the beige top. Or have I not had enough coffee this morning?

    • Joanna says:

      I see it and her aerola!

    • PlainJane says:

      Beauty fades, dumb is ….

      I take it back, Ana isn’t dumb, she’s just so … young. BA is the source of embarrassment in all of this.

      • sunhitsthesky says:

        She is 32 years old. At what age is she responsible for her own decisions?

  6. B says:

    Us weekly is a questionable source tho…

    • NatureLover says:

      Yes, anything out of that rag should be taken with a grain of salt. I don’t believe anything that comes from that magazine.

  7. McMom says:

    I obviously don’t know Jen, but I doubt she’s “sad” that Ben is in a relationship. The day my ex got married was the day I felt a weight lifted off my shoulders…someone else would be there to take care of him, which meant the responsibility wouldn’t fall to me or to my kids.

  8. Janice_scho says:

    PR from his side. I find it hard to believe her side would lead with – “Although it’s sad in a way to see him move on and be so happy…” considering the ‘sources’ have already said she sees him as a friend blah blah. Total spin, probably because he is quite noticeably not seeing his kids anywhere as much as he is seeing Ana.

  9. Andrew’s Nemesis says:

    Does Ben have the same publicist as Brad Pitt?

  10. Leigh says:

    This is probably another “bless his heart” situation for Jennifer Garner LOL

  11. Veronica S. says:

    She must wake up every day glad this albatross is no longer hanging from her neck. At least their kids got one decent parent out of that marriage from the look of it.

  12. Lucy2 says:

    If anything she’s embarrassed on his behalf that he’s acting like a teenager, and probably annoyed that she’s shouldering 95% of the parenting while he’s running around with a new girlfriend, again.
    I very much doubt she’s “sad”.

  13. Chickaletta says:

    I too am absolutely devastated that my abusive, egotistical, selfish ex has moved on. I am just sitting around crying over someone else having to deal with his stupid bullshit. It is heartbreaking.

    *snort* *chortle*

    • Sparkle says:

      I too miss my ex! How I miss being lied to, cheated on and living in perpetual embarrassment by his immaturity! Lol

      Jen looks at Ben and is happy he is someone elses problem now.

    • Nikki* says:

      Right?? :)

  14. Rapunzel says:

    IDK, I’ve never bought that Jen thinks of Ben as an albatross around her neck. Yeah, I’m sure she is pissed off by his messiness, but I’ve always thought their dynamic was he was “he needs a mother, and she enjoys mothering him.”

    Lainey keeps saying Ben lives on cycles of self destruction and redemption. I’ve always thought Jen enjoyed helping him find redemption. She likes getting credit for being the rock he relies on. I’ve always been convinced that she ended it with him only because she had to. If he hadn’t got caught with the nanny, I think they’d still be together.

    • Theo says:

      There is a limit for everyone and everything. It wasn’t only the nanny. It was Shookus with whom he cheated since 2013 , the drinking, the drugging and maybe mental disorders. Remember her interview at the beginning of 2015 where she was crying and her photo with her old coastar father on Alias , don’t remember his name, where she also was crying. I think she was devastated for a long time before the divorce and freedom is very sweet for her now.

      • Jerusha says:

        The wonderful Victor Garber played her father. Agree with your post.

      • lucy2 says:

        Yeah I think she was on board with “mothering and fixing” him up to a point, and then realized it was a losing battle.
        I don’t think she’ll ever have true freedom from him, since they have kids together. Hence her carting him off to rehab not so long ago. She’s always going to try to help to spare her kids the pain.

      • Theo says:

        Agree. But I mean she is free at the deep personal level. It is different emotionally and mentally to help an ex husband as a human or as a father of your children. You don’t put yourself in that. It’s very painful to be cheated from the man you love again and again. This is destroying your self esteem and your soul. Then you have to free yourself from him.

    • Lori says:

      THIS. I think Ben, and his addictions, pried his ring finger from her cold dead wedding ring.
      I can picture several drunk episodes where Jen is helping Ben up out of the pool of his own vomit and stumbling over the passed-out body of the latest fling, while he cries and rambles on to her about her being the only one who matters.
      I think he played on her fantasy of true love for years and she bought into it, because she wanted it to be true and because she benefited from the A-list couple lifestyle.
      She wanted desperately to be a Queen Bee in Hollywood.
      She also went into the relationship desperate to get him, and she did. You could see it in her eyes in the roundtable interview they did together with Colin Farrell for Daredevil.
      I think she’s a very socially competitive sorority sister who looks on other women as competition and she expected the challenges inherent in marrying Ben.
      She told herself, (like Camille Cosby did) that there would be sluts trying to take down her man, that most of it wasn’t his fault.
      I think it’s taken a ton of couples therapy for her to be able to let him go, and to take the steps to leading her own life. It’s interesting to see this “reaction story” to Ben’s doing his very obvious daily pap strolls (in a pandemic!)
      It makes me think he put this story out and is passive aggressively trying to provoke her because she’s finally moved on. Keep going Jen!

  15. lunchcoma says:

    I’m no particular fan of Jen’s, but if I were her, I’d be sad about those gross photos where he’s smoking with his mask pulled down. .

  16. Emmitt says:

    So is Jennifer Garner supposed to be the new Sad Jen?

  17. rainy says:

    Both Jen (and kids) and Ben (& Ana) are so acessible to the paps, why is that? Ever since Jen Garner is so thirsty just like Reese W. Im sure their houses have huge lawns, can they just walk their dogs inside?

  18. jferber says:

    No way would a woman have pulled all the shit that Ben has and had any credibility at all. He should have the same reputation and work opportunities as Lindsay Lohan, and at least she had a terrible childhood as extenuating circumstances. Jen did do all the heavy lifting, but she allowed that. I can’t see any man doing a quarter as much as she did to “carry” Ben for years and even now. Yes, he’s the father of her children, but I wouldn’t want to put my life on hold and waste years holding up a dud douchebro. I guess she gets martyr points, but what woman really wants that nowadays? He still gets to live like a boy with no responsibilities and Jen has really aged from her anchor-of-the-family /doormat / patsy pose. She should have let go emotionally years ago and get a real man, if that’s what she wants.

    • Marietta58 says:

      I agree with most of what you said, except for the “same reputation and work opportunities as Lindsay Lohan” reference. People forget that Ben is an Actor, Director, Producer, and Screenwriter. Lindsay is I think only actor, although, I did hear about her Executive producing some show in Greece, reality TV or something.

      Ben is a full-fledged producer, meaning he does all the heavy lifting for the film to be made, (day to day production.) Lindsay is not a full-fledged producer, only executive. She’s behind the scenes, basically caring mostly about staying on budget, financing aspects.

      My point is, Ben is a way more talented Director, producer, and Screenwriter than Lindsay ever could be, with 2 Oscars to prove it. Don’t put them in the same category because they both have addiction issues. Yes, Ben is messy, but he’s also very talented and that’s why a lot of folks in the industry have given him chances.

  19. Blerg says:

    Any woman who nurtures three kids, keeps it positive, and takes care of herself has my respect. If she does it divorced during a pandemic while her pathetic ex and his see-through-shirt-loving gf loll around waiting for paps, she has even more of my respect.

  20. serena says:

    What the f- is ‘she’s polite’ even supposed to mean? Lol, ridiculous.

  21. J ferber says:

    Blerg, I get that, but I don’t believe all that self-abnegation and self-sacrifice are healthy for women. Also, her kids are learning from her and their dad what a marriage between a man and a woman looks like and is. Will her daughters be the Jen in their relationships and her son be the Ben? Yes, she’s rich and has help. It is what it is.

    • Guest with Cat says:

      She has dated but kept it private and dignified. If it didn’t work out, why would we all assume it’s because she’s carrying a torch for Ben? There are many excellent reasons the second relationship may not have held up, assuming it has ended. Maybe the things that irritated her boyfriend’s ex wife also came to irritate Jennifer.

      She and Ben are trying to co-parent. When you co-parent with someone with the addiction problems Ben has, you have to be very present and supervise the way we see her doing. It does not mean she is still hung up on him.

      My nephew’s former wife can’t stand him. She’s happily moved on with a much better partner and step father for her daughter. But my nephew, though an alcoholic and an addict and an ex con, still has some parental rights left. She is very present and civil during get togethers and the photos they take as a family for the sake of the child could be twisted by any tabloid to spin a tale of a woman hung up on her ex. But it isn’t their truth.

      Jen’s children will grow up knowing their father, even if the rest of us think he’s not worth knowing. That is frankly not our business or decision to make. They will see two adults who loved them enough to treat each other with mutual consideration during family gatherings. But they will also know the marriage didn’t last and they will know why. Their mom is a strong single mom and a very good and valued friend to her ex. That’s what they will know.

  22. Nikki* says:

    It bothers me that so many times after a Hollywood breakup, the guy’s press always has to emphasize the ex wife is either bitter or sad when he “moves on”(always with a younger woman.) There must be 5 thousand sexist things a day all females are exposed to in the media; it’s amazing we can still fight back for our own identity and our own truth. I think she’s sick of dealing with him, might be embarrassed or sorry for her kids’ sake that Ben is papping up a storm, but she’s a positive person who wants a positive life. (I know this latter fact because my son worked closely with her at Save The Children.)

  23. vertes says:

    Is Jen still dating – ? can’t remember his name, Caroline Campbell’s ex?

  24. B says:

    People are kidding themselves if they really think she doesn’t miss her old life being Mrs. Ben Affleck. Her career has totally tanked. For all her efforts on Instagram, she couldn’t even win a stupid Webby award. She’s nothing but a tabloid fixture now and for all the wrong reasons. Mr. Burger Man is long gone. I predict she’ll carry a torch for Ben until the day she dies. She’ll never be over him enough to seriously move on with someone else, and I fully believe that she’s wistful and jealous over Ben’s new relationship. She’d take him back in a second.

    • Leigh says:

      I guess that would be your take if you only thought fame and awards and show business are all that matters. She’s rich for the rest of her life, she doesn’t need to work another day in her life I’d bet. Plus she seems to be generally liked and respected (perhaps not acclaimed or in demand lol) in her professional world. She looked totally OVER IT in the jack in the box drive thru.

      • tempest prognosticator says:

        I agree with @Leigh. Jen Garner is much happier without Ben. I don’t think she’d ever take him back. I do think she’s propped him up for years because she doesn’t want her kids to know what a mess their father is.

    • Truthiness says:

      I think she really wanted to be the love of a talented 2 time oscar winner’s life and that she will always think that they could’ve had the world as their oyster. But he fights addictions of all kinds and she had to hold it ALL together. In the end she could not accept the cheating, being a doormat, all the sordid messes that were the flip side of her life – it was affecting her brand, in public. It’s okay to have conflicting views, it’s messy reality. They got married because she was pregnant and maybe they should not have gotten married. She wanted a Hallmark family and He. Just. Will. Never .Be. That.

    • Guest with Cat says:

      Did her stroller cat run over your puppy or something? Your attack on her is so seething and over the top that it seems like you’re personally invested in tearing her down.

      She’s a woman over 40 in the entertainment industry, so of course there’s a slowdown compared to where she was a few years ago. She also had to slow things down to raise her kids, because their father clearly has issues and struggles to do that job when he’s not sober, which unfortunately has been often the last few years.

      Yet she’s still well known and well regarded. She’s financially secure, she still rakes in the dough doing commercials, and she’s gorgeous, fit and happy with her children.

      And of course she courts the paparazzi with her pap walks. It’s necessary for her to keep her public profile up so she can continue to get the steady paying gigs. People who criticize her for having a bit of hustle would also criticize her if she stopped having money coming in and had to rely on her messy ex for support. Give it a rest. She’s doing fine. At least her pap walks are cute and not cringe inducing.

      Please let’s not turn this Jen into the other Jen and judge and disparage her forevermore because her high profile marriage failed due to the husband failing to uphold his vows.

      If Jen Garner never marries again or ends up having a series of long and short term relationships, that does not mean she’s a failure at being a woman, can’t keep a man, or is a washed up failure at life. It has been tiring seeing Jennifer Aniston go through that rigamarole with a public that doesn’t know her first hand. It’s going to be especially aggravating seeing this same kind of misogynistic level of scrutiny and criticism visited upon a woman who has done her level best to be there for her family and keep a good public face on the whole mess. Even to the point of trying to help her ex retain his dignity as much as possible in the face of serious problems.

      • Poisonella says:

        She’s keeping it together! I think she has outgrown him but has the kids with him- I think she is making the best of a bad situation. Always liked her. Always felt bad fot Jlo too- she turned herself inside out for him. He must be great in bed.

  25. jferber says:

    Is there really such a thing as a Hallmark family except on Hallmark? Lori Loughlin played all those roles, but look at her and her messy (criminal) life off screen.

  26. Minorbird says:

    Isn’t Jen with a nice gentleman?? girlllll, let Ben cook and fizzle himself out. I don’t believe that she said this.

    Jen is a great mom and is present for her kiddies. She is responsible unlike her EX.

  27. jbyrdku says:

    I don’t think she’s sad at all. I think she knows exactly what’s coming and she’s just waiting for it. This guy hasn’t changed, and sooner or later this will all blow-up.

  28. Murse says:

    Uh, Jen stays in the headlines through her with-kids pap walks and her Ben-my-messy-ex stories. I don’t remember a film she’s been in since Alias ended except for that really bad Ricky Gervais one. She is as thirsty as BAna but plays the good mother act; never protects her kids’ privacy. That said, like upthread poster I also remember her crying during the interview with Victor Gerber (who actually married her and Ben) and do feel somewhat bad for her.

  29. Sarah says:

    She already watched him “move on and be happy” with Lindsay who he cheated on her with, so I doubt this latest relationship has any particular sticking point for her. I think him making his mistress his girlfriend would have been much more hurtful, even if it was sandwiched between cavorting with the nanny and the very young model he saw for a few weeks. At this point Ben is just being embarrassing and not attractive, and everyone, Jen probably included, seems to be wondering what she’s even doing with him.

  30. Carolnr says:

    I think Jen is so over Ben ‘s public displays of affection that the entire world can see. Violet is old enough to read & see pics of her dad making a spectacle of himself. Seraphina & Sam are too young &need to be protected from all this! I think Jen wants them to have a good relationship with their dad. When their children become grown, they will be able to decide if they want a relationship with their dad.
    I don’t understand why Ana would want a 48 yr. old divorced man with 3 children, who has major addiction issues? Sounds like a catch to me…